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I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 136 People

    It's Driving Me Crazy

    they want everything for them now, and push everything everyone else wants aside. I can't understand how I can be so totally unlike them! Just the opposite really! Now they've got there stereo cranked full blast. I can't even go out of the house without hearing it. Yet when it...
    CarbonHeart CarbonHeart 46-50 1 Response Oct 9, 2009

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    My stepdaughter had a shrine to herself in her

    room. I bought her a photo board for her room, and gave her pictures of her birthday parties, family photos, vacation pictures, pictures of her dad and mom holding her when she was a baby. She jammed them into the board so that she was the only one showing in every single...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35, F 1 Response May 11

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    Frustrating

    Both my sister and my father are narcissists. It makes me so crazy because we can never have a good relationship due to this. They lie, they cheat, they twist and manipulate everything to their advantage. I haven't talked to my dad since August because he's convinced I told lies...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    My Brother...

    ...tells every woman that he dates that he is better looking than they are. The women think that he's being cute. My brother is serious and tells them as much. My neice continues the tradition by telling everyone she meets that all of her uncles are good looking. What a family...
    kmaramoto kmaramoto 31-35, F Feb 21, 2011

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    My father always had dreams of grandeur.

    Was it the drugs or was it an unchecked narcissism? Sometimes I check for disorders, I think that's why he moved hell on earth for me not to become a psychologist. When he was a teen he had these beaten up journals of his grand destiny. He used religion, family , friends to...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F May 5

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    My father is a clown of a person.

    He claims that he is the best and has never praised or trusted anyone else. He immediately puts blames for things even for things that don't matter. There is no point discussing with him as it always leads to ignorance, an emotional draining, no solution, information or advice...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    ow do you deal with an N family?

    my family are the worst..monsters..they have put me through unspeakable abuse and because im so brainwashed and witness good things keep happening to them i dont know what to do. more bad happens to me as more good happens to them--is there karma and a God out there? im so...
    sonia5599 sonia5599 22-25, F 2 Responses May 26

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    I have a narcissistic mother in law

    who hates me. My husband went no contact 18 months ago. She keeps guilt tripping & manipulating family members to persuade husband to reconcile with her & tries convincing them I'm mental & evil & husband needs saving. Husband is having none of it but she keeps trying!!
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    Argh

    My mom is either Narcissistic or Histrionic. Perhaps she's both. She will never be diagnosed properly because she does not feel she needs to change, therefore she will never find herself in a therapist's office. Whatever her deal is, I hate her and find it depressing that I...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    My mother is a passive liar.

    She denies that I worked and says its unimportant I made money. She will then complain that her own money is not enough. If possible, she denies things others do, facts, according to preference. She will even try to convince me that it is so and even make up facts to support...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M Feb 12

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    My Sister Loves Herself

    but I have a few others as well...cousins and my brother and his wife.. I DON'T KNOW WHY SOME PEOPLE ACT SO SELFISH AND EGOISTIC ANYWAY. I would do anything to be pretty and clever and rich but then I do not want to be the type who hurts others just for the fun of it. I am...
    IceEntice IceEntice 36-40, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2012

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    They Say Narcissists Don't Suffer...

    I read once that Narcissists don't suffer from their mental illness--just the rest of us do. Not only do Narcissists refuse to treat their personality disorders because of an unshakeable belief that they are perfectly fine, but also because they are not suffering. It's all of us...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    Tired of Me Me Me!

    My sister is conceited.  She doesn't see or talk to any of us very much, but when she does, she is sure to tell us how perfect her life is, how incredible her kids are, and she has once even said, 'doesn't that make you sick?' Well, yes it does!  Not the fact that you...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2008

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    I Do

    The definition of my mother IS : inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity, erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. I can say this...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2009

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    Father

    My dad likes to parade around like an upstanding member of the community when he's, in fact, a fraud.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    My sister is such and narcissistic idiot

    that it pains me to be around her. She blames everyone for her horrible lot in life and believes people owe her things. She whines about work or anything that involves work and she'd even choose to be a lazy piece of crap instead of helping others or even caring for herself...
    HigherCalling HigherCalling 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    If we're going by professional diagnoses,

    I AM the narcissistic family member but, to be honest, I'm not the only one. My mom was a narcissist, my dad's a bit of a narcissist and I've got a brother who's kind of a narcissist as well... I guess it runs in the family.
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M 2 Responses May 7

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    My dad is a narcissist

    and its impossible to live with him. He thinks he's the best at everything and thinks that other ppl's needs and opinions dont matter. He's even referred to himself as God a few times (im not exaggerating). He thinks everyone around him is stupid and he openly expresses this...
    atheistblogger atheistblogger 22-25, F Feb 23

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    Just found out my grandmother suffers from Leukaemia. Huh, I thought it was enough with the unfortunate events in my life so far. Life's such a f*cker.
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    My dad has esophageal squamous cell carcinoma. He is going into chemo next week
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    My grandma.. Shes had so many cancers in the past.. I love her so much and im really upset that she has to go through so much :'(
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    He has some convulated fantasies and frequently gets laryngitis acting it out. I wish he would modify his dialogue though. He always describes everything exactly the same way. His...
    pcflvly pcflvly 46-50, M Sep 15

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    SnowflakeWonder SnowflakeWonder 31-35, F Sep 14

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    I have no family. I'm 23 years old. My parents think I am trash. My mother threw me out on the streets because her and my father wanted to control me. They wouldn't let me leave...
    thatbrokengirl91 thatbrokengirl91 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 25

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    We are nudists and have a family bed. The boys are not always in out bed but the door is always open. We feel that this is a great way to raise a family and since we are all...
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    Ever since I was 18 I moved out from San Diego to Los Angeles. I am now 28 and can maybe count with my two hands how many times my parents have called. They call on my birthday or...
    RubRAINN RubRAINN 26-30 Sep 6

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    Ever since I was 18 I moved out from San Diego to Los Angeles. I am now 28 and can maybe count with my two hands how many times my parents have called. They call on my birthday or...
    RubRAINN RubRAINN 26-30 1 Response Sep 6

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    Red Neck Health My hubby is currently facing some serious health issues. And apparently multiple cousins and kin in his family are facing their own serious health problems as well...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 11

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    My mother and I were in a court battle. I lost. Since then I have refused to speak to her. She sends me letters stated she loves me etc. The latest letter she has tried guilt. She...
    Badina Badina 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 26

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    I haven't seen my two cousins (on my father's side) for at least four years, while I only see my little cousin (my mother's side) once a year if I'm lucky.
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    Hi. my nick name is Rosanna. I am 34 years old. Up to this point in my life, I have been under pressure, blame and guilt trip of my older sister. My sense of self is so weak now. I...
    aarmeti aarmeti 31-35, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Quite a few. My cousin Vida. She talks about boys 24/7. Did you see how he was staring at me? The neighbour's step daughter's cousin's boyfriend gave me his number. My friend's...
    Mahsa99 Mahsa99 13-15, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I am another woman who has a family bed. I have 3 youngers that I am breastfeeding in my bed. I love the family bed for bonding with my smaller children for breastfeeding...
    maturemominbackyard maturemominbackyard 46-50, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    Well, I do have family -- up until 1993 I had 7 siblings. When they all were told my dad was dying and to come see him. I was not told until after he died that he was sick. All of...
    iamtheworst iamtheworst 56-60, F Sep 15

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    I've known this girl for about three years now and it's pretty obvious we both like each other. It took me a long time to accept that she actually liked me because she is so...
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    Haidas Haidas 36-40, F Aug 31

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    Today is the 1 year anniversary of my grandfather's passing.
    AgentSickler AgentSickler 18-21, M Aug 30

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    My mother died when she was 58, my dad died when he was 61, my brother died when he was 38 and my grandson died when he was a baby. I miss them all. Mostly my grandson, he died...
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    My gramma. She told da to leave ma. But guided me and scolded da for me. And my real granpa. Didnt know him well. Or his son perry. Feel robbed twice.
    Livyn4pals Livyn4pals 46-50, M Sep 13

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    Really my mom, love her to death but gaw she needs to learn how to control herself! One day I came home from work and lay down, all I hear is her yelling at my dad, calling him...
    msmendiola122 msmendiola122 22-25, F Sep 2

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    Just when you think to yourself."wow I love these people! They are soo great!" They turn around and do something to pies you off!
    alisity alisity 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 13

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