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I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

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    I have a narcissistic mother in law

    who hates me. My husband went no contact 18 months ago. She keeps guilt tripping & manipulating family members to persuade husband to reconcile with her & tries convincing them I'm mental & evil & husband needs saving. Husband is having none of it but she keeps trying!!
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24, 2014

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    They Say Narcissists Don't Suffer...

    I read once that Narcissists don't suffer from their mental illness--just the rest of us do. Not only do Narcissists refuse to treat their personality disorders because of an unshakeable belief that they are perfectly fine, but also because they are not suffering. It's all of us...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    I Do

    The definition of my mother IS : inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity, erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. I can say this...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2009

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    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    My father is a clown of a person.

    He claims that he is the best and has never praised or trusted anyone else. He immediately puts blames for things even for things that don't matter. There is no point discussing with him as it always leads to ignorance, an emotional draining, no solution, information or advice...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12, 2014

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    My stepdaughter had a shrine to herself in her

    room. I bought her a photo board for her room, and gave her pictures of her birthday parties, family photos, vacation pictures, pictures of her dad and mom holding her when she was a baby. She jammed them into the board so that she was the only one showing in every single...
    maemaddy maemaddy 31-35 1 Response May 11, 2014

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    I have a narc sister Or charastics of a narc .

    . My mom believes shes one to & probably needs help .. I heard somwhere that if any narc that does get help ends up being worse they learn how to disguise themselves better So the best thing so far is having zero contact with her & any1 she assocaites with .. She has done so much...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F Jun 18

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    Father

    My dad likes to parade around like an upstanding member of the community when he's, in fact, a fraud.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 26-30, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    Tired of Me Me Me!

    My sister is conceited.  She doesn't see or talk to any of us very much, but when she does, she is sure to tell us how perfect her life is, how incredible her kids are, and she has once even said, 'doesn't that make you sick?' Well, yes it does!  Not the fact that you...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 51-55, F 4 Responses Mar 14, 2008

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    My mum is a narcissist.

    She's so horrible to me, she tries to make me feel crazy all the time and that everything is my fault. She can NEVER say 'I'm sorry, I was wrong' never. ever. She upsets me then says 'SEE' look you 'love fighting' when I'm just telling her my point or saying that she's being...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    My father always had dreams of grandeur.

    Was it the drugs or was it an unchecked narcissism? Sometimes I check for disorders, I think that's why he moved hell on earth for me not to become a psychologist. When he was a teen he had these beaten up journals of his grand destiny. He used religion, family , friends to...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response May 5, 2014

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    ow do you deal with an N family?

    my family are the worst..monsters..they have put me through unspeakable abuse and because im so brainwashed and witness good things keep happening to them i dont know what to do. more bad happens to me as more good happens to them--is there karma and a God out there? im so...
    sonia5599 sonia5599 22-25, F 3 Responses May 26, 2014

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    My mother is a passive liar.

    She denies that I worked and says its unimportant I made money. She will then complain that her own money is not enough. If possible, she denies things others do, facts, according to preference. She will even try to convince me that it is so and even make up facts to support...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M Feb 12, 2014

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    My Brother...

    ...tells every woman that he dates that he is better looking than they are. The women think that he's being cute. My brother is serious and tells them as much. My neice continues the tradition by telling everyone she meets that all of her uncles are good looking. What a family...
    kmaramoto kmaramoto 31-35, F Feb 21, 2011

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    My dad is a narcissist

    and its impossible to live with him. He thinks he's the best at everything and thinks that other ppl's needs and opinions dont matter. He's even referred to himself as God a few times (im not exaggerating). He thinks everyone around him is stupid and he openly expresses this...
    atheistblogger atheistblogger 22-25, F Feb 23, 2014

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    If we're going by professional diagnoses,

    I AM the narcissistic family member but, to be honest, I'm not the only one. My mom was a narcissist, my dad's a bit of a narcissist and I've got a brother who's kind of a narcissist as well... I guess it runs in the family.
    utahwriter utahwriter 41-45, M 2 Responses May 7, 2014

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    Frustrating

    Both my sister and my father are narcissists. It makes me so crazy because we can never have a good relationship due to this. They lie, they cheat, they twist and manipulate everything to their advantage. I haven't talked to my dad since August because he's convinced I told lies...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    It's Driving Me Crazy

    they want everything for them now, and push everything everyone else wants aside. I can't understand how I can be so totally unlike them! Just the opposite really! Now they've got there stereo cranked full blast. I can't even go out of the house without hearing it. Yet when it...
    CarbonHeart CarbonHeart 46-50 1 Response Oct 9, 2009

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    Argh

    My mom is either Narcissistic or Histrionic. Perhaps she's both. She will never be diagnosed properly because she does not feel she needs to change, therefore she will never find herself in a therapist's office. Whatever her deal is, I hate her and find it depressing that I...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    I hate my sister she is the biggest suck up ever she likes to snitch about me to my parents and say the most nasty sh!t about me i got enough of her
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    Okay, don't get me wrong. I love my family, but sometimes some of them get on my nerves. Like my dad, I always feel like I have to explain everything to him even if I've already...
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    In you opinion, which is worse: Never knowing your father or wishing you never knew him?
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    I was supposed to go home at 29 July, but when my parents said that we're going home at 1 August, I asked why, and they said that the flights are full and my grandparents flight...
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    Don't get me started on my brothers. My older brother is a complete a*s, my little brother is the most annoying human being and my youngest brother has already learned to blame...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    If your parent tells you that you need to get all you need all by yourself, how do you feel? If your parent grudges to spend a penny for you no matter what happens, how do you feel...
    ExileMyself ExileMyself 26-30, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I have had a major fallout with my mother as she hates my husband. She is obsessed with his every move and constantly slags him off to me and the rest of the family. I have hidden...
    Levens Levens 41-45, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I´ve been born into a very small family (mother and brother - that´s all!). I´ve never had a grandmother or a grandfather (they´ve died long time ago before I was born). I also...
    Loretta78 Loretta78 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Well I'm not really estranged from any family members. I mean I do have family members that I don't see very often due to distance, but the few times we get to see each other, we...
    ashleys11991 ashleys11991 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    When I was three years old my parents were killed in a car accident. And I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle loved me very much although my aunt was very...
    meneme2050 meneme2050 18-21, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    So We are a new Therian Family do you see how I say Family not Pack this is because I believe in a less formal approach also of course we are open to all Thearian's not just Wolf's...
    therianteulu therianteulu 22-25, T 5 days ago

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    My parents are so annoying they're giving me a brain tumor.
    yukishiro yukishiro 18-21, F 6 days ago

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    Being an identical twin can be painful and a curse 😢
    LaLuna44 LaLuna44 51-55, F 6 days ago

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    My mom still refuses to accept the fact that I'm gay. Honestly, it hurts that she hates it. That's why my boyfriend and I don't go over to my house.
    deleted deleted 26-30 a week ago

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    my younger brother is a heroin addict. He's been in jail a few time and long enough to get it out of his sudden. He had stolen everything from our patents, and fight with our...
    Shouse88 Shouse88 26-30, F a week ago

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    I have no family support because I have no family to speak of. I have become more and more interested in finding out who my people are and where they are and even if they would...
    DoveinMourning DoveinMourning 36-40, F a week ago

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    Nearly a decade ago I moved away from my toxic family in an effort to avoid having an actual mental breakdown. I was numb. My parents are bare minimum suffering from Borderline...
    Frankenzombie Frankenzombie 36-40, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    I am the oldest of three children and I have two younger brothers. I am 13 and my two younger brothers are 10 years old and 7 years old. My two little brothers are constantly...
    ericawalker ericawalker 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 21

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    Both my parents died of cancer while I was fairly young. 18-29. I don't have any grandparents or siblings either. It doesn't really bother me anymore, except those little things...
    doggpickle doggpickle 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    me and my sister used to do it regularly when we were younger. watching **** on the computer.
    mike7625 mike7625 31-35, M 5 Responses Jul 19

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    They exist, but I haven't spoken with anyone in my family since I was 18 and I've been on my own since I was 14.
    Sicarium Sicarium 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 19

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    My Uncle. May he rest in peace. Love you.
    msladyred68 msladyred68 46-50, F 3 Responses Jul 19

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