I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

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    I have a narcissistic mother in law

    who hates me. My husband went no contact 18 months ago. She keeps guilt tripping & manipulating family members to persuade husband to reconcile with her & tries convincing them I'm mental & evil & husband needs saving. Husband is having none of it but she keeps trying!!
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej
    26-30, F
    1 Response Mar 24, 2014

    One of my Parents is.

    And I don't know what to do anymore. I am in my late 20s and it still feels like I am in shackles. To add to that, I have a co-dependent Mother and a special child (she has cerebral palsy) of a younger sister. Growing up in our household, it only pained me ever since. I have...
    Arimura Arimura
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 20, 2015

    I realized today that there is a good chance my

    father is a narcissist. :( I've probably known for years but Jose to ignore it, naturally thinking he just had a ton of self confidence in himself, and excusing any abusive behavior as "just who he is" because of how abusive his father was when he was growing up. It's hit me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 11, 2015

    My mother is a passive liar.

    She denies that I worked and says its unimportant I made money. She will then complain that her own money is not enough. If possible, she denies things others do, facts, according to preference. She will even try to convince me that it is so and even make up facts to support...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor
    36-40, M
    Feb 12, 2014

    Argh

    My mom is either Narcissistic or Histrionic. Perhaps she's both. She will never be diagnosed properly because she does not feel she needs to change, therefore she will never find herself in a therapist's office. Whatever her deal is, I hate her and find it depressing that I...
    mtsv mtsv
    26-30, F
    3 Responses May 5, 2009

    My stepdaughter had a shrine to herself in her

    room. I bought her a photo board for her room, and gave her pictures of her birthday parties, family photos, vacation pictures, pictures of her dad and mom holding her when she was a baby. She jammed them into the board so that she was the only one showing in every single...
    maemaddy maemaddy
    36-40
    1 Response May 11, 2014

    Tired of Me Me Me!

    My sister is conceited.  She doesn't see or talk to any of us very much, but when she does, she is sure to tell us how perfect her life is, how incredible her kids are, and she has once even said, 'doesn't that make you sick?' Well, yes it does!  Not the fact that you...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Mar 14, 2008

    Anger is not something to be ashamed of.

    Anger is a natural response to injustice and can help break the cycle of abuse. Anger is a crucial part of recovery. Two weeks ago on 7/31/2015, I finally put the pieces together, saw the actions for what they were and realized my mother is not only a victim of a Narcissist...
    wowodeals wowodeals
    31-35, F
    Aug 15, 2015

    They Say Narcissists Don't Suffer...

    I read once that Narcissists don't suffer from their mental illness--just the rest of us do. Not only do Narcissists refuse to treat their personality disorders because of an unshakeable belief that they are perfectly fine, but also because they are not suffering. It's all of us...
    mtsv mtsv
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Jun 18, 2009

    My father always had dreams of grandeur.

    Was it the drugs or was it an unchecked narcissism? Sometimes I check for disorders, I think that's why he moved hell on earth for me not to become a psychologist. When he was a teen he had these beaten up journals of his grand destiny. He used religion, family , friends to...
    wingeyes wingeyes
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 5, 2014

    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    ow do you deal with an N family?

    my family are the worst..monsters..they have put me through unspeakable abuse and because im so brainwashed and witness good things keep happening to them i dont know what to do. more bad happens to me as more good happens to them--is there karma and a God out there? im so...
    sonia5599 sonia5599
    22-25, F
    3 Responses May 26, 2014

    I Do

    The definition of my mother IS : inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity, erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. I can say this...
    Marowit Marowit
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jun 18, 2009

    It's Driving Me Crazy

    they want everything for them now, and push everything everyone else wants aside. I can't understand how I can be so totally unlike them! Just the opposite really! Now they've got there stereo cranked full blast. I can't even go out of the house without hearing it. Yet when it...
    CarbonHeart CarbonHeart
    46-50
    1 Response Oct 9, 2009

    Frustrating

    Both my sister and my father are narcissists. It makes me so crazy because we can never have a good relationship due to this. They lie, they cheat, they twist and manipulate everything to their advantage. I haven't talked to my dad since August because he's convinced I told lies...
    yisrael yisrael
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 2, 2009

    My dad is a narcissist

    and its impossible to live with him. He thinks he's the best at everything and thinks that other ppl's needs and opinions dont matter. He's even referred to himself as God a few times (im not exaggerating). He thinks everyone around him is stupid and he openly expresses this...
    atheistblogger atheistblogger
    26-30, F
    Feb 23, 2014

    It all started back in April 2015.

    I went out and hung out with some friends of mine. I get a voicemail...it was from Psycho. She had asked if I saw her phone that she misplaced. I got home and I told her No I haven't seen it. She finds her phone 2 days later and she screams at me and my nephew asking us "Why did...
    LadyLibra804 LadyLibra804
    31-35, F
    Aug 12, 2015

    My father is a clown of a person.

    He claims that he is the best and has never praised or trusted anyone else. He immediately puts blames for things even for things that don't matter. There is no point discussing with him as it always leads to ignorance, an emotional draining, no solution, information or advice...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor
    36-40, M
    1 Response Feb 12, 2014

    I have a narc sister Or charastics of a narc .

    . My mom believes shes one to & probably needs help .. I heard somwhere that if any narc that does get help ends up being worse they learn how to disguise themselves better So the best thing so far is having zero contact with her & any1 she assocaites with .. She has done so much...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me
    41-45, F
    Jun 18, 2015

    My Brother...

    ...tells every woman that he dates that he is better looking than they are. The women think that he's being cute. My brother is serious and tells them as much. My neice continues the tradition by telling everyone she meets that all of her uncles are good looking. What a family...
    kmaramoto kmaramoto
    31-35, F
    Feb 21, 2011

    If we're going by professional diagnoses,

    I AM the narcissistic family member but, to be honest, I'm not the only one. My mom was a narcissist, my dad's a bit of a narcissist and I've got a brother who's kind of a narcissist as well... I guess it runs in the family.
    utahwriter utahwriter
    41-45, M
    2 Responses May 7, 2014

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