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I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

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    They Say Narcissists Don't Suffer...

    I read once that Narcissists don't suffer from their mental illness--just the rest of us do. Not only do Narcissists refuse to treat their personality disorders because of an unshakeable belief that they are perfectly fine, but also because they are not suffering. It's all of us...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 7 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    I have a narcissistic mother in law

    who hates me. My husband went no contact 18 months ago. She keeps guilt tripping & manipulating family members to persuade husband to reconcile with her & tries convincing them I'm mental & evil & husband needs saving. Husband is having none of it but she keeps trying!!
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej 26-30, F Mar 24

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    Argh

    My mom is either Narcissistic or Histrionic. Perhaps she's both. She will never be diagnosed properly because she does not feel she needs to change, therefore she will never find herself in a therapist's office. Whatever her deal is, I hate her and find it depressing that I...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    Father

    My dad likes to parade around like an upstanding member of the community when he's, in fact, a fraud.
    Ichilicious Ichilicious 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 27, 2011

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    It's Driving Me Crazy

    they want everything for them now, and push everything everyone else wants aside. I can't understand how I can be so totally unlike them! Just the opposite really! Now they've got there stereo cranked full blast. I can't even go out of the house without hearing it. Yet when it...
    CarbonHeart CarbonHeart 46-50 1 Response Oct 9, 2009

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    Frustrating

    Both my sister and my father are narcissists. It makes me so crazy because we can never have a good relationship due to this. They lie, they cheat, they twist and manipulate everything to their advantage. I haven't talked to my dad since August because he's convinced I told lies...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    I Do

    The definition of my mother IS : inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity, erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. I can say this...
    Marowit Marowit 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2009

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    My Brother...

    ...tells every woman that he dates that he is better looking than they are. The women think that he's being cute. My brother is serious and tells them as much. My neice continues the tradition by telling everyone she meets that all of her uncles are good looking. What a family...
    kmaramoto kmaramoto 31-35, F Feb 21, 2011

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    Tired of Me Me Me!

    My sister is conceited.  She doesn't see or talk to any of us very much, but when she does, she is sure to tell us how perfect her life is, how incredible her kids are, and she has once even said, 'doesn't that make you sick?' Well, yes it does!  Not the fact that you...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 46-50, F 5 Responses Mar 14, 2008

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    My mother is a passive liar.

    She denies that I worked and says its unimportant I made money. She will then complain that her own money is not enough. If possible, she denies things others do, facts, according to preference. She will even try to convince me that it is so and even make up facts to support...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M Feb 12

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    My father is a clown of a person.

    He claims that he is the best and has never praised or trusted anyone else. He immediately puts blames for things even for things that don't matter. There is no point discussing with him as it always leads to ignorance, an emotional draining, no solution, information or advice...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 31-35, M 1 Response Feb 12

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    My dad is a narcissist

    and its impossible to live with him. He thinks he's the best at everything and thinks that other ppl's needs and opinions dont matter. He's even referred to himself as God a few times (im not exaggerating). He thinks everyone around him is stupid and he openly expresses this...
    atheistblogger atheistblogger 22-25, F Feb 23

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    Well I have veterans in my family. Always proud to be a Navy Niece, an grand-daughter of a Solider , a cousin to a female Solider! Also proud to be a friend of a Marine, and a...
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    They aren't blood, but I love them enough to call them family. They're my two best friends and I'm so scared they'll pull the trigger, cut to deep, slip into the noose, or OD...
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    Oh boy I could right a whole book about my experience... But to keep it simple I have a schizophrenic mother. For the past couple of years her condition has only gotten worse...
    Jc0322 Jc0322 22-25, M Apr 4

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    Last night my dad made a suicide attempt, and after begging to be killed he was sedated by a doctor. He's been battling depression for years and recently had a psychotic episode...
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    My dad got bowl cancer 😩 don't know how to react, I just went into defense mode went out the yard and linked my mates.. Just blazed one zoot.. And tried to forget about what I...
    Sukhii Sukhii 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    and the voices they hear drive me insane!!!!!!!!!!!!
    theghostdog theghostdog 31-35 2 Responses Apr 4

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    My mom tried to kill herself with a knife at her throat when I was 8. She also almost drove to the beach while drunk just to drown herself. She told me she would shoot me in the...
    speaksoftandcarrybigstick speaksoftandcarrybigstick 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Last week was thought for my family we lost a family members in Mexico due to the violence and terror that is going on with the cartels and the territories my cousin was on his way...
    mariohernandez152 mariohernandez152 31-35, M Apr 11

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    Last week was thought for my family we lost a family members in Mexico due to the violence and terror that is going on with the cartels and the territories my cousin was on his way...
    mariohernandez152 mariohernandez152 31-35, M Apr 11

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    the day before yesterday, my step uncle passed away. and I never know anything about it till my sister told me as she was told by my other step uncle. by that time we were at home...
    rsddhj rsddhj 13-15, F Apr 2

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    Just because my mother got married she wants to move, but I have no interest in getting to know her husband. I'm being rushed into a situation and everything my other family...
    Kperr14 Kperr14 13-15, F Apr 4

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    Most of my family members are alcoholics and/or addicts. I haven't seen most of them for over 20 years and basically have no contact with them ever except an occasional...
    blessedmess blessedmess 41-45, F Mar 27

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    Not in the physical world- I was raised to believe that the family I thought was my family was mine. I later found out that I was taken and they were not my real family I belonged...
    gardengirl17 gardengirl17 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 8

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    As I've written here, I hate my biological family. I do have a family of 5 close friends, all younger than I am. Our little group gathers on Saturday nights to play fantasy role...
    katmaninva katmaninva 56-60 a week ago

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    Hi I'm Danny it's pretty hard for me to write and get my words across so please excuse me if your struggling to understand me and my family have never been close as there has...
    Dannyharrison01 Dannyharrison01 26-30, M Mar 25

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    ***Before you read this: I am NOT looking for sympathy and/or pity; I'm trying to explain a little what living with this disorder is like. Please don't feed the narcissist's supply...
    LiquidThinking LiquidThinking 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    Since I've begun experiencing symptoms of depression, mostly anything my family does ****** me off. They may mean it, but the continuous stream of I love you's coming from their...
    Radjad Radjad 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    When I was a teenager, my family used to get me so angry. I thought that maybe it was just teenage hormones being out of whack, and I was being overly sensitive. After moving...
    Scorpio018 Scorpio018 26-30, M Mar 27

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    I am estranged from my most of my family even the two children I gave birth to. It has been a agonizing experience and the holidays were bad until I got my dog. People are suppose...
    clarity888 clarity888 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 11

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    I feel like a lot of women with sisters are able to be close with each other. Not the case with my sisters.. I'm not sure why I got to be so unlucky in this department, it's...
    cbnfvr cbnfvr 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I think we all have family and I laws we hate but when do you forgive for unforgivable things? Iv been told to move on many times but the hate and anger just doesn't go away
    aussie365 aussie365 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I have a annoying familie, my mom doesn't play with me just the little kids and my brothers are mean to me but my mom doesn't beilev me be coz they lye and say they aren't and my...
    Annamiya Annamiya 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Have always been estranged from them, but for the last few years, I don't even share the same space as them, and once one starts that practice, its almost a "point of no return...
    0nest0 0nest0 31-35, M 1 Response Apr 12

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    so basically i just moved back in with my mom and this one uncle and his cousin are living with my mom and i absoultely hate it. they have made my mom believe that only eating...
    aleeta47 aleeta47 16-17, F Mar 28

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    Over the years, I have had a family bed. My husband is in the military and on constant maneuvers away from home so I would let my kids sleep with me when they were young and I...
    femaleoncruiseship femaleoncruiseship 46-50, F 4 Responses Apr 6

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    Before I was born, my parents distanced themselves from my extended family. When I was really young, my mother divorced my father. Growing up, I moved from city to city. I never...
    normanperkins normanperkins 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 24

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    OK... so I really don't know what is wrong with me. I get these urges to have my own babies and it completely consumes my thoughts. I spend so much time just thinking about it...
    ballen0420 ballen0420 36-40, M Mar 28

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    So now is the time when I have to start looking at colleges and figuring out my life. In the past, there were things that I wanted to do or had a passion for and they just crushed...
    tamingthefox tamingthefox 16-17, F Apr 2

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    Lately I have been longing to be a father, its a weird feeling. I think that's why I love having my nephews and neighbor kids around. It hit me really hard at the youth fine arts...
    dmsummerwind dmsummerwind 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    I didn't even know about my diagnosis until I was at my disability hearing. I didn't want to accept it at first but several months later it really affected my life and the people...
    utahwriter utahwriter 36-40, M Apr 11

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    I lost my beautiful mother to alcoholism. She was only 52 turning 53 on January 27. She passed December 27 and 6 months before that my grandma(my moms mom) passed away to ammonia...
    ChattyCathy16 ChattyCathy16 16-17, F Apr 11

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    This is something I think about every now and then. I have PCOS which doesn't make it impossible to have children but in some women it can cause infertility. So I have adjusted to...
    hayleyRebeccaE hayleyRebeccaE 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    My best friend is a guy and we've known each other for almost 9 years already. We constantly get into stupid arguments but they are serious that's just us. I stopped talking to him...
    AlwaysHaveDreams AlwaysHaveDreams 16-17, F 21 hrs ago

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    I love my mom and my grandma but growing up was sometimes really hard for me. I remember waking up in the middle of the night when I was really little so i could bury my head under...
    bsmirror bsmirror 22-25, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    Probably the most embarrassing situation I ever have been in... Met a girl online. Talked a lot... She seemed so perfect. Had a really tragic past and I just got drawn in so...
    EmptinessofSeth EmptinessofSeth 31-35, M 3 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    recently I had another mental breakdown while I was sick causing my mother to offer to take off work for 2 months. our relationship seemed to be getting better for about 2 weeks...
    thelostgirl25 thelostgirl25 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    It's easy to point at my mother as the "bad guy" out of my parents. After all, she was the one who was constantly yelling, cussing at us, saying she hated us and wanted to leave us...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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