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I Have a Narcissistic Family Member

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    My father is a clown of a person.

    He claims that he is the best and has never praised or trusted anyone else. He immediately puts blames for things even for things that don't matter. There is no point discussing with him as it always leads to ignorance, an emotional draining, no solution, information or advice...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 36-40, M 1 Response Feb 12, 2014

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    One of my Parents is.

    And I don't know what to do anymore. I am in my late 20s and it still feels like I am in shackles. To add to that, I have a co-dependent Mother and a special child (she has cerebral palsy) of a younger sister. Growing up in our household, it only pained me ever since. I have...
    Arimura Arimura 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 20, 2015

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    My dad is a narcissist

    and its impossible to live with him. He thinks he's the best at everything and thinks that other ppl's needs and opinions dont matter. He's even referred to himself as God a few times (im not exaggerating). He thinks everyone around him is stupid and he openly expresses this...
    atheistblogger atheistblogger 26-30, F Feb 23, 2014

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    They Say Narcissists Don't Suffer...

    I read once that Narcissists don't suffer from their mental illness--just the rest of us do. Not only do Narcissists refuse to treat their personality disorders because of an unshakeable belief that they are perfectly fine, but also because they are not suffering. It's all of us...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 8 Responses Jun 18, 2009

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    To my father, my abuser

    for 25 years: I am writing to inform you that I know exactly who and what you are. Additionally, despite your many years of bullying & brainwashing, despite all the innocence and potential you robbed from me, you no longer have any control over me. I'm no longer afraid of you...
    wowodeals wowodeals 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 2, 2015

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    My Brother...

    ...tells every woman that he dates that he is better looking than they are. The women think that he's being cute. My brother is serious and tells them as much. My neice continues the tradition by telling everyone she meets that all of her uncles are good looking. What a family...
    kmaramoto kmaramoto 31-35, F Feb 21, 2011

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    I Do

    The definition of my mother IS : inordinate fascination with oneself; excessive self-love; vanity, erotic gratification derived from admiration of one's own physical or mental attributes, being a normal condition at the infantile level of personality development. I can say this...
    Marowit Marowit 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18, 2009

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    I realized today that there is a good chance my

    father is a narcissist. :( I've probably known for years but Jose to ignore it, naturally thinking he just had a ton of self confidence in himself, and excusing any abusive behavior as "just who he is" because of how abusive his father was when he was growing up. It's hit me...
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 22-25, F Aug 11, 2015

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    Anger is not something to be ashamed of.

    Anger is a natural response to injustice and can help break the cycle of abuse. Anger is a crucial part of recovery. Two weeks ago on 7/31/2015, I finally put the pieces together, saw the actions for what they were and realized my mother is not only a victim of a Narcissist...
    wowodeals wowodeals 31-35, F Aug 15, 2015

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    I have a narc sister Or charastics of a narc .

    . My mom believes shes one to & probably needs help .. I heard somwhere that if any narc that does get help ends up being worse they learn how to disguise themselves better So the best thing so far is having zero contact with her & any1 she assocaites with .. She has done so much...
    missyluvsmissy4me missyluvsmissy4me 41-45, F Jun 18, 2015

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    If we're going by professional diagnoses,

    I AM the narcissistic family member but, to be honest, I'm not the only one. My mom was a narcissist, my dad's a bit of a narcissist and I've got a brother who's kind of a narcissist as well... I guess it runs in the family.
    utahwriter utahwriter 41-45, M 2 Responses May 7, 2014

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    My mother is a passive liar.

    She denies that I worked and says its unimportant I made money. She will then complain that her own money is not enough. If possible, she denies things others do, facts, according to preference. She will even try to convince me that it is so and even make up facts to support...
    npsurvivor npsurvivor 36-40, M Feb 12, 2014

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    Argh

    My mom is either Narcissistic or Histrionic. Perhaps she's both. She will never be diagnosed properly because she does not feel she needs to change, therefore she will never find herself in a therapist's office. Whatever her deal is, I hate her and find it depressing that I...
    mtsv mtsv 26-30, F 3 Responses May 5, 2009

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    ow do you deal with an N family?

    my family are the worst..monsters..they have put me through unspeakable abuse and because im so brainwashed and witness good things keep happening to them i dont know what to do. more bad happens to me as more good happens to them--is there karma and a God out there? im so...
    sonia5599 sonia5599 22-25, F 3 Responses May 26, 2014

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    Tired of Me Me Me!

    My sister is conceited.  She doesn't see or talk to any of us very much, but when she does, she is sure to tell us how perfect her life is, how incredible her kids are, and she has once even said, 'doesn't that make you sick?' Well, yes it does!  Not the fact that you...
    thinkingoutloud thinkingoutloud 51-55, F 4 Responses Mar 14, 2008

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    I have a narcissistic mother in law

    who hates me. My husband went no contact 18 months ago. She keeps guilt tripping & manipulating family members to persuade husband to reconcile with her & tries convincing them I'm mental & evil & husband needs saving. Husband is having none of it but she keeps trying!!
    l2thedoublej l2thedoublej 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 24, 2014

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    It's Driving Me Crazy

    they want everything for them now, and push everything everyone else wants aside. I can't understand how I can be so totally unlike them! Just the opposite really! Now they've got there stereo cranked full blast. I can't even go out of the house without hearing it. Yet when it...
    CarbonHeart CarbonHeart 46-50 1 Response Oct 9, 2009

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    My father always had dreams of grandeur.

    Was it the drugs or was it an unchecked narcissism? Sometimes I check for disorders, I think that's why he moved hell on earth for me not to become a psychologist. When he was a teen he had these beaten up journals of his grand destiny. He used religion, family , friends to...
    wingeyes wingeyes 31-35, F 1 Response May 5, 2014

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    Frustrating

    Both my sister and my father are narcissists. It makes me so crazy because we can never have a good relationship due to this. They lie, they cheat, they twist and manipulate everything to their advantage. I haven't talked to my dad since August because he's convinced I told lies...
    yisrael yisrael 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 2, 2009

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    It all started back in April 2015.

    I went out and hung out with some friends of mine. I get a voicemail...it was from Psycho. She had asked if I saw her phone that she misplaced. I got home and I told her No I haven't seen it. She finds her phone 2 days later and she screams at me and my nephew asking us "Why did...
    LadyLibra804 LadyLibra804 31-35, F Aug 12, 2015

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    My stepdaughter had a shrine to herself in her

    room. I bought her a photo board for her room, and gave her pictures of her birthday parties, family photos, vacation pictures, pictures of her dad and mom holding her when she was a baby. She jammed them into the board so that she was the only one showing in every single...
    maemaddy maemaddy 36-40 1 Response May 11, 2014

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    Currently, I'm living with my mother, my younger and older brothers. I'm the only daughter so you would've thought that I would have some leeway with somethings. Unfortunately...
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    Also alone........ there is no one
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    I like to sing and write songs. I think I'm really good at it. I've been through a lot of trauma and it's my way to cope. It's the only way I can ever make sense out of anything I...
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    Hello I wanted to just say hello to the group as I am a new member to this web site. I absolutely LOVE this group. I am basically home bound and have always had pets all my life...
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    Hey everyone. I'm new to this group. Hoping to get a little support and more insight about having narcissistic parents. I grew up in a big family (6 siblings, mom and dad) it's...
    PainfullyAvoidant PainfullyAvoidant 18-21, F 3 days ago

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    A few days ago I posted how my head hurts and how I have to let ago of a relationship. Also to use it as an opportunity to reflect on my issues. So here goes. The thing that sucks...
    allinlove allinlove 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    this. is probably the single most difficult thing i have experienced in my life. how are you suppose to look after some one who isnt the same person any more. my mother is "due to...
    CassieSamuel CassieSamuel 22-25, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    family is very important to me and they are a big part of my life, but its also important to know which family members that aren't any good. love but i have to at a distance
    ellazabeth ellazabeth 22-25, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    i feel like like im in hell sometimes when around my family. specifically my parents mostly. I live with them and I feel like walls are caving in and only way to get out is to...
    shysweetsensible shysweetsensible 36-40, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I am so worried and saddened to hear that my cousin Michael suffered a Grand Mal seizure today. 12 + years ago he was involved in a terrible motorcycle accident that caused brain...
    rebekahanastasia rebekahanastasia 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    it's official...I need to leave my house. my parents rely on me too much and my brother does nothing to help us. I have so many responsibilities with my school work. I'm a 4.0...
    marckengenie1 marckengenie1 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    My family get on my nerves because I'm the only child my parent's don't care about. I'm the youngest and people usually say that makes you the "baby" and the "precious one". What...
    Freedgorgan Freedgorgan 16-17, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    When I was three years old my parents were killed in a car accident. And I was sent to live with my aunt and uncle. My aunt and uncle loved me very much although my aunt was very...
    meneme2013 meneme2013 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    I grew up with my step father being schizophrenic. and I can say its not easy being around someone who has this illness. I developed bipolar at age 17 and have been dealing with...
    kparker33 kparker33 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 29

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    Bombarder built a family just for holding Father's money. She claims a husband should always put all his money in his wife's hands, but that doesn't mean she would use Father's...
    ExileMyself ExileMyself 26-30, F Jan 29

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    You would think that working for/with a family member, it would better your life, but experience has thought me it's the contrary. It's always a competition, and the one that's in...
    LucyDJ LucyDJ 36-40, F Jan 29

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    Just had seen a friend in a hospital yesterday this person just had their 30 th mental break down its nothing new but this person always seems to stop taking their medications as...
    Bella70 Bella70 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 29

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    I freaking hate my ex sister in law. and honestly I wouldn't care If she died... okay maybe that's to far.. but I hate her with a passion! I just wish she would go lay under a...
    Lillyisawesome Lillyisawesome 13-15, F 3 Responses Jan 28

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    UPDATED I was taking a shower, when I swung around on my left hand side. I felt pain on the side of my tummy, and something moving around. I felt something pulling and pushing. I...
    ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT ONESTARRYSTARRYNIGHT 26-30, F Jan 28

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