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I Have A Narcissistic Mother

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    If anyone would be interested in reading my

    blog about my life and experience with my narcissistic mother, please let me know. I'm sure I'll be writing quick things here from time to time but there's more on the blog.
    SpokenSilence SpokenSilence 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    'mom has dementia.' hah!

    nope, i am not going to say that. mom has NPD. Lying about her condition is one step forward to be like her. Mom is in her 50's. She can't be blame. She can't process shame. There is part of me, want to take short cut, easy way out, explaining, 'she show early sign of...
    fien fien 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 15, 2014

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    She pulled the biggest act right before.

    Just wish she would shut the hell up sometimes. She doesn't give one crap if I don't love her. She pulled this big scenario that I treat her like crap, I use her and don't love her, I look at her like I hate her. Just this whole crap I just wanted to roll my eyes over. I don't...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 14

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    been there done that.

    i keep a blog and one day i realize how badly mother affect me. there is a post about 'being self absorb'. that dear friends of mine said, 'you are self absorbed'. and i ask her,' what is self absorb?' she said, 'you will know'. in the blog, i wrote about how i have no idea...
    fien fien 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I want to share a big experience with people

    who have gone through similar experiences as me. I am 24 and have been seeing counsellers on and off since i was 18. after a lot of therapy and years living away from home at university and making new friends in a new town, I was learning for the first time who I was. Before...
    yogihope yogihope 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    She is jealous I lost weight.

    Can expect more nastiness from her.
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 6 days ago

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    How my mother shows me how much she doesn't

    love me: I got up and she was awake. She was awake to get HIM awake for something for the car. She was cold and uncaring to me. Felt so unwanted as usual. He went back to sleep and she was annoyed. Came to me moaning to use me as usual. She woke him up and laughed with him and...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Mar 9

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    My mother pulled it big in hospital.

    Everyone thought we had a great relationship. She fooled well. She told me nonsense about doing things together and I was even going to give out my PIN number. I was in such a vulnerable state and i fell for everything she said. As soon as I'm in her eyes "back to normal" I'm...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 6 days ago

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    I feel like my heart was stabbed a thousand

    times. How can anyone see how much she doesn't love me. How? How can she say she loves me? I don't even know. I am so upset and fed up. I feel so worthless and nothing. It involved her "precious" darling husband. I'll maybe write the story later. I just want to die right now. I...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 Mar 8

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    After Years Of Suffering...

    A single session with my psychologist was able to hammer out the fact that my mother is narcissistic. Weeks prior to that, she threatened to disown my brother and I'd started to emotionally detach from her. Finding out she was narcissistic helped me continue a path of recovery I...
    Tsirian527 Tsirian527 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    I am so upset. Few hours ago she switched to

    "worship mode". I went to bed I couldn't take her constantly ignoring me. Wake up hours later and she hasn't checked on me. Say hello to her she is nasty and won't hardly look at me. Tells him she wants to show him something. I'm in my room and she walks past without looking at...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have recently learned to adapt to my mother's

    subtle abuse with either a quick retort back or simply not giving her any ammunition to use behind my back. I wrote an earlier story about how my mother managed to obtain temporary custody of my, one year daughter behind my back, while I was battling cancer. It took me a...
    amazingyou amazingyou 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2014

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    I wish I had known many years ago what I know

    now. All these years of trying to please, wanting to be loved. I have a brother who is the golden child, I am the scapegoat. I am always so depressed and irritated after talking with her. I always think it's going to be different, that she is really going to love me. And...
    janepr janepr 56-60, F 3 Responses Jun 3, 2014

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    I started a blog about my life

    and experiences with her. A part of me is scared she'll find it.
    SpokenSilence SpokenSilence 26-30, F 3 days ago

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    My Husband Just Told Me About His Narcisistic Mother

    The story he told me sent me reeling. It was like hearing a horror story. I couldn't sleep last night and is all I could think about today. First,I should say,I wasn't raised by a narcissist and I feel so lucky. I am thanking my lucky stars today. I cannot imagine growing up...
    springstarbaby springstarbaby 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    Out of curiosity, what are examples of crazy,

    evil things your narc mother has done and how do you cope? -My Story - There is some consolation in finally coming to terms with my abusive childhood and failed adulthood...decades of questions...what is wrong with me? Why am I unlovable and worthless? Finally, in my 30s, I have...
    freedomchaser freedomchaser 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    My Story

    My mom is a narcissist. I have realized this, put a name to it and come to terms with it, now I just have to go NC for good. Growing up, I never understood how my mother couldn't love me. I have one older sister and she is the "good" one, because she did everything "right" and...
    flipflop72 flipflop72 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Angers me my mother is rude

    and cold to me today but as soon as her abusive honey wakes up her personality changes. She is now giggling and being nice. To me she was mellow and said hello to me after I said hello and was grouchy. Why am I such filth?
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I recently turned 18,

    and me and my mothers relationship has been kind of okay, I have pretty minimum contact with her due to her abuse but it's safe to say we left off on 'okay' terms. I barely call her anymore and she doesn't call me either but since birthday was coming up. We were talking more to...
    Debbiefrangipani Debbiefrangipani 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    There she goes, making me doubt my own memory.

    The other day she heated up something for me in the microwave. She brought it to me and was shocked she didn't realise it had silver/gold stuff on it. You can't do that in a microwave because it can blow up a microwave. She said to me just now not to do it and I said if she...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 5 days ago

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    Epiphany

    My relationship with my mother has been such a source of pain, abandonment, anger, and frustration for the past six years. However, a few days ago my psychologist told me that she believes I have a Narcissistic Personality Disoerdered mother. I had no clue that you could even...
    lmbksu lmbksu 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    My mother loves to make this dream world

    for me then sends me crashing down. This time she did it without wanting me to intentionally hear. She said for me to sit in the front seat of the car. I never do because I feel it's disrespectful and I was always told the adults sit in front. I'm now an adult but I'm still...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 5 days ago

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    Yes..

    I am coming here tonight to share this part of my story, and to vent in a place where people Know what I am talking about. One of the things they say about Narcisism, is that the only way to know it is to have lived through/ around it. And I believe it`s true, there are lots of...
    gia99 gia99 18-21, F 9 Responses Feb 14, 2013

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    I feel like a weight has been lifted

    and I can think more clearly now for myself after doing some research on psychology and reading about narcissistic mothers. I questioned so much about what was right and wrong because of the games my mom played with my emotions. My guy was telling me my mom was being selfish...
    twistedheart99 twistedheart99 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 28, 2014

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    First of all, thank you

    for sharing; I can't imagine what would I have done without people in the same situation I am posting their stories, knowing I am not the only one, knowing that NP are REPLICAS, realizing I am not alone, I am not crazy, I am not bad in essence. I have asked my mother several...
    alinie alinie 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    "You are a waste of AIR!

    " My mother shouted, her nose pressed firmly against my own and her eyes staring angrily into mine. I gave no response, I was afraid to, yet this fueled her rage. She gripped my shirt, wadding it tightly into her fist, pressing me harder against the wall in the hallway. This...
    Pinkizink Pinkizink 41-45, F 24 mins ago

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    This morning I woke up feeling I own myself a

    hug and a kiss.... My mother has made an effort in her sadistic way to make me shrink into nothing and make me feel terrible about myself. Just as a quick example, on the effect she has on me, my little dog went into heart failure, and I was devastated....... And I feel she is...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    Celebrating my 1 year of going no contact.

    It is unbelievable what a year i had. I got married and had a baby boy. I went no contact after she refused to attend my wedding cause she didnt have a date.... YES, that was the final straw after years of abuse, manipulation and just pure narcissism. I have not spoken to my...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    If you haven't heard it yet,

    listen to Human- Christina Perri Thinking of it from a victim of narcissistic abuse's perspective hits home
    SpokenSilence SpokenSilence 26-30, F 1 hr ago

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    Messes with my head. Wants to move alone

    and hadn't made it clear if she wanted me to go with her. Asked once before and she said yeah. Well she was screaming at me just now and is going back to living alone and wants apart from both of us, and said its his choice if he wants to come. (Wtf?!) That equals me all alone...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Something about family counselling is supposed

    to happen. I don't want to go. I forgot who organised it. I said to my mother I don't want to go and she asked why and I said I can't tell her. She said I'm keeping secrets from her. It looks like I'll be forced to go. I don't want to go because my mother will play her precious...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 5 days ago

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    She said she came to me last night.

    I thought for one second she cared. Then she said "I came to show you my new necklace" Stupid me believing for one second it was about me and caring about me being asleep so late. She patted my hand gently and said she doesn't tell me anything because I "don't listen" to...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 4 Responses Mar 9

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    Why did it take me 33 years to realize this?

    Almost immediately after typing that question I feel doubt and shame not because I should have known years ago but because I feel I am throwing my family under the bus. My mom has mastered her craft because I really believe I am worthless and disgusting even though I am aware of...
    klaw25 klaw25 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 10, 2014

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    Ready

    She will never love me. She cannot love. She will never be sorry. She cannot process guilt. She will never stop blaming me. She cannot accept responsibility. She will never stop bad mouthing me. She cannot live without attention. She will never stop claiming my...
    MoBrix MoBrix 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2013

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    You wouldn't believe what she is doing now.

    I've been ignoring it and taking it as pretty much nothing. But the last time she did it just made me realise it's possibly a form of abuse. Well, since my diet started...well my heart problems which started the diet when i felt "better" (in her eyes) again she started doing...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 day ago

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    To all who understand

    and to all that never will. Here is a poem for all the women who live with this invisible pain. I am tired of being your rag doll. I have spread myself far and wide for people who I could never say no to I have been a rag doll for many men A slave willingly offering my...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response Mar 4

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    Always Gauging

    Do any of you notice that you are constantly trying gauge others reactions or responses, body language, or looks? I am aware that I have constantly through out my life been hyper aware of others reaction to me. I am now seeing that this is related to how I was programmed to not...
    Haretm Haretm 41-45 8 Responses Sep 10, 2013

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    I've been getting a little complacent lately

    mainly because I am away from home and have not seen my NM since just after Xmas. Her lack of support and contact whilst I have been away is no longer suprising me the more I learn about NPD and read other experiences on here. I only learnt about all this and put a name to it a...
    ignoredeldest ignoredeldest 41-45, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2014

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    I want to reach out to all of my new

    aquaintances here and wish you love and peace in the new year. If you can, sit quietly and meditate for a few minutes. Reassure yourself that you are good....that you deserve love and respect....that you want to rid your life of toxins and negative thinking. Do something...
    sanderbender sanderbender 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I am hoping for some emotional

    and loving support here and would be extremely grateful for any advice relating to my situation (everyone can agree that it is most comforting when you have people who understand and are willing to offer support without judgment). With that said, I am going to explain the...
    life4love life4love 18-21 1 Response a week ago

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    At lunch today our 4 year old daughter

    confessed something to my husband and I. Her grandma (my mother/the narcissist) told her to ask how much money we have in the bank. Such a class act.
    SpokenSilence SpokenSilence 26-30, F 2 days ago

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    She plays it that she cares about my ears using

    earphones. She noticed how bad my right is from using earphones. She acted concerned but I don't believe her. She says "do you want to go deaf?" And things like that. Yet has mentioned money before and how it affects us and it's a waste of money other times too and she "doesn't...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 5 days ago

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    So it was my parents birthday yesterday.

    Yes they were both born on the same day. I think it's been about a month since I went no contact with my mother. But I did go out and meet up with my dad for his birthday. They have been divorced since I was 8. This is the first time I didn't contact her at all. I didn't send a...
    Tabetha7 Tabetha7 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 14, 2014

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    How to respond to those

    who ignorantly respond to us with "forgive and forget": I guess you can tell that I disagree and find this callous response more than a little insulting. Why? When one's feelings and emotions have been disregarded for one's entire life, by a cruel maternal monsters, one...
    ubasti ubasti 66-70 6 Responses Feb 18, 2014

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    It Took Me 36 Years To Figure This Out.

    "I gave you milk as a baby. I fed you, I clothed you. What else could you want?" ( I was premature and in the hospital for quite a while after I was born.) "Choose this wedding dress. Do it for your mother. I have cancer." (she was in remission). "When you have a child, I hope...
    ebabella ebabella 36-40, F 7 Responses Sep 11, 2013

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    She spent my entire life destroying me,

    and has the nerve to look me in the eye and question why I can't handle normal life. She's a horrid person and I'm coming to terms with hating her, and emotionally divorcing myself from her. I ordered the book "Will I ever be good enough?" and I'm glad I'll have a chance at...
    BriImani BriImani 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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