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I Have A Narcissistic Mother

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    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 6

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    I can honestly say I don't get mad at my mother

    often. however. I spend a large amount of time being angry at just about everyone else I've ever met. I didn't keep quiet about how I was treated. I told everyone I could. teachers, friends, police. of course I was always painted as a troubled child but even so why didn't...
    thedaughterinlawfromhell thedaughterinlawfromhell 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 13

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    it was my birthday a couple of days ago

    and I received a letter from my mother even though I have told her I won't be contacting her anymore. it was a story she had written about herself as the victim of a terrible life full of struggles with the character in the story which was meant to represent her, is dragging...
    yogihope yogihope 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    How to respond to those

    who ignorantly respond to us with "forgive and forget": I guess you can tell that I disagree and find this callous response more than a little insulting. Why? When one's feelings and emotions have been disregarded for one's entire life, by a cruel maternal monsters, one...
    ubasti ubasti 66-70 6 Responses Feb 18, 2014

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    "9 Things You Learn When Your Bad Mother

    Dies" http://www.womansday.com/relationships/family-friends/a50891/death-love-and-healing/
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 28

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    My mother has the symptoms of a narcissistic

    mother. Now that I'm older she's a complete *****, she does everything to make sure I don't have fun. When I have something planned and tell her days ahead she gets an attitude and then the day of the b**** will come up with a bunch of excuses and I'll remind her and be ready...
    FutureVet2014 FutureVet2014 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    'mom has dementia.' hah!

    nope, i am not going to say that. mom has NPD. Lying about her condition is one step forward to be like her. Mom is in her 50's. She can't be blame. She can't process shame. There is part of me, want to take short cut, easy way out, explaining, 'she show early sign of...
    fien fien 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 15, 2014

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    It Took Me 36 Years To Figure This Out.

    "I gave you milk as a baby. I fed you, I clothed you. What else could you want?" ( I was premature and in the hospital for quite a while after I was born.) "Choose this wedding dress. Do it for your mother. I have cancer." (she was in remission). "When you have a child, I hope...
    ebabella ebabella 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 11, 2013

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    Sometimes I try to justify in my head,

    why my mother was so evil to me? Did her mother abuse her, was my father abusive to her. Does she have low self esteem, she is just uncomfortable with her emotions. But as I get older and have a family of my own I realize something. Despite the severe abuse I endured as a child...
    SisterJudahWarrior777 SisterJudahWarrior777 26-30, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I have been NC with her

    for over 3 years now. It took me almost 40 years to figure it out but once I did there was no turning back. I was raised by a woman without the capacity to love me. Sure she showed love to my brother GOLDEN CHILD, 6 years my junior and some to my sister, 8 years my senior. I...
    supercalitex supercalitex 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 23, 2014

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    My Husband Just Told Me About His Narcisistic Mother

    The story he told me sent me reeling. It was like hearing a horror story. I couldn't sleep last night and is all I could think about today. First,I should say,I wasn't raised by a narcissist and I feel so lucky. I am thanking my lucky stars today. I cannot imagine growing up...
    springstarbaby springstarbaby 31-35, F 4 Responses Nov 1, 2013

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    I just read the symptoms cuz I'd been

    suspecting, and omg it's like someone ******* studied her to a t. And it all makes sense now. That's why she's such a *****! She's ****** in the head.
    Th3Ch3shir3Kat Th3Ch3shir3Kat 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 17

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    Bad dreams over and over I just have to get it

    out... Had another bad dream last night... it seems that I dream about my momster and Golden Child brother every other day... and it's always awful, a constant reminder how ****** theyve been to me. Last night in my dream Momster wanted my brother to drive my son over to my...
    Misstaco Misstaco 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 17

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    To all who understand

    and to all that never will. Here is a poem for all the women who live with this invisible pain. I am tired of being your rag doll. I have spread myself far and wide for people who I could never say no to I have been a rag doll for many men A slave willingly offering my...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response Mar 4

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    Epiphany

    My relationship with my mother has been such a source of pain, abandonment, anger, and frustration for the past six years. However, a few days ago my psychologist told me that she believes I have a Narcissistic Personality Disoerdered mother. I had no clue that you could even...
    lmbksu lmbksu 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2013

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    Longer story than usual

    but I need to vent: Last night was the first time I saw my NM since Sept. I've been NC with her and my GC oldest brother and his family since Sept too. I've been LC with my other brother, who is getting married this weekend. My daughter is a junior bridesmaid in his wedding...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 4

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    My sister and I just discovered this in Oct.

    We always knew something wasn't "right" with her in her interactions with us but just blamed it on a million other things. We've since researched it and every article describes our life with her to a T! We are very relieved to now know what's "wrong" but there is a lot to work...
    Amwsga Amwsga 56-60 3 Responses Jul 21

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    My father passed away a year ago from dementia.

    I have stepped up and have supported my mother through this difficult period. She was a distant parent, utting me in harmful situations constantly as a child. It took me years to recover. She creates dramas in her life and then tries to involve me in them. I feel like my life...
    Feber19 Feber19 31-35, F Aug 9

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    I am currently trying to accept

    that I do indeed have a narcissistic mother. She is the engulfing type, and always has been,which I think is why it's hard to admit that she wasn't a good mom. She has always bought us tons of things, and given lavish gifts, but they always have strings attached. Guilt is her...
    Tywyn1024 Tywyn1024 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    In the years since I researched

    and wrote Mean Mothers, I’ve talked to women about our shared experiences. Every woman’s story is different, of course; perhaps the greatest commonality is the discovery that each of us is not alone, that we are not the only girls or women on the planet to have had mothers...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 4 Responses Apr 11

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    Is she a Narcissist? I'm

    so sad right now. My whole life, mother has always been an abuser of false hope and broken promises, and it's primed me for an abusive relationship in addition to destroying my optimism in the world. She will say anything you want to hear and promises you the moon, but...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    This morning I woke up feeling I own myself a

    hug and a kiss.... My mother has made an effort in her sadistic way to make me shrink into nothing and make me feel terrible about myself. Just as a quick example, on the effect she has on me, my little dog went into heart failure, and I was devastated....... And I feel she is...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 6 Responses Nov 13, 2014

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    My Story

    My mom is a narcissist. I have realized this, put a name to it and come to terms with it, now I just have to go NC for good. Growing up, I never understood how my mother couldn't love me. I have one older sister and she is the "good" one, because she did everything "right" and...
    flipflop72 flipflop72 36-40, F 8 Responses Sep 24, 2013

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    Ready

    She will never love me. She cannot love. She will never be sorry. She cannot process guilt. She will never stop blaming me. She cannot accept responsibility. She will never stop bad mouthing me. She cannot live without attention. She will never stop claiming my...
    MoBrix MoBrix 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 19, 2013

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    After Years Of Suffering...

    A single session with my psychologist was able to hammer out the fact that my mother is narcissistic. Weeks prior to that, she threatened to disown my brother and I'd started to emotionally detach from her. Finding out she was narcissistic helped me continue a path of recovery I...
    Tsirian527 Tsirian527 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 13, 2010

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    I have learned something

    that it's very interesting. My mother is a narcissist, my dad is the enabler. She goes off in the worst kind of emotional and spiritual abuse, and my dad silently backs her up. He covers up for her horrific being. He makes excuses for her. I used to be very attached to my...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 11 Responses Sep 9, 2014

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    3 years ago my narcissistic mother got liver

    disease. Because I'm girl not like my golden brother who is working. I transferred to uni near my home to take care of her due to pressure from everybody. And i tell you it's not picnic in park.Every morning i got up and her problems all over me. And in the end it'll become my...
    nomin423 nomin423 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 4

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    I feel like a weight has been lifted

    and I can think more clearly now for myself after doing some research on psychology and reading about narcissistic mothers. I questioned so much about what was right and wrong because of the games my mom played with my emotions. My guy was telling me my mom was being selfish...
    twistedheart99 twistedheart99 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 28, 2014

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    3.5 Years In The Making

    This might be long. Yesterday was the first time in 3.5 year that I have actually sat down and spoke with my mother, other than the occasional run-in at the grocery store. My daughter turned 3 a few weeks ago and I received a text message from my mom telling her happy birthday...
    chantalprost chantalprost 31-35 4 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    So I recently just discovered this whole thing.

    I'm a scapegoat child it all makes since now. I'll be writing a experience for this soon
    SunshineSplash SunshineSplash 18-21, F Aug 16

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    I have recently learned

    that my mother is a narcissist. I have endured such terrible abuse from her, often so subtle. So many years I tried to forgive her but this last incident was the last straw, she tried to break my marriage in a selfish rage and thats when the spell broke and I was set free. Some...
    SisterJudahWarrior777 SisterJudahWarrior777 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    Finally moving out of her house.

    It's been 22 years of bullshit. I used to take it all without any complaints. She just yells and rages at me and doesn't even acknowledge that I'm there. Whenever I say something, she acts like she doesn't know what I'm saying and asks me to repeat it at least 3 times. She...
    Chelley1993 Chelley1993 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Out of curiosity, what are examples of crazy,

    evil things your narc mother has done and how do you cope? -My Story - There is some consolation in finally coming to terms with my abusive childhood and failed adulthood...decades of questions...what is wrong with me? Why am I unlovable and worthless? Finally, in my 30s, I have...
    freedomchaser freedomchaser 36-40, F 6 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    My adopted mom reminds me of the movie "Mommie

    Dearest". She's a very cold, manipulating and narcissistic woman. Wasn't long ago on a Friday afternoon that she showed her true colors to a complete stranger. She usually puts up a fake front to those that don't know her. But this time she slipped up. I was being wheeled...
    hadyourchance hadyourchance 36-40, F 16 Responses Apr 14, 2014

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    "PAYBACKS ARE A ***** AND SO IS MY

    MOTHER" Caring for an aging narcissistic mother is hard. As the child of a narcissistic mother, chances are that when your mother needs you most, your compassion has already been worn threadbare by her ever-changing demands long before she approached her frailest years. You...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 2 Responses Jun 23

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    the best way to survive a narcissistic mother

    is to not show any reaction on her childish behaviour. act like ur not their. she emotionally tortures and makes others do so. act like u never heard. thats what they feed off a pained expression frm u or a hint of feelings
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 23

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    hi everyone, i would like to share some

    progress i have made since last update. 5 things i am getting used to 1. having an opinion as once upon a time golden child, i have to resist sharing my point of view or feeling. if mother feels sad, i MUST feel sad TOO. if she feels happy, i must feel HAPPY too, regardless of...
    fien fien 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 12

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    I want to reach out to all of my new

    aquaintances here and wish you love and peace in the new year. If you can, sit quietly and meditate for a few minutes. Reassure yourself that you are good....that you deserve love and respect....that you want to rid your life of toxins and negative thinking. Do something...
    sanderbender sanderbender 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    My MN mother abused my cats to assert her power

    over me & to feed off my pain, helplessness and terror. I always felt so guilty that I couldn't protect them from her that I never told anyone about it. Can anyone relate?
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 16

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    I have recently learned to adapt to my mother's

    subtle abuse with either a quick retort back or simply not giving her any ammunition to use behind my back. I wrote an earlier story about how my mother managed to obtain temporary custody of my, one year daughter behind my back, while I was battling cancer. It took me a...
    amazingyou amazingyou 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 14, 2014

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    Surviving a narcissistic mother is a process,

    not an event. You probably didn’t grow up with the knowledge that you even had a narcissistic mother. You may not have known at the time how to determine whether you were treated wrongly or not by your mother. After all, your childhood was experienced by you and you alone...
    rescueme99 rescueme99 41-45 1 Response Jun 23

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    First of all, thank you

    for sharing; I can't imagine what would I have done without people in the same situation I am posting their stories, knowing I am not the only one, knowing that NP are REPLICAS, realizing I am not alone, I am not crazy, I am not bad in essence. I have asked my mother several...
    alinie alinie 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 11, 2014

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    I had a realisation in November last year

    that my mother is narcissistic. And today - only about an hour ago I had a blow-out at my parents.
    SalMesh SalMesh 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    "Daughters of Unloving Mothers: 7 Common

    Wounds Taking stock is often the first step in healing" https://www.psychologytoday.com/blog/tech-support/201304/daughters-unloving-mothers-7-common-wounds
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F Aug 19

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    Anger is not something to be ashamed of.

    Anger is a natural response to injustice and can help break the cycle of abuse. Anger is a crucial part of recovery. Two weeks ago on 7/31/2015, I finally put the pieces together, saw the actions for what they were and realized my mother is not only a victim of a Narcissist...
    wowodeals wowodeals 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    I think now that I've spent time away from my

    mom and identified how dysfunctional she is I've unconsciously sought out healthy minded women of the same age as her. In the past month I've become friends with two wise spiritual women in their late 50's who have shown me the compassion, validation and understanding that I...
    Wbyogimaso Wbyogimaso 26-30