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I Have a Relative With Dementia

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 142 People

    Why Dont She Understand

    my mum was diognosed with dementia in january. we have known for sometime that her memory was going but at first it was things you could laugh at but now its not so funny. i know i shouldnt but i feel so resentful toward her as she is making my life a living hell. the constant...
    kaym48 kaym48 51-55, F May 11, 2012

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    About 30 years of living in one house,

    all deteriorated in 3 weeks, slowly, does he know this is happening to his brain? I ask myself. I hope he doesn't, I hope he thinks he's living normally. I know it's going to get worse, I've watched him for the past 2 years, it's painful to see. Countless times of telling him...
    lovetodraw19 lovetodraw19 18-21, F Feb 2

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    Finding Humor In the Horror

    My only living grandparent is in a local nursing home, near most of her family. She is 90+ years old, and now suffers dementia. For family and friends this diagnosis is hard to deal with on visits. Some days she's in 2008 with us, but most days she's in another time line. I've...
    emerald emerald 36-40, F 4 Responses Sep 8, 2008

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    A Promise Fulfilled

    Mom suffered a head injury which resulted in accelerated dementia. I left my business in CA and moved to FL to be her caregiver. From the day I told her she was going to die until she died in her sleep, I cared for her and tried to make her life worth living. All she asked was...
    sunnyvmx sunnyvmx 61-65 Oct 22, 2010

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    Big crisis today. I found a local support group

    for caregivers of patients with dementia / Alzheimer's. While at their meeting, I get frantic call from my sister that my dad has called HIS sister and is telling her that MY sister won't feed him (actually, he refuses food). Dad's sister threatened to call State Police, so I...
    Looking4AnswrsinNJ Looking4AnswrsinNJ 56-60, M 1 Response May 2

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    Don'T Know If I Can Handle This.....

    My mom is 70, she was always very strong and independent. She was the one always working outside, no matter how hot it was she would be outside working. My dad passed away 13 years ago, my husband passed 2 years ago. So right now I'm trying to deal with some hard situations...
    honeysuckle23 honeysuckle23 46-50, F Jun 14, 2013

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    My grandmother is ninety,

    and thinks she is three. She freaks at the look of her own hands when she is conscienous enough to notice anything. Otherwise she's is almost always scared, or moaning with pain. No one can comfort her, take care of her, or make her eat. Because the only person she'd recognize...
    raylynn24 raylynn24 22-25, F Nov 20, 2014

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    Dementia

    I have two relatives who suffer from dementia and also work with other people who have dementia, i enjoy it, there are some priceless moments which inject a lot of humour into mine and their lives. 
    AtomicWater AtomicWater 41-45, F May 21, 2010

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    My dad is 80 and he has been going downhill

    since 2013 when he had a small stroke during surgery to repair an abdominal aortic aneurysm. The slide seems to be moving faster lately, he has developed all kinds of conspiracy theories and fears hospital because of "death squads" who will "put him down" if he has to go in. I'm...
    Looking4AnswrsinNJ Looking4AnswrsinNJ 56-60, M May 1

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    My grandad's getting a lot worse lately,

    I have to help him with pretty much everything now. On a few occassions I've sat down with him when he's feeling low and left out of the family. I try to reassure him everytime that we're here for him and things will be okay. It seriously breaks my heart seeing him like it. I...
    lovetodraw19 lovetodraw19 18-21, F May 18

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    Well, here's the next installment.

    Last night my Dad almost had a freakout because I did not put the window A/C units in yet. (It's May 5, for crying out loud) We've had a day or 2 of higher than normal temps here in NJ, so I had to go over at 8:30 PM and drag out an A/C unit and put it in, they couldn't open the...
    Looking4AnswrsinNJ Looking4AnswrsinNJ 56-60, M 1 Response May 5

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    Papa

    My papa started with a form od dementia that only occured at night. He would be fine during the day, but after the sun went down, he would see things. He would see something on tv and tell you he saw it happen in the frint yard. He made my grandma cover all the mirrors in the...
    jeliebeenz jeliebeenz 18-21, F 1 Response May 28, 2010

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    Had

    My grandmother who passed away almost a year ago. It was really depressing and I actually couldn't stand visting her in the end becuase she wasn't my grandmother anymore. I felt horrible for it but I just couldn't do it.I had my own mental issues to deal with and I really didn't...
    Faraklin Faraklin 36-40, F 3 Responses May 28, 2010

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    I Recently Lost My Relative

    My dad was diagnosed a few years ago and had to be put in a nursing home.  He finally succumbed to it the day after Thanksgiving.
    Purehope Purehope 41-45, F Dec 15, 2009

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    I'm estranged from my family,

    so the only family I really have is my wife and her mother. My father in law died 3 years ago, and for some prior to that my wife and her dad were talking about their concerns for her mum, who had already been showing signs of dementia for a number of years prior. It was...
    BJH72 BJH72 41-45, M Jul 29, 2014

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    I Lost My Daughter

    i can't  talk about it still hurts to much she was the reason for my excistance . i go through verry sad timesevery day of my live. the depresion gets so bad that i would do the wrong thing and i think about it every day. then i think and look at my lovely wife of 25 years and...
    depressmode depressmode 51-55, M 1 Response Apr 10, 2011

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    my mom does its very hard on us to watch her

    and I've distanced myself anticipatory grief and my family hates me
    skd827 skd827 41-45, F Dec 1, 2014

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    Dad Had Dementia At 45

    My dad had Vascular dementia when he was 45 as a result of a stroke. the sad thing was, it was a massive blur to me as i was only 8 years old when things started to change. i feel terrible to this day that i couldnt understand it or be part of caring for him. My mom decided he...
    doodle1990 doodle1990 18-21, F Jul 4, 2011

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    My grandad has vascular dementia,

    we didn't really notice this till after my grandma passed away, it was a big onset for his dementia. I wouldn't say he is really bad compared to what things could get like but I still get upset about how it is effecting him. He sometimes struggles to say sentences, forgets names...
    lovetodraw19 lovetodraw19 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 28, 2014

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    Time Won’t Ever Turn Back

    The sky seems to be dark purple as I look at it through the windows of my grandma’s former room. I’ve been sitting here for so long now, it could’ve been hours. No, I gave you the wrong image, the sky is dark blue, like her favorite color, and it fades into many tones until...
    kacelajira kacelajira 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 25, 2012

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    Bad Memories

    I had something happen when I was 8. I promptly pushed it out of my mind. 25 years later something jogged my memory. I was a bit shocked at the memory as well as the fact that I was able to forget it at all. But being an adult, I understood what happened and I didn't have any bad...
    obleena1963 obleena1963 46-50, F Jan 16, 2011

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    My 65 Year Old Step Dad...

    My mom and Step dad are both High School Teachers they have been married 10 years and 3 years ago my then 59 year old step dad was diagnosed with mild dementia. He had to stop working and just stayed home all day while my mom continues working, she is only 55. I feel sooo sad and...
    mdg2484 mdg2484 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 10, 2011

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    My Mum Has Dementia

    My mum was diagnosed in November last year....and is deteriorating faster than l thought she would.I spose l'm still trying to get my head around it and develop my understanding and knowledge about it so that it can help me cope with the changes that are hapenning within my mums...
    LeeLass LeeLass 46-50, F 3 Responses Apr 26, 2012

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    Where Did She Go?

    Some days mom is lucid, bright, funny and full of energy.  Then like a light being turned off, she is somewhere else.  My heart is so sad, and yet grateful for every moment of every day that I share with her when she is 'herself.'  Mom is 80 and lives with me. ...
    dependable dependable 56-60 1 Response Jul 8, 2009

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