I Have a Selfish Husband

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    I love my husband but I think I'm starting not

    to care any more. We were college sweethearts. Been together 11 years married for 6. We have two daughters, 6 and 2. For the most part, he's wonderful. He's a devoted dad and works very hard to take care of us. But our relationship has had a series of lows, many of which have...
    Lytebrite Lytebrite
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2014

    I have a lot of pent up resentment.

    Ignored birthdays, Christmas, etc. I had one birthday where I was pregnant with our second. Husband asked me what I wanted and since I knew financially we couldn't do much, I said a birthday cake from Walmart would be fine. Day of birthday, I ended up going to get the cake that...
    Kasm64 Kasm64
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 27

    My Loss, His Gain....

    My husband was unemployed for 2 years. During this time I worked 3 jobs. I barely made ends meet. He didn't do much to help except spend money on drinking and bowling. My credit fell, I don't think I will ever be able to buy anything again. My car was almost re-poed. I got...
    turninnburnin3 turninnburnin3
    26-30
    2 Responses Sep 13, 2012

    Can't Stay, Can't Go

    I have been with my husband for a little over 8 years now and I am at a breaking point. Lately living with him has become such a struggle because of his selfish ways.  We both work full time however he will not help with the children or any of the household duties.  Whenever he...
    tranquilmoments77 tranquilmoments77
    31-35
    4 Responses Apr 21, 2012

    Sometimes I Wanna Run Away!

    My husband was originally my high school sweetheart.  We've been together for 13 years, married for 7.  I'm 29 and he's 31, we have 4 kids ages 6, 4, 2 and 1.  I stay home and he works a very demanding job that has a rotating 7 day schedule with 2 days off in between which...
    LonelyGirlNJ82 LonelyGirlNJ82
    26-30
    7 Responses Jun 5, 2011

    My Husband Wants To Spend Money On Himself But Not Pay The Bills.

    So we have 3 kids and we both have jobs. We live in a small apartment so the bills shouldn't be that much but he has a Harley , a new smart phone, dish t.v. , Xbox, flat screen , rhapsody account, netflix account, a massage membership , the list goes on..... It's not that I don't...
    littleontheinside littleontheinside
    31-35
    4 Responses Aug 9, 2012

    He Doesn't Care!

    I don't even know where to begin, I've tried talking to him about these things but nothing changes and he just takes it so personal that he gets upset and doesn't listen. I am 16 1/2 weeks pregnant. I feel like I can't get help from him at all. He won't clean house he won't even...
    Distressedwife33 Distressedwife33
    22-25
    1 Response Nov 11, 2012

    Selfish Husband Is Doing Me A Favor And Divorcing Me

    I am older than many of you here, but here is my story. My husband has always been a good provider, but a workaholic. I worked for about 17 years of our 38 year marriage until we had children. I believed that with his long hours and dedication to his job, I  would be helping him...
    PrincessTadpole51 PrincessTadpole51
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Sep 23, 2011

    So Do I

    He can be down rite nasty too at times. We have 2 adult girls and 1 teenage boy. He expresses his love and affection for our 2nd born but not our first born cos hes always been jealous of her since the day she was born (its a long story) and as for our son hes still...
    Snowflake09 Snowflake09
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2009

    Why Have I Let It Get To This Point?

    Wow!  My husband forgot my birthday AGAIN.  Only the 4th time in the 8 we have shared together.  This time I really didn't see it coming.  Quite the contary.  Two days before my birthday I pointed to a store and told him that's where I'd like my gift to...
    robahw robahw
    41-45
    3 Responses Sep 12, 2010

    Here's the short story.

    Been married almost 9 years. Have to kids with third on the way. Husband went to training for 3 weeks and blew through the budget we agreed he can spend on frivolous things. I also asked him not to use his checking account and put on credit card because I needed to pay bills. He...
    Kasm64 Kasm64
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 27

    So over the past few months I have noticed a

    huge change in my husband. He has always been selfish but even more so as of lately. He calls me from a parking lot last week. Very emotional and wanting to talk. For weeks he wouldn't say a word to me. Shut me out and avoided all contact with me. I went out with him to talk...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Jul 20, 2015

    Don't Know What To Do Anymore

    I've been with my husband for six and a half years and I seriously am at a loss at what to do.  He is extremely selfish and after many times of him telling me things will be different they're not.  He never helps out around the house unless I ask him, even though I ...
    hadenough613 hadenough613
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 11, 2009

    Today he finally told our kids he is leaving.

    And he's doing it to find himself. He admitted he is selfish but he said he needs to do this. His mind is made up. Even knowing how broken hearted our kids are he doesn't care. I thought he was leaving to make me happy. But its not about my happiness he just can't handle the...
    WastedShadedDaylight WastedShadedDaylight
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    Wow this has been a frigging long day already!

    ! I'm doing the best I can to stay busy and positive!! My patience. Is wearing very thin!! I love him but enough already!!!
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 6

    Mother's Son

    I have been married for 6 years and living with my in laws as my husband is the only child. We have 2 kids which is taken cared by my mum in law while we both go for work. She is a nice lady, but sometimes she can be so hurting and bossy. She never listens to other and feels...
    schatri14 schatri14
    31-35
    1 Response Sep 26, 2012

    I Have A Selfish Husband And I'm Over It.

    I've been with this man for almost 14 years.  I've been through some ****** circumstances and still remain with him.  I've raised his children from a previous marriage and had to deal with their psycho mom. And we have had 3 kids together.  We own our own business, which I...
    sickntired77 sickntired77
    36-40
    2 Responses Jan 1, 2012
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