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I Have a Sibling Who Is Transgender

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    My Brother Is Transgender

    I use the word "him" because he has not yet made a transition, not because I haven't accepted this. Also I'm a boy, 15 years old. When my older brother was in high school, he was rather antisocial and uncommunicative inside and outside the house. Inside the house, he rarely left...
    negridt negridt 13-15, M 7 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    My big sister inspires me.

    She's the most courageous person I know. She's beautiful and strong and she has a heart of pure gold. Her smile is infectuous. It lights up the room, and if you knew her you couldn't help but love her. She's a bright, shining soul. There are dark days too. Sometimes she loses...
    smarmybrat smarmybrat 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 5

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    Brother Becoming Sister

    I just found this site when I was trying to learn a little bit about transgenders and thought it might be helpful, I've learned recently that my brother wants to become my sister. I'm so confused though, because outwardly I have never seen any signs. I'm older than my brother...
    confusedandtrying17 confusedandtrying17 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    I'm Just A Kid.

    I'm only 13. My big sister is 15. She has always been a tomboy. She cut off her hair that I have always been jealous of into a pixie cut. She wears clothes from the men's section. She wears boxers. She doesn't shave her legs. Etc. My parents and I just thought she was a tomboy...
    striderbemine striderbemine 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    I have done everything

    and more and he still wants to die. When my brother came out as FTM you couldn't ask for a more supportive family. My mother and I bought him a new wardrobe, we got his hair cut. I almost immediately got used to calling him by his chosen name and haven't made a mistake in months...
    imitosis imitosis 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 4

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    My Sister's Soon To Be My Brother

    About a year and a half ago, my sister told me she might be bisexual. I reacted calmly, telling her that I didn't care what gender she was. Then about six months ago, she started wearing more boyish clothing and cut her hair short. I just thought it was a phase of her...
    girlonfire7 girlonfire7 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    I Don't Agree

    My brother came out to me as transgender. I love him and I will stand by him whatever he decides but I do not morally believe in getting the sex change operation (srs). I first was fully supportive of him but I couldn't stop thinking about it. It started affecting my mood and I...
    runningawayfrommyproblems runningawayfrommyproblems 18-21 Nov 13, 2012

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother

    The most difficult thing is that as a woman, my sibling had children.  He has told me he felt like a boy his whole life, but married and had children because he thought that's what he was 'supposed' to do....to satisfy other people in the family.  I wish he had been honest...
    myebrotherskeeper myebrotherskeeper 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    My younger sister was born male however she was

    never comfortable as a male. When she was very young she acted in a very female manner when she went to school was forced to act male. It was eating here up and I had no idea what the issue was. i caught here wearing my panties and that's when it all came out. I was relieved to...
    alisonlefem alisonlefem 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    I found out my brother (biologically) is my

    sister around a year and a half ago. My sister didn't tell me herself because she thought i would reject her, so she got her girlfriend to tell me. I was brought up in a christian home, i didn't know what it meant to be transgender. It was one of the biggest shocks I've ever...
    whitehaven97 whitehaven97 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 6

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    I Hope That This May Help Others Who May Be Struggling...

    I love my sister... I have a story about the struggle I am going through trying to accept who she is becoming but already writing it once on my blog took everything out of me. I'll leave you with the blog url. I hope that this story can help someone else who may be having hard...
    jschnell0531 jschnell0531 26-30, F Aug 13, 2011

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    My Brother Is My Sister

    My brother Michael was born when I was four years old. I was super happy to have a brother because I knew he would be able to help our dad with manly things. But as time went by at thought went away. Michael didn't really act like a boy he acted like a girl. He would put on...
    beautyisjustaword beautyisjustaword 16-17, F 3 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    I am 17 years old and my brother--well I should

    say sister is 20. My brother was always different. He'd play with my pink blanket, play dress up with me, and despise going swimming because he'd have to take off his top. I knew he was different but I just thought he was gay. When I found out he was transgender it didn't even...
    ntomfohrde ntomfohrde 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 28

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    It was not long ago that i found out my brother

    is now going through the transgender process. We live in different states and the last time i saw him was when he was still male. Im nervous. Anyone else going or have gone through this.
    aims1991 aims1991 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Today my brother told my dad

    that he’s transgender and that he has begun transitioning to a girl. Although this was accidentally slipped to me a couple of months ago by a friend of my sibling’s, I avoided mentally acknowledging it until I was officially clued in a week ago. My lack of proper pronouns...
    Jessa3 Jessa3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 29

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    Sister To A Brother

    My older sister came out to my younger sister, my mother and I individually a couple of years ago as gay. We have all been completely supportive and adore her girlfriend, who is very nice and sweet, and fun to have around. For a while I guess I thought that's all it would be, but...
    lostinapril lostinapril 18-21, F 2 Responses May 11, 2012

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    The Transition From Brother To Sister.

    Today I got a text from my little brother ( he is 20 i am 23) saying that he needed to tell me something. My immediate thought was drugs. He has been known to come home high all the time and has confided in me other drugs he has experimented with. So naturally, I thought he got...
    Lostandconfused24 Lostandconfused24 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2013

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    My Sister Became My Brother

    I considered myself open-minded and accepting of other people's choices in life. I had three siblings - two brothers and a sister. One of my brothers was gay, and my sister was a lesbian. When I was in my late teens and early adulthood, I had a lot of exposure to gay culture, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother

    I am happy that I stumbled on this website, I read many stories and found myself feeling a sense of comfort knowing I don't seem to be alone. It has almost been a year since I learned my sister was not to become my brother. At first the new came and I thought I am so glad that...
    HandyWombat HandyWombat 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2013

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    My Brother Just Told Me He Is Transgender

    Last night my brother asked me if we could talk. This took me off guard because my brother never really reaches out this way. We are closer to each other than to anyone else in our family but we still don't have in depth conversations. This worried me especially because he couldn...
    lunarice09 lunarice09 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    Alone

    I am the very supportive sister of my tans brother shane. He has been out for a few years now and has already gone through some procedures, all of which I have been there for him. The problem is now that things have calmed down for him, in the past year they have been horrible...
    zizza364 zizza364 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    Factoring In Transgender News And Learning Of White Privilege: It's A Hell Of A World

    I'm still crying as I write this post. It's not in a disappointing way, or an angry way (though if it out of anger it's only because I hate how much I have to be afraid for my family because of our society), however I'm sorry about this rambling, I just cannot seem to think...
    luminak luminak 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    This Will Shatter My Family

    My brother just told me he's transgender and he's going to start transitioning and eventually surgery. I told him not to tell my parents until he is fully independent of them because they are strict catholics and very conservative (we are not allowed to date until after we finish...
    runningawayfrommyproblems runningawayfrommyproblems 18-21 2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    New Brother?

    I have a sister who is 18 and 2 years older than me. She calmly told me she was transgender and I at first was supportive but as it progressed I have become very hostile towards her. We have only had the one conversation about it, but almost every night I hear her discuss her...
    Unhappysister Unhappysister 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    Surreal....hoping For Support.

    Last Wednesday my brother confided to me that he is going to begin the process of transitioning to a female. He said that he's felt "off" ever since he could remember and this is what he has to do to be happy. I love my brother (sister?) and I'm 100% supportive of him - I truly...
    alycat75 alycat75 36-40 1 Response Dec 3, 2011

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    Ok so I came across this site

    when I was searching the internet for people in a similar situation to me... 3 months ago my sister msgd me to tell me that she now feels that she is a man and has been to the doctors for hormone injections and counselling and will eventually have top surgery and have a name...
    Puppyprint Puppyprint 26-30, F Apr 21

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    Me And My Trans Brother

    I am the youngest of four of a traditional nigerian family born and bred in london and my eldest brother who's 10 years older then me is transgendered. He was always a tom boy growing up and since I was 6 from the time I got to know he wanted to go from FTM, it was never a...
    sundayschild82 sundayschild82 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    My New Information

    I've known for many years my sister was gay, I was the first person she came out too, which I always found odd. We got along, but we weren't close. She was always closer to my older brother. But I accepted her, she's my family and I just want her to be happy. Only two people have...
    unrealreality2010 unrealreality2010 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2012

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    My Sister Wants To Be A Man.

    but heres the kicker.... we're twins. we are 3 min apart. in 8th grade she came out as a lesbian. i am a very open minded, and had no proble with her being gay. but for some reason im having trouble coming to terms with this. i know its because our relationship has always been me...
    bedifferent123 bedifferent123 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2010

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother.

    My town is pretty small, so anyone knows everyone. In the high school, someone could be lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and everybody (except for a select few) would be supportive about it. I've been okay with LGBT for years, supporting anyone that wanted to come out. More power to...
    Machtiron Machtiron 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2010

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    I Have A Trans Sister

     Hello, My name is Ali and I am 28.  I live in San Francisco.  My sister (MtF) transitioned about seven years ago. While I now totally embrace her and the transgender community, for years I struggled internally and often alone. My sister went through a period of...
    alihoward alihoward 26-30 17 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    Brother, You Want To Become My Sister?

    Wow. It hasn't even been a year since my brother told me he was transgender, and it's already been harder than I have ever imagined. Last Thanksgiving my brother sent me a text saying he had something to tell me, but that I would have to bring it up to him because he was too...
    Lovejamie Lovejamie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    i used to be a mother, a daughter, a sister, who am i now? i struggle everyday to get through the day. my family does not accept me, invite me. holidays are so hard to get thru...
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    I am an adult, and my parents are married. They always will be until they die. But it doesn't mean they don't actively hate each other. They don't fight anymore, too old for...
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    I hate living in my house..all my mom does is yell at me and criticize me. All I do at my house is clean, then usually my mom and my younger brother get into a fight and I try to...
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    Not sure if hate is the wiord, but since they'll divorced now it's something along those lines.
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    extant1 extant1 46-50, M 4 Responses Dec 13

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    It's hard for me to show the real me around everyone except certain people. I know I hide behind a '***** facade' so that I won't be judged but I'm getting tired of it, I wish we...
    Living2Heights Living2Heights 16-17, F Dec 18

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    no one knows me 100% I would love to trust others enough to share myself but I just can't.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 1 Response Dec 19

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    i am a *****.....my friends luv me a lot.... am not trying to understand them or being funny with them.....Am so afraid that if I lose my friendship bcoz of my own faults.... bcoz...
    polu26 polu26 18-21, F Dec 19

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    Only a few know what kind of a person I truly am. Rest of them are the people I socialise with.
    Tawheed1994 Tawheed1994 18-21, M 1 Response a week ago

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    One common theme most of us face or have faced is how we approach our lives as cross dressers or transgender girls with wives who understandingly have a huge stake in our actions...
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    My dad passed away in April on the 7th. We had to take him off of life support the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my entire life. I felt like he was the only person in...
    ajm1993 ajm1993 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    sure no need of tons of friend who wl just stress u up, i better have one who will always be there for me when everybody has left someone who i can irritate and still smile back...
    sly15 sly15 22-25, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Just this weekend I was out with colleagues at a very busy pub and as usual found it very difficult to follow the conversation. I have always struggled when in noisy environments...
    ProfessorDrew ProfessorDrew 51-55, M 6 days ago

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