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I Have a Sibling Who Is Transgender

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    Brother Becoming Sister

    I just found this site when I was trying to learn a little bit about transgenders and thought it might be helpful, I've learned recently that my brother wants to become my sister. I'm so confused though, because outwardly I have never seen any signs. I'm older than my brother...
    confusedandtrying17 confusedandtrying17 26-30, F 3 Responses Sep 15, 2012

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    My Sister Became My Brother

    I considered myself open-minded and accepting of other people's choices in life. I had three siblings - two brothers and a sister. One of my brothers was gay, and my sister was a lesbian. When I was in my late teens and early adulthood, I had a lot of exposure to gay culture, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 16 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother.

    My town is pretty small, so anyone knows everyone. In the high school, someone could be lesbian, gay, or bisexual, and everybody (except for a select few) would be supportive about it. I've been okay with LGBT for years, supporting anyone that wanted to come out. More power to...
    Machtiron Machtiron 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2010

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    I'm Just A Kid.

    I'm only 13. My big sister is 15. She has always been a tomboy. She cut off her hair that I have always been jealous of into a pixie cut. She wears clothes from the men's section. She wears boxers. She doesn't shave her legs. Etc. My parents and I just thought she was a tomboy...
    striderbemine striderbemine 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 24, 2013

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    Me And My Trans Brother

    I am the youngest of four of a traditional nigerian family born and bred in london and my eldest brother who's 10 years older then me is transgendered. He was always a tom boy growing up and since I was 6 from the time I got to know he wanted to go from FTM, it was never a...
    sundayschild82 sundayschild82 31-35, M Nov 27, 2013

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    I am 17 years old and my brother--well I should

    say sister is 20. My brother was always different. He'd play with my pink blanket, play dress up with me, and despise going swimming because he'd have to take off his top. I knew he was different but I just thought he was gay. When I found out he was transgender it didn't even...
    ntomfohrde ntomfohrde 16-17, F 1 Response Feb 28

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    Alone

    I am the very supportive sister of my tans brother shane. He has been out for a few years now and has already gone through some procedures, all of which I have been there for him. The problem is now that things have calmed down for him, in the past year they have been horrible...
    zizza364 zizza364 16-17, F 6 Responses Oct 1, 2012

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    It was not long ago that i found out my brother

    is now going through the transgender process. We live in different states and the last time i saw him was when he was still male. Im nervous. Anyone else going or have gone through this.
    aims1991 aims1991 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    New Brother?

    I have a sister who is 18 and 2 years older than me. She calmly told me she was transgender and I at first was supportive but as it progressed I have become very hostile towards her. We have only had the one conversation about it, but almost every night I hear her discuss her...
    Unhappysister Unhappysister 16-17, F 6 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    The Transition From Brother To Sister.

    Today I got a text from my little brother ( he is 20 i am 23) saying that he needed to tell me something. My immediate thought was drugs. He has been known to come home high all the time and has confided in me other drugs he has experimented with. So naturally, I thought he got...
    Lostandconfused24 Lostandconfused24 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 23, 2013

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    Interesting Group

    I'm interested in reading some of these stories here! I came out to my brother about being transgendered, to which he was totally supportive and accepting, but I've always wondered, what was that like for him? Probably not THAT big of a shocker, but still...
    Meko84 Meko84 26-30, T 2 Responses Oct 19, 2011

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    My Sister Wants To Be A Man.

    but heres the kicker.... we're twins. we are 3 min apart. in 8th grade she came out as a lesbian. i am a very open minded, and had no proble with her being gay. but for some reason im having trouble coming to terms with this. i know its because our relationship has always been me...
    bedifferent123 bedifferent123 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 20, 2010

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    Factoring In Transgender News And Learning Of White Privilege: It's A Hell Of A World

    I'm still crying as I write this post. It's not in a disappointing way, or an angry way (though if it out of anger it's only because I hate how much I have to be afraid for my family because of our society), however I'm sorry about this rambling, I just cannot seem to think...
    luminak luminak 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 29, 2013

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    Ok so I came across this site

    when I was searching the internet for people in a similar situation to me... 3 months ago my sister msgd me to tell me that she now feels that she is a man and has been to the doctors for hormone injections and counselling and will eventually have top surgery and have a name...
    Puppyprint Puppyprint 26-30, F Apr 21

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    My younger sister was born male however she was

    never comfortable as a male. When she was very young she acted in a very female manner when she went to school was forced to act male. It was eating here up and I had no idea what the issue was. i caught here wearing my panties and that's when it all came out. I was relieved to...
    alisonlefem alisonlefem 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    Surreal....hoping For Support.

    Last Wednesday my brother confided to me that he is going to begin the process of transitioning to a female. He said that he's felt "off" ever since he could remember and this is what he has to do to be happy. I love my brother (sister?) and I'm 100% supportive of him - I truly...
    alycat75 alycat75 36-40 2 Responses Dec 3, 2011

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    I Hope That This May Help Others Who May Be Struggling...

    I love my sister... I have a story about the struggle I am going through trying to accept who she is becoming but already writing it once on my blog took everything out of me. I'll leave you with the blog url. I hope that this story can help someone else who may be having hard...
    jschnell0531 jschnell0531 26-30, F Aug 13, 2011

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    My Brother Just Told Me He Is Transgender

    Last night my brother asked me if we could talk. This took me off guard because my brother never really reaches out this way. We are closer to each other than to anyone else in our family but we still don't have in depth conversations. This worried me especially because he couldn...
    lunarice09 lunarice09 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 11, 2013

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    I Have A Trans Sister

     Hello, My name is Ali and I am 28.  I live in San Francisco.  My sister (MtF) transitioned about seven years ago. While I now totally embrace her and the transgender community, for years I struggled internally and often alone. My sister went through a period of...
    alihoward alihoward 26-30 16 Responses Nov 10, 2009

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    My Brother Is My Sister

    My brother Michael was born when I was four years old. I was super happy to have a brother because I knew he would be able to help our dad with manly things. But as time went by at thought went away. Michael didn't really act like a boy he acted like a girl. He would put on...
    beautyisjustaword beautyisjustaword 16-17, F 4 Responses Jun 23, 2013

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    My New Information

    I've known for many years my sister was gay, I was the first person she came out too, which I always found odd. We got along, but we weren't close. She was always closer to my older brother. But I accepted her, she's my family and I just want her to be happy. Only two people have...
    unrealreality2010 unrealreality2010 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 9, 2012

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    This Will Shatter My Family

    My brother just told me he's transgender and he's going to start transitioning and eventually surgery. I told him not to tell my parents until he is fully independent of them because they are strict catholics and very conservative (we are not allowed to date until after we finish...
    runningawayfrommyproblems runningawayfrommyproblems 18-21 2 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    I Don't Agree

    My brother came out to me as transgender. I love him and I will stand by him whatever he decides but I do not morally believe in getting the sex change operation (srs). I first was fully supportive of him but I couldn't stop thinking about it. It started affecting my mood and I...
    runningawayfrommyproblems runningawayfrommyproblems 18-21 Nov 13, 2012

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother

    I am happy that I stumbled on this website, I read many stories and found myself feeling a sense of comfort knowing I don't seem to be alone. It has almost been a year since I learned my sister was not to become my brother. At first the new came and I thought I am so glad that...
    HandyWombat HandyWombat 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 20, 2013

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    Brother, You Want To Become My Sister?

    Wow. It hasn't even been a year since my brother told me he was transgender, and it's already been harder than I have ever imagined. Last Thanksgiving my brother sent me a text saying he had something to tell me, but that I would have to bring it up to him because he was too...
    Lovejamie Lovejamie 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    Sister To A Brother

    My older sister came out to my younger sister, my mother and I individually a couple of years ago as gay. We have all been completely supportive and adore her girlfriend, who is very nice and sweet, and fun to have around. For a while I guess I thought that's all it would be, but...
    lostinapril lostinapril 18-21, F 2 Responses May 11, 2012

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    My Sister Is Now My Brother

    The most difficult thing is that as a woman, my sibling had children.  He has told me he felt like a boy his whole life, but married and had children because he thought that's what he was 'supposed' to do....to satisfy other people in the family.  I wish he had been honest...
    myebrotherskeeper myebrotherskeeper 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 30, 2011

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    About four years ago my brother told me he

    wanted to be female. We have never been really close because he is several years older than me and we have never really tried to hang out. Now , the recent year, as I have become older I have felt a need to get to know my sister. But when I am around her I cannot feel like...
    lilymonet lilymonet 18-21, F Aug 24

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    My Brother Is Transgender

    I use the word "him" because he has not yet made a transition, not because I haven't accepted this. Also I'm a boy, 15 years old. When my older brother was in high school, he was rather antisocial and uncommunicative inside and outside the house. Inside the house, he rarely left...
    negridt negridt 13-15, M 6 Responses Jan 4, 2013

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    My Sister's Soon To Be My Brother

    About a year and a half ago, my sister told me she might be bisexual. I reacted calmly, telling her that I didn't care what gender she was. Then about six months ago, she started wearing more boyish clothing and cut her hair short. I just thought it was a phase of her...
    girlonfire7 girlonfire7 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 14, 2012

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    I have done everything

    and more and he still wants to die. When my brother came out as FTM you couldn't ask for a more supportive family. My mother and I bought him a new wardrobe, we got his hair cut. I almost immediately got used to calling him by his chosen name and haven't made a mistake in months...
    imitosis imitosis 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 4

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    Related Experiences

    I have a sister who is around my age..we were born a year apart. I'm older than her. She's 16. She is really the only person I feel comfortable talking to. I have a younger brother...
    bellsmarrie bellsmarrie 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have a step-brother. As children our parents were pretty strict so we didn't really get a chance to make other friends. We became kind of close and he is an awesome guy! The only...
    Thatonegirl53 Thatonegirl53 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 2

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    I had this same experience twice. J already wrote about one of them, when I was 17, but I also had this experience when I was 14. My twin sister was always out at her friends...
    Carlsoncarly Carlsoncarly 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 25

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    Mike is his name. I participated in a 1/2 iron man this past weekend. For those of you who do not know what that is, here is the scripted version. Is a race consistent of three...
    breathingeasy breathingeasy 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 26

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    The most frustrating thing ever is trying to explain or express what you're going through to someone whose never been through it, they always seem to belittle the situation or make...
    Dauntlesssmile Dauntlesssmile 18-21, F Aug 30

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    My father accepts me for my sexuality. He has since the start more over the fact he was aware from tiny hints since I was young.. I understand why he wants me a bit cautious...
    romeo27 romeo27 13-15, M 5 days ago

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    Anyone ever held hands with their brothers or sisters?
    COD101 COD101 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 9

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    I was 17, and my twin sister was at a volleyball camp. Normally my parents are ok leaving me with my twin sister and my at the time 12 and 8 year old sister, but without her, they...
    Carlsoncarly Carlsoncarly 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 21

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    We were really close a while back but now it seems like we're just drifting away. Well. It seems like I'm drifting away from them. I hate being alone so knowing this makes me...
    musicislifeandlove musicislifeandlove 13-15, F Aug 23

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    I see people having nice relations with their siblings. They have fun. They talk to each other. They ask each other questions about things in life. They may struggle sometimes but...
    FullTimeAloneBoy FullTimeAloneBoy 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 25

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    i took my youngest daughter to the doctor and before she could be treated i had to answer question after question! Are you her biological mother? are you married? is your husband...
    StillWaterRunsDeep StillWaterRunsDeep 31-35 Aug 18

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    I grew up in a dysfunctional family and also wanted the close knit bonds I saw on the Walton's, the Brady Bunch, or Partridge family so I thought I could just create it but found...
    lllewyd lllewyd 56-60, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I have two moms. I was made in a lab with a ***** donor, and I also have younger triplet siblings, who were made with the same ***** donor. As a child, I didn't know how different...
    livyroro livyroro 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 20

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    He's about 25 years older than I am but he's attractive. I have thought he is hot since I was a kid - at about 7 or 8 when I had a crush on him - but it hasn't gone away over the...
    maddiemoonlight maddiemoonlight 16-17, F Aug 30

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    "I tried to kill the pain, but only bled more, so much more." - Evanescence, Tourniquet. So, been offline for a while. Life's been quite. Not much drama. I got five weeks of peace...
    Angel1509 Angel1509 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 1

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    Dear ----, I am writing to express my confused feelings about our relationship. I know we have gone through a lot in the past two years and we have both felt like there was no...
    ILoveYouVeryMuch ILoveYouVeryMuch 18-21, F Aug 18

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    I have a friend, who I will call Melissa (not her real name) who has more than her share of challenges in life. I have known her most of my life as we attended the same grade...
    ginger1979 ginger1979 41-45, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I was about 13.. I had this friend who I was hanging out with on a parking garage, he said he would jump if I left him too go home, I had too be home. When I got home he called me...
    TaylorRenee14 TaylorRenee14 16-17, F Aug 30

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    [Somewhere at a Whole Foods] Kanye: Pardon me sir, would you have pumpkin? Whole Foods Drone: (hands Kanye a pumpkin) here. Kanye: No no NO! PUMPKIN! It's a type of SPICE!
    tenente tenente 31-35, M a week ago

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    I'm like Alice from Alice in wonderland, i often day dream and I also identify myself with Ariel from the little mermaid, i know this sounds corny but all Ariel wanted was to have...