I Have a Sibling With Aspergers Syndrome

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    A Brother Who Once Had Aspergers

    My older brother was diagnosed with aspergers when he was around eleven, in one of my parent's many protracted attempts to prevent him from being thrown out of school. However, it was clear to my parents from early on that he was not normal. I, being two years younger, didn't...
    Anonymousco Anonymousco
    22-25, M
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2012

    My older brother is nearly two years older

    than me. However, we are one grade apart. He was diagnosed at age seven, and I have known of his disability for a while. This year I am a freshman girl and he is a sophomore, (in high school) so as usual I have consistently gotten comments about how "weird" he is from...
    horsek313 horsek313
    1 Response Dec 28, 2013

    Living With An As Brother

    I am so glad I came across this blog site because I feel so alone. My little brother is 13, 5 years younger than me and he was diagnosed with AS 2 years ago. Growing up I always just thought my brother was weird and that the way he acted was just a phase and that he would...
    NicoleRisky NicoleRisky
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2012

    This Is Helpful

    As a brother I have been trying to better understand Aspergers and my sister. This brief one page summary really helps. so much of what is written ouot there goes off on tangents and does not explain the issues in one easy to read summary. THREE CORE DEFICITS OF ASPERGER...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2012

    Found Out My Brother Has Aspergers Syndrome

    Just found out today that my younger brother had been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome some time ago. For the past two years I knew there had been something wrong with him. He rarely went out with friends from school and spent most of his time playing video games or reading. I...
    majin1 majin1
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2011

    My Sister Has Aspergers And We Need Advice.

    My sister who is 46 years old. She was diagnosed as a child as autistic but gradually symptoms faded somewhat and we moved to another country and it was really not focused on any more, it was sort of the elephant in the room and my parents tried to have her seen by psycologists...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    5 Responses May 4, 2012

    Does Anyone Understand?

    My brother was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome a few years ago, and I'm sooo glad that I found this site. At first I was excited that we finally had a name for his strange behavior. But my life has not gotten any better. The fights go long into the night, and the screaming...
    Katina107 Katina107
    18-21, F
    5 Responses May 3, 2010

    My Older Brother...

    My older brother has Aspergers Syndrome, Torrettes Syndrome, OCD, and ADHD. He's three and a half yrs older than me. I'm not gonna lie, it was very hard growing up with a brother that was constantly barking in ur face (literally), or screaming at u randomly for no reason...
    LittleFerrett LittleFerrett
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jul 7, 2009

    Research-unique To You!

    Hey! My name is Nicole Weaver-Runyan. I am a graduate student in the psychology department at Georgia Regents University. I am currently collecting data for my master's thesis, which is investigating the relationship between psychological well-being and growing up with a sibling...
    jnweaver8 jnweaver8
    Jun 8, 2013

    My little sister has borderline asperges

    syndrome. With a 5 year age gap between us it's sometimes hard that we are very different. I accept her as a person and take an interest in whatever she's in to. I love her so much and to me she is so beautiful in every way. I used to get angry at everyone that Bullied because...
    kaykay220692 kaykay220692
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 24, 2014

    At 35, have only recently come to the full

    realization and understanding that my older sister had A; and up until then, I was hurt & confused by her inappropriate & sometimes nasty behavior(snide remarks, poor grooming, anti-social behavior)...I fluctuate between guilt, depression & acceptance. I have to now constantly...
    jills24 jills24
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 17, 2014

    Never Diagnosed, Never Admission Of A Problem

    My brother is in his late thirties. I am a year younger. Growing up, he was always different. He was the smartest person in the room from first grade on, including his teachers. But with his brilliance comes a price. The extreme social awkwardness. The "little professor" who...
    Aberdeen999 Aberdeen999
    2 Responses Oct 20, 2013

    Hello Everyone, I am

    so happy to know that I'm not alone. My brother is 33 and I am 29. My brother is not diagnosed but I'm sure he is somewhere on the spectrum. My parents especially my mother is in complete denial and is an enabler. They let him go to home schooling in high school, they never...
    Pennyllane11 Pennyllane11
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    I Need Help To Understand How To Connect With My As Men

    It hit me today. I have a great untapped resource here on EP. Other opinions, and people that have experienced this from the other side. Why have I never asked you all? My question is this: how can I created places of 'connection' between my AS men and myself? They're smart...
    EternallyHopeful EternallyHopeful
    31-35, F
    18 Responses Feb 23, 2011

    A Sister With Aspergers

    I am a 21 year old woman living at home for personal reasons. My 15 year old sister has Aspergers and we share a bedroom. You would think living with her my whole life would make things easier to deal with but shock horror sometimes it makes things worse. Seems lately for every...
    melly2012 melly2012
    Nov 13, 2012

    My brother is younger

    than me, and with Asperger's syndrome. Not high-functioning, but still intense. Everyday my parents find something to berate him about. My brother is also a compulsive liar and a gifted actor, so we don't always know when he's crying for real. My Mom thinks that whenever he...
    Ariomelody42 Ariomelody42
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 5, 2015

    I Am So Embarrassed By Her

    I’m really glad I found a site like this. I always thought that my sister was too different and that no one would ever understand why she was like she was. I have never talked about my sister before to really anyone. She is 3 years older than me, nearly 21 now, but she...
    TypOqueen TypOqueen
    18-21, F
    11 Responses Feb 18, 2010

    A Sibling With Aspergers

    I have an older sibling with Aspergers Syndrome. God knows I love him dearly, he's my brother and I wouldn't be without him, but it's been a tough time growing up with him. I couldn't understand it very well when I was little, I always felt as though my parents favoured him...
    endilwen09 endilwen09
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Oct 13, 2007

    I Have An Older Brother With Asperger

    Well, Nobody has ever told me that he has Aperger but I read the sympthons recently and he has all of them: - flat tone of voice - weird body language - expressionless eyes - not capable of having a normal conversation - he is very aggressive verbally when he gets...
    36-40, F
    16 Responses Feb 5, 2010

    I'm Still Scared Of Provoking My Brother

    I can't believe I finally found some other people who have had to deal with this frustration.  I agree with others who have posted before me; this position can feel so lonely, like no one else really gets it.  My brother's 23 (5 years older than me), and was diagnosed...
    Kizuchan24 Kizuchan24
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2009

    Abusive Older Brother W/ Aspergers

    When I was 10 my brother (two years older than me) started to be abusive towards my family and me. He would terrorize us with threats and anger. He started to act up more in school and having extreme violent outbursts at school witch caused him to be suspended multiple times from...
    Feb 8, 2013

    I have a brother who has aspergers.

    It is very challenging as he had an atypical childhood and was unfortunately abused. I love him so much and wish for him to feel in control of his own life but I hate trying to explain things to him anymore because I would rather him want to talk to me. It hurts because I never...
    zen001 zen001
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 3, 2015

    My brother was never technically diagnosed with

    Asperger's. He's 24 and I'm 20. The experiences I have dealt with growing up as a family are ones that I don't think I could actually tell anyone because it hurts me so much. I would go to bed crying in middle school listening to my brother and my parents scream at each other...
    moo8797 moo8797
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Feb 20, 2014


    Aspergers If I showed you the real me would it still be the same? Explained Ive got a gun, but I've got no aim? No violence or love, just my conscience as a token. That its not my fault my compass is broken. I cant feel what you feel, but why cant I pretend? I know that I...
    ShadowAce7125 ShadowAce7125
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2009

    My Sister

    This is so hard to write. You don't know how much I have longed for a resource like this for people like me. My sister (19 years old) has Aspergers Syndrome and NVLD. Even though I am 2 years younger, I have forever felt like I am the older one, having to take care of her and...
    samulli samulli
    6 Responses May 18, 2009

    My Life

    I have a sister who is only a year younger than me with aspergers.  She was recently diagnosed but growing up I always knew there was something wrong with her.  Whenever we went to school together, I was embarassed to walk with her or be seen with her.  Kids were...
    mildred93 mildred93
    15 Responses Oct 11, 2008

    Life Of Frustration

    My brother is 18, almost 19, I am 15, 16 in a few days. He has aspergers syndrome, and has been diagnosed for most of his life. I never understood what was wrong with him when I was little. My parents have never explained it to me, which probably added to my problems with him...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Nov 17, 2010

    The Invisible Child

    "You have to understand." "He is special." "He needs special treatement." "I'm sorry but I have to help your brother." "You need to act like the mature one and just deal with this." Sound familiar? I am nine years younger than my brother. He was diagnosed with aspergers...
    sampeace sampeace
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Aug 4, 2011

    He's 23 and I'm 20. Abused me

    when I was younger. I have to tip toe around him. I go to college. He doesn't. I really dislike how people seem to think As = being smart, when he's actually lazy and can't hold down a job. A lot of it isn't even As, its just that he has a ****** personality as well. I have to...
    binaryGirl binaryGirl
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 28, 2014

    My Brother Has Aspergers Too.........

    So glad I found this website, I am trying to find other siblings who are that bit older as the care seems to fall on us, seems no one remembers we need support.All my life I have supported my brother one way or another, I call him the second child I never asked for, cos that's...
    gillybean129 gillybean129
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2011

    The Unofficial Diagnosis

    For the holidays my family came together with a few extended members, in which on of the adults - who works with children - spoke about the children she works with. When she described the way they act and behave it described my younger sister to the "T". My parents took the...
    jazzyp17 jazzyp17
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 23, 2013

    My Brother...

    I have an older brother with Aspergers Syndrome. He is now 23 and I am 21. He wasn´t diagnosed until he was 21. I have helped my parents take care of him since I can remember. I´ve always been the "motherly type", always felt like I had to take care of him, or just...
    tooteypie tooteypie
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Dec 4, 2010

    Season Of Hope

    This is a story forwarded to me, and I wanted to share it. > Three years ago, a little boy and his grandmother came to see Santa at > the McAllister Mall in Saint John. The child climbed up on his lap, > holding a picture of a little girl. > > Who is this?" asked Santa...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 12, 2012

    Aspergers And Aggression

    I'm 18 years old and have a 13 year old brother with Aspergers (though he was only officially diagnosed last October, we've known for a long time). My older sisters are 26 and 29, so left home a long time ago (8 and 11 years ago, respectively). My mum has always worked a lot, and...
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

    The Younger Sister

    My oldest brother is turning 25 in June and has been diagnosed with Aspergers Syndrome since he was about 14 or 15. My other brother is turning 23 a few days before and has very severe ADHD. I am the only girl and turning 19 this month and about to finish my first year of...
    FieldMouse15 FieldMouse15
    22-25, F
    Apr 6, 2013

    My Brother

    He was born when I was 7 and my sister was 9. I didn't really notice he was different until he was a few years old, and I was to young then to think anything more then it just being a little weird. It took him almost twice as long to do a few things, one of them being talking. He...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 7, 2012

    My older brother has Aspergers Syndrome.

    I am 23, and he is 25. We currently live together while attending the same college. My entire life he was really different than everyone else, and my parents just thought he was really smart and shy. Being close in age, I was ruthlessly teased while we were growing up because he...
    lindsames lindsames
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    What About Me? Long-term Effects Of Growing Up With An Aspergers Syndrom Sibling. [can Their Symptoms Rub Off On Us?]

    My sister has an unfortunate mix of Aspergers, ADHD, and Bipolar disorder - I imagine these are statistically not uncommon together. Being a good sibling can be quite a burden, and I'm sure others have stories that don't even compare to mine. But now that I'm becoming a young...
    fluteincandenza fluteincandenza
    4 Responses Oct 6, 2012

    I Just Learned My Brother Has Aspergers Syndrome, Today.

    I have known for a while now that something wasn't normal about my brother, and I've tried asking my parents about it but I'd always be interrupted before I could. My brother for years has just fixated on one thing (at the moment its video games) and he won't do anything else...
    Simplicity24 Simplicity24
    1 Response May 8, 2013

    Finding An Answer After All This Time.

    I'm the younger brother of 2 older siblings with Asperger's Syndrome and there was always one brother who's placed himself as the proverbial Black Sheep, and has always made things EXTREMELY difficult for everyone, I'm 26 and he's 30, and we all are living together, and it's...
    Red1263 Red1263
    26-30, M
    Jun 17, 2013

    My sister has aspergers.

    She is 18 and i'm so scared of provoking her. The smallest words get to her, the smallest roll of your eyes. Im her younger sibling and she drives me insane every day because i hate her so much. I know i shouldn't but she ruins my life honestly. She scares me so much and shes so...
    canttellyouuuu canttellyouuuu
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2014

    My Newly Discovered Memory Of His First Meltdown I Remember

    We had just gone out somewhere and were in our driveway at home. As usual Aiden had the back seat of the mini van while I got the middle. Since I get car sick usually I would want out of the van as soon as possible. Not this time. Why? Because mom was sitting in the back Aiden...
    cagedbird3 cagedbird3
    13-15, F
    Mar 28, 2013

    I am so glad I stumbled on this category of

    posts, because reading of other people's similar experiences is somehow helpful to me, although I'm sorry for all of your troubles. I had a brother who was three years older than me who was never formally diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome, but whose behavior was really...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response May 11, 2015

    My brother has been diagnosed with aspergers

    for I don't know how long. But I had suspected it for the longest time. I finally got it out of my dad, during Christmas break. Apparently the whole family knew except me. My brother won't accept he has aspergers. I am 6 years younger than him, and right now we are close in age...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 9, 2016

    Younger Brother With As

    I'm 27 this year and I have a younger brother age 22 with AS. My parents called it Mild Autism.. He goes to a normal school and been bullied by people, speak with monotonous voice, stammers now and then, only have 1 to 3 friends... And whenever he gets bullied, I will always be...
    dustcollector dustcollector
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

    Late Diagnosis

    I have a sister with Aspergers syndrome. The thing is she was never properly diagnosed and was never given help. She is now 31 years old and is on her second marriage, and has a five year old from the first. I was reluctant to believe she had aspergers because my sister is very...
    banana512 banana512
    1 Response Jul 21, 2009

    My older sister has Aspergus

    and it's getting too hard for me to deal with. It's seems like ever since she turned 14 she thinks she has every right to boss me around. Every bit of mums attention and time is always filled with her problems seeming she has anxiety as well. She goes through stages were she is...
    SianWendy SianWendy
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 7, 2014

    I Have 2 Siblings With Aspergers Syndrome.

    I have always been the "middle child". You would think that I got it good,but really I don't. I have an older brother (2 years older) and a little sister (3 years younger) that have aspergers syndrome. I remember when I was little that my brother would say unnecessary things to...
    rosierae rosierae
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 27, 2013

    I have a brother with asperger

    but he was never diagnosed with asperger's. He was with some neurologists through childhood but all the time was the same thing "attention deficit" and never had a permanent school. For me is very hard,everyday I wake up thinking today will be a good or bad day. He demand too...
    emi92 emi92
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 25, 2014

    My Older Brother With Aspergers! (good Positive Thinking!)

    My brother has Aspergers, and he is 14 years old and i'm 13. I have known he had aspergers, for about 2 years now, and yes i was fairly young when i was told, but my parents beileve that I am pretty mature, and didn't want to keep it from me. I think I've always known he was...
    Abbs65299 Abbs65299
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2012

    Asperger's And Disability

    I am concerned about the trend within the Asperger’s community to view Asperger’s Syndrome and Autism (AS) as simply another way of being rather than a disability. This is fuelled by a few cases of individuals who have excelled despite their AS, but this does not represent...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 12, 2012

    Coming To Terms With A Sibling's Aspergers

    My older sister has aspergers and unfortunately I wasn't fully aware of her disorder until a few years ago. My parents never really discussed it with me and for most of my life I just thought she was weird and abnormal. The only reason I now know that she has aspergers is because...
    simonlemon simonlemon
    22-25, F
    Dec 22, 2012
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