I Have a Sibling With Aspergers Syndrome

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 283 People

    It's Always My Fault

    When I was younger, my little sister would do things that would make me angry. She would push my buttons and I would always be the one to get in trouble. "She can't help it!" was always the excuse. To some extent, I understood that, but I couldn't understand why they had to...
    rachy5262 rachy5262
    Sep 19, 2012

    Tip To Help Deal

    It is SO important for you to read not only these stories to make you feel less alone in this struggle, but also those of people with AS. So often I see my brother as this maniac who has no regard for other people. He seems sociopathic, he's a compulsive liar, and is lazy and...
    Siri4 Siri4
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2012

    "crazy" Or "lazy"?

    My little brother was diagnosed with Aspergers just this year at age 17. Before, his issues fell under "severe ADHD" "ODD" etc ., which he was diagnosed with at age six. Growing up was horrible- I had a lot of resentment for my parents and for him because I was stuck with all the...
    Siri4 Siri4
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 15, 2012


    My brother, who is 18 in September, is going away to college in the fall. I will be a sophomore this year. Last year my brother & I were in the same high school. I would be walking in the hallway & people would be laughing or taunting him. He is one of the most amazing kids I...
    aligator3 aligator3
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 14, 2012

    Aspergers And Aggression

    I'm 18 years old and have a 13 year old brother with Aspergers (though he was only officially diagnosed last October, we've known for a long time). My older sisters are 26 and 29, so left home a long time ago (8 and 11 years ago, respectively). My mum has always worked a lot, and...
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 5, 2012

    Angry Brother

    My brother was disgnosed about 9 years ago in his late thirties. As a health proffessional my first instinct was of course! It explained so much about his behaviours growing up. I do not feel it affected me so much growing up (I am 7 years younger than him), but it was probably...
    sistertotrev sistertotrev
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2012

    Byron Katie

    Hi to everybody in this group.It's been awhile since I shared here my story of my AS brother.I just wanted to share with all of you something called The Work: www.thework.comByron Katie is the woman who brought it out. Check out her videos in youtube.She has been such an amazing...
    36-40, F
    Jun 22, 2012

    As And Learning Disabilities?

    Hi :) I have an older brother with Aspergers, he's 27 i'm 25. Things have never been easy as my mother raised us both on her own. He was diagnosed pretty early, he was always seeing some sort of doctor, but I wasn't told until I was 11. I could talk to you about him all day...
    sica211 sica211
    22-25, F
    Jun 21, 2012

    Living With An As Brother

    I am so glad I came across this blog site because I feel so alone. My little brother is 13, 5 years younger than me and he was diagnosed with AS 2 years ago. Growing up I always just thought my brother was weird and that the way he acted was just a phase and that he would...
    NicoleRisky NicoleRisky
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2012

    My Brother Has Aspergers

    i've always known my brother has aspergers, he's 16 and i'm 14. he doesn't go to my high school because he would be bullied there for sure so he goes to a private school (he's really clever). he got bullied the first year of that school but i think it's basically stopped now. he...
    baynt0n baynt0n
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jun 10, 2012

    This Is Helpful

    As a brother I have been trying to better understand Aspergers and my sister. This brief one page summary really helps. so much of what is written ouot there goes off on tangents and does not explain the issues in one easy to read summary. THREE CORE DEFICITS OF ASPERGER...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2012

    My Sister Has Aspergers And We Need Advice.

    My sister who is 46 years old. She was diagnosed as a child as autistic but gradually symptoms faded somewhat and we moved to another country and it was really not focused on any more, it was sort of the elephant in the room and my parents tried to have her seen by psycologists...
    Zenny123 Zenny123
    46-50, M
    5 Responses May 4, 2012

    How To Help My Brother With Aspergers Syndrome?

    My brother just turned 16 years old and he is at that age when teens are rebellious and do not listen to our parents. As many here know about Aspergers my brother is sometimes socially awkward, people can misunderstand him and he seems like a joke to some people. This hurts me...
    aznprincess1992 aznprincess1992
    3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    My Older Brother With Aspergers! (good Positive Thinking!)

    My brother has Aspergers, and he is 14 years old and i'm 13. I have known he had aspergers, for about 2 years now, and yes i was fairly young when i was told, but my parents beileve that I am pretty mature, and didn't want to keep it from me. I think I've always known he was...
    Abbs65299 Abbs65299
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Apr 1, 2012

    My Brother

    He was born when I was 7 and my sister was 9. I didn't really notice he was different until he was a few years old, and I was to young then to think anything more then it just being a little weird. It took him almost twice as long to do a few things, one of them being talking. He...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 7, 2012

    Teen Sibling With Aspergers

    I'm not sure where to begin. About five years ago, one of my younger brothers got in trouble at school when he was about 12. Long story short, he ended up having to have a few home visits with a therapist or social worker. She suggested that he may have aspergers and should be...
    thegreenfairy86 thegreenfairy86
    1 Response Feb 4, 2012

    My Story

    I have a brother two years younger than me with aspergers syndrome. When I started Primary School my brother would act really strange all the time. He'd have a really short temper and he'd be obsessed about one thing madly. Since he was only four we didn't care that he was really...
    Bexgirl Bexgirl
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Jan 23, 2012

    The most scared That I Have Ever Been For My Sister

    When I was 7 my autistic sisters doctor overdosed her on ADHD medication,she acted like a wild animal hiding in the house making strange guttural sounds and talking to herself in nonsense languages scratching up the walls and screaming wildly she had two seizures and was admitted...
    OsageAphrodite OsageAphrodite
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2012

    Both Are At Opposite Ends Of The Spectrum

    ,I have two siblings with aspergers but both are at opposite ends of the spectrum on one end I have a little sister with the mentality of a 13 year old who thinks that the sun rises and falls on my every action we have never been in a fight...ever.we have never had an argument if...
    OsageAphrodite OsageAphrodite
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2012

    Oh Brother

    My brother is a genius. And he has aspergers. He's also a huge ******* about half the time. He made my twin brother and my life absolutely miserable when we were younger, but when he entered high school he became a lot more agreeable. He is 18, going to college in the fall, and I...
    Whoajordan Whoajordan
    1 Response Jan 14, 2012

    Backed Into A Suffocating Corner

    The fact I'm teenager + my aspergers brother + parents who don't know how to deal with either = Teenager vs. the world. My brother is inappropriate and threatens me. I can't stand him because of this and can't stand living in the same house as him. I don't feel safe and...
    sampeace sampeace
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 27, 2011

    Constantly Being Made Fun Of

    My 12 year old ADHD grandson (JR) is almost constantly being made fun of by his 14 year old aspergers brother (TF).  I love them both with all my heart. They are special and unique in their own ways, but sometimes they are like oil and water.  As you know, an ADHD child is...
    ccannatelli ccannatelli
    2 Responses Oct 12, 2011

    Irony! — Fool Or Tool ?

    Irony ? A pet peeve of mine is the [mis]use of the I-bomb. Who out there understands the 'word' irony and its word-brother, ironic ?Nobody does – that's who !! Oh, a number of you out there do indeed understand the 'device' irony, and its alternatively phrased 'device' ironic...
    skibi skibi
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 1, 2011

    Not Sibling But Me

    I don't have any siblings, but I only learned when I was in prison that I AM an Aspie.
    skibi skibi
    46-50, M
    Aug 18, 2011

    My Experience And Seeking Advice :)

    I have read a few of the stories on here after just joining EP and it's quite amazing really.  I too experienced the same kinds of problems written about on here growing up with an aspergers sibling. He is my only sibling and I have no idea what a normal sibling relationship...
    BigSisRach BigSisRach
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Aug 13, 2011

    The Invisible Child

    "You have to understand." "He is special." "He needs special treatement." "I'm sorry but I have to help your brother." "You need to act like the mature one and just deal with this." Sound familiar? I am nine years younger than my brother. He was diagnosed with aspergers...
    sampeace sampeace
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Aug 4, 2011

    The Sibling

    All my life I have been struggling to understand this "Asperger's Syndrome". My family have been trying our hardest for thirteen long years to get a diagnosis for my sister, travelling all over the country to visit hospitals and doctors simply because our post-code means we can't...
    SoFarAway6661 SoFarAway6661
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Aug 2, 2011

    My Sister Has Aspugers

    OK, about a year and a half ago, my sister (15, now 16) was diagnosed with a case of mild aspuger syndrome. It didn't really come to a shock to my parents or me, as we'd always known she was different and special. I have just turned 13 and I find it very hard to understand my...
    NotUnderstandable NotUnderstandable
    13-15, F
    Aug 1, 2011


    My sister was diagnosed with Aspergers a few years ago , and is now living in a home where they help her. As a child we got on ever so well , but now she is in a home i dont very often see her, unless she is visiting my parents house. When we were at school we were very often...
    shotokan shotokan
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jun 12, 2011

    My Brother,

    From downstairs I could hear them arguing again. My mother and my brother argue all the time for many reasons but the main cause is because my brother has Aspergers. So anyway, I fould this website as a result of a google search 'how to cope with an aspergers sibling'. That was...
    FadedMarks FadedMarks
    18-21, F
    4 Responses May 8, 2011


    Hi, I'm Maddy, and my brother had aspergers syndrome. I guess he still has it, but my parents say he "grew out if it." He has meds and everything. When I was little, one of my first memories was of my brother holding his hands up and twirling them when he was upset. I remember...
    penguingal21 penguingal21
    13-15, F
    Apr 30, 2011

    Little Brother

    My little brother has been diagnosed with Asperger's. He is supposed to take medication for it, but rarely does even when he's reminded to. When he forgets to take his medicine he often has "meltdowns" in which he becomes violent with me, screams loudly and is just generally...
    ksmkdmed ksmkdmed
    Apr 25, 2011

    My Brother Has Aspergers Too.........

    So glad I found this website, I am trying to find other siblings who are that bit older as the care seems to fall on us, seems no one remembers we need support.All my life I have supported my brother one way or another, I call him the second child I never asked for, cos that's...
    gillybean129 gillybean129
    3 Responses Mar 29, 2011

    My Little Sister And Me..

    My littles sister are 12 and my youngest sister is 4. They both have aspergers syndrome. Life in my house is not easy, and at times very hard to deal with. My 12 year old sister seems to get annoyed with everything I do and talks to me in a horrible way, she never listens to...
    Ashley94 Ashley94
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Mar 10, 2011

    I Need Help To Understand How To Connect With My As Men

    It hit me today. I have a great untapped resource here on EP. Other opinions, and people that have experienced this from the other side. Why have I never asked you all? My question is this: how can I created places of 'connection' between my AS men and myself? They're smart...
    EternallyHopeful EternallyHopeful
    31-35, F
    18 Responses Feb 23, 2011

    Found Out My Brother Has Aspergers Syndrome

    Just found out today that my younger brother had been diagnosed with aspergers syndrome some time ago. For the past two years I knew there had been something wrong with him. He rarely went out with friends from school and spent most of his time playing video games or reading. I...
    majin1 majin1
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Jan 25, 2011

    My Brother Also Has Aspergers

    my life is hard. when i go to school i see other kids brothers encouraging them on. when i look at my brother he is either cursing or annoying my dog. when i try to help him he makes fun of me. sometimes he plays with me but his 2 favorite words are cuss words. i don't know how...
    sheridan851 sheridan851
    13-15, M
    4 Responses Jan 24, 2011

    Living With Asperger's Syndrome And Not Knowing It.

    I have a brother who is approximately 2 years older than me.  I'm 50 and he's 52.  I vividly recall from as young as 4 years old that there was something very wrong with my brother.  I sensed it as only a little kid can.  I knew that he suffered terribly and worried about him...
    hernandez123 hernandez123
    4 Responses Jan 13, 2011

    No Time To Enjoy My Own Life

    I have a step-brother with aspergers , my dad remarried when i was young and he came into our lives . Me and my 2 biological siblings simply loathe him. He came into our lives and ruined it as we knew it entirerly . We cant enjoy ourselves if he is around because he is so needy...
    Csmith19 Csmith19
    2 Responses Dec 27, 2010

    My Brother...

    I have an older brother with Aspergers Syndrome. He is now 23 and I am 21. He wasn´t diagnosed until he was 21. I have helped my parents take care of him since I can remember. I´ve always been the "motherly type", always felt like I had to take care of him, or just...
    tooteypie tooteypie
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Dec 4, 2010


    My sister is only two years younger that me, and while I have many friends, her bestie is a cat. I always knew she was odd but I never knew it was a serious condition. Tonight, I wanted to know exactly what it was, so I wiki-searched it, and found that they were describing my...
    kitty98 kitty98
    Dec 1, 2010

    Life Of Frustration

    My brother is 18, almost 19, I am 15, 16 in a few days. He has aspergers syndrome, and has been diagnosed for most of his life. I never understood what was wrong with him when I was little. My parents have never explained it to me, which probably added to my problems with him...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Nov 17, 2010

    My Brother

    I've been wondering for quite a while where I would score if I ever did an assessment for AS. The thing is, my brother has AS. My son has recently been diagnosed as autistic, and I've read it's fairly common for first degree relatives of people on the spectrum to score higher...
    EternallyHopeful EternallyHopeful
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 3, 2010

    The Nine Year Evaluation

    My older brother and I, we have always had a strong bond. As small children, we escaped our emotionally abusive father. For months, we would sit and remain ignorant to all, except each other. Most were under the impression we were twins, we dressed alike, looked alike, acted...
    DangerousDancer DangerousDancer
    18-21, F
    Oct 1, 2010

    I Have A Sister With Aspergers (please Help)

    My sister had meningitis while i was in the womb, she had a 109 fever for over 24 hours. Some theorize that this may have caused her non verbal learning disability, a branch of aspergers. Either way I grew up fairly close with her. My parents did their best but they also had to...
    jihemy jihemy
    3 Responses Sep 27, 2010

    Brother With Aspergers Syndrome

    Growing up with my brother we were really close. We started drifting apart when I was around the age of 12 (he would have been 16ish- now 21)..then one day we stopped talking all together. being so close to him I never saw anything wrong with him..up until a year ago when he was...
    acacac1 acacac1
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2010

    Younger Brother Colin

    My brother Colin is 17 and was diagnosed with asperger's syndrome focusing on OCD. As a child he didn't speak til age 3, wet the bed til age 8, and performs rituals of blowing, tapping, twirling and singing to this day. His obsession is on magic and magical woman. He is convinced...
    katyliz17 katyliz17
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jul 11, 2010

    Does Anyone Understand?

    My brother was diagnosed with Asperger's syndrome a few years ago, and I'm sooo glad that I found this site. At first I was excited that we finally had a name for his strange behavior. But my life has not gotten any better. The fights go long into the night, and the screaming...
    Katina107 Katina107
    18-21, F
    5 Responses May 3, 2010

    Aspby's In The Family

    I am 17 years old and my brother, 17 months younger than me, is "one trait short of a diagnosis." That is how my mom and I refer to it. He showes most of the signs of aspergers but has never been diagnosed. I also have a 12 year old brother with signs of apsergers. I have spent...
    theres11 theres11
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 2, 2010

    Ten Years Older.

    I'm 16 years old and my 6 year old brother was diagnosed with Asperger's about 6ish months ago.   I'm really confused about how I feel.  I'm angry and upset.  I hate having to get up in the middle of whatever I'm doing (usually making dinner) to diffuse him...
    kateonguitar kateonguitar
    18-21, F
    Mar 23, 2010

    Ever Since Middle School

    I have a 17 year old brother with aspergers. Its hard for me to even type about or think about without crying. Im 15 so we go to the same school and its been extremely difficult to hear cruel comments day after day. Even if my friends say "your brother texted me... and hes...
    dancerforlife dancerforlife
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Mar 20, 2010

    I Am So Embarrassed By Her

    I’m really glad I found a site like this. I always thought that my sister was too different and that no one would ever understand why she was like she was. I have never talked about my sister before to really anyone. She is 3 years older than me, nearly 21 now, but she...
    TypOqueen TypOqueen
    18-21, F
    11 Responses Feb 18, 2010

    I Have An Older Brother With Asperger

    Well, Nobody has ever told me that he has Aperger but I read the sympthons recently and he has all of them: - flat tone of voice - weird body language - expressionless eyes - not capable of having a normal conversation - he is very aggressive verbally when he gets...
    36-40, F
    16 Responses Feb 5, 2010

    I Feel Like I Don't Have A Sister

    My sister is 2 years older than me and has a mild form of Aspergers.  I haven't had a real sibling relationship with her since I was 7 years old, at which point I decided I didn't have to do everything she told me.  It is extremely frustrating because she is...
    traveltheworld123 traveltheworld123
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Dec 28, 2009

    I'm Still Scared Of Provoking My Brother

    I can't believe I finally found some other people who have had to deal with this frustration.  I agree with others who have posted before me; this position can feel so lonely, like no one else really gets it.  My brother's 23 (5 years older than me), and was diagnosed...
    Kizuchan24 Kizuchan24
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Nov 19, 2009

    Not Diagnosed...

    I'm glad to have found this site; if current literature were the measuring stick, it would seem Aspies and their parents live in the world alone.  I did not find one available book about relationships between Aspies and their siblings...as told from the sibling without...
    writeuntilyourwristshurt writeuntilyourwristshurt
    2 Responses Nov 14, 2009


    Aspergers If I showed you the real me would it still be the same? Explained Ive got a gun, but I've got no aim? No violence or love, just my conscience as a token. That its not my fault my compass is broken. I cant feel what you feel, but why cant I pretend? I know that I...
    ShadowAce7125 ShadowAce7125
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 5, 2009

    My Aspie.

    My half-brother, age 13, has never been officially diagnosed with Asperger's. So, I know this is only speculation on my part, but I would never thrust such a label on him if I didn't believe it with every cell of my being. I'm not sure if he has ever seen a doctor at all. My...
    MsAnthropy MsAnthropy
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 19, 2009

    I Remember When...

    I am a 25-year-old female with a large family. I've always said 'We put the "fun" in dysfunctional'. When I was 12, my mom re-married. My mother and father divorced when I was young, and I have 3 brothers from my biological parents. I also have a brother from my...
    NicksBigSis NicksBigSis
    22-25, F
    Aug 26, 2009

    Late Diagnosis

    I have a sister with Aspergers syndrome. The thing is she was never properly diagnosed and was never given help. She is now 31 years old and is on her second marriage, and has a five year old from the first. I was reluctant to believe she had aspergers because my sister is very...
    banana512 banana512
    1 Response Jul 21, 2009
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