I Have a Sick Spouse

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 86 People

    Haven't posted here in a while.

    After spending 2 years in a nursing home my wife passed in March of 2013. Little over a year ago already. I think I was lucky to have had so much time to prepare. The end was better for her I think living in a nursing home on a ventillator. Now just trying to rebuild my...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 2, 2014

    Robbed By Illness

    My husband has so many ills, all brought on by diabetes that he had for years; serious heart problems, strokes (thankfully not too physically debilitating, but caused a lot of deficits), hearing problems that can't be helped by hearing aids because of the way his brain interprets...
    GretelB GretelB
    2 Responses Jan 19, 2012

    he has been sick for about 20 years he had ptsd

    from vietnam, the his huntington chorea came in early. his cad numbers are so low the an uncle of his at 90 something just had the test. He had the same cag numbers. His mother brothers want nothing to do with me, thus they want nothing ti do with him. In realty. I get...
    duchness10 duchness10
    56-60, F
    Jan 12, 2014

    On It Goes

    My wife has been sick for the last six years.  We have been together for 10 and married for 7.  She has suffered from a variety of illnesses which have affected her liver, kidneys and brain.  I believe that behind it all, she may be suffering from some sort of...
    Rabbitrob99 Rabbitrob99
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Oct 4, 2009

    Husband Has Parkinsons

    My husband was diagnosed 7 years ago. As he gets worse, he gets angry, agitated at me, at the kids. He can't help around house. I work to pay bills, he creates debt. He doesn't know how to laugh or joke. Every moment is sucked unto his endless misery. His medications...
    Bleu48 Bleu48
    51-55, F
    May 16, 2013

    I May Have To Grin An Bare It :(

    After close to one year after my wife lit our house on fire smoking with oxygen, her health has improved a bit.  She is finally breathing without a respirator to help her breath althoguh still on oxygen.  Normally that woudl be good news but I am now afraid, as mean as it may...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 26, 2012

    Trying To Survive My Husbands Copd/possible Lung Transplant

    I think the worst is a tie between his anger and selfishness. We have been married 29 years. He has always been a little on the selfish side but, it wasn't so bad that it had a big effect on me or the kids. He was a good husband and a great father to our kids. That man is now...
    tr003 tr003
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Feb 21, 2013

    My Wife Is Still Hanging In There

    She entered the nursing home in August 2011 after our house fire in April 2011. I was told in March of 2012 she would never be coming home.  Since she had been seriously ill for so long before the fire it was easier to accept.  But before the fire she still had a slight chance...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 17, 2013

    The Doctors Don't Know What Is Wrong With Him........

    It has been a long 3 years. About 2 months before our third child was born(only girl) my husband became sick. He has been in and out of the hospital every month since. I went from being a stay at home mom to a full time employee, nurse for my hisband and mother to our 3 kids...
    safe01 safe01
    3 Responses May 19, 2012

    Don't Know What To Do

    My wife was an athlete suffering from numerous ailments due to a sporting accident that almost broke her neck, ACL too on her knee. We've only been married for a year and her health is taking a toll on me, and lately on us. We recently took a trip with friends and we had a whole...
    ThisisHarry ThisisHarry
    31-35, M
    1 Response Sep 3, 2013

    End Of My Dreams?

    When I met my husband, he was in remission and had been for 15 years. He has Crohn's disease. Three years after we met, he had a relapse. After spending 7 days in the ER, he went on short term disability waiting for a surgery date to remove the sick part of his bowel. After about...
    HarshReality101 HarshReality101
    36-40, F
    1 Response Aug 16, 2013

    Congestive Heart Failure And Ideopathic Pulmonary Fibrosis

    My husband has been sick since may of last year.. we thought he was just having a flare of his sarcoidosis. His lung dr treated it as such for awhile but then advised us that this was not his issue and could not determine his problem.After watching him decline steadily we decided...
    galady2 galady2
    56-60, F
    1 Response Jun 11, 2013

    Never Coming Home?

    I just had an update at the nursing home my wife is living at, I thought temporarily, and found out she is so ill she will never be able to come home. :(  Just got off the respirator a few weeks ago but they cant remove the trake tube.  She can't get up out of bed.  And shes...
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    1 Response Apr 23, 2012

    Cancer Ain't All Of It, Part Two.

    There is the cancer and the TTP. Since then she developed a cyst in her abdomen the size of a grapefruit. They cut her open and the cyst is draining. She also has a blockage, probably from a tumor, that is blocking a bile duct from her liver. (She turned a bright shade of yellow...
    deanekone deanekone
    66-70, M
    1 Response Jan 20, 2013

    Splice Of Life

    Today I looked up. I have been looking down for several months now. In the last few years, I have done all the right things... raised my children... Took care of my parents various times.... Took care of his parents until they died... Next week I turn 49 and I am lost. I cut my...
    Vio64 Vio64
    2 Responses Dec 31, 2012

    I have become more caretaker

    than husband. Marriage has become sexless. This is profoundly frustrating. Of course I take care of my wife and don't envy her experience with poor health, but I am drained. Exhausted. Nearing a tipping point. Anyone else as well?
    Brooklyn12561 Brooklyn12561
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    Don't Know What To Think Anymore

    My fiancé of 7 years is so sick he had to get major surgery. He is very lucky to be alive. They told me he had 80% change of dying. He came out ok. He came home for one day had to go right back he's worst than last time. I feel so alone and depressed. I need some people to talk...
    Smc86 Smc86
    22-25, F
    Sep 20, 2012

    My Husband Has Superior Mesenteric Artery Syndrome (sma Or Wilkie's)

    My husband and I have been together for five years, married for three and a half years. It's his first marriage, and my second. I have three kids from my previous marriage, two of whom (ages 16 and 15) live with me full time. My husband has always been underweight and soon after...
    JenX73 JenX73
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2012

    My Partner

    My partner,Not well,Hope it's over soon,Hospital appointment tomorrow,Please, please,Let it end soon,We wanna live!
    lazycrazybasket lazycrazybasket
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2012

    My Husband Is Sick.....has Been For A Long Time....

    It's a long story, and I really don't know where to begin. His health started to take a nose dive right before his 40th birthday. Driving home (16 hrs) he had a appendix attack. a few months after that he had a few TIA's, that caused some seizures. The recovery took years to...
    blueyedrdhd blueyedrdhd
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Apr 17, 2012

    We Are Divorcing.

    My husband moved out on July 27, 2012. I haven't seen him since. Having him leave was so difficult, that while he was packing his things, I hid in the backyard and didn't say goodbye or let him say goodbye to me. He took most of what he needed (clothes, toiletries) when he left...
    JenX73 JenX73
    1 Response Oct 26, 2012

    Separated But Living Under The Same Roof

    I don't think I can stay married. I think the illness is just an excuse for my husband getting to behave badly with impunity. Last week, he ruined a close friend's wedding for me. I was in the wedding. He was a jerk all weekend, which resulted in me finally breaking down right...
    JenX73 JenX73
    Jul 7, 2012

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    amelcc11 amelcc11
    26-30, F
    Aug 3, 2015

    No End In Sight

    My husband had a stroke just over 2 years ago, luckily not a traditional stroke with weakness on one side . What he has instead is chronic pain. He has had a headache everyday for the last 2 years in varying degrees of severity from 3 to 10 on the pain scale. We have tried at...
    somiserable somiserable
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 25, 2011

    it is true it is hard to spend many days

    and nights at the hospital watching my husband suffer. Wondering if today will be the day he dies. However nothing is worse than him pushing me away. The anger it has brought him. The fact that everything becomes my fault because he doesnt know how to deal with it. Lonliness...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

    Psoriatic Arthritis Hurting Us All

    My husband starting developing terrible arthritis from psoriasis about 6 years ago. For me, it started about 6 years ago when he wanted me to massage his hand. My husband is a musician and his hands are very important since he plays piano, trombone and bass guitar. Soon he was...
    trf81 trf81
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 16, 2012

    It's been 8 months of my husband's coughing,

    and we are finally going through a series of tests at the University today. Hopefully we will finally get some answers. Even though my personal opinion is that over the winter, he spent all of his time sitting in the recliner and now is so out of shape that he gets too winded to...
    N6135P N6135P
    61-65, F
    May 12, 2015

    I Have a Sick Spouse

    I knew my marriage wasnt going to be easy nothing ever is, but I never knew just how hard until my hubby got sick. It seemed to happen all at once his blood pressure was to high he got diabetes hie kiddneys started to fail it was like a nightmare that didnt end. To make things...
    nync333 nync333
    36-40, F
    14 Responses Jan 2, 2009

    Cancer Ain't All Of It Part 3

    My wife spent most of the day at a hospital again. She was in radiology where they replaced a temporary stent in a bile duct to a permanent one and removed the bag that was collecting the excess fluid. While she was out they also removed the Hickman device from her chest and...
    deanekone deanekone
    66-70, M
    1 Response Apr 11, 2013

    Husband Ill And Dr's Still Have No Definite Answer

    i know I've written before, I don't really like leaning on anyone and I always put up a good positive front. But, from time to time, I just break down-while I'm alone and no one will know. Now a PET Scan shows activity in the gastric curvature region....and still no answers. They...
    blueyedrdhd blueyedrdhd
    46-50, F
    Jul 12, 2012

    My Husband Is Dying Of Renal Failure And Lung Issues

    My husband has been sick for years, on dialysis and bedbound, but now he is in the hospital on a ventilator, unable to breath on his own. His living will stresses that he wants to be kept alive no matter what, but the doctors are pressuring me to disconnect his vent, which would...
    kimgreatmom kimgreatmom
    51-55, F
    Aug 25, 2013

    I respect the sanctity of marriage.

    honor the vows and the ever after.It never occurred to me that my marriage will go to the drain. We had great sex. I thought it was the core of everything in the marriage. Even if he cheated on me, I forgave him for 7 years but the last straw hit me. I refused to be in the same...
    4BlackForest 4BlackForest
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2015

    Harder Than I Thought It Would Be

    My wife and I have been married for over 28 years. During the last three, she has been physically disabled. I love her dearly, but our relationship has changed. I feel, I am more of a security blanket and less a partner. I have become more like a butler and less like  a help...
    strayarrow strayarrow
    46-50, M
    4 Responses Dec 17, 2010

    Cancer Ain'T All Of It Final Chapter

    My wife of forty-six years has died. She fought the good fight but pancreatic cancer, TTP and many other complications were too much for her. She is now resting on a shelf in our closet waiting to be scattered about the grounds of the resort we have been members of for over...
    deanekone deanekone
    66-70, M
    1 Response Jun 5, 2013

    Life has changed because of my wife's illness.

    I've become more caretaker than husband. Love my wife dearly, but I am losing myself in this life. Always takin care, and never being taken care of. Marriage has become sexless and I am finding this reality mire and more difficult every day.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Jan 12, 2015


    I just wrote something. I just feel so alone. I wish I had more people in my life. Life is so hard I wish it was easier. I need some support thru this whole thing.
    Smc86 Smc86
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 20, 2012

    Cancer Ain't All Of It.

    We found out in October that my wife has pancreatic cancer. She had surgery to remove the tumors but they couldn’t get all of it. While in the hospital she became ill with TTP (a blood disorder she’s had before). She returned to the hospital this week because of the TTP and...
    deanekone deanekone
    66-70, M
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2012

    Husband Ill And Dr's Still Have No Definite Answer

    i know I've written before, I don't really like leaning on anyone and I always put up a good positive front. But, from time to time, I just break down-while I'm alone and no one will know. Now a PET Scan shows activity in the gastric curvature region....and still no answers. They...
    blueyedrdhd blueyedrdhd
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2012

    My husband has alpha-1 antitrypsin deficiency.

    He has been pretty sick for the past few years. He is now on oxygen. He has 12% lung capacity and is on the active double lung transplant list since about a week ago. I think the hardest thing has been doing most things by myself. We just sold our boat, because it is too much...
    csusanne csusanne
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Aug 2, 2015

    The Illness Has Taken So Much...

    My wife has a chronic illness. She is in pain. She struggles with daily tasks. She does not work. I take care of the basic household tasks, and I support us both. And that's OK... But now, I am the one who goes to work. Who takes out the garbage. Who handles the finances. Who...
    Perigrination Perigrination
    51-55, M
    8 Responses Aug 15, 2012
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