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I Have A Spouse That Has Dissociative Identity Disorder

A place for those who has someone important to them who has DID, a place to find support and understanding from people that can understand. 155 People

    Anyone Ever Hear Of Individual Intensive Trauma Therapy?

    Hello All, I am sorry but I don't have time to post the whole long tragic tale, but my husband was recently diagnosed DID although I have known of his disorder for YEARS. Sigh. He's really come unglued in the last few months since the diagnosis. In a way, I think, this may be...
    DesperateDancer DesperateDancer 46-50, F 4 Responses Dec 5, 2010

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    Life

    I guess I am lucky in the sense that my husband doesn't transition often. But when something does happen it is huge. Most recently was last summer. It was his mother who abused him physically, mentally and now we believe sexually. We went back to his hometown where his mother...
    jessikus jessikus 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2010

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    I myself am in a lesbian relationship.

    My partner suffers with DID. I have previously read lots of stories online about others experiences and they speak about talking and communicating with the alters. My partner has 11+ the majority if them have negative emotions, for example some are paranoid, others that...
    jammyjayjay jammyjayjay 18-21 4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    My Husband Has DID

    My husband has DID, we have been married for almost 4 years. I have known my husband since we were 10. I found out about his DID right before we got married in 2008. I did not really understand what he meant when he told me. I now UNDERSTAND and I Love my husband with all my...
    Devanya7077 Devanya7077 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    My spouse had DID and multiple alternates.

    As of now I know of three, and I've had first-hand experience with two of them. One is a six-year-old girl, one is a sixteen year old girl, and one is a male whose age I'm not sure of. I haven't met the man, but the two ladies have had extended contact with me. The six-year-old...
    40linesofgay 40linesofgay 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    10 Sayings You Know Your Partner With Dissociative Identity Disorder Drives You Crazy About...

    1.  "That wasn't me," or " I didn't say that!" 2.  "You like them better than me don't you?" 3.  "How could you not have known it wasn't me!!?" 4.  "Why don't you remember what I like?!" 5.  "Why can't you just ignore all those other people?!" 6.  "I...
    DoWop87 DoWop87 22-25 10 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    Facebook Groups

    If anyone is interested this is a facebook group for partners of those with DID. http://www.facebook.com/groups/109928755839920/ "This group is to provide much needed support to partners of someone with DID. This includes anyone who is a part of a multiples external support...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 31, 2012

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    My husband of 25 years

    and I are divorcing, sad as I am I think at this point it is in my best interest that this is happening. My husband was diagnosed 10 years ago and we have been working with a therapist who has recently retired and now my husband refuses to continue with therapy which was always...
    25years 25years 51-55, F 5 Responses Jan 19

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    Just Seeing The Whole Picture

     Well, I have known my husband for almost 10 years, but we have been married for about 3.5. Over this time, I have found myself crazily trying to decipher his changes in what I thought then were moods. I must say this whole realization has come within the last 24 hours, and even...
    amg1980 amg1980 31-35 15 Responses Aug 21, 2011

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    I am in a lesbian relationship with a woman

    who has two alters that we know of. Emilee who is of equal strength as my partner. And Stephanie who is nine. We are currently living with her parents and I have Been sending most my time with Emilee, her protector because she feels threatened living at home. Things have...
    map2thestars map2thestars 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    How Do You Manage?

    Well I have a boyfriend and I haven't got round to telling him yet but the doctors and other treatment people ( WHO I HATE) reckon (98% sure) I have DID what the hell do I say or do.... It's a long distance relationship I'm only 15 but he means so mucho do t want to loose him but...
    Starlight7777 Starlight7777 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 2, 2012

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    I Cant Understand

    Hi am New here and i just recently found out that my boyfriend has DID and i would like to help him anyway i can but i am not that talkive :( could someone give me some tips on how to help and be more supportive.
    AmberDawn25 AmberDawn25 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 4, 2012

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    Hopeless

    Hi am new here, didn't know where else to go. My wife has DID. I have been with my wife for 10 years we have a 4 year old together. We both have been through childhood trauma. My wife is a educated and successful women, but when she comes home she is total different person...
    powerske powerske 31-35 5 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    My Husbands Alter Wants To Get Rid Of Me

    I thought I could do this on my own... but I can't. I'm here for help. I NEED support. My husband hasn't told too many people about his DID. As far as he knows his family doesn't even know, so I don't have too many places to turn when something happens. I've been married for...
    artistinchaos artistinchaos 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 30, 2013

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    This American Life

    I wrote to this american life from NPR and asked them to do a storie on people with DID and their partners. I love how they can take most subjects and no matter how challenging find romance and humor while not straying from the reality of the situation....and isn't this hw we...
    ruthieargyle ruthieargyle 36-40, F Jan 14, 2013

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    He'S So Lost..

    My husband was my best friend for eight years before we started dating two years ago. I knew about his DID when we met, though not right away. Little things, times I'd notice a personality shift. We worked together as well and he was so different at work. Finally, I figured it...
    harlequinbliss harlequinbliss 26-30 3 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    My Husbands Alter Doesn't Want A Wife

    hello new here and didn't know where else to turn...my hubby and I have been together for over 12yrs...and have worked hard to build our lives together in that time...he has accepted my two girls from an abusive marriage as his own and now we are grandparents X 3...health issues...
    elderwitch47 elderwitch47 46-50, F 3 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    My Wife Has Did.

    I don't know quite where to begin. I actually "discovered" that my wife has DID. She had been diagnosed with a host of mental illnesses from childhood but not DID. After my discovery and a couple hospitalizations she's been diagnosed. I have no one to talk to about this. Who do...
    thuie1313 thuie1313 36-40, M 2 Responses Oct 3, 2012

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    Finally-other Spouses Like Me!!!!!!!!!!

    hello........i have been married to my wife for 14 yrs. after 4 mo. of living together, the 1st alter shared his presence with me, of course at halloween time. well, after 2 more mo., we went to the best psychiatrist in the area.---------------- YOU GUYS ARE GONNA LOVE THIS...
    allchokedup allchokedup 46-50, F 4 Responses May 18, 2010

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    A Typical Day in My Life

    Hi again, I just thought I would share a little more about my husband and tell of a typical day in my life. My husband is disabled from the military. I left my job to stay home with him. He is more stable with me here. We are each others best friend. We are always together and...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 5 Responses May 30, 2011

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    Honestly this is all pretty new

    for me. My girlfriend has been living with DID since she was a little girl...she is now 34. I knew something was off when we first started dating but it has taken a while for the story to unfold. I want to find out as much as I can so that I can support her in the right way...
    CB1977 CB1977 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 18

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    Changes On The Horizon. . .

    First off to update everyone, I got pregnant again. I'm currently 21 weeks. It's a boy. Things have not stayed calm for us this time around. Despite a peace treaty with him, giving him visitation rights with a female friend of Trayus' and giving us safety from him, Jin is more...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 10 Responses May 31, 2011

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    Young Relationship, Dealing With DID

    Hi. :) I don't know much about this site but I was just looking at DID relationship help sites and decided to post here to see if I got any good responses. Thank you for reading my long post. :) I'll admit, I don't know much about this disorder but I thought my girlfriend was...
    guitarplayer20 guitarplayer20 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 11, 2013

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    New To This!!

    I am in a new relationship (just 5 months) and within the first two months I had already fallen in love with this man. At around the 2-1/2 month mark of our relationship, his ex informed me that he had DID (thinking it would scare me off), which it didn't. Yes, I was confused and...
    Raffeee Raffeee 46-50, F 5 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    Double Take. (Never Shared This Before, So It's Long)

    Take ONE. I met a man online through a virtual gaming site in 2011. We exchanged pictures and became fast friends, eventually trading phone numbers, and talking daily offline. He asked me for my number because he said he had nightmares and wanted to be able to call me if he had...
    RadiantBeauti RadiantBeauti 26-30, F May 16, 2013

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    March 9th 2010

    I got married to an amazing man, a decision I do not and will not ever regret. The night before my marriage he was helping me pick out what to wear when he stumbled said "I'm insane" and fell backwards onto a coffee table piled with laundry. Then he started to laugh. I...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 9 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    Can I Handle His Did? ?

    I have been with my boyfriend almost 3 years. I would say they have been the happiest years of my life up until like 3 months ago. He just started being diffident. He has started disappearing for hours at a time. I believe my questioning to rather I could handle it started...
    gmskap gmskap 31-35, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2013

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    Seeking Strategies For Daily Coping With DID

    I'm dating a man who has DID. He is a great man in so many ways - he loves his 3 children and does an amazing job as a single dad with a full time job. He is compassionate and sweet and creative and funny. The DID thing is so interesting to me because I learned about it in school...
    datingaDIDman datingaDIDman 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    Roommates Or Married Couple?

    My wife's DID was in remission for 20 years, after intense therapy with excellent therapist. Sandy Hook and sitting in a room with a crazy guy who may have had killed his wife a couple of days earlier put her over the edge. That was 5 months ago. We went from normal picked fence...
    Spousedilemma Spousedilemma 46-50 2 Responses May 9, 2013

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    We Just Discovered My Husband Has Did - We've Been Married For 22 Years.

    My husband suffered a massive panic attack 3 years ago, which began our ride to the discovery that he has DID.This may seem strange to be with a person this long, have a family, own a business & work together, and not be aware of the condition, but it is true.  My husband and I...
    vcap23 vcap23 41-45, F 6 Responses Apr 28, 2011

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    This will be long so I do apologize.

    My reason for writing this is that I would love to talk to people in similar situations for advice. I have known H for about a year now, and we have been going out for half that time, mine and H's relationship is my idea of perfection, I honestly couldn't want more and am happy...
    Annabella6 Annabella6 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Update On Fay

    Fay has been out a few times since we came back from PA. She recently has come out to teach me sign language. You see, Fay is mute.She wants me to learn sign so her and I can communicate without needing another inside to speak for her. We can write things down, but she really...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 4 Responses Oct 14, 2012

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    We Have Come So Far Since 2007

    If it had been the years 2007-2009, I would have been able to write interesting and beyond belief post. Fortunately life has been pretty stable and calm since last year. There is the occasional two steps back and one step forward. Over all it's just normal daily living.My husband...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F Jun 13, 2011

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    Oh Thank God Above that I have found this page!

    ! Where were you 3 years ago when the box was opened and my husband's childhood came crashing in? I have read so many books and gone to doctors and have stood by my husband helping him through all of this. We live in Northeast Wisconsin and there are not many resources available...
    JaneEllenB JaneEllenB 51-55, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Pregnancy

    I am currently in my second month of pregnancy. We have only had one, maybe two, transitions since finding out. Everything has been bizarrely calm. I strongly desire to know why, but I know that digging into anything will only stir things up as it did before. Right now it is so...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2010

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    I'M Still New To This.

    There are so many things I still don't undrestand. I've done countless hours of research adn my partner does try and help me understand. I won't to know, does anyone else feel lost and heart broken when the switch happens? I've only delt with it 2 or 3 times and I'm going through...
    melconfusion melconfusion 41-45 2 Responses Feb 20, 2013

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    Just Realizing That My Wife's Did Will Be A Lifetime Experience

     Although I've known my wife (then girlfriend) has DID since we first met 3 years ago, I'd thought it was something that would eventually completely disappear.  I'm now learning that's not the way it will be.When we first met, she was an alcoholic but didn't realize it...
    Jape61 Jape61 51-55 4 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    Finally

    I have talked about my husband's last alter Fay, who needs to emerge and tell her story.We had to come to his hometown because of an emergency. Fay has shown herself a number of times since we've been here. She is unable to talk and has motioned what she wants. She had unfinished...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 4 Responses Aug 8, 2012

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    Don't Know If I Can Do This Anymore!

    Where do I begin? I met a man 7 years ago who was perfect, my everything. There were times he acted different but I just thought he was weird, in a good way. We were together for a little over year when we got married. And that's when things started to turn. He went through a bad...
    dragonflydpark dragonflydpark 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    Living Wth Two Individuals Who Both Have Did

    As you all know my husband has DID. We are well on our way with therapy and toward the end with one mor to reach. My husband's niece, A came to live with us less than a year ago. She is 20 years old.  We had suspected she may have an alter. Two days ago she came to me and told...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    I Just Found Out

    My man (A) is very self-conscious about people thinking badly of him or looking at him in a different light and would not appreciate me mentioning this to people I know in person. This is going to be long, I apologize (I don't expect you to read it all) but I have to get it out...
    bekemlia bekemlia 22-25 6 Responses May 14, 2013

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    Who Did I Meet First

    well let's see.... when i meet my SO he introduced himself as a women due to being in a womans body and I assumed that was who I had been with for 7.5 years. come to find out recently that I had indeed meet one and when another had come out she had read my SO's diaries and was...
    jennaval jennaval 46-50, F Sep 10, 2013

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    Interesting And Amazing Life Of A Spouse With DID

    Hi there, My husband too has DID. I can relate. There are tough times, but I couldn't ever imagine my life without him and the others. They are all amazing. Never a dull moment. I have been with him for 10 years now and knew early on something wasn't right. I just thought he was...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 12 Responses May 29, 2011

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    A Word From Someone Who's There

    My name is Trayus and Parsain is my wife. A few people have asked about me and therefore I decided to make a single post here myself. Having a relationship while dealing with the DID is a full time job to say the least. I think one of the most important things to make those who...
    Trayus Trayus 18-21, M 4 Responses Jul 24, 2010

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    Just as soon as I think im on good ground with

    my partners (her name is Evy) protector Emilee, **** hits the fan. Ussually Emilee only shows herself when Evy is emotional and angry ... mostly when were having a disagreement. Exactly what happened last night. Her attitude was very hostile and manipulative, when I refernced...
    map2thestars map2thestars 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 3

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    Prostitution, Compulive Spening, I Have Lost My Life To My Husbands Alter

    We have been married for 15 years. Many of them happy. When our oldest son turned 5, my beautiful husband started ******* the bed. The flashbacks came. The anxiety came. The memories of 8 years of prostitution in a public toilets, church groups. It was devestating. We...
    angik angik 36-40, F 5 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Boyfriend Has DID

    Hi everybody, I don't know if anyone can help me. I've read many of your submissions and haven't found a question like mine, though I will keep looking. My BF and I have been together almost five years until he recently had a major switch, or host change and took all of his...
    Jasmineiii Jasmineiii 46-50, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2013

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    The Mean One

    I always have to let out a big breath hide in the basement (my little sanctuary) and drink a beer before I write. So many things have happend since my partner has come to terms with the fact that he has mpd. I wish I had kept a journal since the beginning although I've been on...
    ruthieargyle ruthieargyle 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 14, 2013

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    Cant Cope Any More

    I have never had any support for living with someone with DID. It is him who always gets the help support and sympathy. he doesnt understand that I should have any problem living with it. He is a lot worse when he drinks alcohol and has been doing that a lot lately and I cant...
    leiennja leiennja 46-50 3 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    If You Are The Friend Of Some One Who Has Did/mpd

    We both know it is not something we would want to have to live with. Kindness and compassion are how we are to deal with these prescious friends of ours. We are in their lives for a reason as they are in ours, it is a road where we learn to give over and beyond what we ever...
    mpde mpde 56-60, F 2 Responses Jun 25, 2012

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    Trying To Figure It All Out

    So my husband and I have been married three years, blended family, three kids for me and two for him, ranging in age from 16 to 10. I did not know about the DID when we got married, it was discovered over a course of time about a year into our marriage. He has been seeing a great...
    aphrodite1470 aphrodite1470 41-45, F 1 Response May 13, 2013

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    Need To Unburden My Heart

    As I've said before my husband and I think he has DID. I've never dealt with anything like this and have no experience in this. My husband says that he's never been alone in his own head. As long as he can remember he's had conversations and such going on in his brain. Just...
    wyomingsahm wyomingsahm 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    Hmm well hello, my name is Melissa and I have Dissociative Identity Disorder, uhm and I'm not the main Alter of this body, and well because of that I dont have much time of my own...
    fairyMelissa fairyMelissa 13-15, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I have had this disorder sense middle school (and I am now 22). Many people could never diagnoss my condition because I could never completely describe it nor did I trust others...
    LiliumxoTears LiliumxoTears 22-25, M 3 Responses Mar 31

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    My apologies but I am going to skip past all the intro bits. I am really struggling tonight. I have a part that i have pushed away for years. I have ignored her and squashed her...
    dreshany dreshany 36-40, F Apr 12

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    Hello I see this experience tag being more recently used so I decided it would be sort of best that I write things here. Well to start off yes I do have DID and I am a part of the...
    DarkHappiness DarkHappiness 13-15, F