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I Have A Spouse That Has Dissociative Identity Disorder

A place for those who has someone important to them who has DID, a place to find support and understanding from people that can understand. 217 People

    Codependency My wife says her therapist thinks

    I'm too codependent. That's probably true. I just always feel like I have to be on watch, alert. Ready to deal with switching or losing balance or accidents or whatever. I don't think I ever truly relax. These are issues I have to work on myself, but its just difficult. I have...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 13, 2015

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    Finally-other Spouses Like Me!!!!!!!!!!

    hello........i have been married to my wife for 14 yrs. after 4 mo. of living together, the 1st alter shared his presence with me, of course at halloween time. well, after 2 more mo., we went to the best psychiatrist in the area.---------------- YOU GUYS ARE GONNA LOVE THIS...
    allchokedup allchokedup 46-50, F 4 Responses May 18, 2010

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    A Typical Day in My Life

    Hi again, I just thought I would share a little more about my husband and tell of a typical day in my life. My husband is disabled from the military. I left my job to stay home with him. He is more stable with me here. We are each others best friend. We are always together and...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 5 Responses May 30, 2011

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    "You were mean, so I went away" 'A' has had

    what she calls a "bad brain day". It started out fine, as with many days, but it soon became clear she wasn't all the way here. We finally settled in in the living room when 'A' found out I did something wrong. She is very allergic to the cat so she always has to sit on a clean...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2015

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    "She is my wife!" A few days ago on Friday 'A'

    had therapy. As always she didn't really want to go. She came home very upset and felt like we were going to be stuck here (in this house, the abusers being present) forever. Nothing I did or said seemed to calm her down to the point where she was wailing and screaming on the...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9, 2015

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    She's more my parter,

    one day spouse. We've been together on and off for 4 years, the off parts have mostly been to do with the dissociative disorder. And I'm struggling, I find it hard to deal with when in the middle of a conversation or argument she suddenly dissociates. It becomes all about her...
    Greenspinach Greenspinach 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2015

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    There can be no arguing.

    It's normal in any relationship to have an argument every now and then. I'll even take some bickering instead of real arguing. However, in my relationship it's difficult to argue. 'A' and I both get frustrated sometimes. She, however, is allowed to raise her voice if she wanted...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    I am not married but I've been with my best

    friend for so long it feels like we're married. I just recently found out he has DID and that I dated the alter for quite some time and then when I was about to walk away my best friend came back and told me everything and that he created the alter because he was scared of the...
    Sarc1002 Sarc1002 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 28, 2015

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    I have literally tried to post my story here 4

    times in the last 3 months. It's really complicated and hard to explain. I often feel so trapped.. I'm sure it will help to get this off my chest but its hard to say the least.. Here goes: My husband, M, and I have been together since high school, for 5 years, married for 2 of...
    messj messj 18-21, F Oct 15, 2015

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    Just a quick update; A is going back to school!

    This has been very exciting for us and has given us an opportunity to leave this house (and her abusers). Orientation is on Wednesday. Today, however, she switched. Julia has been quite vocal about not wanting to move. I'm not sure how to feel about this. She's a child and I...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2015

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    Not sure I've seen any alters from my wife

    today, but I think there was one yesterday. Spent some time with her in the afternoon, went to the store with her, but all I got from her was her being bitchy toward me. I couldn't do or say anything right. I finally had enough and separated myself from her in the store. At...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    Changes On The Horizon. . .

    First off to update everyone, I got pregnant again. I'm currently 21 weeks. It's a boy. Things have not stayed calm for us this time around. Despite a peace treaty with him, giving him visitation rights with a female friend of Trayus' and giving us safety from him, Jin is more...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 10 Responses May 31, 2011

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    "Get... out!" We have

    both been worried about money, jobs and getting out of this place. Tonight it was extra bad. As soon as I got into bed I started crying. I expected my wife to comfort me. Instead I got Julia, who told me she was "scared, because you are crying and I can't do anything to make you...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 10, 2015

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    He'S So Lost..

    My husband was my best friend for eight years before we started dating two years ago. I knew about his DID when we met, though not right away. Little things, times I'd notice a personality shift. We worked together as well and he was so different at work. Finally, I figured it...
    harlequinbliss harlequinbliss 26-30 3 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    Does anyone's spouse show physical symptoms

    that they are about to have a transition to one of their alters? or has anyone around you ever noticed any physical signs/symptoms before a switch?
    xobeautynvrdiesxo xobeautynvrdiesxo 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    "Living with Abusers" Everyday is a struggle

    when you live with abusers. Granted, 'A''s parents are not as bad as when 'A' was younger, but things are still very tense around the house. Yesterday 'A''s father yelled at her, even though she made a very reasonable request. Everyone was kind of stressed out anyway, because...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 4, 2015

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    I was never married until now.

    I once rented from Berkshire Property's Housing. I meet a Leasing agent there from Local Nigeria. She was Gorrila's sister too ! Her name is so local Nigerian LOLO... She is married to a Ghanaian man.. who is Dissociate Identity. That, Nigerian Gorilla Stolen near Quarter...
    arabchaosinbiltmore777 arabchaosinbiltmore777 56-60, F Jun 1, 2015

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    Interesting And Amazing Life Of A Spouse With DID

    Hi there, My husband too has DID. I can relate. There are tough times, but I couldn't ever imagine my life without him and the others. They are all amazing. Never a dull moment. I have been with him for 10 years now and knew early on something wasn't right. I just thought he was...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 12 Responses May 29, 2011

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    Hopeless

    Hi am new here, didn't know where else to go. My wife has DID. I have been with my wife for 10 years we have a 4 year old together. We both have been through childhood trauma. My wife is a educated and successful women, but when she comes home she is total different person...
    powerske powerske 31-35 5 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    I recently got married to the most amazing man

    in the world. Whom shares a body with 9 others. I knew what I was getting into early on in the relationship. Reluctant but already in love I decided to keep going. Our relationship has been very fast. Started dating in September and are already married and I just found out I am...
    Wifeof10 Wifeof10 26-30, F Jan 7

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    Just Realizing That My Wife's Did Will Be A Lifetime Experience

     Although I've known my wife (then girlfriend) has DID since we first met 3 years ago, I'd thought it was something that would eventually completely disappear.¬† I'm now learning that's not the way it will be.When we first met, she was an alcoholic but didn't realize it...
    Jape61 Jape61 51-55 4 Responses Jan 26, 2012

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    Life

    I guess I am lucky in the sense that my husband doesn't transition often. But when something does happen it is huge. Most recently was last summer. It was his mother who abused him physically, mentally and now we believe sexually. We went back to his hometown where his mother...
    jessikus jessikus 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2010

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    feeling switchy. T has not been sleeping very

    well these past few days. staying up till 4 or 6 am then sleeping till 3 in the afternoon. his Dr told him his meds were keeping him up and to take then before a some time in the afternoon, because he has been waking up late he hasn't been taking them at all. I made him take...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F Feb 1, 2015

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    My gf who we shall call B has DID

    and she was very upfront with it just before we grew more close and began going out. She showed me a site and made me read the whole thing to understand the ins and outs of it, which I mostly was able to understand anyway as I have a reasonable grasp on the human psyche and...
    toms1985 toms1985 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    I have been seeing my girlfriend

    for only 8 months now and I love her beyond words. She was very upfront about having DID from the start. In the 8 months we have had good days and bad, we live together and have a total of five kids together ( crazy household on a good day) I am very new to DID and all that...
    rose2416 rose2416 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 4, 2015

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    My wife has DID.....I'm in tears seeing the

    words of others struggling with some of what I'm going through. So much to say....so much to ask.....the stupid friggin system....led to her sleeping with my best friends, my patients, my staff my family.....and I'm supposed to back off as not to upset the system????? Had I not...
    drdidnt drdidnt 36-40, M 4 Responses Dec 5, 2014

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    "It costs money" "A" has been very good lately.

    There have been very little significant switches or freak-outs in the past couple months. It's good, but a part of me can't help to still be on the lookout and be ready to jump just in case something happens. Her balance issues are still there. She doesn't lay in bed and have...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 2 Responses May 31, 2015

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    Greenspinach Greenspinach 22-25, F Oct 27, 2015

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    My husband has recently been diagnosed with DID

    and PTSD. He has some trauma from his childhood and as a result has split. There have been times over the last 8 years where I have felt that my husband wasn't himself but I would brush it off because it usually happened when we would fight. Well over the past week we have been...
    Bobbiesue08 Bobbiesue08 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    Prostitution, Compulive Spening, I Have Lost My Life To My Husbands Alter

    We have been married for 15 years. Many of them happy. When our oldest son turned 5, my beautiful husband started ******* the bed. The flashbacks came. The anxiety came. The memories of 8 years of prostitution in a public toilets, church groups. It was devestating. We...
    angik angik 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    sitting here talking to Liz,

    T ' s former main alter, wondering if alters that were once integrated come out again and why. Even the other alters had forgotten about Liz and her name.
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F Dec 30, 2014

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    "I was annoying. It's my fault".

    Today is New Year's, my second one ever that's not been with my parents. I have been missing home today a lot. It's a bigger holiday in Holland than here. 'A' has been in bed all day feeling switchy. I don't feel like I've seen much of her. Her voice has been higher like that...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I feel so alone. If I am not talking to an atler

    or preventing from them coming out then my husban is isolating himself. When do I get time with him? I hurt so much on the inside I would give almost anything to feel something different. When I tell T how I feel he just blames himself or gets angry. I know what his is going...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2015

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    My partner of 3 years admitted to me at the

    beginning of our relationship that he had been dissociating and had once been clinically diagnosed with DID. For hrs, to days, to weeks, to months at a time. It has not been brought up in 2 yrs so I stupidly thought things had gotten better. He hears 8-10 voices in his head, but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Feb 2, 2015

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    New To This!!

    I am in a new relationship (just 5 months) and within the first two months I had already fallen in love with this man. At around the 2-1/2 month mark of our relationship, his ex informed me that he had DID (thinking it would scare me off), which it didn't. Yes, I was confused and...
    Raffeee Raffeee 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    "I think my name is Amy" Last night I had a

    major breakdown. It started off with an argument over nothing and ended with me telling 'A' how I felt she didn't do much around the house or anything at all. We made up and eventually went to bed. Today had a rough start. Therapy went hard on 'A' today and she came home...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6, 2015

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    10 Sayings You Know Your Partner With Dissociative Identity Disorder Drives You Crazy About...

    1.  "That wasn't me," or " I didn't say that!" 2.  "You like them better than me don't you?" 3.  "How could you not have known it wasn't me!!?" 4.  "Why don't you remember what I like?!" 5.  "Why can't you just ignore all those other people?!" 6.  "I...
    DoWop87 DoWop87 22-25 10 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    My husband of 25 years

    and I are divorcing, sad as I am I think at this point it is in my best interest that this is happening. My husband was diagnosed 10 years ago and we have been working with a therapist who has recently retired and now my husband refuses to continue with therapy which was always...
    25years 25years 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    Ok, here goes: I have my own issues,

    I tackle them head on and sometimes get scratched up. Disabled vet with PTSD and a handful of tough injuries. I hurt every day. I've been married the better part of a decade and we have an adorable baby girl. I am rocking her to sleep now tapping on this phone. Little girl is...
    Beanavore Beanavore 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Cant Cope Any More

    I have never had any support for living with someone with DID. It is him who always gets the help support and sympathy. he doesnt understand that I should have any problem living with it. He is a lot worse when he drinks alcohol and has been doing that a lot lately and I cant...
    leiennja leiennja 46-50 3 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    Just Seeing The Whole Picture

     Well, I have known my husband for almost 10 years, but we have been married for about 3.5. Over this time, I have found myself crazily trying to decipher his changes in what I thought then were moods. I must say this whole realization has come within the last 24 hours, and even...
    amg1980 amg1980 31-35 15 Responses Aug 21, 2011

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    I've been with my boyfriend

    for well over a year and am madly deeply in love. Over the last two weeks, I've been having career problems and I've been in the hospital with health problems (not a great few weeks for me) and I guess this has led in part to my boyfriend disassociating for the first time since...
    polkadot77 polkadot77 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 15, 2015

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    "But what if..." Julia is often scared.

    When you ask her what she is scared of she will answer you "everything". Today is Friday. We get up early on Friday, because 'A' has therapy. Today is especially important. 'A' is supposed to ask her therapist about our medical bills and about getting on disability. Last night...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 6, 2015

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    Don't Know If I Can Do This Anymore!

    Where do I begin? I met a man 7 years ago who was perfect, my everything. There were times he acted different but I just thought he was weird, in a good way. We were together for a little over year when we got married. And that's when things started to turn. He went through a bad...
    dragonflydpark dragonflydpark 26-30, F 4 Responses Sep 23, 2012

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    I know that this may not be the exact right

    group, but I feel I share similar experiences with the members and want to encourage any with children to join the "I have a parent with DID", because although our experiences may parallel with the spouses, being a child of a parent with DID resents its own unique issues. I'm a...
    whitbau whitbau 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 7, 2015