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I Have A Spouse That Has Dissociative Identity Disorder

A place for those who has someone important to them who has DID, a place to find support and understanding from people that can understand. 210 People

    New To This!!

    I am in a new relationship (just 5 months) and within the first two months I had already fallen in love with this man. At around the 2-1/2 month mark of our relationship, his ex informed me that he had DID (thinking it would scare me off), which it didn't. Yes, I was confused and...
    Raffeee Raffeee 46-50, F 6 Responses Jul 29, 2012

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    Cannot Get Through

    Hi everyone! I've been married almost 13 years now, and my hubby was diogosed with dissociative disorder. He was raised in an abusive home, then he went into the military. So, he learned to dissociate and not create tight bonds because he didn't want to be emotionally involved...
    SpiritedAngel SpiritedAngel 36-40, F 5 Responses May 20, 2010

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    Double Take. (Never Shared This Before, So It's Long)

    Take ONE. I met a man online through a virtual gaming site in 2011. We exchanged pictures and became fast friends, eventually trading phone numbers, and talking daily offline. He asked me for my number because he said he had nightmares and wanted to be able to call me if he had...
    RadiantBeauti RadiantBeauti 26-30, F May 16, 2013

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    "I think my name is Amy" Last night I had a

    major breakdown. It started off with an argument over nothing and ended with me telling 'A' how I felt she didn't do much around the house or anything at all. We made up and eventually went to bed. Today had a rough start. Therapy went hard on 'A' today and she came home...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    "You were mean, so I went away" 'A' has had

    what she calls a "bad brain day". It started out fine, as with many days, but it soon became clear she wasn't all the way here. We finally settled in in the living room when 'A' found out I did something wrong. She is very allergic to the cat so she always has to sit on a clean...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    Finally-other Spouses Like Me!!!!!!!!!!

    hello........i have been married to my wife for 14 yrs. after 4 mo. of living together, the 1st alter shared his presence with me, of course at halloween time. well, after 2 more mo., we went to the best psychiatrist in the area.---------------- YOU GUYS ARE GONNA LOVE THIS...
    allchokedup allchokedup 46-50, F 4 Responses May 18, 2010

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    feeling switchy. T has not been sleeping very

    well these past few days. staying up till 4 or 6 am then sleeping till 3 in the afternoon. his Dr told him his meds were keeping him up and to take then before a some time in the afternoon, because he has been waking up late he hasn't been taking them at all. I made him take...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F Feb 1

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    "You were mean to me" It doesn't take much

    for 'A' to switch. Sometimes I don't even know the reason. Last night she got very upset at a Christmas present being damaged (even though it was only the protector part of it). If I don't calm her down she will switch. I didn't realise it was that bad and I must've used my "dad...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F Dec 24, 2014

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    My husband of 25 years

    and I are divorcing, sad as I am I think at this point it is in my best interest that this is happening. My husband was diagnosed 10 years ago and we have been working with a therapist who has recently retired and now my husband refuses to continue with therapy which was always...
    25years 25years 51-55, F 8 Responses Jan 19, 2014

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    My husband has recently been diagnosed with DID

    and PTSD. He has some trauma from his childhood and as a result has split. There have been times over the last 8 years where I have felt that my husband wasn't himself but I would brush it off because it usually happened when we would fight. Well over the past week we have been...
    Bobbiesue08 Bobbiesue08 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 12, 2014

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    We had a REALLY bad night a few nights ago.

    We were getting things ready for Christmas; making chalk boards for both sets of our parents and painting for my neices. As I was painting for my neices my husband, T, was making the chalkboards. As he was painting the boards Rory came out, disturbed 12 very suicidal n...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 24, 2014

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    Just Seeing The Whole Picture

     Well, I have known my husband for almost 10 years, but we have been married for about 3.5. Over this time, I have found myself crazily trying to decipher his changes in what I thought then were moods. I must say this whole realization has come within the last 24 hours, and even...
    amg1980 amg1980 31-35 15 Responses Aug 21, 2011

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    "Get... out!" We have

    both been worried about money, jobs and getting out of this place. Tonight it was extra bad. As soon as I got into bed I started crying. I expected my wife to comfort me. Instead I got Julia, who told me she was "scared, because you are crying and I can't do anything to make you...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 10

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    March 9th 2010

    I got married to an amazing man, a decision I do not and will not ever regret. The night before my marriage he was helping me pick out what to wear when he stumbled said "I'm insane" and fell backwards onto a coffee table piled with laundry. Then he started to laugh. I...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 10 Responses Apr 13, 2010

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    Does anyone's spouse show physical symptoms

    that they are about to have a transition to one of their alters? or has anyone around you ever noticed any physical signs/symptoms before a switch?
    xobeautynvrdiesxo xobeautynvrdiesxo 26-30, T 3 Responses Dec 29, 2014

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    I feel so alone. If I am not talking to an atler

    or preventing from them coming out then my husban is isolating himself. When do I get time with him? I hurt so much on the inside I would give almost anything to feel something different. When I tell T how I feel he just blames himself or gets angry. I know what his is going...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    T and are are going to one of his therapy

    sessions together. I am nervous cause his mom is joining. he asked me to make a switch happen during the session so she can see what it is like. That makes me uneasy but we just want them to understand what this is like.
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    He'S So Lost..

    My husband was my best friend for eight years before we started dating two years ago. I knew about his DID when we met, though not right away. Little things, times I'd notice a personality shift. We worked together as well and he was so different at work. Finally, I figured it...
    harlequinbliss harlequinbliss 26-30 3 Responses Feb 3, 2013

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    My gf who we shall call B has DID

    and she was very upfront with it just before we grew more close and began going out. She showed me a site and made me read the whole thing to understand the ins and outs of it, which I mostly was able to understand anyway as I have a reasonable grasp on the human psyche and...
    toms1985 toms1985 26-30, M 3 Responses Jun 21, 2014

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    Not sure I've seen any alters from my wife

    today, but I think there was one yesterday. Spent some time with her in the afternoon, went to the store with her, but all I got from her was her being bitchy toward me. I couldn't do or say anything right. I finally had enough and separated myself from her in the store. At...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    My partner of 3 years admitted to me at the

    beginning of our relationship that he had been dissociating and had once been clinically diagnosed with DID. For hrs, to days, to weeks, to months at a time. It has not been brought up in 2 yrs so I stupidly thought things had gotten better. He hears 8-10 voices in his head, but...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Feb 2

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    Codependency My wife says her therapist thinks

    I'm too codependent. That's probably true. I just always feel like I have to be on watch, alert. Ready to deal with switching or losing balance or accidents or whatever. I don't think I ever truly relax. These are issues I have to work on myself, but its just difficult. I have...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 13

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    Changes On The Horizon. . .

    First off to update everyone, I got pregnant again. I'm currently 21 weeks. It's a boy. Things have not stayed calm for us this time around. Despite a peace treaty with him, giving him visitation rights with a female friend of Trayus' and giving us safety from him, Jin is more...
    Parsain Parsain 18-21, F 10 Responses May 31, 2011

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    "It costs money" "A" has been very good lately.

    There have been very little significant switches or freak-outs in the past couple months. It's good, but a part of me can't help to still be on the lookout and be ready to jump just in case something happens. Her balance issues are still there. She doesn't lay in bed and have...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 2 Responses May 31

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    "Living with Abusers" Everyday is a struggle

    when you live with abusers. Granted, 'A''s parents are not as bad as when 'A' was younger, but things are still very tense around the house. Yesterday 'A''s father yelled at her, even though she made a very reasonable request. Everyone was kind of stressed out anyway, because...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 4

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    Just a quick update; A is going back to school!

    This has been very exciting for us and has given us an opportunity to leave this house (and her abusers). Orientation is on Wednesday. Today, however, she switched. Julia has been quite vocal about not wanting to move. I'm not sure how to feel about this. She's a child and I...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    zoecc11 zoecc11 26-30, F Dec 24, 2014

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    "She is my wife!" A few days ago on Friday 'A'

    had therapy. As always she didn't really want to go. She came home very upset and felt like we were going to be stuck here (in this house, the abusers being present) forever. Nothing I did or said seemed to calm her down to the point where she was wailing and screaming on the...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    10 Sayings You Know Your Partner With Dissociative Identity Disorder Drives You Crazy About...

    1.  "That wasn't me," or " I didn't say that!" 2.  "You like them better than me don't you?" 3.  "How could you not have known it wasn't me!!?" 4.  "Why don't you remember what I like?!" 5.  "Why can't you just ignore all those other people?!" 6.  "I...
    DoWop87 DoWop87 22-25 10 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    There can be no arguing.

    It's normal in any relationship to have an argument every now and then. I'll even take some bickering instead of real arguing. However, in my relationship it's difficult to argue. 'A' and I both get frustrated sometimes. She, however, is allowed to raise her voice if she wanted...
    Remotay88 Remotay88 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Merry Christmas ******* as T n I wake up this

    morning we find a Google play recite with that written on top. His main alter Tess came out and use all T money in saving n checking to buy a series on Google. she has also seemed to scare some of his friends through text. Tess then tried hiding all the cash we received of the...
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 26, 2014

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    Prostitution, Compulive Spening, I Have Lost My Life To My Husbands Alter

    We have been married for 15 years. Many of them happy. When our oldest son turned 5, my beautiful husband started ******* the bed. The flashbacks came. The anxiety came. The memories of 8 years of prostitution in a public toilets, church groups. It was devestating. We...
    angik angik 36-40, F 6 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Life

    I guess I am lucky in the sense that my husband doesn't transition often. But when something does happen it is huge. Most recently was last summer. It was his mother who abused him physically, mentally and now we believe sexually. We went back to his hometown where his mother...
    jessikus jessikus 26-30, F 4 Responses May 4, 2010

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    Hopeless

    Hi am new here, didn't know where else to go. My wife has DID. I have been with my wife for 10 years we have a 4 year old together. We both have been through childhood trauma. My wife is a educated and successful women, but when she comes home she is total different person...
    powerske powerske 31-35 5 Responses Sep 9, 2012

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    husband is having switches in his sleep.

    his alters wake up. the other night one of them came out and shaved all his hair off! As he was cleaning all the hair off the floor he said, "I really hate my alters."
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    elincc11 elincc11 26-30, F Jun 1

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    Cant Cope Any More

    I have never had any support for living with someone with DID. It is him who always gets the help support and sympathy. he doesnt understand that I should have any problem living with it. He is a lot worse when he drinks alcohol and has been doing that a lot lately and I cant...
    leiennja leiennja 46-50 3 Responses Jul 22, 2012

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    Interesting And Amazing Life Of A Spouse With DID

    Hi there, My husband too has DID. I can relate. There are tough times, but I couldn't ever imagine my life without him and the others. They are all amazing. Never a dull moment. I have been with him for 10 years now and knew early on something wasn't right. I just thought he was...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 12 Responses May 29, 2011

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    Need To Unburden My Heart

    As I've said before my husband and I think he has DID. I've never dealt with anything like this and have no experience in this. My husband says that he's never been alone in his own head. As long as he can remember he's had conversations and such going on in his brain. Just...
    wyomingsahm wyomingsahm 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    carry11 carry11 26-30, F Dec 22, 2014

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    Living Wth Two Individuals Who Both Have Did

    As you all know my husband has DID. We are well on our way with therapy and toward the end with one mor to reach. My husband's niece, A came to live with us less than a year ago. She is 20 years old.  We had suspected she may have an alter. Two days ago she came to me and told...
    xxxLisaxxx xxxLisaxxx 41-45, F 9 Responses Aug 23, 2011

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    Ok, here goes: I have my own issues,

    I tackle them head on and sometimes get scratched up. Disabled vet with PTSD and a handful of tough injuries. I hurt every day. I've been married the better part of a decade and we have an adorable baby girl. I am rocking her to sleep now tapping on this phone. Little girl is...
    Beanavore Beanavore 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 13, 2014

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    Bigbootyno2 Bigbootyno2 70+, T 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    the good news is T has gone from 9 to 5

    personalities. many are integrating his now previous main told me to keep him on his meds and two more will be hindered from coming out any more. this are becoming more manageable.
    jayroad jayroad 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    I've been with my boyfriend

    for well over a year and am madly deeply in love. Over the last two weeks, I've been having career problems and I've been in the hospital with health problems (not a great few weeks for me) and I guess this has led in part to my boyfriend disassociating for the first time since...
    polkadot77 polkadot77 36-40, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I'm living with someone with did

    and I'm lost and need some help I love him more than anything
    kaw2516 kaw2516 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 2

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