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I Have a Spouse Who Cheated On Me

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 86 People

    My Wife Had An Affair Before We Were Married But Just Confessed

    Ok...here goes. The story that I can't let go. We'll start with some background. I have been married now for just over 3 years to who I feel is the "love of my life" "soul mate"....call it what you will. We were together about 10 years prior to making it official. The wait...
    cj71 cj71 41-45, M 5 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    Feels Like A Long Road Ahead

    hello,husband "emotionally" cheated on me @ 3yrs ago with co-worker/former boss for well over a year~we have 4 children~the main reason i've not yet left the marriage as i'm a child of divorce myself. i thought i've done all the work i needed to do on myself to help us move...
    neverexpectedthis neverexpectedthis 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 27, 2012

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    When Will It Go Away?

    My wife cheated on me. Her relationship with him has been over for a year now. Well not quite a year.  It was almost 2 years ago since I found out about it. 2 years and I can't stop thinking about her being with him. It was 21 months ago she stopped being intimate with...
    JackDempsey JackDempsey 26-30 1 Response Oct 26, 2010

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    Does It Get Better?

    This is a little self indulgent, maybe that's not the right word, basically I needed to put "pen" to paper to get a few things out that have been eating at me and put them down here. It probably doesn't flow too well and the thoughts may seem like a shattered window with no...
    JackDempsey JackDempsey 26-30 1 Response Mar 10, 2010

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    Pain...

    He cheated in 2003. We rebuilt and got married in 2005. He cheated again in 2007. We rebuilt and had our children in 2008 and 2010. The woman from 2007 came back in 2011. We tried marriage counseling. We separated about a month ago. Everyone wants to tell me how to handle...
    Jgizmo Jgizmo 31-35, F 6 Responses Dec 3, 2012

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    Confidence

    So, I'm tired of being a whiny, little *****. This is not me. This crying and being depressed, it's very unnatural. Not gonna lie, it's still there, but I'm done letting it take over. I am at least 10x the woman she is. Always have been, always will be. She can't even come...
    Jgizmo Jgizmo 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2012

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    Can'T Shut My Brain Off!!

    I will just tell the short side of this story :) My fiancé and I have been together for almost 3 years we have been through ALOT! In the beginning he had a drinking problem we worked through it we moved out of town and started "over" we decided to her pregnant and have a baby...
    crazybipolargirl crazybipolargirl 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 26, 2013

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    Life Goes On

    It is now November 2013 and what has changed you ask? I will need to backtrack some to let you know that my wife hurt her back last year after my post. The pain and back damage was in the same area that mine have been all these years. The doctor told her that he could fix her...
    Tebb4407 Tebb4407 61-65, M Nov 18, 2013

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    Why Did This Happen To Me?

    i was the lady at the lunch table that always said her husband would never cheat. he wasnt raised that way. boy was i naive....i found out 2 months ago that my husband had cheated on me. i feel like every morning i wake up i relive that it is really true all over again. its a...
    bulldogsmom bulldogsmom 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Toxic Betrayal

    My heart is heavy with sorrow, it's weight paralyzes my inner being . I am drowning in My tears.
    ErzulieTears ErzulieTears 41-45, F Mar 13, 2013

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    Cheating Wife

    I am a truck driver. I married my highschool sweet heart, the love of my life. My wife helped bring me closer to God and taught me what salvation truly was. We went on Missions trips together & we were planning  on going into ministry together. My wife had not...
    JackDempsey JackDempsey 26-30 2 Responses Jun 27, 2009

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    Related Experiences

    It's a real challenge every day to have a "normal" life. I have to walk a knifes edge so I don't get her upset or more depressed. She can't get anything done so I need to do the...
    Slasher57 Slasher57 56-60, M 1 Response 4 hrs ago

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    I just found this site and can't believe how the stories mirror my experience. My wife has had an emotional affair for 5 years - and I found out about it just after it started...
    Mike405 Mike405 46-50, M 2 Responses a week ago

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    i used to be a mother, a daughter, a sister, who am i now? i struggle everyday to get through the day. my family does not accept me, invite me. holidays are so hard to get thru...
    lizzypoo1971tnapk lizzypoo1971tnapk 41-45, F Nov 27

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    My father is a university lecturer. His subject is history, so you can see I have a double connection with that subject. My mother is a teacher at a secondary school, and she...
    Skjeggstad Skjeggstad 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 20

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    I am an adult, and my parents are married. They always will be until they die. But it doesn't mean they don't actively hate each other. They don't fight anymore, too old for...
    bananaforscale bananaforscale 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 10

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    If you ever did so, then i hate you too.
    Orsas Orsas 13-15, F Nov 24

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    About a week ago, just before Thanksgiving, I learned that my husband has been sexually role playing with women online. He denied it at first when I initially confronted him and...
    thanatophobic thanatophobic 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    no one knows me 100% I would love to trust others enough to share myself but I just can't.
    RememberingSunday22 RememberingSunday22 36-40, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    i am a *****.....my friends luv me a lot.... am not trying to understand them or being funny with them.....Am so afraid that if I lose my friendship bcoz of my own faults.... bcoz...
    polu26 polu26 18-21, F 1 hr ago

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    this is me know! But it won't be me alway's..............................
    Encontrados Encontrados 36-40, M 2 Responses Nov 19

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    If this experience applies to you, that is pathetic, you are just a little baby.
    ilyssasam ilyssasam 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 22

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    I hate living in my house..all my mom does is yell at me and criticize me. All I do at my house is clean, then usually my mom and my younger brother get into a fight and I try to...
    FriendOfARazor FriendOfARazor 18-21, F Dec 1

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    Not sure if hate is the wiord, but since they'll divorced now it's something along those lines.
    TransmutedHeart TransmutedHeart 18-21, F Dec 10

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    extant1 extant1 46-50, M 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    It's hard for me to show the real me around everyone except certain people. I know I hide behind a '***** facade' so that I won't be judged but I'm getting tired of it, I wish we...
    Living2Heights Living2Heights 16-17, F 22 hrs ago

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    It's actually funny cuz when I'm in a relationship I'm honest and open with the other person but yet I have always got cheated on in my past relationships which I don't think much...
    Scarsdontfade Scarsdontfade 18-21, F 4 Responses 5 days ago

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    At a certain age we all begin to wonder who we really are. I remember the first time I found myself alone, lost and completely forgotten. My best friends had decided I was no...
    Helenabby Helenabby 18-21, F Nov 24

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    My dad passed away in April on the 7th. We had to take him off of life support the hardest decision I have ever had to make in my entire life. I felt like he was the only person in...
    ajm1993 ajm1993 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    It's a desperate moment when you just need to talk to someone, to feel a connection with someone, to fill the gaping hole in your heart, but there's not a soul to do that for you...
    emelon12 emelon12 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I was in 8th grade when I first had the feeling for a certain boy. I saw him at the park and talked to him all night. I then started talking to him on Facebook since he was a grade...
    arianagrande14 arianagrande14 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    We all have those whose names 
taste like iron, like war, whose faces are ash. They walk in skin like serpents, and shed mortal coils like you shed tears—in droves. They come...
    Loveonhersleeves Loveonhersleeves 18-21, F Dec 8

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    its always great to have someone who likes you as much as you like them. You know who im talking about lol ;)
    nadia50 nadia50 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 23

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    Do you know what I hate? I hate people who say "violent TV shows and violent video games should be banned or censored, because it causes our children to have more of a chance to...
    MeowOnMe MeowOnMe 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 28

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    My 89 year old father, who has been my dad, coach, mentor, boss and so many other things to me, is basically a lump of human flesh. He doesn't know any of us any more, where he is...
    steverick steverick 56-60, M 3 Responses Dec 5

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    I consider it my bestfriend since it's the only thing where I put all my feelings and thoughts into. I have my whole life written in my diary. If someone finds it and reads it...
    camillee camillee 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 20

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    I finally have a boyfriend!! After so long, I finally found someone to love me and I love him. I'm so happy. It feels wonderful to have someone who cares about you.
    purplezebra14 purplezebra14 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 29

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    Do you have people who have touch you in your life?
    mother1983 mother1983 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 2

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    I have a whole interpretive dance routine that I break into any time I hear Barry Manilow's "Copacobana."
    daria80 daria80 31-35, F 3 days ago

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    I just found out I have herpes.... and gave it to me long term boyfriend... we are not doing good at all. we used to speak of marriage but now he can't even speak to me.. i don't...
    beyourselfagain beyourselfagain 18-21, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I cannot look at him without every thought that I have ever had being sucked away from my grasp. I try to speak but nothing will come out. I will have a whole speech planed and...
    bjssoi bjssoi 31-35, F Nov 24

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    Hi guys, I'm new to this group and joined specifically to gain some support on this issue. I am currently living with my fiancée and we are set to marry on October 10, 2015. When...
    dollusions dollusions 46-50, F Nov 25

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    I am in a terrible situation and I could really use some emotional support. My husband is an addict. Alcohol, drugs, sex, you name it. It's like he has a hole inside that he...
    Rmhkp2 Rmhkp2 26-30, F 4 days ago

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    I miss her. The rules that govern social convention say I shouldn't. I never met her in person, but I know her. I know her in ways her husband doesn't (or doesn't care to know...
    aaw7395 aaw7395 41-45, M 3 Responses Dec 2

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    I am a brand new military spouse as of yesterday(: Everything is completely new to me and I'm looking for those with experience that can share their stories(: my husband is...
    JennaThiel JennaThiel 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 4

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    First, I know it's long, but please I need someone to help me. Any advice. Reading these stories bring tears to my eyes. I have been cheated on 3 times by the same guy. He lied...
    ArisDiCicco ArisDiCicco 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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