I Have a Spouse Who Had An Emotional Affair

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    Healing From Wife's Emotional Affair

    About three years ago I talked my wife of 20 years into getting a Facebook account. Since she's a pretty chatty person, I figured she would enjoy connecting with her friends. Within a few weeks she let me know that she had connected with an old boyfriend from middle school days...
    simpleguy68 simpleguy68
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2013

    Heartbroken And Torn

    I was days from giving birth to our first child together, when I found out.He slipped and left his phone on the lounge while he went out to run some errands. I had noticed for weeks he wasn't the same person I fell in love with, he seemed to be in his own world, picking fights...
    DarkHeartLove DarkHeartLove
    26-30, F
    1 Response Sep 15, 2013

    Today is not a good day !

    I just feel as though I've been swallowed into a big black hole :(
    Heartbroken46 Heartbroken46
    46-50, F
    Feb 24, 2015

    Husband Had Emotional Affair

    My husband also had an emotional affair with a woman from work. It began last January. He talked about this woman constantly, said they were good friends, and always talked about how nice she was, how she understood him, how they connected spiritually, so I alway kind of...
    TK1788 TK1788
    26-30
    4 Responses Dec 21, 2008

    Want It Out There - My Husband's Emotional Affair

    Well, its been seven months since my now ex-husband refused to end his 2 year emotional affair with a female friend he used to work with.My experience has a lot of similarities but one significant difference - he had his emotional affair in plain view of me, my family and our...
    annimay annimay
    36-40
    5 Responses Jan 4, 2011

    Do You Tell The Other Spouse?

    I am going to prefix this story by saying that this is not a decision that is before me. My wife had an emotional affair 4 or 5 years back, and good or bad I am beyond the point where this is a decision I face. However, I see this question come up with respect to emotional...
    SolFeather SolFeather
    36-40, M
    13 Responses Aug 29, 2011

    My Husband Too... and he made me smell her perfume on his coat !

    Hi to all, like everybody else here, my husband too had an "emotional affair " as he says, because it is as far he will admit. I am a 34 years old Brazilian girl, who left behind a good comfortable life , family and friends to be with my husband which is american 36 y, we have no...
    devilwife devilwife
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jul 4, 2012

    Should I Tell His Wife?

    I have all the evidence that my wife is still texting this guy. Over 2000 texts in the past 2 weeks. Should I let his wife know and show her the evidence? I don't want to hurt her like I am hurting - that would be very insensitive of me. The question is, would she want to...
    charlierose5012 charlierose5012
    36-40, M
    15 Responses Jun 2, 2011

    My husband is a workaholic he is unromantic

    and thinks that life should be all about working so our grandchildren which we don't have (I'm 29) can have a better life. I'm all about saving and planning but he forgets about the family he has now. Additionally I find in his phone that he is inappropriately texting other...
    StilettoEsquire StilettoEsquire
    26-30, F
    May 16, 2015

    My husband had an emotional affair with a

    younger, prettier co-worker for about 10 months. It all started when she joined the company my husband worked for. When she first started he immediately told me about her and how she had an "amazing" body but she was like a princess and he disliked those kind of "spoiled...
    private7069 private7069
    46-50, F
    3 Responses May 27, 2015

    I know and understand the meaning of an

    emotional affair but need to get others opinions. Back in 2002, my wife took her current teaching position in our local school district. Her building had teachers divided up on teams. Usually consisting of 2-3 teachers, each teacher instructing several different studies. My...
    dynamic71 dynamic71
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Dec 23, 2014

    I Thought I Could Trust You

    When we started out we both were having emotinal affairs. It happeded for awhile but it stopped 9 months agao and I thought it was for good. We were doing good. We both were talking and I thought we were getting closer. The marriage was solid and I really trusted you. Then...
    butterflyval butterflyval
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 10, 2011

    Emotional Affair Devastation

    My husband likes to ride his bike in Europe, he has been on 3 trips that I chose not to go on. They are too tough for my slower pace. He got home September 24th from a 2 week tour in Spain. He was very distant and spent an inordinate amount of time in his office on the...
    Enraged1 Enraged1
    51-55, F
    3 Responses Nov 2, 2012

    Emotional Connection With A Girl Who Tried To Be My Friend Too

    I found out almost a yr ago that my husband had been talking to this girl, who had FB friend requested me. She lives in the area he works and wanted to befriend me for reasons unknown. I knew she was unhappy in her marriage, she told me her husband was crazy and she wanted to...
    BarbLO BarbLO
    51-55, F
    4 Responses Apr 27, 2013

    I know I've told the beginning of this story

    before.... January of last year, a woman my husband (now ex) knew in high school came into the picture. My husband invited this woman to attend our church, invited her over to our house all the time to watch movies, was buying her meal whenever she was with us, etc. He tried to...
    DyingMarriage DyingMarriage
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 15

    Emotional Affair

    About 4 years ago my husband had an emotional affair for 7 months. I was 8 months pregnant at the time with our third child. It torn me apart and I still think about it today. I just want these bad thoughts and feelings to end. My husband swears that he loves me and is extremely...
    WTF25 WTF25
    36-40
    1 Response Jul 25, 2013

    My Husbands Secret "Just A Friend"

      My husband had a secret relationship with his ex-girlfriend for almost 6 years. Started on Facebook, she found him, progressed to phone calls and "secret e-mail addresses. My story is typical to every other one that is on line. They started Chatting about life in...
    beeplp beeplp
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Nov 11, 2013

    Sometimes It Gets Worse

    I don't really know where to begin...I feel too raw to know where to begin. I have posted my story before ...about my wifes emotional infidelity. I had thought it was healing. I was back to the level where I trusted her almost completely. It would never be complete because of...
    SolFeather SolFeather
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Oct 10, 2012

    Will Wife'S Internet E-Affair Be Over Forever?

    I view the guy that had an internet-based emotional affair with my wife as the enemy. I hate him. He was taking away something that was only for me. He was part of something that made me feel horrible. I imagine that my wife's views of him are probably quite opposite. He was...
    simpleguy68 simpleguy68
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Feb 13, 2013

    Hes Mad At Me I Sent Him This

    I just dont understand why you cant see how much this is hurting me. Why you are mad at me for being hurt. why you would continue to lie to me. Yes i snooped but there shouldent have been anything to find. These lies are hurting me i feel so alone because you wont even talk to me...
    pword162000 pword162000
    22-25
    1 Response May 21, 2011

    My husband recently admitted to me

    that he had an emotional affair. He even used that phrase. We've been married 4 years and have been together since 2006. I love him very much and want to work through this. It's all happens so recently... He told me on Monday (12-30-13) and had seen her the previous Friday (12...
    happilyeverafter5110 happilyeverafter5110
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 3, 2014

    My spouse of 34 years is having a emotional

    affair with a coworker of his. He doesn't know it but that's what it is. She is the only one his cell phone minutes are used on and she is the first one he texts. They have breakfast and lunches 2 to 4 times a week. Of course he says they are just friends and I am crazy! He at...
    tml1959 tml1959
    56-60, F
    1 Response Mar 1, 2015

    Why Do I Worry?

    It's been seven months since I found out about my wife's internet-based emotional affair she had been having. I won't re-hash the details here, but if you really want to hear them, you can check out my older posts. Contact with this other guy has stopped. He has sent her a...
    simpleguy68 simpleguy68
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Apr 23, 2013

    My Husband Had/is Still Having?? An Emotional Affair With His Coworker. What Now?

    On Friday night I discovered that my husband was having an "emotional" affair...(I will only call it that because I have no PROOF that they were physical). I found emails and pictures dating back to three years ago. She sent him pictures of herself in lingerie. She even sent...
    helplessandhurt helplessandhurt
    31-35
    7 Responses Apr 30, 2012
    cashetty69 cashetty69
    51-55, M
    Sep 4, 2015

    Still Angry...still Hurt

    My husband had an emotional affair back in April. I stayed for the kids. Sounds dumb I know but my kids suffered while he wasn't living at home. I failed them by choosing such a selfish piece of shhhhh to have kids with. But it's too late to go back and change that. I have good...
    helplessandhurt helplessandhurt
    31-35
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2012

    Tired!!!

    Well, 2yrs ago hubby had an emotional affair that went on approx 1yr. I always had a bad gut feeling when I was around this woman and later I would discover the emails, texts, and etc. Hubby has been in some intense counseling which is good--very good. I'm slowly working thru the...
    Sugar973 Sugar973
    46-50, F
    2 Responses Jun 19, 2013

    I just found out that my husband had an

    emotional affair about 6 months ago. It hurts more because I did not find out from him, but was told by his best friend that had stopped speaking to him about 2 months ago because he found out about it. My husband says that nothing physical happened, except for kissing, and...
    bethi82 bethi82
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 18, 2014

    When you try your best

    and it all gets thrown back in your face 😔 last year I paid for an overnight birthday treat in Liverpool and I got repaid by him getting a cob on because would not move for some girl to sit in my seat 😟 called all the names under the sun , left to walks the streets of...
    Heartbroken46 Heartbroken46
    46-50, F
    3 Responses Mar 1, 2015

    So, my girlfriend and i just celebrated our 3

    year anniversary in december. i am 20, she is 18. her best friend, whom we will call Fred, has been in contact with her for years. several months ago they started talking on a very regular basis. all day every day texting and calling. hanging out whenever he was in town. i...
    ChefErik ChefErik
    22-25, M
    Feb 1, 2014

    My Husband Had An Emotional Affair - Letting The Negativity Out- In The Process Of Healing.

    it all started in July 2010. I've been married for 2 and half years and my husband has been having emotion affairs behind my back for 2 and half years. I know that I did not cause these emotional relationships to happen, at times I did blame myself. As I grown I notice that it...
    FeelingStrong FeelingStrong
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 19, 2013

    Can You Trust Someone That Had Lied To You Over

    And Over? I learned that my husband of 22+ years was having an emotional affair with a high school friend. He still to this day denies that anything has ever happened but I really don't believe him. Over a year ago I found text messages, facebook chats and emails between...
    Atmywittsend Atmywittsend
    51-55, F
    1 Response Dec 10, 2013

    Lost My Bestfriend...

    He was my best friend for almost 30 years. We've been married for 25. I don't know who he is anymore or who I am for that matter. I hate what it's turned us both into. He says he broke it off with her, but I have no real way of knowing for sure, trust is gone. No one to talk to...
    IdgieThreadgood IdgieThreadgood
    46-50
    1 Response May 5, 2011
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Aug 17, 2015

    My husband is currently having an emotional

    affair but in denial about it (shocker). I caught him, by emails, having a physical affair with a coworker about 6 months ago. Fortunately, the sex has stopped, but they now speak by secret emails almost daily and the emotional affair has continued. This is devastating to me...
    welelm welelm
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 19, 2014

    Whatever Their Relationship Was, the Betrayal Hurts

    I actually created this new group last week, but I put off writing my story because I am still pulling together my thoughts and emotions. I decided this morning that putting this all down here might be helpful and cathartic to me – and who knows – might be...
    gracelesslady gracelesslady
    46-50
    11 Responses Nov 5, 2008

    I know from my own experience

    that married men don't always leave the wife. I am the wife. I found out two years ago my husband had an affair with some married woman that he met at our kids school. When I found out I gave my husband the option to leave. 50/50 with the kids and assets. I told him I didn't...
    Truthbetold81 Truthbetold81
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 26, 2015

    I came home from work to find my wife sitting

    behind the computer on Skype with someone and she quickly closed it out and quickly got up and headed to the bathroom. I asked her what she was doing and who she was talking to. Her response with a smile was " I guess I got caught". Then she told me she was talking to her old...
    BeGone95 BeGone95
    51-55, M
    3 Responses Dec 19, 2013

    Just Lost Myself To Insanity...again..

    My husband had an affair over a year ago during a time that should have been one of the happiest moments to cherish, The affair started 2 months proir to our wedding. I found out about the affair 2 days after returning from our honeymoon and he was still engaging in the affair...
    tandcsmommy tandcsmommy
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 31, 2013

    One day I found out that my wife was flirting

    with someone online. When I confronted her about it, she told me that it was just innocent flirting. The person she was flirting with lived in Europe and there was no way they would ever meet in person. I was angry when I found out but she didn't want to stop. So she continued...
    kjc101614 kjc101614
    46-50, M
    1 Response Oct 20, 2014

    He Still Talks to Her!!!

    I have to admit that I joined this site because of this group. I was looking online for a group exactly for this purpose, and this is what I found.  So...my husband had an emotional affair.  I guess that is where I should start.  Our first anniversary is...
    sammydg04 sammydg04
    22-25
    4 Responses May 31, 2009
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