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I Have a Verbally Abusive Father

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    My father uses "honor thy father

    and mother" as a way to control me. I'm 23 and he wants me to put him over my obligations to pay rent and buy groceries
    maggie4857 maggie4857 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 18, 2014

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    Today is Father's Day yea!

    !! ( I'm being sarcastic) I hate how I see people outside playing with their kids, laughing, and having a good time and when people say HAPPY FATHERS DAY!!! There is nothing happy about Father's Day. I wish my father was nice to me but NO!!! He is verbally Abusive to me everyday...
    cristina44 cristina44 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 15, 2014

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    Yep

    I have dealt with my dad and his mouth for my entire life. Comments about my weight and my skin condition (I have eczema) that really **** me off. When I think back to my younger years it saddens me, but now that I'm older when he tries to say something ignorant to me I quickly...
    yaya24 yaya24 18-21, F 1 Response May 3, 2011

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    He Just Doesn't Understand How Much It Hurts Me

    I get called worthless and stupid on a daily bases. I get told I can't do anything right, and sometimes.. I believe it. He yelled at me for putting his computer away wrong. If I leave a light on he yells. He tells to fetch his fhucking beer and then he yells at me for not being...
    lonelyxsoul lonelyxsoul 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 8, 2012

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    My father is an alcoholic.

    ...a really bad one, he just yells for no reason and says the cruelest things, it's very embarrasing when he does it in public :/ he hasn't hit me but he's raised his fist at me and bashed my mother, he has a long history of violence, I don't speak to him anymore and neither do...
    Zezebabe Zezebabe 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2014

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    My father is actually a very sensitive person.

    He had been hurted during his childhood by his family. He's very hot tempered and speak vulgar words a lot when he got mad. I have 3 other siblings who are all girls. We all used to his scolding and tantrum that he will throw when his anger is fueled. He can get mad so easily. I...
    bubblyeater bubblyeater 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 14, 2014

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    He's rarely, if ever,

    verbally abusive to me. To my mom, sometimes, my 9 yr old sister rarely, but my brother is 3 yrs younger than me at 14 and he gets the brunt of it. Granted he's stubborn and can be kind of a d***head at times, but in my dad's eyes, he can never do anything right. He's belittled...
    maddiemoonlight maddiemoonlight 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 30, 2014

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    Finding My Freedom Without My Father

    My father has been verbally, mentally, emotionally abusive since my early 20's. He punched me once when he couldn't control his rage a few years ago, but that was the only time he was physically abusive. The emotional abuse hurts the most. I have a narcissist mother, and an...
    claudiaE claudiaE 36-40, F Oct 20, 2013

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    When Does It Get Easier??

    My father has worked most of my life from morning til the late hours of the night. He has always said that this was so he could afford to pay for me and my brother after my parents were divorced when I was 5. When I ask for a little more time with him he immediately accuses me of...
    Verbal99 Verbal99 16-17 2 Responses Sep 3, 2011

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    My dad's an ***, simple

    as that, but I'm the only one in my family of four that wants him out of the picture. He's been a nightmare for years and I only realized that he is what he is last year. My mom has been contemplating divorce, but shows no initiative. She's become so heavily affected that it...
    Jules725 Jules725 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    Well, I'm not sure how to explain this.

    As a kid, my mother and father never got along to well. Many violent fights, luckily, at age 11, they stopped talking to each other... forever. My mother has hurt my father a lot verbally, but she has hurt me physically. I have had my hair pulled, head hit, and more. I was...
    InsertUsernameHere25 InsertUsernameHere25 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 18, 2014

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    My Dad Is Still Like That.

    To put it simply, my Dad is narcissistic.  It's a psychological condition characterized by self-preoccupation, lack of empathy, and unconscious deficits in self-esteem.  I grew up with many emotional needs not being met.  I would try to find those needs...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 7 Responses Apr 2, 2009

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    I was watching a documentary on domestic

    violence a week ago. They spoke of abuser traits and it dawned on me how much my dad fits that profile. He has always been so hard to deal with and I have no-one I can confide in about it...so, here I am. I don't know if this will help anybody else to hear, but I think it may...
    JasmineRoses JasmineRoses 26-30, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    Emotional Abuse

    I am a 48-year old woman. I have had trouble in my life since the time I can remember.  I always knew something was wrong.  But I didn't know what was wrong until I read a blog on emotional abuse.  I guess I always knew my father was mean, hated people, hated...
    oceans4life oceans4life 51-55, F 3 Responses Apr 20, 2010

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    Where to begin. All I can say is

    although I have moved out of my fathers toxic home, I am still very nervous as I write this. I can literally feel the anxiety building up. Ok, well. Here I go. Here is my story. My first childhood memory of my father is him throwing a screw driver at my head. In fact, that's my...
    rrrrandom rrrrandom 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 24, 2014

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    A man is no man If He holds abuse in his hands

    Words full of hate Im sure most of you can relate Some call it discipline Some call him crazy But whatever you call him He calls me lazy As tears crawl down my face As thoughts run through mind Never will it ever be fine Yeah he says he cares Yeah he says he loves you...
    lifeinmyeyes13 lifeinmyeyes13 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 28, 2014

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    Help

    I hate the man who made me he is not a father the only emotion he has truley ever felt is anger he is a pathetic man who will most likely burn in hell for all eternity i dislike this feeling of hate that he has made me feel i have never felt the emotion of HATE until he put it in...
    Heshowedmehate Heshowedmehate 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2013

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    He's Getting Worse

    My father was an ordained minister in his country of origin. He can quote scripture like none other, can give sermons on the spot, and teaches great lessons on Christianity. Overall, he's a pretty good father...when he's not angry. When I was younger, I could remember him being a...
    Justulord Justulord 18-21 1 Response May 27, 2011

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    I am exhausted. Its 1:45am on a friday night.

    I just got off the phone with my mother, she wanted to make sure i was ok but instead i tried to soothe her. As usual my father has decided to have a tantrum. I am used to these tirades. I used to cry and feed into all the drama (ok not gonna lie i want to cry now). He gets...
    sweetplumeria sweetplumeria 36-40 3 Responses Jul 19, 2014

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    Why Is My Father So Aggressive?

    Hi there, I just wanted to clarify whether or not I am in an environment with a Passive Aggressive Father. All my life, I have never been close to my father all because of his constant aggression and verbal abuse towards me and my family members. I am now 17 years old. But I have...
    carriethebjjaddict carriethebjjaddict 70+, F 7 Responses Sep 29, 2013

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    "Booksmart" "You don't use your brain" "Do not

    make decisions on your own anymore, ask me before you do anything" "F*** U" "Stupid" "Lazy" And that's not even half of it. I can never please him no matter how hard I try. He told my sister that he has 3 levels of -whatever-. 1. Overachieve on everything you do. 2. Do...
    DearYou DearYou 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    well that's one way of putting it.

    .. funny thing about emotional/verbal abuse... you don't really know if it's valid. well maybe you do but I don't I still think I'm j just an oversensitive high maintenance brat. who nothing will be good enough for... I dunno if it's really abuse but even if it was with all the...
    blackscribbles blackscribbles 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 16, 2014

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    Yes

    i don't want to talk to him ever, because of what he did. dad if you are reading this: i don't care what you try to do but you were never there for me when i was growing up and i get my swearing from you, i hope your happy.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 27, 2012

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    Sick Of My Father

    My father has been verbally abusive to my mom, my older brothers, and myself, for as long as I can remember. He blames everyone else for his problems, talks to his wife and children like they are idiots, and continually puts us down. For example, I have maintained a 4.00 since...
    LittleBlackBat LittleBlackBat 18-21, T 3 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    Since I can rationalize my father has been

    verbally and physically abusive. I think it grew in intensity as the years went by and my personality started to evolve. I still live with him because of certain learning disorders I have. There is probably not a day that goes by when I don't here his words, his hate. I know...
    Safetysuit96 Safetysuit96 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2014

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    Hi.i Am Elisabeth And I Have A Verbally Abusive Father...

    Hello, there.Thank you for welcoming me to this space. God knows I need to be among people who understand right now.My name is Elisabeth, 37 years old, and this is my story:I grew up in an upper middle class family. I never lacked anything in my education and we also trvelled a...
    ElisabethC ElisabethC 36-40 4 Responses Aug 24, 2011

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    His recently my father

    and I have been arguing too often about my future and how I should be setting my goals. I'm always trying my best to make him proud an to show him that I'm capable of ache icon greatness in life. But when I try to show him these sort of thing he would usually bring me down with...
    BakaAkira BakaAkira 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 28, 2014

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    FAITH. Love. Hope. Peace.

    The only way that I survive the last several years. It's difficult for me to admit that I am emotionally abused. I often wonder if it is all in my head, if I'm over-reacting, or just too sensitive. My father has been, well semi abusive since my earliest memories, somewhere...
    Seasongal Seasongal 13-15 Apr 23

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    help maybe?

    I just dont know what to do anymore, both my foster parents are verbally abusive and it hurts alot, im only 14 and i wake up every morning being called a sl*t stupid and a b*tch. They say they hate me and that im a disgrace and useless. At least im not getting physically abused...
    onelittlecat onelittlecat 13-15, F 17 Responses Nov 20, 2013

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    I am usually a person

    who can smile through it all, I can even encourage other people out of gutters. You can bet half of the people that know me.. Will say oh yeah I know her that girl who's always smiling and laughing. That is what I am known for. What they don't know if the pain I go through on a...
    Safetysuit96 Safetysuit96 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 9, 2014

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    Monster, How Should I Feel ?

    My father always have been like this. He always used to tell me how worthless, stupid, ugly,dumb I am. I feel like he never even loved me. I mean most of the people don't want my mother to give birth to me because times were hard but she borne me anyway. So my father is always...
    OlsN98 OlsN98 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 26, 2012

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    Today he said he doesn't want to see me

    and I'm dead to him bc I'm befriending my mothers bf after she divorced him two yrs ago and was putting up with his abuse for 15 yrs....
    XObabydollOX XObabydollOX 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    My father died at the age of 79.

    I was 58 years old when he passed away. In all of that time, my father only said something nice to me one time. Luckily it was not long before he died. After years of trying to turn him into a decent human being toward me, I finally succeeded. My dad was so disinterested in...
    leedee55 leedee55 51-55, F 1 Response Dec 15, 2014

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    My dad and I have never rally got on.

    I've been spoiled and never wanted for anything, but I feel like all of that was to get me to love him even though he doesn't love me. Anything he's ever bought me has then been used in a threat. I never do anything right in his eyes from earning my room to leaving doors open...
    immykehinde immykehinde 16-17, F Feb 23

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    My father is someone I can't stand being around.

    We haven't been getting along since I was 13. He has always used a harsh tone with me and a loving tone with my sister. He has always pushed me to my limits when it came to school and grades. I wasn't perfect but I did my best. But as I got older, nothing ever seemed to be...
    briederrick briederrick 22-25, F Mar 2

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    you're the reason why I have anxiety

    and that I'm afraid of being myself in front of people..thanks for killing me with your words Padre
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Dec 15, 2014

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    I Grew Up With a Verbally Abusive Father

    My dad would always yell and call everyone stupid. It took me awhile to get those words out of my head. Our relationship is strained today because of the way he treated my mom, brother, & me. My mom is still married to him. He still treats her like crap. The other day the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 16, 2009

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    A Lifetime Of Abuse

    Wow, where to start.....My parents (and I use the term loosely, it should be abusers) were unfit from day 1.  My mother hated us 3 children, and made sure we knew it, if she wasnt beating us, she was verbally beating us. My father was an alcoholic, the only time we saw him sober...
    lillyof64 lillyof64 46-50 2 Responses Oct 9, 2011

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    I have a verbally and emotionally abusive

    father. He is extremely controlling and wants to mold my life and my siblings' lives. I listened to him because when I was younger I believed he was right, after all he was my parent and his weapon was that he pays for things and that I am not appreciative enough so I felt...
    zyx91 zyx91 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 24, 2013

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    Physical, and Verbal..

    Growing up, my dad always beat me. He stole money from my wallet, hed hit me in the face all the time. One time he even punched me, in the throat, just because I failed a class with a 68. Im 16 now, and though he hasnt hit me in a few months im always very scared. He is always...
    kibbins kibbins 16-17, M 5 Responses May 16, 2009

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    His favorite thing to say is: "You deserve what

    you get." Me: "I don't deserve you." Him: "You're right. You deserve worse." Me: "Worse than you is impossible." His second favorite thing to say is: "Grow a spine," to which I respond: "Grow a ****."
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 25

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    Sad but true it's pain it's hurts I don't know

    what else to say someone chat with me.
    unhappyperson707 unhappyperson707 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    how can a father say your a peice of **** then

    hug your cousins like nothing happend how can a father say he loves you when he puts every one else above you how can a father threaten he's going to punch your teeth out if you dont do what he says then look at himself in the mirror how can a father live with himself when...
    fkfh fkfh 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2014

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    I feel terrible.My Father is a man

    that I am afraid of.He hits my mom,he hits me,but never touches my younger sister.He hits us and verbally makes us feel like trash when he feels he is "A Man." I cry praying he will change.He suddenly turns into this lovable nice caring person,but then turns into my worst...
    Iwillsucced Iwillsucced 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 14

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    Not Only Verbally But Phisically.

    he is extremely cruel wuth his verbal attacks.i guess thats why i have trouble with saying what i need to say.and he has a violent side.he has beaten me,my brother and my mother when i was younger.he is not so much violent now,but he can really get to you with what he says.
    ghostofmyself ghostofmyself 36-40 1 Response Mar 27, 2009

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    I'm Confused.

    My dad is a very strict man. Ever since I was young, he'd hit me or my sister with a belt if we did wrong. Can't write the letter 'A' or 'S' well? He'll flip my study table over & throw my kindergarten homework away while shouting at me. After I turned 10, he stopped hitting me...
    30justforfun09 30justforfun09 18-21 3 Responses Aug 11, 2011

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