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I Have A Very Negative View Of Myself

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    Yeah...

    And I know I shouldn't, but its hard to change a view you have had your whole life.... Though in saying that, I am trying to change that....
    TheWanderingSupertramp TheWanderingSupertramp 22-25, M Nov 28, 2010

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    Very

    I dislike almost everything about my physical appearance. I feel I will never be pretty, or feminine, or worthy. I'm not sure exactly where this view got started, but it has been reinforced by other people for years. When I look in the mirror, I see fat and ugly.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F Nov 27, 2010

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    It Doesnt Matter

    even when i do something worthwhile, never seems to be any good, i never like being told when i have done something good as it always sounds patronizing so i push people away
    isitalwayslies isitalwayslies 22-25 1 Response Apr 10, 2012

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    It's A Hard Life.

    It's a hard life, being ugly and all.
    CrazyHippieChick CrazyHippieChick 18-21, F Oct 22, 2010

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    Maybe Im Too Hard On Myself.

    i know there are things I really cant help. I'm having trouble with a car, i don't have a job and my family doesn't have much money. and when i had my chance to get a car, something i cant help got in the way. i really could try harder to get a job. but when living in such a...
    rawrxcupcake rawrxcupcake 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 14, 2011

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    The Ugly Truth.

    I am unhappy. I wish I could die, but I can't I am fat and disgusting looking, I have an ugly smile, ugly eyes, ugly teeth, ugly hair, ugly ears, ugly piercings. I am ugly. My body is HORRIBLE, I am stupid, I am a moron. I have nothing going on. I should die alone.And everyone...
    myfairlady24 myfairlady24 18-21 2 Responses Feb 20, 2011

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    Hi I Definitly Have A Negative View Ofmyself

    hi there im kylee i cant see anything postive about myself,even though people tell me postive stuff i cant see it 
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 31, 2011

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    When In Rome...

    I will be frank, however much I try to deny it, highschool does have the sterotypical affect on my so called 'fragile' teenage mind. It has been ingrained in me since birth that if I do not acheive total victory in the GPA race then I am worth nothing. Adding on another layer to...
    Techtress Techtress 16-17 1 Response Sep 7, 2010

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    Warped Perceptions

    .If one hundred people like me and one doesn't then I have a tendency to focus on that...ignoring all the positive messages I get from the majority. I have had what feels like a long hard time of it this life...and it is hard for me to accept praise or feel good about anything...
    greenlionburning greenlionburning 41-45 2 Responses Oct 5, 2011

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    This Will Help You.

    http://video.server.dhamma.org/video/intro/vintro.htm watch the videos on that page with an open mind. Peace.
    tyrian69 tyrian69 22-25, M Sep 12, 2012

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    A Series Of Missed Opportunities

    Ugh. Such a long, involved story to tell. My mother was twenty one years old when she died. I was two months old. I spent my childhood being raised by my mother's mother, who hated me. My grandmother died when I was 15. I was then left to fend for myself. I got an...
    truewinegoddess truewinegoddess 46-50, F 1 Response Nov 8, 2013

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    It's a very unfortunate character trait :/ I

    don't find myself at all attractive, and I'm pretty sure I'm an ***-hole XD
    MrAwesomeKyle MrAwesomeKyle 18-21, M Jan 30

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    I developed BDD body Dysmorphic disorder months

    ago if anyone can relate please message me
    lifewithBDD lifewithBDD 22-25, F Mar 6

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    A Piece Of Trash...

    Ugly, disgusting, worthless, untalented...these are the words I use to describe myself. Pretty much between the ages of five and 17 I was described as this by everyone around me so this became my identity. I knew the ugly thing must have been true because it is reinforced by the...
    Onedayacometwillfall Onedayacometwillfall 26-30 Sep 12, 2010

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    Daaaaah!

    I WAS CALLED JUDAS I FEEL I BETRAY GOD IF I SHARE WHAT HAS BEEN DEEP INSIDE FOR YEARS. I HAVE BEEN FALSELY ACCUSED FOR THINGS THAT NEVER TOOK PLACE, I NOW FEEL IF YOU ARE AROUND ME IT IS MY FAULT IF BAD THINGS HAPPEN.MY BIRTH DAD TOLD ME GET OUT OF HIS FACE I MADE HIM SICKARE YOU...
    thelambsink thelambsink 41-45, M Oct 23, 2010

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    I Do...

    ....have a negative view of myself. One of the things I hate about me is my nose. I think its big and has a bump in it. I wish I could get rhinoplasty.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 9, 2010

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    I Think I'm Pretty.

    But I can't really think of anything else I have going for me. I'm very shy, not particularly skilled at anything other than maybe writing short stories, I'm kinda lazy, and I think I'm really boring. I don't talk much, so I'm generally ignored once people realize there really...
    KaBe22 KaBe22 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 10, 2010

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    People who don't has negative views on

    themselves are the ones who for some reason don't understand. It's not a choice feeling this negativity on ones self, it's something you feel over time over the things that have happened and after the way the mind thinks. Maybe it shows that we aren't very "strong" but there isn...
    deathnotlife deathnotlife 18-21, M 1 Response May 17

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    I Feel Extremely Negatively About Myself....

    I hate most things about myself: 1. The fact I look so ridiculously young (I am 25 nearly 26 but get told I look 16/18) 2. My looks in general, I have a big nose, flat chested and thin lips with stupidly small ears 3. I have a weird voice 4. I still live at home as can't afford...
    Jenni855 Jenni855 26-30, F May 12, 2011

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    But I'm Better Then Some!

    Some people just SERIOUSLY hate themselves, and I find that really sad to be honest. Sure, I've got a few negative things to say about myself but any normal human being does because no one is perfect! Including me! I'm far from the poster child of perfection and I don't mind that...
    nataliaangel nataliaangel 18-21, F Aug 25, 2011

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    An Understatement

    You know I always feel that whenever i say I have a negative view of myself, it always feels like an understatement. I mean really, I could not be anymore vague on the whole idea of being self-hating? Man, it makes me laugh because no one can fathom the level of hatred I hold...
    ForgottenMale ForgottenMale 26-30, M Feb 3, 2013

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    Trying To Over Come It

    How do you undo close to 20 years of verbal, emotional, and physical abuse?   I mean, not all of it is my own doing.. you get told that your fat, ugly and worthless and you start to believe it don't you.  What I learnt, was that I was my own worse enemy.  ...
    Littlemisssomebody Littlemisssomebody 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16, 2010

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    Especially

    on days like today. back when i was lost in my dark life i hated myself beyond words. now that i've improved i usually don't hate myself so much but i still don't like myself either. i honestly don't see what you all see in me and doubt i ever will. but on days like today...
    CaptainJackass CaptainJackass 22-25, M 1 Response Feb 1, 2011

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    Ditto

    and i can't seem to shake it off. it's been with me for 4 years now but people have called me fat for 11 years. i think i am ugly and horrible and have a very negative view of myself.
    grapes305 grapes305 13-15, F Apr 16, 2010

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    I'm a failure I'm a loser I don't matter I

    should die I'm broken and can never be fixed No one needs me for anything I'm useless I hurt everyone I know No one can help me
    BleuGirl83 BleuGirl83 26-30, F Jul 17

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    I Wish

    My view of my self is not about looks i know in that way im what others think of as attractive. my negative view comes from a bit deeper i cant seem to get things right i seem to let people down alot, i dont do it on purpose it jhust happens I have a tumour that causes...
    gypsymae gypsymae 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 22, 2010

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