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I Have An Abusive Father

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    I Have An On And Off Abusive Father..

    there will be days where i have a playful relationship with my dad and other days hes blows up... He first slapped me when i was four. WHY? i don't remember but i think it was because i went looking for my mom who left to buy stuff. Then when i was six,(2005) my dad and mom had...
    arielle1 arielle1 13-15 May 26, 2012

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    My 85 Year Old Abusive Father

    Well, I am sure I am not the only one that had to deal with a father that terrorised all of his 9 children on a daily basis.  This also includes abusing my sweet mother who has now passed away..Myearliest memories are of him taking out his anger on my brothers because they...
    lisemarie lisemarie 51-55, F Nov 2, 2009

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    I don't remember a day

    when I could call my parents relationship healthy. He was a sailer and we moved all over for him, we gave up friends, family, schools, jobs, everything. This was not enough, he would come home with so much anger. So much anger. I would do something wrong and he would lift me up...
    maccy16 maccy16 18-21, F 1 Response May 25, 2014

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    My father is a perveted,

    lying sociopath who hates me. I love myself irregardless of the fact my life has been hard. You enjoy making me feel worthless...your comments about how much of a loser I am just makes me more determined to keep going forward on my path. Saying that to me while watching...
    nightskybostonlights nightskybostonlights 36-40, F 1 Response May 26

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    Toxic..

    Ever since I was little, I can remember my father being abusive. Emotionally, mentally, and physically. Back then, it was MOSTLY towards my mother. Then one day, she decided she would bury her issues and abuse under a crack-cocaine addiction. Thus, resulting in a divorce between...
    AbusednBroken AbusednBroken 18-21, F Dec 8, 2012

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    My dad is a phsyco path

    and has killed my dog, almost killed me and my mom, but day after day I have to see him because of the court order saying I must
    EmoGirl286 EmoGirl286 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2014

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    I Cannot Forgive My Abusive Father.

    This is my expression of a great frustration, and I'm essentially going to rant. I hope this is not a problem. My parents have been divorced for, apparently, nine years. I have been under the impression that he'd found God and was moving on. Yet, I cannot let go. I found out...
    juneeily juneeily 22-25, F Aug 17, 2012

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    I don't have a mother.

    I haven't spoken to my mother in years. She's a heroin addict who, no matter what, never seems to get better. I just recently found out that my dad is no better. He abuses various types of pills, as well as his drug of choice, cocaine. I'm always getting screamed at for...
    amychristineee amychristineee 18-21, F Sep 16, 2014

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    I should have moved out the second I turned 18,

    but I was trapped by my own fear and the emotional control he had over me, and I stayed for another three years. When my mom finally asked him for a divorce, I was 20 years old, and my little brother was 17. Before going to him, my mom came to me so we could figure out a plan to...
    TrueBlue94 TrueBlue94 18-21, F 2 Responses 17 hrs ago

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    Tried getting a coffee

    so I could keep awake to finish some school work. One thing leads to another and I end up with a punch in the shoulder.
    iamasingleteenager iamasingleteenager 16-17, M 1 Response Oct 30, 2014

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    I Hate My Father

    I hate my father and wish he were dead.  He abused my sisters and I growing up.  He would physically and verbally abuse us.  Also, not talk to us for years if we made a life decision HE didn't approve of such as choice for major in college...
    Deseret1 Deseret1 31-35, F 3 Responses Sep 17, 2009

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    I Thought He Cared About Me

    my father and i used to have an amazing relationship. we used to go hunting and fishing together. we rode dirtbikes together for a few years. but for almost all my life my father has been a truck driver, and i used to love going with him. but in the past year or so my dad has...
    provencher98 provencher98 13-15, M 5 Responses Nov 20, 2012

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    What Is It Like To Have A Real Daddy?

    He made me lay across the bed and ranted and yelled... he made me take my clothes off. He was a monster. My experience with this man was degrading and perverse. He would hold a gun on us and spout what he could do when we were all little... One night I was woken up by him...
    bomboolay bomboolay 61-65, F 15 Responses Nov 2, 2009

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    Fathers Possession

     I was single until I was 33. My parents bouhgt a ranch in Mt. and I worked there every summer since I was 16 till I got married at 33. My mom was an alcoholic and hated my Dad. He looked to me for his love and entertainment early on. I took him back packing, fishing hunting...
    stella6666 stella6666 51-55 Jan 28, 2011

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    My first time writing.

    Because I hid my problem for so many years, I became a shamed of what went on at home. Since I was young my father would constantly complain and yell at my mother. It wasn't until middle school that I realized how abusive he was. He would constantly get fired from jobs because...
    mukullama4 mukullama4 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    It Took Years For Me To Realize It

    My dad is emotionally and verbally abusive to my brothers and I and was physically abusive to my mom. When I was in 1st grade, my parents' marriage started getting rocky. They were constantly arguing over the smallest of things and they used to scream and yell for what seemed...
    introvertedloser introvertedloser 16-17, F Jul 27, 2013

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    Uncontrollable Rage From My Abusive Father

    My parents would do anything for my sister and myself. They give us money when we need it, cook us dinner, support us in school. I have a normal family. But my father has an uncontrollable rage when he gets angry. Nothing can stop him. Since I was little he would get really angry...
    valentina5 valentina5 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    He treats us like street dogs.

    Nobody can stand up to him, not my mother, nor can my brother. I hate to see people get treated less than they deserve so let alone my family. I'm the only one who reacts to his behavior, I used to sit in my room and pretend not to care, or at least I fooled myself that I didn't...
    Unsp0kenW0rds Unsp0kenW0rds 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 29, 2014

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    So this is a story that I'll never forget

    and have never shared with anyone (other than our useless school counselors Who only made it worse) Shall I share this story? Ok here goes. I was in 6th grade when It all became so real. My dad beat my mom worse than he ever had before - to the point where she was barely...
    Dimples411 Dimples411 18-21, F May 3, 2014

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    I have a worst father in the world.

    He is such a loser. In spite of so much of knowledge , he couldn't do anything in his career. He himself don't value his parents and deserted them when in need. My paternal grandparents contacted him a lot but he just kept ignoring them , never visited them. They all though all...
    LOACoach2015 LOACoach2015 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 11, 2014

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    My dad is like the ******* devil he hates me ;(

    when I was young he touch me and if I said no he would hit me He hit my friends i injured him (stabbed) this man Ronald Parker (dad) has ruined my childhood life he wanted the best son i tried to be the best son but he never liked me he shot me with my BB gun when I was 8 on...
    Drags800 Drags800 26-30 4 Responses Mar 4, 2014

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    My dad is such a ****.

    He's always smacking me around and making me clean his messes. He likes to break his bottles against walls and make me pick it up with my bare hands. Ugh. This sucks.
    SomeDepressedTeenx SomeDepressedTeenx 13-15, F 1 Response Nov 30, 2014

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    Beats me up with a set of golf clubs

    or baseball bat depends on what sports season it is (everytime i talk back). His brain is just stuck on his classic mafia films.
    trentoy trentoy 22-25, M 4 Responses May 1, 2014

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    Just Now ..

    My mom and my dad were arguing over a debit card with my child support on it .. And he came in and pushed me and slapped me ? All I said was leave me alone? Was I wrong? Uh ..
    xxcbrennaxxxc xxcbrennaxxxc 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    Too...tired

    I'm tired...so tired. No one will notice when I'm gone...I'm tired. I need sleep. An eternal sleep. I'm tired...so tired.
    redteareyes redteareyes 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    I hate my dad so much.

    He's just ugh!! I can't stand being with him. He always smells like beer and ****. It's nasty. And he has muscles the size of basketballs. He should really stop going to the gym so the blows to the face and ribs don't hurt as much.
    SomeDepressedTeenx SomeDepressedTeenx 13-15, F Dec 2, 2014

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    Our Fight

    I have only shared this story with one person. This experience has caused me a lot of pain & 5 years after the fact, I just feel like I really need to get it off my chest. I was 15 years old. I always had a straied realtionship with my father but, I was trying to get to know him...
    Aleighsha Aleighsha 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    My father does whatever he wants to with me

    since I was 6. I don't care but if other people were in my place they'd probably kill themselves.
    1Thatonedudeyouknow 1Thatonedudeyouknow 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 29

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    I achieved a double whammy of abusive fathers.

    my mother originally married an physically abusive marine. he was my ***** donor. mom must have shopped at Walmart for her next loser a alcoholic who has nothing better than scream and yell and threaten. he ruined his own life with alcohol now he has become more miserable. glad...
    ramvan ramvan 36-40, M Feb 12

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    I Just Remembered This Very Strange Fact…

    remember when i said that my father called me a snob for not using public transport when other girls my age were takinbg the bus (http://www.experienceproject.com/stories/Have-An-Abusive-Father/706572) ? well i just remembered that when i was in junior high, my parents signed me...
    blacksheepmf blacksheepmf 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2009

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    I Don't Know What Will Happen

    My dad recently lost his job ands trying to give up smoking, however the abuse has gone on for years. Mum thinks he has a psychiatric problem, i agree. He's never happy, always finding something to be mad about and blames everyone else for his misfortune. He controls our diet...
    bella97 bella97 16-17, F 3 Responses May 26, 2012

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    I'd Rather Be Homeless, In a Way.

    I called the cops on my dad today. He threatened to smash me in the head with his mandolin(the loud one) and then smashed it over the water heater I was behind, then knocked that over. I said "..ok, that was YOURS...." He then said something like "Now you can't...
    Geza Geza 26-30, M 3 Responses Dec 23, 2007

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    *Kitten Rant*

    Yeah, my father was bad news. He was awful to my mother and they got a divorce when I was four. He has physically and verbally/mentally abused my brother and I. He's sociopathic and can switch personalities. He lies constantly. A lot of what he says is so farfetched it's...
    Toukos Toukos 18-21, M 5 Responses Mar 22, 2013

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    My dad took my phone

    and tablet away from me and now i can't contact any of my friends to help with my anxiety. I got a bad grade and my teacher emailed him and he yelled at me. Luckily my mom and my sister was there so he wouldn't hit me but i can't talk to any of my friends until i get to school.
    StillFlawless StillFlawless 16-17, F Jan 15

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    Fight Back!! And Dont Dwell.

    i have an abusive father. i first realized that at the age of 12. hes told me things no one should ever have to go through. he doesnt like me i know couse hes told me. i dont like him he knows it. iv always had a hard time excepitng the fact that i have an abusive father. iv gone...
    maverick321 maverick321 66-70, M 3 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    Violence is everywhere in my life

    i'm actually at work now and i have to get some stuff done. but i really have to write. i get violent threats at work (in the form of office bullying) and at home, my parents have the worst temper. i've been the blacksheep of the family for a long time. my family perceives me as...
    blacksheepmf blacksheepmf 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 19, 2009

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    hi, sorry i cant tell you my name but,

    it would feel really uncomfortable if anyone i know saw this. Anyways ever since i could remember I've lived with an abusive step-father. P.S, when i was born i lived with 2 people who my mother worked for as a maid, and they've been taking care of me ever since like i'm their...
    anonymous1765 anonymous1765 16-17, M May 19, 2014

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    Nobody Knows Or Cares

    my dad is an abusive man , he abused my mother and we called the police but when he came back we all acted like nothing happened , and now hes after me . hes been isolating me and threatening me , i got so mad that my sister and mother couldnt stand up for themselves that i told...
    123incognito 123incognito 70+ Sep 10, 2013

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    After my parents got divorced

    when i was 12 my father has been a heavy drinker. My mother moved out with my little sister (Lily). When my father started drinking he would only occasionally hit me what wasn't too bad but soon he began to realize that it relieved him of stress and it started to become a...
    Alexjones12 Alexjones12 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 22, 2014

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    The only thing that keeps me from doing

    something stupid, is the thought that one day I will not have to be next to him. I do not believe any of these abusers should have the privilege to hear or be referred to as "fathes". So to proceed with "HIM". There is days worse than others, but it's always something in his...
    Safetysuit96 Safetysuit96 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 11, 2014

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    He's An A**

    Yeah, my father did a number on me and my siblings growing up, but I let that go and moved on a long time ago. I went years without having a relationship with him at all, then, out of nowhere about 11 years ago he contacted me and I foolishly allowed him back into my life. Mostly...
    cc5439 cc5439 41-45, F Sep 19, 2009

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