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I Have An Alcoholic Boyfriend

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    Not Sure...

    Hello all Well, here goes.  I think my boyfriend is an alcoholic, and i see a lot of patterns in other parts of his life that confuse and confound me. We met 2.5 years ago.  He is more than 20 years older, a charmer, a real sweet person most of the time.  I have...
    TroubleInDeCamp TroubleInDeCamp 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    I was in a relationship

    for a little over two years with an alcoholic. His drinking was always present throughout the entirety of the relationship. I had some concern about it but had discussed it with him several times. I had basically told him that his drinking is never to come before the bills...
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 7 Responses May 9

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    Soo I am new to this,

    but I need someone to confide in other than everyone who tells me I need to move on. So my boyfriend, who I love and we have been great together for a year.....except when he is drinking. He has gotten a lot better but he would skip work and binge drink all day to the point...
    Youngandhelpless Youngandhelpless 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 22

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    I Am Finding the Strength to Move On

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just broke up over the weekend.  He is an alcoholic.  He won't admit it, but he is.  He drank because he was happy or sad or depressed or because he was drunk and wanted to get drunker or because he was sober and wanted to be drunk...
    kris12222 kris12222 26-30 8 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    i currently have an alcoholic boyfriend

    that i can take no longer.. its time for me to finally run........what i should have done years ago. its just tough and hard when you love this person and you have hope and hold one to those VERY FEW sober happy moements you have with them specially the day after they are done...
    Latinheat123 Latinheat123 26-30 4 Responses Apr 16

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    Having lots of trouble letting go.

    ... We broke up suddenly, then he started contacting me, and I felt honored.... I'm sure my self esteem is part of this, but I didn't think it was that bad!!! He was so sick from drinking, so isolated, then just robot cold- he manipulates- He'll use anyone, to cover up drinking...
    Misshimmary Misshimmary 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    Reading these stories lets me know I'm not

    alone. When I met my fiancé he was just getting out of a seven year relationship I thought it was odd that she moved out with 2 kids in diapers when she wasn't working but she had a new boyfriend so I figured they just didn't workout. I knew him when I was younger so the...
    Walkedinblind Walkedinblind 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2014

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    My boyfriend is an extreme alcoholic

    and I really need someone to talk to about it. None of my friends can relate to it and I'm a completely different person now because of it. It stresses me much I truly feel like I will die early. I need someone who knows what I'm going through.
    brooky0620 brooky0620 16-17, F Aug 13

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    I met J two years ago

    while I was living in VA. He was at the very beginning of a divorce after a 15 year marriage. Ironically his drinking was not the reason they were divorcing. She became very successful in her job and began having numerous affairs and stopped participating in their marriage. J is...
    MilitaryMomX3 MilitaryMomX3 51-55, F Apr 11, 2014

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    We met in rehab. we actually never spoke

    when we were there because it was his first stint and he did whatever the counselors told him. While in rehab i had an immense admiration for this man. It was not till we both graduated that we got together and he took me to a Haunted House. It bothers me because the day we...
    tbates3 tbates3 31-35 May 7, 2014

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    I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago

    when I caught him sneaking vodka. I was never around alcoholics so I didn't realize that his slurred speech, confusing behaviors, and falling asleep on the couch was because he was slamming drinks of vodka from his freezer when I wasn't looking. The worst part is he was driving...
    neeko123 neeko123 26-30, F 1 Response May 13, 2014

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    My Story Is Your Story - Addicted To The Addict

      It's been over 2 years and I'm still here, dealing with the same situation, same drama, same person who has not changed despite repeated efforts with a harm reduction counselor, AA, and an addiction specialist. I've told his family, his friends, anyone who would listen...
    opumpkin opumpkin 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    I met this guy on CL last summer

    and we took things pretty slow. He was transitioning to a new job and I had been trying to recover from being cheated on. We finally decided to make a go of dating in September and overall I have been satisfied with him. I noticed pretty early on that he drank a lot of beer...
    Niccitude Niccitude 36-40, F Feb 19

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    My boyfriend has been trying to get sober

    for almost a year now. We have been together for 2 and a half, I started dating him right after he'd gotten out of rehab. I much later learned that he had a couple of slips then that I didn't know about. Then he was using for a long time from August-January 2013. I've moved...
    mwarre3 mwarre3 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 25, 2014

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    Almost 3 Weeks Gone

    This Saturday will be 3 weeks since I left. He lives right across from my house, which makes it so much more difficult, some days are good , some are bad. I cry a lot, I try to keep busy. It hurts me really bad when I'm at home and peak through my window and he is drinking there...
    ggmbq ggmbq 31-35 9 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    He is very loving and caring

    but when he drinks., OMG, he just turn into a totally different person. What do I do?:( I love this guy very much!
    lovelygabby lovelygabby 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12, 2014

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    Confused

    My boyfriend and I are just 1 1/2 shy of our 4 year anniversary. The last year has been really stressful, and our relationship hit a bad bump a little over a year ago. Luckily, we could communicate pretty easily back then and we worked through it. Things were getting better, we...
    behindgreeneyes1 behindgreeneyes1 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    Am I Crazy?

    I am dying for people's advice on this issue. I am a 22 year old dating my best friend of 7 years. We have been together about 2 years. I've been feeling crazy lately, and need some advice. We planned on staying together forever, but now I've been feeling like a breakup is...
    daniellemartine daniellemartine 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    I am finding it really hard atm!

    My boyfriend goes through a bottle of vodka a night near enough! He's really nasty when he has a drink, and when he doesn't drink which isn't very often he's nasty too cos he's not got a drink ive been with him for 4 years ive gone from one extreme to another from a relationship...
    LiilyPad LiilyPad 22-25, F 1 Response May 12

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    It's Time to Let Go

    I never thought I'd find myself in this situation.  I come from a family that suffered from alcoholisim. I know exactly the pain and suffering that one endures when a loved one is addicted to alcohol. So why have I fallen victim to a man who suffers from the very...
    chiquita123 chiquita123 36-40 5 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    4 Days Since I Left My Alcoholic Boyfriend

    Ive been dating a man for 2 years. I didnt notice he had a problem with alcohol until 6 months into the relationship. This guy would drink until he drops, every weekend I would watch him drink a case of beer. We never really went out and when we did he would get so drunk and fall...
    nicolelegend nicolelegend 31-35 2 Responses Feb 16, 2011

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    Just as I figured it took a DWI to get him to

    wake up and realize the jeopardy he was putting us all through. He has kicked me out at 9pm Sunday nights before knowing full well I had no place to go. He's now in an outpatient therapy program and has wised up, still I am having a hard time reconnecting with him. I just have...
    W4W2 W4W2 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2014

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    Boyfriend is recovering,

    and has been for 3 years, but he still has control issues and can be manipulative. He keeps me under constant watch, this is no way to live and I'm growing tired of this very fast. He is sweet and he means well but sometimes his emotions get the better of him
    CaseyAlyssa CaseyAlyssa 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2014

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    Alcoholic Bf Is Making Me Lose My Mind!

    My story is a bit lengthy but I think I will feel so much better to just get it out of my heart and out in the open. Maybe I will receive some good advice. I was going through my divorce, moved into my own house and met a man who lives 3 doors down from me. I was hurting and he...
    emcbutterchic emcbutterchic 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    I just would like support,

    and hear everyone else's experioence so I can have help leaving him
    Krot12 Krot12 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 7

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    Continued.. Things have gotten better

    since he was released the last time from the hospital. He has pretty much stuck to beer, which makes things more bearable, but it's still a roller coaster ride. My biggest battle at the moment is with this psychiatrist. I know he lies to her and manipulates her, and he...
    Beth0888 Beth0888 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2014

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    Life After An Alcoholic Relationship

     I was married to my second alcoholic for 16 years, I was going to stick with him for better or worse, he was/is going to AA for few years  but was relapsing every 6-9 months, few times during our marriage I left him, he told me he will change to come back etc, etc so...
    urbff170 urbff170 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 22, 2012

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    jojom543 jojom543 36-40, F Nov 11, 2014

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    This October I will be in a relationship with

    an alcoholic for 5 years. That's if I want to hang in there much longer. Every day I feel like I am hanging on by a thread. I know that what's keeping me with him is our 3 year old daughter. I wish that he would drop his drinking and hanging out with his daughter more. But...
    mellow0522 mellow0522 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 15, 2014

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    If my partner has to drink 6 cans a night does

    this mean he's a alcoholic ? When I got into a relationship with him I didn't realise that he drank every night . I wasn't brought up around drink so it's a whole different world to me . He works hard all day so I thought he just likes to home and have a few drinks . But I...
    becky10002 becky10002 31-35, F 1 Response May 14, 2014

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    Today my boyfriend came out

    and told me he was an alcoholic in recovery and I was shocked. We are in a long distance relationship and seeing him not even a month ago I never knew any of this. He had no symptoms he didn't drink when he was around me, nothing. After he explained to me that he was getting...
    soccergirll12 soccergirll12 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 24, 2014

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus

    and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it really clear how little you care about our nonexistent sex/love life, if you made even half the effort that you have been making for this test...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 12, 2014

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    Don't Know What to Do

    I think that I have an alcoholic boyfriend, but i'm not sure. I have never been exposed to alcoholism in the past, so I only have online guides to help me, i'd appreciate some real feedback though. We've known each other for years, and been together for about 16 months, and have...
    overthis overthis 22-25 5 Responses Nov 29, 2008

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    He Doesn' Think He's a Alcoholic..

    I've been with my boyfriend for years, and he's always drank and smoked pot, but it's gotten increasingly worse. He has all the signs of an alcoholic but I don't know how to break it to him. He's failed college classes because of his drinking, he's been fired from 3 jobs because...
    Gambit4 Gambit4 22-25, F 5 Responses Feb 26, 2009

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    I don't want to leave him.

    I have no intentions to. I just don't have the ignorance to leave him with a problem he obviously can't fix on his own. If I were him, I'd want help. Id want somebody to stick by my side and support me, not walk away because of something I can't control. Maybe I'm too nice...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    My boyfriend and I broke up

    after a 7 year relationship and engagement. Denial. That was the hardest thing for me to move past. I was in complete denial of his drinking. I mean, I knew it was an issue and tried to stop it... But I hid it, I didn't tell a soul. I made it seem like he was such a great guy...
    itsmeeve itsmeeve 26-30, F Jun 16

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    Just Need to Put It Out There

    i just googled alcoholic boyfriend and this is where it brought me. i have been dating my boyfriend only a short time, six months, about as long as we've known each other. he is 9 years older than me and he is a caring, funny, social, amazing person, but he is also incredibly...
    katieheffs katieheffs 26-30 3 Responses Oct 27, 2008

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    Finally Left My Alcoholic Boyfriend...

    I finally left my alcoholic boyfriend for the second time and for goodj. He was so great in the beginning and then we started to live together and I started to see his demons at night. He was o.k. during the day (for the most part), unless he started drinking early, which he...
    GettingThereSoon GettingThereSoon 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Why Bother

    I don't even know why I rush home from work to see him, I'm always hoping he will be waiting for me too. But much to my dismay, find him drunk and passed out at noon.
    Katrenn Katrenn 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    Can't Help Loving Him

    So I have been with my alcoholic boyfriend for the better part of 2.5 years.  We broke up once in June of 2008, but got back together in December (we had both been miserable for the 6 months we'd been apart).  We both tried to date other people, but ultimately found...
    GradGirl81 GradGirl81 26-30 8 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    I Am The Alcoholic

    I was that abusive compulsive active drunk for many years but just over 32 years ago I found help through a great 12 step program I have been clean and sober since.I have turn my life around and live a sober and wonderful life ,for those of you that is on the other side of the...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Mar 19, 2012

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    Cody and I met on Facebook.

    I had broken up with my long term boyfriend of 3 years about 4 months earlier and was tired of going on dates with boys I wasn't interested in just to prove to myself that someone was out there waiting for me. I had known of Cody since I was in middle school (I graduated high...
    sdodson210 sdodson210 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2014

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    I've Reached My Breaking Point

    My boyfriend is an alcoholic of the worst sorts. After being repeatedly let down and disappointed by him on account of his drinking I broke down in tears tonight and pushed out the cliche phrase "It's me or the booze." He's says it's me, but I have my doubts. His heavy drinking...
    ziggycatdust ziggycatdust 22-25, F May 27, 2012

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    Well I've been reading all of your stories on

    here and I think that I am finally ready to tell my story. I have been in a relationship with an alcoholic for about 3.5 years. When I first met him I loved him because he was the life of the party, so much fun to be around and he made me feel so special. It was everything...
    SadGirl2013 SadGirl2013 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    I Want to Move On From My Alcoholic Ex

    A few months ago at the age of 26, I decided to leave my alcoholic ex. We had been together for 10 years and we have an 8 year old son and I am also 4 months pregnant again.  I have been through heel and back over the last year as has my son between chances...
    kerrimunro1982 kerrimunro1982 26-30, F 52 Responses Oct 8, 2008

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    Weekend Binge

    Well after a 2 case weekend binge, finally had enough. Of course everything is my fault, I told him I could not be his savior or his keeper, he had to do that for his self. It really is sad because deep down he is a good person, but when he is drunk I can see the devil in his...
    Katrenn Katrenn 36-40