I Have An Alcoholic Boyfriend

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    My boyfriend and I are just 1 1/2 shy of our 4 year anniversary. The last year has been really stressful, and our relationship hit a bad bump a little over a year ago. Luckily, we could communicate pretty easily back then and we worked through it. Things were getting better, we...
    behindgreeneyes1 behindgreeneyes1
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 21, 2013

    I was in a relationship

    for a little over two years with an alcoholic. His drinking was always present throughout the entirety of the relationship. I had some concern about it but had discussed it with him several times. I had basically told him that his drinking is never to come before the bills...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    6 Responses May 9, 2015

    I am finding it really hard atm!

    My boyfriend goes through a bottle of vodka a night near enough! He's really nasty when he has a drink, and when he doesn't drink which isn't very often he's nasty too cos he's not got a drink ive been with him for 4 years ive gone from one extreme to another from a relationship...
    LiilyPad LiilyPad
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 12, 2015

    ..who just found out he has scar tissue on his

    liver. waiting on blood test to determine if it's cirrhosis or not.
    nakedofaname nakedofaname
    Dec 3, 2015

    12 strong beers tonight.

    He has done a bunch of really messed up stuff tonight. Forgot we were intimate an hour later. Put cookies I made in a plastic bag and microwaved them for minutes... Spilled a lot of stuff everywhere... And said some really whack stuff. :/
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 6, 2015

    My boyfriend and I broke up

    after a 7 year relationship and engagement. Denial. That was the hardest thing for me to move past. I was in complete denial of his drinking. I mean, I knew it was an issue and tried to stop it... But I hid it, I didn't tell a soul. I made it seem like he was such a great guy...
    itsmeeve itsmeeve
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 16, 2015

    Reading these stories lets me know I'm not

    alone. When I met my fiancé he was just getting out of a seven year relationship I thought it was odd that she moved out with 2 kids in diapers when she wasn't working but she had a new boyfriend so I figured they just didn't workout. I knew him when I was younger so the...
    Walkedinblind Walkedinblind
    31-35, F
    1 Response Apr 10, 2014

    It really is amazing how hard you can focus

    and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it really clear how little you care about our nonexistent sex/love life, if you made even half the effort that you have been making for this test...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 12, 2014

    Broken Up Over The Break Up

    I just broke it off with my alcoholic bf of a year. Though it was a long distance relationship, I was closer to him than anyone in my life. We knew each other over ten years ago in college. He partied then, but no worse than anyone else. Well, he never quit drinking, and...
    lmaries lmaries
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Mar 8, 2011

    Cody and I met on Facebook.

    I had broken up with my long term boyfriend of 3 years about 4 months earlier and was tired of going on dates with boys I wasn't interested in just to prove to myself that someone was out there waiting for me. I had known of Cody since I was in middle school (I graduated high...
    sdodson210 sdodson210
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 16, 2014

    He is very loving and caring

    but when he drinks., OMG, he just turn into a totally different person. What do I do?:( I love this guy very much!
    lovelygabby lovelygabby
    31-35, F
    2 Responses May 12, 2014

    Hi im new here... im not the one

    who has an alcohol problem but my boyfriend.. I would like to hear some advice from this forum.. because our relationship is really getting shakey because of his drinking.. He also has an anxiety problem which causes him to drink coz according to him it makes him more relaxed...
    septemberlane septemberlane
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2014

    I met J two years ago

    while I was living in VA. He was at the very beginning of a divorce after a 15 year marriage. Ironically his drinking was not the reason they were divorcing. She became very successful in her job and began having numerous affairs and stopped participating in their marriage. J is...
    MilitaryMomX3 MilitaryMomX3
    51-55, F
    Apr 11, 2014

    This October I will be in a relationship with

    an alcoholic for 5 years. That's if I want to hang in there much longer. Every day I feel like I am hanging on by a thread. I know that what's keeping me with him is our 3 year old daughter. I wish that he would drop his drinking and hanging out with his daughter more. But...
    mellow0522 mellow0522
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 15, 2014

    Soo I am new to this,

    but I need someone to confide in other than everyone who tells me I need to move on. So my boyfriend, who I love and we have been great together for a year.....except when he is drinking. He has gotten a lot better but he would skip work and binge drink all day to the point...
    Youngandhelpless Youngandhelpless
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2015

    Almost 3 Weeks Gone

    This Saturday will be 3 weeks since I left. He lives right across from my house, which makes it so much more difficult, some days are good , some are bad. I cry a lot, I try to keep busy. It hurts me really bad when I'm at home and peak through my window and he is drinking there...
    ggmbq ggmbq
    9 Responses Apr 5, 2012

    Weekend Binge

    Well after a 2 case weekend binge, finally had enough. Of course everything is my fault, I told him I could not be his savior or his keeper, he had to do that for his self. It really is sad because deep down he is a good person, but when he is drunk I can see the devil in his...
    Katrenn Katrenn
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2013

    I met this guy on CL last summer

    and we took things pretty slow. He was transitioning to a new job and I had been trying to recover from being cheated on. We finally decided to make a go of dating in September and overall I have been satisfied with him. I noticed pretty early on that he drank a lot of beer...
    Niccitude Niccitude
    41-45, F
    Feb 19, 2015

    Leaving Someone Who Left You Long Ago

    This is my message to my loved one who chose alcohol over our relationship. It gives me peace writing and sending this to him, but I would be lying if I were to say my concern does not still exist, on a daily basis, out of concern for his well-being. However, I wrote this and...
    NoodleBeanSprout NoodleBeanSprout
    10 Responses Aug 20, 2012

    He says he doesn't like being sober.

    He had a weed problem to. I found out after valentines day I found empty beer bottles in his closet then he says it was from v-day when he never even bought me anything on valentines day and he got paid that day. I feel like I'm not worth the truth. :(
    livefuckingstrong livefuckingstrong
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

    wanna read my story? we met 2.

    5 years ago in the summer. I was just leaving my ex. it wasn't great timing tbh. I had been with my ex for nearly 5 years, I was planning on having more time being single.. but then I met J and fell head over heels pretty quickly. J is a joker, always horsing around or cracking a...
    nakedofaname nakedofaname
    1 Response Nov 28, 2015

    I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago

    when I caught him sneaking vodka. I was never around alcoholics so I didn't realize that his slurred speech, confusing behaviors, and falling asleep on the couch was because he was slamming drinks of vodka from his freezer when I wasn't looking. The worst part is he was driving...
    neeko123 neeko123
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 13, 2014

    Tonight I decided to make slow cooker pork

    chops. About four hours in, I went downstairs and noticed the slow cooker was unplugged and almost room temperature. He swears he didn't do it, claimed maybe it was a ghost, and then refused to call the police when I informed him that it was him or a burgler who broke in just to...
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    Dec 4, 2015

    Yeah... I'm sitting in a drug store parking lot

    because he said we could go to Walmart but once we were driving he said he was too drunk to go anywhere other than the beer store. He doesn't get why I'm upset. But I wanted soil and pots to grow a garden. *sigh*
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    Nov 14, 2015

    Today I came home from vacation

    and find my boyfriend hung over. Im so hurt because he tells me these things he is going to do for me but he doesn't do them. He sets me up and then he doesn't follow through and I am stuck with dealing with disappointment. this isn't something that happens all the time but it...
    some1specialstlaw some1specialstlaw
    31-35, F
    Sep 27, 2015

    It's Time to Let Go

    I never thought I'd find myself in this situation.  I come from a family that suffered from alcoholisim. I know exactly the pain and suffering that one endures when a loved one is addicted to alcohol. So why have I fallen victim to a man who suffers from the very...
    chiquita123 chiquita123
    5 Responses Dec 5, 2008

    I Am The Alcoholic

    I was that abusive compulsive active drunk for many years but just over 32 years ago I found help through a great 12 step program I have been clean and sober since.I have turn my life around and live a sober and wonderful life ,for those of you that is on the other side of the...
    deleted deleted
    Mar 19, 2012

    My boyfriend is an extreme alcoholic

    and I really need someone to talk to about it. None of my friends can relate to it and I'm a completely different person now because of it. It stresses me much I truly feel like I will die early. I need someone who knows what I'm going through.
    brooky0620 brooky0620
    18-21, F
    Aug 13, 2015
    jojom543 jojom543
    36-40, F
    Nov 11, 2014

    I don't want to leave him.

    I have no intentions to. I just don't have the ignorance to leave him with a problem he obviously can't fix on his own. If I were him, I'd want help. Id want somebody to stick by my side and support me, not walk away because of something I can't control. Maybe I'm too nice...
    WeArePilots WeArePilots
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2015

    I've Reached My Breaking Point

    My boyfriend is an alcoholic of the worst sorts. After being repeatedly let down and disappointed by him on account of his drinking I broke down in tears tonight and pushed out the cliche phrase "It's me or the booze." He's says it's me, but I have my doubts. His heavy drinking...
    ziggycatdust ziggycatdust
    22-25, F
    May 27, 2012

    Am I Crazy?

    I am dying for people's advice on this issue. I am a 22 year old dating my best friend of 7 years. We have been together about 2 years. I've been feeling crazy lately, and need some advice. We planned on staying together forever, but now I've been feeling like a breakup is...
    daniellemartine daniellemartine
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Mar 18, 2010

    Just as I figured it took a DWI to get him to

    wake up and realize the jeopardy he was putting us all through. He has kicked me out at 9pm Sunday nights before knowing full well I had no place to go. He's now in an outpatient therapy program and has wised up, still I am having a hard time reconnecting with him. I just have...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 3, 2014

    Depressed because of my alcoholic BF

    I've been with my alcoholic boyfriend for 3 1/2 years now (I'm 27 now and he's 30) and I love him very much but his alcoholism is really taking a toll on my life.  In the beginning everything was good, I didn't really take him seriously because I had just gotten out of a 7...
    MyEuniverse MyEuniverse
    26-30, F
    28 Responses Dec 28, 2008

    We met in rehab. we actually never spoke

    when we were there because it was his first stint and he did whatever the counselors told him. While in rehab i had an immense admiration for this man. It was not till we both graduated that we got together and he took me to a Haunted House. It bothers me because the day we...
    tbates3 tbates3
    May 7, 2014

    Finally Left My Alcoholic Boyfriend...

    I finally left my alcoholic boyfriend for the second time and for goodj. He was so great in the beginning and then we started to live together and I started to see his demons at night. He was o.k. during the day (for the most part), unless he started drinking early, which he...
    GettingThereSoon GettingThereSoon
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Feb 1, 2012

    I Am Finding the Strength to Move On

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just broke up over the weekend.  He is an alcoholic.  He won't admit it, but he is.  He drank because he was happy or sad or depressed or because he was drunk and wanted to get drunker or because he was sober and wanted to be drunk...
    kris12222 kris12222
    8 Responses Jun 2, 2009

    Thanks Ya'll.....

    I just have to say that when I read and re-read all these entries, I feel that it reconfirms that I have done the correct thing by leaving my high functioning alcoholic boyfriend, I mean ex. I am now open to the possibilities of meeting new people in the future, and am waiting...
    GettingThereSoon GettingThereSoon
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2012

    And it's his birthday

    and he got mad at his phone and threw it, smashing the screen. Wonder how much of that he'll remember tomorrow... :/ That phone is less than 2 months old.
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    Dec 16, 2015

    Life After An Alcoholic Relationship

     I was married to my second alcoholic for 16 years, I was going to stick with him for better or worse, he was/is going to AA for few years  but was relapsing every 6-9 months, few times during our marriage I left him, he told me he will change to come back etc, etc so...
    urbff170 urbff170
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 22, 2012

    I Want to Move On From My Alcoholic Ex

    A few months ago at the age of 26, I decided to leave my alcoholic ex. We had been together for 10 years and we have an 8 year old son and I am also 4 months pregnant again.  I have been through heel and back over the last year as has my son between chances...
    kerrimunro1982 kerrimunro1982
    26-30, F
    52 Responses Oct 8, 2008

    If my partner has to drink 6 cans a night does

    this mean he's a alcoholic ? When I got into a relationship with him I didn't realise that he drank every night . I wasn't brought up around drink so it's a whole different world to me . He works hard all day so I thought he just likes to home and have a few drinks . But I...
    becky10002 becky10002
    36-40, F
    1 Response May 14, 2014

    He's so angry right now.

    Anyone know how to calm a drunk guy down??
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Feb 16, 2016

    I feel so tired of having the same

    conversations with my bf. His father is an alcoholic and his family easily abuses alcohol. In the past when we discuss his drinking habits (takes shots alone, gets so drunk on weekday and weekend nights he forgets whole conversations or things he does/said, promises he can't...
    Rox21HL Rox21HL
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 27, 2015

    He Doesn' Think He's a Alcoholic..

    I've been with my boyfriend for years, and he's always drank and smoked pot, but it's gotten increasingly worse. He has all the signs of an alcoholic but I don't know how to break it to him. He's failed college classes because of his drinking, he's been fired from 3 jobs because...
    Gambit4 Gambit4
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 26, 2009

    I just would like support,

    and hear everyone else's experioence so I can have help leaving him
    Krot12 Krot12
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 7, 2015

    Why Bother

    I don't even know why I rush home from work to see him, I'm always hoping he will be waiting for me too. But much to my dismay, find him drunk and passed out at noon.
    Katrenn Katrenn
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

    i currently have an alcoholic boyfriend

    that i can take no longer.. its time for me to finally run........what i should have done years ago. its just tough and hard when you love this person and you have hope and hold one to those VERY FEW sober happy moements you have with them specially the day after they are done...
    Latinheat123 Latinheat123
    5 Responses Apr 16, 2015

    Can't Help Loving Him

    So I have been with my alcoholic boyfriend for the better part of 2.5 years.  We broke up once in June of 2008, but got back together in December (we had both been miserable for the 6 months we'd been apart).  We both tried to date other people, but ultimately found...
    GradGirl81 GradGirl81
    8 Responses Apr 20, 2009

    My Story Is Your Story - Addicted To The Addict

      It's been over 2 years and I'm still here, dealing with the same situation, same drama, same person who has not changed despite repeated efforts with a harm reduction counselor, AA, and an addiction specialist. I've told his family, his friends, anyone who would listen...
    opumpkin opumpkin
    31-35, F
    7 Responses Nov 18, 2009

    Not Sure...

    Hello all Well, here goes.  I think my boyfriend is an alcoholic, and i see a lot of patterns in other parts of his life that confuse and confound me. We met 2.5 years ago.  He is more than 20 years older, a charmer, a real sweet person most of the time.  I have...
    TroubleInDeCamp TroubleInDeCamp
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jul 6, 2010

    Alcoholic Bf Is Making Me Lose My Mind!

    My story is a bit lengthy but I think I will feel so much better to just get it out of my heart and out in the open. Maybe I will receive some good advice. I was going through my divorce, moved into my own house and met a man who lives 3 doors down from me. I was hurting and he...
    emcbutterchic emcbutterchic
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

    He's off to get another box of beer.

    I HATE THIS. He has 45 dollars left to his name this week. And he only worked 3 days last week because he went to work and blew a 0.023, and he's so angry that he got suspended. So yeah. 0 rent saved up and off you go for beer. SMART.
    prettyprude prettyprude
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 6, 2015
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