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I Have An Alcoholic Boyfriend

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    He says he doesn't like being sober.

    He had a weed problem to. I found out after valentines day I found empty beer bottles in his closet then he says it was from v-day when he never even bought me anything on valentines day and he got paid that day. I feel like I'm not worth the truth. :(
    livefuckingstrong livefuckingstrong 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

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    Can't Help Loving Him

    So I have been with my alcoholic boyfriend for the better part of 2.5 years.  We broke up once in June of 2008, but got back together in December (we had both been miserable for the 6 months we'd been apart).  We both tried to date other people, but ultimately found...
    GradGirl81 GradGirl81 26-30 8 Responses Apr 20, 2009

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    I Am Finding the Strength to Move On

    My boyfriend of 2 1/2 years and I just broke up over the weekend.  He is an alcoholic.  He won't admit it, but he is.  He drank because he was happy or sad or depressed or because he was drunk and wanted to get drunker or because he was sober and wanted to be drunk...
    kris12222 kris12222 26-30 8 Responses Jun 2, 2009

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    jojom543 jojom543 36-40, F Nov 11, 2014

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    He is very loving and caring

    but when he drinks., OMG, he just turn into a totally different person. What do I do?:( I love this guy very much!
    lovelygabby lovelygabby 26-30, F 2 Responses May 12, 2014

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    I've Reached My Breaking Point

    My boyfriend is an alcoholic of the worst sorts. After being repeatedly let down and disappointed by him on account of his drinking I broke down in tears tonight and pushed out the cliche phrase "It's me or the booze." He's says it's me, but I have my doubts. His heavy drinking...
    ziggycatdust ziggycatdust 22-25, F May 27, 2012

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    Almost 3 Weeks Gone

    This Saturday will be 3 weeks since I left. He lives right across from my house, which makes it so much more difficult, some days are good , some are bad. I cry a lot, I try to keep busy. It hurts me really bad when I'm at home and peak through my window and he is drinking there...
    ggmbq ggmbq 31-35 10 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    It really is amazing how hard you can focus

    and how much effort you can put forth, when working on something that's important to you, that you truly care about. It also makes it really clear how little you care about our nonexistent sex/love life, if you made even half the effort that you have been making for this test...
    princessmaryjane4200 princessmaryjane4200 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 12, 2014

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    Am I Crazy?

    I am dying for people's advice on this issue. I am a 22 year old dating my best friend of 7 years. We have been together about 2 years. I've been feeling crazy lately, and need some advice. We planned on staying together forever, but now I've been feeling like a breakup is...
    daniellemartine daniellemartine 22-25, F 9 Responses Mar 18, 2010

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    Why Bother

    I don't even know why I rush home from work to see him, I'm always hoping he will be waiting for me too. But much to my dismay, find him drunk and passed out at noon.
    Katrenn Katrenn 36-40, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2013

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    It's Time to Let Go

    I never thought I'd find myself in this situation.  I come from a family that suffered from alcoholisim. I know exactly the pain and suffering that one endures when a loved one is addicted to alcohol. So why have I fallen victim to a man who suffers from the very...
    chiquita123 chiquita123 36-40 5 Responses Dec 5, 2008

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    My Story Is Your Story - Addicted To The Addict

      It's been over 2 years and I'm still here, dealing with the same situation, same drama, same person who has not changed despite repeated efforts with a harm reduction counselor, AA, and an addiction specialist. I've told his family, his friends, anyone who would listen...
    opumpkin opumpkin 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 18, 2009

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    Just Need to Put It Out There

    i just googled alcoholic boyfriend and this is where it brought me. i have been dating my boyfriend only a short time, six months, about as long as we've known each other. he is 9 years older than me and he is a caring, funny, social, amazing person, but he is also incredibly...
    katieheffs katieheffs 26-30 3 Responses Oct 27, 2008

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    I met this guy on CL last summer

    and we took things pretty slow. He was transitioning to a new job and I had been trying to recover from being cheated on. We finally decided to make a go of dating in September and overall I have been satisfied with him. I noticed pretty early on that he drank a lot of beer...
    Niccitude Niccitude 36-40, F Feb 19

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    Soo I am new to this,

    but I need someone to confide in other than everyone who tells me I need to move on. So my boyfriend, who I love and we have been great together for a year.....except when he is drinking. He has gotten a lot better but he would skip work and binge drink all day to the point...
    Youngandhelpless Youngandhelpless 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Alcoholic Bf Is Making Me Lose My Mind!

    My story is a bit lengthy but I think I will feel so much better to just get it out of my heart and out in the open. Maybe I will receive some good advice. I was going through my divorce, moved into my own house and met a man who lives 3 doors down from me. I was hurting and he...
    emcbutterchic emcbutterchic 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 22, 2012

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    Continued.. So now my boyfriend starts seeing a

    psychiatrist. I think I maybe have put psychologist in my last post but it was a psychiatrist. Anyway, I started feeling hopeful again. He had been off of any kind of pill for a while except the few Xanax the hospital gave him. His psychiatrist diagnosed him with depression and...
    Beth0888 Beth0888 26-30, F Mar 3, 2014

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    Well I've been reading all of your stories on

    here and I think that I am finally ready to tell my story. I have been in a relationship with an alcoholic for about 3.5 years. When I first met him I loved him because he was the life of the party, so much fun to be around and he made me feel so special. It was everything...
    SadGirl2013 SadGirl2013 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 22, 2014

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    Looking For The Light At The End Of The Tunnel

    My boyfriend and I have been together for almost 3 years now. When I met him I knew that he had struggled with aderol addiction in the past but had been able to stop on his own. When we started dating, I was finishing my bachelors degree and was going to move out of state after...
    livnluv livnluv 18-21, F Oct 3, 2013

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    If my partner has to drink 6 cans a night does

    this mean he's a alcoholic ? When I got into a relationship with him I didn't realise that he drank every night . I wasn't brought up around drink so it's a whole different world to me . He works hard all day so I thought he just likes to home and have a few drinks . But I...
    becky10002 becky10002 31-35, F 1 Response May 14, 2014

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    Slowly Realized He Is An Alcoholic.....

    After 5yrs. of dating lots of men, I finally met a man I actually could fall in love with.  Instant connection!  He is everything I want in a man.  Well after 6mths. of dating I slowly figured out he is an alcoholic.  I'm no...
    casey63 casey63 41-45 3 Responses Apr 3, 2009

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    Boyfriend is recovering,

    and has been for 3 years, but he still has control issues and can be manipulative. He keeps me under constant watch, this is no way to live and I'm growing tired of this very fast. He is sweet and he means well but sometimes his emotions get the better of him
    CaseyAlyssa CaseyAlyssa 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2014

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    Thanks Ya'll.....

    I just have to say that when I read and re-read all these entries, I feel that it reconfirms that I have done the correct thing by leaving my high functioning alcoholic boyfriend, I mean ex. I am now open to the possibilities of meeting new people in the future, and am waiting...
    GettingThereSoon GettingThereSoon 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2012

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    Well, he's made it one month sober.

    Its been a difficult road for him and i know its been a struggle. Id be lying if I said I wasn't proud of him. I would also be lying if I said I didnt miss the drunk him. A lot. While its been one month of sober, Its also been one month of no replies to texts unless its a...
    Skweeek Skweeek 26-30, F 3 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Finally Escaped From An Alcoholic

    I was with a guy for six months. When sober, you couldn't ask for anything better. He is kind, loving, generous and would do anything for me, but when drunk he was a completely different person. He didn't get drunk every night, but rather would just have a couple of drinks each...
    DeeDee1811 DeeDee1811 51-55, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Not Sure...

    Hello all Well, here goes.  I think my boyfriend is an alcoholic, and i see a lot of patterns in other parts of his life that confuse and confound me. We met 2.5 years ago.  He is more than 20 years older, a charmer, a real sweet person most of the time.  I have...
    TroubleInDeCamp TroubleInDeCamp 31-35, F 4 Responses Jul 6, 2010

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    Weekend Binge

    Well after a 2 case weekend binge, finally had enough. Of course everything is my fault, I told him I could not be his savior or his keeper, he had to do that for his self. It really is sad because deep down he is a good person, but when he is drunk I can see the devil in his...
    Katrenn Katrenn 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 26, 2013

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    I met J two years ago

    while I was living in VA. He was at the very beginning of a divorce after a 15 year marriage. Ironically his drinking was not the reason they were divorcing. She became very successful in her job and began having numerous affairs and stopped participating in their marriage. J is...
    MilitaryMomX3 MilitaryMomX3 51-55, F Apr 11, 2014

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    How Do I Be There For Him?

    I've read a lot of stories on here of people with the same issue, in the basic sense. But most stories consist of "he's a great guy until he starts drinking, then he's a jerk". Mine is different.When he's drinking, he's fun. He's silly. He's sweet and adorable. We have so much...
    Skweeek Skweeek 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 23, 2013

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    Beginning Of The End

    Next month it'll be our 3 year anniversary. I don't believe that we'll make to the end of the year. Now either thing between us has gotten worse, or the light is shining brightly on this situation. There have been times in the last few months where he has gotten drunk on...
    superlady2287 superlady2287 22-25, F 3 Responses May 3, 2010

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    i currently have an alcoholic boyfriend

    that i can take no longer.. its time for me to finally run........what i should have done years ago. its just tough and hard when you love this person and you have hope and hold one to those VERY FEW sober happy moements you have with them specially the day after they are done...
    Latinheat123 Latinheat123 26-30 3 Responses Apr 16

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    Reading these stories lets me know I'm not

    alone. When I met my fiancé he was just getting out of a seven year relationship I thought it was odd that she moved out with 2 kids in diapers when she wasn't working but she had a new boyfriend so I figured they just didn't workout. I knew him when I was younger so the...
    Walkedinblind Walkedinblind 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 10, 2014

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    Broken Up Over The Break Up

    I just broke it off with my alcoholic bf of a year. Though it was a long distance relationship, I was closer to him than anyone in my life. We knew each other over ten years ago in college. He partied then, but no worse than anyone else. Well, he never quit drinking, and...
    lmaries lmaries 26-30, F 12 Responses Mar 8, 2011

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    Just as I figured it took a DWI to get him to

    wake up and realize the jeopardy he was putting us all through. He has kicked me out at 9pm Sunday nights before knowing full well I had no place to go. He's now in an outpatient therapy program and has wised up, still I am having a hard time reconnecting with him. I just have...
    W4W2 W4W2 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 3, 2014

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    So my bf is a violent drunk.

    .. we have a 3.5 month old son. The drinking was supposed to stop before our son was born. And then it was supposed to stop when he was born, but instead its gotten worse. He got wasted the night he was born and comes back into the hospital room wasted and fighting w me. And then...
    kayden2013 kayden2013 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 13, 2014

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    Confused

    My boyfriend and I are just 1 1/2 shy of our 4 year anniversary. The last year has been really stressful, and our relationship hit a bad bump a little over a year ago. Luckily, we could communicate pretty easily back then and we worked through it. Things were getting better, we...
    behindgreeneyes1 behindgreeneyes1 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 21, 2013

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    Having lots of trouble letting go.

    ... We broke up suddenly, then he started contacting me, and I felt honored.... I'm sure my self esteem is part of this, but I didn't think it was that bad!!! He was so sick from drinking, so isolated, then just robot cold- he manipulates- He'll use anyone, to cover up drinking...
    Misshimmary Misshimmary 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 9, 2014

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    I broke up with my boyfriend a few weeks ago

    when I caught him sneaking vodka. I was never around alcoholics so I didn't realize that his slurred speech, confusing behaviors, and falling asleep on the couch was because he was slamming drinks of vodka from his freezer when I wasn't looking. The worst part is he was driving...
    neeko123 neeko123 26-30, F 1 Response May 13, 2014

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    We met in rehab. we actually never spoke

    when we were there because it was his first stint and he did whatever the counselors told him. While in rehab i had an immense admiration for this man. It was not till we both graduated that we got together and he took me to a Haunted House. It bothers me because the day we...
    tbates3 tbates3 31-35 May 7, 2014

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    I Want to Move On From My Alcoholic Ex

    A few months ago at the age of 26, I decided to leave my alcoholic ex. We had been together for 10 years and we have an 8 year old son and I am also 4 months pregnant again.  I have been through heel and back over the last year as has my son between chances...
    kerrimunro1982 kerrimunro1982 26-30, F 52 Responses Oct 8, 2008

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    I don't know what to do at this point.

    I have been in a relationship for a short period of time; however, I am in my mid twenties and feel like this relationship has been more than I could ever imagine for myself (apart from my boyfriends drinking habits). I feel myself actually slipping into his habits and have been...
    charstar24 charstar24 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 13, 2014

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    Leaving Someone Who Left You Long Ago

    This is my message to my loved one who chose alcohol over our relationship. It gives me peace writing and sending this to him, but I would be lying if I were to say my concern does not still exist, on a daily basis, out of concern for his well-being. However, I wrote this and...
    NoodleBeanSprout NoodleBeanSprout 31-35 9 Responses Aug 20, 2012

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    Cody and I met on Facebook.

    I had broken up with my long term boyfriend of 3 years about 4 months earlier and was tired of going on dates with boys I wasn't interested in just to prove to myself that someone was out there waiting for me. I had known of Cody since I was in middle school (I graduated high...
    sdodson210 sdodson210 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 16, 2014

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    Finally Left My Alcoholic Boyfriend...

    I finally left my alcoholic boyfriend for the second time and for goodj. He was so great in the beginning and then we started to live together and I started to see his demons at night. He was o.k. during the day (for the most part), unless he started drinking early, which he...
    GettingThereSoon GettingThereSoon 36-40, F 5 Responses Feb 1, 2012

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    Continued.. Things have gotten better

    since he was released the last time from the hospital. He has pretty much stuck to beer, which makes things more bearable, but it's still a roller coaster ride. My biggest battle at the moment is with this psychiatrist. I know he lies to her and manipulates her, and he...
    Beth0888 Beth0888 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 3, 2014

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    Hi im new here... im not the one

    who has an alcohol problem but my boyfriend.. I would like to hear some advice from this forum.. because our relationship is really getting shakey because of his drinking.. He also has an anxiety problem which causes him to drink coz according to him it makes him more relaxed...
    septemberlane septemberlane 36-40 1 Response Sep 2, 2014

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