I Have An Alcoholic Father

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 562 People

    I'm actually pretty good at hide-and-seek.

    Mainly because I've gotten good at staying quiet and stepping carefully and squeezing into tight spaces due to avoiding drunk fathers. Does anyone else like small, dark spaces for this reason? Like its so comforting, being in space that only you can fit into and no one else can...
    baabara baabara
    22-25, M
    Apr 2, 2015

    he drinks alot of beers

    and smacks me
    PuffyCunt PuffyCunt
    36-40, T
    Feb 23, 2016

    I feel like i dont even have a dad anymore.

    Every single day (unless we have guests staying over) Hes never home.hes out a pubs or foodcourts 24'7 drinking and drinking.and when he is home hes passed out on the sofa.My family has money problems and my dads just making things worse.He can get really angry about the smallest...
    ririmaria ririmaria
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 31, 2014

    My father is the reason I have never,

    and will never touch a drop of alcohol in my life. But occasionally I consider getting drunk and acting out in front of him, just so he can see how it effects us.
    kalila37 kalila37
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 4, 2014

    Had An Awesome Day And Then Something Happened..

    We went out for my mother's birthday to a really nice funpark. I kinda helped with organizing and such, it was really awesome. Even my girlfriend was there, which was really nice :) But when we got home in the evening, one of our neighbours was complaining about the whining...
    RomanticRainbow RomanticRainbow
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 16, 2013

    Functioning Alcoholic

    Its weird to say straight out that my dad is an alcoholic because he doesnt act like one...in public anyway.  He has a job that he goes to everyday, he is always there for us, his family, whenever we need it, he has never been abusive, had a drunken rage etc...which is what...
    Megalomaniac Megalomaniac
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Dec 21, 2007

    I am an ACoA. My father is a highly functioning

    alcoholic, but he claims to have been sober for about four months now. Honestly, I don't really know whether to believe him or not because we haven't had much of a relationship over the past few years. When I was little, I was able to overlook his drinking. He never hit me, or...
    todayimactuallyme todayimactuallyme
    18-21, F
    Feb 24, 2016

    I was originally typing in songs about

    alcaholic fathers. I came across this website. I looked at all the comments here and it flooded my heart that there are so many. My dad is an alcaholic because of me. I am killing him as I write this. He is in the hospital, liver failure. Not sure how i feel. My dad did not...
    Leggs713 Leggs713
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2014

    21 Years And I Still Don't Think I Know You...

    My father has been an alcoholic my whole life. My earliest memories are of him being wasted yelling obscenities at my mom, hitting her, pushing her, choking her, throwing things and breaking things, screaming...my sister (who's five years older than me) would bring me into her...
    lovethejourney lovethejourney
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 1, 2010

    On The Verge Of Hate

    I'm 14 years years old. I've read lots of stories on this site and my story seems like a tiny ash along side a bon-fire. I've moved 12 times and 10 different schools, lots of houses. You can imagine what that does to a kid. That's not the start of it all. My Dad is a bi-polar...
    Chelsea993 Chelsea993
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jun 2, 2013

    In Jail

    I had an alchoholic Father who treated me and my mother terribly. Wasnt much of a dad if you ask me. My mom always said he was more of a big brother to me than anything else. I found that true as the years past. I mostly took care of him. I have memories of being little coming in...
    Apaintosee Apaintosee
    18-21, F
    Sep 9, 2012

    Dear Dad: Your Alcoholism Almost Destroyed Me...

    .                                                  ...as i sit here while the world flows like water around me,its as if i'm not moving at all....as a child i experienced many heart aches,i dont even know where to begin so i'll try to list them in order 1...
    CraziiBeautiful CraziiBeautiful
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Feb 8, 2013

    I really do love my father,

    and I am very grateful for everything he has done for me, but alcoholism has destroyed him. He is no longer my loving father. Instead, he is a terrifying, abusive man who drinks Vodka as though it is water.
    SomeCyrillicGuy SomeCyrillicGuy
    18-21, M
    5 Responses Jun 11, 2014

    My Dad Drinks

    My parents are divorced and I use to to live with my mom but just recently moved in with my dad. I barely visited my dad even though he lives a city over from my mom. As soon as I moved in, i remembered why i never came. I knew my dad drank on weekends , and when he did he will...
    blossom2316 blossom2316
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 4, 2012

    It's Pretty Much Public Knowledge

    I would like to come out and say that my dad never beat me or abused me. Now that that is out of the way, he is an alcoholic. I guess he has been for my whole life, but I really didn't notice till about 6 years ago. He drinks to cope. Things are not easy for him. He dislikes...
    TheEvilLeaper TheEvilLeaper
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Mar 18, 2010

    I Cant Blame My Father Or Me.. Only The Alcohol....

    My father has been a alcoholic way before i was even born. Every single night my dad would come home from work, sit on his couch, have my mother wait on him hand and foot, drink at least 6 or 7 of his LARGE cup (in one of these cups there was about 3 and a half regular sized...
    Amber6288 Amber6288
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 29, 2013

    My father is the epitome of Frank Gallagher

    from Shameless. He is that crazy drunk uncle everyone has, only he's my father..
    whoabettywhoa whoabettywhoa
    31-35, F
    Mar 20, 2015

    My Dad

    Sure was cold to walk to school every morning in the winter time when he got his DUI. Of course he said he wasn't drunk that his bad leg was why he couldn't walk the straight line, and even after he didn't pass the breath test he said he wasn't drunk, or in bad shape. Still...
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    Mar 18, 2010

    Dear Daddy, I Miss You So Much

    My family has always been my everything, what was most important to me. My father was an amazing dad, and I have never blamed him for the person alcohol made him become. He was definitely a huge role in my life. I remember when I was younger, he always allowed my little sister...
    deleted deleted
    Dec 16, 2012

    I Consider Myself a Very Lucky Daughter

      For some people this would undoubtedly be a terrible thing.  Alcoholism causes many, many problems… violence, mistrust, humiliation, even death.  I do not in any way wish to minimize the dreadful impact this disease has on people.  However, I will...
    SaratogaGirl SaratogaGirl
    26-30, F
    22 Responses Feb 20, 2009

    age 3: the road lines weave in

    and out; I can't help but to imagine they are playing a game with me. age 5: I love playing tag with other cars! as long as we aren't going too fast! age 7: I hate leaving the pub this late on a school night. surely I will get in trouble for falling asleep during math. age 9: I...
    mommashelper mommashelper
    1 Response May 26, 2015

    Every. Damn. Night. He's drunk all the time.

    I love going to parties and having fun, but he ruins it. I hate it. I used to really love my dad, but I can't when he's drunk and stupid. Mom threatens him that we'll leave him. He doesn't care. He says he'll change. It lasts for about a day and he's back to the beer. A few more...
    Cowgirl6140 Cowgirl6140
    18-21, F
    Jul 14, 2014

    I was in my father 70 year old birthday.

    It was many adults people in the same age as him. They drank a lot alcohol and I started to get some flashbacks to my childhood. I have now in tree week struggle with an bad feeling and I cry a lot. I will get some appointment with one psychologist and talk about it. I need too...
    deleted deleted
    May 24, 2015
    jbear02 jbear02
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2016

    Scared On My Own Dad.

    when i was younger i was next door at my friends house..i even told him we were gonna be there. and my dad flipped out on me and screamed at me [[he was drunk of course]] and than he was yellin tellin me to get in the house and clean so i walked in there to clean and he thought i...
    ColesOneandonly18 ColesOneandonly18
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Apr 23, 2009

    one would think that

    after 20 years of dealing with an alcoholic dad; I'd get used to it. THIS is far from the truth. today I took my dad to go buy him a washer and dryer set. a 30 mile round trip turned into three hours of weaving and winding to dead end streets. he wasn't even driving this time! I...
    mommashelper mommashelper
    May 26, 2015

    Hi, I am the daughter of an alcoholic father.

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    pmthompson pmthompson
    22-25, F
    Sep 21, 2015

    God, I hate him. Fifteen: years I've been alive

    and living with him Ten: The number of birthdays he has ruined (that's just mine alone- he has ruined Christmas, New Year's Eve, and everyone else's birthdays too) Five: How old I was when I saw him attack my mother Zero: my tolerance level When I was younger, I thought he was...
    Missgraycey Missgraycey
    16-17, F
    Dec 1, 2015

    I've been home about 8 minutes,

    and I'm already crying. I have been screamed at, and called a "little *****"... already. thanks dad.
    mandax3 mandax3
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    My dad was drunk and he was going to drive

    and I think I was going to let him. I hate myself so much but I'm sixteen and I'm afraid of drunk people. My sister and brother helped me convince to stay home. No one ever talk about this **** at my house except for me and my sister.
    baabara baabara
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 19, 2015

    Can'T Stop

    my father drinks every single weekend,holiday,event,basically anytime he has a chance. He puts down my brothers,my mother and me saying that we're all stupid and not capable of doing anything....Recently it became even worse...My mother never did anything because she was always...
    remi23 remi23
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 28, 2013

    Recovering From A Long 5 Years...

    my mother left my father when i was 17, my dad seemed strong on the outside and we were doing fine but it wasnt until dinner was no longer being cooked and he started missing more and more days of work that i noticed this isnt my dad. i found a bunch of beer cans out in the shed...
    raychelly raychelly
    22-25, F
    May 30, 2012

    Dear Dad:

    I have had an awareness, since I was a young child, that you are a flawed human being. I realized that you were dysfunctional and were no different from everyone else in the world, unlike my siblings, who still believe you are some god to be placed on a pedistal. You did the...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 19, 2013

    Dearest Daddy

    This is the first story I have written on this site.  I feel like this is the biggest defining factor in who I was, who I am, and who I am becoming. I can't remember a single instance in my life where my father didn't have a can of bud light in his hand.  I can't...
    Truli Truli
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 1, 2010

    His Struggle Made Our Bond Stronger

    My dad is an alcoholic and has been sober for almost 2 decades. I was very little and my parents had just gotten divorced when he went into recovery. I know I am extremely lucky because many children of parents with drug addictions end up abused or traumatized. My dad has...
    LaurusAzorica LaurusAzorica
    18-21, F
    Jun 30, 2009

    I Am 15 Years Old.

    For years as I child I never understood why my dad could be so caring, and involved in my life...to then transform into the kind of person you'd never want to see/talk to or hear from again. But I got older, and my knowledge of life and its bitter substances grew. My dad is an...
    InnocentDreamer InnocentDreamer
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 12, 2013

    Dad is not doing so well.

    He is not a violent or bothersome drunk thankfully, but he is almost out of touch with reality. It is like living with someone who has dementia.
    kathleenea kathleenea
    Aug 17, 2014


    I'm 22 years old, and grew up with both parents being alcoholics. My home life from early on was pretty unstable, as my mother became an unstable, hostile, violent drunk whereas my father was the functioning alcoholic- going to work every day and ensuring we were looked after...
    Skye007 Skye007
    26-30, F
    1 Response Nov 29, 2013

    My dad's an alcoholic,

    when he's drunk he blames my mum for things that are either his fault or things that are simply no one's fault. He doesn't abuse her physically, but he says rude and mean things, like "You're useless to me" and things like that, when she should be the one saying those things...
    sbaecahra sbaecahra
    1 Response Nov 16, 2014

    The Drunken Years

    I never really noticed his drinking until I was eleven. We'd had a picnic indoors because it was raining outside and as evening fell, we decided to put some Beatles music on and dance to 'Yellow Submarine'. I danced like crazy, but eventually fell down onto a chair in...
    Meeoko Meeoko
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 20, 2010

    So, my story: my dad drank every day of my life.

    He wasn't abusive in the physical or emotional sense really, although he did say some hurtful things. Mostly he was just completely withdrawn. Although I lived with him my entire life until adulthood, we hardly had any relationship. Two years ago, I decided I couldn't take the...
    RikkiDF RikkiDF
    26-30, F
    Dec 16, 2014

    Its hard to admit that my father is an

    alcoholic, i don't know why it's so hard for me to admit that when he has no problem admitting that he is an alcoholic. I just wish i could open up and admit this to my friends but all they see is the cover up he shows every one when we are in public. I feel like i can't talk to...
    Confusedgirl16 Confusedgirl16
    18-21, F
    Mar 14, 2015

    A Hit and Run Saved the Day.

    My father is an alcoholic and has been ever since I can remember.  He is also very proud.  He worked probably until 2 oclock each day, but spent until 6 in the bars.  He came home every night trying to pick fights, belligerently screaming, and treating my mom like...
    lookitscaiti lookitscaiti
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Sep 21, 2007

    I HAD An Alcoholic Father

    My father was an alcoholic. I watched him destroy his life while I taught myself how to live mine properly. He was abusive, physically, emotionally. I was worthless to him. I was the second child that should have been the second son he could have played pass with in the backyard...
    ThatOneDame ThatOneDame
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 24, 2013

    Drunk again, oh what's new to be honest locked

    myself into my room now, I can only hear his voice time to turn up my headphones!
    vanivoo vanivoo
    18-21, F
    Jul 25, 2014

    On a long list of things

    that was wrong with my childhood; my father being an alcoholic is kinda low on the list, but worth a mention. He's never been physically abusive, just never there for me. My parents separated when I was five. We had a few nice weekends together from time to time. I've gotten to...
    Cookie32 Cookie32
    31-35, F
    Oct 27, 2015

    My Dad Is So Much More Than An Alcoholic

    So this one is hard, but my dad has just returned home from three weeks at rehab. I was asked to send an email to his group counsellor about how his drinking has affected me, and I thought it would spur me to write something here since that's sort of the point of this site. The...
    BarvoDelancy BarvoDelancy
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Aug 5, 2012

    My Father (another Confession Story)

    My father is a lovely man. He is caring, loving, and kind hearted. He is one of the few people who I can lean on. However, he is an alcoholic. No father is perfect.. no one is perfect for that matter but, sometimes it really gets to me.He gets drunk every night.. because of his...
    FreshBeginning FreshBeginning
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2012

    How can I get him Help?

    I can't afford to move out.. but I emotionally can't stay at home. my dad has never been a dad, he just makes money for the family. He has never been to one of my performances, Dance recitals, never gone anywhere with me. he just yells at me and my family blaming us for the...
    appleof5 appleof5
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 11, 2014

    My dad drank enough through out his life that

    now he basically has dementia. He deprived his brain of vitamin B-1 too long, and even though the hospital and nursing him have been giving him mega doses of it, he'll never actually be okay again. Back when I was a freshman in high school, my parents split up. My mom moved in...
    SillySkySky SillySkySky
    22-25, F
    Feb 22, 2016

    had a alcoholic father he died April 13 2013

    after 8 a month battle with cancer. he never abused me or my siblings physically more mentally that and he never wanted to spent time with his kids it was give them money to show love. but I would give anything to have him living again idk why he never was there well he was...
    PanHead1989 PanHead1989
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2015

    I remember this one time

    when I was like 7, my dad came home super drunk and he started breaking our stairs and punching holes through the wall. And I was with my mom watching him, and at one point he and I made eye contact and he threw a piece of the stair at me and my mom pushed me away so it didn't...
    Lanigga15 Lanigga15
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    My Drunk Father

    My father's been drinking since I was quite young, and started regularly drinking heavily by the time I was in my teens.  I moved out as soon as I could and left the city because I couldn't stand to watch.  He has continued to drink.  He has been very successful professionally...
    Iamsotiredofthis Iamsotiredofthis
    Apr 30, 2012

    Ughh why do people drink to make them feel

    better will he is alcoholic the fridge had a 12 or 24 pack and I hate seeing that their smh whatever used to it 😔
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 23, 2016

    I Had An Alcoholic Father

    yes growing up with a alcoholic father was hard for me i was always being picked on by him and as i got older we had many fist fights the abuse i believe triggered my ocd and anxiety i was taught to fight so i never ran fom a fight but i never started one he expected a lot out of...
    mycuzinvinni mycuzinvinni
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 11, 2012

    I'm 26 and in a serious relationship.

    Lately my boyfriend and I have been discussing our future such as if marriage is in the future and children etc. I am so happy but part of me isn't because I won't have anyone to walk me down the isle. My father is am alcoholic and over the years growing up he has shown up to...
    imwonderwoman imwonderwoman
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 5, 2014

    I hate that I have to put the word "alcoholic"

    in front of my father. I had a wonderful father growing up! He was hard working, supportive, open minded, and hardly ever drank. He was a workaholic that did everything for his family! Then when I was 16, my parents divorced and I was happy. They hadnt been happy for a long...
    teresa929 teresa929
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 4, 2014
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