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I Have An Alcoholic Mother

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    I'm new on here, It was

    either this or counselling..as I'm struggling to deal with an alcoholic mother who I've always been incredibly close to, but who is basically killing herself, and it's breaking my heart.If anyone's in a similar situation I'd love to hear from you as it's a comfort to talk to...
    kittyring kittyring 41-45, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    So Much Pain

    Ok this is really hard for me to write. I have never told anyone about my mom and only my family knows she drinks. It hurts me so much because when I was little I didn't understand she was drunk until one night. I was sleeping with her cause I was scared (I was only about 7 at...
    CuzzyWillWin CuzzyWillWin 13-15, F 5 Responses Oct 29, 2013

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    Who's The Child?

    I feel like I am the mother whenever I visit my mom. I'm the one to show her the way, explain how things work, try to calm her down, answer questions that I thought were obvious. She's an alcoholic, and probably stopped developing mentally/ emotionally after the time she started...
    blindmelonade blindmelonade 18-21 Jul 10, 2013

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    I Cant Forgive Her...

    I am 23 years old, I am a mother of two boys and I have one on the way. I was teen mom and I married my babies father and we are happy together. I have this family but I don't have my mother... I haven't talked to my mom for 2 years. my second son was 3 months old and that was...
    vicnvic09 vicnvic09 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 19, 2013

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    My Momma

    For as long as i can remember my mom has had a sever drinking problem. So much so that i and my father have realized that she is an alcoholic. I don't recall a time where i have ever seen my mom sober for more than a few hours, and it is really starting to get to me. When she...
    southernbelle686 southernbelle686 22-25 5 Responses May 8, 2009

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    My Drunk Mum

    Coming to this site, reading some of your guys posts has really made me look at her. Yes she is not as bad, yes she is not as embarassing etc. But still my mother gets drunk probably 5 outta 7 days...she does the whole "i am sad" "i am lonely". My father gives...
    Rednik Rednik 22-25, M 2 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    My Hero, My Former Alcoholic Mother.

    All my life up until last year, I always had something to hide. My mother was a heavy heavy alcoholic. I didn't understand why, or what the purpose was of drinking. I would dread being home alone with her, or worry when she was at home alone with my two little sisters. I couldn't...
    sillyfishy sillyfishy 16-18, F 7 Responses Jul 31, 2007

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    The Alcoholic

    Growing up, I never noticed my mother being an alcoholic. I thought she was just mean. She threw things at me, tried to strangle me, slapped me, called me names and was unable to love her children ( or at least me). Talking to my little brother recently who experienced my...
    icyfire icyfire 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 19, 2008

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    there is just too many feelings

    for me to name that i have become numb. my calmness makes me concerned, don't i worry anymore. i have my own family. the lying and sneakiness irritates me. i am ashamed and disgusted. my kids are turning 3 soon and i don't want her there if its not by my rules. what do i do?
    tvdwalt tvdwalt 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    My Recent Life Change..

    OK so I did it, I finally threw my husband out and this time its for good.. I had to do it, I was sick of living a lie.. I finally just told him that I am not in love with him any longer and that I am sick of living this way.. He packed his bags and left without a fight.. I felt...
    goodtymeronda1 goodtymeronda1 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 21, 2012

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    I'm a 15 year old girl.

    For years now, I've learned more and more about how my mom's alcoholism. It didn't occur to me that it was a problem until a few years ago in middle school. she'd drink bottles a day. She's been ******* me off lately. She yells at me for no reason, forgets our conversations, and...
    ayou15 ayou15 16-17, F May 13

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    All my life my mothers always enjoyed a drink -

    but the last few years I've noticed her drinking more and more often whilst on her own at night, after work. Ok, so she may not wake up and start drinking, she may go to work and pretend everything is ok. But she hides it, she hides it so well only I can tell, some of you may...
    ashfayehunter ashfayehunter 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    She Tries And So Do I...

    When I lived with my mom until I was 5, she wouldn't go a meal of the day without drinking. It wasn't only with meals, or for any occasion for that matter. She drank because she had to/ wanted to. She was very permissive with me, plopped me down in front of the TV, and didn't...
    blindmelonade blindmelonade 18-21 5 Responses Jul 7, 2013

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    I'm constantly battling between hating

    and feeling sorry for her. I'm not sure if she uses alcohol for recreation or to deal with her issues; and I either way I can't feel bad for her. I know that alcoholism is like a sickness, but it's difficult to feel bad for her when what she's doing is effecting our already...
    EscapeMee EscapeMee 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    Ever scents I was little my mom has been a

    drunk, not all the time but occasionally. She's almost died when she was drunk and one time she got so wasted she broke her ankle and had to miss a really important competition to me. There was also not long ago when she got drunk and had a huge fight with my dad. She called him...
    CazzieWillWin CazzieWillWin 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I'm 17 and I just wish I had a normal mother

    instead of an alcoholic one . She always calls me names and makes me feel so bad about myself . I want a normal life
    TracyQuinn TracyQuinn 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 16

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    My Alcoholic Mother - How To Control My Temper?

    My mother has been an alcholic for the last 12-13 years of my life. She bought up her kids and then when we were teenagers turned to alcohol. I remember what she was liek sober and i Miss her terribly. She is so horrible now to me, even though i am one of the only people who give...
    Jcakes Jcakes 26-30 Feb 26, 2012

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    I'm 14 years old. I've been through almost

    everything, and don't receive the support and encouragement I should as a teen. My mum is dependant on alcohol and I hate it. It's a massive issue that tears my family apart. I don't even have any family if I'm honest. And I don't even feel part of the family left. They all tell...
    shannonboulton shannonboulton 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 29

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    Don't Know What to Do Anymore

    Im 17 years old and for as long as i can remember, my mother has always been drunk.I Will tell you now that this story can go on and on theres so mcuh ive seen that i feel no child sholud have ever seen. She would be drunk at EVER family function and embarass me in front of all...
    stressed123456 stressed123456 16-17, F 4 Responses Oct 5, 2009

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    16 And Fed Up

    Hi. My mother has been drinking for about 4 years now. I'm 16 now. She started back when I was twelve. I know that she needs help. She needs to go to rehab but she won't go. She's in denial and thinks she can fix it by herself. She's been hurt 4 times. Only one of those four...
    parisspariss parisspariss 16-17, F Jul 30, 2011

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    I'm Taking Control and Trying to Help My Mother and Myself.

    I've noticed that my mom has a drinking problem for a long time. A few times i've confronted her about it, but nothing seems to work. It's like nothing I say really gets inside her head. I have a really hard time expressing my feelings about her drinking to her because im either...
    IndependentGrl IndependentGrl 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 1, 2009

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    I hate the person she becomes

    when she drinks. She wakes up and doesn't remember the hurtful things she has said to me. I do. I can't pretend like it never happened. She tells everyone that I hate her because I won't hug her and because I won't console her when she is sad. Who's going to console me when I...
    shaemaree92 shaemaree92 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 16

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    Not sure where to start really,

    this is my first post on here and this is the reason for my joining. I feel like I can't talk to my friends because I still don't want them to look badly on HER and I'm not sure I'd like the answers they'd give. She is two people. One is kind, caring and is the funniest and...
    minicloud minicloud 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I'm not sure what to do anymore.

    There are promises being broken. I get embarrassed when she drinks in front of others. She gets into fist fights with my dad. She screams and yells calling everyone any name you can think of. My dad enables her, just 1 hour ago i see shes acting weird. Oh its because he bought...
    madikate madikate 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 10

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    Is It Right I Feel I Can't Forgive Her?

    You can't begin to imagine how this feels-well perhaps that was the wrong choice of words. I assume many of you here have had similar experiences and it is this very reason why I came here to not just share my story, but look for advice.For as long as I can remember, my mum has...
    Orangetree123 Orangetree123 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 20, 2013

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    My mum was an alcoholic following her depression

    and became abusive. She ruined 6 years of my life, my dad abandoned me, his home was my only safe place for years until he kicked me out and sent me back to live with my mother where my life was at risk
    olivia0202 olivia0202 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 27

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    I Don't Talk To My Mother Anymore.

    My Mother and I have had a bad relationship.  All I can do now is remember the good times as I have decided not to talk to her anymore. She had a very successful career and did a very good job of keeping a good reputation outside of her household. I am 28 now and have had...
    b649e6j1tl b649e6j1tl 26-30, M 5 Responses Jun 2, 2010

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    Acceptance

    It seems that the other way I can ever truly be happy is if I accept that things that are happening and have happened. Accepting things exactly as they are is the most legit way of possessing the key to happiness. Acceptance is clearly the answer to all my problems and it's time...
    JJSapphire JJSapphire 18-21, F Nov 11, 2013

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    Sad For My Mother.

    Hmmm.... .....I have an Alcoholic Mother, duh, why else would I be here, anyway it's a sad tale to watch someone you love, someone who has loved you your life, been your best friend, mentor and supporter when no one else was and the one person that...
    rab1 rab1 41-45 1 Response Oct 16, 2008

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    I Can't Deal With It Any More..

    My mum has had a problem with drinking since i was just a baby. I was talking to my gran not long ago having a discusion about it, and even when i was a baby my mum would be more interested in drink than me, in the evening my dad would have to look after me because my mum would...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 28, 2011

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    My mother has been an alcoholic

    since I was very little. I've seen a lot of things that can not be unseen. Since I was 12 years old, I've practically raised my sister. My mom got in a relationship with a man about two years ago and things then got even worse. He would get physically and verbally abusive with...
    sweetsarahxo sweetsarahxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    My mother was an alcoholic

    who drank when I she was pregnant with I. I was subsequently put into foster care aged five when my father came home to find her trying to strangle me with a piece of flex in one of her many drunken stupors, where she would roll around , drink some then go sleep some. I was...
    scatmandave scatmandave 26-30, M Dec 10, 2013

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    I feel for everyone who went through this!

    Im so glad I found a site like this!
    michelleking michelleking 46-50, F 2 Responses Jan 26

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    Childhood Memories That Haunt

    When I was little I became a pariah; I would do my best to fit in all the time and try to make new friends, but I would always be pushed away from my classmates. I would think to myself that nobody wanted me around, ever. At the time, I had undiagnosed ADHD; I had very little...
    WheresTheTail WheresTheTail 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 25, 2013

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    Living With An Alcoholic Mother For 15 Years

    My mother is a wonderful person, she is caring, fun, incredibly loving and smart. However when she is drinking, I feel like I am the mother to a chatty yet sleepy child. I constantly try to look back into her life and see where this all came from. As far as I know she had a...
    nc510 nc510 19-21, F 6 Responses Jun 28, 2007

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    My Alcoholic Mother And I

    I, am a selfish person. Right now, I am willing to cast my mother aside and not have anything to do with her because of how she has hurt me. Her alcoholism has torn my family apart and left me lying to my friends out of embarrassment. Not to mention the revelation of her cheating...
    Orangetree123 Orangetree123 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    She Was Drinking Then And She's Drinking Now,

    My mom was a heavy drinker when up until I was nine, until my grandparents threatened to take me away from her. Now,seven years later, she's doing it again. And now I have a three year old sister, and im not sure what to do. She never hits us, or yells too much. It just sucks...
    madeoflight madeoflight 16-17, F Aug 29, 2013

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    My Alcoholic Mother

    I am currently 16 years old, and my mother has been an alcoholic for as long as I can remember. It has been a real battle for my three brothers, my dad, as well as myself. My mom has been in and out of detox about 20 times, and it just seems like the drinking has been getting...
    jackbraun jackbraun 16-17, M 11 Responses Aug 25, 2010

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    My Mother

    My mom has been an alcoholic for most of my life. I am only 15, but I've experienced my fair share of real pain and torture. When my mom drinks, my dad leaves to go out and party or play sports with his friends. I am left to take care of my 12 year old sister all by myself. When...
    justanotherbrokengirl justanotherbrokengirl 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 1, 2013

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    I thought I'd share my story with you guys

    so I could find some friends who know what it's like, and perhaps help others get through this. My mom was a drinker for as long as I could remember. My brother got the worst of it, and moved out because of this, but it got nasty for me when I was around 13. My mom had quite...
    NerdWithHats NerdWithHats 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 20, 2013

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    I Am Unsure How It Started

    maybe a sip here? Or maybe a bottle there? My mom is an alcoholic. She has been one for as long as I can remember. It seems inebriated minds think alike as she married my alcoholic abusive father. I think my mother's alcoholism stems from a long line of abuse, a long line of pain...
    WalktwoMoons WalktwoMoons 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 10, 2009

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    Since i've been young,

    my mother has always been drinking. It wasn't that much whilst i was younger but i wish i had not been have to do the things i did. I have multiple stories that i want to tell. When i was around 8 years old, my mom got drunk and called some random guy over, i did not feel...
    Soldottern Soldottern 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 15

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    My mom drank alcohol ever

    since I can remember and it's not just beer or anything that requires a large amount to get drunk but straight up whiskey. Well, anyways on my sixteenth birthday, the party required of 25 people at a public camping ground. I had several friends and family members over. My mom...
    ThatDarnKatz ThatDarnKatz 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Alcohol Kills.

    I am 22. For my entire life my parents were addicted to something. At first is was Meth, but when I got taken away from them, my mother quit. I was too young to know, but a while after this my mom started drinking. She was a bartender and her father was also a bad alcoholic. This...
    SN21 SN21 22-25 2 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Update On My Mother

    It has been a few years since I last posted on here and admittedly I first created this account to vent my confusion and frustration with a disease that I really knew nothing about at the time. I remembered making this post and somehow found my alias username by using the search...
    jackbraun jackbraun 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 15, 2013

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    Hi, I'm looking for advice!

    My mum has been an alcoholic for as along as I can remember and also battles depression. I have helped her and supported her for years when no one else would but she has made no improvement and it doesn't look like she's trying to improve! She has been off work the past few...
    SmilingsMyFaviourite SmilingsMyFaviourite 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    I Did

    My mom was an alcoholic most of my life. I remember when she would get so drunk that she would tell me to stay in my room, because I was being a bad little girl. She wouldn't feed me when she was drunk that was most nights. I would sometimes go hungry all weekend, until I went to...
    XLunaXLovegoodX XLunaXLovegoodX 22-25, F 8 Responses Nov 19, 2009

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    I Cant Love Her Like I Should...

    Its my first time talking about this to anyone, so ill do my best not to sound too sorry for myself but i feel like ill never move forward if i dont share, so here it goes... My mother is an abusive alcoholic. im 20 year old and have been secretly suicidal since i was 13 and...
    ripleynine9 ripleynine9 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 9, 2013

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    Dear Mum!

    How can you be so perfect...when I’m clearly not? How can you say you care ...when I’m sure you don’t How can you look me in the eyes and tell me you love me And then slowly destroy me You know nothing about love How it’s meant to make us strong Sure, you...
    NeverYours92 NeverYours92 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 22, 2010

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    In The End..

    My mom chose alcohol and her boyfriend over me...I thought when I graduated I would get a job, go to college and save up to move out instead my mom kicked me out so she had more money for the bar and cigarettes. It hurts more then I can explain. All my life I just wanted to make...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 5, 2013

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    Confussed and Sad

    Well, My mothers has been an alcoholic ever since I could remember.  All my life I have tryed to hide it.  Every single special event in my life, my mother has gotten drunk and embarrassed me in some form or fashion.. I can remeber in high school when i didn't want...
    heartbrokengal heartbrokengal 31-35 3 Responses Aug 10, 2009

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    I Am Tempted To End My Relationship W/ Mother

    My mother has always had a hard time controlling her drinking, for my entire life, but now she's resolved to drinking daily and shutting herself off from the world.  I very rarely talk to her because when we do, I always end up sad and frustrated, and hurt by her words.  Our...
    stephenator stephenator 41-45, F 6 Responses Sep 10, 2011

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    When Will She Stop!

    I am 23 and in the past 3 years I have learnt alot about my mother. - She has called me twice to tell me she is going to commit suicide. - Is so obsessed with being with a man, she will go to every length. Including lying to us - saying its a funeral. But forgetting to pack...
    mhawthorne mhawthorne 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 25, 2010