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I Have An Anger Problem

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    Stop This Cycle ... I Wanna Get Off!essthensuddenoutbursts

     This has been going on since I can remember. Periods of calm and happiness then , out of the blue, a misunderstanding or a mistaken affront leading very quickly to irrationality and loss of control, aggression, destructiveness threats and violence. This has been directed at...
    bkey bkey 41-45, M 5 Responses Sep 6, 2009

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    Disarm

    The problem with my anger is not hurting others or getting into a verbal brawl of epic proportions. No, no, no the problem is decidedly more complex. I don't know how to 'disarm' my anger. I can't seem to be able to just think of neutral topic or find the root cause and work...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 12, 2009

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    I yelled at my poor bf today.

    He's nothing but sweet to me and I flipped out on him because I'm tired and was trying to take care of some business
    svsanch svsanch 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 21, 2014

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    Unusual Thing?

    I have an anger problem and it's not a common thing. I mean it's not what usual people scenarios. Like having uncontrollable anger that is so scary to see. (Mental image? Hulk) Whenever I feel hurt by someone, I usually just let it go by not thinking about it or cry. And after...
    FreeyourSoul FreeyourSoul 70+ Aug 26, 2013

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    Sometimes my anger is uncontrollable

    and I am reaching out for help any advice i will be grateful. Please don't tell me go to group therapy, lol I been EP is my therapy
    snowman70 snowman70 41-45, M Dec 24, 2013

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    I Already Have

    I already wrote this once tonight, but it didn't get posted. I have been dating a man off and on for two years. We are both over 50 yrs. old. He recently gave up talking to three women on the computer, he did this because he knew it hurt me. We split up recently and just...
    rightnow1958 rightnow1958 46-50, F 4 Responses Oct 8, 2009

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    I Do And It Sucks

        i have a major anger problem .  last night it got so bad  i was just thinking about hurtin myself . i was just so angry  and i wanted to just drown myself .
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    I take it out on anything

    or anyone. My poor family and boyfriend have been the recipients of my anger. I feel like I am ruining the lives of all those around me. I can't keep hurting people but I can't stop. It is especially worse if I am tired. It is especially bad when I am tired after work. I wish I...
    cherrypie54552 cherrypie54552 18-21, F Nov 2, 2014

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    White Light

    "I have an anger problem". It is getting worse as time goes by. The smallest thing will **** me off & i won't/can't say anything about it & it will build up inside. At times when i am really angry, i will see an intense white light behind my eyes. I have...
    wowpup wowpup 36-40, F 2 Responses Oct 19, 2009

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    Looking For the Answer

    I have been reading a very good book called 'Release from Anger - Practical Help for Controlling Unreasonable Rage', by Joe Griffin and Ivan Tyrell.  It is written from the Human Givens approach.  I hope to go to a Human Givens therapist soon, for a little extra help...
    Tibicina Tibicina 41-45, F 1 Response May 4, 2009

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    I am losing my temper a lot lately over the

    dumbest things, like today I started yelling because it started snowing, I need help before I have a heart attack
    snowman70 snowman70 41-45, M 1 Response Jan 21, 2014

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    I have always worn my emotions on my sleeves.

    I get angry so fast that it shocks me sometimes. I black out and before I know it I'm back and I'm looking at the person who made me angry. I don't mean black out as in passing out. I can feel and see myself going off but I can't hear or comprehend any of it. I don't understand...
    SheIsHealing SheIsHealing 22-25, F Nov 20, 2014

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    Snappin At Family And Random Ppl Etc.

    I got pissed with a sister and snapped at her in text after she had a baby bc,she has ignored inviting me over to her house etc.I got pissed and cussed her out and after i have not talked to her since,I DID that to my other sister too but she forgave me.I don't kow whats wrong...
    isabellascorpio isabellascorpio 26-30 2 Responses Apr 27, 2011

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    A Penny For My Thoughts? Make It A Couple Thousand, And Maybe We'll Talk.

    I've had anger issues for a while it seems, but no one is truly aware of the severity and depth of it sometimes; probably because I'm too afraid to allow anyone to give me a penny for my deepest thoughts.. I'm not entirely sure I even feel comfortable in my own thoughts - it's a...
    RelianceOnScience RelianceOnScience 22-25, F 3 Responses May 19, 2011

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    Too Much to Bear.

    Sometimes the anger in me is bigger than I am, I can't hold it in, it is bursting my guts almost.  I just don't know how to get rid of it or make it go away.
    Tibicina Tibicina 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 8, 2009

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    I get pissed at the simplest of things.

    Misspelled words, unfinished sentences, and(OMG) stupid people! It's like "Wtf is wrong with this world?!? Who the hell made up 'twerking'?!? Wtf is ' supercalifagilisticexpialidocous'?!?"
    xXImNoSaintXx xXImNoSaintXx 13-15, F 1 Response Feb 26, 2014

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    Sometimes...i Have A Bit Of A Temper...

    I used to be this really calm, laid back type of person and really patient. It used to be hard to make me angry. Recently, I feel like I've totally lost control of my temper. I get angry at sometimes the smallest things. And not just angry, like...furious. I don't know if its...
    WanderingKitten313 WanderingKitten313 22-25, F Jan 5, 2012

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    Shut The Freaking Door !

    So i was at school to day and this kid said in the sweettest voice imagineable " please open the door " but even that got me ticked off so i spun around and glared at him . Again he was like " open the door " but more forcefully this time so i punched him, you see i have a very...
    tigerclaw101 tigerclaw101 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2013

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    If I did, I would have a problem with myself. My girlfriend is a white European, I'm black and my family is from Africa. I know, perhaps I'm to 'young' to have a girlfriend. But I...
    ma005 ma005 13-15, M 4 Responses Apr 8

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    I definitely have no problem with interracial relationships. The truth is I love women of all backgrounds.
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    I have no problem with interracial relationships but my parents do so that sucks for me :/
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    I clearly have no problems with interacial relationships because my entire family on both my mom and dad's sides are all mixed up lol. Our family reunions are awesome
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    I have a friend who is, well, my best friend, and she has been there for almost 4 years now, and we've been through so many things, she's supported me a lot and she knows me better...
    Mariana98G Mariana98G 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    Found this on yahoo answers. When you occasionally have a really bad day, and you just need to take it out on someone, don't take it out on someone you know, take it out on...
    Lonerthestoner Lonerthestoner 18-21 1 Response Apr 14

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    I don't know if I hate my father. I know that I wouldn't want anything bad to happen to him. I'm not that kind of person. Everyday my dad comes home angry. He insults everyone. He...
    Swkyh Swkyh 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    It just keeps building and building up. The brunt of it usually comes out when I get drunk and black out. People are always asking me why I'm so angry and I really don't know what...
    TheOneTheyWarnedYouAbout TheOneTheyWarnedYouAbout 22-25 Apr 14

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    My parents (Mum and her boyfriend of over 5 years) have been fighting more and more.i feel like im the reason behind it.He says im a lazy ,untidy and stupid.if i do a single thing...
    Lemonskies Lemonskies 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    i am outcast and i have a lot of anger. i hit my head against the wall and now there's a dent in from yesterday. i need to pay for it. i feel like a bad person. i was so out of...
    db174 db174 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 31

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    Alright so I get angered pretty easily and I hate that part of my self. I can be the most calmest person in the world and them bam! The next thing you know I'm being hold back by...
    SweetButPainfulRose SweetButPainfulRose 13-15, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Major anger issues**...sigh! When i get really frustrated and mad id just punch the living **** out of my bedroom wall till my knuckles get swollen or busted.. then I'd start...
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 6

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    It continues to build, but I never let it out. This has always been something I could never have control over. I'll hold it in, until my head is about to explode.
    EmbraceTheEVIL EmbraceTheEVIL 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 14

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    I have this thing called Intermittent Explosive Disorder. I get these things called rage attacks, which means I can't control my outbursts. What's worse, I usually feel like...
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    Learning about your pattern of thinking can help you match, modify, or change any distortions or negative thinking errors. Since our thoughts have a strong impact on our feelings...
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    I don't know if yall can relate... But here it goes Before my guy deployed I had a lot going on, I lost my grandmother, my little sister was leaving for boot camp, my other sister...
    Bambieye Bambieye 22-25, F Apr 14

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    1. Mummy brain2. I leave things to last minute3. Forgetful4. Brain doesn't engage before mouth opens5. I do far too many internet quizzes6. I have no patience7. Drive too fast8...
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    Honestly, who has a problem with it? It's 2015 people need to open their minds and hearts plus, mixed babies are beautiful!
    PanamanianPenguin PanamanianPenguin 18-21, F 2 Responses 1 hr ago

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    I'm ashamed to say I have left and come back about 6 times in the past 9 months. I'm broken. And even thinking about dating women. I don't even talk to my friends anymore about...
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    I have always been the person people talk to when they need to unload. I have no interest in telling tales or sharing rumors. Finding someone trustworthy to share hidden thoughts...
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