I Have An Open Relationship

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 421 People

    Me and my husband have been married

    for almost 19 years. We tried the couple swap thing for a couple years with some friends of ours but it ended in disaster. We recovered our marriage and have started tossing around the idea of having an open marriage recently. My only concern is that we have children so we'd...
    FreakyKat FreakyKat
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 3, 2014


    My partner and I have known each other for over 20 years. We first met in our early 20's and felt something special right away.  The only problem was neither one of us wanted to settle down, so we ended up going our separate ways but always stayed friendly with each other. I...
    OpenToo OpenToo
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Oct 6, 2009

    Today I had the first person be really judge

    mental about me being in open relationship. I hadn't seen my best friend in months and I told her and she'd said something along the lines that she was concerned that my boyfriend didn't love me because he's okay with me being with other people.
    LookingForGuidance LookingForGuidance
    22-25, F
    4 Responses May 19, 2015

    my boyfriend and I are very young

    and we're in the Navy. we will be spending a lot of time apart, he suggested being open. I'm not sure if it will work, any suggestions?
    millerandm1 millerandm1
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 20, 2015

    it's deeply frustrating trying to find a guy to

    fool around with, but they all want to hide **** from their girlfriend. what ever happened to honesty?
    dontneed2know dontneed2know
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Aug 23, 2015

    I'm in an open relationship,

    but we have 2 golden rules. Don't fall for anyone else and be honest. Interested to know what rules you guys have?
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jul 18, 2015

    More To Love

    I never thought I would ever be in an open relationship. When I would hear other people talk about those types of relationships, I would immediately think, "Wow, you must be an idiot! You're basically cheating. Why bother to have a relationship at all?"Well, things have changed...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    32 Responses Nov 9, 2013

    I am officially in an open relationship.

    I'm both excited and nervous as hell.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    18 Responses Jul 2, 2015

    We Will Never Cheat

    My beloved (we will marry in the Spring) and I do not practice monogamy.  Personally, I never have. An expectation of monogamy sets one up for failure and disappointment.  Everyone, if he is honest with himself, has thoughts and urges outside the bounds of true...
    misselizabeth misselizabeth
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Feb 22, 2008

    It's strange, I was always curious

    if an open relationship would be something I could handle but now that I am in one, I am surprised how much I have enjoyed it so far. My boyfriend and I love each other very much and are 100% committed to one another, but we decided that we are too young to limit each other too...
    thereisnothingwrongwithyou thereisnothingwrongwithyou
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 27, 2015

    It bothers me when people imply

    that you have to be the only person someone loves, or it's not good enough. My partner adores me, we would die for each other. We are committed for life. We also love other people. I wish we didn't have to keep it secret.
    softbunny6 softbunny6
    31-35, F
    10 Responses Apr 23, 2014

    Perfect Marriage

    a long time ago it became appearent to my wife and I that my insanely high sex drive was killing our marriage .. it took years of painful fighting and finally compromise to come to an agreement that she would allow me to see other people, so long as I wasn't hooking up with...
    happydude420 happydude420
    31-35, M
    Nov 14, 2013

    My husband and I have recently decided

    that we both desire an open relationship. We are completely in love and committed to each other but we do enjoy variety. Neither of us is looking for a relationship outside of our marriage, we just like casual sex and a FWB kind of thing. At this point we are only attending...
    Honeybeeanr Honeybeeanr
    36-40, F
    13 Responses May 30, 2015

    Since getting into an open relationship,

    I realized how unhealthy my jealousy and insecurity was. Honestly, this has been such an amazing experience and has helped my self esteem so much.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 6, 2015

    Just turned my relationship into an open

    relationship a while back. He's already meeting new girls but I'm over here feeling like a loser not meeting new guys...
    Waiting4Wings Waiting4Wings
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jul 11, 2015

    thinking about this just

    for my wife I prolly wouldnt do it but would let her but I am afraid it would hurt me to know other men are inside of her
    dgvb2448 dgvb2448
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Mar 8, 2016

    Between my fist, my toys

    and anyone else who may want to join ;) xxxx
    millieann millieann
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Dec 18, 2015

    Since my fiancé and I have been in a long

    distance relationship, we decided to open up our relationship. It's been a godsend because before, I was cheating left and right. Living thousands of miles away from each other left me with no accountability and free reign to **** whomever, whenever I wanted with no chance of...
    SleepyMalo SleepyMalo
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

    It's all about trust

    and communication. I don't think I have ever felt more secure in a relationship, we both know we can trust and love each other while enjoying new experiences with other people. I have already learned a lot about myself through this decision.
    thereisnothingwrongwithyou thereisnothingwrongwithyou
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 27, 2015

    Just last year, my wife

    and I started having an open relationship.We have been married for 21 years and I am away form home on buisness alot. We talked it over and instead of her being lonely and depressed while I was away, we decided to try this. We are still much on love but I put her happiness over...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2013

    I want to have a open relationship lik i don't

    want to b with just one person i want to know i have other options lik i find many many girls attractive so i just want them to b my side girl if they ok with it lik i dont want them to think im goin to b with them while im with someone else i just want them to know lik im...
    moet16 moet16
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 8, 2014

    So I would like to thank every person

    who gave me advice about having an open relationship but it just didn't work out for me. Both my partner and I just prefer one another and prefer to keep our relationship monogamous. But I hope everyone has a wonderful experience with their open relationships!
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    My wife and I have had a open relationship

    for a few years now. I am free to do what I want with who I want. She only wants to play with me present. She gets upset when I am intimate with someone and don't tell her immediately. I'm like, i do it so often I just forget. As in its no longer special because it common. I...
    lonestallion153 lonestallion153
    36-40, M
    1 Response May 3, 2015

    my wife and I have had total honesty

    and enjoy sexual experiences with others!
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 18, 2015

    I Think An Open Relationship Is the Best For Me

    We had been together 5 years (yes I was faithfull the whole time), when we decided to have an open relationship. We never had the same sexual tastes and I wasn't getting what I wanted from our sex life. It was really bothering me and I felt very depressed that I was never going...
    londongothgirl londongothgirl
    26-30, F
    9 Responses Sep 25, 2009

    My girlfriend and I have an abnormal

    relationship. Early on we agreed neither of us would care if we had sex with other people. Neither of us is possessive of each other, and we both understand that sex feels good, so why not have a bunch of it with anyone you chose? We've lasted three amazing years together all...
    speedskull speedskull
    22-25, M
    1 Response Dec 25, 2014

    It's nice to have found someone

    who I can be in a very committed relationship as well as it being an open one as well. There's a big age difference. I'm 46 and he's 30 but we're both solid and secure enough and have complete trust that allows our play time with others to add to our love and sex life. We...
    itsjustaname itsjustaname
    46-50, F
    1 Response Nov 21, 2015

    Well I met this amazing guy not too long ago

    (haven't been on here much bc of him) we hit it off. The other day we talked about an open relationship as some of you know I am up for it. To my surprise he brought it up. During one of our texting sessions he said he would be ok with me being with a woman if I pleased or...
    muffinpowers muffinpowers
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Sep 25, 2014

    My husband and I have an open marriage.

    From the beginning we have had rules that we have to abide by if this arrangement is to work. At the moment we are sharing a girlfriend. We see her individually and together. The most important rule is: at the end of the day this is about me and my husband. If either of us is...
    acer77 acer77
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Apr 22, 2015

    I am considering an open relationship

    because I don't think my bf and I are sexually compatable but we love each other very much. After 3 years I realized that he is more about getting down to business and I on the other love foreplay and to take my time and try new things/ positions etc. I cannot just say "hey let...
    meow1085 meow1085
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    I am hurt by something my guy did

    and I am wondering if I was wrong to expect something that was not explicitly spelled out. On Monday he texted me that a woman that he and I had been intimate with before and he were planning to meet. I told him to have fun. He asked if I wanted to join if it was okay with...
    marveld marveld
    41-45, F
    19 Responses Jul 1, 2015

    My wife and I are experimenting with an open

    relationship. We arrived here after years of me hiding my online chats and one actual hookup. It was a hard choice but we decided to explore rather than separate. Since making that choice it has made the relationship better, though I haven't really done anything outside the...
    beopen715 beopen715
    36-40, M
    Mar 14, 2015

    last night my boyfriend

    and I had our first swingers dinner together. it ended up being a lot of fun and I would definitely do it again. I never knew I'd enjoy pleasing someone other than him while watching someone else please my boyfriend.
    millerandm1 millerandm1
    22-25, F
    2 Responses May 24, 2015

    Hey guys. I've posted here in the past

    because my boyfriend and I were considering an open relationship. Well now we're actually going through with it. We're coming up with rules and boundaries and everything and I was hoping for some input. What were your rules, how was the experience, any negative or positive...
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Jun 28, 2015

    I always find it amusing

    that people will ignorantly tell me their biased opinion about my relationship, claiming we don't actually love one another and that we're just being harlots and yet between my boyfriend and I, we've found several people happily willing to cheat on their spouses. Maybe if open...
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Aug 2, 2015

    I need advice. I have been in a relationship

    with my boyfriend for over two years and have never been cared for by a sweeter, kinder person. We have the most loving relationship in every aspect EXCEPT sex. I think he is very attractive but I cringe every time he touches me, even kisses me. It's not that he's horrible, I...
    AlikiStarlette AlikiStarlette
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2016

    My wife has been hunting

    for a new boy toy close to us. She's been getting a lot of interest but only considering very well hung guys. I now have a size queen on my hands! She tells me how much bigger they are than I am and how she can't wait to feel one. She shows me some of the pics they send to drive...
    Eight888887 Eight888887
    36-40, M
    2 Responses Jan 12, 2016
    dontneed2know dontneed2know
    31-35, M
    1 Response Sep 3, 2015

    I opened our relationship to save our

    relationship and now I need some tips, on how to keep a strong open relationship.
    bogzwong bogzwong
    18-21, M
    1 Response Dec 26, 2015

    Hello everyone! I'm about to embark on an open

    relationship in the upcoming months and I was wondering if anyone had any advice or personal experience they would like to share with me so I could get a better idea of how to make the relationship work.
    ErraticallyGrey ErraticallyGrey
    22-25, F
    10 Responses Mar 7, 2014

    My husband and I have never been happier!

    I love having many partners and so does my husband. We're very honest with each other and that has been hard, but we grow together every day.
    trixieBeaDee trixieBeaDee
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Sep 22, 2015

    Opening a relationship has to be about the two

    of you going on a journey together. Everything starts and ends with the two of you. If 'opening' is just for one party, then that is not opening. It's more a kin to agreeing to disagree on cheating. My wife and I play together and apart, but emotionally the connection...
    Aigean Aigean
    36-40, M
    1 Response Mar 20, 2015

    So my wife had her first experience with

    another man outside our marriage last night. And I would have to say I was confused how I felt about the situation. A lot of things were going through my mind. Mostly if she will be safe going to this mans house. But she knew this guy for a while and that made me feel a little...
    jschooley24 jschooley24
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

    i have an open relationship.

    i feel bad for my hubby all the people he has talked to are either cheating, only interested in me and the females think he is a lieing bastard even after i talk to them . anyone else have this problem.
    brudeofthemonster brudeofthemonster
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Aug 19, 2015

    It is New Years eave

    and this year after much discussion we decided it would be fun to spend the night with a different person . I have got my friend Natalie with me in a hotel in Essex and Tina has been out all night with a guy she liked from work . We are over 100 miles apart and I have made the...
    kushfarmers kushfarmers
    46-50, M
    1 Response Dec 31, 2013
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