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I Have Anorgasmia

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 28 People

    Secendary Anorgasmia

    "Because a failed ****** and two devastated people? How can we cope every single time we have sex?" This is when one has had an ****** once, but now does not. A friend of mine taught me how to **********. I didn't know about the clitoris and she talked with me about it and told...
    theFROZENmango theFROZENmango 22-25 2 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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    I'm a 31 year old male with significant nervous

    system issues. One of which is anorgasmia, which was explained by the neuro-urology specialist, was due to dissociation of the nerves that include my genitals and bladder. I am also unable to release my bladder myself and now must intermittently catheterize to prevent kidney...
    OldIron06 OldIron06 31-35, M Jan 25

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    I Have Anorgasma. It Is Frustrating.

    I have anorgasma, or delayed ***********, or retarded ***********.  It is frustrating.I am a 49 year old male, and I just can't get to the point of finishing any more.  It has one advantage, in that I can make love to my partner until she is fully and completely satisfied...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 4, 2011

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    Anorgasmic All My Life

    I'm over 50 and never yet experienced O. I have no problem achieving erection or ej-c-l-t--n, but O doesn't happen. Like another member of this group, the head of my p-n-s becomes painfully sensitive at ej-c-l-t--n, making it unbearable to continue with any kind of stimulation...
    meriwolf meriwolf 51-55 1 Response Sep 15, 2011

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    Something So Natural Ends Up Being So Hard

    I have been dealing with this issue for a while now.  I am only 23 but have done lots of research and still no success.  I'm sure there is more out there but it is so defeating to keep reading and trying and having no success.  I don't know why Im like this and...
    Sarahjessicaparker Sarahjessicaparker 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 11, 2010

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    I Can't Deal With This

    My name is Alestor and I am a 19 year old gay male with Anorgasmia. I have serious problems with manic depression and schizophrenia.I'm on a lot of meds for this including Effexor, Neurontin, and Remeron. I remember before I started taking these meds I didn't have this problem...
    Alestor Alestor 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 16, 2012

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    My Doctor Sucks! + Anorgasmia....

    I'll be quick. I have secondary anorgasmia. Not a one in over three years. I was taking medicine for pain and depression, but quit the pain med 8 months ago, and just recently quit the antidepressant. Which is not helping my mood at all!! So, I no longer take the meds that are...
    seamoss seamoss 36-40, F 3 Responses May 1, 2012

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    Thanks to My Meds!

    This is from wiki for those of you who are wondering what it is - Anorgasmia (often related to delayed *********** in males) is a form of sexual dysfunction sometimes classified as a psychiatric disorder in which the patient cannot achieve ******, even with "adequate"...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 18, 2008

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    Five Times In 43 Years.

    I want to come inside my wife's **** so badly, but I can't. It's a neurological/medical condition. I can't even come when I jack off. Life is a bitter pill, sometimes. I used to be on Zoloft. That shut down my sex drive even more. From five miles an hour to zero!!Then I was put...
    svirfneblin svirfneblin 41-45, M 1 Response Mar 18, 2013

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    I have situational/secondary anorgasmia.

    I have *********** since I was a young child. Always strong clitoral stimulation usually from the bathtub faucet. I started having sex at the tender age of 13. To make a long story short I have had several sexual partners. Upwards of 150 - 200+ I have been married and now...
    Flirtgirl718 Flirtgirl718 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 7

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    Five Times In 43 Years. (Extended Version.)

    I want to come inside my wife's **** so badly, but I can't. It's a neurological/medical condition. I can't even come when I jack off. Life is a bitter pill, sometimes. I used to be on Zoloft. That shut down my sex drive even more. From five miles an hour to zero!!Then I was put...
    svirfneblin svirfneblin 41-45, M Mar 18, 2013

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    From The Partner's Side

    I do not have Anorgasmia, but my fiancee does. It's really hard on our relationship as we both want to have kids eventually. From a woman's standpoint, this is very hard on the partner of someone with this. For me, it makes me feel like less of a woman because I've read all the...
    betulikeme2 betulikeme2 31-35 1 Response May 20, 2012

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    Primary Generalized Anorgasmia

    I am 18 years old and have never achieved an ****** in my entire life. I only even realized I was irregular when I started dating recently. Obviously, I already knew I hadn't orgasmed, but I hadn't realized that I was so unusual. It's not that I have no sexual feelings-I get hot...
    elusive144 elusive144 18-21, F 5 Responses Sep 5, 2013

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    Not Sure How To Deal

    I'm 28 years old and I can still count all my sexual partners on my hands without repeating fingers. I've done very freaky things with some of them they've been of different sexual experience levels and the one thing that they all have in common is that I didnt get the big O...
    newasexy newasexy 26-30, F 3 Responses Oct 30, 2011

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    "i Fear I Am Coping"

    It's been over a year and a half now. The closest I came to a full org*sm during this period was months ago- I don't even remember what all happened, but I remember I cried I was so happy. I didn't c*m- But I felt the bubbling of one I don't know what could be causing this. I...
    theFROZENmango theFROZENmango 22-25 1 Response Apr 17, 2012

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    Short-changed.

    I think the worst part about dealing with anorgasmia is that my partner feels as if he is somehow responsible. No matter how often I reassure him that he is fantastic in bed, I think secretly he feels that he's somehow going to be able to "solve the problem" and...
    SaintThursday SaintThursday 22-25 6 Responses Dec 8, 2009

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    Hey Friends

    check out "sensate focus" a new word I just discovered- It is not about sex but enjoying touch- I am going to do more research!! I just wanted to throw that out to the group! Here is a great video:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7vugUI4mDe0
    theFROZENmango theFROZENmango 22-25 6 Responses Mar 2, 2012

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