I Have Attachment Issues

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 228 People

    First Love Ruined Me

    When I was 14 I was deeply in love with someone who didn't love me back (this wasn't kid love I was really mature for my age and at my age now I've never felt anything like it) but I got so attached to this girl that if I couldn't have her, there was no point in living. Obviously...
    Locoforburritos Locoforburritos
    18-21, M
    Sep 29, 2011

    as soon as someone shows me how nice they are

    or some sort of affection I always take that as they "like" me... I hate it so much, that in like that.
    mentallyhigh mentallyhigh
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 4, 2015

    I have a severe attachment disorder.

    Reactive attachment disorder, avoidant attachment disorder. These are just ridiculous labels for a person who is tormented with being starved for human love/intimacy/attachment. That's obviously a nightmare in itself that makes life brutal, especially as a Christian where the...
    Ajushi Ajushi
    41-45, M
    Dec 11, 2013

    I Have Reactive Attachment

    I am 31 and was diagnosed with severe reactive attachment at a very young age. I went through so much that it seemed like nothing would chage. Stealing, lying, anger, rage, self harm and more. I was placed in a high level group home when i was 13-15. I still struggled everyday...
    swingin1 swingin1
    Apr 21, 2011

    My Entire Life

    I've always had trouble with social relationships. My parents caught onto it before I did. My mom has given up on trying to change it, and my dad still tries. My mom recognizes how deeply set it is with me. I don't feel an emotional attachment to a person. I hang out with a...
    chococat159 chococat159
    Mar 11, 2013

    Neglected, lonely child.

    Married a women with borderline personality disorder. Divorced her. Lots more betrayals as an adult. Some personal tragedies all linked to attachment issues. I never feel "safe", grounded. My core is always unsettled. No matter how much my partner says she loves me, when...
    Onewithone Onewithone
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 2, 2016


    The problem I have is when I need them they are usually missing off the vacuum.
    mailmanshadow mailmanshadow
    56-60, M
    1 Response Sep 17, 2011

    I Get Attached To What Ever That Is Around Me

    It doesn't matter if its a animale or a person. I get a attached that what ever. Its hard for me to let that go. Its hard when its animale Bceause, I don't like to say good bye. I have never been a good bye type of a person. I don't like it when something isn't in my life any...
    acjf acjf
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 12, 2011

    My Story

    All my life I tried to find somebody like me . No success though.. as if I am the only one with this problem. I don't know how to call it, I just googled attachment issues, and ended up here. I see there are quite a few stories, so I'll just write mine. I sometimes try denying...
    john37 john37
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2009

    Hating Attachments

    I am 26 years old and I have had attachments since I was a little girl but they have gradually gotten worse as I have gotten older. I usually form attachments with women older then me. Once I form an attachment I have to be around this person as much as possible if I'm not around...
    avagrace1987 avagrace1987
    26-30, F
    Nov 2, 2013

    I have been told that I am needy

    but that is because I have got attachment issues and it really effects my relationships
    deleted deleted
    Oct 27, 2014

    I can so relate to all of the posts on here

    about attachment issues, I googled this stuff today to try to figure out why my personal romantic relationships suffer. I've found that I have a fearful avoidant style of attachment in relationships which has caused me and my loving partners lots of grief and pain. (As a side...
    music01 music01
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 26, 2014

    Disorganized Attachment.

    That's me with my trauma history & PTSD. Anyone else? "What does disorganized attachment in adults look like? Parents whose relationship with their child is a disorganized attachment may react by being frightened or frightening in moments of stress with their child. They may...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jun 16, 2014

    Blind Alley

    Ever since i can remember i felt strongly that nothing in this life is permanent. This served me well. Parents divorced, mom and i moved to another country then another continent . People came and went. Things came and went. Such is life. So be it. Change is...
    trailguide trailguide
    36-40, F
    20 Responses Aug 13, 2009

    I always have attachment issues ever

    since i was a little girl.I get myself attached to people that i know is gonna broke my heart.They were my former therapists,teachers,college professors.I became obsessed with them and they got scare of my intended attachment toward them and they back off.And i sank into a very...
    deleted deleted
    Jan 16, 2015

    i have attachment anxiety Characteristics of

    attachment anxiety include: Being preoccupied with whether or not others truly care and if they’ll be there for you Checking if others remain available Relying excessively on others for emotional support Responding sensitively to possible and actual rejections Experiencing...
    sabbracaddabraa sabbracaddabraa
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 2, 2016

    Very Easily.

    For some reason,  I get very easily attached to people and I don't know why.   It doesn't matter if they're girls or guys,  I just get attached.
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 23, 2009

    Feeling down. I have isolated myself.

    I have pushed my friends family everyone away. When they do make effort. I question there motives and start to pull away. To the point I blank them out again. They now don't wanna know. But I'm still angry angry they don't give a **** angry that my worst fears have been...
    Issima Issima
    36-40, F
    Mar 13, 2016

    They Stem From My Large Abandonment Issue.

    I get very attached easily. It's scary, and it's unnatural. Not only that, but there have been times, where I can get so attached to a person, place, or thing (usually people and places,) that I feel intense emotions for that person or place that you would only feel towards your...
    WiltingBlossom WiltingBlossom
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 1, 2011

    If you want the long version of my life history

    you can go under my experiences and scroll way down to see all three parts but here's a short version of my story. I think I had attachment issues all my life and nobody really told me that until I figured it out just a year ago. This is what happened since my childhood. Grew...
    Yinhx Yinhx
    31-35, F
    Mar 9, 2016

    It's Hard To Deal With Sometimes

    Well...how shall i start?Being almost completely emotionless when it comes to alot of things, it's hard to explain this. When i get connected mentally with someone i end up having major fears when in dangerous situations with them. I'd rather die then watch a friend or family...
    SunkinLies SunkinLies
    18-21, T
    Dec 27, 2010

    The Fearful-avoidant Attachment Style

    Ugh.... Best description I have found... The fearful-avoidant attachment style is characterized by a negative view of self and a negative view of others. Those who fall into this category view themselves as unworthy and undeserving of love. Additionally, they feel that others...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses May 13, 2013

    I have a tendency to have non-romantic

    attachments towards other female figures in my life. From time to time i've become obsessed with female celebrities, often imagining talking with them and soon imagining what it would be like to have them as the mother figure in my life because i lacked any love that i wanted...
    shesonlyhappyinthesun shesonlyhappyinthesun
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 8, 2014

    Living With Attachment Issues

    I can't love. I can't get close to anyone. My parents, are equal to stranger. For I trust, and care for them the same as anyone else. Why are they special? I have grown a bit. I am able to hug my friends now, something I wasn't able to do 2 years ago. I can say the words I love...
    AbstractWorld AbstractWorld
    18-21, F
    Mar 1, 2013

    Yeah I Cant Do It

     i guess to a degree im somewhat emotionally detached ... I cant allow myself to completely fall for anyone ...I have to much of a no tolerance approach and i can write people off like its nothing ....
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2008

    Yep, it take a hell of a long time to get

    emotionally attached to someone
    jennamajenna jennamajenna
    22-25, F
    Mar 23, 2014

    I Have Issues And It's Stoping Me From Getting A G/f

    When I was 5 years old my mom died it was tough than but know one told me I would be having problems almost 20 years later, my problem is that I get attached very quickly when I meat a girl and it pushes her away the latest girl I have been seeing started off great but she said I...
    RandyT RandyT
    Mar 8, 2012

    My Thoughts.

    maybe if my mother was more of a mother than a roommate that i cannot get along with, i wouldnt get super attached to the people who show interest in my wellbeing. the teacher last year, i got super attached to. the therapist i used to work with, i hate to think about how i...
    monsterwithinme monsterwithinme
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 22, 2012

    Cannot Attach Emotionally By Choice

    I have never been able to experience love in a deep emotional way. I don't seem to be able to attach emotionally to anything, I guess for fear of abandonment. I am a devoted friend, lover, parent and pet owner. I am at my best when connected in a loving relationship and may...
    Resilient1 Resilient1
    41-45, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2007

    About Three Years Ago

    It was about three years ago since I found out I really had severe attachment issues... I didn't have a fullfilling childhood, it was awful, and I kind of had parenting neglect at one point. So there wasn't really a doubt it would result in something... That something is now my...
    JaneLimNat JaneLimNat
    13-15, F
    Apr 1, 2013

    I Dont Know Why...

    Sometimes I wish I knew why I am the way I am. I look around and see people that are happy together, or they know why they have certain problems, but I really have no idea why I get attach to anyone that says im pretty or nice. But im not the kind of girl that will let anyone get...
    MissBloodKittie MissBloodKittie
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Nov 23, 2012

    Attached To Him

    Ive been going out with my bf for almost 6 years and ive noticed im soooo attached to him and it sucks cuz he takes advantage of me! I recently hung up on him and he got so mad he wouldnt answer my calls anymore and he would txt me saying that he wasnt gonna answer and that maybe...
    livelaughlove6 livelaughlove6
    22-25, F
    Aug 15, 2013

    I can't do this. I can't let anyone get close

    to me. Lately, I've met some people. People I really connect with. People who are excited to talk with me, hang out with me. And I just. I can't. Because, we'll disagree at some point or they'll get bored with me or something and they'll leave. Something will happen. Something...
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Jun 28, 2014

    - [ ] I know if we are just friends

    that I shouldn't catch feelings for you. I know that you call other girls sexy and you flirt with people probably way more than me. I'm starting to get the vibe that all u want is sexx and u become quiet on me when I say no or when I'm not interested. and this is what I mean by...
    mentallyhigh mentallyhigh
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2015

    Can't Get Over My Girlfriend

    Yes i know its not exactly an origional story but...about a year and a half ago i went out with my friends younger sister (dont worry we didnt go far). It was only for a month a week and a day (yer freaky i know) and i still cant get over her. I mean we never even kissed but i...
    Aditboy Aditboy
    2 Responses Jun 23, 2009


    I get attached to some. In an instant.It gets me into trouble. Almost each time.Then it hurts. Still however I am not able to resist.I don't seem capable to learn. Ever perhaps.Humans don't make it easy on me either. Lovable creatures.Girls in particular.
    fantcha fantcha
    22-25, F
    Aug 25, 2011

    Unusual Attachments

    I am 41 years old and i haven't been diagnosed with RAD, but after reading about it, i know i have it. Ever since the age of 5 years old, i have always found another adult that i would attach to, and i despirately wanted this person to be my mother or father. Of course, these...
    oneblessedmama2 oneblessedmama2
    Dec 21, 2011
    AlleywayGospel AlleywayGospel
    31-35, F
    Aug 6, 2014

    Childhood Issues Are a Root Cause

    I have attachment issues because I never developed a healthy attachment to my mother who was my primary caregiver. She consistently rejected me in favour of my siblings and treated me differently to how she treated the others. I was also the scapegoat, if she was in a...
    IndigoPeachblossom IndigoPeachblossom
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 30, 2009

    Issues, Issues, Issuses

    attachment issues...well, the thing is i dont know if it is attachment issues or just self confidence. i seem to latch on to anyone that shows me the slightest bit of attention. i have never been in a stable relationship, not really anyway. so as a result of being crapped on by...
    metalgirl99 metalgirl99
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Jun 26, 2008
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