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I Have Been Cheated On

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    so my husband cheated on me 6 years ago

    and when I found out I question him and of course he denied it 100% up until recently he finally confused to me that he did cheat on me and the worst part of it all is he might have fathered another child with that damn girl so what should I be feeling right now
    akbravo akbravo 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    After you are cheated on nothing will ever be

    the same in your relationship. **** love.
    sydneymarie sydneymarie 18-21, F Mar 19

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    To be hurt and forgive.

    This is the biggest deepest thing I am being called to. With my stbx cheating wife. Father ....this is the biggest challenge ever. I forgive with my words but let my heart hold onto these words She has not asked me for forgiveness for hurting me and I have to live with that for...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 8

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    Hey 😞 I just need someone to hear me out I'm

    a teen mom and I met the father of my baby in 2011 we were happy in all and in 2013 our daughter was born, I thought that would chant everything for the better. In 2014 he started to work with his parents in there family restaurant business was slow so money was an issue and we...
    ox97 ox97 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    He told me yesterday

    that he cheated on me a few days ago. It was at a friend's birthday party and he was drunk. He is genuinely remorseful and sorry that he did it, and he said that it was a conscious decision even though he was drunk, but that he was being stupid and selfish. I'm incredibly hurt...
    SkyeDreams SkyeDreams 22-25, F 23 Responses Jan 10

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    Cheater Of Beauty

    I see her walk down She looks so fine Would you like to stop For dinner sometime? But remember deep Deep in my side That she is just Another lie How about dinner? Table for two I think I'm liking this Me and you But remember deep Deep in my side That she is nothing more Than a...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 5 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 2 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    If you care to read this,

    comment or anything I would like to thank you, This is my story. I am a man, I turned 19 late December last year and unfortunately also developed strep throat close to new years. My girlfriend (at the time) and I were invited to a new years party, we decided to go and we had a...
    AlejandroDelux AlejandroDelux 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 10

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    It wasn't her that ruined us.

    ..it was you. I loved you unconditionally but you did the ONE thing I can't forgive. Swear I wanna forgive you but I know it will never be the same and you are no longer the person I thought you were. That really sucks bc I fell in love w that person...who doesn't exist.
    gkelyyy gkelyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    As an engineer my life is driven by logic

    and statistics, as I ponder on events the last few months I realize people have no logic at all , barely any reasoning , most people don't even have an understanding of basic morality. 65 percent of women are cheaters 68 percent of men are. How do you like them numbers ? A 65...
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 15

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    I've been in a marriage

    for many years now and found out he cheated on me. Not just a one time thing he had a girlfriend and me his wife. My world feels shattered and I am ready to go but I do not know why I can't. We have kids and they love him even though he's emotionally unattached with all of us. I...
    mkaylaa mkaylaa 26-30, F 17 Responses Feb 28

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    I found that person that makes me addicted to

    his presence. That loves me, and craddles every inch of my being, but he cheated on me. He always noted how grateful he is to have me, and cant live without me, but he cheated on me with a man. It destroyed me when i found out. He never mentioned liking men. He left out a huge...
    caarolyn0525 caarolyn0525 22-25, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I vow I will never cheat on anyone.

    Especially in marriage. It's vile. You break up with someone THEN move on. I will not love like a liar in deceit, hiding in the shadows. So glad it's over.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    May be i was naive and kind

    but because i really loved him
    amandaa10 amandaa10 22-25, F 6 Responses Apr 8

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    and I'm soooooo glad I found out

    before I wasted the rest of my life on sacrificing for him, providing for him, nurturing him, defending him or loving him. Gettin my groove back and hoping it's not too late for me
    canthinkofanything canthinkofanything 41-45, F 8 Responses Jan 9

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Okay, so I want to tell my story about the

    first guys I had real feelings for so please be kind. So in early February I went to a really important leadership conference. It was teens from all over California. So I was pretty excited and nervous. Anyways long story short I met this guy "R" (that's what we'll call him for...
    sarah81199 sarah81199 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been cheated on repeatedly by the same

    partner. I have been cheated on by several men in my past and I believe they all did but just were slick enough to not get caught. I honestly think I will be cheated on no matter who I'm with. how does that feel? like crap. so what's the point of leaving one cheater for another...
    fbizzle fbizzle 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 14 Responses May 27, 2013

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    666LexiBabe666 666LexiBabe666 18-21, F 54 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    I was 6 months pregnant

    when I found out he was cheating. He accidentally butt dialed me at 4 in the morning when he was with her...I can still remember the pain building up in my chest as it slowly dawned on me what it was I heard on the other line. I tried to give us the space to learn from the...
    cnk2015 cnk2015 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    I knew it from the second it happened,

    but when the words came out of your mouth it hurt a billion times more. I didn't want to believe it, I just wanted to curl up and die. It's not that you cheated on me, it's that you had feelings for her and still do. Now I have nightmares about it every night, now I never feel...
    fucksunshine fucksunshine 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 9

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    So let me get this straight.

    . I have been cheated on and tried to work it out. We both went to counseling and things were better for awhile. Then it happens again. This time it's over and I'm moving on. Now my question is it seems lots if people say that I am the reason that she cheated. How is that even...
    slim156 slim156 41-45, M 5 Responses Mar 28

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    When I think of her now instead of sorrow I am

    starting to feel this anger & rage...it comes unbidden ...I allow myself a mean growl and then I gotta release it. Went for a run in the snow, which never happens and then hit the qigong like I was an ancient master zenning for the 11th enlightenment. It's taken such a toll on...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 7

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 46-50, F 30 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    My Wife Cheated

    Several months ago, I discovered that my wife of 17 years has been having affairs for the better part of our marriage and it has turned my world upside down, caused me unbelievable anguish, and has basically changed me from the inside out. She was everything to me, and I was so...
    MrJedi MrJedi 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    Man I just hate her and the other man.

    So fukin selfish. My kids are confused & angry and in pain. *** them
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    My first ever boyfriend cheated on me with my

    best-friend Keegan he told me to keep our relationship a secret and told my friend to keep it a secret too so I guess we wouldn't find out I didn't know he was cheating on me until I heard him tell my friend he was breaking up with her because he wanted to be with just me well I...
    butterflybaby123 butterflybaby123 13-15 1 Response Apr 5

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    My husband (soon to be ex) cheated on me

    numerous times in the time we were together. I found messages just a month after we were married that showed he wasn't faithful, but I believed him when he said it was nothing. I wanted to believe him. Fast forward a few years later, I see that not only was he doing it again...
    TryAnStopMe TryAnStopMe 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 26

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    so sick of jerks. I am old school

    and belief in forever. I want forever. Not mind games.
    maemae208 maemae208 26-30, F 9 Responses Mar 3

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M Apr 6

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    When someone cheats, what I found worst wasn't

    the part of my trust being let down. Or the fact that despite him constantly being worried of me being faithful, he ended up being the one to hurt me, not the other way around. The worst thing was the doubt and fear. Someone who supposed to mean everything to me hurt me so...
    Featherwings Featherwings 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Hearts breaking... My girlfriend has been

    cheating on me for the past year, I knew about it the whole time though but until now I was ok with it..but... :'(
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 25, 2014

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    But learned. And wondered more.

    And sought better loving.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 22

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    Last day in Ireland ,

    before heading to Australia , very bad fight, I realized while lying in bed thinking there was a question that was never asked by neither of the counselors or myself. While in a drug induced stupor how did she secretly arrange all of her sessions with other man, with such...
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 24

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    So my fiancé cheated on me with another girl.

    ..I am trying to decide if I should give him another chance. What do you guys think?
    JazzyBaby321 JazzyBaby321 18-21, F 46 Responses Mar 26

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    I don't know if I'll struggle with trust issues

    in the next relationship, but the manner in which I was replaced in the last one left me with a profound sense of unworthiness. Intellectually I can dismiss this as illogical. I know that I strive to treat a lady well, and that there are worse men one could be saddled with...
    streetcsi streetcsi 41-45, M 9 Responses Mar 27

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    Hardest thing I ever done ,

    ,,,I filed for divorce a couple days ago , no woman will EVER get my heart again.
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    my gf was flirting on this new kid at school

    and I know him, she flirts with him, gives him kissy faces and and tells him they should date.. I broke up with her and she says its my fault, hell no!! I been good Cuz she gets joleous and I don't talk to no girl.
    blitzgreek19 blitzgreek19 16-17, M Mar 21

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    My husband cheated on me with my daughter (not

    HIS, relax ,she's an adult).. how the hell do I get past it??
    meadbme meadbme 41-45, F 51 Responses Jan 17

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    How could you fake your feelings

    so well? Make me believe you were different from the rest? Let me show you off to all my friends as if you were the greatest bf out there? Buy me everything I wanted and have it mean nothing? Hurt me and want me back as if it were nothing? How can you not leave me alone when I'm...
    gkaren gkaren 18-21, F Mar 18

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