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I Have Been Cheated On

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    He cheated on me with the same girl.

    The first time i just knew he asked her out. I thought he would fix it but he didnt. The second time i finally knew he didnt just ask her out but they went on a date and he kissed her and they bought each gifts too. He says he has changed! Should i give him a last chance?
    shomal93 shomal93 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 2 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    I've been cheated on twice,

    and the first time, it was a mess. I was an emotional wreck, a volcanic eruption into a tornado, and I destroyed every connection I had with any other person. I was in self-destruct mode. I sobbed so hard that it hurt my soul, I got anxiety and panic attacks from just hearing...
    hornewrecked hornewrecked 16-17, F 2 Responses May 26

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    It's been over 2 years

    since I found out. Sept will be 2 years that we left everything behind for a new beginning. Some days, I trust him with everything. Some days not so much. I think about her all the time. What is she doing? Where is she living? The animosity is gone but I wonder if she's tried...
    Rzrbldksss81 Rzrbldksss81 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    My girlfriend of 2 1/2 years cheated on me

    about a month ago and now she wants to go out with me again. I'm clueless on what to do. I love her very much, I would do anything for her. She's been trying to recover from what she did. She quit being friends with the people who caused her to cheat, she completely ignores the...
    eli26j eli26j 16-17, M 5 Responses May 20

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    Ive been the cheater & the cheated

    so Ive seen both the "excitement" & the heartache of an affair. My story was brought about after the numbness of finding out about a series of affairs my wife had. The amazing thing was ALL of her excuses were that it was caused by different things id done ( or hadn't done ) If...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 29

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    I have been with my for 30 years (married

    almost 26). I confronted him this week about cheating on me and he said for the last year. She lives 6 hours away and they saw each every other month for 5 days. He texted her constantly. I made him go tell his mom what he did and it about killed him. Our two grown kids are...
    djbm djbm 46-50 3 Responses Jun 14

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    I should just expect it: I've been cheated on

    every relationship I've been in, I should just expect it to happen. I don't know if it's because i'm nice and they think i'l forgive them, or maybe it's me. I'm not spontaneous or anything like that so maybe I need to change. I don't even know if I can care about anyone anymore...
    addictedtoweightlifting addictedtoweightlifting 18-21, M 5 Responses Jul 4

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    Well, let me first explain,

    I always thought that the love that I have was perfect. Especially because, every relationship that I've been had been a horrible experience. I met my guy over 2 years ago and although he was 7 years younger than me, we hit it off. I had a child of my own and we have a 16 month...
    Jenay09 Jenay09 26-30, F May 20

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    My Ex (a.k.a The Bastard) And His Best (female) Friend (a.k.a. The *****)......

    I really do not understand why society accepts these three's a crowd type relationships. Whatever happened to a relationship being between two people? Why do relationships have third parties, sometimes more, dictating to them everything? Why do people assume that it's always...
    M3rmaid M3rmaid 26-30, F 18 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    It's time to say good-bye.

    I absolutely love EP and all that it has given me. My whole life, my whole being has been forever changed by my husband's affair. I have a really, really long way to go, but I am well on my way. I still have "bad" days. As a matter of fact, yesterday was a really bad day...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 22

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    Ive been cheated on more then enough times by

    several guys. Including the one I chose to stay with after I knew he cheated.
    celenahodgson celenahodgson 16-17, F Jul 8

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    My Last Relationship

    I was going through a really tough time running my business. I was losing money left and right and I couldn't do anything to salvage it in time. I was in a severe depression, but I was doing the best I could to not bring it down like it did.I was eating Chipotle one day when an...
    djdoughboy djdoughboy 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    My marriage wasn't horrible, no abuse, no drinking, we were responsible people, I tried to give him the world, everything I could and my needs last. I'm not perfect, I guess in the process we began drifting apart, life responsibilities got to be a bigger demand and we did less...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 15

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    Here it is 2014, and I am actually happier

    than I have ever been. I still have my moments with my husband. I still ruminate sometimes. I still get angry sometimes. Yet, I am still here, and we are still working things out and moving forward TOGETHER. (Allowing myself a long sigh of relief....) This has been a long and...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 14

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    My boyfriend and I have been together

    for a year. five months in I found out he was cheating then broke up with him. he was going out and partying and having sex with anyone, it was just whoever would put out. he didnt even tell me, his friends did. I couldnt handle it so we stayed apart and we got back together...
    lonely1confused lonely1confused 16-17, F 6 Responses May 17

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    Maybe I just need to take the time to actually

    write it to move on. Naturally I'm a writer and I've yet to write it down. I keep starting to write my story then realize I have nothing to say except an over detailed story that I have pretty much no emotion towards. Is that weird? I feel no emotion to the situation. Writing...
    rileylyn rileylyn 18-21, F 1 Response May 12

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    A girl cheated on me once,

    well technically twice but it was the same girlfriend cheating with the same guy. I got very upset and went out and slept with a guy I lived near, I thought it'd make me feel better but I felt awful and I ended up being the bad guy :/
    bd693 bd693 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 11

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    He Turned My World Upside Down

    I trusted you. I took you in when you had no where to go and no job and still at this moment continue to take care of you. While I was at work you brought another into our house and in our bed and denied it until when I heard you and her talking about it I should have not been...
    jnurse1986 jnurse1986 26-30, F 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    My ex-fiancee of two years

    and lover of eight years left me for another woman the day before Easter 2014. He throw me out of the home we shared together and couldn't care less what happened to me in the process. I am a graduate student and currently student teaching all the while he decided he decided...
    cm1229 cm1229 26-30, F 4 Responses May 25

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    I am reading yet another book

    and found a very interesting excerpt and wanted to share it. "In situations of infidelity, the faithful partner becomes a threat to the unfaithful one and must be diminished. We learn to hate what we fear. One way to diminish the threat is to degrade the innocent partner...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response May 12

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    My husband has been paying

    for phone sex and cam sex for rhe last 10 years and I just found out. I am devastated. What should I do? Get even? Leave?
    ellegriffin ellegriffin 36-40, F 14 Responses May 13

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    My boyfriend of 7 years cheated on me,

    and got her pregnant. Around the time of him telling me he cheated I was going back and forth to the doctor trying to surprise him and become pregnant by his birthday. He cried and begged me to not leave him and constantly told me it was a mistake. I thought I could get through...
    Loyalluv Loyalluv 22-25, F 3 Responses May 5

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    She Had The Same Name As Me

    I've been cheated on only once (from what I know of...) His name was Ivan. He was a Mexicano with great looks and charm. He would speak to me in Spanish and my heart would melt, I would speak to him in Russian and I thought his heart melted too, but I was wrong, his **** just...
    Maia000 Maia000 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    ...... This Is What You'Ve Left Me With ......

    .......It affects your self esteem , makes you question yourself - exaggerates your insecurities - and that is something you can internalize forever if you aren't diligent in working through it. The residual memories of what the pain caused me will have lasting effects. ....it's...
    hopeLOVEjoy hopeLOVEjoy 36-40, F 5 Responses Apr 4, 2013

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    It burned a hole in me,

    partly because she was clearly so unhappy that she had to go elsewhere, but mostly because she lied about it. After all my attempts to leave, after all her screaming and pleading, and after all her promises to change, she still got physical when she was upset. I forgave all of...
    PhresnoPhoenix PhresnoPhoenix 36-40, M 1 Response Jun 10

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    What Is The Best Way To Heal A Broken Heart?

    Hmmmmm...I have been pondering that thought for a long time...how can I mend my broken heart...maybe replace one love with another...concentrate on other things and other people...pray...pray ...pray......evade ...evade...evade....Well my cousin told me a quote...."The best way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 60 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    Here we go again, 3rd time around I get curious

    whilst bf is working away! I logged into his email and found 2 new dating site profiles, and a lovely chat between himself and a 23 year old wanting a sugar daddy, he even mentioned moving and hiding money to pay her.. surely that's prostitution though? Bang to rights. Wrong...
    wjean71 wjean71 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    Since I was 10 weeks pregnant.

    I'm due to give birth in a matter of weeks, but I have all the documentation I need to leave the moment it suits me. I refuse to allow my son to think his dad's behaviour is how you're supposed to treat your partner, or myself put up with coming second to a series of affairs...
    actiondoll actiondoll 26-30, F 2 Responses May 2

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 14 Responses May 27, 2013

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    The Tangeld Webs We Weave...

    Originally Posted February 25th, 2010 at 1:02PM OK so it all started back in November of 2009 when a good friend family friend and his wife were in need of some help. The husband (we will call him MW and her Lucy) was about to get laid off and they needed help with a babysitter...
    LifeChangingLove LifeChangingLove 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 25, 2013

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    "Some lessons are best learned through pain.

    Sometimes, our vision clears only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes, we have to be broken so we can be whole again. Remember: If God made the day to be perfect, He wouldn't have invented tomorrow." ---Unknown For everyone going through "it" today, I just want...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 15

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 3

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    I've never cheated on anybody in any of my past

    relationship but somehow that always happened to me 😡
    angieloveee angieloveee 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 11

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    Hearts breaking... My girlfriend has been

    cheating on me for the past year, I knew about it the whole time though but until now I was ok with it..but... :'(
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 12 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I have been cheated on in the worst way

    possible. I thought the girl was the perfect girl for me and thought we'd be together for a long time, but when I went off to college, she kinda thought I was gonna get with other girls (which I didn't while I was with her) and started going out with one of my best friends...
    day24dreamer7 day24dreamer7 18-21, M 3 Responses Apr 29

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    Well tonight i found out

    that my ex boyfriend was cheating on me during our relationship. we broke up about 8 months ago and i new he was already seeing someone before we officially decided to stop talking. it hurts a lot and i know it shouldnt bother me but it does. i dont understand why he would waste...
    kmart52492 kmart52492 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 26

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    So, 45 years old today,

    I am sitting here alone since my marriage went down the drain this year. No, I am NOT feeling sorry for myself.....just reflecting. My last couple of birthdays, if I knew this is what my life would be like right now, I would have said "You mean, I won't be spending the rest...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    The Word 'Cheater'

    Here is a quote I found that really moved me: “livid, adj. **** You for cheating on me. **** you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    My Journey Begins.

    RECONCILIATION: to be in accord; to restore; to bring into agreement or harmony; to reestablish a close relationship. Yes, I am in the throes of reconciliation within my marriage. It is a day to day struggle. Yet, it is my short and long term goal. And, it is the hardest...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    did i hurt? HELL YEAH!

    ....was i broken? SHATTERED!.....did i learn a lesson? LOVE ME FIRST B4 TRYING TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE.. P.S. REMEMBER YOU WERE BORN ALONE YOU WILL DIE ALONE but IN BETWEEN LIFE & DEATH...LIVE EVERYDAY AS IF IT WERE YOUR LAST....DONT ALLOW ANOTHER TO STEAL YOUR JOY & HAPPINESS my...
    elle2122 elle2122 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    I have told how and why my wife cheated,

    When I found out I was humiliated physically and I retaliated with what is termed horrific results. I was just awakened at 3:00 AM and told I have to be at my parents house at 8:30 tomorrow morning, It was not anyone in my family but a police officer. I asked why he was...
    toughth toughth 56-60 May 6

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    i have been with my husband

    since i was 15 married now 23 years but together much longer. last year in Feb while laying in bed watching a movie with my husband he was on FB. I didnt think anything of it and fell asleep. The next morning i woke up with a horrible gut feeling that something was not right. He...
    jplm420 jplm420 46-50, F 7 Responses Jun 25

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 41-45, F 33 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    Today marks 4 weeks since I showed up at my

    boyfriend of 4 years' condo unexpected and found him naked, with another woman in his bed. Traumatic visual. I was completely blindsided. Since, I have been going through hell. My self-esteem has taken a major hit. I've lost faith in relationships. We were talking about...
    Ganheagla Ganheagla 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 8

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