I Have Been Cheated On

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    after 28 years of marriage my wife came to me

    one day and told me she was having an affair with my best friend. for the last 20 years. my wife was always awesome in bed and I thought things were good but I guess my 6c didn't make it compared to his 11 thick. That was 2 years ago and less than six months after we got...
    fuzzy76 fuzzy76
    66-70, M
    4 Responses Apr 16

    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90
    26-30, F
    14 Responses May 27, 2013

    my ex boyfriend (obviously boyfriend at the

    time) cheated on me with his ex because I wouldn't have sex with him. I told him time and time again that I wanted to wait a little bit but he was so forceful and pressuring and I'm actually really glad that relationship is over.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Feb 15

    Lol I can't even remember what he looks like.

    I left him a year ago & thanks to him I found love with the only person who deserved my kindness & nurturing....me. 6 days at the gym doing cardio & self defense has strengthened me physically and emotionally. I have a 6 pack & for once not easily manipulated or coerced by a man...
    jazzie1976 jazzie1976
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 2

    For those that have been betrayed,

    I want to leave stories in the archives that they might find helpful should they stumble across this site. Is your spouse's cheating your fault? It's been discussed before, but I think it's worth reiterating. Many are going to tell you that your spouse would not have cheated...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 13

    I've been cheated on 7 times

    now it's kinda exhausting I don't get why guys keep doing this to me :/
    emilywats1 emilywats1
    16-17, F
    5 Responses Mar 15

    One day he will realize he lost a diamond

    while playing with. Playing with worthless stones..
    BeautifulDayDream BeautifulDayDream
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Apr 24, 2015

    I met him on here... He was perfect,

    kind, loving, receptive, different from anyone I have ever known before... He never had a relationship... Its easy to see how this happened, but it doesn't make it hurt any less. I have always had to be in control, of my life, emotions, finances.... I never realized how out of...
    S33K3R S33K3R
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Apr 13

    just found out that my husband

    and best friend are sleeping together. she told me he's hiding from me. she told me it's just sex. no big deal, I don't want him. just ******* him. yet behind my back for 2yrs now! I'm upset at him more. but mind you he has not touched me in 4yrs
    lilolis43 lilolis43
    41-45, F
    9 Responses Sep 16, 2015

    Its been 2 years now,

    but i have moved on and enjoying being single
    siddy9999 siddy9999
    22-25, M
    1 Response Mar 11

    My wife and I have been together

    for 14 years. Last week while on the computer I kept noticing her Facebook notifications popping up. I have always trusted her completely and never pried in to her privacy but here right in my face she was having explicit message conversations with a couple different guys. She...
    Mywave68 Mywave68
    46-50, M
    10 Responses Nov 18, 2015

    Love... love is complicated.

    I've seen women lifted by love. Countless of them surrounded, fed, kissed by love. Most recently I met a woman condemned by love. Alienated, starved and forgotten by love. The pain from love is visible in her eyes, heart and soul. She lives for love and dies for love...
    cmyk323 cmyk323
    41-45, F
    5 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium
    31-35
    4 Responses Apr 13, 2013

    Didn't think I'd need to do another one of

    these but.... This is the 2nd time this has happened in the same relationship. I don't want it to end though. Okay I'm just putting myself through pain by keeping it going but I truly can't imagine life without my girlfriend. She takes me for granted I know, and I knew it was...
    Cainamythgimoj Cainamythgimoj
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Apr 8

    Married January 19, 2016.

    As I write this....I'm a little neutral about completely splitting up. Hell the last two months. 1. She was caught up in a lie about searching for other men while we was dating. I believed her. Now every time my suspicious arose..I broke up with her and tried to move on. Didn't...
    Justme7540 Justme7540
    36-40, M
    7 Responses Mar 3

    My Husband and I have been married 4 years

    and we have 3 Children under 3, I am a stay at home mom, and my husband has been talking with other women our whole marriage. He said that he was going out to look at another job one day and I later found out that he was at a hotel with another woman. I haven't truly been able...
    Shortstuff440 Shortstuff440
    26-30, F
    13 Responses Oct 23, 2015

    So my cheating ex married the mistress last

    Sunday & had their wedding reception in his local bar where they serve $10 steak night specials & he plays poker. The 50 year old blushing bride & her daughter will be moving to his parents basement where he's lived most of his life. Thank you mistress for making me dodge that...
    jazzie1976 jazzie1976
    36-40, F
    6 Responses Mar 9

    But not by my husband.

    Apparently my former boyfriend didn't like the fact that was not going to have sex until I was married. Oh well, there was someone better waiting around the corner who loved and respected me and was waiting for me like I was waiting for him. I won the prize. 😉
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Apr 4

    My fiance (dated for 5 yrs) got drunk

    and slept with someone else while struggling in our relationship .and to be honest I have already started to forgive him. The even harder part is the girl is preganant. With no plans on an abortion. I think we can heal from this , but the baby puts things so out of whack. Is...
    cbear12 cbear12
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 19
    XXLovelyPoisonXX XXLovelyPoisonXX
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 17, 2015

    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth
    31-35, M
    78 Responses Apr 29, 2012

    So my husband cheated on me basically moved in

    with his chick and left me and his son behind so then he goes to jail with the girl get a 10 year sentence did 4 years( we weren't together when he went to jail either time) and so while locked up he says he wants his family and I agreed to try no promises well yes after two...
    hurtfuldecisions hurtfuldecisions
    26-30, F
    8 Responses Apr 18

    I wish I knew what he told her about our

    marriage. I wish I knew why she knew he was married and still slept with him. Even allowed herself to fall in love with him. Did he even love her? Or the idea of being with someone who did not have any children and could give him all the attention he craves? I really wish I...
    kayg4 kayg4
    31-35, F
    13 Responses Jul 3, 2015

    Way too many times and by guys

    that didn't even deserve my time. Word of advice if he's the guy your ex recommends you date then he's probably just as low down and dirty as he is.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Mar 26

    how do you forgive your lover

    when they cheated or you suspected they cheated but you chose to forgive them and move on. Its always on my mind and sometimes I bring it up because I have a hard time forgetting I don't want this to continue to cause problems in our future I just don't know how to let this go...
    epain33 epain33
    26-30, F
    25 Responses Aug 26, 2015

    Hi, my dream is to centralise one forum

    for all people who have been betrayed in this way. Due to the popularity of the "I am not the other woman" I'm suggesting this group. If there's one central group for cheating support we can all help eachother and move towards healing. Please "me too" "I am not the other" woman...
    paliglass paliglass
    36-40, F
    3 Responses May 6, 2015

    He told me yesterday

    that he cheated on me a few days ago. It was at a friend's birthday party and he was drunk. He is genuinely remorseful and sorry that he did it, and he said that it was a conscious decision even though he was drunk, but that he was being stupid and selfish. I'm incredibly hurt...
    SkyeDreams SkyeDreams
    22-25, F
    19 Responses Jan 10, 2015

    These are stories left I am leaving in the

    archives that might be helpful to the betrayed spouses. Should you confront the affair partner? This is just my opinion, but the short answer is, no. Why not? Because ,for many reasons, it's pointless. This person has disrespected you, your marriage and your family. There's no...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 20
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 20

    I am so hurt and heartbroken.

    My husband and I have been together for 13 years, married for 10. We have a beautiful 7 month old baby together which I had to go through hell and back to have him. I found out he had an affair by listening to my gut instincts....and I just found out they were talking on a...
    Hadley35 Hadley35
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Nov 5, 2015

    My husband cheated on me with my daughter (not

    HIS, relax ,she's an adult).. how the hell do I get past it??
    meadbme meadbme
    41-45, F
    41 Responses Jan 17, 2015

    I am here on EP because I feel very lost,

    very alone, and I'm having a guilt complex too. I found out a week ago that my wife of almost 30 years has been having an affair with the guy who she was seeing before my wife and I met. When she was seeing him before, she was still single and he was married. I feel like this...
    thankgodformedication thankgodformedication
    51-55, M
    8 Responses Mar 10

    Was recently betrayed by my partner of two years

    and the woman I thought I would share my life with. While we went through a stressful time she took it upon herself to go behind my back while I was doing everything I could to work for our future. It kind of feels gut wrenching to have your kindness mistaken for weakness, but...
    TheBetrayedOne TheBetrayedOne
    18-21, M
    3 Responses Mar 26

    So this is the story of how I was cheated on

    but didn't really realise until months later. So last year in August I broke up with my now ex boyfriend who I had been with for a year and 4 months (3 or 4, I'm not sure). At the start of the relationship he said he'd kill himself if we ever broke up, which was obviously a lie...
    KandiKitty98 KandiKitty98
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Feb 25

    5 days ago my husband of 24 years left his cell

    phone at home. I discovered a 3 month affair he's been having. I am completely broken.
    maire08 maire08
    41-45, F
    24 Responses Aug 25, 2015

    Somehow this seems more appropriate here

    than in the "I Love Jokes" group. And if it wasn't so damn true, it just might be funny. _____________________________________________________ A harried looking man with a gun unholstered on his hip, walks into the bar. At the top of his lungs he yells "I have a Colt 45 and...
    Longlegs2014 Longlegs2014
    51-55, M
    5 Responses Aug 12, 2015

    does a girl texting a guy during your hangout

    count? cause I'm very sure there was some shady business going down on that cell phone ..
    Cocrispy Cocrispy
    22-25, M
    6 Responses Feb 29

    A month before my tenth wedding anniversary I

    came home from work early and found my wife in the act of cheating. I CHASED A NAKED MAN OUT OF MY HOUSE! I have never been so hurt and mad in my life. I told my wife to leave and our three sons are staying with me. She left and I did not hear a thing from her for 2 weeks. It...
    German78 German78
    36-40, M
    19 Responses Sep 15, 2015

    Not a great thing to happen.

    But you look back, evaluate and figure out why it happened. At least I know what not to do in the next relationship. Maybe it is all down to communication.
    OJhickley21 OJhickley21
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 27

    If you are in a relationship,

    or know someone in a relationship, where cheating has occurred in the past or currently happening, an important new tv show with one of the best marriage therapists in the country wants help couples resolve their issues. Compensation for chosen couples. For more info, email...
    onettoone onettoone
    31-35, M
    1 Response Apr 12

    the fact that some people can go out with you

    and just suddenly turn around and kiss the next guy without any remorse is incredible. but if they're happy with him, then get - what can I do?
    diegosauns diegosauns
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Feb 27

    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo
    46-50, F
    32 Responses Dec 1, 2013

    I still remember like it was yesterday

    even though it happened 3 years ago when I found out I was married to a pathological cheater and a liar. She had slept with multiple men since our marriage. I remember feeling like this pain had no end in sight. I wasn't sure how I would coexist with this painful reality. I...
    Jumba2016 Jumba2016
    41-45, M
    9 Responses Dec 1, 2015

    I was married for 21 years

    and loved my husband very much. He had an affair with a female associate. She ended up pregnant with his baby. I found out from a girlfriend that he was cheating on me. I confronted him about it. He did not deny it happened. In disgust I immediately threw him out and...
    oldersinglemom oldersinglemom
    46-50, F
    13 Responses Jun 4, 2015

    so sick of jerks. I am old school

    and belief in forever. I want forever. Not mind games.
    maemae208 maemae208
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Mar 3, 2015

    For those that have been betrayed,

    I want to leave stories in the archives that they might find helpful should they stumble across this site. One of the first things I would say to you is get help. Betrayal is a pain like no other. You are going to need support. I do advocate therapy, but be careful which...
    kpitup kpitup
    56-60, F
    1 Response Apr 13

    I've been in a marriage

    for many years now and found out he cheated on me. Not just a one time thing he had a girlfriend and me his wife. My world feels shattered and I am ready to go but I do not know why I can't. We have kids and they love him even though he's emotionally unattached with all of us. I...
    mkaylaa mkaylaa
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Feb 28, 2015

    he goes on social networks

    and acts like a total different person , he talks to other females from my area, meets up with females acts like he's single meanwhile we have been together over a year we have been living together 8 months I know his family and yet he does this I Dont know what to do at this...
    pinkx3 pinkx3
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 28

    Cheating is NOT a mistake!

    !! If you're truly in love with someone, you will not be able to kiss someone else without tasting your loved ones tear stained lips. You will not be able to take your clothes off for someone else feeling like a field ripped bare of its soil. Cheating is a choice, it's a choice...
    TotalityOfMe TotalityOfMe
    36-40, M
    6 Responses Feb 27

    I was cheated on then dumped.

    now he wants me to wait to see if the new relationship works. I just want to move on. advice
    vbrooks1965 vbrooks1965
    51-55, F
    23 Responses Jun 17, 2015

    He's been a bit off recently.

    My instincts are telling me something's not right. So I did some checking up. For about a week now he's been actively trying to get the attention of a girl on fb. Several hello messages and requests for chats. Lolol. She's ignored them all. Today I found he had deleted...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    13 Responses Oct 26, 2015
    ditshwanelo ditshwanelo
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Feb 4
    666LexiBabe666 666LexiBabe666
    22-25, F
    48 Responses Sep 3, 2014

    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Oct 22, 2012

    I was in a non-monogamous marriage,

    but there were still rules about outside relationships. my husband crossed the line and it nearly ruined our marriage. We're lucky we recovered and have since become happily monogamous.
    SweetLadyQ SweetLadyQ
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Feb 28

    It's happened with 4 of my gf's.

    2 times they told me when we broke up. The other 2 times I walked in on them having sex. And every time they said it was because they weren't satisfied by my small unit. I think it's sexy actually.
    trampstampguy90 trampstampguy90
    26-30, M
    1 Response Feb 27

    It's been three months

    since I discovered that my husband cheated on me. I chosed to stay because I thought we will be alright after all. But since then I felt I am not happy anymore and I do not understand my feelings for him right now.
    AshleyFaith AshleyFaith
    26-30, F
    17 Responses Apr 19

    So many times that it made it

    so I trust no one and not always sure I believe in love or if I will ever find true love.. If it really does exist.
    nyx39 nyx39
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Sep 22, 2015
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