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I Have Been Cheated On

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    Just Sharing On Today 04-15-13

    "An apology is the super-glue of life. It can repair just about anything." --Lynn Johnston Wow...is all I can say today...I am totally exhausted...the kids had soccer and swimming this weekend, and I worked...I had an eventful weekend to say the least...the most important...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 15, 2013

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    Two of my ex's cheated on me,

    why? Idk... I guess that's my luck with relationships..
    frozenteer frozenteer 18-21, M 3 Responses Mar 10

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    My Ex (a.k.a The Bastard) And His Best (female) Friend (a.k.a. The *****)......

    I really do not understand why society accepts these three's a crowd type relationships. Whatever happened to a relationship being between two people? Why do relationships have third parties, sometimes more, dictating to them everything? Why do people assume that it's always...
    M3rmaid M3rmaid 26-30, F 18 Responses Oct 11, 2012

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    So my Husband and I have been together

    for 15 years and married for 13 next month. Yes maybe we did get married too young but we were happy and in love and well up until last weekend I thought we still were. I have never been one to judge someone by thier looks although he is sexy as hell, but personality and traits...
    AnonyMuse8 AnonyMuse8 31-35, F 4 Responses Mar 13

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    I Was Cheated On While I Was Pregnant...awful

    I was about five months pregnant with my daughter and I invited my friend Kim over to a barbecue at our house.You see Kim and I are friends because she has a daughter with my ex-husband whom we both left because of abuse and hate him mutually.We both had children with him you...
    maivelz maivelz 31-35, F 5 Responses Jul 6, 2012

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    I have been with my husband

    for 10 years. 9 Married. And ever since I've been with him i have been madly in love with him never falling out. I have done everything for that man have put him first before myself, my kids, family, friends and even my job. In February of 2012 he left me for another woman. I...
    Rindylee85 Rindylee85 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 26

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    I need some advice. I've been married

    for 15 years and have 3 wonderful kids. We've been going through a rough patch for a year or so. Seemed like she was always angry at me and that made me angry and depressed in return. Recently I found out she has been cheating on me. I confronted her. She didn't want to give up...
    lifeinhell27 lifeinhell27 46-50, M 8 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was married for 28 years.

    I found out my husband was cheating on me when we had been married 17 years. I put him out because he left home on day before dinner to meet his lady, but told the kids he was going to the store and would be back in 15 minutes and asked me to hold dinner.. He called me to...
    trainer411 trainer411 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    Is This My Life?

    I just had a moment. I am new to this site, I've only been on for a few days. But, I can't believe I am actually here. I needed an outlet for my feelings, and I think this is the right place. If someone told me a few years back that my husband would have cheated on my, I...
    dl1120 dl1120 31-35, F 6 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    I dated this woman for about six months,

    she was great and said all the right words and knew all the catchy phrases. What ever i wanted if she could get it or do it she would. I was always just a little carefull about her. I never told her too much about myself and i bought one of those cheap pay as you go phones from...
    Hopeless50000 Hopeless50000 26-30 2 Responses Mar 3

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    The Word 'Cheater'

    Here is a quote I found that really moved me: “livid, adj. **** You for cheating on me. **** you for reducing it to the word cheating. As if this were a card game, and you sneaked a look at my hand. Who came up with the term cheating, anyway? A cheater, I imagine. Someone who...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 2 Responses Aug 21, 2013

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    And it is one of the worst feelings in the

    world, especially if you really care for that person. You have to learn to forgive that person and move on because if not, it can eat you alive. First you have feel the hate resonate within you. It is like an evil anomaly. You have to look at it and you have to face it. After...
    KingLlnk KingLlnk 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 12

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    did i hurt? HELL YEAH!

    ....was i broken? SHATTERED!.....did i learn a lesson? LOVE ME FIRST B4 TRYING TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE.. P.S. REMEMBER YOU WERE BORN ALONE YOU WILL DIE ALONE but IN BETWEEN LIFE & DEATH...LIVE EVERYDAY AS IF IT WERE YOUR LAST....DONT ALLOW ANOTHER TO STEAL YOUR JOY & HAPPINESS my...
    elle2122 elle2122 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    It's time to say good-bye.

    I absolutely love EP and all that it has given me. My whole life, my whole being has been forever changed by my husband's affair. I have a really, really long way to go, but I am well on my way. I still have "bad" days. As a matter of fact, yesterday was a really bad day...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 22

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    My first boyfriend, a guy named Jeremy,

    cheated on me with a girl from work after being together for a year and two months. I had always had trust issues due to a combination of my real dad leaving my family when I was young and my parent's recent divorce. I believe that this may have been a blessing in this...
    ZombiesAndMusic ZombiesAndMusic 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 1

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    Right now I'm lucky to be in a healthy trust

    worthy relationship. But alll absolutely all my past boyfriends cheated on me. It's funny because it only took them less than a month to decide they wanted to cheat. And everytime I broke it off with them . It's funny I got pretty good at breaking up with them. I made this guy...
    pinkblueberry2 pinkblueberry2 18-21, F Mar 5

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 1 Response Apr 13, 2013

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    i have been cheated for three times

    now my life is hell ..... i just feel to die all time :(
    vinutav vinutav 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    It's a long story, actually.

    It was a huge mistake I made and I'll just leave it at that. I'm just glad I'm not in that situation anymore because I know that if I stuck around, I'd just get cheated on over and over again. I don't feel any anger towards this person by all means and I'm more than happy with...
    Imaginarionify Imaginarionify 22-25, F Feb 28

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    Usually it's the guy

    that cheats but it's the girl in this story. I dates this girl for 2 years and we were gunna get married and the day before I was going to propose I found out she cheated on me with a friend of mine. So needless to say I broke it off. She still tries to get back with me but it...
    sexy23guy sexy23guy 22-25, M 4 Responses Mar 3

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 12 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    It didn't bother me at all,

    if anything, I felt sorry for the guy! Not because she was ugly, because she wasn't, she was very beautiful. But, I now realise how little morals she has, and how much of a horrible person she was. She's now his problem. It may have hurt if I was in love with her, but I wasn't...
    Ryanholmes20375 Ryanholmes20375 18-21, M Apr 10

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    What Is The Best Way To Heal A Broken Heart?

    Hmmmmm...I have been pondering that thought for a long time...how can I mend my broken heart...maybe replace one love with another...concentrate on other things and other people...pray...pray ...pray......evade ...evade...evade....Well my cousin told me a quote...."The best way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    My first boyfriend cheated on me with several

    of his ex girlfriends. I was 17 when I got with him and he was 18. He was somewhat of a player before me so I probably should've known. Plus he was friends with a lot of his exes. About 5 months into our relationship, I found out he had kissed another girl while staying at his...
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 20

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    Hearts breaking... My girlfriend has been

    cheating on me for the past year, I knew about it the whole time though but until now I was ok with it..but... :'(
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated 18-21, F 12 Responses Mar 25

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    She Had The Same Name As Me

    I've been cheated on only once (from what I know of...) His name was Ivan. He was a Mexicano with great looks and charm. He would speak to me in Spanish and my heart would melt, I would speak to him in Russian and I thought his heart melted too, but I was wrong, his **** just...
    Maia000 Maia000 18-21, F 8 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    Cheater Of Beauty

    I see her walk down She looks so fine Would you like to stop For dinner sometime? But remember deep Deep in my side That she is just Another lie How about dinner? Table for two I think I'm liking this Me and you But remember deep Deep in my side That she is nothing more Than a...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 5 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 41-45, F 34 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    My Journey Begins.

    RECONCILIATION: to be in accord; to restore; to bring into agreement or harmony; to reestablish a close relationship. Yes, I am in the throes of reconciliation within my marriage. It is a day to day struggle. Yet, it is my short and long term goal. And, it is the hardest...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F 10 Responses Mar 3

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    I will write about this.

    I actually kind of want to have at least one story for each experience I've got listed, but I doubt I will ever manage all of that. I will preface the story by admitting that I've cheated at least once, but that is a different experience and occurred long before anything I will...
    Lgl700 Lgl700 51-55, M 6 days ago

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    He Turned My World Upside Down

    I trusted you. I took you in when you had no where to go and no job and still at this moment continue to take care of you. While I was at work you brought another into our house and in our bed and denied it until when I heard you and her talking about it I should have not been...
    jnurse1986 jnurse1986 26-30, F 1 Response May 10, 2013

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    When i got pregnant, i was having a hard time

    in dealing with being pregnant, im Bi polar type II and there are no resources where i live to have extra support for such things, now that being said i have plenty of help with my mental health care team. while my husband is FASD with multiple conditions within it. like...
    XMadXMadisonX XMadXMadisonX 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    Wife Cheated For 7 Years

    I found out in May that my wife of 31 years has been having an affair with a co-worker for the last 7 years. It's still so surreal, they had their affair during the work day so it never impacted our personal time. We never had a following out, in fact I thought the past 7 years...
    Dlheg1 Dlheg1 51-55, M 5 Responses Jul 31, 2013

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 15 Responses May 27, 2013

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    My husband had an affair with another woman.

    ..I have fantasies about having sex with her myself. I'm curious as to why her...anyone else have those thoughts?
    justmeasme justmeasme 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 21

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    I was dating a girl that I have been friends

    with and known since elementary school. We even went to the same college. We didn't date until the end of last year and it was great. We had plans to live together and get married. She knew exactly what to say and do to get me to let my guard down and trust her. She knew about a...
    Brennancr Brennancr 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    I Dont Understand "Open" Relationships

    I see people who cheat on their spouse. I see people who hide it and others who do it openly with full support and sometimes a spouse who would watch or join in. I see this a lot on here. I have to tell you, I dont understand.  Maybe its just me, but the thought of anyone...
    xFrostyx xFrostyx 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 15, 2009

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 17, 2013

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    So, 45 years old today,

    I am sitting here alone since my marriage went down the drain this year. No, I am NOT feeling sorry for myself.....just reflecting. My last couple of birthdays, if I knew this is what my life would be like right now, I would have said "You mean, I won't be spending the rest...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    What Makes Being Cheating On A Whole Lot Worse?

    When they cheat on you with someone who is a whole lot more attractive than you! Not only do you feel worthless but you feel that anyone you get with would always prefer someone better and want to leave you for them. This is probably why I always feel that my boyfriend could do a...
    FadedSilhouette FadedSilhouette 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2013

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    My ex boyfriend of 6 years

    who I thought I would be with forever cheated on me. I would much rather have just gone our separate ways. I feel like I was too young to get married in the first place but it's so crazy how love really does make you have blinders on!
    brittd90 brittd90 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 14

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    I Still Have My Moments

    The last couple of days have been a "mental struggle" for me. Though things have been wonderful between my husband and I, I have still had to contend with ruminating on the past. I am trying so hard to just move forward and leave that behind. But I still have my moments. And...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 18, 2013

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    I have been cheated on many times I'm sure.

    The first and most memorable was my first love. Cheated on me 3x and that 3rd time I cheated on him and boy did that feel good. He wanted me back bad but, too late.
    GreekGoddesz GreekGoddesz 36-40, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    "Some lessons are best learned through pain.

    Sometimes, our vision clears only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes, we have to be broken so we can be whole again. Remember: If God made the day to be perfect, He wouldn't have invented tomorrow." ---Unknown For everyone going through "it" today, I just want...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 25

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    Almost 3 years later

    and the pain is still there. A conversation last night about a meeting up with an ex brought out the ocean of hurt in me. Now she wants me to "take responsibility" in causing her to cheat. **** no. I take responsibility for being a part of a rough patch in her life by not fully...
    gatorgirl1205 gatorgirl1205 26-30, F Mar 27

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    Here it is 2014, and I am actually happier

    than I have ever been. I still have my moments with my husband. I still ruminate sometimes. I still get angry sometimes. Yet, I am still here, and we are still working things out and moving forward TOGETHER. (Allowing myself a long sigh of relief....) This has been a long and...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    Still struggling everyday.

    I did a little digging today & found that some of the things I asked him to back off of, like saving pics of other women (strangers from social media - instagram, twitter, tumblr) he's doing now more than before bcuz he doesn't realize there's still ways to see some of it...
    tessa70 tessa70 41-45, F 4 Responses Mar 1

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 56 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    I wanted to share a couple of excerpts from

    the book "Getting Past the Affair- A Program To Help You Cope, Heal and Move On---Together or Apart" by Douglas K. Snyder, PhD, Donald H. Baucom, PhD, & Kristina Coop Gordon, PhD. "You may be finding recovery especially difficult because at some level you're still reeling from...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    The Tangeld Webs We Weave...

    Originally Posted February 25th, 2010 at 1:02PM OK so it all started back in November of 2009 when a good friend family friend and his wife were in need of some help. The husband (we will call him MW and her Lucy) was about to get laid off and they needed help with a babysitter...
    LifeChangingLove LifeChangingLove 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 25, 2013

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    Long story short: I found out my (then) fiancé

    had cheated on me. I decided to forgive and fight through it. We got married. I found out that it had happened again, so we sought out help and advice. It came up that he had cheated again before we were married. I fully believe in forgiveness and God has truly helped me...
    seatothebay seatothebay 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 21

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    I've been cheated on by my boyfriend they were

    signs there and I kept asking him to tell me the truth because if not the truth will come out, well it did I was hurt cuss him out and leave him alone. Idk what to do I'm bitter this isn't the first time I got cheated on other exs did. I'm i curse?
    cara12345 cara12345 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Multiple times and apart of me wishes I could

    do to them what they always do to me but it is strongly out of my character. I am the type of person that puts all of my attention into one person. I feel that it would unfair to give someone only a piece of me because I KNOW I have a lot to offer.
    NeeverForget NeeverForget 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Related Experiences

    I have been cheated on alot. My first long term relationship ended in me finding out he had cheated on me atleast 5 times. When i eventually moved on, i got cheated on again, same...
    Soldottern Soldottern 16-17, F 3 Responses 5 days ago