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I Have Been Cheated On

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    When I think of her now instead of sorrow I am

    starting to feel this anger & rage...it comes unbidden ...I allow myself a mean growl and then I gotta release it. Went for a run in the snow, which never happens and then hit the qigong like I was an ancient master zenning for the 11th enlightenment. It's taken such a toll on...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 5 Responses Jan 7

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    I just dont understand my husband sometimes I

    have given him everything he has ask of me and that just doesn't seem to be good enough because he feels that he has to talk to other women and sometimes the conversation turns inappropriate and of course he has a dumb *** excuse ready to tell me then not to long ago I caught...
    akbravo akbravo 26-30, F 5 hrs ago

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    Have any of you seen the msn story of Cassandra

    Hensley the last 2 days ? Wow what a bad way to find out what kinda wife you had...And he had to step up and take care of her 2 kids because the biological father did not want them . That's a solid dude,, unfortunately it seems like this is the type of person cheated on these...
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 2 Responses Mar 14

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 36-40, F 8 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    I'm not a party person.

    So when I didn't go out with her and her friends she got really drunk and the guy at the night club dancing with her took her home. That was the first time I felt so much emotional pain. I couldn't trust her anymore so there was no point of continuing with her. This was the...
    solojo solojo 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 13

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    My husband cheated on me with my daughter (not

    HIS, relax ,she's an adult).. how the hell do I get past it??
    meadbme meadbme 41-45, F 52 Responses Jan 17

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    my husband and i have been best friends

    for 20 years, in a relationship for 4 yrs and married for 1. I found out he was cheating on me just before we got married and was sending pics of himself to women and so on. I fell pregnant with our baby so i made the decision to stay as i thought i cpuld forgive him. its been...
    mumofj mumofj 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    Plz I hope it doesn't take 25yrs

    and then to have them walk out. I too ended becoming an adulter. Marriage was something I consider to be most sacred. I found myself to be what I hated that my spouse for. Time and again with the cheating and me forgiving...or waiting and justifying(self) my reasons. 25 yrs...
    bNangela4u bNangela4u 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    Deep deep breath. Stretch.

    Go. Fifty push ups. 3km run. Hit the weights. Swimming. Rock climbing. Ultimate frisbee. Dodgeball...go .,.work it out. "Year heart will heal faster if you work out your anger grief mourning...exercise,..get healthy" I can only work on myself. She has chosen to stab me in the...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 19, 2014

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    How could you fake your feelings

    so well? Make me believe you were different from the rest? Let me show you off to all my friends as if you were the greatest bf out there? Buy me everything I wanted and have it mean nothing? Hurt me and want me back as if it were nothing? How can you not leave me alone when I'm...
    gkaren gkaren 18-21, F Mar 18

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    My Wife Cheated

    Several months ago, I discovered that my wife of 17 years has been having affairs for the better part of our marriage and it has turned my world upside down, caused me unbelievable anguish, and has basically changed me from the inside out. She was everything to me, and I was so...
    MrJedi MrJedi 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    I knew it from the second it happened,

    but when the words came out of your mouth it hurt a billion times more. I didn't want to believe it, I just wanted to curl up and die. It's not that you cheated on me, it's that you had feelings for her and still do. Now I have nightmares about it every night, now I never feel...
    fucksunshine fucksunshine 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 9

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    My husband (soon to be ex) cheated on me

    numerous times in the time we were together. I found messages just a month after we were married that showed he wasn't faithful, but I believed him when he said it was nothing. I wanted to believe him. Fast forward a few years later, I see that not only was he doing it again...
    TryAnStopMe TryAnStopMe 26-30, F 3 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I found out I was just cheated on by my

    boyfriend. Today at school I didn't tell him why I was upset I just yelled at him not to talk to me. I tried texting him but he won't reply. I want to make things right and I don't know what to say or do about this..
    makailafish makailafish 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 5

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    Last day in Ireland ,

    before heading to Australia , very bad fight, I realized while lying in bed thinking there was a question that was never asked by neither of the counselors or myself. While in a drug induced stupor how did she secretly arrange all of her sessions with other man, with such...
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    my gf was flirting on this new kid at school

    and I know him, she flirts with him, gives him kissy faces and and tells him they should date.. I broke up with her and she says its my fault, hell no!! I been good Cuz she gets joleous and I don't talk to no girl.
    blitzgreek19 blitzgreek19 16-17, M 5 days ago

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    And after reading the stories in the Other

    Woman forum and seeing how some are having sexual relationship with not only a married man but with other men, I am thankful to be divorcing. I know not everyone share the same morals and values BUT considering that one person can spread a VD to multiple people is DISGUSTING!
    flirtinglove flirtinglove 36-40, F Mar 15

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    He cheated and got her pregnant.

    And got me pregnant at the same time. But this was years ago...
    imitosis imitosis 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 13

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    What would you do, if you were constantly told

    for decades that one day soon if you are a good boy you will get the life you want. you go for 16 years being the good boy that was wanted. then one day you wake up in a recovery room without the headache you had for over a decade. and realizes that life is to short to allow...
    toughth toughth 56-60, M 2 Responses Mar 10

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    Man I just hate her and the other man.

    So fukin selfish. My kids are confused & angry and in pain. *** them
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 3 Responses Mar 17

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    so my husband cheated on me 6 years ago

    and when I found out I question him and of course he denied it 100% up until recently he finally confused to me that he did cheat on me and the worst part of it all is he might have fathered another child with that damn girl so what should I be feeling right now
    akbravo akbravo 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    I was 6 months pregnant

    when I found out he was cheating. He accidentally butt dialed me at 4 in the morning when he was with her...I can still remember the pain building up in my chest as it slowly dawned on me what it was I heard on the other line. I tried to give us the space to learn from the...
    cnk2015 cnk2015 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    But learned. And wondered more.

    And sought better loving.
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M 4 days ago

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    abcdefghisabelmnopqrst abcdefghisabelmnopqrst 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 6

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    while pregnant, he cheated on me with four

    different women. im a single mother now and im ok with it.
    StillHere84 StillHere84 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    He cheated and denied it all.

    And I forgave him. But Idk if I should get back with him I mean he makes me so happy and he hasn't stopped tryng since we broke up 5 months ago but at the same time he's been kissing other girls . I wanna forgive him but I'm scared I'll get hurt again. I'm scared I'll look dumb...
    gkaren gkaren 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 13

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    There is no pain like being ripped asunder by

    deceit...six months before she confessed to her affair ....healing hasnt come but wisdom surely has.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 9 Responses Jan 12

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    As an engineer my life is driven by logic

    and statistics, as I ponder on events the last few months I realize people have no logic at all , barely any reasoning , most people don't even have an understanding of basic morality. 65 percent of women are cheaters 68 percent of men are. How do you like them numbers ? A 65...
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 15

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    I have been cheated on.

    I walked in on my fiancé' and what I thought was my best friend. It was the BEST thing that has ever happened to me! I moved out I found myself, I started a blog, I learned to be one with nature I leaned that I am just perfect being me. I have no interest in dating I know Mr...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 26, 2014

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    A few days ago we decided to take a month off

    and travel...Key West for a week . Ireland for a week , Australia for a week , then Italy for a bit and France for a bit ! So far so good !
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M Mar 11

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 46-50, F 31 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 6

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    In my current relationship

    and the previous relationship. Which completely dumbfounds me. In a relationship I spoil my guys. Cook. Clean. Massage. Very active sex life. And yet....they cheated. So that tells me it's not me. So why? I don't get it.
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 7 Responses 8 hrs ago

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    It wasn't her that ruined us.

    ..it was you. I loved you unconditionally but you did the ONE thing I can't forgive. Swear I wanna forgive you but I know it will never be the same and you are no longer the person I thought you were. That really sucks bc I fell in love w that person...who doesn't exist.
    gkelyyy gkelyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    After you are cheated on nothing will ever be

    the same in your relationship. **** love.
    sydneymarie sydneymarie 18-21, F a week ago

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    I loved her..took care of her

    when she was down, back rubs and kisses...listen to her anytime...helped her with her kids, cooked meals, helped around the house. I told her I loved her every day, and how beautiful she was....not enough...
    dksd71 dksd71 41-45 6 Responses Mar 8

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    I vow I will never cheat on anyone.

    Especially in marriage. It's vile. You break up with someone THEN move on. I will not love like a liar in deceit, hiding in the shadows. So glad it's over.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 71 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    He told me yesterday

    that he cheated on me a few days ago. It was at a friend's birthday party and he was drunk. He is genuinely remorseful and sorry that he did it, and he said that it was a conscious decision even though he was drunk, but that he was being stupid and selfish. I'm incredibly hurt...
    SkyeDreams SkyeDreams 22-25, F 26 Responses Jan 10

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    And the b**ch ran away with his hoe a**.

    And when he turned abusive she thought she could just run back to me like I forgot how she hurt me. **** her. I told her a** that too. Bullshittin' a** hoe.
    TrackStackz TrackStackz 13-15, M 9 hrs ago

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    Hearts breaking... My girlfriend has been

    cheating on me for the past year, I knew about it the whole time though but until now I was ok with it..but... :'(
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated 18-21, F 10 Responses