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I Have Been Cheated On

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    "Some lessons are best learned through pain.

    Sometimes, our vision clears only after our eyes are washed with tears. Sometimes, we have to be broken so we can be whole again. Remember: If God made the day to be perfect, He wouldn't have invented tomorrow." ---Unknown For everyone going through "it" today, I just want...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 25

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    A girl cheated on me once,

    well technically twice but it was the same girlfriend cheating with the same guy. I got very upset and went out and slept with a guy I lived near, I thought it'd make me feel better but I felt awful and I ended up being the bad guy :/
    bd693 bd693 18-21, M 2 Responses Jun 11

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    She Had The Same Name As Me

    I've been cheated on only once (from what I know of...) His name was Ivan. He was a Mexicano with great looks and charm. He would speak to me in Spanish and my heart would melt, I would speak to him in Russian and I thought his heart melted too, but I was wrong, his **** just...
    Maia000 Maia000 18-21, F 7 Responses Jul 28, 2012

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 60 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    My marriage wasn't horrible, no abuse, no drinking, we were responsible people, I tried to give him the world, everything I could and my needs last. I'm not perfect, I guess in the process we began drifting apart, life responsibilities got to be a bigger demand and we did less...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 1 Response Jun 15

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    It sucks. I know. He stole all the rent

    and had sex with a coworker and that coworker gave him HPV and now i have it because i trusted the guy whoi wanted to be with forever. turns out thats what you get for not being on the same page as the ***** in your house not to mention he got all nasty and fat but then we break...
    coerietheraven coerietheraven 18-21, M 1 Response Aug 1

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    The Tangeld Webs We Weave...

    Originally Posted February 25th, 2010 at 1:02PM OK so it all started back in November of 2009 when a good friend family friend and his wife were in need of some help. The husband (we will call him MW and her Lucy) was about to get laid off and they needed help with a babysitter...
    LifeChangingLove LifeChangingLove 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 25, 2013

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    Update! There's hope guys - don't settle!

    Last time I posted it had been only one month since being cheated on - and I was a mess. Only thing I was sure of is that there was no way I was going to be with someone capable of hurting me that badly. I was desperately searching for someone who had been through what I have...
    imatulipinacup imatulipinacup 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    He cheated on me with the same girl.

    The first time i just knew he asked her out. I thought he would fix it but he didnt. The second time i finally knew he didnt just ask her out but they went on a date and he kissed her and they bought each gifts too. He says he has changed! Should i give him a last chance?
    shomal93 shomal93 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    Rayven1997 Rayven1997 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 41-45, F 33 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    My Wife Cheated

    Several months ago, I discovered that my wife of 17 years has been having affairs for the better part of our marriage and it has turned my world upside down, caused me unbelievable anguish, and has basically changed me from the inside out. She was everything to me, and I was so...
    MrJedi MrJedi 36-40, M 10 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    I should just expect it: I've been cheated on

    every relationship I've been in, I should just expect it to happen. I don't know if it's because i'm nice and they think i'l forgive them, or maybe it's me. I'm not spontaneous or anything like that so maybe I need to change. I don't even know if I can care about anyone anymore...
    addictedtoweightlifting addictedtoweightlifting 18-21, M 6 Responses Jul 4

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    He Turned My World Upside Down

    I trusted you. I took you in when you had no where to go and no job and still at this moment continue to take care of you. While I was at work you brought another into our house and in our bed and denied it until when I heard you and her talking about it I should have not been...
    jnurse1986 jnurse1986 26-30, F 2 Responses May 10, 2013

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    Here we go again, 3rd time around I get curious

    whilst bf is working away! I logged into his email and found 2 new dating site profiles, and a lovely chat between himself and a 23 year old wanting a sugar daddy, he even mentioned moving and hiding money to pay her.. surely that's prostitution though? Bang to rights. Wrong...
    wjean71 wjean71 41-45, F 5 Responses Jul 10

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    I have been cheated on.

    I walked in on my fiancé' and what I thought was my best friend. It was the BEST thing that has ever happened to me! I moved out I found myself, I started a blog, I learned to be one with nature I leaned that I am just perfect being me. I have no interest in dating I know Mr...
    Chicgeekgal Chicgeekgal 22-25, F 11 Responses Jul 26

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    I'm not sure what to do.

    My boyfriend and I had been talking for a while before he finally decided to ask me out the other day. Let me tell you a little bit about him. He has had a bad past. He's cheated once on his past girlfriend before and I went into the relationship knowing that but I truly thought...
    unluckiestginger unluckiestginger 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 14

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    adrinnasweet adrinnasweet 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    I have been with my bf

    for 4 yrs. I found out he cheated once just because the other girl found out about me and confronted me about it. They've been going out for 6 mos. He left her and I forgave him because he gave more effort into working it out with me. He would see me almost everyday, would...
    justmezel justmezel 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 29

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    Well, he's much younger

    than me and moved to my place since he lives in the countryside and dropped school really early. He works, but for sure I pay all the bills and etc. We've been together for only 6 months. Well, today I was holding he's phone while a message popped up, little sweet hearts and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 1

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 11

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 12 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 6 Responses Jun 15

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    What Is The Best Way To Heal A Broken Heart?

    Hmmmmm...I have been pondering that thought for a long time...how can I mend my broken heart...maybe replace one love with another...concentrate on other things and other people...pray...pray ...pray......evade ...evade...evade....Well my cousin told me a quote...."The best way...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jan 22, 2013

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    Hearts breaking... My girlfriend has been

    cheating on me for the past year, I knew about it the whole time though but until now I was ok with it..but... :'(
    BarelyAdulterated BarelyAdulterated 18-21, F 10 Responses Mar 25

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 14 Responses May 27, 2013

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    i have been with my husband

    since i was 15 married now 23 years but together much longer. last year in Feb while laying in bed watching a movie with my husband he was on FB. I didnt think anything of it and fell asleep. The next morning i woke up with a horrible gut feeling that something was not right. He...
    jplm420 jplm420 46-50, F 6 Responses Jun 25

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    My Journey Begins.

    RECONCILIATION: to be in accord; to restore; to bring into agreement or harmony; to reestablish a close relationship. Yes, I am in the throes of reconciliation within my marriage. It is a day to day struggle. Yet, it is my short and long term goal. And, it is the hardest...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2013

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    Ive been cheated on more then enough times by

    several guys. Including the one I chose to stay with after I knew he cheated.
    celenahodgson celenahodgson 16-17, F Jul 8

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    It's time to say good-bye.

    I absolutely love EP and all that it has given me. My whole life, my whole being has been forever changed by my husband's affair. I have a really, really long way to go, but I am well on my way. I still have "bad" days. As a matter of fact, yesterday was a really bad day...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 22

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    kaye23e kaye23e 22-25, F 7 Responses Mar 3

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    I was at my (ex)boyfriends house we were just

    watching movie till we both fell asleep i woke up by having to urge using the bathroom, when i got back his phone lite up i check it. A girl name Chrissy texted him if they wanted go out next friday...so i dumped him.
    Hey231 Hey231 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 26

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 2 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    my life has gone upside down from the day i

    have saw my wife kissing our neighbour in a park.i dont know why destiny has made me to see it,it would be better if i have not discovered it.i want to divorce her but i know if i did,i will have to live without a girl for rest of my life,as i have found this bloody women after...
    sachinwaitin4u sachinwaitin4u 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 27

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    Here it is 2014, and I am actually happier

    than I have ever been. I still have my moments with my husband. I still ruminate sometimes. I still get angry sometimes. Yet, I am still here, and we are still working things out and moving forward TOGETHER. (Allowing myself a long sigh of relief....) This has been a long and...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    So, 45 years old today,

    I am sitting here alone since my marriage went down the drain this year. No, I am NOT feeling sorry for myself.....just reflecting. My last couple of birthdays, if I knew this is what my life would be like right now, I would have said "You mean, I won't be spending the rest...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 41-45, F 6 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    My first normal-ish relationship

    and he cheated on me.. with my best friend.. my younger sister. We got back together and he cheated on me with some fugly fat chick and she tried to rub it in my face turns out, him, her, and my sissy had chlamydia . Karma is a *****(:
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    Its been over a year

    since I found out my ex had been cheating on me and its been almost a year since I last heard from him at all. I have to start by saying I miss him every day. Jeff Cordell Ulmer cheated on me, we fought a lot, said some hateful **** to each other and he abandoned both our...
    harlow8776 harlow8776 36-40, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Cheater Of Beauty

    I see her walk down She looks so fine Would you like to stop For dinner sometime? But remember deep Deep in my side That she is just Another lie How about dinner? Table for two I think I'm liking this Me and you But remember deep Deep in my side That she is nothing more Than a...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 5 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 31-35, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    My Last Relationship

    I was going through a really tough time running my business. I was losing money left and right and I couldn't do anything to salvage it in time. I was in a severe depression, but I was doing the best I could to not bring it down like it did.I was eating Chipotle one day when an...
    djdoughboy djdoughboy 31-35, M 2 Responses Sep 20, 2013

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    last weekend I took Phoebe to see Luke.

    Hilary (Luke's mum) told me that the divorce between Tracey & Andy was due to his adultery, not hers, this didn't come as a surprise! She went on to say the pub that Andy met me in while he was telling me he lodged with a woman, Hilary at the time was still his girlfriend and...
    wjean71 wjean71 41-45, F Jul 31

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    Would meeting a girl on chat roulette

    and showing each other parts count as cheating?
    GemArt GemArt 13-15, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was never one to look through my boyfriend's

    phone . but when he would sit there and talk about this girl named Allisha all the time that was when I finally snapped . I looked through the messages one day after he had left the room , and I found out the harsh truth . the days that he told me he got called into work were...
    abbyhh25 abbyhh25 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 26

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    I have been with my for 30 years (married

    almost 26). I confronted him this week about cheating on me and he said for the last year. She lives 6 hours away and they saw each every other month for 5 days. He texted her constantly. I made him go tell his mom what he did and it about killed him. Our two grown kids are...
    djbm djbm 46-50 3 Responses Jun 14

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    Husband swears his lack of affection toward me

    has nothing to do with her or my appearance. He says it's all my lack of respect for him. (Although, not sure he has done much to earn respect from me.) Anyway, started radical diet 2 days ago. Is it mean of me to use this as a way of testing him? If I lose weight and...
    amc0438 amc0438 46-50, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    did i hurt? HELL YEAH!

    ....was i broken? SHATTERED!.....did i learn a lesson? LOVE ME FIRST B4 TRYING TO LOVE SOMEONE ELSE.. P.S. REMEMBER YOU WERE BORN ALONE YOU WILL DIE ALONE but IN BETWEEN LIFE & DEATH...LIVE EVERYDAY AS IF IT WERE YOUR LAST....DONT ALLOW ANOTHER TO STEAL YOUR JOY & HAPPINESS my...
    elle2122 elle2122 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 21

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    I've never cheated on anybody in any of my past

    relationship but somehow that always happened to me 😡
    angieloveee angieloveee 18-21, F 11 Responses Jun 11

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    I am reading yet another book

    and found a very interesting excerpt and wanted to share it. "In situations of infidelity, the faithful partner becomes a threat to the unfaithful one and must be diminished. We learn to hate what we fear. One way to diminish the threat is to degrade the innocent partner...
    Selfhelpme Selfhelpme 26-30, F 1 Response May 12

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    It's been over 2 years

    since I found out. Sept will be 2 years that we left everything behind for a new beginning. Some days, I trust him with everything. Some days not so much. I think about her all the time. What is she doing? Where is she living? The animosity is gone but I wonder if she's tried...
    Rzrbldksss81 Rzrbldksss81 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 20

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 14

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