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I Have Been Cheated On

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    I honestly did not imagine myself being cheated

    on for the second with a different guy. The first time around I can feel my confidence level being torn into pieces. This time all those pain came back. What worse is that I have to act like I'm still my happy self this time around when I know damn well I'm not happy. I can't...
    kaceeeytl kaceeeytl 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    Guess there is just so many campsites in a

    fifty mile radius. Damn I don't even want to open the door
    jocu123 jocu123 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 29

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    It wasn't her that ruined us.

    ..it was you. I loved you unconditionally but you did the ONE thing I can't forgive. Swear I wanna forgive you but I know it will never be the same and you are no longer the person I thought you were. That really sucks bc I fell in love w that person...who doesn't exist.
    gkelyyy gkelyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I found out last October ,

    until now I can't get over still and losing all of self esteems , being depressing ... fortunately or not we live in the same area , last mounts I saw he was walking with another woman , I don't know how to explain that moment , over think and totally shed my tears before...
    joosie joosie 22-25 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Yes few times it sucks

    when there's more fake heartless people then real
    Bloodycharmer Bloodycharmer 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 26

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    It was while ago now,

    and I've never held it against him. That time wasn't an easy time for him, or for us. Things moved very fast for us, very quickly. We had only just started seeing each other when I got pregnant, and it was quite tough. I had HG, and even when that calmed down,I found...
    TooMuchProsecco TooMuchProsecco 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 46-50, F 31 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    my husband and i have been best friends

    for 20 years, in a relationship for 4 yrs and married for 1. I found out he was cheating on me just before we got married and was sending pics of himself to women and so on. I fell pregnant with our baby so i made the decision to stay as i thought i cpuld forgive him. its been...
    mumofj mumofj 26-30, F 15 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    I'm seven months pregnant with his child,

    and he swears this will never happen again. It's only been three days since everything was brought out into the open. I guess I'm just wondering if anyone else has tried and succeeded in making a relationship work after someone cheated? How do you even begin to heal? I feel so...
    haleybug1026 haleybug1026 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 26

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    while pregnant, he cheated on me with four

    different women. im a single mother now and im ok with it.
    StillHere84 StillHere84 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    He told me yesterday

    that he cheated on me a few days ago. It was at a friend's birthday party and he was drunk. He is genuinely remorseful and sorry that he did it, and he said that it was a conscious decision even though he was drunk, but that he was being stupid and selfish. I'm incredibly hurt...
    SkyeDreams SkyeDreams 22-25, F 27 Responses Jan 10

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 14 Responses May 27, 2013

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    found out recently that my husband of 25 years

    had over 25 internet/text/sexting affairs he swears he didn't meet or have sex with any of them how can I believe that it took me digging for 3 months to find out what he did he denied it every time until I showed him proof. He refuses to admit it was an affair he says I was...
    mmj50 mmj50 46-50, F 6 Responses Feb 18

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Deep deep breath. Stretch.

    Go. Fifty push ups. 3km run. Hit the weights. Swimming. Rock climbing. Ultimate frisbee. Dodgeball...go .,.work it out. "Year heart will heal faster if you work out your anger grief mourning...exercise,..get healthy" I can only work on myself. She has chosen to stab me in the...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Oct 19, 2014

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    I was 6 months pregnant

    when I found out he was cheating. He accidentally butt dialed me at 4 in the morning when he was with her...I can still remember the pain building up in my chest as it slowly dawned on me what it was I heard on the other line. I tried to give us the space to learn from the...
    cnk2015 cnk2015 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    I vow I will never cheat on anyone.

    Especially in marriage. It's vile. You break up with someone THEN move on. I will not love like a liar in deceit, hiding in the shadows. So glad it's over.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    my skye dolley.

    albanis
    albanis albanis 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 70 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    When I think of her now instead of sorrow I am

    starting to feel this anger & rage...it comes unbidden ...I allow myself a mean growl and then I gotta release it. Went for a run in the snow, which never happens and then hit the qigong like I was an ancient master zenning for the 11th enlightenment. It's taken such a toll on...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 6 Responses Jan 7

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    I Thought I Could Trust Him......

    My husband of 10 years cheated on me. It's been one year and I still can't get over it. I still check his phone, email, work van. I feel like I have completely lost control of my life. It was my neighbor, right under my nose. I was friends with her. So I was betrayed by two...
    dl1120 dl1120 36-40, F 7 Responses Nov 13, 2013

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    whats good soul therapy

    for an angry soul who has been cheated on? I like railing against a God that can take it and listening to Hole. Man I fvckin love love love Courtney Love
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 1 Response Feb 17

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    Cheater Of Beauty

    I see her walk down She looks so fine Would you like to stop For dinner sometime? But remember deep Deep in my side That she is just Another lie How about dinner? Table for two I think I'm liking this Me and you But remember deep Deep in my side That she is nothing more Than a...
    BloodRedShadow BloodRedShadow 18-21 5 Responses Jul 16, 2012

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    My husband cheated on me with my daughter (not

    HIS, relax ,she's an adult).. how the hell do I get past it??
    meadbme meadbme 41-45, F 55 Responses Jan 17

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    I should have saw the signs sooner but.

    .. you live and learn I guess. After the divorce from a marriage of 10 years I didn't see anyone for 8 years. I took this time to rebuild my life and take care of my mother until she passed away. And lo and behold after all this time the 1st person I met cheated on me. I dated...
    srb76 srb76 36-40, M 9 Responses Jan 15

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    He Doesn't Know

    I was with my ex for a year and a few weeks, it was just a bit after out one year relationship. When I first met him he was charming and romantic, but once he'd gotten me to fall, everything changed and I was trapped. One minute I had so many friends, then he had deleted all...
    MirandaForever MirandaForever 18-21, F 10 Responses Oct 22, 2012

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    After being together

    for none years, six married, it's over. I found out she'd been cheating with several guys over the last couple years. Are there any good women left out there?!
    decker5479 decker5479 31-35, M 5 Responses Jan 27

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    gave you 5 years and u cheat

    and treat me like i've done something to u. how could u not care, why are my moments and thoughts consumed by you. I want to move on...
    heartbrokenfem heartbrokenfem 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 14

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    I am saving a life whenever I go to a gym.

    I hit the weights instead of hitting him. Clearly I could take his jaw clean off if I clocked him.I am through being angry at myself. I have done my soul work. Grrrr... 
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    My Wife Cheated

    Several months ago, I discovered that my wife of 17 years has been having affairs for the better part of our marriage and it has turned my world upside down, caused me unbelievable anguish, and has basically changed me from the inside out. She was everything to me, and I was so...
    MrJedi MrJedi 36-40, M 7 Responses Nov 7, 2013

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    well today i found out through his friend

    that i been cheated on by my boyfriend. i feel very angry, hurt, scared, and unloved. i feel very angry not only at him but i blame myself. i wish i was good enough. i am planning to confront him by mail tomorrow and get some answers and closure once and for all.
    db174 db174 31-35, F 4 Responses Feb 4

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 2 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    So, 45 years old today,

    I am sitting here alone since my marriage went down the drain this year. No, I am NOT feeling sorry for myself.....just reflecting. My last couple of birthdays, if I knew this is what my life would be like right now, I would have said "You mean, I won't be spending the rest...
    slowsurrender slowsurrender 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    and I'm soooooo glad I found out

    before I wasted the rest of my life on sacrificing for him, providing for him, nurturing him, defending him or loving him. Gettin my groove back and hoping it's not too late for me
    canthinkofanything canthinkofanything 41-45, F 10 Responses Jan 9

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    I honestly just got on this site to meet

    different girls just to talk as friends or soemthing I'm tired of this bullshit in this small *** ttown
    eazy8008 eazy8008 18-21, M Jan 13

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    minniecc11 minniecc11 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    My story is detailed in other posts

    but just summing up my last 20months of struggle... Unfortunately I couldn't handle my wife's affair and the fact she had sex with someone else... Special they way it happened! I swear I tried every day to let it go but it is way too much for me to handle and for our own good...
    Letsrockit Letsrockit 36-40, M 5 Responses Jan 14

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    I knew it from the second it happened,

    but when the words came out of your mouth it hurt a billion times more. I didn't want to believe it, I just wanted to curl up and die. It's not that you cheated on me, it's that you had feelings for her and still do. Now I have nightmares about it every night, now I never feel...
    fucksunshine fucksunshine 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 9

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    666LexiBabe666 666LexiBabe666 18-21, F 57 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    So I've been cheated on

    and it sucks but I've come to realize that the negative things ppl do to others is a direct reflection of themselves. not saying I was perfect.
    Shannon87 Shannon87 26-30, F 3 Responses Feb 4

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    Have been going to counseling

    for a couple weeks now , am having some issues reconnecting, working on it . Last session (yesterday) exact words . Mr. ....... in our professional opinions your wife cannot and should not be held accountable for her actions, and you somehow need to find a way to get over it...
    jocu123 jocu123 26-30, M 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    There is no pain like being ripped asunder by

    deceit...six months before she confessed to her affair ....healing hasnt come but wisdom surely has.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 9 Responses Jan 12

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    He Turned My World Upside Down

    I trusted you. I took you in when you had no where to go and no job and still at this moment continue to take care of you. While I was at work you brought another into our house and in our bed and denied it until when I heard you and her talking about it I should have not been...
    jnurse1986 jnurse1986 26-30, F 2 Responses May 10, 2013

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    Since the first time i dated a guy,

    it will end up with break ups, he cheated on me or they got a job in another country. Like one time i caught my boyfriend ( when he was still mine ) cheating on me, i heard him saying to a girl, " Yeah, my girlfriend is so talkative, i dont even know what she's saying, like 'au...
    annaambrose annaambrose 16-17 1 Response Jan 13

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    Even though its like eating glass

    when I say his name--the other man---it is of incredible benefit to my children that they have a good time with other man and their mom.They don't need to have to feel they have to carry secrets cause they are scared to tell me and hurt my feelings. It was not their choice that...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 2 Responses Feb 17

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    IjUstDoNtCare12 IjUstDoNtCare12 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 18

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    It has been four days

    now since I left my wife, actually I feel good and feel like a lot of weight has been lifted off my shoulders. I have several hundred ignored calls on my phone and at lest a hundred texts .I haven't answered or read any. Should I ? I do miss things though, I miss the snuggling...
    jocu123 jocu123 26-30, M 7 Responses Jan 16

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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