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I Have Been Cheated On

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    My husband pretended to be the good Christian

    husband for 20 yrs. The devoted husband. It was a well planned lie. He was a cunning cheater. There were many signs but never a conviction. He was lazy. Accused me of exhausting him of accusing him of cheating. He even charmed our pastors wife and turned her against me. Everyone...
    trinny61 trinny61 51-55, F 5 Responses Apr 10

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    One day he will realize he lost a diamond

    while playing with. Playing with worthless stones..
    RebeccaMontero RebeccaMontero 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 24

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    Sometimes I wonder if it's something I've done.

    I've had three different people cheat on me and after number three it made me wonder. It sucks it happened, but it's helping me try to be a better me.
    InkPoisoning InkPoisoning 22-25, F 2 Responses May 4

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    I always trust everyone bcoz I think maybe

    he/she will be sincere like I'm with them but always ended up with lot of pain. ...
    armaan90 armaan90 22-25, M May 17

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    Going sky diving today !

    !!! And no I didn't pack her chute it was done professionally
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 1 Response May 14

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    When does the heartache go away?

    It's been a year and 7 months since I found out he destroyed our marriage, and it still hurts.
    Missgwenxo Missgwenxo 46-50, F 30 Responses Dec 1, 2013

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    I honestly don't understand

    why people feel the need to stay in a relationship if they cheat. If you're unable to stay faithful to someone, why keep stringing them along? Why not just be single and screw around with whoever you want, without hurting anyone else in the process? It's entirely selfish. It's...
    aintnoangel aintnoangel 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 11, 2014

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    I had a boyfriend who was a serial cheater.

    I knew he was doing it, but he'd deny it and tell me the other girl was just harrassing him and he wasn't doing anything. I finally went through his phone (I'm not proud of that, but I needed proof that he couldn't explain away). I confronted him and broke up with him, and he...
    gingerlythis gingerlythis 26-30, F 4 Responses May 18

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    while pregnant, he cheated on me with four

    different women. im a single mother now and im ok with it.
    StillHere84 StillHere84 26-30, F Jan 9

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    My Wife Cheated On Me With Multiple Partners

    I just found out my wife has been cheating on me for about 9 months about a day and a half ago. The sad part is I have suspected it for about 9 months as well. Every time I accused her, at least 30 different times, of looking at cheating websites, texting people on her phone...
    BDeth BDeth 31-35, M 73 Responses Apr 29, 2012

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    My girlfriend cheated on me with a girl

    so I was just like, how can I compete with that ya'll have fun I guess.
    KelsonTheDragon KelsonTheDragon 18-21, M 2 Responses Apr 27

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    I was 6 months pregnant

    when I found out he was cheating. He accidentally butt dialed me at 4 in the morning when he was with her...I can still remember the pain building up in my chest as it slowly dawned on me what it was I heard on the other line. I tried to give us the space to learn from the...
    cnk2015 cnk2015 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    The Wh*re Of Miami

    Its taken me months, but finally im at a point where she isnt constantly on my mind and influencing my day. She's still in my dreams, and i can do nothing about that - but now, most mornings when i wake, its emptiness and not heartbreak that grip me, listening to the deafening...
    DiesSomnium DiesSomnium 31-35 2 Responses Apr 13, 2013

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    I loved her..took care of her

    when she was down, back rubs and kisses...listen to her anytime...helped her with her kids, cooked meals, helped around the house. I told her I loved her every day, and how beautiful she was....not enough...
    dksd71 dksd71 41-45 6 Responses Mar 8

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    Another great week ! I have read

    that forgiveness is the highest form of love ,,,do you agree ? Thoughts on this .
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 6 Responses May 18

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    Thank you to all my friends ,

    for the good advice, the encouraging words, and support....Goodbye to all
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    my husband and i have been best friends

    for 20 years, in a relationship for 4 yrs and married for 1. I found out he was cheating on me just before we got married and was sending pics of himself to women and so on. I fell pregnant with our baby so i made the decision to stay as i thought i cpuld forgive him. its been...
    mumofj mumofj 26-30, F 13 Responses Dec 17, 2014

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    Cheaters are selfish people.

    He had an affair. I love this excuse, to me this a cheater way out. I think one night stands are misunderstood. They make it seem like you have a one night stand with a stranger, and in most cases it's some you know. The affair is the excuse they use the "fog" as they call it...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 7 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    In my current relationship

    and the previous relationship. Which completely dumbfounds me. In a relationship I spoil my guys. Cook. Clean. Massage. Very active sex life. And yet....they cheated. So that tells me it's not me. So why? I don't get it.
    snowberry75 snowberry75 36-40, F 12 Responses Mar 26

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    Spent mothers day with my two favorite women ,

    , mom and wife ...another great week !!!
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M May 11

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    so sick of jerks. I am old school

    and belief in forever. I want forever. Not mind games.
    maemae208 maemae208 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 3

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    Cheated

    My boyfriend of two years cheated on me for months last year when we were having a long distance relationship. We met abroad and lived together for a year before I had to go back home. Earlier this year I went to visit him for 3 months after being apart for a long time, of...
    untethered90 untethered90 22-25, F 14 Responses May 27, 2013

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    So what I was talking about

    before about me being worried out of my mind for his tumor and he ignored my msgs.. He finally responded to me and said that he's not getting surgery and never talked to me again I am somewhat really happy but really mad bc he knew I was worried I would txt cal and not go to...
    gkaren gkaren 18-21, F 1 Response May 13

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    I have been cheated on by 3 people (that I know

    of, it could be more) One was a relationship of 2 years and he had cheated on me for 5-6 months, pretty much had a new girlfriend while still being with me. I hate men now and can't trust anyone. I dont know how else to protect myself, I have to hate them.
    tastethiss tastethiss 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 25

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    I am really confused about what to do.

    I found out 10 days ago that my husband off over 22 years and with whom I have 2 teenage boys, has been cheating on me with another woman. He says he hasn't had sex with her but has "fumbled" the 3 times they have met and were planning a 4th time. There are several intimate...
    madpeg madpeg 41-45, F 5 Responses Apr 30

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    Awesome weekend !!!!!

    !! Just like Ole times
    jocu123 jocu123 31-35, M 2 Responses May 4

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    and I'm soooooo glad I found out

    before I wasted the rest of my life on sacrificing for him, providing for him, nurturing him, defending him or loving him. Gettin my groove back and hoping it's not too late for me
    canthinkofanything canthinkofanything 41-45, F 7 Responses Jan 9

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    666LexiBabe666 666LexiBabe666 18-21, F 54 Responses Sep 3, 2014

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    Forgiveness Is Complicated.... 6-17-13

    How can this be? this up and down...this back and forth...this love...this hate...this like and dislike...this need and disdain...my mind is in such turmoil...not a s much as it used to be...but still...in turmoil...even in moments of complete joy and bliss...I still find myself...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17, 2013

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    We were 4-5 months in the relationship.

    I was the happiest girl alive because he was my crush for the longest. We were just perfect but than one week (worst week ever) was the worst we were distant and i felt so disconnected then he texts me after school saying we need to talk. After that he confessed he kissed his...
    blv76 blv76 16-17, F May 2

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    My husband cheated on me with my daughter (not

    HIS, relax ,she's an adult).. how the hell do I get past it??
    meadbme meadbme 41-45, F 48 Responses Jan 17

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    It so hard to admit,

    so hard to believe, so hard to grasp. But it happened. I guess you can never put to much trust into the man you married. I'm just so sad, and it hurts and though I forgave him, fought for him. To this day the pain hurts. We let ourselves drift over the years, I guess. But I...
    Smilesday Smilesday 41-45, F 5 Responses Jun 14, 2014

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    I vow I will never cheat on anyone.

    Especially in marriage. It's vile. You break up with someone THEN move on. I will not love like a liar in deceit, hiding in the shadows. So glad it's over.
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 6 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    I have been married for 25 years.

    We have 2 kids together who are adults now. They were tweens when I found out about my wife's infidelity. I think I kept the marriage together for them. Now that they are grown, I feel empty in this marriage. We have what I call an in house separation. We don't share a bedroom...
    Etdos Etdos 41-45, M 14 Responses May 6

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    If They Want to Go Let Them Enjoy Life

    I know being cheated on is very difficult to deal with, for me it was not the case because my reaction to the girl who cheated on me really fustrated her and made her really pissed, I walked in on her and a guy kissing and touching each other and she tried with the apology thing...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3, 2009

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    Does it ever get better?

    I feel pathetic because my wife cheated on me and continues to sleep with him. Up until that happened we were in a happy marriage and had an awesome life. I have no friends to even vent to. My kids are the only reason I'm still alive...
    dennis85 dennis85 26-30, M 8 Responses May 4

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    PLEASE help me. I can't do this alone.

    I met him at the beginning of January 2015. He was perfect, I have never opened up to anyone before and I did with him. I have never cried before, but I did to him in our first 2 hour long late night talk. We had many deep conversations after that. He told me saw me as his...
    justagirl2991 justagirl2991 22-25, F 3 Responses May 5

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    Hi there! I met a guy 3 years ago he was great

    he moved in with me and my 2 kids months later.. I found out he had cheated on me with 4 girls and one of those girls was his ex and he had been sleeping with her ever since we got together!! I threw him out and he moved in with her and ever since he's txt me sent me gifts...
    Missyk85 Missyk85 26-30 6 Responses May 21

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    I've been in a marriage

    for many years now and found out he cheated on me. Not just a one time thing he had a girlfriend and me his wife. My world feels shattered and I am ready to go but I do not know why I can't. We have kids and they love him even though he's emotionally unattached with all of us. I...
    mkaylaa mkaylaa 26-30, F 17 Responses Feb 28

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    My mom and husband slept together:"( I'm in

    intense therapy. I want to kill myself....but I have 2 adorable children with him....help.
    connie321 connie321 22-25, F 6 Responses May 4

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    Aftermath of being cheated on.

    Don't do it. PRAY:Family Court Parent Agreement Today STBX refuses to just sit and work out plan for kids. We are using a Mediatir (Canadien ) she wants 109% custody not joint or shared. Meaning she has full control -medical (she signs for anything kids sick, operations...
    MrHeartaFire MrHeartaFire 41-45, M 5 Responses Apr 27

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    I have been cheated on in the past

    and unfortunately I remember what it felt like to have been betrayed in that way. The problem is when you think you've encountered the person that's meant for you only to find out that months or even years into the relationship that they've had hidden secrets in their heart...
    Msprissy Msprissy 36-40, F 1 Response Apr 25

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    Hi, my dream is to centralise one forum

    for all people who have been betrayed in this way. Due to the popularity of the "I am not the other woman" I'm suggesting this group. If there's one central group for cheating support we can all help eachother and move towards healing. Please "me too" "I am not the other" woman...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 5 Responses May 6

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    Dear N, I am beyond angry

    and sad at the hurt and devastation you have caused not only to me and the girls, but dozens of friends and family. I don’t fully understand why you would do what you did and choose to leave me and the girls after 12 years of marriage. You chose to unilaterally change the...
    CapricornDad CapricornDad 41-45, M 1 Response May 1

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    me and my boyfriend have been together

    for 7 years have a son together and for those 7 years he has been caught flirting online with multiple girls..you might say then just leave but for some reason I can't I'm too attached to him and love him too much..recently he told me that we need space to gain our trust back...
    mzlonely01 mzlonely01 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 27

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    Hi im a newbie...i have a lot on my mind

    and it is a complicated story and i need advice...
    2xheartbroke 2xheartbroke 22-25, F 5 Responses a week ago

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