I Have Been Divorced Twice

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 105 People

    I'm am in the process of my 2nd divorce

    and it is very hard. I blame myself constantly for marrying needy, unsupportive men, but perhaps I saw something in them that they didn't see in themselves. Idk. But I do know that as of late, my focus has changed and my peace and joy are what is most important as it makes me a...
    Leavingyouforme Leavingyouforme
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 7, 2014

    Life Happens

    Yep, been there, done that, got the T-shirt. First one was a psycho, marriage lasted 5 Long long years. Second one lasted 12 years, been divorced 4 years from him, and I still can´t figure out if he´s a nice guy or not, and wether I am the baddy or the goody. Anyway...
    Atis Atis
    2 Responses Aug 11, 2008


    hi all. i'm 40 and divorced twice. both divorces were legit; they needed to happen. i really thought and hoped the 2nd would go the long haul. but i was miserable. we both were. my shame held me back for a long time in making it happen. finally my misery in the marriage...
    4 Responses Jan 26, 2013

    Divorced Twice

    I have been divorced twice, my first husband was a lovely guy but was addicted to computers and got us into a lot of debt, just as I got out of that relationship my second "husband" came along and took full advantage of my situation he was controlling and manipulative, his...
    madonna40 madonna40
    1 Response Jun 18, 2013

    Divorced Twice By 30

    My first marriage is a blur. I have a hard time remembering those days. Bits and pieces come back to me now and then and I remember not really even liking my husband before we were married. It's really a long story that I may type out sometime, but not now. The short version...
    MysMomma MysMomma
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2011

    But I am ever the optimist lol.

    I am old fashioned and want to be with someone forever, but unfortunately both times it has been beyond my control. My first marriage ended because I lost my mother and totally went off my head, and didn't try hard enough, and the second time he was a completely abusive moron...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 16, 2014

    It's Not My Fault!!!

    I have a tendency to address problems or disagreements in relationships using this rule: if there is a problem, figure out who is at fault, discuss it, apologize, and get over it.  Because of that, I always looked at the problems in my marriages by trying to fairly...
    TryingToBeBetter TryingToBeBetter
    2 Responses Jun 4, 2009

    Been Divorced Twice By Age 34.....

    I am now 34 and I have been divorced twice. The first time I was 20 and had a baby. I was young, not in love and thought 1. I had no choice and 2. I couldn't do any better. Heck, who would want someone with a child. He was a momma's boy and we ended up moving into an apartment...
    sapmoore96 sapmoore96
    1 Response Apr 25, 2012

    I am thinking about divorcing my second husband

    but I am afraid of the stigma attached to being divorced twice. I worry about how it will affect me and my grown children to know that their mom just can't figure out how to get it right
    Christmas87 Christmas87
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 23, 2014

    Divorced Twice By The Age Of 30

    I just turned 31. I've been married and divorced twice. My dad left when I was 12, and i never really had a good relationship with him. I'm not sure if maybe that has something to do with my failure of relationships or not.  My first marriage was when I was pretty young. I was...
    girlrunner girlrunner
    6 Responses Apr 10, 2012

    I always feel so embarrassed about it.

    I married two different people, both of whom I knew I shouldn't be marrying. I just felt like I was in too deep to get out of it. My first husband was horribly abusive. When I finally got free of him, I found out I was pregnant. So now I'm stuck dealing with him for 12 more...
    deleted deleted
    May 16, 2015

    Twice Divoced

    I was married at age 19 to my first husband.  I moved to a big city after high school and got a job at a Big Boy as a waitress and his parents owned it.  I moved in with him right away and was pregnant not long after...we decided to get married.  The day after our...
    lhockey lhockey
    31-35, F
    Aug 8, 2007

    I'm Divorced But This Time I'm So Lost ...

    The first time I was married I was 20, and I thought I knew everything. Looking back, I know I was too stupid to even realize I was alive. But I got married anyway because stupidity isn't a reason to keep people from being married. After we'd been married 2 years, we had a son...
    zohy zohy
    46-50, F
    4 Responses Jul 18, 2013

    Me Too!

    I got married at 20, had two boys and divorced at 29 because my ex had an affair with his secretary. He tried to come back after she dumped him, but it was too late. I was too hurt and couldn't forgive him. I spun out of control, partying and trying to stay busy. I had to have...
    tassae tassae
    1 Response May 23, 2010

    Divorced Again ~

    I've been divorced twice and both times the shock of it all nearly killed me.  After my first divorce I swore I'd never get married again but fate and love took over.  At 30 I married the sweetest most talented man in the world until seven years later his substance...
    2xdivorced 2xdivorced
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Jan 11, 2009

    Will The Third Be A Charm?

    I'm 33, and I've been married nd divorced twice already.I was fortunate enough I guess to marry my high school sweetheart, but we married young( I was 18 he 19) our first son was special needs (I think our relationship was doomed after that) but we managed to keep it together for...
    karliekat2026 karliekat2026
    31-35, F
    Oct 2, 2012

    Keeping My Head Held High...

    I had a child out of wedlock when I was 20. Father was never really interested in my son's life, let alone interested in child support. I met someone a couple years later, and got married a few years after. We were in our early twenties. I wanted it to last. Due to his infidelity...
    jlhassold jlhassold
    1 Response Aug 20, 2010

    Divorced Twice Then Got Cancer

    I got divorced 2 times, i come from a pakistani asian background, it can be a bit of a backward culture at times in regards to marriage being forced on someone..... that was the first marriage, more like a wedding day really 2nd marriage, married a single mother (milf) who got...
    millionz millionz
    Jul 26, 2011

    Two Times Unlucky

    I have been thru the mill two times, and do not plan to go thru it a third. The lady i'm with now, is hoping, but we may or may not. Our relationship isn't that rosy either, but who's is? my first marriage was nothing near as disasterous as my second, but the first ex turned...
    alekatz alekatz
    46-50, M
    1 Response Mar 5, 2013

    My First Husband

    I met him a a dance club in the springtime. I was out with my friend/roommate & her fiance. Not the most promising place to meet a future spouse. I was young & dumb & so was he. I was 20 & he was 18 when we met. He & I dated for a year. He went to a military college 3 states away...
    crunchymomof1 crunchymomof1
    31-35, F
    Apr 27, 2013

    Third Times A Charm? I Hope...

    I'm in the process of mentally preparing myself for what will be my second divorce. I was married before although I don't count it as a "real" marriage. I wasn't in love and got pregnant after a couple of months. Due to family pressure. (having a child out of wedlock is a huge...
    Rebirth2013 Rebirth2013
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 2, 2013

    Third Time's A Charm...

    If at first you don't succeed, try, try again! That is my philosophy. If the world looks down on me, they don't understand. I'm not a quitter. My first husband threw me out of the house one night after a successful 13 year marriage. He was interested in another woman. I racked my...
    TolstoiFan TolstoiFan
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Dec 1, 2011

    Divorced Twice Is a Social Stigma

    Just dealt with second divorce. My first marriage failed because he hid the fact that he had drinking habit and second one due to his mother's harassing nature and he hid that he was not potent. Can you please guide me that how to identify a person. People hid facts and...
    msdepressed msdepressed
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 9, 2009

    Divorce Book

    My name is Dan Burley and I have lost 2 friends because they committed suicide while going through a divorce. I want people facing relationship issues to feel a sense of community by reading other peoples stories. Therefore, I am writing a book about people’s separation and...
    divorcewealth divorcewealth
    41-45, M
    Jul 2, 2013

    Don't Know How To Live With The Social Stigma...

    I got married when I was 21... I knew I shouldn't have married him but we had been living together (oh, the horror!) and it was expected. Next, it was expected that we would have a family and we did -- two amazing boys I love very much, but the relationship didn't survive. I...
    stillasweetiepie stillasweetiepie
    41-45, F
    1 Response Apr 22, 2012

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