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I Have Been Hurt Or Betrayed By My Family

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    My Grandparents

    I've never really liked my grandparents, except when I was younger. As the years have gone on, I've seen them for what they really are. When my parents told my grandparents about any of my siblings, even me, their first grandchild, they have looked at my parents with...
    mac2485 mac2485 18-21, F Aug 17, 2013

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    I would love to say blood is thicker

    than water but. It's gotten so where I have to hide parts of me from my family. 2 years ago I had an incident where my mother told my cousins on a side of my family & ever science that I've been looked down upon like I'm not human. But it's crazy because I know my situation has...
    aubreylovell aubreylovell 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 16, 2013

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    I was put in foster care

    when I was 7 because my mother was physically abusive. My family never visited me and I've carried feelings of abandonment ever since. I'm sad to say that I don't like any of them and sometimes I wish I could leave them all behind and never look back. I am now 25 and do not know...
    MysticSage MysticSage 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    Stand Alone Supports Adults That Have Been Hurt Or Betrayed By Their Family

    Hey Folks, Stand Alone is the only international charity to support adults that are estranged from their family. We're going now, and running meet-up groups in London on the run up to Christmas. We'd really like to hear from as many estranged people as possible so we can plan...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 Sep 26, 2013

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    Being Mean To Someone Is Not All Good But If Comes From You Family That Hurts Worse

    Sometimes i wonder if i was placed here as a joke. I know I try my hardest to do whats right to anyone I feel needs the correct advise or guidance, but I have never thought that I would be stabbed in the back from the people I most cherish most. I have been alone, and on my own...
    candlenia candlenia 26-30, F Nov 24, 2012

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    Sacrifice

    Living with an abusive bi-polar mother, I forgave my brother and sister for their abandonment, I was pleased that they managed to escape, I will stay here and pick up the pieces of our broken family. I will care for my destroyer. Paradoxical; empathy. I'm so eager to help those...
    Isolating Isolating 18-21, M 1 Response Apr 29, 2013

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    😒

    My dad wants to take my life away. My life is the computer you see. This is we're I go when I am sad and need help. Just because I stud up for my brother he wants to take my life away. This hurts me a lot when I feel like I am not his family. My name to him is B**** and I like it...
    WhyxDidxIxLive WhyxDidxIxLive 13-15, F Jan 23, 2013

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    At What Point In Your Life To Do You Separate Yourself From Your Family?

    I should know better, but deep down inside it still hurts me.All I ever wanted was a family to love me for me. I would love to be able to open up and share and be myself around them. They just don't understand. They are too worried about what people think to care about my own...
    sweetsie sweetsie 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 23, 2012

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    What Did I Do?

    My dad is a jerk and he hits me all the time he verbally is mean and hits me which hurts me. He never gives me a chance. He comes home and starts screaming and when I stand up for my self he hits me. And when I cry he calls me a B**** and a A******. So I give up and wish for...
    WhyxDidxIxLive WhyxDidxIxLive 13-15, F 2 Responses Jan 23, 2013

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    Thin Line

    I grew up an only child. Until my teens, things were fine. Then, everything changed. This is going to sound strange, but my mother controlled everything I did, but at the same time, didn't care. She suffered from severe agoraphobia. I was locked out of the house on a regular...
    November61Girl November61Girl 51-55, F Mar 28, 2013

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    When Your Young

     "When You're Young"So far away from knowing where I am goingI am trying hard to find out who I amThey all see that I don't know what I am doingI say they don't hardly understandWhy can't they rememberWhat I will never forgetHow these dreams come undoneWhen you're youngYou give...
    SombreAmaranthineAmour SombreAmaranthineAmour 31-35, F Jul 25, 2011

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    My family is falling apart.

    The kids are from two different mothers and the two that are my half siblings are trying to get our dad to divorce my mom. I feel like my heart is slowly being squeezed an bruised. I can't take it.
    taytertot66 taytertot66 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 22

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    Being Away From My Mom

    being away from my mom is like hell its like a crack that ruins a bell'its agonizing and painful its woirse than the depression im having being away from my mom is hard i gotta staqy strong through it all i know i hope things get better and she comes around
    passion4life1995 passion4life1995 16-17, F Aug 21, 2012

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    I'm only 21 years old

    but can happily say that me and my younger sister have had the most idyllic childhood with many of our fond memories being spent with our grandparents. My mum's parents have been a huge part of our life, as my parents work shifts so we spent a lot of time at our grandparent's...
    deathfromabove1066 deathfromabove1066 22-25, F Aug 1

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    My aunt...isn't my aunt at least I don't

    consider her to be my aunt anymore...Friday we had to put our dog down she was old and was in alot of pain we took her to the vet and our vet said it was time to let her go...and that she had been living on borrowed time for awhile...I loved that dog I grew up with her and it...
    bbykaybear bbykaybear 18-21, F Mar 18

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    The Great Joint Family

    May be most of you all belong to a nuclear family to understand the complexities of a joint family. My entire family includes my sissy , mom, dad, grand pa(dad's dad), grand ma , aunt (dad's sissy),her 2 children (though they are children no longer as they have married ), her...
    booklover4ever booklover4ever 18-21, F Jul 11, 2012

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    My cousin almost started a full blown war on my

    dad's side because of her communication skills dragging me in it. Not only that she but she lied to me and the entire family, stole money from my grandmother and used it to buy herself a new car. I'm done with helping family. She can crash and burn in her own way.
    thebookaholic thebookaholic 22-25, F Mar 5

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    Facebook Faceoff!

    I was estranged from a cousin and his family due to interactions on Facebook (I crossed a line with them). I hadn't been seeing them on a regular basis and they don't live nearby, but thanks to Facebook I'm reminded of their existence. My issue is with the false closeness that...
    blnjms blnjms 51-55, M Nov 4, 2013

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    My Mother.

    Yes. Mother Issues. Right Here. My mother and I usually got along. I guess. Atleast thats how I felt when I was younger. As I got older, I really started to see the kind of person she really is. Manipulative, judgmental, she has this "I TOLD YOU SO" kind of thought, shes mean...
    Jay27 Jay27 26-30, F May 7, 2013

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    Is It A Sin That I Hate Men???!!!!

    It is a well known thing that i am a man who hate all ******* men on mother earth.Is that means i hate myself?Nope, as i always enjoy being myself and for doing what i am good at which is support every woman on mother earth.I believe that men  should start thinking about taking...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Apr 17, 2012

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    How do I get over heartbreak?

    I feel like damaged goods. I was already insecure and the my first made me feel like ****. I try and hide behind a smile but honestly speaking the pain is so hard. I don't know how I function it's been 3 years now and I still have no clarity. I feel lost, confused, and hopeless...
    freespirit90 freespirit90 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 4

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    Saying Goodbye To My Dad...

    My dad passed away two months from liver disease. He knew he was dying for about a year and didn't tell me or my brother. He was one to never want to bother us with his problems. Despite my dad being an alcoholic and former drug user he was my dad and we loved him for who he was...
    Taino101 Taino101 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2012

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    Skyfox12

    straight talk. at age 12 i was raped by my cousin. my mother laughed at me when i told her. my dad told me to stay quiet or i'll ruin his reputation. i called the police. they hung up on the call. who else do you trust when ur a kid a this happens to you? i turned to cutting...
    SkyFox12 SkyFox12 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 13, 2012

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    I Now Refuse Extended Family Holidays

    Yes it's that time again ! Last years tiffs are already resurfacing , people are getting hurt feelings ,and I am giving up . I'm done with pretending that so ,and so's family likes mine ,and we all care for one another . I will always like a good holiday but I'm not putting...
    CookieDay CookieDay 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 9, 2013

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    Love With Limitations

    I was raised to believe that family was everything. That family would be there for you and help you get through anything. It was a lie. Actually, the truth is that my family would be there for me as long as I obeyed and did exactly what I was told to do. I was not allowed to...
    SeekingAmanda SeekingAmanda 22-25, F Jan 23, 2013

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    My 'So-Called' Family

    I've been in a feud with one of my 'closest' cousins named Alex... When my grandfather past, Alex was my shoulder to cry on. When I was doubting on my chance to stay alive, he was there to listen to me. I guess I've told him to much... When we would get into arguments, nothing...
    kikisalamo22 kikisalamo22 13-15, F 5 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    My Sister Just Doesnt Get It

    I will try to make this clear but im so upset. Dad died over the weeked and we are organising the funeral. Thats not why im upset, im relieved he doesnt have to suffer anymore. My sister wants to bring her husband, who sexually abused me, to the funeral. I am shattered. I know...
    Violet86 Violet86 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 21, 2011

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    My dad lied to me a lot,

    and I mean a lot. He lied when he went to jail that he was on a business trip. That's why my Mom divorced him. He lies to me every seconds I go to his house. This is why I feel like an awful person cause most of my life I've been lied to a lot. I totally hate myself, see what...
    catbradley catbradley 13-15, M 1 Response Jun 15

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    My Mom Is Fickle

    I have never been and will never be perfect...but that doesn't excuse the way that my mom has treated me. She's extremely paranoid, and has no trust for her own kids. Whenever something goes wrong, she's very quick to go back on anything she says and make us out to look bad. She...
    speedygonzales21 speedygonzales21 18-21 Sep 27, 2013

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    Family....

    i haven't been physically hurt but I've been through hell and back my parents split when i was 7 and it just got worse. i just recently started cutting and i'm not sure why i just want to know why but Idk :( but i'm not close to my family at all i just feel lonely
    kgirl28701 kgirl28701 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 29, 2013

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    Sister Disowned Family For Her Husband

    I am from a large loving family of six, 2 sisters and 1 brother I am the middle child. We come from a larger extended italian family. We were always together, as tight as could be especially me and my sisters Dana (older) & Debra ( younger). we would talk atleast 3-4 times a day...
    Marie1981 Marie1981 31-35 1 Response Apr 3, 2012

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    Hurting

    Good morning to all, I am crying and crying because the man I live with is so mean to me and the reason is because he has a type of cancer that causes him a lot of anxiety and every little thing gets on his nerves. I am paying for it. How do I deal with this? I have a dog and I...
    alsals95 alsals95 61-65, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2013

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    I'm writing here as Stand Alone,

    the only charity to support adults that are estranged, has started to carry out some preliminary research into family estrangement. We'd like to invite you people at Experience Project, in this group, to take part. There's currently a real absence of studies in this area, and...
    beccabland beccabland 26-30 1 Response Feb 8

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    I Don't Understand The Favoritism And I Am Always Last

    I get my education stuffed up and I get bashed around and bullied and abused by men and told to take it. I get abused by women who want to control me and my sexuality etc I get told I am wrong and have no right to want a nice young man to love me... or to be happy in a career...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F Jun 11, 2011

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    I Am A A Terrible Italian Daughter

    My mother is dying. I don't make an effort to travel to Toronto to see her, I don't call her and don't want to be anywhere around her. Familiar feelings. I felt the same way about my father. Shades of my father's last steps towards the end. I am a bad daughter - a terrible...
    tesoro10 tesoro10 56-60, F Oct 21, 2013

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    My brother went through nasty divorce ten years

    ago. I helped him for 18 months preparing paperwork, consulting with his attorney, etc. so his ex-wife wouldn't take him to the cleaners financially. I helped him under one condition, that I did not want any of his ex's family in the two family house with both share ownership...
    fourjacks fourjacks 61-65 2 Responses Apr 13

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    My Screwed Up Family

    Is your family so stuck in the past that their ideals are totally messed up? My parents are in their late 60s and had a very strict catholic upbringing. So my entire family believe that appearances are everything. They would give up their own daughters happiness if it meant it...
    Violet86 Violet86 22-25, F 7 Responses Jun 10, 2011

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    So Much Lonliness

    I just feel like I don't belong anywhere, I had amazing friends back where I grew up but everywhere else that my husband and I move to, all the friends that we make end up turning out to be enemies. It's really sad. It's caused me to put up a huge wall when it comes to people. I...
    seaoffaces seaoffaces 22-25, F Oct 15, 2012

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    There's A Storm Coming!!!!!!!!!

    Mum just told me she is goung to try to help you again. You dont deserve it. I know you will hurt her like you have done to me so many times. You have chose the path of a criminal. You leave your children with a molester and expect sympathy. I can no longer cry for you. If you...
    Violet86 Violet86 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 30, 2011

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    My Father Is Disowning Me.

    I had a wonderful childhood, loving parents, a close-knit family with 4 siblings. We wanted for nothing, and I feel blessed to have been given so much love, affection, warmth and support from my immediate and extended family. Three years ago, my mother died. My father was...
    vjdog vjdog 41-45, F Feb 21, 2012

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    They always judge me

    for what i do or what i wear, they always force me to do things they always call me names ugh..
    ActuallyGrace ActuallyGrace 13-15, F Aug 1

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    More Than Once

    The first time that a member of my family betrayed me was when I tried to tell my mother about what my father was doing to me. She told me to stop telling lies or I would be in big trouble. The physical and sexual abuse continued for several years after I tried to tell her.When I...
    lyricaldemise lyricaldemise 36-40 Mar 22, 2013

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    Wife Cheated

    my wife cheated on me over ten times it hurts.
    israelmoreno1985 israelmoreno1985 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 9, 2012

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    Should Have Known Better

    I am dealing with an Ex who was emtionally and sexually abusive.  I moved away from my family became estranged due to my shame of abuse.  I had to flee my home to get away from this Narcisistic man.  He had the children for a yr and a bit while I was trying to figure out what...
    flodials flodials 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 2, 2012

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    I Have Really Been Betrayed By My Best Friend But Not My Family

    you ask me how did i fill i really fill bad about what they did to me now i have move on with  my life and if i much say iam doing really good .
    susiehouston susiehouston 56-60, F 1 Response Jun 11, 2011

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    My Sister

    when i was pregnant my sister **** teased my hubbs i dont think i could ever forgive her but i have foorgiven my hubbs for his part because i no whatmy sister is like thats 7 years ago now and i wouldnt pee on her if she was on fire
    mariebaby mariebaby 36-40, F 9 Responses Oct 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    Obviously I've been hurt many times.. but I'll never forget one of those times.. I still remember the pain as if it was yesterday.. I still feel the pain sometimes.. I used to be...
    Lily449 Lily449 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    A Bridge Across the Pain. I remember one morning when I was three and sitting across the table from my father at breakfast, just he and I, when for no reason I could think of he...
    Steffi97 Steffi97 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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    Yes I've been hurt in the past, both physically and emotionally. I think everyone has. But I've learned that you can't carried that to the present
    cjohnson1983 cjohnson1983 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 4

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    I have been, but the worst part is, that person/s doesn't even know they hurt you.
    gwenllian gwenllian 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I have been physically abused by my alcoholic dad ever since I was in 3rd grade. He went to jail for a couple years but is now back. It has gotten better now that I am bigger and...
    ihill032299 ihill032299 16-17, M Sep 2

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    I've lived with my step-mother, father, and brother for most of my life. Unfortunately my father worked a lot and was hardly ever home. This left my step mother to verbally and...
    americanhoney91 americanhoney91 22-25, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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