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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I worked as a long haultruck driver

    for one year. my ex was my Co driver and teacher. I was reduced to doing his paper work while he made thousands I made pennies. we would stop at various points along the way and the keys were taken away I was to perform sexual acts in order for us to continue. I was not allowed...
    alexburk18 alexburk18 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    My friend thinks her son is being abused at her

    cousins house. They lives with them and had no where else to go. She says her son tells her things and that he starts to acts like a baby and cry at random times & really strange around certain cousins and aunts .. It SCAREs Her bc she has like no one except for me that she can...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    A man can love someone

    who they put they hand and kick her out the house at anytime at night time?
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    CrazyKid4 CrazyKid4 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I left my recent girlfriend

    for another woman. She ( my ex )was constantly "pestering and checking my phone". Being obsessive over me getting home 5-10 minutes late from work from time to time. Who ended up saying I did not spend enough time with her when I ended up calling off occasions with family...
    PowerExtreme PowerExtreme 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    My country cared. But is removing proof.

    Harrys law help. http://youtu.be/-5Tw3Q3wQbs http://youtu.be/tNilDRiEUnQ
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 8

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    I still have flashbacks every

    once in awhile, and have nightmares. I'm just so sick of people treating me like I'm fragile, because I'm not. I got out of the abusive relationship, and I think that makes me strong. I'm a survivor, & no longer the fragile 18 year old I was while in the relationship.
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    so my ex recently moved back from Vegas.

    he's a crazy drugactic wanna be gangbanger woman beater. now that I'm out of his grip I question my she relationship with him. although it was my first it was enough to make me hate guys. now I'm stressing cuz he's a total psycho that will show up at my work door step even...
    amariebonitaa amariebonitaa 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Hi, this is my first time here so,

    here goes nothing.......... I met my current boyfriend while working in another state, I never thought that I could actually find someone as perfect (in my eyes) as him. We are both passionate and love our careers, when we just started talking none of us though we would be...
    Silo6 Silo6 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    I had a monster for a boyfriend .

    Four long years that what i wasted on him. He used to beat me up, insult me. though these physical incidents were rare the mental abuse happened everyday. He used to call me ugly, witch. He would always insult me one way or another. I came out of that relation scarred for life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 19

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    Last year the last day of school.

    .. It was really intense because we knew things would change from there No more would we see each other often because he was graduating and I would go to the 9th grade.... Yeah he was leaving I was entering We had to go to the school just that day to pick up our report cards so...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I didn't realize and I'm shocked how difficult

    it is to write down my feelings!! I don't know how to begin the humiliation, frustration and sadness...I HATE THE WAY HE TREATS ME.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 13

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for a year,Its crazy how much I've been through and its sad to say I've never hate someone so much on my life,he humiliated me in from if his family..black eyes busted lips knot big as golf ball,but I had to leave and I did once my son age 3 lip gotten busted real bad and...
    lovesocrazy lovesocrazy 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 12 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    It started three years ago.

    He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and harder to hide the black eyes and bruises on my body. I began to do bad in my classes, because he made me skip class to see him...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    I never fought back like

    that before... I'm not going to get into details or say or explain anything I don't want to revisit this one... I want to let it out but He tried to force me to do something I didn't want to do I nearly vomited He got mad and hit me I started hitting him and throwing my fist and...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    I have terrible flashbacks still from the abuse.

    They're back to coming on nearly a daily basis. The nights they don't come are the nights of the nightmares instead. The nightmares aren't as bad though because I'll usually forget them by the morning, but the flashbacks stay in my head.. I'm so sick of this. If only I hadn't...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I just typed up my whole experience

    and it got removed for not being appropriate. Don't have a section, dealing with abusive relationships, if I can't tell what happened to me. It's not like I said anything bad, I just said what I did to myself, what he did in response to me wanting to leave, and what he did once...
    kelly1796 kelly1796 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally

    and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new relationship, and the guy for the most part has been amazing. But today I noticed some behavioral tendencies that were the same as my ex...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 9 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    ericandchris ericandchris 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Caution: the following is a rant,

    not looking for pity, prayers or advice just venting it all out. Looking back on those years I am not filled with regret. I fell in love with the wrong person at 17, that happens to everyone at some point, my mistake was not recognizing a narcissistic psychopath but getting...
    Socalsunset Socalsunset 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    how to cope with the feelings of abuse?

    does anyone know. ...I still see flashes of it and now I feel not like myself. like I have to hide and be someone I'm not.any advise?
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 24 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Black widow Tears fall upon my pillow Can see

    a fade in his glow He says nothing but he knows A venomous sting a raised bow Emotions hid and then showed An open door and then closed A memory half enclosed A flame is present but wind blows Can't shake the feeling it's exposed I'm wondering if he knows I must be the black...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    Anick711 Anick711 31-35, F Apr 10

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 7 Responses May 7, 2007

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Today I was reminded of how completely trapped

    I used to feel; but how I didn't realize just how trapped I felt until I was out. Today, a rather new friend and I were watching a news story on the Ray Rice incident, and how an ESPN anchor got suspended over calling the commissioner a liar. She then began to tell me about...
    lovelyss lovelyss 22-25, F Sep 25, 2014

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    well I have Bern in Ann abusive relationship

    for about6 yrs. Although it is mostly verbal. I never would have Boehm with someone like that for long before. Somewhere along the watt I lost my confidence,self esteem,songs also self respect. I freely like I was stitch before,that I needed him. Babbitt now I have my own house...
    giggles1469 giggles1469 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    So after 3 hours of text fighting with my 'soon

    to be ex' he finally agreed to move out AGAIN and this time for good by the end of May. I honestly don't know why I let him back in last Oct cause I have been on eggshells ever since. In the 10 years I have lived in this house, last night was the first time I slept with my...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    It's been about a year

    since we split. About seven months since he shipped out into the military. About four months since I started therapy and about thirty minutes since I had a panic attack due to my PTSD. My first one in two and a half months. I'm not sure if I will ever recover from it but I know...
    Stargirl227 Stargirl227 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 29

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    Everything seemed happy

    and fine at first. We seemed like a great couple and everyone was happy for us. We really didn't have any problems until she started verbally assaulting me and putting me down. I would tell her to stop and she would call me things like worthless or pathetic. Then, the next day...
    SamanthaJC SamanthaJC 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the relationship but please don't. Because until you have walked in that persons shoes you have no idea. I was blessed that the abuse was only...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    has any woman here testified against her abuser?

    I may have to and I'm scared ill fall apart or mess up
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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