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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I was in an abusive marriage

    for 2 and a half years. In the beginning I didnt pay any attention to the red flags at all. When we first met he swept me off my feet due to the fact that we had both been married before and according to him his marriage experience was bad just as mine was and we wre both young...
    queenshe queenshe 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    He Was Great...for a While...

    W hen I was 16 years old, I met "the greatest guy" in high school. We had everything in common and spent every waking moment together. He was 19 at the time and was living on his own. Well, a few months later he lost his job and could no longer pay his rent so my mom...
    Flutterbies Flutterbies 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    As Horrible As This Is Going to Sound....

    i was the abuser in a abusive relationship.at the time i was young..(18) running drugs big alkaholic big into coke i was a bad person and i would justify it with she started it she did this she did that mind you i also am a women so some would say that isnt as bad however i...
    soseriouslygrown soseriouslygrown 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2008

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    I want to be abused .

    . I want to be hit and smacked and taken advantage of
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I'm still disgusted with myself

    for letting you touch me. Some nights I skip showers because the thought of taking my clothes off, puts me into a breakdown. If I manage to get them off, I do everything I can to make sure I don't catch a glimpse of my body.
    RobinPancakes RobinPancakes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    Low Self-esteem

    Back in the day, I was dating this guy who hated that I was attending college. He would make snide remarks to me such as, “Don’t use big words with me. You’re just trying to act like you’re better than me just cause you’re going to college.” Granted, we already had...
    FUDICULOUS FUDICULOUS 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    when I was in high school. His name was Josh, and he seemed really sweet at first. However, I had a lot of guy friends at the time and he would constantly become jealous. He would tell me to stay away from them. I would always refuse because I had every right to hang out with...
    immieomg immieomg 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    And He'S 'Normal' Again

    The sleeping lion... Not sure where he will pounce next... So I won't move or make a sound, Stay hidden in the dark. Shhhhh.... My daughter, slow and soft, Don't startle the sleeping lion. He is not a loyal dog, His bite is worse than his bark. Shhhhh.... Scared wife, smile and...
    Munchycaterpillar Munchycaterpillar 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    RUN As Fast As You Can

    though no one in an abusive relationship will run you should. I still til this day always want to think I can fix things. People can change or he says he loves me so this time he wont hurt me. I have been in multiple abusive relationships. I think I am attracted to these people...
    sugarhoneyicetee sugarhoneyicetee 22-25, F Oct 18, 2013

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    I don't understand why it's

    so hard for women to leave an abusive relationship. Sometimes I wish I could pull them away. I was in an abusive relationship for a short time. Verbal, emotional whatever you want to call it, it was abuse and it affect me. I already had to deal with it at home. I had just...
    Deseraye1 Deseraye1 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    I was in a abusive relationship with this guy

    when I was 21 and dated the same guy again when I was 26. It was the worse relationship of my life he use to used me, belittle me call me names and he hit me once and that was it for me after that I walked away for good and I'm stronger because of it :)
    cara12345 cara12345 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Walking On Eggshells

    When I was in my late teens to my early tweenties I dated this guy for a few years on and off. Needless to say from the groups title, the relationship was rocky. In the beginning he was very charming. When he would talk it was as if I was the only person in the room. We were...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    I was with my daughters father

    for 5 years it started off so nice like all relationships do loving or so i thought, it took me about a year or so to really figure out i was being held in this abusive relationship a toxic place, it started with play fighting wrestling proving i was strong enough to love him...
    msrose22 msrose22 22-25, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy

    I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing.  That's how most abusive relationships are anyway. The first time he hit me was when I was driving.  We were late to an appointment and...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    A letter for you Every waking day is torture.

    there isn't a moment of the day where i don't think of you and what you did. there was a time where i saw my life with you, a future. But you shattered my dreams. all of them. You managed to destroy me piece by piece until now there is nothing left. I see no reason to breath...
    Lottie95 Lottie95 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    I kept getting beaten from my current boyfriend.

    ... This is the 6th time... He pushed me on the road and now my face is disfigured.. He seems to get used to beating me.... We have been together for 3 years... Going to four... And I have have to cover him up by telling everyone that I had fell down.... My doctor advised me to...
    ooxinjie ooxinjie 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    You, It Will Always Be You...

    You left,
 And still your touch lingers in my soul, 
My heart still beats for you. 
 You left,
 And I want to follow,
 But you don’t want,
 Or need me to. 
 You breathed a life into my empty shell, 
And without even a goodbye, 
You snatched the life out of me...
    EmmmaaaLou EmmmaaaLou 18-21, F Oct 7, 2013

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 35 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Trying To Make A New Relationship

    It's been 2 years since I left him. Now I have met a guy I think I really like. I'm just terrified. I don't want to make the same mistakes. I don't want to allow myself to put up with little things in the relationship and then by the time I am recognising that things are bad...
    Elpis2012 Elpis2012 26-30, F Nov 5, 2013

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    Heres a Shocker..

    for the past year?? my girl has abused me. she has done every bad thing you can think of. she abused me so bad that my family exacted revenge on her, and got her good. she refuses to accept all the **** she does to me, so rather than dealling with her problems and issues...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    I Went Through Hell

    When i was 16 i was a happy girl fair enough i was a bit of a bad girl smoking cigerettes and pot with my friends but never the less extremley happy.I lived with my mum we got along really well and everything was great in my life.That was before i met him.His name was ben and he...
    bpdgirljoanne bpdgirljoanne 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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    I would write an experience about my 3 year

    long abusive marriage but I believe it would end up being a novel. I had it all. Physically, mentally, emotionally, even sexually... I was in denial for the most part until today and I'm falling apart. I don't know what to do with myself. I feel like I've opened up a wound I...
    Mileena28 Mileena28 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 8 Responses May 7, 2007

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    You, It Will Always Be You...

    You left,
 And still your touch lingers in my soul, 
My heart still beats for you. 
 You left,
 And I want to follow,
 But you don’t want,
 Or need me to. 
 You breathed a life into my empty shell, 
And without even a goodbye, 
You snatched the life out of me...
    EmmmaaaLou EmmmaaaLou 18-21, F Oct 7, 2013

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    Been there. Stayed way too long!

    But find strength where you can and learn to accept what you can't change right?
    allison1181 allison1181 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    and as awful as it was it's not the bruises and broken ribs which have caused the most pain and lasted the longest. It's the fact I don't trust my own judgement anymore and don't know how I can ever get into a proper relationship again because what's to say the same thing won't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 3

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    Please Don't Tell Your Brother.

    Shaine is emotionally abusive, he over analyzes everything and bends it out of shape . Example: I didn't want to take his urine test that his job required him to take so he verbally attacked me in words more hurtful than anything, told me to walk home from your old house and...
    uhshamefulbeauty uhshamefulbeauty 22-25, F Oct 10, 2013

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    It it interesting to see the reactions of

    others to my situation. My family, friends, strangers, everyone has an opinion and a strong one at that. I married my hubby for the wrong reasons and broke his heart by cheating and wanting a divorce but I live with another man while waiting for the divorce. I am not saying what...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Hush Sleepy Lion

    Hush sleepy lion, our cub is asleep where she lay, Roars the lion, Shudders the prey. ROARS the lion, Cowers the prey. ROARS THE LION! Prey squeals and shys away. Quiet now sleepy lion, You have had a long day. Sleep angry lion, Don't hurt your prey. I meant no harm, I've...
    Munchycaterpillar Munchycaterpillar 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    So this guy jake d. Never physically hit me

    but he would always kiss me (with tongue)when I didn't want to because I wasn't ready yet(I'm 13) and he always asked me to do dirty stuff like to grab my boobs,and to give him a *******.i broke up with him because it showed he only wanted sex and i was only a possesion.but...
    nicole5227 nicole5227 16-17, F 13 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    My boyfriend beat the **** out of me

    for almost 3 months.. He would hit me and punch me and choke me and slap me .. One night he held a knife to my throat cause I was talking to my guy friend.. I still can't believe that I let him move in with me. Now I have to live with that every night il get nightmares and...
    countrybabe01 countrybabe01 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 23

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend...

    I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so in love and so sure I could never feel the same way again with anyone else. I stayed two years. I will never be the same person. I...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-18, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    I Understand Ur Plight of Been Abused and Un Appreciated

    well wat ll u say bout a lover who calls up a loose and an older woman  at that ,saying everything bout u?i call it foolishness!and the foolish less than a woman calls me up and starts to say stuff.like i dnt hv a life and all unpleasantries. but i wonder wat she did...
    konybaby konybaby 21-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2007

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    In 5th grade this girl known to be mean bully

    became my girlfriend but all I saw was a hot girl. She became my girlfriend and always hit me extremely hard in the arms, torso and sometimes even face. One day in 6th grade after school I must of angered her and she said "I'll bruise u up quite good" and began to punch and kick...
    weakling7 weakling7 13-15, M 2 Responses Apr 13

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    Abusive Mexican Husband Pinche Pendejo

    I got married at eighteen to my current husband. He was an ok boyfriend I never felt completely in love with him but I didn't believe I deserved any more than that at the time. Once we we're married everything changed. He expected me to be his ******* slave, not express any...
    kssdjr kssdjr 22-25 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 8 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    I am aware of my low self esteem in saying.

    . I enjoyed being in my abusive relationships. I look for it. I crave it. I've started it. I enjoy abusive relationships because they are passionate. My favourite part of abusive relationships are the apologizes. I will fill you in on my favourite abusive relationship. I knew...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Not My Fault!

    No one really knows about my relationship life around me. Once in a while I'll tell a friend...but other than that I keep it from my family...so it was quite hard for me when I found out the one I was seeing was becoming quite controlling and physical. I never really noticed it...
    raevynvelcros raevynvelcros 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    Abusive Relationship? This Can Help. **Please Read**

    On January 27th, 2012 I went to my usual Friday night hangout place, a local bowling alley. I expected a usual night with the usual people. I was hanging out with my friends whenever I turned the corner to the lounge and saw someone unusual. At first glance we both looked at each...
    autumn506 autumn506 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    Ended With Cops Shutting Down My Street

    He's not here and I realize now more how much I gave up, not talking to people, not looking up when we went anywhere, I couldn't even look in the mirror cause he would freak out. I stop caring about myself cause I didn't want to set him off. Than to go to work with a smile on my...
    damagedbadatbest damagedbadatbest 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    So Confused

    My therapist says talking about the experience will help. Im not sure if it will but im going to try. Im not sure if my story counts as abuse. He hit me but maybe he didnt know his own strength. He used pressure points on me to make me subside? Maybe he didnt know he was scaring...
    Smiles12311 Smiles12311 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Abusive Relationships Suck The Life Out Of You.

    I am getting out of mine, away from the 'narcissistic B******* who has many many times over 24 years made my life hell, and is abusive to our children at times also, they are young and don't deserve it. Everyone, well most people think he's such a nice easy going guy. He has...
    wishwing wishwing 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    Holding On

    Why do I keep holding oneven though I know it will never beWhy do I keep holding onwhen what we have is killing meWhy do I keep holding onwishing the dream were still aliveWhy do I keep holding onrealizing our love will never surviveWhy do I keep holding onto the feeling I have...
    texastomboy texastomboy 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    I've been in a couple of abusive relatiinship,

    I been mentally, phiscially, and emotionally abused. I guess it's why I no longer feel beautiful all the time even when I wear make up
    LowkeyJ LowkeyJ 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    I could use some advice getting over the abuse~

    I just got the apology from the man that took some of my child hood away, I mean physically and emotionally murdered my childhood.. And it’s been about a year and a half since it stopped. Be that apology sincere or not I really needed it and only now I feel like I'm on that...
    Kitty811 Kitty811 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    I picked "was" instead of "am" in an abusive relationship because I believe my fiancé and I have worked our way through our problems. Is it wrong to believe that couples who are...
    brusselsprouts brusselsprouts 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    There isn't a topic for those already in a Emotionally Abusive relationship. So I decided to post what happened to me today: Before I begin, me and my partner have been together...
    SoAntagonistic SoAntagonistic 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    I'm in an abusive relationship now. Emotionally abusive which is the worst!
    AlexiaGotAManofGod AlexiaGotAManofGod 26-30, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I was in a emotional abusive relationship and I'm out of it now . My ex and I started dating freshman year of high school but we've known each other since 7th grade . He never used...
    Loving1234 Loving1234 16-17, F Mar 31

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