I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Jul 10, 2014

    We were arguing while I was laying on the bed.

    He came over and in anger slapped my butt extremely hard. It hurt so bad I started to cry. An imprint of his had, red and swollen. It's the hardest he's ever slapped me. Better my butt than my face. He tried to physically throw me out the door. I fought him off the best I could...
    Jennnnla Jennnnla
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2016

    My first boyfriend decieved me

    for three years. We were schoolmates and we got into a relationship just after a week we met up. It was a whirlwind love everything seems so right and fast. His family knows about me and everyone including his relatives knew about me personally. One day someone messaged me in...
    elizabethsophia elizabethsophia
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2016

    I have joined for the last few hours,

    just in case I can help anyone. Professional, honest and unbiased advice given.. WR
    WelshRarebit69 WelshRarebit69
    46-50, F
    Apr 21, 2016

    I don't really know where to start.

    I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Everything was lovely and fine, we were both happy. We argued, but doesn't everyone? We got engaged quite soon. After 4 months he asked me. I said yea. Soon after that we had quite a bad argument, I forget what about. Long...
    Jennywirral Jennywirral
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    Almost 10 years have gone by.

    I watched my last few child bearing years pass, I watched 40 come and go, I watched friends stop calling me... All because I'm in an abusive relationship and have lost my voice, my will, my worth. Am I weak? Yes. Am I beaten down? Yes. Am I tired and lonely and sad? Yes. At the...
    Joiseygirl68 Joiseygirl68
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    While growing up I was verbally abused

    and physically abused. maybe thats why all my exs were drawn to me. they all were abusive also. One reason I fear people these days.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jul 19, 2015

    ANGUISH My husband of 10 yrs is in rehab.

    I forced him to go really. I did that abused partner trick where you convince them it is their idea and their choice (because Heaven forbid anyone dares give an abuser an ultimatum) He is gone for 30 days to treat alcoholism. but he abuses me sober too. it hurts to finally...
    slipthrough slipthrough
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    It must be hard living like a parasite .

    .. Always taking... never giving. That's what you are and that's what you'll always be. I hate myself for letting you destroy my spark, the spark that makes me want to get up in the morning, the spark that kept me feeling alive and confident, fearless , accepted and loved. I...
    Misunderstoodlady Misunderstoodlady
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Nov 19, 2015

    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms
    70+, F
    9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

    I think it happens, unfortunately,

    to too many. I hope everyone it has happened to find a way out, and can take back their power. I did, and you can, too!
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    He was my first love.

    He was very mean to me mentally but he definitely went too far physically. He hit me in the mouth if I said something he didn't like. If I knew he was about to hit me I would hit him or try to defend myself. I'm not a weak little b*tch who is going to sit there and take his...
    DeIuxedEdition DeIuxedEdition
    18-21, F
    14 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    its taken me 6 years to get over the physical

    and mental abuse my ex put me through. Although it hurts me at times. I try to focus on the greater things in life. my kids
    marlymars marlymars
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 3, 2016


    v=qS13uoIOiVQ one of the worst cases when you tolerate abusive relationship then get left behind suddenly and even can't find them. What makes it even worse is when you find them later to have been having a secret relation with another during that time you were suffering with...
    xthedreamerx xthedreamerx
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 19, 2016

    I know I'm in one now.

    It's verbal/emotional abuse. I think it's quite rare to actually find someone that isn't somewhat abusive but I've been around it my entire life maybe that's why I stay with it because it's all I know. My husband buts me down, everything I do. And he try's to control me and he...
    Sophia117 Sophia117
    22-25, F
    14 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    4 years ago yesterday,

    I finally got the courage to break up with you. I thought that if I did, that you would be out of my life for good. Unfortunately, I was very wrong. I still had to deal with you for about 3 more months. 3 months of you threatening not only me, but my family as well. You...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Aug 14, 2015

    With the ex in the other story.

    Before I caught him with her, he'd long began to abuse me emotionally. He never hit me or anything like that, just said things that cut deeper than a knife. First time was six months into the relationship. I decided to I wanted to have sex with him and seduced him that weekend...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 10, 2016

    Another Night in HeartBreak Hollywood Woke up,

    around 4pm, springtime’s sunlight, through my bedroom window shining in, I’m in a house, somewhere off Mulholland, had a call from an ex Brazilian lover, she was staying only 10 minutes away, so I stretched, showered, hoped in the Benz, opened the sunroof and headed her...
    AaronLA AaronLA
    36-40, M
    Apr 3, 2016

    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox
    41-45, F
    6 Responses Sep 24, 2014

    In some weird way I know you meant well.

    Even after my concussion. Even after feeling your relentless force. It's just that when you got really passionate about something you would sometimes turn into a monster. As I did. I'm not making excuses for you, I know the severity of the situation and I know that you took...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Aug 24, 2015

    ...and I still am. I want to leave,

    but my parents have kicked me out of their house, and his home is the only place I can go. I am stuck here. Im about to buy a car and live out of it at this point.
    neonslug neonslug
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 9, 2016

    I just left a guy who was abusing me sexually

    and mentally. I don't know how to feel anymore. gasp
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Jul 20, 2014

    now I know this is nothing compared to some of

    the stories I just seen on here, but here it goes....I started dating my boyfriend almost 6 years ago...during the 6 years we have been through it all....he was locked up we had a son...we dated other people. got back together, and now not only do we have a son but a 8 month old...
    teeq22 teeq22
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    Everything between us started off perfect.

    It was too good to be true of course. 1 month into our relationship he cheated on me. I forgave him like an idiot of course. He seemed really sorry, i believed it. When i refused to sleep with him he yelled at me and would just say horrible things. Months of emotional abuse...
    v1ct0rtilla v1ct0rtilla
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    tonight at about 5 am I woke up my boyfriend

    wasn't laying next to me in bed. I went downstairs he was passed out on my couch. I woke him up telling him come up to bed with me. he wasn't budging . so I asked again. He through this tantrum..like he is really tired lately because he doesn't go to bed properly so I don't know...
    sonsofanarchyy sonsofanarchyy
    1 Response Mar 6, 2016
    FilleKenyane FilleKenyane
    26-30, F
    Mar 10, 2016

    We moved in together two years ago

    and it started. I've been back home for one year now. I haven't seen him since December but we talked the other night and he told me he wasn't sorry for hurting me. He had previously apologized a lot in the past, and he said now he isn't sorry. He told me I was abusive from the...
    violetskynoise violetskynoise
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2016

    I don't even know how to start.

    It's been 8 years now and I can't move out as I can't afford maintaining myself and our two daughters. I know this relationship is sick and was persuading him to start the therapy together but he refuses. I am so nervous that I start to shout at my younger daughter and I don't...
    kikaCosta kikaCosta
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2016

    The thing about these abusers.

    .. They always deny their abuse. Or they minimize or they change the story, rewrite history, have selective amnesia and gaslight. Dealing with these personality disordered people with custody of your children sucks. CPS is involved because of his abusive nature. They are...
    BijouBlue BijouBlue
    41-45, F
    16 Responses Jul 8, 2015

    I've, been in an abusive relationship.

    Feels kinda weird even mentioning it. But yeah, all he wanted from me was sex.... and share me with his buddy's.... I've gotten every time I no, until I just gave up and let happen. I was ashamed to talk to my parents or anyone about it. Eventually, my teacher had some marks and...
    kissycakes8 kissycakes8
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    I was maybe about 16.

    He lied to me about his age... saying he was 17 when really he was 25. He used to cut me, choke me, and rape me. He used me for sex and then when i got pregnant, he made me get an abortion. The doctor could see the tears in my eyes, and asked me if i really wanted to get this...
    nicky3489 nicky3489
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Aug 21, 2015


      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81
    26-30, M
    21 Responses Nov 9, 2012

    I was in a abusive relationship 3 half years .

    he went to jail twice put me in hospatil mental tourched me sexualy adults me and kept me as a prisoner I was a slave to his pleasure of evil justice I was slapped kicked punched strangled starved black and Blue and raped on a daily weekly basis no family friends lonely and had 2...
    xbossfemalex xbossfemalex
    26-30, F
    7 Responses Jun 26, 2015

    I feel alone and stupid.

    Because my ex boyfriend or my boyfriend I don't know what it's now one day he love me and care the next minute he doest, I'm been with him for five year in I don't know what to do anymore. I love him so much but he doesn't see it even those when he been abussing to me are still...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2016

    It started out really good,

    but.... Things never stay the same where people are concerned it seems to me. Men are Martian and we women are Venusian.
    Dieudonneso Dieudonneso
    26-30, F
    Mar 17, 2016

    people ask why did you stay,

    l guess they don't know how trapped you feel, how worthless they make you feel, what a failure in life you feel, the embarrassment of saying to your family
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I was in a abusive relationship

    for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my family cause i was to scared to tell just dealing with all this pain by myself wishing that something or someone would come to...
    CDavis227 CDavis227
    36-40, F
    4 Responses May 6, 2015

    It's finally become so obvious,

    but it's still hard to confront and to know what to do next. It's hard to know if it's really not my fault and to believe that. Couldn't she say a lot of the same things about me? Could things be fixed? Could we repair the hurts we've caused each other? Does our faith call us...
    CynthiaKarin CynthiaKarin
    36-40, T
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    It hurts mostly everyday I still get emotional

    I can still picture everything that happened I can still feel her hands banging against my head. How the first month's it was just the beginning. I was in an abusive relationship I was hurt emotionally and physically. At first she just hit me and I would tell her to stop and she...
    Introvertedchild18 Introvertedchild18
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2016

    i stayed for 12 long horrible years.

    i stayed when he denied out first born because god forbid he have a girl. i stayed when he first raised his hand to me and the second and third time. i stayed because he said i was used and no man would want me with the 2 kids. i stayed when he threw his dinner at the wall...
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Dec 16, 2015

    I don't talk about it much due to being hard to

    discuss but need to start opening up and sharing. From age 13-17 I was dating a older boy who lives a few blocks away. The first year I thought he was perfect! I found out he started using drugs and it changed his behavior. He became mad at the most bizarre things. Soon he...
    murman91 murman91
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    I know this is very open

    but I often think back to my past- and I can finally say it is the reason to why I am how I am today. I was in such a controlling relationship. Was never aloud to speak to the opposite sex, wasn't aloud to go out etc but he was. Why should I have too follow one set of rules...
    aimsdisneyox aimsdisneyox
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Nov 4, 2015

    It's been 4 years, 2 months,

    & 4 days since the last time you raped me & since the last time I saw you, so why can't I get the nightmares to go away?! It's not fair that I have these nightmares and flashbacks, while you just get you live a normal life. It's not fair that I have PTSD because of you... it's...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Jan 15, 2016


    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour
    36-40, F
    11 Responses Mar 18, 2012

    He said I had became the woman

    that he always wanted... But, when he finally got me all he did was abuse me and make me feel bad about myself... Does this make sense to anyone else? Thoughts?
    Mfudgie Mfudgie
    31-35, F
    9 Responses Jun 19, 2015

    I see people saying, "just leave".

    Well it's not that easy. I think that victims of domestic violence would leave if they wanted to. But are too scared of what could happen if they did leave. Leaving an abuser is the most dangerous thing a victim could ever do. The victim can't just pack up their bags and go...
    Singlemother78 Singlemother78
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Nov 30, 2015

    I have been married for almost 15yrs.

    The first half of our marriage I spent under his verbal abuse. (which I also consider mental). I didn't realize what it was until several years into our marriage and by then we had a child. There were so many days I prayed for him to come home and hit me just so I could have a...
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 10, 2016

    I don't do this but I am reaching out

    for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt physically and emotionally and i just feel lost. I am now the single mother of 3 boys which I can handle been doing it own my own for a while...
    cpowers89 cpowers89
    26-30, F
    13 Responses May 22, 2015

    I meet him when I was 17 we went to different

    schools. My friend introduce us and he seem like a great guy. Within first year he begin to pusher me and I just told myself he just loved me that why. You see my whole life I was use to being hit scream at. My father wasn't good guy and he had left my life when I was 16. So I...
    RainbowxXxLove RainbowxXxLove
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 19, 2016

    this is a poem I wrote about women being abused

    and I hope you like it this isn't a relationship it's a hostage situation silences screams louder then a fat lady sings hands tied he lied, he didn't love you in the first place you can't break free continue to send out your silent screams until you're seen your life...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 8, 2016

    I'm in an verbally abusive relationship with

    my husband. he is always degrading me .calling me names. he is very controlling. he had said he gave me everything and I'm nothing without him.
    Ksd9807 Ksd9807
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    WhisperingEchoes WhisperingEchoes
    36-40, F
    39 Responses Feb 23, 2013

    I'm over my ex but I'm not over what they did

    to me. I don't know if I ever will be. When things were at their worst in our relationship I almost killed myself. I'm worried I'll never be able to be in another relationship because I'm so broken.
    mary909 mary909
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    For my girls I left. Not wanting them to think

    that it's ever ok to stay in a bad relationship. For my girls I wanted them to know and see the error of my choices. Never ever did I want them to find themselves in the same situation. My daughter tells me that she's struggling in her current relationship. I ask her what...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    My live in boyfriend spit in my face.

    Then he threw something at me. I am so anxious and feeling unloved.
    caroline71105 caroline71105
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    So my abusive ex husband finally found someone

    else or should I say -his next victim. She's my age and she's got a kid with health problems and special needs. I'm a couple months older then her but it's like we could be the best of friends. She probably heard all about how cold hearted mean and evil I was to him. She doesn't...
    Cordale10 Cordale10
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    I've never really talked about it except to

    people I'm closest to, so here goes nothin. When we started dating he treated me like I was precious and gave me attention i had never had before. It made me feel great and it didn't hurt that he was gorgeous. But the first time I realized something was up was 6 months in when...
    SnowWhite87 SnowWhite87
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    I was in an abusive relationship

    for 4 years, which I managed to escape about a year ago. For a long time I was very relieved that I was out of the situation because I never thought I would be able to end it. Everyday I felt grateful that I no longer had to live feeling like I was a slave who wasn't allowed...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Jun 13, 2015

    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa
    22-25, F
    21 Responses Jun 25, 2014
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