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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Abuse can manifest itself in many forms.

    It allows the 'bully' to feel superior, when he or she is so very inferior.
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jul 2

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    I was in a abusive relationship 3 half years .

    he went to jail twice put me in hospatil mental tourched me sexualy adults me and kept me as a prisoner I was a slave to his pleasure of evil justice I was slapped kicked punched strangled starved black and Blue and raped on a daily weekly basis no family friends lonely and had 2...
    xbossfemalex xbossfemalex 26-30, F 7 Responses Jun 26

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    He said he'd never hurt me.

    He said he loved me. He said I was beautiful. He said he wanted me, and me alone. I miss that man. I don't know why that person faded away, and I can't help thinking that maybe he's faded back. I just have to open the door... But I realized long ago that I have to be my own...
    SkyChevalier SkyChevalier 22-25, T Jul 3

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    I don't do this but I am reaching out

    for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt physically and emotionally and i just feel lost. I am now the single mother of 3 boys which I can handle been doing it own my own for a while...
    cpowers89 cpowers89 26-30, F 15 Responses May 22

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    for 4 years, which I managed to escape about a year ago. For a long time I was very relieved that I was out of the situation because I never thought I would be able to end it. Everyday I felt grateful that I no longer had to live feeling like I was a slave who wasn't allowed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 13

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    wonderwoman562 wonderwoman562 36-40, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    While growing up I was verbally abused

    and physically abused. maybe thats why all my exs were drawn to me. they all were abusive also. One reason I fear people these days.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 19

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    I've been in both physically

    and emotionally abusive types of relationships. It's been a crazy road but I think I've finally found a place where I know my worth and that I can do so much better.
    thepooloftears thepooloftears 26-30 5 Responses Apr 10

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    Why should I be the one

    who is too ashamed about him physically hurting me? I'm so ashamed that I can't even tell just one person. I fear feeling like a complete fool because I continuously stick around for him to hurt me physically, emotionally, and mentally. HE should be embarrassed. HE should be...
    Jennnnla Jennnnla 22-25, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I wanted to finish with my last boyfriend

    but he kept threatening me, He didn't feel.like a boyfriend so I had a one night stand. I then had to tell him because I caught something and didn't want to pass it on . He went crazy and hit me really hard, I was bloody and really bruised. I went to see my friend and he patched...
    Allsmilesgirl Allsmilesgirl 22-25, F 11 Responses 5 days ago

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    I was in a relationship

    for 5.5 years.... Engaged and all. He broke up with me. For nothing . In the end thanks to work my best friend I got out of a abusive relationship. Don't let it exceeded the limits to wear your crying your eyes out
    cnabri92 cnabri92 22-25, F 5 Responses a week ago

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    Black widow Tears fall upon my pillow Can see

    a fade in his glow He says nothing but he knows A venomous sting a raised bow Emotions hid and then showed An open door and then closed A memory half enclosed A flame is present but wind blows Can't shake the feeling it's exposed I'm wondering if he knows I must be the black...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    even after cutting off all contact,

    it still feels so painful. has anyone experienced this and would be willing to talk about it? its almost like PTSD
    butterfly4444 butterfly4444 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 5

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    so yeah i have been in a super abusive

    relationship. more than once where i was raped 17 times, ive been hit so many times that i can't even count them and i have been kidnapped, tortured and abused by my ex bf. and i've been a victim of emotional abuse from my ex bf
    Romitri657 Romitri657 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 26

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    I am married to the man

    that abused me. we worked through things, I found a way to forgive him, he's getting help. but now he's gone because of the charges that got brought up from september. I'm learning how to be okay now, with out him here
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jul 19

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    My last relationship lasted 5 years.

    I met the father of my son when I was 17 through a mutual acquaintance. Soon I was kicked out of my mom's apartment after he tried to break in to see if I was actually home because I took too long to text him back. I lived with him and his parents in their basement, where we...
    ImStrongerThanThat ImStrongerThanThat 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

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    I need help. When I was 13 I was with a 25 year

    old who was physically, mentally and sexually abusive. I anonymously contacted the police and he was sent to prison for drug dealing. I'm 18 and I've just learned he's being released. I don't know if he's gonna come back to the same town, but I'm scared. Anyone been in this...
    ally96 ally96 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 16

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    I've never told anyone my story,

    I think it'll feel good to get it out in the open. I think people should tell their stories. It doesn't make you weak or a victim. My ex was the perfect guy, strong and had a big heart. The relationship happened fast, the way he'd talk to me was like he'd never talked to any...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 2 Responses May 5

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    mentally.emotionally&physically.

    This wasn't his first time, Nor was it His worst. I can't help but want him back. Why do I miss & Love him after ALL his LIES & BS. Why do I keep coming back for More? I'm only doing this to myself. "OHH he'll change This time! I know it!!" "No Nia, you are WRONG and you Know...
    LaLaNiaa LaLaNiaa 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 29

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 25 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I used to date a guy

    who I met while I was recovering from the end of a long-term relationship, and I was in a very vulnerable state. He used to control what I wore, where I went, who I spoke to, and when I got pregnant then lost the baby after 2 months he refused to let me talk about it. it took a...
    Selesnya Selesnya 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    It started three years ago.

    He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and harder to hide the black eyes and bruises on my body. I began to do bad in my classes, because he made me skip class to see him...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 44 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I told him to stop! crying screaming hitting

    and still never stopped :( the real problem is there's a little part of me that misses him a little bit..
    Cheya Cheya 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 9

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6, 2014

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    Caution: the following is a rant,

    not looking for pity, prayers or advice just venting it all out. Looking back on those years I am not filled with regret. I fell in love with the wrong person at 17, that happens to everyone at some point, my mistake was not recognizing a narcissistic psychopath but getting...
    93Armand 93Armand 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    I want to escape from the reality of having

    flashbacks on a daily basis. I want to forget that I ever knew you. Forget that I ever dated you. You were the biggest mistake I ever made, and that's saying a lot. I wish I got out of the abusive relationship I had with you sooner. I wish that I had proof in order to put your...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    A very good read. http://www.

    elephantjournal.com/2015/06/the-toxic-attraction-between-an-empath-a-narcissist/
    bleedingheart11 bleedingheart11 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 8

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    is it ok to just accept an be quite,

    if I fight back with my words it gets worse, an on top of that he treating me .that if I leave he will take my son. idk what to do at this point, sometimes I just hate myself
    gilda35 gilda35 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 11

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    Have to go back home

    for my grandfathers funeral. Extremely nervous that my ex will show up and try to follow me back to where I live now!
    Cat052314 Cat052314 26-30, F 4 Responses Jul 16

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    If you all have the time to stop by my problem.

    ..... yes I hv bn in an abusive relationship. both physical and mental. it was traumatic. dreadful. I felt miserable. and it all started within 6months of our marriage. I used to love my husband madly before that. but the side he showed me after our wedding reaped me apart. I...
    darkersideoflife darkersideoflife 26-30, F 6 Responses Jun 22

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    I jut started my first year at university

    and I got into a relationship with a guy for 6 months and he abused me throughout. Emotionally, physically and sexually. He broke my character down so much that feeling suicidal was a common thing during the relationship. He'd drag me around, lock me out of his flat with no...
    Experience780 Experience780 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 1

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my family cause i was to scared to tell just dealing with all this pain by myself wishing that something or someone would come to...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the relationship but please don't. Because until you have walked in that persons shoes you have no idea. I was blessed that the abuse was only...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    He said I had became the woman

    that he always wanted... But, when he finally got me all he did was abuse me and make me feel bad about myself... Does this make sense to anyone else? Thoughts?
    Mfudgie Mfudgie 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 19

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    I don't know if it's my fault

    that everything happen to me but I my husband it's very abusing I got to the point that I left the house, he said that he like that for everything I did, but he family said that he been like that b4 he meet me in he went to jail before for beating he ex girlfriend and he sister...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    is it abuse when you get into an argument

    and I don't stop running my mouth, that he* slapped me and tossed coffee on my face?
    Manderz8815 Manderz8815 26-30, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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