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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    Why should I be the one

    who is too ashamed about him physically hurting me? I'm so ashamed that I can't even tell just one person. I fear feeling like a complete fool because I continuously stick around for him to hurt me physically, emotionally, and mentally. HE should be embarrassed. HE should be...
    Jennnnla Jennnnla 22-25, F 7 Responses Jul 25

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 36-40, F 43 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 8 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    The man i used to go with used to keep

    strangling me so many times but part of me want him back cos id hold me to and tell me not to ******* care about anyone or anything and was amazing sex and i miss his smile.
    KentGirl29 KentGirl29 26-30, F Aug 9

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    I called my sister in law

    that night...so desperate not to get my family involved...but what else could I do...I couldn't even get to the door...she crawled in threw the window...I was embarrassed...that was a hard night...not because of what he did..but because I care so much of what people think..
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 1

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2014

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    I'm just starting to tell people about it.

    it's left me with scars mentally and physically... and affects my new relationship.
    PaigeOfSteel PaigeOfSteel 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 28

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    In some weird way I know you meant well.

    Even after my concussion. Even after feeling your relentless force. It's just that when you got really passionate about something you would sometimes turn into a monster. As I did. I'm not making excuses for you, I know the severity of the situation and I know that you took...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 7 Responses Aug 24

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    the scares never heal.

    because they're deep inside your soul and your mind...one day it will go away though & the trust will be restored,,but until then ill be single & enjoy life as much as I can with my family..its been 9 years since..and im still happy !
    MyraTomPhil MyraTomPhil 26-30 1 Response Aug 14

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    My boyfriend is a 48 year old married man.

    He's 25 years my senior and was my former boss. I now work in the same industry in the same vicinity so I'm still able to see him. He is still living with his wife and kids, like a normal family. I accepted it hoping that he would make me feel more appreciated to have a girl my...
    catsmp catsmp 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 16

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    CrazyKid4 CrazyKid4 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    I've been in both physically

    and emotionally abusive types of relationships. It's been a crazy road but I think I've finally found a place where I know my worth and that I can do so much better.
    thepooloftears thepooloftears 26-30 5 Responses Apr 10

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    wonderwoman562 wonderwoman562 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 22

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    I've been in about three abusive relationships,

    I think the worst one was the one I just got out of. he gave me two black eyes, also bit my legs and fingers. he would punch my legs and arms and grab I had bruises everywhere he pulled my hair so hard that he picked me up with just my hair.. he headbutted me pulled a knife on...
    LOSTlo0ve LOSTlo0ve 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 9

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    I called my mom...finally asked her

    if I could come home...he left a few min ago cause I wouldn't let him sleep until he was nice and communicated with me cause that's all I desperately want...I tried to run after him..fractured leg didn't help...I let him go this time...I don't know why but I called him and told...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Aug 1

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    I was maybe about 16.

    He lied to me about his age... saying he was 17 when really he was 25. He used to cut me, choke me, and rape me. He used me for sex and then when i got pregnant, he made me get an abortion. The doctor could see the tears in my eyes, and asked me if i really wanted to get this...
    nicky3489 nicky3489 18-21, F 7 Responses Aug 21

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    After living in fear not knowing what mood he

    would be in each and everyday I built the courage to flee, reported him to police for the physical abuse he put me thru, petrified of the consequences.. its been 8yrs now since I reported him took out an order against him to stay away and its done nothing but aggravate him more...
    katinDahat katinDahat 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 23

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    I don't do this but I am reaching out

    for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt physically and emotionally and i just feel lost. I am now the single mother of 3 boys which I can handle been doing it own my own for a while...
    cpowers89 cpowers89 26-30, F 15 Responses May 22

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    He got upset with me again today.

    ..he started to push me but he noticed and stopped...that's good right?...truth is I can't even say I'm happy...im just having a hard time letting go..he's good at manipulating me that way..I love him. I love him so much I know I need to say good bye...I'm scared.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 1

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my family cause i was to scared to tell just dealing with all this pain by myself wishing that something or someone would come to...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    These pictures I took the day

    after make me cringe...I think I'm in denial...how is that even possible?
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Aug 1

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    for 4 years, which I managed to escape about a year ago. For a long time I was very relieved that I was out of the situation because I never thought I would be able to end it. Everyday I felt grateful that I no longer had to live feeling like I was a slave who wasn't allowed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Jun 13

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    My last relationship lasted 5 years.

    I met the father of my son when I was 17 through a mutual acquaintance. Soon I was kicked out of my mom's apartment after he tried to break in to see if I was actually home because I took too long to text him back. I lived with him and his parents in their basement, where we...
    ImStrongerThanThat ImStrongerThanThat 22-25, F Jul 28

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    The relationship is over.

    I left him almost 7 years ago. I just couldn't stand the abuse anymore. I knew I deserved better. The terrible thing is, almost 7 years later, he still invades my mind. I have dreams about him. They don't happen often, but, when they do, they are incredibly powerful. The worst...
    AmayaTsuki AmayaTsuki 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    I've never told anyone my story,

    I think it'll feel good to get it out in the open. I think people should tell their stories. It doesn't make you weak or a victim. My ex was the perfect guy, strong and had a big heart. The relationship happened fast, the way he'd talk to me was like he'd never talked to any...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 2 Responses May 5

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    While growing up I was verbally abused

    and physically abused. maybe thats why all my exs were drawn to me. they all were abusive also. One reason I fear people these days.
    Averageguy41011 Averageguy41011 41-45, M 4 Responses Jul 19

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    Maybe I should of given the full story.

    ..he picked me up to throw me on the bed so he could leave...I don't think it was intentional to hurt me...my leg hit the railing...he did leave me on the floor though when I told him I couldn't walk...my son cried and I couldn't even get to him...my daughter was trying to help...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 1

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    I don't wanna die. I just want to forget.

    But how do I do that- or even get a break- when whenever I close my eyes I get flashbacks or nightmares ??
    PaigeOfSteel PaigeOfSteel 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 13

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    My boyfriend fractured my leg this time.

    ..I can't blame myself anymore..I didn't start it this time...it was him...the pushing...the screaming...he picked me up and threw me cause I wouldn't let him leave...I didn't want him to be mad anymore..maybe I should of... What's even worse is I'm not even mad....but I'm scared...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 1

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    I escaped... He nearly stabbed me in the chest

    with a buck knife. He broke my nose, he dragged me into the house by my hair. I thought he was going to kill me until I begged for God's mercy. I thought he was my soul mate, we had statistically impossible things in common. He got possessive really quick, and intuitively I...
    arandomuse arandomuse 26-30, F 6 Responses Jul 31

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    I was in a relationship

    for 5.5 years.... Engaged and all. He broke up with me. For nothing . In the end thanks to work my best friend I got out of a abusive relationship. Don't let it exceeded the limits to wear your crying your eyes out
    cnabri92 cnabri92 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    My ex & I broke up a year & a half ago.

    He was extremely emotionally abusive, & when it ended he assaulted me very badly. Although I called the police, the DA declined to prosecute. I have a restraining order against him, which he has been twice convicted of violating. There is something very very wrong with him, but...
    kellysjelly kellysjelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 14

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    Caution: the following is a rant,

    not looking for pity, prayers or advice just venting it all out. Looking back on those years I am not filled with regret. I fell in love with the wrong person at 17, that happens to everyone at some point, my mistake was not recognizing a narcissistic psychopath but getting...
    Disobey247 Disobey247 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 18

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    While being in an abusive relationship,

    you feel helpless, and trapped. Your abuser seems to have control over you, they use fear against you. At the age of 15, I entered my first abusive relationship with a friends brother, who was 24. He took control of my life, beat me, and made me feel small, unimportant. I became...
    awakenstarchild awakenstarchild 18-21, F 6 Responses Aug 15

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    "I hit you because of what you said to me"-

    those were the words of my soon to be husband. He hit me exactly a week before our church wedding... In my home country, every Lent on Good Friday Catholics have their "pilgrimage" to their respective down town churches, and as the good Catholic girl, I was part of the...
    Marife7128 Marife7128 51-55, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Because of my abusive relationships,

    I've learned not to trust people, especially men. My first boyfriend was into bondage, which if I had been more experienced with relationships probably wouldn't have affected me so horribly. He did things to me I won't even mention in this post. My second boyfriend was worse...
    al13ngr33n al13ngr33n 31-35, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    4 years ago yesterday,

    I finally got the courage to break up with you. I thought that if I did, that you would be out of my life for good. Unfortunately, I was very wrong. I still had to deal with you for about 3 more months. 3 months of you threatening not only me, but my family as well. You...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 3 Responses