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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    Black widow Tears fall upon my pillow Can see

    a fade in his glow He says nothing but he knows A venomous sting a raised bow Emotions hid and then showed An open door and then closed A memory half enclosed A flame is present but wind blows Can't shake the feeling it's exposed I'm wondering if he knows I must be the black...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    There were several "red flags".

    I was young and naive. He was selfish, insecure, controlling, with a little ******. He beat me black and blue. For 6 yrs I put up with it. I know u r asking why did I stay with my abuser for 7yrs and give him 3 children. Fear, and I thought I could change him. I thought beneath...
    yummytummy610 yummytummy610 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Anick711 Anick711 31-35, F Apr 10

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6, 2014

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 9 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    I don't do this but I am reaching out

    for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt physically and emotionally and i just feel lost. I am now the single mother of 3 boys which I can handle been doing it own my own for a while...
    cpowers89 cpowers89 26-30, F 16 Responses 3 days ago

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 25 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 5 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Can anyone share their experiences with

    emotional abuse including manipulation, blaming, and making a partner feel guilty and awful about themselves? I feel i am stuck in a place where i am being made to feel these things but its so hard to face and overcome. I think listening to others will give comfort. I am hoping...
    butterfly4444 butterfly4444 22-25, F 2 Responses May 18

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my family cause i was to scared to tell just dealing with all this pain by myself wishing that something or someone would come to...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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    No my beloved never hit me But his words stung

    worse than any blow... More than any slap. He would lash out Angry Hurtful Demeaning Finally, he put me away. Such an ancient phrase Biblically decided I wasn't the wife for him. Three thousand miles I traveled with my little one back to family back to being a failure...
    chastewhisperer chastewhisperer 41-45, F 3 hrs ago

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 12 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    my ex hit me and chocked me

    and controlled me I just moved on and now I lost him as well I just wish I found love and could keep love.
    kmccrady12653 kmccrady12653 22-25, F 3 Responses May 9

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    I've been out of that relationship

    for almost a year now . I'm still healing but in all honesty I don't think it's something you ever completely heal from.
    Cat052314 Cat052314 26-30, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    Reading some of the stories,

    there's nothing that justifies such behavior - that much is clear. Here's a story I thought was sharing - http://youtu.be/paNkgLnqhbk Basically, there's only so much we can do after the fact. But what remains within our control is what we choose to take away from our...
    zentango zentango 36-40 May 11

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    Hi, this is my first time here so,

    here goes nothing.......... I met my current boyfriend while working in another state, I never thought that I could actually find someone as perfect (in my eyes) as him. We are both passionate and love our careers, when we just started talking none of us though we would be...
    Silo6 Silo6 26-30, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    I have terrible flashbacks still from the abuse.

    They're back to coming on nearly a daily basis. The nights they don't come are the nights of the nightmares instead. The nightmares aren't as bad though because I'll usually forget them by the morning, but the flashbacks stay in my head.. I'm so sick of this. If only I hadn't...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 12

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    for 8 years. ..and I am just now starting to recover 4 years later
    finelyhappy1029 finelyhappy1029 26-30, F May 6

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    I had a monster for a boyfriend .

    Four long years that what i wasted on him. He used to beat me up, insult me. though these physical incidents were rare the mental abuse happened everyday. He used to call me ugly, witch. He would always insult me one way or another. I came out of that relation scarred for life...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Apr 19

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    I've never told anyone my story,

    I think it'll feel good to get it out in the open. I think people should tell their stories. It doesn't make you weak or a victim. My ex was the perfect guy, strong and had a big heart. The relationship happened fast, the way he'd talk to me was like he'd never talked to any...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 2 Responses May 5

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    so my ex recently moved back from Vegas.

    he's a crazy drugactic wanna be gangbanger woman beater. now that I'm out of his grip I question my she relationship with him. although it was my first it was enough to make me hate guys. now I'm stressing cuz he's a total psycho that will show up at my work door step even...
    amariebonitaa amariebonitaa 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 27

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 7 Responses May 7, 2007

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    My husband use to be very abusive,

    he would choke me, bite me, punch me, grab me so hard he left bruises, and was also verbally abusive. It got so bad we both ended up in jail. He is finally on meds for his anger, and I must say he no longer does those things. I put up with alot of that pain for a year though and...
    shadaboo shadaboo 18-21, F 7 Responses May 15

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    I don't like talking about what I've been

    through its been about a year in a half and I still have nightmares.. , I've heard so many stories of girls getting beaten by their boyfriends and I would always say oh hell no that would never be me, but unfortunately that was me about 5, years ago I met a guy at a grocery...
    m3ll3900 m3ll3900 18-21, F 6 Responses May 14

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    My country cared. But is removing proof.

    Harrys law help. http://youtu.be/-5Tw3Q3wQbs http://youtu.be/tNilDRiEUnQ
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 8

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    So more then 6 years ago I was pressured into a

    relationship with this guy. The more and more I got to know him, the worse things got with him. He would verbally and mentally abuse me. In 2007 I finally had the chance to break up with him. He was a horrible guy. He would get overly jealous and so on. After I broke up with him...
    tmiatech tmiatech 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    I didn't realize and I'm shocked how difficult

    it is to write down my feelings!! I don't know how to begin the humiliation, frustration and sadness...I HATE THE WAY HE TREATS ME.
    deleted deleted 26-30 Apr 13

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally

    and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new relationship, and the guy for the most part has been amazing. But today I noticed some behavioral tendencies that were the same as my ex...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    So after 3 hours of text fighting with my 'soon

    to be ex' he finally agreed to move out AGAIN and this time for good by the end of May. I honestly don't know why I let him back in last Oct cause I have been on eggshells ever since. In the 10 years I have lived in this house, last night was the first time I slept with my...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response Apr 16

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    CrazyKid4 CrazyKid4 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    My ex was very mentally abusive to me.

    he had at one point hit me and my friends and family made me break up with him. I now see that it wasn't okay but I'm still in love with the guy that he was before he showed how he really was. I am now engaged to a wonderful man. but, my ex still crosses my mind every day. he's...
    CopenhagenAngel427 CopenhagenAngel427 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 25

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    A man can love someone

    who they put they hand and kick her out the house at anytime at night time?
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    I've been in both physically

    and emotionally abusive types of relationships. It's been a crazy road but I think I've finally found a place where I know my worth and that I can do so much better.
    thepooloftears thepooloftears 26-30 5 Responses Apr 10

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    Everything seemed happy

    and fine at first. We seemed like a great couple and everyone was happy for us. We really didn't have any problems until she started verbally assaulting me and putting me down. I would tell her to stop and she would call me things like worthless or pathetic. Then, the next day...
    SamanthaJC SamanthaJC 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I am making a you tube video

    as an advocate for domestic violence ...more women need to hear our stories more high school girls who are letting guys beat them at 14 years old ... this violence needs to stop .. so I am asking any survivors even if your still in that situation your a SURVIVOR to come...
    finelyhappy1029 finelyhappy1029 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6

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