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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    It started three years ago.

    He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and harder to hide the black eyes and bruises on my body. I began to do bad in my classes, because he made me skip class to see him...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 13 Responses Jan 1

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally

    and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new relationship, and the guy for the most part has been amazing. But today I noticed some behavioral tendencies that were the same as my ex...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    It was was this summer

    and at first he was nice and friendly but after 3 months he started getting real mean. He never hit me but he always said things like your fat or.will you kill yourself already and stuff like your not even that pretty or my ex was way hotter. For some odd reason I still loved...
    jellybean1999 jellybean1999 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 23

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    Holding On

    Why do I keep holding oneven though I know it will never beWhy do I keep holding onwhen what we have is killing meWhy do I keep holding onwishing the dream were still aliveWhy do I keep holding onrealizing our love will never surviveWhy do I keep holding onto the feeling I have...
    texastomboy texastomboy 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    Its been over a month

    since the last time i seen or heard my husbands voice at all.. Ive been cut off.. which in a way a lot easier to cope with our seperation (now permanent).. There has been cheating involved that he wont confess to.. continuing lies.. emotional abuse, verbal abuse and some...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 3 Responses Jan 16

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    omg i cant take any of this anymore I am at my

    wits end. I actually joined this experience bc I wanted to get out of the totally unhealthy codependent controlling manipulating verbally abusive relationship with my so called non legal, non live in husband and father of my son....but now I am having to put that new year's goal...
    jaxpdx jaxpdx 41-45, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    Today I was reminded of how completely trapped

    I used to feel; but how I didn't realize just how trapped I felt until I was out. Today, a rather new friend and I were watching a news story on the Ray Rice incident, and how an ESPN anchor got suspended over calling the commissioner a liar. She then began to tell me about...
    lovelyss lovelyss 22-25, F Sep 25, 2014

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    My abusive boyfriend saved my live once,

    ironically. I overdosed, and the only thing that made me want to get up when I was too weak to move (too dehydrated/almost dead), was that I was afraid odd him being too angry and taking it out on me. Looking back on it, I realize how stupid that was of me.
    pikapower06 pikapower06 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    Seems as tho I'm starting out the new year

    single. I knew this guy wasn't treating me right either. We had an argument, just a stupid disagreement over plans and he resorted to cutting me down on a personal level verbally attacking me much like my ex did:(
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 2 Responses Jan 1

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    I'm warning you now that my experience is a

    book... I'm sharing because I want those who may be going through this right now to know that only one thing will make the relationship better – LEAVE THEM! Do whatever you have to to get away, get friends’ help, make use of any services for victims in your area, but don’t...
    DaylightDancer DaylightDancer 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    Not so much Physically,

    but Emotionally and Mentally. Every time I had tried to break up with him he would threaten me, threaten to hurt himself, or make up some kind of sick story to try and scare me into not leaving him or taking him back. He wasn't kind toward me and often made fun of me and...
    HisKindredSpirit HisKindredSpirit 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Hey, I was in an abusive relationship

    for 5 years and ill tell you my story. I have two children with this man they are still very young. He physically abused me basically everyday, he destroyed every house we lived him he spoke to me like I was dirt and made me think that I was nothing. Took all my food money off...
    maddzt maddzt 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I have been in an abusive relationship with

    someone who is paranoid and bipolar and I know its hard to get up and leave especially when they say they need help but the only help he needs is from mental mental health when they start name calling being jealous and possessive its time to go because after that they will push...
    tlove22 tlove22 41-45, F 1 Response Feb 18

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    xosecretidentityxo xosecretidentityxo 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    Things began normally.

    We were together a short while before his eating disorder became an issue. He would tell me in detail about his purges. I was so dependent on him I became a mess of stress and anxiety. I couldn't fathom him hurting himself. But I loved him, so I told him I could only handle it...
    gothstan gothstan 16-17, M 5 Responses Jan 2

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    Leave!!! that's all I can say,

    no matter is it a friend, mother, father, boyfriend... anyone.. leave.. while you can!!!
    1993atnomkal 1993atnomkal 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 23

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    Well I got the news last night.

    My ex was arrested for attempted murder of his girlfriend. The exact same senario happened to me. I never expected to have mixed feelings about this. It's on the front page and the news and there is a part of me that wants to defend him. Then the other part that wants him to...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 5 Responses Jan 21

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    Walking On Eggshells

    When I was in my late teens to my early tweenties I dated this guy for a few years on and off. Needless to say from the groups title, the relationship was rocky. In the beginning he was very charming. When he would talk it was as if I was the only person in the room. We were...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 8 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Worthless

    I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. Me and Jacob had been together for 5 years but it wasnt until the third year that he beat me. He had a temper and he had hit me a few times... but it was nothing compared to when he beat me. He has put me in the hospital 7 times. He...
    sucknswallow sucknswallow 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    I have had many issues

    and experiences with my husband. We have had so many ups and down and it has really affected my emotions. As of late, my husband went through a very difficult time. Being who I am, I was there as support for him. After this experience, my husband has realized how difficult it...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    My ex and I parted ways almost 6 months ago.

    I did not realize he was abusive until it was too late. I had known him since I was 14. We started dating when I was 16 by 17 I was pregnant. He was not ready to be in a committed relationship so we broke up and I proceeded to raise our daughter alone for the next 3 yrs. In 2012...
    BriDene25 BriDene25 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 15

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    when i met my ex last March,

    i honestly thought we were everything we both were looking for. now all my friends tell me the things that were red flags to them. to this day, he's still never met any of my friends or family except my mom when she helped me kick him out once. in the beginning, he liked to buy...
    burntoutstars burntoutstars 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 12

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    Not too long ago i posted about my boyfriend

    who i had been with for two years I have decided to update the story for you. I did the risky thing and told my mom what was going on. This time she believed me. She called the cops for me and he is now my ex. I managed to get a restraining order and im so much happier now. i...
    dancingkoalas dancingkoalas 22-25, F 6 days ago

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    I have a child with a man

    that constantly tells me all I am good for is sex . He doesn't have anything to do with his child because she doesn't "look like " him he resents me and pushes me away he has another child he devotes his time to he always belittles me talks to other girls at work he is so...
    decievedbylove decievedbylove 22-25, F 6 Responses Feb 18

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6, 2014

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    This for every girl that been in abusing

    relationship please y all need to leave, I been in abusing relationships for 5 year my boyfriend always yell at me and beat me up until I can breath, so two night it beat me up so bad that I end up in the hospital with oxygen, my shoulder broke and my neck. I know u maybe love...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 15

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 26 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    My last relationship involved being yelled at

    all the time, and hit. He hurt me badly by also cheating and threatening me. Since then i have moved on, I am starting to like this guy, I am just scared that he may be pretending like the last one.
    nr303 nr303 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 2

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy

    I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing.  That's how most abusive relationships are anyway. The first time he hit me was when I was driving.  We were late to an appointment and...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the relationship but please don't. Because until you have walked in that persons shoes you have no idea. I was blessed that the abuse was only...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 6 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I don't know what to do nomore,

    I been in this relationship for 3 year everyday things go worse and everything I do is not snough for him. I'm tired of crying and be depress, everything I do he always yell at me, push me, shock me, and beat the **** out me, when I complain at that Moment he said he didn't do...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 4

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    I was in an abusive relationship about 4 years

    ago. Although that was a long time ago, the flashbacks I have from it are constant. I'm terrified that one day he's going to fulfill his promise of killing me. I haven't heard from him in a decently long time, but I still won't answer restricted calls in fear that it's him. I...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 16

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 9 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    I just typed up my whole experience

    and it got removed for not being appropriate. Don't have a section, dealing with abusive relationships, if I can't tell what happened to me. It's not like I said anything bad, I just said what I did to myself, what he did in response to me wanting to leave, and what he did once...
    kelly1796 kelly1796 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13, 2014

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