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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    My relationship wasn't physically abusive,

    but mentally. He would start fights with me everyday.. Make me cry.. And then make me apologize.
    xbandgirlx xbandgirlx 13-15, F 3 Responses May 30

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    He said I had became the woman

    that he always wanted... But, when he finally got me all he did was abuse me and make me feel bad about myself... Does this make sense to anyone else? Thoughts?
    Mfudgie Mfudgie 31-35, F 14 Responses Jun 19

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    It's been about 5 years

    since I was with my ex who was emotionally and physically abusive. I still have nightmares to this day and it effects me emotionally on occasion. I keep thinking this has made him win..I have a wonderful husband whose shown me kindness and true love. Yet I still feel like as...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 3

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    I posted an experience

    but doesn't seem to come up here?
    anonback anonback 31-35, F 1 Response May 31

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for ten years all i knew were black eyes and swollen lips never wanting to wake up for you feared of what the next day would bring hide in from my family cause i was to scared to tell just dealing with all this pain by myself wishing that something or someone would come to...
    CDavis227 CDavis227 31-35, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I want to escape from the reality of having

    flashbacks on a daily basis. I want to forget that I ever knew you. Forget that I ever dated you. You were the biggest mistake I ever made, and that's saying a lot. I wish I got out of the abusive relationship I had with you sooner. I wish that I had proof in order to put your...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    It started three years ago.

    He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and harder to hide the black eyes and bruises on my body. I began to do bad in my classes, because he made me skip class to see him...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    He said he'd never hurt me.

    He said he loved me. He said I was beautiful. He said he wanted me, and me alone. I miss that man. I don't know why that person faded away, and I can't help thinking that maybe he's faded back. I just have to open the door... But I realized long ago that I have to be my own...
    SkyChevalier SkyChevalier 22-25, T 3 days ago

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    It's been about 5 years

    since I was with my ex who was extremely abusive both mentally and physically. It still effects me to this day and I'm not sure if it's somethin one ever gets over. Luckily I have a wonderful husband who has been patient in our relationship and has dealt with my uneasiness. My...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses May 27

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    Caution: the following is a rant,

    not looking for pity, prayers or advice just venting it all out. Looking back on those years I am not filled with regret. I fell in love with the wrong person at 17, that happens to everyone at some point, my mistake was not recognizing a narcissistic psychopath but getting...
    93Armand 93Armand 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 18

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 24 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I don't do this but I am reaching out

    for support right now. I am currently walking out of a 6 yr abusive relationship. 2 of those years we have been married. I have been hurt physically and emotionally and i just feel lost. I am now the single mother of 3 boys which I can handle been doing it own my own for a while...
    cpowers89 cpowers89 26-30, F 15 Responses May 22

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    simplygreen1 simplygreen1 26-30, F 6 Responses a week ago

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    I was in an abusive relationship

    for 4 years, which I managed to escape about a year ago. For a long time I was very relieved that I was out of the situation because I never thought I would be able to end it. Everyday I felt grateful that I no longer had to live feeling like I was a slave who wasn't allowed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 13

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    I was in a abusive relationship 3 half years .

    he went to jail twice put me in hospatil mental tourched me sexualy adults me and kept me as a prisoner I was a slave to his pleasure of evil justice I was slapped kicked punched strangled starved black and Blue and raped on a daily weekly basis no family friends lonely and had 2...
    xbossfemalex xbossfemalex 26-30, F 7 Responses Jun 26

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    I've never told anyone my story,

    I think it'll feel good to get it out in the open. I think people should tell their stories. It doesn't make you weak or a victim. My ex was the perfect guy, strong and had a big heart. The relationship happened fast, the way he'd talk to me was like he'd never talked to any...
    Worleybirdie Worleybirdie 22-25, F 2 Responses May 5

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    so yeah i have been in a super abusive

    relationship. more than once where i was raped 17 times, ive been hit so many times that i can't even count them and i have been kidnapped, tortured and abused by my ex bf. and i've been a victim of emotional abuse from my ex bf
    Romitri657 Romitri657 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 26

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    i have. and i never let myself,

    i fought his ***** *** back and got the **** out. seriously. kissies xoxo
    vf702 vf702 22-25, F Jun 4

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    He's been in jail for a little over a week

    and his public defender called me to say that if I wanted to show up for his hearing tomorrow, I could tell the judge what I wanted to happen. I'm upset that he's plead not guilty even though he KNOWS what he's done. I feel like withdrawing from the situation completely and...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 8 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    I don't know if it's my fault

    that everything happen to me but I my husband it's very abusing I got to the point that I left the house, he said that he like that for everything I did, but he family said that he been like that b4 he meet me in he went to jail before for beating he ex girlfriend and he sister...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 4 Responses 1 day ago

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    Abuse can manifest itself in many forms.

    It allows the 'bully' to feel superior, when he or she is so very inferior.
    Olivia1962 Olivia1962 51-55, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    it's been almost a year,

    a restraining order and a study abroad trip since ive been rid of him, but i still have nightmares about being kidnapped. this cant be normal, and i really hope this is the end.
    Moganna Moganna 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 7

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    I had no idea that my relationship would have

    been considered abusive by most people. It was mental and verbal abuse only. there were a few threats of physical violence, but he would never follow through with them. I wish someone had pointed out to me that I was being manipulated, and that it was not normal to fight every...
    Hannah2112 Hannah2112 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 2

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    2 years ago I was in a relationship with an

    abusive ******* who made me feel like **** everyday and then made me believe it was my fault for feeling like ****. Now that I've had time to reflect, I realize that he never felt the way I did about him. He was always interested in other girls and I now know he talked to many...
    Kesaroo Kesaroo 16-17, F May 28

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    So... things are looking up,

    I wrote the script and I've been getting positive feedback on the script... I wanna share this project with you guys to help spread the word.
    mandatehpanda mandatehpanda 18-21, F Jun 9

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 7 Responses May 7, 2007

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    mentally.emotionally&physically.

    This wasn't his first time, Nor was it His worst. I can't help but want him back. Why do I miss & Love him after ALL his LIES & BS. Why do I keep coming back for More? I'm only doing this to myself. "OHH he'll change This time! I know it!!" "No Nia, you are WRONG and you Know...
    LaLaNiaa LaLaNiaa 18-21, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    Ugh... multiple ones.

    The pain is unbearable. I wouldn't wish it on anyone in the world. Thank God, I'm not in that anymore or I world be dead right now. ={
    RealmRunner RealmRunner 22-25, F Jun 13

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Black widow Tears fall upon my pillow Can see

    a fade in his glow He says nothing but he knows A venomous sting a raised bow Emotions hid and then showed An open door and then closed A memory half enclosed A flame is present but wind blows Can't shake the feeling it's exposed I'm wondering if he knows I must be the black...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    My ex was very mentally abusive to me.

    he had at one point hit me and my friends and family made me break up with him. I now see that it wasn't okay but I'm still in love with the guy that he was before he showed how he really was. I am now engaged to a wonderful man. but, my ex still crosses my mind every day. he's...
    CopenhagenAngel427 CopenhagenAngel427 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 25

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    once we moved in together my girlfriend

    gradually started disagreeing with anything that I would suggest like what to cook or cook at all or eat out, have or not have sex etc. She'd just basically make sure that she overrides whatever I wanted/suggested. Eventually led to breakup!
    codenamedaddy codenamedaddy 31-35, M 1 Response 18 hrs ago

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    I will be the first to admit.

    It has been almost a year since I have been exclusive with a guy. My past doesn't define me. It certainly does have an impact on my everyday life. I am becoming more and more open about what happened.The grabbing, punching, yelling. The stalking, fearing for your life. The...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Jun 17

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    I am making a you tube video

    as an advocate for domestic violence ...more women need to hear our stories more high school girls who are letting guys beat them at 14 years old ... this violence needs to stop .. so I am asking any survivors even if your still in that situation your a SURVIVOR to come...
    finelyhappy1029 finelyhappy1029 26-30, F 3 Responses May 6

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    I know there is something about me

    that i need to change to stop making abusers think its ok to treat me that way. i want to stop finding this in a man. . . . . .anyone have sugestions?
    212panda 212panda 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 3

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    Even though it's been almost a year

    since I broke up with him, and I know everything he did to me was terrible and that he's a terrible person, I still miss him all the time
    sarahspop sarahspop 18-21, F 4 Responses May 28

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 25 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    even after cutting off all contact,

    it still feels so painful. has anyone experienced this and would be willing to talk about it? its almost like PTSD
    butterfly4444 butterfly4444 22-25, F 9 Responses 1 day ago

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