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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    Last year the last day of school.

    .. It was really intense because we knew things would change from there No more would we see each other often because he was graduating and I would go to the 9th grade.... Yeah he was leaving I was entering We had to go to the school just that day to pick up our report cards so...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 8, 2014

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Today I was reminded of how completely trapped

    I used to feel; but how I didn't realize just how trapped I felt until I was out. Today, a rather new friend and I were watching a news story on the Ray Rice incident, and how an ESPN anchor got suspended over calling the commissioner a liar. She then began to tell me about...
    lovelyss lovelyss 22-25, F Sep 25, 2014

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 12 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Black widow Tears fall upon my pillow Can see

    a fade in his glow He says nothing but he knows A venomous sting a raised bow Emotions hid and then showed An open door and then closed A memory half enclosed A flame is present but wind blows Can't shake the feeling it's exposed I'm wondering if he knows I must be the black...
    wingedjaguar wingedjaguar 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    The man I love is abusive

    and I have been with him for about a year now see he is a alcoholic abusive guy but he is 36 I am 21 almost 22 I am also paralyzed and have epilepsy but he understands but when he drinks he hits and gets verbally and physically abusive I recently left but I want to go back in a...
    kmccrady12653 kmccrady12653 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 27

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    ericandchris ericandchris 36-40, M 1 Response Mar 23

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 24 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for a year,Its crazy how much I've been through and its sad to say I've never hate someone so much on my life,he humiliated me in from if his family..black eyes busted lips knot big as golf ball,but I had to leave and I did once my son age 3 lip gotten busted real bad and...
    lovesocrazy lovesocrazy 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 25

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    A man can love someone

    who they put they hand and kick her out the house at anytime at night time?
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 30

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    There were several "red flags".

    I was young and naive. He was selfish, insecure, controlling, with a little ******. He beat me black and blue. For 6 yrs I put up with it. I know u r asking why did I stay with my abuser for 7yrs and give him 3 children. Fear, and I thought I could change him. I thought beneath...
    yummytummy610 yummytummy610 41-45, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    Caution: the following is a rant,

    not looking for pity, prayers or advice just venting it all out. Looking back on those years I am not filled with regret. I fell in love with the wrong person at 17, that happens to everyone at some point, my mistake was not recognizing a narcissistic psychopath but getting...
    Lestat93 Lestat93 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally

    and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new relationship, and the guy for the most part has been amazing. But today I noticed some behavioral tendencies that were the same as my ex...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    Anick711 Anick711 31-35, F Apr 10

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    I worked as a long haultruck driver

    for one year. my ex was my Co driver and teacher. I was reduced to doing his paper work while he made thousands I made pennies. we would stop at various points along the way and the keys were taken away I was to perform sexual acts in order for us to continue. I was not allowed...
    alexburk18 alexburk18 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    xosecretidentityxo xosecretidentityxo 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    My country cared. But is removing proof.

    Harrys law help. http://youtu.be/-5Tw3Q3wQbs http://youtu.be/tNilDRiEUnQ
    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Apr 8

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    I never fought back like

    that before... I'm not going to get into details or say or explain anything I don't want to revisit this one... I want to let it out but He tried to force me to do something I didn't want to do I nearly vomited He got mad and hit me I started hitting him and throwing my fist and...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend...

    I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so in love and so sure I could never feel the same way again with anyone else. I stayed two years. I will never be the same person. I...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    I left my recent girlfriend

    for another woman. She ( my ex )was constantly "pestering and checking my phone". Being obsessive over me getting home 5-10 minutes late from work from time to time. Who ended up saying I did not spend enough time with her when I ended up calling off occasions with family...
    PowerExtreme PowerExtreme 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 9 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    It started three years ago.

    He was perfect, the sweetest. Then came our two year anniversary and downhill our relationship went. He hit me every chance he got, it got harder and harder to hide the black eyes and bruises on my body. I began to do bad in my classes, because he made me skip class to see him...
    ImperialGoddess76 ImperialGoddess76 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 1

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    how to cope with the feelings of abuse?

    does anyone know. ...I still see flashes of it and now I feel not like myself. like I have to hide and be someone I'm not.any advise?
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 21

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 24 Responses Jun 25, 2014

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    I have terrible flashbacks still from the abuse.

    They're back to coming on nearly a daily basis. The nights they don't come are the nights of the nightmares instead. The nightmares aren't as bad though because I'll usually forget them by the morning, but the flashbacks stay in my head.. I'm so sick of this. If only I hadn't...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    Today today I found a p**** CD in my closet

    when I asked my boyfriend what is this he said it's the neighbors. I don't know what's worse that he thinks I am an idiot or that I will believe him. I asked him while I was crying what is wrong with me, he said he don't know what I'm talking about. I just had a tummy tuck so...
    scruz444 scruz444 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    We Came from the park

    and went to the nearby mc Donald We brought nothing we just sat down I had my phone on the table and laid my head on his arms My phone vibrated and I could see him looking to see who it was My friends were group messaging I saw other people looking at us I think they could...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 41 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 7 Responses May 7, 2007

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    Hi, this is my first time here so,

    here goes nothing.......... I met my current boyfriend while working in another state, I never thought that I could actually find someone as perfect (in my eyes) as him. We are both passionate and love our careers, when we just started talking none of us though we would be...
    Silo6 Silo6 26-30, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    My friend thinks her son is being abused at her

    cousins house. They lives with them and had no where else to go. She says her son tells her things and that he starts to acts like a baby and cry at random times & really strange around certain cousins and aunts .. It SCAREs Her bc she has like no one except for me that she can...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 23

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    Everything seemed happy

    and fine at first. We seemed like a great couple and everyone was happy for us. We really didn't have any problems until she started verbally assaulting me and putting me down. I would tell her to stop and she would call me things like worthless or pathetic. Then, the next day...
    SamanthaJC SamanthaJC 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    The Most Pain He Ever Caused me.

    ... This was after school We got into a big argument after last period We went to the stair case where there were a couple, but they left afterwards and we went in and just sat on the stair case... I said something really stupid to him I don't think anyone in any relationship...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    So after 3 hours of text fighting with my 'soon

    to be ex' he finally agreed to move out AGAIN and this time for good by the end of May. I honestly don't know why I let him back in last Oct cause I have been on eggshells ever since. In the 10 years I have lived in this house, last night was the first time I slept with my...
    thelionsden13 thelionsden13 41-45, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 10 Responses Sep 24, 2014

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    I still have flashbacks every

    once in awhile, and have nightmares. I'm just so sick of people treating me like I'm fragile, because I'm not. I got out of the abusive relationship, and I think that makes me strong. I'm a survivor, & no longer the fragile 18 year old I was while in the relationship.
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    well I have Bern in Ann abusive relationship

    for about6 yrs. Although it is mostly verbal. I never would have Boehm with someone like that for long before. Somewhere along the watt I lost my confidence,self esteem,songs also self respect. I freely like I was stitch before,that I needed him. Babbitt now I have my own house...
    giggles1469 giggles1469 46-50, F 1 Response Mar 27

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