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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    Just found out my abusive ex is dating someone

    else . I tried to warn her but she could hardly believe me because of how charming and shy he is right now . I tried explaining it's an act. I am kind of upset picturing him with someone else , but also scared for her , and relieved in a way that I can finally move on. I'm...
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 18

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 8 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    Does someone evr make u

    so upset tht u cnt even eat? N tht u dread evry txt u get from them bc uk its just gonna make u even more upset? The fact tht u cnt even think straight bc u r worried about wat they r thinking
    kyleigh188 kyleigh188 18-21, F 9 Responses Oct 6

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    Demo90 Demo90 26-30, M 1 Response Oct 6

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 9 Responses Sep 24

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    I feel the same, I try to explain to ppl my

    situation and they just get frustrated and don't wNt to hear about the "upset" friend. there is no way out for me. I am stuck with a sexless/loveless marriage with someone who abuses me everyday. I Connor leave as he has manipulated my life intertwined into his, work and...
    Bellalight Bellalight 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 5

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 8 Responses May 7, 2007

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    I am still in an abusive relationship.

    My husband says to me that he has been torn apart every weekend because every weekend of his has been ruined. (Weekends where he screams at me, insults me, etc). He says it would not happen if I wasn't here. I see that as him blaming me for his abusive behavior. It hurts so...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 9 Responses Jul 20

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    Maybe my story can give hope to someone else.

    I was in a relationship with this handsome, smart, funny guy. Then one day that guy changed. Maybe not one day, maybe one week, or one year, I don't know, or maybe he was always the jerk he became I just didn't know it or see it because he hid it well. Well he started being...
    SamanthaSweet SamanthaSweet 22-25, F 9 Responses Jul 8

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    xosecretidentityxo xosecretidentityxo 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5

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    He would hit me and put bruises all over me.

    ....they hurt.....bad......
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 30

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    I am currently dating the nicest guy ever,

    but I'm already over it and it's only been a couple weeks. I miss my "abusive" boyfriend. Am I messed up?
    leaom22 leaom22 22-25, F 9 Responses a week ago

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    My EX choked me against a wall,

    threw me on a pool table, and pushed me around because I wouldn't have sex with him, because he had been having sex with my (EX) best friend. Needless to say, that was the LAST time I saw him.
    PinkBalloon1 PinkBalloon1 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 26

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    the 2 songs that helped me escape: facedown by

    red jumpsuit apparatus AND stupid boy by keith urban. i hope they help some of you...get kleenex before listening to these...
    MoragaroM MoragaroM 31-35, F Oct 8

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy

    I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing.  That's how most abusive relationships are anyway. The first time he hit me was when I was driving.  We were late to an appointment and...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 13 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Walking On Eggshells

    When I was in my late teens to my early tweenties I dated this guy for a few years on and off. Needless to say from the groups title, the relationship was rocky. In the beginning he was very charming. When he would talk it was as if I was the only person in the room. We were...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    The trauma of abuse is never fully gone from a

    person's consciousness. Its filthy stain leaves its residue on the soul forever. However, like all bad experiences, it is possible to turn this experience into good by developing compassion and empathy for others who have been through this experience. Many people feel that...
    Cpaz33 Cpaz33 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 24

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I miss my ex even though he was a total

    *******. He choked me and kicked me and threw me and slapped me. But I miss him. I'm going crazy without him. What the hell is going on?!! Aaaaah I'm going crazy
    amtired amtired 22-25 4 Responses Sep 14

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    We all have scars, I'm nothing special.

    I neither need help nor support. I don't ask for pity or advice. I understand the pain in your eyes before I see your bruises. I have been used as an ashtray, a séx toy, a punch bag. The scars are on the outside for all to see. But hear this; those of us that have been...
    JaneBloodyAusten JaneBloodyAusten 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 28

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    It started out fun at first,

    but then he started being really controlling. He wanted to know where I was all the time and began abusing me verbally. A few months later, it became physical. I'd always promised myself that I wouldn't get in that situation, but I stayed for almost a year. Finally, with the...
    MadameAG MadameAG 16-17, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I was in a relationship with a narcissist women!

    I thought she loved me but only in the end laughed at me when she told me she slept with another man. she ditch me about 60 times over the 2 years, made me buy her a 3 grand wedding ring, called my child an ugly brat and wished us all dead, she would hit me abuse me with words...
    stringer97 stringer97 26-30, M 3 Responses Sep 24

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    Today I was reminded of how completely trapped

    I used to feel; but how I didn't realize just how trapped I felt until I was out. Today, a rather new friend and I were watching a news story on the Ray Rice incident, and how an ESPN anchor got suspended over calling the commissioner a liar. She then began to tell me about...
    lovelyss lovelyss 22-25, F Sep 25

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    So I left my ex. He was

    so mean. But why am I missing him? He choked me.. Slapped me.. Threw me... Kicked me..Made me watch inhumane footage of people getting murdered.. He is messed up. He'd send me pictures of grotesque things.. He wanted to have a baby with me :/ he's insane. So why am I...
    amtired amtired 22-25 4 Responses Sep 25

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    I have read some stories on here under this

    experience. I tend to find that 100% of them are pretty much the same, the only difference is it's two different people. I was once myself in an abusive relationship, lasted for 2 years until I decided enough was enough. It was finally having a friend that respected me that...
    Gemz2411 Gemz2411 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    Worthless

    I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. Me and Jacob had been together for 5 years but it wasnt until the third year that he beat me. He had a temper and he had hit me a few times... but it was nothing compared to when he beat me. He has put me in the hospital 7 times. He...
    sucknswallow sucknswallow 22-25, F 17 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    Yesterday while at work a friend came in

    for lunch. He sat at the counter We exchanged hellos and while taking his order in walks my ex. i could instantly feel my nerves kick into high gear. As i realized i have no choice but to face the man that instills more fear into me then the devil himself. My friend noticed and...
    sinistergirl sinistergirl 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 26 Responses Jun 25

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    I need to fix myself

    but idon't know how. I am attracted to mean people, violent people, controlling people;especially men. I see this pattern in my friendships too. I let people push me around and degrade me( moreso men) and i accept it, justify, or worse, i like it. I know this is wrong but I can...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 12

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    My relationship wasn't like other relationships.

    Even the abusive ones. My ex never hit me, but I have realized that he was abusive all the same. He would call me names, or told me I was wrong every time I disagreed with him. He would leave for hours or days at a time without calling or texting me back, then tell me I was...
    prettykitty0722 prettykitty0722 18-21, F 4 Responses Sep 25

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    This is my first time on this website.

    Everytime I have a night like this, I search for someway to express my feelings. The subject is that I have been in an abusive relationship, but the truth is that I am currently in an abusive relationship. Honestly, I don't know how I still have tears left to cry. How can I love...
    sfm21 sfm21 22-25, F 6 Responses Oct 11

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    I am a man that has been in an abusive

    relationship. My ex girlfriend was, in many ways, not a nice person. For whatever reason, I have always been a little timid, non-confrontational, however you like to describe it. She was verbally abusive, emotionally manipulative, generally unstable and even sometimes physically...
    MisterE12 MisterE12 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I just typed up my whole experience

    and it got removed for not being appropriate. Don't have a section, dealing with abusive relationships, if I can't tell what happened to me. It's not like I said anything bad, I just said what I did to myself, what he did in response to me wanting to leave, and what he did once...
    kelly1796 kelly1796 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 7

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    I left him and i cried my heart out.

    He messaged me past midnight for 3 days to ask if we could go have dinner as "friends" just before i left Europe because he would feel bad about not having said a proper goodbye. Im so angry, he took NO responsibility or care for bringing a girl half way across the world, he...
    Cookielover5752 Cookielover5752 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 13

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    Sitting alone under the night sky

    so black, Nobody knows what she's holding back, Pulling her sleeves past the black and blue, Once these bruises fade they'll come back anew. Looking up at the stars so high, Sometimes she wishes she could melt into the sky, Out of her eye drops a single tear, As she realizes...
    Cpaz33 Cpaz33 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 24

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    I have been out of my abusive relationship

    for many years about 7 years now and it is still something that haunts me. I don’t really have an outlet to talk about it and try and get over it. My parents don’t want to hear about it and frankly I don’t want to discuss it with them. That is a hard conversation. I have...
    Ruger1212 Ruger1212 31-35, F Oct 1

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    Makes me sick knowing

    that such a deranged jealous paranoid abusive ******* is now a dad. I'll pray for his girlfriend and that baby. I hope it's at least changed him and made him a better person for the child's sake
    monstahmash monstahmash 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 15

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend...

    I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so in love and so sure I could never feel the same way again with anyone else. I stayed two years. I will never be the same person. I...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-18, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 12 Responses Jul 10

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    Bruises hurt....really.

    .........badly.....😢😣
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 1

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships.

    You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I became pregnant and chose to marry.  At that time we were both clean & sober.  On the night my child was born my...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    im starting to feel uncomfortable

    but yes it was a 2 year abusive relationship
    maddisonn maddisonn 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 2

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    After being separated

    for 4 and a half months, 10 months of counseling, a supportive family, and a new man who loves me unconditionally: I still catch myself feeling guilt. The years of being controlled, blamed, and made to feel unworthy don't vanish. Just because I know, intellectually, that I didn...
    NCheartinNY NCheartinNY 36-40, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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