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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    Worthless

    I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. Me and Jacob had been together for 5 years but it wasnt until the third year that he beat me. He had a temper and he had hit me a few times... but it was nothing compared to when he beat me. He has put me in the hospital 7 times. He...
    sucknswallow sucknswallow 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    http://m.wikihow.com/Spot-a-Sociopath This is

    insanely spot on to a guy I dated who verbally and physically abused me and who would lie and cheat. I did all the wrong things during that relationship because I am a naturally emotional person and allowed him to get to me! Worst combination of he and I.
    alexncohen alexncohen 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 13

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    I grew up with abuse.

    it was always around me of every kind. I swore to myself that when I grew up I'd never let me and children live the type of life my mother and I had lived, but i guess that was just a wish of a little girl. my husband is wonderful. He truly is. I live him with all of my heart...
    openlycurious openlycurious 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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    It was really bad.he would hit me

    and leave Painful bruises...I can still feel them
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    I date women. Mom was a single mother.

    She dated, a lot. Has childhood matters of her own. I never grew up around a man that didnt drink, scream, hit, beat, do drugs, and im certain my bisexuality is a result of it. BUT women can be abusive too!! She is recently divorced, was a housewife who suffers from Anger, ADD...
    ScaredButterfly75 ScaredButterfly75 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 14

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30

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    I just typed up my whole experience

    and it got removed for not being appropriate. Don't have a section, dealing with abusive relationships, if I can't tell what happened to me. It's not like I said anything bad, I just said what I did to myself, what he did in response to me wanting to leave, and what he did once...
    kelly1796 kelly1796 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 13

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    I got an injunction on my ex yesterday.

    They served it yesterday afternoon. It's a relief I won't suffer any more of his texts or have him following me or coming to the house which he's done in the past. I also feel I am suppressing emotions to do with this. There is great excitement there at being rid of him but due...
    paliglass paliglass 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 13

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    It was bad...he would hit me

    and force me to do things I didn't want to do..the bruises were very painful....
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 24

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    Wow there is so much I want to say

    because this is the first time I'm saying anything about what has happened to me and how I really feel. I'll start at the beginning I met a guy who I considered as the man of my dreams. He made me feel special and loved and I thought I was in a fairy tale. As we got closer and...
    blondebroken blondebroken 22-25, F 5 Responses Dec 10

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    Wow, so, I'm always that guy

    who tends to get girls who are "out of his league" not trying to be egotistical it's just what I'm told. I'm learning that it doesn't take these girls long to realize they are too and it always ends up hurting sooo bad. I just want a relationship with a girl I can be friends...
    Lostradamus Lostradamus 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 7

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy

    I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing.  That's how most abusive relationships are anyway. The first time he hit me was when I was driving.  We were late to an appointment and...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    How can you witness a woman get hit by a man

    and then tell her to shutup when she starts screaming & crying?
    neelyon neelyon 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the relationship but please don't. Because until you have walked in that persons shoes you have no idea. I was blessed that the abuse was only...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 5 Responses 3 days ago

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jul 10

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    I was in a verbally abuse relationship

    for almist 6 year just got out of it a few months ago and moved a way we have two kids together I still feel controlled by him and let him make the calls. I have scars and a lot of problems cause of all the abuse
    mt2015 mt2015 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 13

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    My baby is 3 weeks old,

    I left her father 2 weeks ago because he was getting more and more controlling. I was scared. Now I've gone, it's like he doesn't even care about me or my baby. I organised him to see her Tuesday but he won't come because he doesn't want to be "uncomfortable" with my mother...
    jazvdb jazvdb 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    Today I was reminded of how completely trapped

    I used to feel; but how I didn't realize just how trapped I felt until I was out. Today, a rather new friend and I were watching a news story on the Ray Rice incident, and how an ESPN anchor got suspended over calling the commissioner a liar. She then began to tell me about...
    lovelyss lovelyss 22-25, F Sep 25

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    Talking may help. I keep wanting to seek

    counseling but something is holding me back. My ex husband was a binge drinker and was cold and emotionally abusive and with held affection or even basic acknowledgement if I didn't accommodate everything he wanted while drunk. Eventually found out he had an affair for months...
    Messybutbeautiful Messybutbeautiful 31-35 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive...

    I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know better now. To anyone new that he met he would come accross as the most charming funny outgoing individual you could meet. Behind closed...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 9 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20

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    Is someone available to talk?

    Can't sleep. Night terrors of abuse.. :'(
    amtired amtired 22-25 1 Response Dec 3

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    ~20 Years Later~ . So,

    that guy I dated when I was 16-17 yrs old and again when I was about 20-23 yrs old (cause I thought he might had changed during that time but didn’t), apparently has not changed much 20 years later either. In some ways perhaps but his attitude is very interesting to me – 20...
    OlivePhire OlivePhire 36-40, F 2 Responses Nov 20

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I just went through the divorce.

    It was awful. The judge did see past the lies I think. It was just so hard to hear people that I used to think were my friends his family standing up there beside him, and having no one standing beside me. I did have pictures of the physical abuse up until he had found out and...
    Cheetah2210 Cheetah2210 26-30, F 10 Responses Nov 14

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Maybe my story can give hope to someone else.

    I was in a relationship with this handsome, smart, funny guy. Then one day that guy changed. Maybe not one day, maybe one week, or one year, I don't know, or maybe he was always the jerk he became I just didn't know it or see it because he hid it well. Well he started being...
    SamanthaSweet SamanthaSweet 22-25, F 8 Responses Jul 8

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    We get married for almost 3 years

    and after wed my MIL and SIL lives with us. They dont even contribute any penny for either bills, foods, grocery... almost nothing. We both feed them and serve them. My in laws consider me as a slave. I'm only allowed to cook what they like and by the way they want. They use...
    jacquelinepham jacquelinepham 26-30, F 1 Response Nov 11

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    I am not strong enuff to end this relatioship.

    I married the guy who claimed to love me a lot ,and I thought this is all I would need to stay happy .I was 22 and he was 30 , but. soon after our marriage I realized he did not care for me and my emotions .he was abusive irresponsible and dishonest but I had conceived and was...
    knowinglystupid knowinglystupid 36-40, F 3 days ago

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    My first boyfriend ever ruined me.

    We dated for 2 years and we lived a pretty good distance away but always saw each other and at one point I was staying with him. First, he was too good to be true. Sweet, loving, caring, spoiled me rotten, brought me any and everything, took me out, traveled constantly, dealt...
    cokimsta cokimsta 22-25, F Nov 12

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    im not sharing my story

    for pity. im sharing it because I want people to kno if I can hanle it anyone can. I was in an abusive relationship when I was 14. I got two concussions and was repeatedly hit and punched in the face. I was also raped by him. I don't let it effect to much in my life now. im not...
    lilmisssme lilmisssme 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 4

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    Last year I met this guy,

    who I fell in love with two months into "talking." We worked together. He would talk to me during work hours but after I wouldn't receive a cal or text. And if I ever did, it was late night at 12 (he worked over night as well) or if he wanted me to come over for a movie night...
    TVel94 TVel94 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    Ages 16-19 I was in an emotionally

    and physically abusive relationship. While I've grown past and become a stronger person, I'm really struggling with dating now. I'm in a new relationship, and the guy for the most part has been amazing. But today I noticed some behavioral tendencies that were the same as my ex...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Nov 2

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    Actually just got out of one last night.

    . Pretty proud of myself, he's been blowing up my phone & I haven't been giving him the time of day, now all I gotta do is have these bruises cleared up & he's memory will be completely gone.
    aaaxaaa aaaxaaa 18-21, F 27 Responses Jun 25

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    Never again. I have been used

    and abused in several ways by several men. I knew what I was getting into but never did anything about it. I like it rough in bed, but as for the rest of the relationship, I will have the respect I deserve.
    L0N3LYM0TH3R L0N3LYM0TH3R 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    it took everything i had to leave,

    i couldn't tell anyone he hit me.though im sure people knew. i left the only way i knew how. and that was to fly across the country where i knew he couldn't reach me, without telling anyone.
    christajean christajean 22-25, F 4 Responses Nov 11

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    Hello, I am a 21 year old girl

    who can proudly say that one year and 7 days ago I made the decisions to finally be strong and leave my abusive boyfriend. This is not the easiest thing for me to do, I have never really opened up to anyone about it because I thought once it was done and he was cut out of my...
    brittany122 brittany122 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 6

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend...

    I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so in love and so sure I could never feel the same way again with anyone else. I stayed two years. I will never be the same person. I...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-18, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    Holding On

    Why do I keep holding oneven though I know it will never beWhy do I keep holding onwhen what we have is killing meWhy do I keep holding onwishing the dream were still aliveWhy do I keep holding onrealizing our love will never surviveWhy do I keep holding onto the feeling I have...
    texastomboy texastomboy 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    I'm so screwed up he has me believing I enjoy

    the pain or being scared. his aggression comes with drinking and usually linked to sex. he "punishes" me during sex or forces me to do something I dont want. he then says it's not abuse or rape bc I tolerate it. I'm just terrified to resist , I just pretend it's not what it is...
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 3 Responses Dec 7

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    My husband is a bully.

    The worst bully I've ever had. It's gotten so bad that he has pushed me to attack him twice,which makes me the abuser.....he loves it. I hate myself,i hate him and I'm so scared that I'll never have anything diferant.
    HearMeRoarrr HearMeRoarrr 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 12

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    A long time ago I was married to an abusive man.

    When we first met he would throw his jacket over a puddle so I didn't have to walk in muddy water. He focused on my every need. We married 9 months after meeting. The abuse started as soon as the wedding was completed. He didn't even come home for 3 days after the wedding...
    yooper01 yooper01 56-60, F 6 Responses Nov 8

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    We all have scars, I'm nothing special.

    I neither need help nor support. I don't ask for pity or advice. I understand the pain in your eyes before I see your bruises. I have been used as an ashtray, a séx toy, a punch bag. The scars are on the outside for all to see. But hear this; those of us that have been...
    JaneBloodyAusten JaneBloodyAusten 31-35, F 6 Responses Jul 28

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    my ex husband is still making my life miserable.

    now he is using our 14year old son against me. he is vicious and cruel. he tells me how fat and ugly i am. i am on disability and he takes my money and eats all my food. police just here. i dont know what to do.
    melkrell2575 melkrell2575 36-40, F 4 Responses Dec 8

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    I was with him for 6 months.

    That's all the time it took for him to completely break down my walls and destroy me. I've always thought of myself as a strong person, but I guess when it came to him I was so weak. Powerless. He beat the strength out of me. Kicked me into submission. I guess it's my own fault...
    NoF7cksSeven NoF7cksSeven 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 29

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    My ex used to yell at me

    and accuse me of infidelity. I really was faithful to the jerk. Then he started to hit me one day. I called the police. That is when he left me. That night I found a new guy and started sleeping around (a lot), by weeks end I had slept with four guys, Then the breakup of...
    BarbarBabcox BarbarBabcox 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 24

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