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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy

    I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing.  That's how most abusive relationships are anyway. The first time he hit me was when I was driving.  We were late to an appointment and...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    has any woman here testified against her abuser?

    I may have to and I'm scared ill fall apart or mess up
    justinsneedow justinsneedow 41-45, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    I know this is bad to say

    but i want to be honest. I get so upset at my girlfriend that i hit her, slap her at times push her around. Not saying its right and i am trying to be good. Love to talk a guy that been there or anyone that will not judge me. I am 17
    RealManMark RealManMark 16-17, M 3 Responses Mar 9

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    I met my ex-husband at the age of 17.

    I never saw the red flags, mainly because I endured abuse growing up. I thought it was pretty normal when he got jealous of my friends, mad when he thought I did something wrong, and even ok when he broke things around the house. But with time, like every abusive relationship...
    lexy82 lexy82 31-35, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    i have been with my abusive husband

    for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this, that there is always a way to get out, it is scary but there is hope. For a long time he was so charming and he wanted to see me...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Everyone kept telling me

    that I was so lucky to be with such a lovely guy and that he was so gentle and so nice. "Wow you're so lucky your first boyfriend is so nice" . I don't know why I didn't say it sooner . That he wasn't all he appeared to be. My whole family loved him. I know it's been over for...
    xosecretidentityxo xosecretidentityxo 16-17, F 5 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    i am still married to him.

    .almost 4 years now... he look like a normal guy u see with quite a stable job and love his son. but he hit me. he kick punch me and he never regret doing it...he even call me names... he even hv problems with his sexual needs. he never touch me for almost 3 years now...last...
    belladross belladross 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 3

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    Last year the last day of school.

    .. It was really intense because we knew things would change from there No more would we see each other often because he was graduating and I would go to the 9th grade.... Yeah he was leaving I was entering We had to go to the school just that day to pick up our report cards so...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    The man I love is abusive

    and I have been with him for about a year now see he is a alcoholic abusive guy but he is 36 I am 21 almost 22 I am also paralyzed and have epilepsy but he understands but when he drinks he hits and gets verbally and physically abusive I recently left but I want to go back in a...
    kmccrady12653 kmccrady12653 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I never fought back like

    that before... I'm not going to get into details or say or explain anything I don't want to revisit this one... I want to let it out but He tried to force me to do something I didn't want to do I nearly vomited He got mad and hit me I started hitting him and throwing my fist and...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 18

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    We were at school in the stair case talk to one

    of my friends. It was weird because my friend bright up if we are having relationship problems just talk to him. We didn't say anything but we kept talking. My friend left and it was just us He said to me why did he say that am I telling people our business and I told him no I...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F Mar 15

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    The Most Pain He Ever Caused me.

    ... This was after school We got into a big argument after last period We went to the stair case where there were a couple, but they left afterwards and we went in and just sat on the stair case... I said something really stupid to him I don't think anyone in any relationship...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 16

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    Hey, I was in an abusive relationship

    for 5 years and ill tell you my story. I have two children with this man they are still very young. He physically abused me basically everyday, he destroyed every house we lived him he spoke to me like I was dirt and made me think that I was nothing. Took all my food money off...
    maddzt maddzt 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 1

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    It's been about a year

    since we split. About seven months since he shipped out into the military. About four months since I started therapy and about thirty minutes since I had a panic attack due to my PTSD. My first one in two and a half months. I'm not sure if I will ever recover from it but I know...
    stargirl498 stargirl498 16-17, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend...

    I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so in love and so sure I could never feel the same way again with anyone else. I stayed two years. I will never be the same person. I...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-17, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    This one was at my house.

    ... He never came into the house and neither did I go in his house. But we stayed in the halls. I was sitting on him kissing talking. It was really good really peaceful and affectionate and no issues nothing. No problems it was just good. We argued for a months straight of March...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    I'm still with my abuser.

    Some of the things he's done to me caused me to have nightmares. I love him dearly and even though I know he is poisonous to my life I can't leave. Iv given him everything a person can give to another I'm currently pregnant with his first child. He still treats me like...
    Stiggyb Stiggyb 26-30, F 10 Responses Jul 20, 2014

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    My friend thinks her son is being abused at her

    cousins house. They lives with them and had no where else to go. She says her son tells her things and that he starts to acts like a baby and cry at random times & really strange around certain cousins and aunts .. It SCAREs Her bc she has like no one except for me that she can...
    stuckNWEbbz stuckNWEbbz 26-30, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Hey guys I just thought I'd tell my story in

    the hope that I can inspire other people to get out of abusive relationships. It all started about 16 years ago when in school I met a girl, the second I layed eyes on her I fell head over heels in love with her. For 18 months we happily got together and all was well in my world...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 6, 2014

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    Worthless

    I was in an abusive relationship for 3 years. Me and Jacob had been together for 5 years but it wasnt until the third year that he beat me. He had a temper and he had hit me a few times... but it was nothing compared to when he beat me. He has put me in the hospital 7 times. He...
    sucknswallow sucknswallow 22-25, F 16 Responses Mar 23, 2012

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    A man can love someone

    who they put they hand and kick her out the house at anytime at night time?
    tweetyreck tweetyreck 22-25, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me

    Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he was my way out of the life i had. Things were good until u got pregnant. After my dayghter was born was when my life became hell. It...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 42 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    Ugly

    I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him. In truth, I suppose it was an exit strategy from my dysfunctional home. Pat* was 11 years my senior. Of...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 14 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Can It Get Any Worse?

    Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I was 15 years old. I dont regret that what so ever, he is the love and pride and joy of my life!! Hes gonna be 15 this...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 8 Responses May 7, 2007

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    how to cope with the feelings of abuse?

    does anyone know. ...I still see flashes of it and now I feel not like myself. like I have to hide and be someone I'm not.any advise?
    pandaangel pandaangel 26-30, F 5 Responses Mar 21

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    I still have flashbacks every

    once in awhile, and have nightmares. I'm just so sick of people treating me like I'm fragile, because I'm not. I got out of the abusive relationship, and I think that makes me strong. I'm a survivor, & no longer the fragile 18 year old I was while in the relationship.
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart 22-25, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    He had always made me happy,

    I remember when we first met - I was one of those who believed in love at first sight. After dating for six months he started to become very aggressive towards me and I always believed it was my fault. Then one night I came home from work and he called me saying he had a few...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Sep 11, 2014

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    We Came from the park

    and went to the nearby mc Donald We brought nothing we just sat down I had my phone on the table and laid my head on his arms My phone vibrated and I could see him looking to see who it was My friends were group messaging I saw other people looking at us I think they could...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I was with a man for 10 years (married

    for 7), who was verbally and emotionally abusive. I loved him so much and would've done anything for him, so I put up with it. I also suffer from depression and I think because of it and my low self-esteem, I just put up with it. The good times were so good for me that I put up...
    orangesky275 orangesky275 36-40, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Holding On

    Why do I keep holding oneven though I know it will never beWhy do I keep holding onwhen what we have is killing meWhy do I keep holding onwishing the dream were still aliveWhy do I keep holding onrealizing our love will never surviveWhy do I keep holding onto the feeling I have...
    texastomboy texastomboy 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    I worked as a long haultruck driver

    for one year. my ex was my Co driver and teacher. I was reduced to doing his paper work while he made thousands I made pennies. we would stop at various points along the way and the keys were taken away I was to perform sexual acts in order for us to continue. I was not allowed...
    alexburk18 alexburk18 26-30, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Young Love... Not

    When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why I was so attracted to him is because I was so much like him. Minus the ridiculously beautiful part of course. So long...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 9 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I left my recent girlfriend

    for another woman. She ( my ex )was constantly "pestering and checking my phone". Being obsessive over me getting home 5-10 minutes late from work from time to time. Who ended up saying I did not spend enough time with her when I ended up calling off occasions with family...
    PowerExtreme PowerExtreme 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 17

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    Not too long ago i posted about my boyfriend

    who i had been with for two years I have decided to update the story for you. I did the risky thing and told my mom what was going on. This time she believed me. She called the cops for me and he is now my ex. I managed to get a restraining order and im so much happier now. i...
    dancingkoalas dancingkoalas 22-25, F Feb 24

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    I was in a abusive relationship

    for a year,Its crazy how much I've been through and its sad to say I've never hate someone so much on my life,he humiliated me in from if his family..black eyes busted lips knot big as golf ball,but I had to leave and I did once my son age 3 lip gotten busted real bad and...
    lovesocrazy lovesocrazy 22-25, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    After this Day our Relationship went rock

    bottom I threatened him, I told him something about ruining his life I really blocked that memory, but I remember he was mad and said so now I'm threatening him He acted like he never threaten me before... He does things and when I do it he gets mad and acts like an such s...
    LeahLovee LeahLovee 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    Why are men like it? You sleep with them

    and they think they own you! What was more, he was older than me, by ten years! I'm sure a seventeen years old woman is more mature then some, maybe most, twenty seven years old men!
    Paca24 Paca24 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    ericandchris ericandchris 36-40, M 1 Response a week ago

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    well I have Bern in Ann abusive relationship

    for about6 yrs. Although it is mostly verbal. I never would have Boehm with someone like that for long before. Somewhere along the watt I lost my confidence,self esteem,songs also self respect. I freely like I was stitch before,that I needed him. Babbitt now I have my own house...
    giggles1469 giggles1469 46-50, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I really don't want to talk too much about it

    but I married a controlling psychopath. He changed as soon as we were married and went on a spiral of abuse and menial torture. He was a drunk and would vanish for a day returning to take out his anger o me. I was raped, humiliated, degraded and beaten. The cycle of abuse...
    deleted deleted 26-30 10 Responses Jul 10, 2014

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    I Have Been In Several Abusive Relationships.

    I came from an abusive family so when I became an adult I didn't know any different. I have been in abusive relationships or marriages over the past years. I want to tell a story about one abusive marriage I was in: I was pretty much to the point were I couldn't take it anymore...
    butterfly628 butterfly628 51-55, F 3 Responses Feb 12, 2011

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    Surreal

    I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his hands on me. He had ran through all his usual insults. Fat, ugly , disgusting, imperfect, lazy, and whatever...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 12 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    I was in an abusive relationship.

    Actually I wAs in 2. People who have never lived through that have no idea the damage it does. People judge because a person stays in the relationship but please don't. Because until you have walked in that persons shoes you have no idea. I was blessed that the abuse was only...
    sml4 sml4 46-50, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2014

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    I love the fact that

    after I liked this topic, my ex made a post about how he never abused me.. Sweetheart, this definitely wasn't about you, you weren't my first boyfriend. But hey, if you want to assume things, then I can assume that you actually were mentally abusive. Sooo. Maybe in some facets...
    LanniLette LanniLette 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 4

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    Insecurities

      i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with a girl and for the first 6 months we had the best time.. i love to laugh and make jokes and tell funny stories of...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 24 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    I hate relationships.

    They ruin everything I've worked for, lived for, loved for. All the relationship choices I've made, all the boyfriends I've chose, have shown me nothing but hate. I want love, not hate. Cuddles, not hits. Laughs, not tears. Friendship, not lust. A boyfriend, not a monster
    jaydamarie jaydamarie 13-15, F Mar 7

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