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I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I was in an abusive relationship and as awful as it was it's not the bruises and broken ribs which have caused the most pain and lasted the longest. It's the fact I don't trust my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Apr 3

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    I'm still disgusted with myself for letting you touch me. Some nights I skip showers because the thought of taking my clothes off, puts me into a breakdown. If I manage to get them...
    RobinPancakes RobinPancakes 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 22

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    I was in a abusive relationship with this guy when I was 21 and dated the same guy again when I was 26. It was the worse relationship of my life he use to used me, belittle me call...
    cara12345 cara12345 26-30, F 4 Responses Feb 1

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    I was in an abusive relationship when I was in high school. His name was Josh, and he seemed really sweet at first. However, I had a lot of guy friends at the time and he would...
    immieomg immieomg 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    Low Self-esteem - Back in the day, I was dating this guy who hated that I was attending college. He would make snide remarks to me such as, “Don’t use big words with me. You...
    FUDICULOUS FUDICULOUS 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 16, 2013

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    My boyfriend beat the **** out of me for almost 3 months.. He would hit me and punch me and choke me and slap me .. One night he held a knife to my throat cause I was talking to my...
    countrybabe01 countrybabe01 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 23

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    I want to be abused .. I want to be hit and smacked and taken advantage of
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    As Horrible As This Is Going to Sound.... - i was the abuser in a abusive relationship.at the time i was young..(18) running drugs big alkaholic big into coke i was a bad...
    soseriouslygrown soseriouslygrown 22-25, F 1 Response Feb 19, 2008

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    RUN As Fast As You Can - though no one in an abusive relationship will run you should. I still til this day always want to think I can fix things. People can change or he says he...
    sugarhoneyicetee sugarhoneyicetee 22-25, F Oct 18, 2013

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    A letter for you Every waking day is torture. there isn't a moment of the day where i don't think of you and what you did. there was a time where i saw my life with you, a future...
    Lottie95 Lottie95 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    I was with my daughters father for 5 years it started off so nice like all relationships do loving or so i thought, it took me about a year or so to really figure out i was being...
    msrose22 msrose22 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    Insecurities -   i have not been in a physically abusive relationship, but it was a very mentally abusive relationship.. the scars were deep in my mind and heart.. i was with...
    breastlover81 breastlover81 26-30, M 23 Responses Nov 9, 2012

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    Never Thought It Would Happen To Me - Growing up i was strong willed an *** kicker lol. I met this guy at a bar when i was 21 that should have been a red flag there. I thought he...
    holehearted79 holehearted79 31-35, F 35 Responses Feb 23, 2013

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    I've Grown, I've Survived , I'm Happy - I had an affair with a "man" (more like a monster), in my early 20's that lasted about 5 years, it was an on and off thing. ...
    golddustwoman golddustwoman 36-40, F 11 Responses Sep 11, 2008

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    Hush Sleepy Lion - Hush sleepy lion, our cub is asleep where she lay, Roars the lion, Shudders the prey. ROARS the lion, Cowers the prey. ROARS THE LION! Prey squeals and shys...
    Munchycaterpillar Munchycaterpillar 31-35, F 2 Responses Sep 30, 2013

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    Im Thankful That Im Still Alive... - I met my abusive ex when I was 19 and I was with him for 11 miserable years. I really should have read the warning signs early, I guess I know...
    archangelgirl archangelgirl 31-35 8 Responses Jan 15, 2012

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    Young Love... Not - When I was a junior in high school (so not too long ago) there was a reserved, ridiculously beautiful, private, and extremely quiet guy. I think the reason why...
    IntoYourArms IntoYourArms 70+, F 10 Responses Nov 16, 2013

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    I could use some advice getting over the abuse~ - I just got the apology from the man that took some of my child hood away, I mean physically and emotionally murdered my childhood...
    Kitty811 Kitty811 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 5, 2013

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    So this guy jake d. Never physically hit me but he would always kiss me (with tongue)when I didn't want to because I wasn't ready yet(I'm 13) and he always asked me to do dirty...
    nicole5227 nicole5227 16-17, F 13 Responses Dec 7, 2013

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    Walking On Eggshells - When I was in my late teens to my early tweenties I dated this guy for a few years on and off. Needless to say from the groups title, the relationship was...
    an2012 an2012 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 22, 2012

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    Not My Fault! - No one really knows about my relationship life around me. Once in a while I'll tell a friend...but other than that I keep it from my family...so it was quite hard...
    raevynvelcros raevynvelcros 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2008

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    I kept getting beaten from my current boyfriend.... This is the 6th time... He pushed me on the road and now my face is disfigured.. He seems to get used to beating me.... We have...
    ooxinjie ooxinjie 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    Abusive Relationships Suck The Life Out Of You. - I am getting out of mine, away from the 'narcissistic B******* who has many many times over 24 years made my life hell, and is...
    wishwing wishwing 41-45, F 11 Responses Mar 12, 2010

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    I've Been In Two Abusive Relationships. - You would think I would learn from the 1st abusive relationship, but it really was a different situation the 2ND time. When I was 18yrs I...
    WarriorMom WarriorMom 51-55, F 21 Responses Dec 7, 2008

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    Heres a Shocker.. - for the past year?? my girl has abused me. she has done every bad thing you can think of. she abused me so bad that my family exacted revenge on her, and...
    unbalanced23 unbalanced23 36-40, M 2 Responses Feb 4, 2009

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    i have been with my abusive husband for 21years from the age of 16 (he was then 18). I am sharing my story in the hope that it will help you if you are facing something like this...
    KirstyF KirstyF 36-40, F 5 Responses Dec 13, 2013

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    Ended With Cops Shutting Down My Street - He's not here and I realize now more how much I gave up, not talking to people, not looking up when we went anywhere, I couldn't even look...
    damagedbadatbest damagedbadatbest 31-35, F 3 Responses Nov 12, 2013

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    Take a Look At My Girlfriend... - I was 15, she was 17. You don't hear about abuse in gay relationships much, but there you are. I had never been with a girl before, and I was so...
    ParselyTree ParselyTree 16-18, F 4 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    In 5th grade this girl known to be mean bully became my girlfriend but all I saw was a hot girl. She became my girlfriend and always hit me extremely hard in the arms, torso and...
    weakling7 weakling7 13-15, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I was in an abusive marriage for 2 and a half years. In the beginning I didnt pay any attention to the red flags at all. When we first met he swept me off my feet due to the fact...
    queenshe queenshe 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2013

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    Ugly - I was 15 years old when I met Pat* the first time. I wasn't blown over by his looks, or his charm. Looking back, I don't know exactly WHAT it was that attracted me to him...
    MissBehaviour MissBehaviour 36-40, F 16 Responses Mar 18, 2012

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    Can It Get Any Worse? - Well Im a much different  person now then I was back when I was young and stupid. As many people put it! Or labled me. I had my first child when I...
    shy30 shy30 26-30, F 8 Responses May 7, 2007

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    It it interesting to see the reactions of others to my situation. My family, friends, strangers, everyone has an opinion and a strong one at that. I married my hubby for the wrong...
    unexpectedlove15 unexpectedlove15 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Surreal - I remember his smell. The way his voice would waiver when he was on the verge of one of his episodes . I tried to stay out of his way. I remember the last time he put his...
    ALL4SMILES ALL4SMILES 31-35, F 10 Responses Nov 18, 2012

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    Been there. Stayed way too long! But find strength where you can and learn to accept what you can't change right?
    allison1181 allison1181 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 27

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    Abusive Mexican Husband Pinche Pendejo - I got married at eighteen to my current husband. He was an ok boyfriend I never felt completely in love with him but I didn't believe I...
    kssdjr kssdjr 22-25 1 Response Oct 22, 2013

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    Holding On - Why do I keep holding oneven though I know it will never beWhy do I keep holding onwhen what we have is killing meWhy do I keep holding onwishing the dream were still...
    texastomboy texastomboy 36-40, F 6 Responses Jul 3, 2012

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    I would write an experience about my 3 year long abusive marriage but I believe it would end up being a novel. I had it all. Physically, mentally, emotionally, even sexually... I...
    Mileena28 Mileena28 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 8

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    Trying To Make A New Relationship - It's been 2 years since I left him. Now I have met a guy I think I really like. I'm just terrified. I don't want to make the same mistakes. I...
    Elpis2012 Elpis2012 26-30, F Nov 5, 2013

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    Please Don't Tell Your Brother. - Shaine is emotionally abusive, he over analyzes everything and bends it out of shape . Example: I didn't want to take his urine test that his job...
    uhshamefulbeauty uhshamefulbeauty 22-25, F Oct 10, 2013

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    And He'S 'Normal' Again - The sleeping lion... Not sure where he will pounce next... So I won't move or make a sound, Stay hidden in the dark. Shhhhh.... My daughter, slow and...
    Munchycaterpillar Munchycaterpillar 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Abusive Relationship? This Can Help. **Please Read** - On January 27th, 2012 I went to my usual Friday night hangout place, a local bowling alley. I expected a usual night with the...
    autumn506 autumn506 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 29, 2013

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    So Confused - My therapist says talking about the experience will help. Im not sure if it will but im going to try. Im not sure if my story counts as abuse. He hit me but maybe he...
    Smiles12311 Smiles12311 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    I've been in a couple of abusive relatiinship, I been mentally, phiscially, and emotionally abused. I guess it's why I no longer feel beautiful all the time even when I wear make...
    LowkeyJ LowkeyJ 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 7

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    You, It Will Always Be You... - You left,
 And still your touch lingers in my soul, 
My heart still beats for you. 
 You left,
 And I want to follow,
 But you don’t...
    EmmmaaaLou EmmmaaaLou 18-21, F Oct 7, 2013

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    You, It Will Always Be You... - You left,
 And still your touch lingers in my soul, 
My heart still beats for you. 
 You left,
 And I want to follow,
 But you don’t...
    EmmmaaaLou EmmmaaaLou 18-21, F Oct 7, 2013

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    I am aware of my low self esteem in saying.. I enjoyed being in my abusive relationships. I look for it. I crave it. I've started it. I enjoy abusive relationships because they...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 25

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    I Understand Ur Plight of Been Abused and Un Appreciated - well wat ll u say bout a lover who calls up a loose and an older woman  at that ,saying everything bout u?i...
    konybaby konybaby 21-25, F 1 Response Jul 1, 2007

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    I don't understand why it's so hard for women to leave an abusive relationship. Sometimes I wish I could pull them away. I was in an abusive relationship for a short time. Verbal...
    Deseraye1 Deseraye1 31-35, F 4 Responses Apr 5

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    He Was Great...for a While... - W hen I was 16 years old, I met "the greatest guy" in high school. We had everything in common and spent every waking moment together. He...
    Flutterbies Flutterbies 26-30, F 5 Responses Feb 20, 2008

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    I Went Through Hell - When i was 16 i was a happy girl fair enough i was a bit of a bad girl smoking cigerettes and pot with my friends but never the less extremley happy.I lived...
    bpdgirljoanne bpdgirljoanne 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2011

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