I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship

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    I have joined for the last few hours,

    just in case I can help anyone. Professional, honest and unbiased advice given.. WR
    WelshRarebit69 WelshRarebit69
    46-50, F
    Apr 21, 2016

    We were arguing while I was laying on the bed.

    He came over and in anger slapped my butt extremely hard. It hurt so bad I started to cry. An imprint of his had, red and swollen. It's the hardest he's ever slapped me. Better my butt than my face. He tried to physically throw me out the door. I fought him off the best I could...
    Jennnnla Jennnnla
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Apr 16, 2016

    Another Night in HeartBreak Hollywood Woke up,

    around 4pm, springtime’s sunlight, through my bedroom window shining in, I’m in a house, somewhere off Mulholland, had a call from an ex Brazilian lover, she was staying only 10 minutes away, so I stretched, showered, hoped in the Benz, opened the sunroof and headed her...
    AaronLA AaronLA
    36-40, M
    Apr 3, 2016

    We moved in together two years ago

    and it started. I've been back home for one year now. I haven't seen him since December but we talked the other night and he told me he wasn't sorry for hurting me. He had previously apologized a lot in the past, and he said now he isn't sorry. He told me I was abusive from the...
    violetskynoise violetskynoise
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2016

    I meet him when I was 17 we went to different

    schools. My friend introduce us and he seem like a great guy. Within first year he begin to pusher me and I just told myself he just loved me that why. You see my whole life I was use to being hit scream at. My father wasn't good guy and he had left my life when I was 16. So I...
    RainbowxXxLove RainbowxXxLove
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 19, 2016

    I don't even know how to start.

    It's been 8 years now and I can't move out as I can't afford maintaining myself and our two daughters. I know this relationship is sick and was persuading him to start the therapy together but he refuses. I am so nervous that I start to shout at my younger daughter and I don't...
    kikaCosta kikaCosta
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 19, 2016

    It started out really good,

    but.... Things never stay the same where people are concerned it seems to me. Men are Martian and we women are Venusian.
    Dieudonneso Dieudonneso
    26-30, F
    Mar 17, 2016

    I have been married for almost 15yrs.

    The first half of our marriage I spent under his verbal abuse. (which I also consider mental). I didn't realize what it was until several years into our marriage and by then we had a child. There were so many days I prayed for him to come home and hit me just so I could have a...
    angelpumpkin36 angelpumpkin36
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Mar 10, 2016
    FilleKenyane FilleKenyane
    26-30, F
    Mar 10, 2016

    With the ex in the other story.

    Before I caught him with her, he'd long began to abuse me emotionally. He never hit me or anything like that, just said things that cut deeper than a knife. First time was six months into the relationship. I decided to I wanted to have sex with him and seduced him that weekend...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 10, 2016

    ANGUISH My husband of 10 yrs is in rehab.

    I forced him to go really. I did that abused partner trick where you convince them it is their idea and their choice (because Heaven forbid anyone dares give an abuser an ultimatum) He is gone for 30 days to treat alcoholism. but he abuses me sober too. it hurts to finally...
    slipthrough slipthrough
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    My live in boyfriend spit in my face.

    Then he threw something at me. I am so anxious and feeling unloved.
    caroline71105 caroline71105
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    tonight at about 5 am I woke up my boyfriend

    wasn't laying next to me in bed. I went downstairs he was passed out on my couch. I woke him up telling him come up to bed with me. he wasn't budging . so I asked again. He through this tantrum..like he is really tired lately because he doesn't go to bed properly so I don't know...
    sonsofanarchyy sonsofanarchyy
    1 Response Mar 6, 2016

    My first boyfriend decieved me

    for three years. We were schoolmates and we got into a relationship just after a week we met up. It was a whirlwind love everything seems so right and fast. His family knows about me and everyone including his relatives knew about me personally. One day someone messaged me in...
    elizabethsophia elizabethsophia
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2016

    I'm in an verbally abusive relationship with

    my husband. he is always degrading me .calling me names. he is very controlling. he had said he gave me everything and I'm nothing without him.
    Ksd9807 Ksd9807
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    Almost 10 years have gone by.

    I watched my last few child bearing years pass, I watched 40 come and go, I watched friends stop calling me... All because I'm in an abusive relationship and have lost my voice, my will, my worth. Am I weak? Yes. Am I beaten down? Yes. Am I tired and lonely and sad? Yes. At the...
    Joiseygirl68 Joiseygirl68
    46-50, F
    5 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    its taken me 6 years to get over the physical

    and mental abuse my ex put me through. Although it hurts me at times. I try to focus on the greater things in life. my kids
    marlymars marlymars
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    So my abusive ex husband finally found someone

    else or should I say -his next victim. She's my age and she's got a kid with health problems and special needs. I'm a couple months older then her but it's like we could be the best of friends. She probably heard all about how cold hearted mean and evil I was to him. She doesn't...
    Cordale10 Cordale10
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 3, 2016

    I've, been in an abusive relationship.

    Feels kinda weird even mentioning it. But yeah, all he wanted from me was sex.... and share me with his buddy's.... I've gotten every time I no, until I just gave up and let happen. I was ashamed to talk to my parents or anyone about it. Eventually, my teacher had some marks and...
    kissycakes8 kissycakes8
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    I just left a guy who was abusing me sexually

    and mentally. I don't know how to feel anymore. gasp
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    I don't talk about it much due to being hard to

    discuss but need to start opening up and sharing. From age 13-17 I was dating a older boy who lives a few blocks away. The first year I thought he was perfect! I found out he started using drugs and it changed his behavior. He became mad at the most bizarre things. Soon he...
    murman91 murman91
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2016

    I'm over my ex but I'm not over what they did

    to me. I don't know if I ever will be. When things were at their worst in our relationship I almost killed myself. I'm worried I'll never be able to be in another relationship because I'm so broken.
    mary909 mary909
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    It's finally become so obvious,

    but it's still hard to confront and to know what to do next. It's hard to know if it's really not my fault and to believe that. Couldn't she say a lot of the same things about me? Could things be fixed? Could we repair the hurts we've caused each other? Does our faith call us...
    CynthiaKarin CynthiaKarin
    36-40, T
    3 Responses Feb 22, 2016


    v=qS13uoIOiVQ one of the worst cases when you tolerate abusive relationship then get left behind suddenly and even can't find them. What makes it even worse is when you find them later to have been having a secret relation with another during that time you were suffering with...
    xthedreamerx xthedreamerx
    46-50, M
    1 Response Feb 19, 2016

    ...and I still am. I want to leave,

    but my parents have kicked me out of their house, and his home is the only place I can go. I am stuck here. Im about to buy a car and live out of it at this point.
    neonslug neonslug
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 9, 2016

    I feel alone and stupid.

    Because my ex boyfriend or my boyfriend I don't know what it's now one day he love me and care the next minute he doest, I'm been with him for five year in I don't know what to do anymore. I love him so much but he doesn't see it even those when he been abussing to me are still...
    tweetyreck tweetyreck
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2016

    this is a poem I wrote about women being abused

    and I hope you like it this isn't a relationship it's a hostage situation silences screams louder then a fat lady sings hands tied he lied, he didn't love you in the first place you can't break free continue to send out your silent screams until you're seen your life...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 8, 2016

    now I know this is nothing compared to some of

    the stories I just seen on here, but here it goes....I started dating my boyfriend almost 6 years ago...during the 6 years we have been through it all....he was locked up we had a son...we dated other people. got back together, and now not only do we have a son but a 8 month old...
    teeq22 teeq22
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    I don't really know where to start.

    I've been with my boyfriend for 2 and a half years. Everything was lovely and fine, we were both happy. We argued, but doesn't everyone? We got engaged quite soon. After 4 months he asked me. I said yea. Soon after that we had quite a bad argument, I forget what about. Long...
    Jennywirral Jennywirral
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 2, 2016

    It hurts mostly everyday I still get emotional

    I can still picture everything that happened I can still feel her hands banging against my head. How the first month's it was just the beginning. I was in an abusive relationship I was hurt emotionally and physically. At first she just hit me and I would tell her to stop and she...
    Introvertedchild18 Introvertedchild18
    2 Responses Feb 1, 2016

    I dated a diagnosed psychopath.

    He showered me with love and affection and showed so much interest in me from the start that I was smitten. Also he was very charming and handsome. He was very strong and muscular and that was attractive to me because he seemed strong and protective too. But then it turned...
    deleted deleted
    7 Responses Feb 1, 2016

    Understanding why and how we let these people

    in our lives is the only way to break the chain of abuse. These behaviors are modeled for us by our parents and we follow suit, but this is not always the case. for instance, most women who are subject to abuse had father's who were abusive to their mothers in some way. BUT some...
    lexingtonjane lexingtonjane
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jan 31, 2016

    Everything between us started off perfect.

    It was too good to be true of course. 1 month into our relationship he cheated on me. I forgave him like an idiot of course. He seemed really sorry, i believed it. When i refused to sleep with him he yelled at me and would just say horrible things. Months of emotional abuse...
    v1ct0rtilla v1ct0rtilla
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2016

    The guy I was with recently dumped me

    and I realized that all the significant, romantic relationships I have been in have been abusive in some form. They've either flat out abused me - emotionally or sexually - or they've taken advantage of who I am as a person. Forgiveness, patience, kindness, hasn't gotten me very...
    terrywill15 terrywill15
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 29, 2016

    I've never really talked about it except to

    people I'm closest to, so here goes nothin. When we started dating he treated me like I was precious and gave me attention i had never had before. It made me feel great and it didn't hurt that he was gorgeous. But the first time I realized something was up was 6 months in when...
    SnowWhite87 SnowWhite87
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    I have been through two abusive relationships,

    I am out now and safe. I want to tell everyone out there that no abuse is exceptable no matter if it's emotional physical or sexaul. Men get abused aswell it's not as common but it does happen. I had a lovely partner for a while he was gentle kind and thoughtful, he had and...
    chockywhockydoda chockywhockydoda
    51-55, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2016

    Tonight he threw my dinner at the wall.

    I have been snowed in without access to my car as it is BURIED in snow. On my boyfriends way home I had asked him to pick up something from the pizza place for me which is right in front of his subway stop, he would have to carry it home about two blocks. He said no, I said...
    dcp1058 dcp1058
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    I'm almost out. I have an escape plan

    and I have support. But I'm too scared to even sleep because I know he still has a key... I just have to get through this weekend and then it's finally, truly, over, and I'm free at last.
    biscuitstiq biscuitstiq
    26-30, T
    4 Responses Jan 26, 2016

    I Got Flowers Today..

    ... I got flowers today... It wasn't my birthday or any other special day. We had our first argument last night, and he said a lot of cruel things that really hurt me. I know he is sorry and didn't mean the things he said...because he sent me flowers today. I got flowers today...
    legzydawlyy legzydawlyy
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    Not me.. But someone very close to me.

    . I knew there was abuse.. But yesterday was the first time he hit her.. Open hand-> face.. Like a slap.. Twice.. And pulled hair.. I told her to leave.. She did promise to go to nearby hotel.. I slept in peace.. To find out next morning that she went back.. How can I help her...
    caramellacrisby caramellacrisby
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jan 23, 2016

    *Its kinda long, sorry My ex

    and I dated for about 7 months before I got pregnant. He wasn't too happy about the news, but eventually he came around. He was so kind and nurturing to me throughout my pregnancy. He'd constantly tell me how he loved me, how he'll spoil our child, and how we're gonna be the...
    Lia001 Lia001
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 21, 2016

    It wasn't physical abuse

    but mental. And for years I didn't think it would even be considered abuse or even be important. But I have recently learned that it's still abuse and is just as important. I want to share my story to inform others and make it aware. To help others see the signs of abuse. If...
    ashuriiNikooru ashuriiNikooru
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 19, 2016

    In my first relationship i was abused

    and nobody knows about it. I thought I made him mad or did something cuz he always had a reason. I was with him a year and he made me lose all my friends and he cheated on me. I cant fully trust anyone anymore and im scared that if i make a guy mad enough he will hit me...
    Frozenheart1434 Frozenheart1434
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    and I'm proud to say I got out.

    for ten months I dealt with emotional abuse that turned physical quick. screaming and yelling about how I wasn't good enough started to change me mentally, I began to dote my time to him, if I wasn't at work, I was at his home. waiting to spend time with him. we did come from...
    4rae2 4rae2
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    He won't let me do anything

    and makes me talk to him all day or he pulls the sad depressed suicidal card... Help
    GeekiLizard GeekiLizard
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Jan 18, 2016

    It's been 4 years, 2 months,

    & 4 days since the last time you raped me & since the last time I saw you, so why can't I get the nightmares to go away?! It's not fair that I have these nightmares and flashbacks, while you just get you live a normal life. It's not fair that I have PTSD because of you... it's...
    untamedx3heart untamedx3heart
    22-25, F
    9 Responses Jan 15, 2016

    I just need some advice

    which I feel I pretty much know the answer to : My boyfriend suggesting that I care about money more than I care about my son is emotional abuse, no ?? My boyfriend telling me that he only buys me gifts so I won't tell at him My boyfriend telling me I'm not as strong as I...
    dcp1058 dcp1058
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jan 14, 2016

    I've been having flashbacks lately.

    And it's hard to deal with when you have no one to talk to, but after being isolated in the relationship for 4 years you think I'd be use to it, but now I just feel lonelier.
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jan 13, 2016

    For my girls I left. Not wanting them to think

    that it's ever ok to stay in a bad relationship. For my girls I wanted them to know and see the error of my choices. Never ever did I want them to find themselves in the same situation. My daughter tells me that she's struggling in her current relationship. I ask her what...
    snowberry75 snowberry75
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    Survival mode started at age three

    for me. I did not land on a stable enough platform to begin processing a lifetime of traumatic experiences until the age of thirty-two. I am now forty. I have had an experience, it took forty years.
    FierceJourney FierceJourney
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Jan 11, 2016

    I once knew a girl in the years of my

    youth With eyes like the summer: all beauty and truth But in the morning I fled, left a note and it read “Someday you will be loved” And I cannot pretend that I felt any regret ‘Cause each broken heart will eventually mend Just as the blood runs red down the needle and...
    thelonliestrose thelonliestrose
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 5, 2016

    I've lived with 4 men

    who physically abused me and emotionally destroyed me into believing how worthless I was to keep me from leaving.. One of them even let his friends abuse me to keep my self esteem down.. I'll carry those emotional scars forever
    MotherOf3Becky MotherOf3Becky
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 4, 2016

    I was married to a bipolar woman with a

    drinking problem. She would stop after work for drinks with co-workers while i sat at home with her children ( my step). When she wandered in late in the evening she wanted to fight. It mattered not wether i expressed displeasure or not. Living in that home was the low point of...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Dec 27, 2015

    and for some reason that one time of many,

    when my head hit the floor, I woke up. and I knew I couldn't do it anymore. that's the day I felt like I had purpose again- the day I realized I was being abused.
    pan79die pan79die
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 26, 2015

    I am being abused by voices.

    I can't get away from them. They are republicans. They are Christians and Catholics. They are Jews. I don't understand why they are doing this to me. I feel damaged.
    DearAble DearAble
    51-55, M
    Dec 26, 2015

    I think it happens, unfortunately,

    to too many. I hope everyone it has happened to find a way out, and can take back their power. I did, and you can, too!
    ZenLioNESS719 ZenLioNESS719
    51-55, F
    5 Responses Dec 25, 2015

    its emotional and mental abuse more

    than physical. and it hurts me more than the physical abuse.
    evynray evynray
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    i cant believe im allowing myself to fall

    victim to his mental abuse again. i cant believe im letting him take control as if hes worth it. i think im killing myself just until hes vulnerable like i was, so i can crush his soul with secrets and lies and blind faith too.
    evynray evynray
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Dec 24, 2015

    well it was almost a full year ago

    when the pain stopped. His name was Steven and he was what I thought to be a caring guy, until we started dating. No matter what I said or did nothing was right...the bruises seemed to be everywhere I thought there would never be a day that would come where there wouldn't be one...
    SatansGuide SatansGuide
    22-25, F
    25 Responses Dec 21, 2015

    this time of year always makes me think about

    it. because of the help i had although i left my abuser i. July of 2012. just like you... broken dishes and cupboards smashed in windows and kicked in doors broken lamps and broken mirrors i lived it just like you nasty cruel words belittling and ridiculed embarrassed and...
    moongoddess35 moongoddess35
    36-40, F
    1 Response Dec 16, 2015
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