I Have Been In An Abusive Relationship Forum & Chat Board | Abused and anxious

I just left an abusive relationship, as in about 2 days ago.  I talked to him yesterday, he called my phone constantly, to the point where I had to turn it off.  He called 11 more times without an answer and gave up.  He threatened to sleep with other women, to throw my remaining belongings away... He is emotionally and physically abusive and an alcoholic.  I know things won't change, not even for our unborn child.  I still find myself wandering what he's doing, if he's with other girls already, why he hasn't called, why he hasn't tried to prove anything.  At the same time, I know better.  My stomach is in knots, aside from normal pregnancy knots, I want to cry all the time, my heart is broken and deep down, I know I need to stay away...why can't this be easier???  If a man can beat a woman, can hurt a woman emotionally, can be just, mean, simply put, why do I miss him?  Why do I worry about what he's doing? Why do I care?

 

i am sorry you are going through this bad phase of life. i am also in the same phase. left an abuser but still care about him .you know it is an addiction , it is guilt . i am trying to come out of these feelings .i would advice you not to return to him and plz  read each and everything you can get about abuser traits. avoid contact  with him . At this point of time he can be dangerous also.

 

hi, ive read ur story, im in an abusive relationship now for 27 years, i have 3 children, one of which is in jail, we had a good business and he has mentally abused our boys from day one, they rebelled by doing everything stealing from their father lying, now one is in jail he refuses to speak to the eldest,  and im left with the youngest 16, who is getting held by the throat for answring bak, im in such a mess i dont have friends i dont have family, i live in spain and its very very hard i sympathise with u, noone should have to live this way, im trying to find the strength for my youngest, im scared really. loved ur story and good on you.peace and love.x