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I Have Been the Spouse of a Drug Addict

A safe place to vent about having a partner or spouse with a drug addiction- past or current 668 People

    I am still married to my wife (an addict) of

    multiple drugs and alcohol , I can't really rule anything out as she has been on just about everything. It makes it even worse to be married to an addict that is a nurse! As she would never be without access to what ever she wanted at any time. This last time she was clean ( to...
    kyleevans kyleevans 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 10

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    Its been a few months

    since posting and I can say that Im still in the same situation. He left for a while, as normal. This time was different though. He left and his ex gf got him a car. A rental car. She got him hotel rooms and just did everything for him to "help" him. So he stayed away. Just...
    ammyyy ammyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    He's Changed..

    My husband has been using for a long time behind my back but lately it's gotten out of control. He takes all our money, his mood will give you whiplash, he disappears at night in my car with no drivers license. We have 3 beautiful babies together. I've seen too many go down this...
    TrulyMommy3 TrulyMommy3 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Is It Really Me?

    My husband has been addicted to hydrocodone for almost 2 years now. I have been a fool and belived him the first 2 times he told me he stoppped, just to find out later he didnt. He lies to me, sneaks off for hours without calling or answering his phone, takes private phone calls...
    Marie2581 Marie2581 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    Well my wife finished her rehab

    for opiate addiction. I am proud of her. Hopefully she continues with NA and this does not happen again. Hopefully her court case for well and she can get her nursing license back someday. In the meantime I hope she can get a job as well.
    cplichristmd cplichristmd 31-35, M Mar 3

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    Cocaine!!

    I met my partner 4 years ago and at first had no idea about his addiction ... Until one day he admitted to me that he sometimes takes cocaine! At first because I had never been around cocaine I I passed it off as "well as long as it doesn't affect how he is with me I will be ok...
    Desperatepleasehelp Desperatepleasehelp 26-30 3 Responses Jun 10, 2012

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    I Tend To Blame Myself

    I have been with the same person almost 11 years but I have known him for 16 years. I knew he smoked a lot of pot growing up but 7 years ago we had our son and moved in together then I realized that is wasn't just pot he was taking massive amounts of prescription pills. Finally...
    Me1216 Me1216 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    The Worst Year of My Life

    Well, my husband started abusing prescription drugs last year, and now my life's pretty much in ruins.  We had to quit my job in January due to a chronic illness, we filed for bankruptcy a couple of months ago, and I have sold nearly all of my jewelry to pay bills. ...
    britt1449 britt1449 22-25 15 Responses Jul 11, 2009

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    I have had an eventfull week.

    My roof leaked and I had to climb up and fix it as my partner was so off his head on crack. He disappeared and I tracked him with the GPS on his phone and he still lied to my face about were he was. My doctor called and said he had hep c and I needed to be tested. Luckily I am...
    winstonpeaky1 winstonpeaky1 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    i am marriage for 4 years to an drug addict guy!

    a month after our marriage i found out that his into drug,luckily we don't have kids,the thing is i want a kid but on the other hand i don't want to raise kids with the situation i am in to..he's kind and a hardworking man,but when he got his salary he never know what's his...
    langgasandigan langgasandigan 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 10

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    My husband is 90+ days clean.

    He is a recoveting addict of pain pills. Back in sept 2013 he broke into our neighbors house and stoke alot of pills. He was caught on video and arrested the same day. He was facing 10-20 years in prison. Thankfully, his attorney was able to get him in drug court to help him...
    mommaberry77 mommaberry77 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    Well not a spouse exactly

    since we weren't married. All I can say is if you are in this situation you need to be willing to leave if they are not willing to change.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F Feb 6

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    I have been marry to my husband

    for 8 years and have a 5 year old boy. He is a alcoholic and a sub addict. When I first met him he was not addicted to either of these things but as time goes on he got addicted to both of this things. He had hurt me before when he was so drunk and he was very sorry for that and...
    cupopie cupopie 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 17

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    Hi my husband came out of detox last weekend

    for opiate addiction. He became addicted after being prescribed pain pills for chronic back pain. When I picked him up last Saturday he was ready to start fresh. He just told me this morning that he has been using pills since the evening he got home but ran out last night and is...
    jd615 jd615 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 25

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    Death of Three Lives

    My Husband was on drugs 20 years.  Nothing serious at first than escalated to major pain killers, cocaine, crank, and then crack.  My son did not even know until he was 14.  We insisted He go to clinics and he did; about six or seven, always to go back to the...
    chrisoharris chrisoharris 56-60 3 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    Another Day In Hell.....

    So my husband comes home today, I look at his eyes and truly believe he has used today... I confront him with it, he denies it of course, then I tell him to leave. He gets mad, tells me I'm wrong, swears on our children he's clean, and leaves. Then I start doubting myself as...
    mommy23boys mommy23boys 31-35 2 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    Lost

    Hello, I was reading what everyone has put on here and I decided to share my story. I am 23 yrs old and got married when I was 19. Everything was perfect at first, my husband never did drugs and was a hard worker. His brother on the other hand started doing drugs, which led my...
    mrscp mrscp 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    Pregnant Drug Addict Boyfriend Missing

    I was dating my bf for 2 years .. A year into the relationship he confessed to me he had got himself into some problems and tried doing crack cocaine. My life has been living hell ever since .. he has done eveything a addict could do.. steal.. lie.. cheat.. beat me.. and at the...
    Englishmuffin82 Englishmuffin82 31-35 2 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I have been married for almost 10years

    and have 3 kids (including a 5 month baby). My husband is a drug addict- he injects coke. I'm really lost about what to do, how to help him. He says he wants to stop but I haven't seen him try too hard. He also battles bi-polar and regularly has panic attacks and psychosis. The...
    speac000 speac000 31-35, F 3 Responses Dec 25, 2013

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    I met my partner when he was sleeping under the

    bridge next to a shop I owned. We became friends and that developed over a couple of years. I often gave him the odd twenty pounds to tide him over. In November 2013 the weather was wet and I asked him if he wanted to stay at my home to sort himself out for a while. I live away...
    winstonpeaky1 winstonpeaky1 41-45, F 2 Responses Mar 5

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    On The Other Side Looking In

    I think I can relate in a way to the addicts in our lives because I am a recovering addict myself. I have a severe disability from my curvature of the spine which has caused years of agony from pain.  18 years ago I was given vicodin and long story short, found myself abusing so...
    Santana2 Santana2 46-50 2 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    A Light

    I cant believe how I feel. A couple of days ago. I felt trapped. I wrote a few lines for the first time online and out of those lines a friend appeared. I hope to meet this person someday. To tell them how they truly saved a persons life. My life. To look them in the eyes and let...
    sunflowerkate sunflowerkate 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 16, 2013

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    I have been the spouce of a drug addict.

    .. Married for 9 years, with one beautiful 2 year old boy. But the anxiety of dealing with his father is killing me. He doesn't get why I am not comfortable with him taking our son alone for visitations and I insist on his Mother being their while our son is in his care. He is...
    tomuchanxiety tomuchanxiety 36-40 1 Response Dec 6, 2013

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    In complete denial...

    .... Hello all. I have read many posts of yalls dealing with this issue. I came searching for answers and help/support because I feel very alone and scared. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and all those years my husband has been self medicating on something or...
    ashoryb ashoryb 26-30, F 3 Responses Apr 7

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    15 years ago I met my husband,

    senior year of high school. I became pregnant with our oldest son 3 short months after we started dating (just after graduation). He was a raver, so I knew he expirimented with drugs. It was never my interest though I tried mushrooms and acid and to this day I some marijuana...
    karieanne karieanne 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I like everyone on this sight have been married

    to a drug addict. I fortunately had made the decision to divorce mine. This is all after the fact I found out he was using. I had already known he had been addicted to pain medication and weed through out our marriage. It wasn't until prior to the divorce proceedings I found out...
    kept1689 kept1689 46-50 4 Responses Feb 22

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    My husband has been to rehab twice.

    He's cycled through jobs, lied to my face, drowned bank accounts, then shown complete remorse. I do believe he would like to be clean and sober. I no longer believe he has it in him. I used to, but my hope is gone. Nonexistent. I am not a religious person but I decided to start...
    mpb15 mpb15 31-35, F 2 Responses Mar 11

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    I Feel Like My Soul Was Taken From Me

    Hello, my name is Desiree and i am a mother of 4 special monkeys(kids). I have been married/with my husband for 10 years. We have been through counseling with an addict counselor to our church pastor. He has attended 12 step program and na classes. He goes to them but he leaves...
    dolface23 dolface23 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    Our Family Crisis, My Personal Insanity

    10 years ago I fell in love with my soul mate. Everyday we held each other and thanked God for guiding us to each other. Our love was a beautiful thing. So beautiful that we decided to have children to share it with and got married to make it official. We were blessed with a...
    jdcab123 jdcab123 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    I've been with my husband

    for a little over 10 years, and he is an addict. When first got with him, I knew he smoked pot every once in a while, but I never thought he was an addict. When we got married, it never was an issue. He smoked every once in a while, usually on football Sunday or at a special...
    gabbynanijermcari gabbynanijermcari 31-35, F 5 Responses Dec 22, 2013

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    i do can relate my situation right now

    and i don't know what to do.. it's almost 3weeks when he stepped out on our own house without even saying any words with our childrens .. just to found out he has that ***** pregnant for two months and he chooses to be with her rather staying home with us... i know that he...
    angelkish angelkish 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    We've been married for almost a year.

    I love this man with all my heart its been like a yo-yo all of our relationship after we got married he stopped caring about anything I've worked hard to be everything I can be and do everything I knew how to do. He's been in detox and came home the man I remembered the man I...
    thankgodimloved thankgodimloved 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 17

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    I Feel So Alone

    I feel so alone all the time I feel afraid to go to sleep at night I am afraid I will wake up to him being dead. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone all of this is just eating me away. I have become such a negative person I dislike all drug users but yet I still stay with the...
    Me1216 Me1216 26-30, F 23 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    This may not seem like an extreme addiction,

    but there are layers. When I first met my husband, he revealed to me he had quit doing heroin just weeks before. Okay. That was a little scary for me. And at the time, we both enjoyed smoking pot. It ended up being a far too common occurrence over the years, I'm talking...
    ksyph85 ksyph85 26-30 4 Responses Jan 13

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    Fooled For The Last Time....

    I have been living in a fairy tale, no let me rephrase that, I have been living a nightmare! My husband of thirteen years has been in and out of a very destructive addiction to pain pills and meth when they weren't being prescribed. I was naive throughout the first few years of...
    loveneverfails2000 loveneverfails2000 46-50, F 6 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    I have been with my husband

    for 6 years. I knew he smoked marijuana even though I don't use but to give unconditional love I didn't protest it. Six months into our relationship he started using PCP and it has been a fight ever since. He has been in jail several times for his addiction and I am always there...
    georgeanne26 georgeanne26 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Hopeless

    I have been married for going on 16 years to my spouse, he first started out with just pot, but now its addiction to nerve and pain pills too. we have 2 kids together, we have been apart so many times I cant count. He has no relationship with our son who is 15. Honestly my son...
    ladyemerald2107 ladyemerald2107 31-35 12 Responses Jun 11, 2010

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    I dont know what to do.

    ..Im tired of my husband's lies, stealing, coming home very late bec. of meth. We have a son. Been married for 13 years. I cry every night. Sometimes I just want to die. He just doesn't stop using drugs.
    Jaymarie2 Jaymarie2 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 27

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    Tough Love...Is It The Answer??

    I copied and pasted this from someone else...hope they don't mind.. A Poem.......... IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL IF you love me let me fall all by myself. Don't try to spread a net out to catch me, don't throw a pillow under me to cushion the pain so I don't have to feel it...
    mommy23boys mommy23boys 31-35 5 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    Was married for 6 years,

    and 3 children later, I learned that he had been using meth on and off and for the last 2 years of our marriage he was using it more and more. When I met him in college I knew he had a problem we stopped seeing each other because of it. Then he said he was clean and he past a...
    amiller3 amiller3 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 14

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    I recently found out my boyfriend (now ex) has

    been using drugs. I suspected that he was but nothing stronger than pot. However, he stole a good bit of money from me that lead me to finding out. I have family that are recovering drug addicts and I'm not sure if I want to date one. To be honest, when I first met him he told...
    AmandaNicoleW1 AmandaNicoleW1 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 29

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    How Am I So Weak?

    I am in love with a addict we have been together for 4 years now & have two kids together. He used to be so good to me but now I dont get the same treatment :/ I would do anything in the world for this man but he would rather hide away & do his drugs. At times I wanna leave but I...
    wainright27 wainright27 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2013

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    Do people come back from heroin?

    Are there ANY good stories with HAPPY endings? Any HOPEFUL advice? Or just leave? I try to stay hopeful and positive but it is HARD. Its a very special day today and he said wed go see a movie and go to dinner. I got home from work and nothing. Hes still gone and the days...
    ammyyy ammyyy 26-30, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    My ex husband of 15 years was a drug addict.

    Very hard to live with and love. I finally had to leave him ......in hope that he would get help and change for our children and myself. He ended up with another women who did drugs. Now he is in prison.
    dawwnrenee dawwnrenee 41-45, F 4 Responses Apr 8

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    Does The Cycle Ever Really End?

    I love my husband very much. We have overcome so much and I know he truly loves me. We have been together for about a decade and there have been some truly awesome times. But my husband is an addict. Most of the time, it was alcohol. Then he started abusing prescription drugs. It...
    5555654km 5555654km 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    I am feeling like a true idiot.

    I have a 27 year history with the love of my life. I met him while going through a very rough divorce. I have been through so much in my life that I finally thought it would all be over when 9 years ago we had gotten back after being separated for 15 or so years. We share two...
    cakeo1020 cakeo1020 46-50, F 3 Responses Jan 13

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    My partner of 20yrs has been through alcohol

    and marijuana dependencies, he now discovered synthetic marijuana and has become worse, although he believes it's better than alcohol and marijuana he does not see what my children and I do, he is unapproachable, does not communicate anymore, is in a lot of denial, agitated very...
    beebop01 beebop01 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    Addiction That Ruins A Family

    My wife of 13+ years had addiction problems before we were married. I went with her to her graduation right after we got together from the rehab she was in. She did have 10 years of sobriety, well sort of, she was still drinking and occasionally using pain meds. Then she went...
    NoEndInSight13 NoEndInSight13 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    My Fiance Is A Pill Addict And Its Killing Me

    My partner of three years struggles with a pill addiction. Most recently he has stolen pills from prescriptions belonging to others in the home. I have come to realize that I cannot change him. I struggle everyday, my whole person has changed immensely, I am an emotional wreck, I...
    distressedwoman distressedwoman 31-35 2 Responses Dec 15, 2012

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    Hi well not my spouse

    but my boyfriend is an alcoholic and drug addict. We have been through a lot in the short time we have been together and tomorrow he goes into rehab for three months. These last few weeks have been very difficult with him becoming verbally abusive due to paranoia and he's just...
    rogers791 rogers791 22-25, F 4 Responses Feb 11

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    Addict husband active again

    after years of clean & sober. Wasted thousands $ on coke, meth, gambling. Lies & betrayal every day. Pretended to go to work, was out getting wrecked. Pretended to go have coffee with my adult addict daughter to "help" her with her tough times getting clean. He was not only...
    needingstrength needingstrength 36-40, F 3 Responses Feb 9

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    We have 6 children 1 grandchild

    and a 2nd grandchild on the way, the bills are swamping more and more each week, trying to talk to him is horrible, it gets worse week by week. I love him only he's created a distance so far between us, I feel like giving up
    beebop01 beebop01 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    So Lost...

    Hi, on the surface you see, I am a soccer mom, a dance mom, a college graduate, a pretty girl with a smile on her face in public. But what you don't see or know, is that my partner and father of my children is a crack addict, and that smile on my face is fake. when I first met...
    SoTorn17 SoTorn17 26-30 7 Responses Apr 30, 2013

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    The Pain Never Stops, I Wish I Could Forget But Can Not Let Go

    I thought I was marring the perfect man. The perfect man has turned into the worst part of my life. I long to be free but know that can never be, not until I finally breathe my last breath. the lies, that is the worst. The constant cut-downs, picking a fight to justify his...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 8 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    One Day At A Time...hoping Tomorrow Is Better!

    I finally married my highschool sweetheart last year, we postponed the wedding a year when we found out I was pregnant. during my pregnancy I found out he had become addicted to pain pills. of coarse I had no idea just how bad it really was, and we continued with our wedding with...
    lma729 lma729 22-25 6 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    As I type this, he walking around down stairs

    like a sketched out zombie, peeping between the shutters because he's parrell about someone watching him, high on cocaine. He's been like this for the last 10 hours. I sent the kids to my mothers house for the night. They don't need to see him like this. I am a married...
    ponytail7 ponytail7 36-40, F 6 Responses Mar 1

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    My husband and I have been married

    for 6 weeks now. I've loved him for 19 years though. Still just as much as I did when we met. He's been an addict his entire adult life. I married him knowing this. Made the decision to marry him because no matter what, I never want to be without him. The past 6 weeks have...
    kct0314 kct0314 36-40, F 5 Responses Mar 26