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I Have Been the Spouse of a Drug Addict

A safe place to vent about having a partner or spouse with a drug addiction- past or current 757 People

    My ex husband of 15 years was a drug addict.

    Very hard to live with and love. I finally had to leave him ......in hope that he would get help and change for our children and myself. He ended up with another women who did drugs. Now he is in prison.
    dawwnrenee dawwnrenee 46-50, F 7 Responses Apr 8

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    Well not a spouse exactly

    since we weren't married. All I can say is if you are in this situation you need to be willing to leave if they are not willing to change.
    TKD1 TKD1 46-50, F 1 Response Feb 6

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    In complete denial...

    .... Hello all. I have read many posts of yalls dealing with this issue. I came searching for answers and help/support because I feel very alone and scared. I have been married to my husband for 12 years and all those years my husband has been self medicating on something or...
    ashoryb ashoryb 31-35, F 6 Responses Apr 7

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    My husband is addicted to heroin.

    Never thought I would say that. He has a chronic disease called Crohns which effects his life in so many ways. He first major surgery almost 5 years ago where the removed a foot of small intestines. He gets a monthly treatment of remicade to keep him somewhat in remission. He...
    twinmomma12 twinmomma12 36-40, F Sep 16

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    How Am I So Weak?

    I am in love with a addict we have been together for 4 years now & have two kids together. He used to be so good to me but now I dont get the same treatment :/ I would do anything in the world for this man but he would rather hide away & do his drugs. At times I wanna leave but I...
    wainright27 wainright27 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 29, 2013

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    Lost

    Hello, I was reading what everyone has put on here and I decided to share my story. I am 23 yrs old and got married when I was 19. Everything was perfect at first, my husband never did drugs and was a hard worker. His brother on the other hand started doing drugs, which led my...
    mrscp mrscp 22-25, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2013

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    Fooled For The Last Time....

    I have been living in a fairy tale, no let me rephrase that, I have been living a nightmare! My husband of thirteen years has been in and out of a very destructive addiction to pain pills and meth when they weren't being prescribed. I was naive throughout the first few years of...
    loveneverfails2000 loveneverfails2000 46-50, F 7 Responses Oct 15, 2013

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    One Day At A Time...hoping Tomorrow Is Better!

    I finally married my highschool sweetheart last year, we postponed the wedding a year when we found out I was pregnant. during my pregnancy I found out he had become addicted to pain pills. of coarse I had no idea just how bad it really was, and we continued with our wedding with...
    lma729 lma729 22-25 7 Responses Jun 5, 2012

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    I have chosen to separate from my husband

    after his meth relapse because I said I would. 6 months at least. He went to rehab after a year of using, lies, deceit, agitation, anger and abandonment. Got out and 30 days later, returned to old behavior and negative self-talk - relapse - I confronted him about... Proud to...
    MoveFwdD MoveFwdD 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 7

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    I need somewhere to vent,

    so I figured this could be a good start.. So here it goes. I was in a relationship with an heroin addict. (Was- because I ended it today.) He has been doing heroin for the past 2 years, we been together since 2011 so majority of our relationship he has been addicted to heroin...
    candykay23 candykay23 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 7

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    New to this. I'm 26 and have been with my

    fiancé for almost 8 years and we have a 3 year old son. My son's father started taking percocets and moved to smoking crack and shooting heroine and cocaine. He also has numerous psychological and mental disorders. He is currently staying with his mother who refuses to see he...
    Danielle727 Danielle727 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    This is my first time doing anything like this.

    I have recently found out that my husband has been smoking heroin. Words can't even describe all the emotions that have come with this. When I first started suspecting it about 3 months ago I didn't want to believe that my husband could be doing drugs, let alone heroin. Then I...
    kdurgin11 kdurgin11 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 13

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    It never stops, does it?

    My husband has been relapsing off and on for several years now and I am realizing he may be using drugs again. I am seeing the signs but as always the denial is there. He always wants to know how I can continually question his sobriety. Easy, the money stolen, the lies, all...
    thingsmustchange2 thingsmustchange2 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I've been with my husband

    for 7 years. We have no children but we have a dog together and he is like our baby. When we met I was 20 and he was 37. We both used cocaine. He showed me how to smoke it. I liked it. He had been addicted for years, I was just getting introduced to it and was having fun. Until...
    italia523 italia523 26-30, F 3 Responses May 9

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    Sad & lonely have been feelings

    that have hovered over my life for years of marriage to an addict. It's never enough, you can never do enough to make them happy. Happiness eludes them because it can't be found in a bottle of vodka or a line of cocaine & it becomes your addiction too. It can be all consuming if...
    Wifeofanaddict Wifeofanaddict 41-45, F 3 Responses May 28

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    A Light

    I cant believe how I feel. A couple of days ago. I felt trapped. I wrote a few lines for the first time online and out of those lines a friend appeared. I hope to meet this person someday. To tell them how they truly saved a persons life. My life. To look them in the eyes and let...
    sunflowerkate sunflowerkate 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    Hi everyone, five years ago I met the love of

    my life. It was one of those times when I wasn´t looking to meet anyone and then this man, this wonderful, funny, intelligent man became my friend. In no time we were a couple. As we were from different countries I had to go and finish my university degree. Once I finished I...
    littlemissworried littlemissworried 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 3

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    My ex college girlfriend,

    her husband was a cocaine user and career cocaine dealer,, one day he overdosed and she and her two children watched him have a seizure and die on the living room floor. I can imagine the trauma for all. She did love me for a time and noticed that she was highly critical if me...
    mrrabbitdigital mrrabbitdigital 46-50, M Sep 5

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    Just found out my kids dad/ex

    who keeps telling me he still loves me and will never be with anyone else has been sleeping with at least 3 different women in the last few weeks, he has had the kids during the school holidays too :(
    robyjo robyjo 31-35, F Jul 13

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    I Feel Like My Soul Was Taken From Me

    Hello, my name is Desiree and i am a mother of 4 special monkeys(kids). I have been married/with my husband for 10 years. We have been through counseling with an addict counselor to our church pastor. He has attended 12 step program and na classes. He goes to them but he leaves...
    dolface23 dolface23 31-35, F 2 Responses Nov 21, 2013

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    I Tend To Blame Myself

    I have been with the same person almost 11 years but I have known him for 16 years. I knew he smoked a lot of pot growing up but 7 years ago we had our son and moved in together then I realized that is wasn't just pot he was taking massive amounts of prescription pills. Finally...
    Me1216 Me1216 26-30, F 8 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Does The Cycle Ever Really End?

    I love my husband very much. We have overcome so much and I know he truly loves me. We have been together for about a decade and there have been some truly awesome times. But my husband is an addict. Most of the time, it was alcohol. Then he started abusing prescription drugs. It...
    5555654km 5555654km 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 27, 2013

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    I Feel So Alone

    I feel so alone all the time I feel afraid to go to sleep at night I am afraid I will wake up to him being dead. I don't feel like I can talk to anyone all of this is just eating me away. I have become such a negative person I dislike all drug users but yet I still stay with the...
    Me1216 Me1216 26-30, F 22 Responses Apr 5, 2013

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    Tough Love...Is It The Answer??

    I copied and pasted this from someone else...hope they don't mind.. A Poem.......... IF YOU LOVE ME, LET ME FALL IF you love me let me fall all by myself. Don't try to spread a net out to catch me, don't throw a pillow under me to cushion the pain so I don't have to feel it...
    mommy23boys mommy23boys 31-35 6 Responses Nov 25, 2013

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    I Too Have Been/Am Currently, The Other Half To A Drug Addict.

    First of all, it took me a while to find any online support, so I'm grateful I found this... I've been with my boyfriend for almost three years. I knew upon getting together he once struggled with an opiate addiction, but wasn't aware he never quit fighting that battle until...
    Melleigh93 Melleigh93 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2013

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    On The Other Side Looking In

    I think I can relate in a way to the addicts in our lives because I am a recovering addict myself. I have a severe disability from my curvature of the spine which has caused years of agony from pain.  18 years ago I was given vicodin and long story short, found myself abusing so...
    Santana2 Santana2 46-50 2 Responses Apr 16, 2011

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    The Pain Never Stops, I Wish I Could Forget But Can Not Let Go

    I thought I was marring the perfect man. The perfect man has turned into the worst part of my life. I long to be free but know that can never be, not until I finally breathe my last breath. the lies, that is the worst. The constant cut-downs, picking a fight to justify his...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 8 Responses Dec 26, 2011

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    I'm new to this. I am the daughter of a police

    officer and have never touch drugs. I am also the partner of a man with a 17 year heroin addiction. We have been together for around 2 years and we live together with my 7 year old daughter. He was clean when I met him and I was very naive. He had said that he had been clean...
    hoppy87 hoppy87 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Griefhearts2009 Griefhearts2009 36-40, M Aug 2

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    Is It Really Me?

    My husband has been addicted to hydrocodone for almost 2 years now. I have been a fool and belived him the first 2 times he told me he stoppped, just to find out later he didnt. He lies to me, sneaks off for hours without calling or answering his phone, takes private phone calls...
    Marie2581 Marie2581 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 30, 2013

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    The Worst Year of My Life

    Well, my husband started abusing prescription drugs last year, and now my life's pretty much in ruins.  We had to quit my job in January due to a chronic illness, we filed for bankruptcy a couple of months ago, and I have sold nearly all of my jewelry to pay bills. ...
    britt1449 britt1449 22-25 15 Responses Jul 11, 2009

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    My Fiance Is A Pill Addict And Its Killing Me

    My partner of three years struggles with a pill addiction. Most recently he has stolen pills from prescriptions belonging to others in the home. I have come to realize that I cannot change him. I struggle everyday, my whole person has changed immensely, I am an emotional wreck, I...
    distressedwoman distressedwoman 31-35 3 Responses Dec 15, 2012

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    Hello I am the wife of a drug addict.

    We have been married for 2 years July 21st. I began to notice major changes in his behavior and mood changes. Also the way he was w me. He never had any money, lied to me abt going to college to finish his degree, and of course the five min trip to the store took 2 hrs. I cried...
    CE21 CE21 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 5

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    Joe84 Joe84 26-30, M 2 Responses Aug 31

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    Addiction That Ruins A Family

    My wife of 13+ years had addiction problems before we were married. I went with her to her graduation right after we got together from the rehab she was in. She did have 10 years of sobriety, well sort of, she was still drinking and occasionally using pain meds. Then she went...
    NoEndInSight13 NoEndInSight13 36-40, M 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    So Lost...

    Hi, on the surface you see, I am a soccer mom, a dance mom, a college graduate, a pretty girl with a smile on her face in public. But what you don't see or know, is that my partner and father of my children is a crack addict, and that smile on my face is fake. when I first met...
    SoTorn17 SoTorn17 26-30 7 Responses Apr 30, 2013

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    Total pain in my heart tried to make things go

    and go about my normal activities . I received a confusing phone call a few moments ago and it wasn't you where did you go ??? I'm no saint it this is why I understand I whis the things I regret could be un done .Telling me honestly did nothing but see you for what its worth...
    kidctc kidctc 26-30, F Sep 13

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    Pregnant Drug Addict Boyfriend Missing

    I was dating my bf for 2 years .. A year into the relationship he confessed to me he had got himself into some problems and tried doing crack cocaine. My life has been living hell ever since .. he has done eveything a addict could do.. steal.. lie.. cheat.. beat me.. and at the...
    Englishmuffin82 Englishmuffin82 31-35 2 Responses Nov 24, 2013

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    I Am Unhappy In My Marriage

    My husband lies to me almost every day. He has battled with substance abuse and has stolen money from me and us. He has also stolen from others. Sometimes I wonder if anything he says to me is true. I know we are at a low point right now. He just lost his job and is constantly...
    Laylil23 Laylil23 26-30, F 5 Responses Oct 6, 2013

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    Death of Three Lives

    My Husband was on drugs 20 years.  Nothing serious at first than escalated to major pain killers, cocaine, crank, and then crack.  My son did not even know until he was 14.  We insisted He go to clinics and he did; about six or seven, always to go back to the...
    chrisoharris chrisoharris 56-60 3 Responses Jul 12, 2009

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    I have a blog covering my experiences of living

    with an addict and then struggling to live without him after he overdosed ... rebecca87.blog.com Just in case it helps anyone x
    B876 B876 22-25 1 Response Oct 21

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    I am a girlfriend of a Heroine addict.

    I met him about two years ago and completely fell head of heels. I didn't know much about addiction when I met him but now I know the pain. I knew that he used drugs when I met him cause I met him while he was in the hospital detoxing, in my little mind I thought he was all...
    readyforhope readyforhope 22-25 1 Response Apr 28

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    Well my wife finished her rehab

    for opiate addiction. I am proud of her. Hopefully she continues with NA and this does not happen again. Hopefully her court case for well and she can get her nursing license back someday. In the meantime I hope she can get a job as well.
    cplichristmd cplichristmd 31-35, M Mar 3

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    I have been married to my husband

    for 5 years. When we first got together during our last year of college, we liked to party as any young kids do. We would drink and smoke and everything was fine. It wasn't until the 2nd year of our marriage I realized he was addicted to opiates. Once I realized that his drug...
    youaremystrength youaremystrength 26-30 6 Responses Aug 5

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    Another Day In Hell.....

    So my husband comes home today, I look at his eyes and truly believe he has used today... I confront him with it, he denies it of course, then I tell him to leave. He gets mad, tells me I'm wrong, swears on our children he's clean, and leaves. Then I start doubting myself as...
    mommy23boys mommy23boys 31-35 2 Responses Nov 5, 2013

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    He's Changed..

    My husband has been using for a long time behind my back but lately it's gotten out of control. He takes all our money, his mood will give you whiplash, he disappears at night in my car with no drivers license. We have 3 beautiful babies together. I've seen too many go down this...
    TrulyMommy3 TrulyMommy3 26-30, F 4 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    It never stops, does it?

    My husband has been relapsing off and on for several years now and I am realizing he may be using drugs again. I am seeing the signs but as always the denial is there. He always wants to know how I can continually question his sobriety. Easy, the money stolen, the lies, all...
    thingsmustchange2 thingsmustchange2 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 11

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    Our Family Crisis, My Personal Insanity

    10 years ago I fell in love with my soul mate. Everyday we held each other and thanked God for guiding us to each other. Our love was a beautiful thing. So beautiful that we decided to have children to share it with and got married to make it official. We were blessed with a...
    jdcab123 jdcab123 26-30, F 8 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    Its been a few months

    since posting and I can say that Im still in the same situation. He left for a while, as normal. This time was different though. He left and his ex gf got him a car. A rental car. She got him hotel rooms and just did everything for him to "help" him. So he stayed away. Just...
    ammyyy ammyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 21

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    We who are not drug users have to understand

    this part of all this. That is this: yes they are addicted to drugs. I've been researching more since I found out. This is what I come to understand and that is how it feels. You see the way you feel right now. Your feelings of loneliness, boredom and can't stop thinking about...
    enki1770 enki1770 41-45, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    Do people come back from heroin?

    Are there ANY good stories with HAPPY endings? Any HOPEFUL advice? Or just leave? I try to stay hopeful and positive but it is HARD. Its a very special day today and he said wed go see a movie and go to dinner. I got home from work and nothing. Hes still gone and the days...
    ammyyy ammyyy 26-30, F 6 Responses Apr 23

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    I am so happy I found this site every

    where I searched it was all about the addicts and what you can do to help them on their journey. I am so frustrated I am miserable, feel alone, and am broke all the time..... I ask him to leave but he always comes back. I'm torn because I love him and worry about his well being...
    libertykv libertykv 22-25, F 8 Responses May 5

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    This was an old post from a week ago.

    Its been a few months since posting and I can say that Im still in the same situation. He left for a while, as normal. This time was different though. He left and his ex gf got him a car. A rental car. She got him hotel rooms and just did everything for him to "help" him. So...
    ammyyy ammyyy 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 25

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