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    Alcoholic Break Up

    I broke up with my boyfriend 5 days ago. were together for 1 year. i have 2 kids from my exhusband ( ex addict). My ex boyfriend drink about 3 to 4 days a week. 3 to 6 beers on week days. Lots and lots on weekends. Enough to start making me feel uncomfortable. he also has an...
    ggmbq ggmbq 31-35 1 Response Mar 3, 2012

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