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I Have Commitment Issues

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    Maybe I'm Just Retarded.

    I don't know. Maybe it's the thought of being with the wrong person that freaks me out. Maybe I'm heartless and unworthy of love. Maybe I can't open up to someone. Maybe I fear being rejected after I express my love. Maybe I'm a wuss. Maybe I'm a *****. Maybe I'm still a little...
    imsohorridithurts imsohorridithurts 18-21 5 Responses Jan 5, 2011

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    I think I'm scared of commitment I don't know

    why I am. I've had boyfriends and they all told me they loved me but I broke up with all of them, and then I've had guys fall for me as friends and want more but I avoid relationships saying I don't want to hurt them. Maybe I think I'm not worth loving since growing up I never...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F Dec 31, 2013

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    How Do I Not Be Afraid Of Men And Commitment?

    When I was in high school, I practically ran from every guy the asked me out. I rejected EVERY single one. Not because I didn't find them attractive (most of them were actually really cute) I just were scared of them. I am only 17 years old and I think I am at least attractive...
    PharaohAzul PharaohAzul 16-17, F 1 Response May 20, 2013

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    I Need to Stop This Maddness

    I have issues with commitment. I always have. I've done a lot of research and reading to try and figure out why this is. I may have the answers but I cannot be sure. Most recent and something that I do on a regular basis is this; I just met a guy who is adorable and funny and...
    tattooedthin tattooedthin 26-30 1 Response Jun 11, 2009

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    An Aversion To Men

    To fall in love is to lose control, and to lose control is to lose your life… “Dooo do do do dooododo doot doot dodoot dodoot do do” Mario’s theme song is playing from my cell phone. Another text. How do I say I’m not interested anymore without actually having to say it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    Okay so basically i have really bad commitment

    issues.... I think and i really don't know why. Basically i have two parents and they have been together for almost 30 years And i thought commitment issues would only be a thing single parent children would have. But honestly the thought of short term relationships, or...
    cutiepatootie96 cutiepatootie96 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    My Predicament

    Now, I had my heart shattered to pieces about 10 months ago... and I truly want love and feel I would have lot's to offer to a partner. I so badly want that feeling. Now I've had men interested in me some whom are very good guys and good to me. but I cannot commit.. It's like I...
    adorablue adorablue 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2012

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    A Monster'S Dilemma

    I just realized that I am incapable of "being in love" and that I am also thoroughly incapable of commitment to other people. In short, I just like the company/companionship - but it never goes anywhere.Also, I also found out a major turn off - I hate it when I am "smarter" than...
    MonsterBeneathYourBed MonsterBeneathYourBed 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2013

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    Need To Get A Grip.. :|

    So there was this guy I'd been talking to for a while (let's call him X), like day and night. We texted till 3 in the morning, and talked about the most random things. Soon enough i suspected he started liking me, and my suspicion was confirmed when his cousin confided in me that...
    nightowl98 nightowl98 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    I Can'T Commit To Things

    I can't commit to anything. I get bored short time after i find something that seems interesting.. Even at work, after a couple of hours i feel like am in jail..I watch people find their passion in something/someone and they commit to it/them their whole life.. I feel like am in...
    Ivan86 Ivan86 26-30, M Apr 25, 2013

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    I'm 27 and I've been in 6 relationships

    that have only ever lasted a year or just over, I've broke it off with them all.. Seem to have a good reason at the time but really its me picking silly little faults about them, I'm not perfect and I know that, why do I keep pushing these great guys away? I've never been in...
    ssjosie87 ssjosie87 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    I Just Want My Freedom

    Been there done that. I like female companionship. I just like it when they are free and so am I. No dependance. No controls.
    yukon yukon 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29, 2008

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    So. Just came here after doing a bunch of

    quizzes to help me figure out if I am a commitment phobe or not :) I can't say I tick all the boxes. I am currently in a long term relationship (4 yrs) and have endured long term relationships in the past (2 yrs max). So I know I can have relationships. I can enter relationships...
    yellowtrees yellowtrees 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    This Is Sad

    my longest relationship has been like 4 months and im never really completely happy, I know by now that its not the woman and its all me and I dont know what to do to fix it but my views currently are that im never going to get married and have kids because I wouldnt want to...
    sayiwont sayiwont 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 31, 2009

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    Oppurtinity Vs. That "Right" Feeling

    I haven't really had the greatest history of monogamy, but with all that aside i have a dilemma at the moment. I'm dating a great guy, he has a job and keeps himself busy, definitely not a slacker, i love him but i just don't get that spark with him. There's another guy a friend...
    bluecokecan bluecokecan 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 11, 2008

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    2 Commit Or Not Commit...

    Interesting topic my dear, I would have liked to know more of your thoughts about the subject.  Is it because the one you are currently with, you feel is not enough for you?  Or is it that you realize you are constantly growing and need to explore more of life? How...
    lonewolf11 lonewolf11 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2007

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    One Person I Love

    I love my wife very much. We have lots of fun together and our sex life is awesome.   I have a hard time not flirting with other women.  I do it alot and feel guilty.  I dont want to hurt my wifes feelings. i love her very much. i would never cheat on her. I...
    jasonthesavage jasonthesavage 31-35, M 9 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    I Have Major Commitment Phobia

    I have just come to the break through realization that I have a major commitment phobia problem, regarding life(decision making) work and job's. love as well but i want to talk about the work job aspect of it. I would love to hear from others that are going through this as well...
    dwirker dwirker 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    Can't Stay In Relationships

    Ever since i was young and at school, i could only go out with a boy for about a month then i would get bored. All my friends would make fun of me as soon as i got a new boyfriend, everyone knew it wouldn't go as far as a month! As i got older, relationships often spanned out to...
    Stefxo Stefxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2010

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    I Need to Stop This Maddness

    I have issues with commitment. I always have. I've done a lot of research and reading to try and figure out why this is. I may have the answers but I cannot be sure. Most recent and something that I do on a regular basis is this; I just met a guy who is adorable and funny and...
    tattooedthin tattooedthin 26-30 3 Responses Jun 11, 2009

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    I Can't Commit to Anything In Life

    I have commitment problems in relationships and with places. I can't seem to stay in one place physically or emotionally long enough to forge anything of real value. I love people, but can't stay, because i'm always on the move, I relocate about every six months, because i...
    username8 username8 22-25 Feb 15, 2009

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    Shes Always On My Mind

    I have a fear of commitment. I push people away when they show me a little bit of love. Even though I desperately need their love. I fear that when I am in front of them they wont like what they see. They will reject me and that would just crush me. Im crazy about this girl, and...
    TadaAsatoorian TadaAsatoorian 22-25, M Jun 21, 2013

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    Every time I get into a relationship,

    a couple of days later, I just feel like I'm not good enough and it just makes me want to break it off. I'm either out of their social class or I can't be who they want me to be. I think I have commitment issues. Somebody once told me that a long time ago, but I didn't want to...
    MaryRiddle3 MaryRiddle3 13-15, F Apr 12

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     I Don't Even Want...

     I don't even want to get into that right now 
    OldnDaysinSF OldnDaysinSF 22-25, F Aug 30, 2009

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    A Woman With A Commitment Issue Is Unheard Of

    I have a friend who ldolises her partner. They have been together for a long time now and are as much in love as they were when they first met.  This is the couple that everyone wants to be.  Everything on the surface looks like a fairytale as they love each other so...
    siennalilamarie siennalilamarie 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 28, 2009

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    commitment scares me.

    I dated this guy for a year & it got really serious. I loved a lot of the aspects of being in a relationship. but then he said "I love you" & it scared the **** out of me. I flipped. I broke up with him & I was seen like a ***** because I just couldn't find it in me to say "I...
    countryanon countryanon 16-17, F Jan 2

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    I Can't Wait Forever

    I had a hard time finding the exact group. And it became obvious to me that this one was actually perfect. It was hard to admit, but I think this is exactly what it's about. I met my lover when I was only a teen (15). He is seven years older than me, but our age wasn't a problem...
    AyanasSight AyanasSight 18-21, F Oct 16, 2013

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    I have a hard time falling in love .

    I've dated a guy for months but I never fell in love with him. He was in love with me because I was his first real girlfriend . Any guy I've dated I liked them but never loved them. I could even mess with someone and not have any feelings afterwards. Is this normal ? I feel like...
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I Have Never Felt Ready

    Not once, have I ever felt ready to be with someone. I have lost count of the amount of men I have dated, the amount of men I have got to the 'seeing' one another stage then how many times I have ran for the hills screaming. I have never had a problem meeting men or dating. It...
    Ella420 Ella420 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2013

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    I Can't Commit to Anything In Life

    I have commitment problems in relationships and with places. I can't seem to stay in one place physically or emotionally long enough to forge anything of real value. I love people, but can't stay, because i'm always on the move, I relocate about every six months, because i...
    username8 username8 22-25 19 Responses Feb 15, 2009

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    I am recently divorced

    and began a new relationship right away. I have been dating this man for 1 and 1/2 years and have been living with him for a year. I love him very much and he is the perfect boyfriend. The only issue that really bothers me is that he is significantly older than be by 27 years...
    mcsmilz88 mcsmilz88 26-30, F Jun 9

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    Commitment Phobia

    I have trouble following trough with things. I graduated HS in 2005 and went straight to college. I changed my major so many times. Psychology Psychobiology Music IDD (digital design) I ended up dropping out of my first college which was a private school and went to community...
    LaBebe LaBebe 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    Nope!

    i hadn't really been on ep for some time, until recently, so i thought i'de have a look at the experience groups i was a member of. and i found this one!  ha!  i don't feel this way anymore.  on the contrary, i think i'm ready!  for something deep, lasting, meaningful, and...
    natasha9 natasha9 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2012

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    I've been hurt and damaged.

    I have self esteem issues and don't know if I'll ever fully believe any man can truly love me with all my imperfections. Every time I meet a good man, a genuinely nice man, you actually gives a **** about me, I push them away. I hurt and I hurt until they've had enough. Why...
    mitted mitted 18-21, F 2 Responses May 12

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    He has commitment issues not me.

    I want to help him but I don't know how and he keeps pushing me away. If you have commitment issues how would you want someone to help you?
    pankakes33 pankakes33 22-25, F May 30

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    It's extremely hard for me to form long lasting

    intimate relationships with a man. I fear letting anyone get close to me. And it's getting in the way of the relationship. I hold myself back...for whatever reason :(
    NightOwl076 NightOwl076 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 30

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    I don't know what's wrong with me.

    .I hurt men. Commitment scares me.. like I'm being strangled...to the point where I can feel my tummy in knots... I play games...I flirt with no guilt...I lead people on. My thoughts of real love have dimished...
    Amichi Amichi 41-45, F 2 Responses May 12

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    Marriage

    So today a friend of mine got married. I'm happy for her and I know it's what she wants but, I found out that I am definately terrified of marriage. So she had a very intimate ceremony with just close friends and a commisioner, and I was one of her witnesses. So I was sitting...
    RedIce15 RedIce15 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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