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I Have Commitment Issues

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    2 Commit Or Not Commit...

    Interesting topic my dear, I would have liked to know more of your thoughts about the subject.  Is it because the one you are currently with, you feel is not enough for you?  Or is it that you realize you are constantly growing and need to explore more of life? How...
    lonewolf11 lonewolf11 41-45, M 1 Response Nov 19, 2007

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    A Monster'S Dilemma

    I just realized that I am incapable of "being in love" and that I am also thoroughly incapable of commitment to other people. In short, I just like the company/companionship - but it never goes anywhere.Also, I also found out a major turn off - I hate it when I am "smarter" than...
    MonsterBeneathYourBed MonsterBeneathYourBed 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 6, 2013

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    Need To Get A Grip.. :|

    So there was this guy I'd been talking to for a while (let's call him X), like day and night. We texted till 3 in the morning, and talked about the most random things. Soon enough i suspected he started liking me, and my suspicion was confirmed when his cousin confided in me that...
    nightowl98 nightowl98 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 1, 2012

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    I'm 27 and I've been in 6 relationships

    that have only ever lasted a year or just over, I've broke it off with them all.. Seem to have a good reason at the time but really its me picking silly little faults about them, I'm not perfect and I know that, why do I keep pushing these great guys away? I've never been in...
    ssjosie87 ssjosie87 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 19

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    Maybe I'm Just Retarded.

    I don't know. Maybe it's the thought of being with the wrong person that freaks me out. Maybe I'm heartless and unworthy of love. Maybe I can't open up to someone. Maybe I fear being rejected after I express my love. Maybe I'm a wuss. Maybe I'm a *****. Maybe I'm still a little...
    imsohorridithurts imsohorridithurts 18-21 5 Responses Jan 5, 2011

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    How Do I Not Be Afraid Of Men And Commitment?

    When I was in high school, I practically ran from every guy the asked me out. I rejected EVERY single one. Not because I didn't find them attractive (most of them were actually really cute) I just were scared of them. I am only 17 years old and I think I am at least attractive...
    PharaohAzul PharaohAzul 16-17, F 1 Response May 20, 2013

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    I Just Want My Freedom

    Been there done that. I like female companionship. I just like it when they are free and so am I. No dependance. No controls.
    yukon yukon 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 29, 2008

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    I think I'm scared of commitment I don't know

    why I am. I've had boyfriends and they all told me they loved me but I broke up with all of them, and then I've had guys fall for me as friends and want more but I avoid relationships saying I don't want to hurt them. Maybe I think I'm not worth loving since growing up I never...
    secretlyfelix secretlyfelix 18-21, F Dec 31, 2013

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    I Can't Commit to Anything In Life

    I have commitment problems in relationships and with places. I can't seem to stay in one place physically or emotionally long enough to forge anything of real value. I love people, but can't stay, because i'm always on the move, I relocate about every six months, because i...
    username8 username8 22-25 Feb 15, 2009

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    One Person I Love

    I love my wife very much. We have lots of fun together and our sex life is awesome.   I have a hard time not flirting with other women.  I do it alot and feel guilty.  I dont want to hurt my wifes feelings. i love her very much. i would never cheat on her. I...
    jasonthesavage jasonthesavage 31-35, M 9 Responses Jan 24, 2008

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    Okay so basically i have really bad commitment

    issues.... I think and i really don't know why. Basically i have two parents and they have been together for almost 30 years And i thought commitment issues would only be a thing single parent children would have. But honestly the thought of short term relationships, or...
    cutiepatootie96 cutiepatootie96 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 19

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    I Need to Stop This Maddness

    I have issues with commitment. I always have. I've done a lot of research and reading to try and figure out why this is. I may have the answers but I cannot be sure. Most recent and something that I do on a regular basis is this; I just met a guy who is adorable and funny and...
    tattooedthin tattooedthin 26-30 3 Responses Jun 11, 2009

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    Commitment Phobia

    I have trouble following trough with things. I graduated HS in 2005 and went straight to college. I changed my major so many times. Psychology Psychobiology Music IDD (digital design) I ended up dropping out of my first college which was a private school and went to community...
    LaBebe LaBebe 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    I Can't Commit to Anything In Life

    I have commitment problems in relationships and with places. I can't seem to stay in one place physically or emotionally long enough to forge anything of real value. I love people, but can't stay, because i'm always on the move, I relocate about every six months, because i...
    username8 username8 22-25 18 Responses Feb 15, 2009

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    A Woman With A Commitment Issue Is Unheard Of

    I have a friend who ldolises her partner. They have been together for a long time now and are as much in love as they were when they first met.  This is the couple that everyone wants to be.  Everything on the surface looks like a fairytale as they love each other so...
    siennalilamarie siennalilamarie 18-21, F 8 Responses Nov 28, 2009

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    Marriage

    So today a friend of mine got married. I'm happy for her and I know it's what she wants but, I found out that I am definately terrified of marriage. So she had a very intimate ceremony with just close friends and a commisioner, and I was one of her witnesses. So I was sitting...
    RedIce15 RedIce15 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    This Is Sad

    my longest relationship has been like 4 months and im never really completely happy, I know by now that its not the woman and its all me and I dont know what to do to fix it but my views currently are that im never going to get married and have kids because I wouldnt want to...
    sayiwont sayiwont 18-21, M 2 Responses Aug 31, 2009

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     I Don't Even Want...

     I don't even want to get into that right now 
    OldnDaysinSF OldnDaysinSF 22-25, F Aug 30, 2009

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    I Need to Stop This Maddness

    I have issues with commitment. I always have. I've done a lot of research and reading to try and figure out why this is. I may have the answers but I cannot be sure. Most recent and something that I do on a regular basis is this; I just met a guy who is adorable and funny and...
    tattooedthin tattooedthin 26-30 1 Response Jun 11, 2009

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    I Can'T Commit To Things

    I can't commit to anything. I get bored short time after i find something that seems interesting.. Even at work, after a couple of hours i feel like am in jail..I watch people find their passion in something/someone and they commit to it/them their whole life.. I feel like am in...
    Ivan86 Ivan86 26-30, M Apr 25, 2013

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    Oppurtinity Vs. That "Right" Feeling

    I haven't really had the greatest history of monogamy, but with all that aside i have a dilemma at the moment. I'm dating a great guy, he has a job and keeps himself busy, definitely not a slacker, i love him but i just don't get that spark with him. There's another guy a friend...
    bluecokecan bluecokecan 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 11, 2008

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    My Predicament

    Now, I had my heart shattered to pieces about 10 months ago... and I truly want love and feel I would have lot's to offer to a partner. I so badly want that feeling. Now I've had men interested in me some whom are very good guys and good to me. but I cannot commit.. It's like I...
    adorablue adorablue 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 9, 2012

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    I have a hard time falling in love .

    I've dated a guy for months but I never fell in love with him. He was in love with me because I was his first real girlfriend . Any guy I've dated I liked them but never loved them. I could even mess with someone and not have any feelings afterwards. Is this normal ? I feel like...
    REALWORDS823 REALWORDS823 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    commitment scares me.

    I dated this guy for a year & it got really serious. I loved a lot of the aspects of being in a relationship. but then he said "I love you" & it scared the **** out of me. I flipped. I broke up with him & I was seen like a ***** because I just couldn't find it in me to say "I...
    countryanon countryanon 16-17, F Jan 2

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    An Aversion To Men

    To fall in love is to lose control, and to lose control is to lose your life… “Dooo do do do dooododo doot doot dodoot dodoot do do” Mario’s theme song is playing from my cell phone. Another text. How do I say I’m not interested anymore without actually having to say it...
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Oct 4, 2011

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    I Have Major Commitment Phobia

    I have just come to the break through realization that I have a major commitment phobia problem, regarding life(decision making) work and job's. love as well but i want to talk about the work job aspect of it. I would love to hear from others that are going through this as well...
    dwirker dwirker 31-35, M 2 Responses Jan 19, 2013

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    I Have Never Felt Ready

    Not once, have I ever felt ready to be with someone. I have lost count of the amount of men I have dated, the amount of men I have got to the 'seeing' one another stage then how many times I have ran for the hills screaming. I have never had a problem meeting men or dating. It...
    Ella420 Ella420 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 16, 2013

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    I Can't Wait Forever

    I had a hard time finding the exact group. And it became obvious to me that this one was actually perfect. It was hard to admit, but I think this is exactly what it's about. I met my lover when I was only a teen (15). He is seven years older than me, but our age wasn't a problem...
    AyanasSight AyanasSight 18-21, F Oct 16, 2013

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    Every time I get into a relationship,

    a couple of days later, I just feel like I'm not good enough and it just makes me want to break it off. I'm either out of their social class or I can't be who they want me to be. I think I have commitment issues. Somebody once told me that a long time ago, but I didn't want to...
    MaryRiddle3 MaryRiddle3 13-15, F a week ago

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    Nope!

    i hadn't really been on ep for some time, until recently, so i thought i'de have a look at the experience groups i was a member of. and i found this one!  ha!  i don't feel this way anymore.  on the contrary, i think i'm ready!  for something deep, lasting, meaningful, and...
    natasha9 natasha9 36-40, F 1 Response Sep 28, 2012

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    Can't Stay In Relationships

    Ever since i was young and at school, i could only go out with a boy for about a month then i would get bored. All my friends would make fun of me as soon as i got a new boyfriend, everyone knew it wouldn't go as far as a month! As i got older, relationships often spanned out to...
    Stefxo Stefxo 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    My ex always said I could trust him. Then he started to hurt me. Said he had the trust issues when I never said anything about him but he started rumors. So now I have trust issues...
    Loveisupsetting Loveisupsetting 13-15, F Mar 29

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    I have marriage issues, but who doesn't?So for years my spouse has asked me to open up, to tell him what I really feel. He asked me a question and although I started off joking, it...
    2O5E4 2O5E4 22-25, F Mar 24

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    I really don't know why I have trust issues. It doesn't make sense why I do. I mean, I don't think I had them before I met my friend Isaac. But I can't be sure. Isaac has been my...
    DeJeKlu DeJeKlu 18-21, F Mar 29

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    I have trust issues because of my bullying from 1st grade to 9th grade. It was a bad experience.
    Done453 Done453 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    I mostly have trust issues because of bad past relationships. In my entire 18 years of living, I've dated 3 people. The first guy I dated for 2 years and he broke up with me via...
    agm0829 agm0829 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 5

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    Yes I have trust issues only because I grew up most of my child hood- early teen years being lied too from people I loved. But my trust has definitely gotten stronger the older I...
    kaseymwt kaseymwt 22-25, F Apr 10

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    I have daddy issues because my dad was forced out I the house because of me now it's been over a year since I talked to him! I miss him so much so now I'm attracted to older men...
    lifeishurtful lifeishurtful 13-15, F 4 Responses a week ago

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    I feel like whoever I talk to, whether it be teachers or acquaintances or people on EP or even best friends, that i'm just being a burden on them. In my head, I believe that they...
    urbanparadigm urbanparadigm 16-17, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Every guy I have ever liked in my entire life has either not felt the same way as me, has ended up being a total jerk, has used me, forgotten me, hurt me, or has simply tossed me...
    Sapphire14 Sapphire14 22-25, F 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I have huge trust issues. 1: my dad, ever since he came home drunk when I was 12 and had to call the cops on him. He spent a few months away from the family. He even missed my...
    broadwaybabe99 broadwaybabe99 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    The thing about me is that I need to be ABSOLUTELY sure that you will be true to your word. I don't want to find out you have lied to me next day. I've had trust issues since I was...
    Kitzami Kitzami 13-15, M Mar 21

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    Trust issues are a serious thing. It angers me when people just expect me to trust them right off the bat. Not just me, but no one should do that. It's like the person doesn't...
    JustCammy JustCammy 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    I hate having trust issues. It sucks. Especially when you're in a long distance relationship. I hate being on edge.
    Amydenson1 Amydenson1 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Letting Go Of Him Because He Cannot Let Go Of Her- Self-condemnation is the gateway to drug abuse,suicide,and worse. When I get sick of being the child of a drug addict,convicted...
    2ndGenPuppet 2ndGenPuppet 18-21, F Mar 31

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    My issues come from being left so many times. Also they stem from being cheated on. How will I ever be able to trust anyone again?
    BiO811HazarD BiO811HazarD 18-21, M 4 Responses Apr 1

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    I have very bad anger issues the littlest things set me off! I have gotten into many fights and in a ton of trouble because of my anger! I have been threatened to get sent to...
    Justanobody17 Justanobody17 16-17, F Apr 6

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    To be honest I do have some jealousy issues with my bestfriend.. And when I do I start acting all mean and I don't mean to but I don't know.. What should I do?
    itzlexx itzlexx 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    My boyfriends, john, best friend,Paul, died in a car accident in November. Paul was going to marry a girl. Now my boyfriend and her talk often. Which is understandable but lately...
    dixie201425 dixie201425 18-21, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    As I type this tonight, I find myself wishing I could turn back the clock and yet i realize that we are all here in this moment for a reason. From me writing this to you reading...
    PeterBGood PeterBGood 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I have anger management issues, which I have been working on since I've noticed them. However, no matter how long and hard someone has been working on controlling their anger...
    faeriefate faeriefate 18-21 a week ago

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    Help me my dad always hates it when i play on my laptop and my dad now comes in and says you should be doing your homework. I said "I am (and I'm telling the truth)" He says "well...
    BlockyEnder BlockyEnder 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I used to be so naive and only believed in innocence. But then people turned out to be not what I thought they were. So now it's very hard for me to trust people cuz history does...
    azngirl123 azngirl123 13-15, F 1 Response Mar 20

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    I have had three lovers who were confidential informants set me up to be arrested and prosecuted by law enforcement, in order to get out of their own felony charges.
    miles2gob4isleep miles2gob4isleep 56-60, F 3 Responses Mar 21

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