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I Have Controlling Parents

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    I am 25 yr old male. My Mom controls me,

    my sister, my dad, everyone. She is a nice person but she don't know controlling others is not good. From childhood she didn't let me to go far from the house with friends. She didn't let me to talk with girls from the childhood. Result I don't have a girlfriend and I don't know...
    brao brao 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 10

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    I Love Her, But It Is Frustrating.

    My Mom is very controlling. Let me start out by saying that she isn't a bad person, she just was never taught how to be a mother. Her Mother was very abusive and seemed to get a strange pleasure out of seeing her and her sisters emotionally hurting. So when I came, she was a...
    carlee1212 carlee1212 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 2, 2013

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    This is my story. Im very confused

    as I love my mom and feel she is a good person. Ive seen her do great things. But as an adult I now have a lot of relationship problems and interpersonal difficulty. I dont know if how I was raised was normal. Ive tried talking to others about it but no one beleives that a...
    butterfly1779 butterfly1779 31-35, F 3 Responses May 22

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    I understand parents are supposed to be

    controlling in a way, but dominating your life and choosing every single thing for you? Doesn't that seem overboard?! I've done everything for my parents. I swim even though I hate how I feel like drowning everyday, and I study hard to become a doctor, but I really want to...
    shivxni shivxni 13-15, F Mar 16

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    My Dad Is Making Me Miserable

    I'm a 15 year old girl. I have never done anything for my parents not to trust me, I get straight A's and take all AP (college) classes. I'm much more mature for my age, most of my friends are 16-19. I don't look 15 at all, I look more around 17 or 18. I've always been a very...
    Kahlaa Kahlaa 16-17 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    CrownedWithLaurel CrownedWithLaurel 16-17, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    My Controlling Mom....not Sure I Explained It Write Though

    I'm not angry at the moment with my mom so I figured Id take the time out to write it. I Already kinda elaborated on her in the I hate my mom section but this is a whole different matter. Of course i love her sometimes... i just wish that she didnt feel that she needs to...
    CaliGurl2007 CaliGurl2007 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    When I was 18 years old,

    my boyfriend and I were looking at apartments to rent. My parents offered to pay for half if we get a house since houses were cheap. Ever since then, my parents come over and walk through every room of the house and complain if there's a mess (btw I'm 20 now) and whenever we do...
    KaylaE93 KaylaE93 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 3

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    Getting Over Control...once I Finally Realized It Was Happening

    I never realized my parents were controlling until I moved away. At home, I knew my life felt grossly unfulfilled, I was rarely satisfied with myself and my goals, and I was always angry with my parents. It was unusual for me to voice these feelings, however...
    afterthefall afterthefall 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    It took my 40 year but I finally confronted my

    controlling mother at age 40. She has been this way my entire life, and I finally had enough. She wasn't doing it to me as much because I ignore her or only talk to her when I have to. But she was starting with my partner and our three young daughters and would talk behind my...
    jd1974 jd1974 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Here I'll give a brief synopsis of my story from

    as objective a standpoint as I can. From the age of 17 until early in my 24th year I was addicted to opiates, mainly heroin and morphine. I was raised in a two parent household and had a fairly normal, mostly loving relationship with my folks though my mother could be...
    billypilgrim billypilgrim 18-21, M Jan 16

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    My mom has always controlled my life.

    When I was a kid it was "do as you're told or else". When I was a teen, the only friends I was [sometimes] allowed to hang out with were the ones who lived in the same trailer park as me. I was never allows to have friends over our go places with friends on weekends. My mom...
    snyper89 snyper89 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    I'm not a kid anymore.

    .. But seems like they treat me like one. When I want to go out with a friend, I know I have to prepare all the answers beforehand otherwise, they say no. XD they always ask; Who is your friend? How do you know her/him? Do her/his parents know that she/he is going out? Where...
    EarlPhantomhive EarlPhantomhive 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 2

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    Even at 40 years old my grandmother loves

    acting like a ***** and a control freak. She is a perfectionist. If things aren't done to her liking she likes to call you names and insult you. If you aren't fast enough she raises her voice. her favorite tacitc is to threaten to destroy your own personal property. I'm to...
    Cordellg3 Cordellg3 36-40, M 1 Response Dec 22, 2013

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    kristinew123 kristinew123 26-30, F Mar 21

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    I recently got engaged two months ago

    and all of a sudden my Father changes his mind about my Fianc├ę because he doesn't pray! He knew all the facts before we got engaged and gave his blessing. Now my over controlling father has stopped us from seeing each other (I am 23) and tried to control me to stop wearing my...
    livelife2014 livelife2014 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Controlling Parents Use Their Individual Tactics To Try To "keep Me In Line".

    I am almost 28 years old, and have finally realized that my parents are, and always have been, controlling. My dad is 14 years older than my mom, so he comes from a different generation altogether. My test scores and grades never seemed good enough for him, even though I...
    carolina1983 carolina1983 26-30 2 Responses May 10, 2011

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    Happy Father's Day to our super hero,

    our Dads ­čŬ I love you dad thank you for everything!
    chastenox chastenox 16-17, F Jun 15

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    Mom Still Controls My Life As An Adult

    My mother has been controlling me my entire life. Up until I was 14, she did my homework for me because she felt I was too dumb to know how to do it. She never ever encouraged me to take an extra-curricular activity or make and spend time with friends. Her belief was that I...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 54 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    Break Me Down

    I am a 16, almost 17 year old, and I feel like my parents are about to tear me down. They are extremely controlling...beyond what you would believe. To the point where they at one point had pulled me out of a public school so that they could "keep their eyes on me". Everything I...
    BlueJay17 BlueJay17 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    I Am Thinking About Disobeying My Parents

    They think that I am going to sit up here, and run over me. I am not going to do anything today. They are going to force to do everything. Now my mom is talking about that I am going to see the psychiatrist. I am not going to see anybody. I am not going anywhere. They always feel...
    chicago54 chicago54 22-25, M 9 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    My dad is not letting me complete my studies

    and is forcing me into an arranged marriage. I'm South Asian so it's considered normal. So everyday people come over to judge me and then reject me even though I'm pretty. But people in my country want a very pretty daughter in law. My self confidence has plummeted because of...
    jujubug89 jujubug89 22-25 4 Responses Feb 18

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    I have a bad relationship with my parents,

    and still live at home. I'd move out as soon as I could. They say they don't trust me, and can't talk to me. And they can't, as I won't talk to them. They are controlling and manipulating everything I do, and I'm so sick and tired of it.
    dysfori dysfori 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Breaking Free

    I have been controlled by my mother my whole life. I was a surprise to my parents, my older brother is 13 yrs older than me. I don't think my mother was too pleased at the idea of starting all over with a baby, so my older sisters mostly raised me, until they married and moved...
    toxicchild toxicchild 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    My parents aren't controlling

    so much. They don't watch every step I do but still they take care that I do my homework. When I got out I have to explain with who and where and when I'm back. They look after my modesty and want that I am always dresses properly. That counts for my underwear too. And yes they...
    Jennyred Jennyred 13-15, F 6 Responses 6 days ago

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    Cfm: Control Freak Mom

    Most recently, being this semester school year, between September 5th to Dec 19th 2012, I have realized that my point-of-view has changed in a way that I never though possible. Way back, I used to think that I would be living with my parents forever and ever as long as time and...
    Jordasia1089 Jordasia1089 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2012

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    Almost 40 And My Mother Still Tries To Control Me

    I am at my wits end and being shunned by my parents. I have a very domineering mother. If you disagree with her religion or opinions you are nothing. She came from a domineering mother herself and has never broken the cycle. I was as she was raised in a religion within a religion...
    srch4sanity srch4sanity 36-40 5 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    I Want To Run Away From Home Im 21 Years Old

    my father passed away a little over a year ago. since then we have been having problems with his will as i have step siblings its been a bit of a mess since he has gone. my mother and i have been on really bad terms since everything has happened i dont know why she seems to be...
    itsmelyla itsmelyla 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2013

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    Feeling ignored

    I wish I didnt fight with my parents so much. We fight everyday now. I miss feeling close to them and now they just show affection to my sister. Im 19 years old and I feel like getting the cold shoulder from my dad is making my life harder than it should be. I feel so upset and...
    Dollywally Dollywally 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2012

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    Growing up I felt like a prisoner in my own

    home. The only time I really ever left the house was to go to school or to go shopping with my parents. Whenever I tried to do something outside they would belittle and manipulate me into not going. So I spent majority of my life closed behind doors. My parents often shouted at...
    dokkyo dokkyo 22-25 2 Responses Jul 13

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    Okay, my dad makes me do everything

    and I feel like a servant! He acts normal around everyone else. A few years ago my mom died and I wasn't close with my dad before that. Well I am supposed to be getting survivors benefits checks (260$ a month) and I've never seen any of that money nor has he ever just given me...
    wendyangelina wendyangelina 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    So my boyfriend and I are wanting to get a new

    dog for our little puppy to play with. This dog is 3 yrs old, fixed, has all his shots. But my parents are not liking the fact that it's an Aussie. Even though we have our own place, they always decide what goes on in my life. If you were put in my situation, would you get the...
    KaylaE93 KaylaE93 18-21, F Feb 4

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    My Life Was Chosen For Me

    My parents were a strange couple, polar opposites, but still in there own way very controlling parents. My mother came from a wealthy family and was collage educated. My father grew up dirt poor on a farm during the depression and had to work since he was very young just to...
    xj287 xj287 41-45, M Oct 15, 2013

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    Bitchy Mother About Volunteer Work

    My mother won't stop bitching and controlling how I allot time to ******* volunteer activities. Problem is she has a certain amount of experience in that group that gives her respect from others, and I'm honestly just part of that volunteer group to please her. I already go once...
    Blackcat314 Blackcat314 22-25 Oct 14, 2013

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    Help I. Need To Escape!

    I recently had to move home because of an illness I lost everything,my job,my finances,my boyfriend,and living in the city I had always dreamed of NYC....now today after discussing that I want a bank account again because I lost mine She tells me that maybe I can have the money...
    bleuelectrc9 bleuelectrc9 26-30, F Nov 22, 2013

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    I grew up with a very controlling

    and manipulative mother, and a passive father. I'm now approaching 40, and want the younger kids to know it does get better. My mother seemed to have social anxieties. She had no friends and didn't work. My father worked 60-80 hour workweeks, and we were not well off...
    AnnieMarbles AnnieMarbles 41-45, F Jan 1

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    Got a B in a college level class in high school

    while taking three other AP classes? Lemme go **** myself for bringing shame upon my famiry
    tastyfurnace tastyfurnace 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    Despite the pain I feel,

    I will start out by saying - I do love my parents. They have paid for my college and living expenses and more, and I am very thankful. However - I am living proof that money doesn't always buy happiness. While my parents have always thrown whatever money I want at me, they...
    unpredictableprediction unpredictableprediction 18-21, F 2 Responses May 25

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    Am I Just Being Paranoid?

    So the people who I think are controlling me are my mother and brother. My father is okay but we don't really see each other alot despite living in the same household. I am only 16, 17 in a month, so I cannot move out until college. I am a rising senior and from a Hispanic and...
    MichelleSH MichelleSH 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    my dad controls everything

    that goes on in my life and its getting out of hand I think its because im in highschool now and he feels like im growing up or something but he needs to give me space....
    starysky98 starysky98 13-15, F Jun 29

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    Overcontrolling Leads To Ruined Lives

    At the age of 28, on the verge of finishing a Master's degree, you'd think that I'd have the world in the palm of my hands by now. Au contraire--I have been belittled, guilt tripped, manipulated, and controlled by my aging parents for over 24 years. Worse yet, so have my younger...
    bambiraptor9 bambiraptor9 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    Runaways

    lets run away from home all we need is each other and no one else
    SamTraveler16 SamTraveler16 16-17, M Nov 24, 2013

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    Controlling Parents Attempt To Steal Your Identity And Make It Their's

    (I posted this as a confession , but thought I would also share it here) How in the world can I love my controlling parent? My mom and I were estranged for six months after a stunt she pulled where I just couldn't take it anymore. It was the best and in some parts worst (breaking...
    growwhereyouglow growwhereyouglow 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    I'm 18 my parents are

    so controlling they tell who I can hang out with who I can't during highschool I skipped a grade, was an interm, made good grades, had 2 jobs, and always took care of my chores, but its never good enough either they say I could do more or that I need another job trying to tell...
    Shelliemoose Shelliemoose 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 12, 2013

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    Not Really Controlling But Driving Me Crazy

    my mom is driving me up the m************ wall!!!! like so serious!! she's always fussing about SOMETHING its unnerving i can't wait to move next month it's like she wants things perfect although she say she doesn't but actions speak louder than words all i know is i'm tired of...
    Juicy09 Juicy09 18-21, F Jul 21, 2012

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    I'm 26 but it still seems my parents control my

    life. Mostly my father. I guess he just wants whats best for me, not sure. Anyways, he forces his opinions on me about everything, if I decide I don't want to talk about a topic, and if no one else is around, he'll pin me down until I answer his question. It's frustrating...
    cheechako cheechako 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    My Parents Test My Limit...

    Its another day&my mother and I still aren't on speaking grounds.Her tone of voice hasn't changed one bit since this whole thing started.I'm really sick of it now,&I just want her to let it go or let me go.I've realized that even though she's given me everything I've ever wanted...
    notreadytomakenice notreadytomakenice 22-25, F May 13, 2011

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