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I Have Controlling Parents

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    butterflyannah butterflyannah 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    Controlling Parents Attempt To Steal Your Identity And Make It Their's

    (I posted this as a confession , but thought I would also share it here) How in the world can I love my controlling parent? My mom and I were estranged for six months after a stunt she pulled where I just couldn't take it anymore. It was the best and in some parts worst (breaking...
    growwhereyouglow growwhereyouglow 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Am I Just Being Paranoid?

    So the people who I think are controlling me are my mother and brother. My father is okay but we don't really see each other alot despite living in the same household. I am only 16, 17 in a month, so I cannot move out until college. I am a rising senior and from a Hispanic and...
    MichelleSH MichelleSH 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 7, 2013

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    I'm 26 but it still seems my parents control my

    life. Mostly my father. I guess he just wants whats best for me, not sure. Anyways, he forces his opinions on me about everything, if I decide I don't want to talk about a topic, and if no one else is around, he'll pin me down until I answer his question. It's frustrating...
    cheechako cheechako 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I have a bad relationship with my parents,

    and still live at home. I'd move out as soon as I could. They say they don't trust me, and can't talk to me. And they can't, as I won't talk to them. They are controlling and manipulating everything I do, and I'm so sick and tired of it.
    dysfori dysfori 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 26

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    For years they refused to let me get any kind

    of portable electronic device. "Because it shuts you out from the world and that's not good for you." That actually did just the opposite for me. It led me to become less close with all my friends, and less close with my parents. They finally gave in to years of complaining...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F Aug 4

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    kristinew123 kristinew123 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 21

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    Mom Still Controls My Life As An Adult

    My mother has been controlling me my entire life. Up until I was 14, she did my homework for me because she felt I was too dumb to know how to do it. She never ever encouraged me to take an extra-curricular activity or make and spend time with friends. Her belief was that I...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 54 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    I'm 25 years old and I live in south america,

    I still live with my parents only because I'm scared of leaving and them having heart attacks or something and blaming it on me, I barely go out because when i do, my mother gets angry at me, to the point i don't enjoy it because im worried that she's gonna yell at me when I'm...
    TheGuiltTripGirl TheGuiltTripGirl 22-25, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    It's like my mother has two personalities.

    One moment she is happy and interested in our conversation...the next she is crabby and doesn't want to speak with me anymore. So frustrating! As my brothers wedding comes closer, the more anxiety I have for being around my parents. They are so judgmental and it makes me dread...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Aug 8

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    Overcontrolling Leads To Ruined Lives

    At the age of 28, on the verge of finishing a Master's degree, you'd think that I'd have the world in the palm of my hands by now. Au contraire--I have been belittled, guilt tripped, manipulated, and controlled by my aging parents for over 24 years. Worse yet, so have my younger...
    bambiraptor9 bambiraptor9 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    My Controlling Mom....not Sure I Explained It Write Though

    I'm not angry at the moment with my mom so I figured Id take the time out to write it. I Already kinda elaborated on her in the I hate my mom section but this is a whole different matter. Of course i love her sometimes... i just wish that she didnt feel that she needs to...
    CaliGurl2007 CaliGurl2007 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    My Parents Test My Limit...

    Its another day&my mother and I still aren't on speaking grounds.Her tone of voice hasn't changed one bit since this whole thing started.I'm really sick of it now,&I just want her to let it go or let me go.I've realized that even though she's given me everything I've ever wanted...
    notreadytomakenice notreadytomakenice 22-25, F May 13, 2011

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    My mother used to be

    so cool,i could go anywhere and do anything,but then i turned 16 and all of the sudden she wanted to play mom,before i was allowed to party without her bothering me and then she just changed,she used to trust me and i cant figure out why that stopped,we had been friends before...
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I was doing so well..

    .and then I let them in again. I didn't talk to my parents for a few days....and today my mom called me...I missed first call. I called her back a few hours later...and I let her in again...telling her things she obviously didn't care about. AHHH! I was doing so well! I guess set...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Aug 3

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    I recently came out to my parents

    and they are Christian. Mom was immediately hounding me to talk to a pastor about being gay and dad told me a horror story of his best friend in high school who was gay. Dad punched him for being this way. Later the guy got AIDS and dad feels that he deserved it for being a...
    jxlecler jxlecler 13-15, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I like having controlling parents

    because then you will have a lot less of a chance of learning right and wrong. Also it can help me learn better.
    MichaelEgitto MichaelEgitto 13-15, M Aug 14

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    I am 25 yr old male. My Mom controls me,

    my sister, my dad, everyone. She is a nice person but she don't know controlling others is not good. From childhood she didn't let me to go far from the house with friends. She didn't let me to talk with girls from the childhood. Result I don't have a girlfriend and I don't know...
    brao brao 22-25, M 1 Response Jun 10

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    I Love Her, But It Is Frustrating.

    My Mom is very controlling. Let me start out by saying that she isn't a bad person, she just was never taught how to be a mother. Her Mother was very abusive and seemed to get a strange pleasure out of seeing her and her sisters emotionally hurting. So when I came, she was a...
    carlee1212 carlee1212 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 2, 2013

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    Getting Over Control...once I Finally Realized It Was Happening

    I never realized my parents were controlling until I moved away. At home, I knew my life felt grossly unfulfilled, I was rarely satisfied with myself and my goals, and I was always angry with my parents. It was unusual for me to voice these feelings, however...
    afterthefall afterthefall 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    Got a B in a college level class in high school

    while taking three other AP classes? Lemme go **** myself for bringing shame upon my famiry
    tastyfurnace tastyfurnace 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    My mother is the controlling parent

    who tries to control everyone and everything. Yesterday I received an unexpected phone call from my mom. It had been almost 2 years since we last spoke to each other. And then living million miles away doesn't help either. Two years ago, we had falling out I was the one who...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Aug 14

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    Not Really Controlling But Driving Me Crazy

    my mom is driving me up the m************ wall!!!! like so serious!! she's always fussing about SOMETHING its unnerving i can't wait to move next month it's like she wants things perfect although she say she doesn't but actions speak louder than words all i know is i'm tired of...
    Juicy09 Juicy09 18-21, F Jul 21, 2012

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    My Dad Is Making Me Miserable

    I'm a 15 year old girl. I have never done anything for my parents not to trust me, I get straight A's and take all AP (college) classes. I'm much more mature for my age, most of my friends are 16-19. I don't look 15 at all, I look more around 17 or 18. I've always been a very...
    Kahlaa Kahlaa 16-17 1 Response Aug 9, 2013

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    Controlling Parents Use Their Individual Tactics To Try To "keep Me In Line".

    I am almost 28 years old, and have finally realized that my parents are, and always have been, controlling. My dad is 14 years older than my mom, so he comes from a different generation altogether. My test scores and grades never seemed good enough for him, even though I...
    carolina1983 carolina1983 26-30 2 Responses May 10, 2011

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    my dad controls everything

    that goes on in my life and its getting out of hand I think its because im in highschool now and he feels like im growing up or something but he needs to give me space....
    starysky98 starysky98 13-15, F Jun 29

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    Despite the pain I feel,

    I will start out by saying - I do love my parents. They have paid for my college and living expenses and more, and I am very thankful. However - I am living proof that money doesn't always buy happiness. While my parents have always thrown whatever money I want at me, they...
    unpredictableprediction unpredictableprediction 18-21, F 2 Responses May 25

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    My mom has always controlled my life.

    When I was a kid it was "do as you're told or else". When I was a teen, the only friends I was [sometimes] allowed to hang out with were the ones who lived in the same trailer park as me. I was never allows to have friends over our go places with friends on weekends. My mom...
    snyper89 snyper89 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 31

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    Almost 40 And My Mother Still Tries To Control Me

    I am at my wits end and being shunned by my parents. I have a very domineering mother. If you disagree with her religion or opinions you are nothing. She came from a domineering mother herself and has never broken the cycle. I was as she was raised in a religion within a religion...
    srch4sanity srch4sanity 36-40 5 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    Breaking Free

    I have been controlled by my mother my whole life. I was a surprise to my parents, my older brother is 13 yrs older than me. I don't think my mother was too pleased at the idea of starting all over with a baby, so my older sisters mostly raised me, until they married and moved...
    toxicchild toxicchild 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    Yes to that. This is painful.

    They yell and yell and yell. My opinion hardly counts. Dad is always right. I'm invalid. Don't and should makes me feeling like a puppet. What my dad wants is always most important then what I want, even for myself s sake. Feeling like a prisoner. Please let me be. I can...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F Aug 5

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    I woke up this morning feeling worse

    than I did yesterday. I haven't talked to my fiance about any of this and I really want too. I worry that he will dismiss my feelings and tell me to get over it. The more I explore this topic, the more I realize that this really happened to me and continues to happen to me...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Jul 30

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    Today, I feel sad. I continue to think about my

    childhood and how my life could be different if I were raised differently. Maybe I wouldn't have such anxiety problems or I'd be able to have normal relationships with people. I want to go back to school. I graduated a few years ago with an associates degree in business...but...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    I Am Thinking About Disobeying My Parents

    They think that I am going to sit up here, and run over me. I am not going to do anything today. They are going to force to do everything. Now my mom is talking about that I am going to see the psychiatrist. I am not going to see anybody. I am not going anywhere. They always feel...
    chicago54 chicago54 22-25, M 9 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    I am currently reading a book about controlling

    parents and how to deal with the past. It is helping, but I am emotionally stuck. Part of me feels that I am being over dramatic...but another part of me feels that I need to explore this and try to deal with it and move on. The book mentions talking to your parents about your...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Okay, my dad makes me do everything

    and I feel like a servant! He acts normal around everyone else. A few years ago my mom died and I wasn't close with my dad before that. Well I am supposed to be getting survivors benefits checks (260$ a month) and I've never seen any of that money nor has he ever just given me...
    wendyangelina wendyangelina 16-17, F 3 Responses Feb 27

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    I understand parents are supposed to be

    controlling in a way, but dominating your life and choosing every single thing for you? Doesn't that seem overboard?! I've done everything for my parents. I swim even though I hate how I feel like drowning everyday, and I study hard to become a doctor, but I really want to...
    shivxni shivxni 13-15, F Mar 16

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    I'm just sick of them.

    We talk and no one listens to me. Whats the point? No matter what I talk about no one cares. I'm sick of trying, of caring, of giving them the time of day when I don't get the same in return. The worst part is I honestly don't think they realize how ridiculous they are....and...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    My parents aren't controlling

    so much. They don't watch every step I do but still they take care that I do my homework. When I got out I have to explain with who and where and when I'm back. They look after my modesty and want that I am always dresses properly. That counts for my underwear too. And yes they...
    Jennyred Jennyred 13-15, F 6 Responses Jul 21

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    Cfm: Control Freak Mom

    Most recently, being this semester school year, between September 5th to Dec 19th 2012, I have realized that my point-of-view has changed in a way that I never though possible. Way back, I used to think that I would be living with my parents forever and ever as long as time and...
    Jordasia1089 Jordasia1089 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 13, 2012

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    Break Me Down

    I am a 16, almost 17 year old, and I feel like my parents are about to tear me down. They are extremely controlling...beyond what you would believe. To the point where they at one point had pulled me out of a public school so that they could "keep their eyes on me". Everything I...
    BlueJay17 BlueJay17 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 3, 2013

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    You don't promise you'll do something then

    never do it, sometimes I feel like my life is just one big string of disappointment.
    ciciyoshi ciciyoshi 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    This is my story. Im very confused

    as I love my mom and feel she is a good person. Ive seen her do great things. But as an adult I now have a lot of relationship problems and interpersonal difficulty. I dont know if how I was raised was normal. Ive tried talking to others about it but no one beleives that a...
    butterfly1779 butterfly1779 31-35, F 3 Responses May 22

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    I made a mistake. I let them in again last

    night. I was talking on the phone with my mom and once I hung up, I realized that I had given her way too many details about my life....and the whole time I could tell she was barely listening to me. I feel like sometimes if I keep talking, maybe I will say something she...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    For me, this is rather embarrassing.

    ...im 25 and they still think they can tell me what friends i should hang out with. They chased my closest friends away because they thought they 'used' me, which was untrue! They make sure I dont see them by putting up a ring of spies. Now, after meeting several awesome people...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    Feeling ignored

    I wish I didnt fight with my parents so much. We fight everyday now. I miss feeling close to them and now they just show affection to my sister. Im 19 years old and I feel like getting the cold shoulder from my dad is making my life harder than it should be. I feel so upset and...
    Dollywally Dollywally 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2012

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    It took my 40 year but I finally confronted my

    controlling mother at age 40. She has been this way my entire life, and I finally had enough. She wasn't doing it to me as much because I ignore her or only talk to her when I have to. But she was starting with my partner and our three young daughters and would talk behind my...
    jd1974 jd1974 36-40, M 2 Responses Mar 14

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    Growing up I felt like a prisoner in my own

    home. The only time I really ever left the house was to go to school or to go shopping with my parents. Whenever I tried to do something outside they would belittle and manipulate me into not going. So I spent majority of my life closed behind doors. My parents often shouted at...
    dokkyo dokkyo 22-25 2 Responses Jul 13

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    Happy Father's Day to our super hero,

    our Dads 👪 I love you dad thank you for everything!
    chastenox chastenox 16-17, F Jun 15

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    I think I did pretty good today.

    My mom called and I didn't really tell her much of anything. I told her that we didn't need to communicate everyday and she got upset. She kept asking why and I couldn't bring myself to tell her the real reason. I think that was the first step. Hopefully this gets easier.
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 4

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