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    I made a mistake. I let them in again last

    night. I was talking on the phone with my mom and once I hung up, I realized that I had given her way too many details about my life....and the whole time I could tell she was barely listening to me. I feel like sometimes if I keep talking, maybe I will say something she...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 2

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    Controlling Parents Attempt To Steal Your Identity And Make It Their's

    (I posted this as a confession , but thought I would also share it here) How in the world can I love my controlling parent? My mom and I were estranged for six months after a stunt she pulled where I just couldn't take it anymore. It was the best and in some parts worst (breaking...
    growwhereyouglow growwhereyouglow 36-40, F 8 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    Today, I feel sad. I continue to think about my

    childhood and how my life could be different if I were raised differently. Maybe I wouldn't have such anxiety problems or I'd be able to have normal relationships with people. I want to go back to school. I graduated a few years ago with an associates degree in business...but...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 31

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    My mother is the controlling parent

    who tries to control everyone and everything. Yesterday I received an unexpected phone call from my mom. It had been almost 2 years since we last spoke to each other. And then living million miles away doesn't help either. Two years ago, we had falling out I was the one who...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Aug 14

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    Overcontrolling Leads To Ruined Lives

    At the age of 28, on the verge of finishing a Master's degree, you'd think that I'd have the world in the palm of my hands by now. Au contraire--I have been belittled, guilt tripped, manipulated, and controlled by my aging parents for over 24 years. Worse yet, so have my younger...
    bambiraptor9 bambiraptor9 26-30, F 6 Responses Mar 24, 2013

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    I woke up this morning feeling worse

    than I did yesterday. I haven't talked to my fiance about any of this and I really want too. I worry that he will dismiss my feelings and tell me to get over it. The more I explore this topic, the more I realize that this really happened to me and continues to happen to me...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Jul 30

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    For years they refused to let me get any kind

    of portable electronic device. "Because it shuts you out from the world and that's not good for you." That actually did just the opposite for me. It led me to become less close with all my friends, and less close with my parents. They finally gave in to years of complaining...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    i am desperate and depressed!

    ! i have a very controlling and abusive Dad that dictates every aspect of my life.i am told what to do, where to go, who to be friends with and all other stuff.i am 21 now i am gonna move out and i would have a place to stay.i used to think that family is everything and comes...
    neeuQ neeuQ 18-21 3 Responses Nov 14

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    my dad controls everything

    that goes on in my life and its getting out of hand I think its because im in highschool now and he feels like im growing up or something but he needs to give me space....
    starysky98 starysky98 13-15, F Jun 29

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    My Controlling Mom....not Sure I Explained It Write Though

    I'm not angry at the moment with my mom so I figured Id take the time out to write it. I Already kinda elaborated on her in the I hate my mom section but this is a whole different matter. Of course i love her sometimes... i just wish that she didnt feel that she needs to...
    CaliGurl2007 CaliGurl2007 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    Growing up I felt like a prisoner in my own

    home. The only time I really ever left the house was to go to school or to go shopping with my parents. Whenever I tried to do something outside they would belittle and manipulate me into not going. So I spent majority of my life closed behind doors. My parents often shouted at...
    dokkyo dokkyo 22-25 2 Responses Jul 13

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    My mom has had persistent vertigo

    for the past week. She was confined a few days ago, but wanted to be discharged when the doctors couldn't figure out what's causing the dizziness. Now, for reasons beyond me, she is entirely convinced that I can figure out the cause of the vertigo and treat it. Now she has...
    twelves twelves 22-25 Nov 24

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    I was doing so well..

    .and then I let them in again. I didn't talk to my parents for a few days....and today my mom called me...I missed first call. I called her back a few hours later...and I let her in again...telling her things she obviously didn't care about. AHHH! I was doing so well! I guess set...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Aug 3

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    I'm just sick of them.

    We talk and no one listens to me. Whats the point? No matter what I talk about no one cares. I'm sick of trying, of caring, of giving them the time of day when I don't get the same in return. The worst part is I honestly don't think they realize how ridiculous they are....and...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 6

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    I too have controlling parents.

    This year summer and this year has been hell for me. I can't go anywhere or do anything without getting permission, like I'm still 5 yrs. old . They have gotten so bad they threatened to take the car that they let me drive away from me.. Mind u they have 2 other cars to drive...
    Cocoheaven2014 Cocoheaven2014 36-40, F 3 Responses Oct 9

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    I always wake up the next day finding myself

    not wanting to see my mother, because everytime i see my mother and she sees me, the first few words that would come out from her mouth was something i did wrong, something that is wrong with me. "you wake up late again... ";"look at your room, all mess"; ''those nails of yours...
    TheWandAirs28 TheWandAirs28 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 30

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    I recently came out to my parents

    and they are Christian. Mom was immediately hounding me to talk to a pastor about being gay and dad told me a horror story of his best friend in high school who was gay. Dad punched him for being this way. Later the guy got AIDS and dad feels that he deserved it for being a...
    jxlecler jxlecler 16-17, M 3 Responses Aug 25

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    I Am Thinking About Disobeying My Parents

    They think that I am going to sit up here, and run over me. I am not going to do anything today. They are going to force to do everything. Now my mom is talking about that I am going to see the psychiatrist. I am not going to see anybody. I am not going anywhere. They always feel...
    chicago54 chicago54 22-25, M 9 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    butterflyannah butterflyannah 16-17, F Aug 24

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    I Love Her, But It Is Frustrating.

    My Mom is very controlling. Let me start out by saying that she isn't a bad person, she just was never taught how to be a mother. Her Mother was very abusive and seemed to get a strange pleasure out of seeing her and her sisters emotionally hurting. So when I came, she was a...
    carlee1212 carlee1212 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 2, 2013

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    For me, this is rather embarrassing.

    ...im 25 and they still think they can tell me what friends i should hang out with. They chased my closest friends away because they thought they 'used' me, which was untrue! They make sure I dont see them by putting up a ring of spies. Now, after meeting several awesome people...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    I'm 26 but it still seems my parents control my

    life. Mostly my father. I guess he just wants whats best for me, not sure. Anyways, he forces his opinions on me about everything, if I decide I don't want to talk about a topic, and if no one else is around, he'll pin me down until I answer his question. It's frustrating...
    cheechako cheechako 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I am almost 19 years old,

    I'm a freshman in college, and my parents track my every move on my cell phone. I have never been a trouble making kid, and I am honest with my mom about where I go and what I do, but she still tracks my cell phone and calls me angrily when I go out and don't call her first. I...
    ollie234 ollie234 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Controlling Parents Use Their Individual Tactics To Try To "keep Me In Line".

    I am almost 28 years old, and have finally realized that my parents are, and always have been, controlling. My dad is 14 years older than my mom, so he comes from a different generation altogether. My test scores and grades never seemed good enough for him, even though I...
    carolina1983 carolina1983 26-30 2 Responses May 10, 2011

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    It's really annoying

    and nit normal at all
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 5

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    I'm 25 years old and I live in south america,

    I still live with my parents only because I'm scared of leaving and them having heart attacks or something and blaming it on me, I barely go out because when i do, my mother gets angry at me, to the point i don't enjoy it because im worried that she's gonna yell at me when I'm...
    TheGuiltTripGirl TheGuiltTripGirl 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 24

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    You don't promise you'll do something then

    never do it, sometimes I feel like my life is just one big string of disappointment.
    ciciyoshi ciciyoshi 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 12

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    Yes to that. This is painful.

    They yell and yell and yell. My opinion hardly counts. Dad is always right. I'm invalid. Don't and should makes me feeling like a puppet. What my dad wants is always most important then what I want, even for myself s sake. Feeling like a prisoner. Please let me be. I can...
    Mangostrawberrybanana Mangostrawberrybanana 31-35, F Aug 5

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    I Feel Like My Parents Don't Accept Me For Who I Am

    I am 24 years old and I feel like my parents are still trying to control my life. I live in a condo that my Dad bought, but my boyfriend and I pay  him rent every month and we generally keep a comfortable distance from both sides of our families. There are usually no problems...
    DreamerJade DreamerJade 22-25 9 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    My stepdad is the worst

    and he always makes me feel worthless
    Amy1MM Amy1MM 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 27

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    Despite the pain I feel,

    I will start out by saying - I do love my parents. They have paid for my college and living expenses and more, and I am very thankful. However - I am living proof that money doesn't always buy happiness. While my parents have always thrown whatever money I want at me, they...
    unpredictableprediction unpredictableprediction 18-21, F 2 Responses May 25

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    This is my story. Im very confused

    as I love my mom and feel she is a good person. Ive seen her do great things. But as an adult I now have a lot of relationship problems and interpersonal difficulty. I dont know if how I was raised was normal. Ive tried talking to others about it but no one beleives that a...
    butterfly1779 butterfly1779 31-35, F 4 Responses May 22

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    Almost 40 And My Mother Still Tries To Control Me

    I am at my wits end and being shunned by my parents. I have a very domineering mother. If you disagree with her religion or opinions you are nothing. She came from a domineering mother herself and has never broken the cycle. I was as she was raised in a religion within a religion...
    srch4sanity srch4sanity 36-40 5 Responses Aug 6, 2012

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    I'm 18, and my mom has always controlled my

    life. Every time I was relaxing at home, she would always urge me to do my homework. But instead of nagging, she made it seem like it was a big plan for the day or weekend: "Now you just have to make sure that you do the dishes and your homework, and everything will be fine...
    graduallyventuring graduallyventuring 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I like having controlling parents

    because then you will have a lot less of a chance of learning right and wrong. Also it can help me learn better.
    MichaelEgitto MichaelEgitto 13-15, M Aug 14

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    Mom Still Controls My Life As An Adult

    My mother has been controlling me my entire life. Up until I was 14, she did my homework for me because she felt I was too dumb to know how to do it. She never ever encouraged me to take an extra-curricular activity or make and spend time with friends. Her belief was that I...
    StrawberryPocky StrawberryPocky 22-25, F 55 Responses Aug 10, 2010

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    I think I did pretty good today.

    My mom called and I didn't really tell her much of anything. I told her that we didn't need to communicate everyday and she got upset. She kept asking why and I couldn't bring myself to tell her the real reason. I think that was the first step. Hopefully this gets easier.
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    My mother treats me like I'm still a kid.

    But in reality, I'm an adult and I wish I could get her to understand that. I'm 18 now, but will turn 19 in less than a month. She literally gets mad when I ask to hang out with friends from school. I'm a freshman in college. And what makes the situation even worse, is she wont...
    MrzKeepinItReal14 MrzKeepinItReal14 18-21, F 4 Responses Nov 5

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    My mother used to be

    so cool,i could go anywhere and do anything,but then i turned 16 and all of the sudden she wanted to play mom,before i was allowed to party without her bothering me and then she just changed,she used to trust me and i cant figure out why that stopped,we had been friends before...
    jesikahluv jesikahluv 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    I am currently reading a book about controlling

    parents and how to deal with the past. It is helping, but I am emotionally stuck. Part of me feels that I am being over dramatic...but another part of me feels that I need to explore this and try to deal with it and move on. The book mentions talking to your parents about your...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 29

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    Got a B in a college level class in high school

    while taking three other AP classes? Lemme go **** myself for bringing shame upon my famiry
    tastyfurnace tastyfurnace 16-17, F 4 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    To start things off I am currently in college

    working hard going to school from 9-4 every day, soon to be 9-8 every day, but I don't have a life, at least it doesn't feel like I have one. I still live with my parents. I have "never" had a boyfriend because my parents wouldn't allow me to. I wasn't able to go away for school...
    playitsafe playitsafe 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 26

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    Getting Over Control...once I Finally Realized It Was Happening

    I never realized my parents were controlling until I moved away. At home, I knew my life felt grossly unfulfilled, I was rarely satisfied with myself and my goals, and I was always angry with my parents. It was unusual for me to voice these feelings, however...
    afterthefall afterthefall 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    It's like my mother has two personalities.

    One moment she is happy and interested in our conversation...the next she is crabby and doesn't want to speak with me anymore. So frustrating! As my brothers wedding comes closer, the more anxiety I have for being around my parents. They are so judgmental and it makes me dread...
    CatLover311 CatLover311 22-25, F Aug 8

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    A while ago I found out about Experience

    Project. I knew I'd have to get my mommy's permission so I asked. She and my sister set up an account for me and chose my username and password, and I could log on whenever I wanted (well...almost). Anyway mommy thought I was spending too much time on EP and so she changed my...
    littlebobby6 littlebobby6 13-15, M 4 Responses Nov 22

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    For anyone out there

    that has survived having strict overprotective parents in any way, shape or form and have been able to finally make it out on your own and establish your independence, whatever age you may be, please let me know how you did it! How did you go about getting out of there, how...
    beccaishere89 beccaishere89 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    so yeah what the title says im almost 20 in 2-3 months and my parents still run my life . can anyone else relate ?
    miz0217 miz0217 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 29

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    what are the best points i can make and tactics to have my parents allow me a longer curfew ?
    SoccerGirl2000 SoccerGirl2000 13-15, F 8 Responses Nov 21

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    i really dont like them i cant stand to be around then and i cant have a life around them they either ruin it for me or make sure there is no way i can do it in hell my mom even...
    warriorwolf1818 warriorwolf1818 16-17, M 2 Responses Dec 4

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    If my parents really know what all I've done and what I'm planning to do they would kill me!! Oh well they need to learn the stricter they are the worse I'm going to be
    DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt DeterminedToMakeLifeWorthIt 16-17, F 1 Response Nov 23

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    My parents genuinely love me and I have no doubt about that but they can be so ******* selfish it drives me mad. I have Aspergers and they've always refused to learn the basics to...
    geordiegent geordiegent 36-40, M Nov 28