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    Both my parents (my mom especially) are

    extremely controlling. Most people will say that its for my protection, but this is going way beyond that. They have settings on my computer to see every little thing I do. They will probably end up seeing this too. They put a setting on my laptop to shut off at a certain...
    kaylabear252 kaylabear252 13-15, F 2 Responses May 3

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    Getting Over Control...once I Finally Realized It Was Happening

    I never realized my parents were controlling until I moved away. At home, I knew my life felt grossly unfulfilled, I was rarely satisfied with myself and my goals, and I was always angry with my parents. It was unusual for me to voice these feelings, however...
    afterthefall afterthefall 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 1, 2009

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    my mother wants me to be perfect,

    straight A's and to become a doctor of some sort. she also wants me to dress like a girl and look like one. well maybe I don't want to, maybe I feel like a guy and want to stick with it for awhile. maybe I want to be a writer, photographer and artist.
    PrinceNeko PrinceNeko 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 13

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    I'm 31 years old single guy.

    I live with my parents I'm their breadwinner. I've al always been open to them that I have a life of my own and I want to live it without them trying to control me. Thing is, my mother, I think, is overly-dramatic. Whenever I bring up to her the topic of me leaving the house to...
    herooftheyear herooftheyear 31-35, M 4 Responses Jun 4

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    How parents screw up their kids.

    .. If you are a parent or planning to be one day, I hope you will read this. When I was a toddler, it was obvious to everyone that i was creative. But how did my parents react to me painting on walls with shoe polish or cutting circles out of clothes? Physical punishment, that...
    Loufree Loufree 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    How To Turn Six Dollars Into Six Thousand

    Dollars: I found this on a bulletin board and decided to try it. A little while back I was browsing through newsgroups just like you are now and came across an article similar to this that said you could make thousands of dollars within weeks with only an initial investment...
    manusundr manusundr 46-50, M a week ago

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    My parents don't respect my decisions.

    They are trying to control my life, I'm 19 I can make my own choices. I don't know what to do.
    riley4448 riley4448 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 7

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    My mother treats me like I'm still a kid.

    But in reality, I'm an adult and I wish I could get her to understand that. I'm 18 now, but will turn 19 in less than a month. She literally gets mad when I ask to hang out with friends from school. I'm a freshman in college. And what makes the situation even worse, is she wont...
    MrzKeepinItReal14 MrzKeepinItReal14 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 5, 2014

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    My mother is the controlling parent

    who tries to control everyone and everything. Yesterday I received an unexpected phone call from my mom. It had been almost 2 years since we last spoke to each other. And then living million miles away doesn't help either. Two years ago, we had falling out I was the one who...
    Sara600 Sara600 56-60, F Aug 14, 2014

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    So I have a very controlling father.

    I'm 19 going to be 20 in a few months and all he wants to do is control me. After high school I went straight into beauty school and I am now a licensed cosmetologist. My father never accepted me being a cosmetologist. He thinks it's a job not a career but it's my passion. It's...
    someoneunimportant03 someoneunimportant03 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 20

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    I grew up with very controlling parents

    but I'm better off I didn't get in trouble like alot of girls. I had 1 bf since my dad picked him im now married to him. Have been for 16 almost 17 years. Parents that don't keep on an eye on their kids is when they get in trouble.
    southernlady32 southernlady32 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    I don't have any control over my life.

    Everything I do nowadays is because they made me. If I want a college education, it's by their rules. They even will decide who I will get married and pressure me into having kids in the future.
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 18-21, F May 19

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    I'm 21 and have been away at college the past 3

    years. This is the first summer I've come home, and now I know why. My mom tells me everything I can and can't do, who I can and can't see, and when. I understand she wants things her way, but she doesn't understand that I've been doing my own thing for 3 years, and that's not...
    hazel9 hazel9 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 30

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    My Controlling Mom....not Sure I Explained It Write Though

    I'm not angry at the moment with my mom so I figured Id take the time out to write it. I Already kinda elaborated on her in the I hate my mom section but this is a whole different matter. Of course i love her sometimes... i just wish that she didnt feel that she needs to...
    CaliGurl2007 CaliGurl2007 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 25, 2010

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    I Feel Like My Parents Don't Accept Me For Who I Am

    I am 24 years old and I feel like my parents are still trying to control my life. I live in a condo that my Dad bought, but my boyfriend and I pay  him rent every month and we generally keep a comfortable distance from both sides of our families. There are usually no problems...
    DreamerJade DreamerJade 22-25 10 Responses Feb 5, 2012

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    To start things off I am currently in college

    working hard going to school from 9-4 every day, soon to be 9-8 every day, but I don't have a life, at least it doesn't feel like I have one. I still live with my parents. I have "never" had a boyfriend because my parents wouldn't allow me to. I wasn't able to go away for school...
    playitsafe playitsafe 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 26, 2014

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    My dad has raised me

    since i was little, without barely any help from my mom. I feel like as i reach into my 12th grade year he is starting to become more controlling than usual. My dad wont say it directly to me, but i know he dosent want me to leave him and start my own life after highschool. He...
    magnolian magnolian 16-17, F Jul 14

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    Controlling Parents Use Their Individual Tactics To Try To "keep Me In Line".

    I am almost 28 years old, and have finally realized that my parents are, and always have been, controlling. My dad is 14 years older than my mom, so he comes from a different generation altogether. My test scores and grades never seemed good enough for him, even though I...
    carolina1983 carolina1983 26-30 2 Responses May 10, 2011

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    I recently came out to my parents

    and they are Christian. Mom was immediately hounding me to talk to a pastor about being gay and dad told me a horror story of his best friend in high school who was gay. Dad punched him for being this way. Later the guy got AIDS and dad feels that he deserved it for being a...
    jxlecler jxlecler 16-17, M 4 Responses Aug 25, 2014

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    My dad keeps pressuring me in school work

    and basketball and I can't take it anymore. My mom doesn't trust me to drive by myself which is ridiculous because I am a good driver. What can I do so my parents are not so controlling and let me grow up myself?
    jurban2117 jurban2117 16-17, M Mar 12

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    First they were always talking badly about my

    friends.. Now they even want to control my love life.. so that I won't have one anymore. And I am going crazy.. I am 22, and they won't leave me alone
    Hunnybunay Hunnybunay 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 14

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    For anyone out there

    that has survived having strict overprotective parents in any way, shape or form and have been able to finally make it out on your own and establish your independence, whatever age you may be, please let me know how you did it! How did you go about getting out of there, how...
    beccaishere89 beccaishere89 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 21, 2014

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    that is an understatement!

    I'm not even allowed to have my own opinion!
    morganza504 morganza504 36-40 Aug 20

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    Controlling Parents Attempt To Steal Your Identity And Make It Their's

    (I posted this as a confession , but thought I would also share it here) How in the world can I love my controlling parent? My mom and I were estranged for six months after a stunt she pulled where I just couldn't take it anymore. It was the best and in some parts worst (breaking...
    growwhereyouglow growwhereyouglow 36-40, F 7 Responses Apr 5, 2012

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    It's really annoying

    and nit normal at all
    Court24 Court24 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 5, 2014

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    Breaking Free

    I have been controlled by my mother my whole life. I was a surprise to my parents, my older brother is 13 yrs older than me. I don't think my mother was too pleased at the idea of starting all over with a baby, so my older sisters mostly raised me, until they married and moved...
    toxicchild toxicchild 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 12, 2013

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    My mom has had persistent vertigo

    for the past week. She was confined a few days ago, but wanted to be discharged when the doctors couldn't figure out what's causing the dizziness. Now, for reasons beyond me, she is entirely convinced that I can figure out the cause of the vertigo and treat it. Now she has...
    twelves twelves 22-25 Nov 24, 2014

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    My parents judge me and I'm tired of it.

    I told them that I was into bdsm and they freaked out. They took all of my electronics. I'm using my best friends ipod to post this right now and it sucks. I can't trust my parents with anything because I never know how they'll react to it. I can't talk to my mom about anything...
    SexyAngelBitches SexyAngelBitches 18-21, F 6 Responses May 13

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    Not both my parents are controlling,

    just my mother. I use to love my mother but for the past several years all I feel is hate towards her. She has made it her own personal mission to ruin my life. Every minute of every hour of every day for as long as I can remember. As a child, I use to make excuses for her. I...
    schiisha schiisha 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 3

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    This is my story. Im very confused

    as I love my mom and feel she is a good person. Ive seen her do great things. But as an adult I now have a lot of relationship problems and interpersonal difficulty. I dont know if how I was raised was normal. Ive tried talking to others about it but no one beleives that a...
    butterfly1779 butterfly1779 36-40, F 3 Responses May 22, 2014

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    For years they refused to let me get any kind

    of portable electronic device. "Because it shuts you out from the world and that's not good for you." That actually did just the opposite for me. It led me to become less close with all my friends, and less close with my parents. They finally gave in to years of complaining...
    Darkanddesolate Darkanddesolate 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2014

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    Tainted Christianity Demanding Respect: From

    a biblical standpoint Jesus tells us as children under our parents to obey them in The Lord because it's right. But God NEVER said that your family, parent(s) could treat and talk to you any kind of way and you still had to "rightously" respect them. Thats a false representation...
    taurusboi23 taurusboi23 22-25, M 2 Responses Feb 23

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    Growing up I felt like a prisoner in my own

    home. The only time I really ever left the house was to go to school or to go shopping with my parents. Whenever I tried to do something outside they would belittle and manipulate me into not going. So I spent majority of my life closed behind doors. My parents often shouted at...
    dokkyo dokkyo 22-25 2 Responses Jul 13, 2014

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    I too have controlling parents.

    This year summer and this year has been hell for me. I can't go anywhere or do anything without getting permission, like I'm still 5 yrs. old . They have gotten so bad they threatened to take the car that they let me drive away from me.. Mind u they have 2 other cars to drive...
    Cocoheaven2014 Cocoheaven2014 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    I'm 41 years old , married with 2 children .

    My mother still insists on trying to tell me what to do . If I decide to go out with my friends , she will snub her nose in the air and tell me I don't need to go out for drinks at a bar cause all she thinks is I'm there looking for men and I don't need to do this or that no...
    js1276 js1276 41-45, F 1 Response May 30

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    A while ago I found out about Experience

    Project. I knew I'd have to get my mommy's permission so I asked. She and my sister set up an account for me and chose my username and password, and I could log on whenever I wanted (well...almost). Anyway mommy thought I was spending too much time on EP and so she changed my...
    littlebobbie6 littlebobbie6 13-15, M 5 Responses Nov 22, 2014

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    My university Is located on the soutskirt of

    town that lacks any means of transportation. My father planned to buy me a cheap motorbike . My mother said no on the ground that if I had a motorbike I would not study and would spend my time going to places. Besides campus bus that departs every one hour and ended service...
    hatemymum hatemymum 18-21, M Jun 7

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    Greetings, Group : ) I really need some

    support, so I joined a support group! Here's my story ; I'm from Alabama. Fifteen years ago I married the love of my life, and eight years later I was a widow. I went back home to my parents. Dad had ALZ, and was always one mean SOB in the first place, and got very dangerous as...
    NomdeVoyage NomdeVoyage 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 4

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    I've always had very controlling parents

    and I've never been very close to them. My mother has always been a teacher at my school to make matters worse so I've never had an privacy or escape from the control I have at home. From as young as I can remember I've had music lessons which I'm very grateful for and value now...
    lostlouise97 lostlouise97 18-21, F Dec 22, 2014

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    Got a B in a college level class in high school

    while taking three other AP classes? Lemme go **** myself for bringing shame upon my famiry
    tastyfurnace tastyfurnace 16-17, F 3 Responses Dec 17, 2013

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    I'm 18, and my mom has always controlled my

    life. Every time I was relaxing at home, she would always urge me to do my homework. But instead of nagging, she made it seem like it was a big plan for the day or weekend: "Now you just have to make sure that you do the dishes and your homework, and everything will be fine...
    graduallyventuring graduallyventuring 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 1, 2014

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    For me, this is rather embarrassing.

    ...im 25 and they still think they can tell me what friends i should hang out with. They chased my closest friends away because they thought they 'used' me, which was untrue! They make sure I dont see them by putting up a ring of spies. Now, after meeting several awesome people...
    redphoenix02 redphoenix02 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 5, 2014

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    My father has controlled me

    and my mother in my entire life. So it would make sense that I am not close to him at all. I still live with my parents because I don't make enough money yet to move out and plus I am going to college. I got engaged about 5 months ago to my best friend of over 10 years. My...
    KatieLynn13 KatieLynn13 18-21, F Apr 30

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    I have a bad relationship with my parents,

    and still live at home. I'd move out as soon as I could. They say they don't trust me, and can't talk to me. And they can't, as I won't talk to them. They are controlling and manipulating everything I do, and I'm so sick and tired of it.
    dysfori dysfori 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 26, 2014

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    I'm struggling with my parents at the moment.

    I'm 29 I have my own house which I also own with my mum. My parents live 10 minute walk from me. I had a nasty break up in March. I had been living with my boyfriend we got a beagle and he got an engagement ring. Before we had met he had booked to go traveling and was not going...
    Lannestone Lannestone 26-30 1 Response Jul 11

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    my dad controls everything

    that goes on in my life and its getting out of hand I think its because im in highschool now and he feels like im growing up or something but he needs to give me space....
    starysky98 starysky98