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I Have Empty Nest Syndrome

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    Harder Than I Thought

      I should have seen this coming, really.   He’s been independent from the moment he stopped breastfeeding at two years old, and his favorite thing to tell me was “No, Mommy, I do it MYSELF!” He’s always been smarter than me too J...
    n8smom91 n8smom91 36-40 3 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    Last Child Just Moved Out

    My youngest of seven children just moved 800 miles away. He has never lived away from home and met someone online who is quite a bit older and got drawn in by this person. They have talked via web cam for three years and my husband and I did not know of his existence until two...
    Jada99 Jada99 66-70 Jul 25, 2012

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    I feel like my universe is just

    so out of alignment.....everything i have known for so long is just not there anymore :0(
    itswonder4all itswonder4all 41-45, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    I'm a guy with a bad case of the "syndrome.

    " My oldest daughter (now almost 20) left for college in September, 2013, and I'm still having a very difficult time coping with it. My younger daughter (almost 16) is a sophomore in high school and already, I dread her departure. I've always worked at home (part time) and...
    JimmyLonesome JimmyLonesome 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 22

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    So What Now?...

    Both my sons are grown up and left home. The oldest for quite a long time now but the youngest has just gone to Uni. My overwhelming feeling that hits me on the worst days, is that I feel my job is done, my usefulness disappeared and whats the point in it now? I'm not suicidal...
    Tuffluck Tuffluck 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    I Feel Lost

    Hello, I feel lost without my son and grandson. My son who is 19 and his girlfriend of 2 years, who is 20 had a baby boy 2 months ago. They lived with my husband and me until recently. His girlfriend lived with us also. Her parents kicked her out when she turned 18, they also...
    rosebudmom2320 rosebudmom2320 51-55 1 Response Dec 3, 2012

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    Thats It ?

    this afternoon the last of my children left home...signed up for the services... im divorced... so even i want my children to do well ...i find myself in this alone place...i will try not to dwell on it .. what does one do now ?.. they left a very untidy room ! lol! something to...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    I Was So Looking Forward to This, Now I Feel Lost

    As the saying went, born by the time I was thirty, out of the hosue by the time I am fifty, and then I get to start my second childhood. So I'm going on year two of of this 'childhood', and thankfully I have the business to keep me super busy, I am now defined by this very big...
    CEOtoo CEOtoo 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 6, 2008

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    Both of my children are grown up

    and on their own with their own lives and families. I have one son and one daughter.
    momnakedingarden momnakedingarden 46-50, F 2 Responses Jun 5

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    Empty Nest. Filled With Sorrow.

    I thought when my only child went off to college last August I would be sad for a few weeks, but I go through long stretches of being fairly distraught. I recognize that I am too alone, but being social isn't going to fill this up.
    Elad5533 Elad5533 46-50 4 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    Sad, Alone, And Don't Know How To Cope

    I had a really bad emotional day today. I am an empty-nester. My daughter has been out of the home for quite a while but she used to live very close and we did things together all the time. Now she lives in Korea, and I don't get to see her or communicate with her very often...
    GlassButterfly GlassButterfly 51-55, F May 22, 2012

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    Been There Done That

    i really wanted to just read and try to help others who might be having a tough time dealing with their children leaving home. My two kids left home in 06' and 08' so I've pretty much adjusted. I still miss them very much and think of the times when they were growing up and...
    Hikermom Hikermom 56-60 1 Response Aug 3, 2011

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    Im recently single after a long engagement,

    my two sons, are now grown, and the youngest is goin into the army, on top of that, i just up and relocated to a new state, so im overwhelmed with what to do with myself. Never been alone before. Its just me and my dogs. Leery of meeting new people, yet cant wait.
    serenity372 serenity372 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    Empty Nest. Filled With Sorrow.

    I thought when my only child went off to college last August I would be sad for a few weeks, but I go through long stretches of being fairly distraught. I recognize that I am too alone, but being social isn't going to fill this up.
    Elad5533 Elad5533 46-50 1 Response Apr 20, 2012

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    Just Adjusting To Kids Leaving And Changes Happening, Lots At Once.

    Well, have 4 kids, 3 are in college, one will be soon enough.  Very difficult. No laundry, food stays where I put it and bathrooms stay clean.  I suppose last year I was still encumbered by two at home and one back and forth, so the full frontal assault was not felt as...
    whimzkal whimzkal 46-50 Aug 31, 2010

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    Empty Nest = You're Fired!

    I feel like I was just fired from the most rewarding job/career in the world! I feel like a kid in the candy store, BUT I feel like the candy is all gone! There I am standing there, in the middle of this empty candy store wondering how I got there, looking for the door. Now I...
    tctiptop tctiptop 51-55 2 Responses Jul 11, 2009

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    Sad, Alone, And Don't Know How To Cope

    I had a really bad emotional day today. I am an empty-nester. My daughter has been out of the home for quite a while but she used to live very close and we did things together all the time. Now she lives in Korea, and I don't get to see her or communicate with her very often...
    GlassButterfly GlassButterfly 51-55, F May 22, 2012

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    My only child, a daughter,

    is in her Freshman year at college. Ok the college is only 30 minutes away and she comes home every weekend. She misses us as much as we miss her, I guess that comes from being an only child. And school will be out in a few weeks. It has been a rough 9 months and I'm looking...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 26

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    First Time Empty Nester

    My son will be going off to college in the fall...actually in the middle of the summer and I am absolutely terrified. My husband and I have a truly terrible relationship...we hate each other actually. I am afraid of the empty, desolate feeling I know I will have after my son...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 10 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    Lost Without Kids

    I am a recent empty nester and as miserable as the day is long. Most days I stay in bed and cry, it an effort for me to get my head off the pillow. I loved raising my children and thats really the only thing I know how to do. So many days, I really don't think I'm going to make...
    heartbroken52 heartbroken52 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Need Help

    hi! my son is in college 2 hours away from me, he doesn't call, and when he does he just talk in automatic "ok", "yes", aha! ,bye". He lies saying that he is not coming because he has a lot to do but I found out that he comes to town and stay with friends and when I call him he...
    evamatissedos evamatissedos 41-45 2 Responses Nov 5, 2011

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    How Does Dad Feel

    Prolly not many men on here, but I don't know where else or what else to do. My whole life has been for family and making them feel happy and loved. I have three boys one fy my first marriage and my wife has two from her first husband. When my wife and I got married 10 years ago...
    Djspalding Djspalding 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    My Son Just Got Married

    My son just got married yesterday, and I have spent all day today crying.  I have a hole inside that just won't fill up.  What's strange is that he's been away from home for 5 years, living about 3 hours away.  It's not like I'm used to having him around all that...
    bookmom bookmom 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    I Was So Looking Forward to This, Now I Feel Lost

    As the saying went, born by the time I was thirty, out of the hosue by the time I am fifty, and then I get to start my second childhood. So I'm going on year two of of this 'childhood', and thankfully I have the business to keep me super busy, I am now defined by this very big...
    CEOtoo CEOtoo 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2008

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    Empty Nest

    i've raised 6 children, i have a great amount of friends, work, do craft have a dog a partner. yet i still miss the kids.  they get around to ringing, visiting.  my daughter said they may leave were we live.  I am devastated i feel you get to an age were your not...
    lessons lessons 61-65 Jul 12, 2009

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    Just Me and the Dog

    I have empty nest syndrome...its just me an dthe dog left, both children left in a two week period. (Not for college, but for good).Husband died in 1993 and I have spent my entire life caring for others, now I am really lost  
    home108alone home108alone 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Losing Two Jobs

    My middle child is headed to college next Tuesday.  You may have figured out he is not my last to go because he is the middle.  My oldest daughter is in medical school ten hours away. My baby girl is 8 years old.  She will always live with us.  She has Down...
    katorourke katorourke 51-55 1 Response Aug 14, 2009

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    I have Russell silver syndrome. It has given me health problems,I am way under the average weight for a normal 15yr old, I am 4'9 and will no longer grow.
    EvaJL EvaJL 13-15, F Jul 13

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    My big girls were home for 5 days and just left. I love them so much and miss them something awful when the are not here. I am so proud of all my girls, 24, 21 and 19. The two bigs...
    RMCG RMCG 51-55, F Jul 8

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    I am going to a geneticist on Thursday to be studied and diagnosed. All of my joints bend further than necessary. The worst pain of my life is when my SI joint and my C-1 and C-2...
    Soultryst Soultryst 26-30, F 1 Response Jun 23

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    OK! I don't believe then this not more out here for women with Ovarian Remnant Syndrome. I was told 12 yrs ago I have ORS and have had 5 surgeries to take the remnants out. I still...
    Julieban Julieban 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 25

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    23+ years ago I was diagnosed with MS, even though I never had a positive test. No blood test, MRI, spinal tap,etc was ever positive for MS. My symptoms were never an exact match...
    bonsaigirl bonsaigirl 56-60, F Jun 29

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    I've noticed that this topic is followed by quite a few parents of children with RSS, as well as young persons who are looking for others who can relate to them, so I thought I...
    jahein137 jahein137 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 23

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    **** I get when I tell someone I have aspergers "But you’re nothing like ____!"
Sometimes I’ll tell someone I have aspergers and they’ll just happen to have a friend or...
    nikkianni nikkianni 13-15, F 4 Responses Jun 29

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    Hello im Amiee i'm 17 going on 18 on July 20th you may have remembered my mothers post Cheryl about my condition. I am still having the hip pain in both my hips. I had the MRI of...
    KiraAyita KiraAyita 16-17, F Jun 30

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    It has been seven weeks since I woke with severe ear pain. I had a few weeks of dizziness and what seem to feel like water in my ear before that. I went to ER later that day...
    ksrooney ksrooney 56-60, F Jul 1

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    I was diagnosed with TTS when I was 24, but my symptoms really started when I was about 21. I am currently 29. It always felt like I was walking barefoot on gravel, no matter what...
    happymegwv happymegwv 26-30, F Jul 8

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    It's the reason 95% of everyone I have ever known has eventually pushed me away. I'm not trying to sound like a pity party but that's been my real world experience. I'm lonely...
    KusanagiShiro KusanagiShiro 26-30, M 4 Responses Jul 10

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    I have EDS and chronic joint pain. I also have Tendonitis. I wonder if my Tendonitis has anything to do with my EDS.
    elenanicole elenanicole 16-17, F Jul 11

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    I was diagnosed with Asperger's when I was 16, because the school nurse recommended that I get tested for AS. My teachers thought I was [pause] different. When somebody says you...
    RazorKenny RazorKenny 26-30, M 1 Response Jul 13

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    I think I have Asperger's. I have been diagnosed with many disorders over the years, depression, anxiety, ocd, ptsd, and we have touched on Asperger's, but never has it been a...
    13thgen 13thgen 36-40, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I was just diagnosed today :( I'm scared!
    prettybum prettybum 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 23

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    I just got my diagnosis not sure what to do now
    prettybum prettybum 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 24

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    Something I am having increasing difficulty with at the moment is that nobody knows exactly how difficult things are for me. This includes myself. I don't know how easy...
    Teab Teab 41-45, M 1 Response Jun 29

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    My autism ruined most of my life. I wish I could relive as an autistic anthro fox
    Miserablechildhood Miserablechildhood 13-15, M 4 Responses Jun 29

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    I was just diagnosed this week. Now what?
    VBLOVE1106 VBLOVE1106 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 5

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    my parents didn't tell me until i was eleven years old, so i found it a big shock. i spent my whole life thinking i was your usual normal-person-without-any-major-challenges...
    hans13 hans13 51-55, F Jul 5

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    NO ONE CARES ABOUT ME !! I WISH MY YOUNGER BROTHER WAS NEVER BORN THEN I WOULD NEVER BE SAD AND CRYING RIGHT NOW😭😭😫😭😭😭😫😢
    bela5562 bela5562 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 6

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    Ugh. Joint pain is so bad when it rains. I just want to wrap up in a huge heating pad.
    ImBatmanNow ImBatmanNow 51-55, M 1 Response Jul 7