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I Have Empty Nest Syndrome

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    My only child, a daughter,

    is in her Freshman year at college. Ok the college is only 30 minutes away and she comes home every weekend. She misses us as much as we miss her, I guess that comes from being an only child. And school will be out in a few weeks. It has been a rough 9 months and I'm looking...
    deleted deleted 26-30 May 26, 2014

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    Empty Nest = You're Fired!

    I feel like I was just fired from the most rewarding job/career in the world! I feel like a kid in the candy store, BUT I feel like the candy is all gone! There I am standing there, in the middle of this empty candy store wondering how I got there, looking for the door. Now I...
    tctiptop tctiptop 51-55 2 Responses Jul 11, 2009

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    Last Child Just Moved Out

    My youngest of seven children just moved 800 miles away. He has never lived away from home and met someone online who is quite a bit older and got drawn in by this person. They have talked via web cam for three years and my husband and I did not know of his existence until two...
    Jada99 Jada99 66-70 Jul 25, 2012

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    So What Now?...

    Both my sons are grown up and left home. The oldest for quite a long time now but the youngest has just gone to Uni. My overwhelming feeling that hits me on the worst days, is that I feel my job is done, my usefulness disappeared and whats the point in it now? I'm not suicidal...
    Tuffluck Tuffluck 46-50, F 2 Responses Sep 20, 2012

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    My Son Just Got Married

    My son just got married yesterday, and I have spent all day today crying.  I have a hole inside that just won't fill up.  What's strange is that he's been away from home for 5 years, living about 3 hours away.  It's not like I'm used to having him around all that...
    bookmom bookmom 46-50, F 3 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    Just Adjusting To Kids Leaving And Changes Happening, Lots At Once.

    Well, have 4 kids, 3 are in college, one will be soon enough.  Very difficult. No laundry, food stays where I put it and bathrooms stay clean.  I suppose last year I was still encumbered by two at home and one back and forth, so the full frontal assault was not felt as...
    whimzkal whimzkal 46-50 Aug 31, 2010

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    Thats It ?

    this afternoon the last of my children left home...signed up for the services... im divorced... so even i want my children to do well ...i find myself in this alone place...i will try not to dwell on it .. what does one do now ?.. they left a very untidy room ! lol! something to...
    starlitz starlitz 41-45, F 3 Responses Sep 2, 2011

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    Empty Nest. Filled With Sorrow.

    I thought when my only child went off to college last August I would be sad for a few weeks, but I go through long stretches of being fairly distraught. I recognize that I am too alone, but being social isn't going to fill this up.
    Elad5533 Elad5533 46-50 1 Response Apr 20, 2012

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    Im recently single after a long engagement,

    my two sons, are now grown, and the youngest is goin into the army, on top of that, i just up and relocated to a new state, so im overwhelmed with what to do with myself. Never been alone before. Its just me and my dogs. Leery of meeting new people, yet cant wait.
    serenity372 serenity372 41-45, F 2 Responses Feb 23, 2014

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    Empty Nest

    i've raised 6 children, i have a great amount of friends, work, do craft have a dog a partner. yet i still miss the kids.  they get around to ringing, visiting.  my daughter said they may leave were we live.  I am devastated i feel you get to an age were your not...
    lessons lessons 61-65 Jul 12, 2009

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    I Was So Looking Forward to This, Now I Feel Lost

    As the saying went, born by the time I was thirty, out of the hosue by the time I am fifty, and then I get to start my second childhood. So I'm going on year two of of this 'childhood', and thankfully I have the business to keep me super busy, I am now defined by this very big...
    CEOtoo CEOtoo 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2008

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    Need Help

    hi! my son is in college 2 hours away from me, he doesn't call, and when he does he just talk in automatic "ok", "yes", aha! ,bye". He lies saying that he is not coming because he has a lot to do but I found out that he comes to town and stay with friends and when I call him he...
    evamatissedos evamatissedos 41-45 2 Responses Nov 5, 2011

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    Sad, Alone, And Don't Know How To Cope

    I had a really bad emotional day today. I am an empty-nester. My daughter has been out of the home for quite a while but she used to live very close and we did things together all the time. Now she lives in Korea, and I don't get to see her or communicate with her very often...
    GlassButterfly GlassButterfly 51-55, F May 22, 2012

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    First Time Empty Nester

    My son will be going off to college in the fall...actually in the middle of the summer and I am absolutely terrified. My husband and I have a truly terrible relationship...we hate each other actually. I am afraid of the empty, desolate feeling I know I will have after my son...
    tselliott tselliott 56-60, F 10 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    My son left home 18 months ago

    and I still feel I need to look after him, I miss his company as my husband and i don't talk much
    pinky221157 pinky221157 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I'm a guy with a bad case of the "syndrome.

    " My oldest daughter (now almost 20) left for college in September, 2013, and I'm still having a very difficult time coping with it. My younger daughter (almost 16) is a sophomore in high school and already, I dread her departure. I've always worked at home (part time) and...
    JimmyLonesome JimmyLonesome 46-50, M 1 Response Jan 22, 2014

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    Lost Without Kids

    I am a recent empty nester and as miserable as the day is long. Most days I stay in bed and cry, it an effort for me to get my head off the pillow. I loved raising my children and thats really the only thing I know how to do. So many days, I really don't think I'm going to make...
    heartbroken52 heartbroken52 51-55, F 5 Responses Jul 20, 2012

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    Losing Two Jobs

    My middle child is headed to college next Tuesday.  You may have figured out he is not my last to go because he is the middle.  My oldest daughter is in medical school ten hours away. My baby girl is 8 years old.  She will always live with us.  She has Down...
    katorourke katorourke 51-55 1 Response Aug 14, 2009

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    Been There Done That

    i really wanted to just read and try to help others who might be having a tough time dealing with their children leaving home. My two kids left home in 06' and 08' so I've pretty much adjusted. I still miss them very much and think of the times when they were growing up and...
    Hikermom Hikermom 56-60 1 Response Aug 3, 2011

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    How Does Dad Feel

    Prolly not many men on here, but I don't know where else or what else to do. My whole life has been for family and making them feel happy and loved. I have three boys one fy my first marriage and my wife has two from her first husband. When my wife and I got married 10 years ago...
    Djspalding Djspalding 51-55, M 2 Responses Aug 16, 2012

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    Harder Than I Thought

      I should have seen this coming, really.   He’s been independent from the moment he stopped breastfeeding at two years old, and his favorite thing to tell me was “No, Mommy, I do it MYSELF!” He’s always been smarter than me too J...
    n8smom91 n8smom91 36-40 3 Responses Jul 1, 2009

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    I Feel Lost

    Hello, I feel lost without my son and grandson. My son who is 19 and his girlfriend of 2 years, who is 20 had a baby boy 2 months ago. They lived with my husband and me until recently. His girlfriend lived with us also. Her parents kicked her out when she turned 18, they also...
    rosebudmom2320 rosebudmom2320 51-55 1 Response Dec 3, 2012

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    Empty Nest. Filled With Sorrow.

    I thought when my only child went off to college last August I would be sad for a few weeks, but I go through long stretches of being fairly distraught. I recognize that I am too alone, but being social isn't going to fill this up.
    Elad5533 Elad5533 46-50 4 Responses Apr 20, 2012

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    Both of my children are grown up

    and on their own with their own lives and families. I have one son and one daughter.
    momnakedingarden momnakedingarden 46-50, F 1 Response Jun 5, 2014

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    I feel like my universe is just

    so out of alignment.....everything i have known for so long is just not there anymore :0(
    itswonder4all itswonder4all 41-45, F 3 Responses Jun 30, 2014

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    Just Me and the Dog

    I have empty nest syndrome...its just me an dthe dog left, both children left in a two week period. (Not for college, but for good).Husband died in 1993 and I have spent my entire life caring for others, now I am really lost  
    home108alone home108alone 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 20, 2009

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    Sad, Alone, And Don't Know How To Cope

    I had a really bad emotional day today. I am an empty-nester. My daughter has been out of the home for quite a while but she used to live very close and we did things together all the time. Now she lives in Korea, and I don't get to see her or communicate with her very often...
    GlassButterfly GlassButterfly 51-55, F May 22, 2012

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    I Was So Looking Forward to This, Now I Feel Lost

    As the saying went, born by the time I was thirty, out of the hosue by the time I am fifty, and then I get to start my second childhood. So I'm going on year two of of this 'childhood', and thankfully I have the business to keep me super busy, I am now defined by this very big...
    CEOtoo CEOtoo 46-50, F 6 Responses Apr 6, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    All of my 3 kids are gone and on their own. My kids are 21, 23, and 27. This makes me an empty nester and grandmother. I have 3 grandkids from my 2 daughters.
    singlefemalegardening singlefemalegardening 46-50, F 1 Response May 8

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    I am a empty nest mom.. I haven't seen or heard from my first child in 9 years and my second child in 2 years.. my youngest he stay in his room all day and play on the ps4 and...
    snowcop snowcop 46-50, F May 15

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    I have Asperger's Syndrome which is a high functioning form of autism. I got diagnosed at 7, but my parents told me I was BORN with it. I guess I was born abnormal after all. I...
    maialove maialove 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Hello fellow CES survivors my heart is out to you all I had surgery on March 4 2015 laminectomy/discectomy emergency decompression was paralyzed for 30 hours .This syndrome is one...
    clint03 clint03 36-40, M a week ago

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    I haven't been diagnosed yet. my Dr is trying to eliminate anything else it could be, but I am suffering. I'm having a hard time going to work everyday cuz i can't get out of...
    kareenmarie kareenmarie 36-40, F Apr 30

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    Breaking up is never easy regardless of condition. For someone with aspergers its all the more difficult. All the little things you would do in the day which revolved around having...
    Sakaratte Sakaratte 26-30, M 1 Response May 1

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    Hard decisions are never easy whether you have a condition or not. You have to do what is best for you even if it hurts someone else. When you really care about someone often the...
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    I do. However, I have no talent in anything whatsoever, I waste a lot of time and not to mention I wasted my life pretending to be someone I wasn't and never will be. I have a lot...
    FoxFan64 FoxFan64 13-15, M 2 Responses May 5

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    God why are people with autism spectrum disorders so retarded and sensitive? They need to buck up! Okay so two weeks ago my other autistic friend spend the night with me because I...
    JoyJoy7 JoyJoy7 22-25, F 7 Responses May 11

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    I don't understand eye contact or facial expression I remember Making friends with someone once we talked for a while and eventually the topic somehow went into disability's, When...
    Autumnflowers Autumnflowers 18-21, F 8 Responses May 13

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    I often use my imagination in a way to create or recreate the reality to better understand some situations or to comfort my insecurities when needed. Sometimes I find myself into...
    RichardAndon RichardAndon 22-25, M May 16

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    Nowadays I blend in with society pretty well, but in kinder garden my symptoms were showing a lot and I got humiliated over and over by the sixth graders telling me "you should do...
    ortwin ortwin 16-17, M 1 Response May 17

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    It's the mild variant which just means people don't realize that I actually have a problem and thus hate me. It causes a lot of problems including with social interaction, and...
    omutsukimi omutsukimi 18-21, M 3 Responses May 19

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    Hi this is my first time on here, just cane on to get some peoples real experiences. I'm sick of reading threw endless pages of things I don't understand with all the long words...
    pinklady2989 pinklady2989 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    I had a terrible experience the day before i had emergency surgery...i woke up one morning not being able to get out of bed because of the pain so i called an ambulance was taken...
    jszymecki1234 jszymecki1234 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    Hi I wanted to post that I am with a company in the US for all natural products for various medical conditions, one product that helps inflammatory issues, another product that...
    carolgem carolgem 46-50, F 3 days ago

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