I Have Got to Be More Assertive

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 127 People

    Why?

    Why do i need to be assertive? i have a deep low voice and i don't ever use it very strongly. Most the time i am cool going with the flow, but i never have anyone walk over me. Usually the most dangerous people are the ones who don't act dangerous. People can still see it in me...
    Arorin Arorin
    22-25, M
    7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

    It Feels Weird When I Do Say "no" To People

    I'm so unassertive that when I say "no" to requests it feels surprisingly easy and empowering but also a little weird. It makes me realize that there are so many times when I could've said no, but I chose to say yes immediately because I figure it would make the other person...
    aislersan aislersan
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 14, 2011
    itsmenhiceee itsmenhiceee
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 8, 2014

    Not assertive at all I'm just too passive!

    I find it hard to say no and then I end up saying yes to please the other person and do something i don't want to do... I'm never sure of anything and I always say ok but get cold feet quite quickly and I never can say how I really feel! Which isn't great because then I'm not...
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee
    22-25, F
    Jul 13, 2014

    Doormat No More!

    I tend to not say what I'm feeling like I could be thinking "you bastard how could you!" but it comes out "oh its okay" people are gonna get a piece of my mind from now on !
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 14, 2008

    Watching That You Don't Get Agressive

    As I've been reading up on assertiveness they say an assertive person would be in control and calm  and use anger in a controlled way.  So I've  been watching how when I get frustrated with my son or wife I try to present my case in a more kind way.  Try to...
    tregg tregg
    61-65, M
    Sep 25, 2010

    One of My Biggest Character Flaws

    I was always told and taught that no means no. Thus I WILL take no for answer. If someone says 'no' to something, I cease to persue the issue. Also I lean too much toward the I'll-just-take-what-the-world-gives-me attitude. I'm a bit pessimistic, so I figure, why assert...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Jan 11, 2009

    Like I Was Born Overnight

    I used to be quite passive but now I take no ****! I'm not a ***** or anything I just know how to speak up now when something isn't right or is unjust. I am learning how to take control of things, do it on my own, and stand up for myself. Take baby steps if you want to, I...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jan 5, 2009

    I think the first thing I have to do is stop

    apologizing for how I feel. When you express your opinions and stand up for what you believe in, not everyone will agree with you, and it's a hard thing for me to accept. It's just something I have to deal with. I don't want them to be mad at me anymore, but I have to stand by...
    azurerush azurerush
    22-25, F
    Feb 27
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