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I Have Got to Be More Assertive

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    itsmenhiceee itsmenhiceee 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2014

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    One of My Biggest Character Flaws

    I was always told and taught that no means no. Thus I WILL take no for answer. If someone says 'no' to something, I cease to persue the issue. Also I lean too much toward the I'll-just-take-what-the-world-gives-me attitude. I'm a bit pessimistic, so I figure, why assert...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 11, 2009

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    Not assertive at all I'm just too passive!

    I find it hard to say no and then I end up saying yes to please the other person and do something i don't want to do... I'm never sure of anything and I always say ok but get cold feet quite quickly and I never can say how I really feel! Which isn't great because then I'm not...
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee 22-25, F Jul 13, 2014

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    Watching That You Don't Get Agressive

    As I've been reading up on assertiveness they say an assertive person would be in control and calm  and use anger in a controlled way.  So I've  been watching how when I get frustrated with my son or wife I try to present my case in a more kind way.  Try to...
    tregg tregg 61-65, M Sep 25, 2010

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    It Feels Weird When I Do Say "no" To People

    I'm so unassertive that when I say "no" to requests it feels surprisingly easy and empowering but also a little weird. It makes me realize that there are so many times when I could've said no, but I chose to say yes immediately because I figure it would make the other person...
    aislersan aislersan 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2011

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    Why?

    Why do i need to be assertive? i have a deep low voice and i don't ever use it very strongly. Most the time i am cool going with the flow, but i never have anyone walk over me. Usually the most dangerous people are the ones who don't act dangerous. People can still see it in me...
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    Like I Was Born Overnight

    I used to be quite passive but now I take no ****! I'm not a ***** or anything I just know how to speak up now when something isn't right or is unjust. I am learning how to take control of things, do it on my own, and stand up for myself. Take baby steps if you want to, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 5, 2009

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    Doormat No More!

    I tend to not say what I'm feeling like I could be thinking "you bastard how could you!" but it comes out "oh its okay" people are gonna get a piece of my mind from now on !
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2008

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    Last week I had to go to my local home

    improvement store. I usually go in the middle of the day to avoid any semblance of a crowd. Thus I had the place mostly to myself - except a few hardy contractors. I went to the sole clerk, who had no line. I avoid those automatic check outs because I invariably mess up and need...
    CatalinaVanilla CatalinaVanilla 26-30, F Nov 9, 2014

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    I love assertive people,who standup for them selves and aren't afraid to do so or speak what's on there mind,it is something im not always good at doing,but I will when i have to...
    simpleandpossible simpleandpossible 22-25, F 2 Responses May 9

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    I arrived at work at my usual time, parked my bike and headed in. I went to the locker room to ***** off my leathers, and the two guys who like to watch me were there again waiting...
    Astrucbmt Astrucbmt 22-25, F 2 Responses May 7

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    Got written up today for cussing, because people **** me off and I'm ready to stomp someone's face in
    thatyoungmetalhead thatyoungmetalhead 16-17, M May 5

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    Finally I can join this experience!! I got my first tattoo for literally one hour ago and I'm so happy I'm crying.
    norwegianluna norwegianluna 18-21, F 1 Response May 21

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    Oh okay I was gonna post to some other experience but I found it. This is so true. I've no more space to keep my books. I need more books and I've to always rearrange it. Any tips...
    chocolateinmyblood chocolateinmyblood 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I got into a fight when i was a kid with some other kid on the street. He punched me basically, first time i avoided it and the second time well lets just say i lost a few teeth...
    Autumnflowers Autumnflowers 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    This happen when i was 12. It was in 2010. I was in a primary school near to my house.I was so scared to go to school. Because i knew i had to face the bullies. Everyday since then...
    Fear33 Fear33 16-17, F May 10

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    I can't believe my flat stomach disappeared so easily! Just a few months at an office job, eating and drinking have expanded my waistline considerably! It's bound to get bigger at...
    missimo missimo 26-30, F 1 Response May 11

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    ALL BECAUSE I HAVE AUTISM!!!!! ;-;
    AnonWesker AnonWesker 13-15, M 2 Responses May 14

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    I have the Dark Mark on my arm, an evil eye on the back of my neck, and the anarchy symbol on my stomach. :)
    TGBman TGBman 22-25, M May 21

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    Anyone around that's vaguely arty/creative? Or maybe there are some actual tattoo artists kicking around on here? I have a tattoo on my inner forearm I'm desperate to add to (along...
    SlushyAseSparkles SlushyAseSparkles 22-25, F a week ago

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    Have fought on several occasions as a child and adult. There are certain things that just can't be tolerated.
    RocknRollCowboy71 RocknRollCowboy71 41-45, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Its taking awhile...I would probably be cured when I'm 20 :s
    StevieOakley14 StevieOakley14 13-15, F May 10

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    1. Fridge 2. Xbox 3. Taxi service leader It's coming through fast Report the fat Cow
    75KFORABUM 75KFORABUM 51-55, F 5 days ago

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    I hate EPAlie it does not reply to my messages when it deletes something that is not even sexual.
    sroonaka616 sroonaka616 18-21 May 5

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    Actually 3. An evil leprechaun on my right bicep, two butt ******* devils on my left hip,and my wife's name on my ring finger.
    RocknRollCowboy71 RocknRollCowboy71 41-45, M May 21

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    I like staying alone sometimes Some time back ,I had written a post on loneliness.The results of a recent Pew Research Center survey found that 85% of the surveyed people think it...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 46-50, F 2 Responses 40 mins ago

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    I think I have maladaptive daydream Disorder, i have read a bit about it and i feel like thats what i am going throw. i dint really get it at an really young age. i think I got it...
    Babygirl3799 Babygirl3799 16-17, F 1 Response May 6

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    You ever get tired of people picking on you or bullying you? I swear I got my sense of humor from my mom! When dad divorced her after all his affairs...mom got tired of the women...
    teadiva teadiva 31-35, F May 7

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    My mom was always pretty ambitious when I was a little kid. She started her own small online store alongside my dad before I was born. But soon she was ready to move onto something...
    anon1296 anon1296 18-21, F 1 Response May 20

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    I guess it was more of a chemical pregnancy but I do believe I was pregnant. I had two positive tests with first morning urine, got a blood test and it was negative, and then two...
    Ginkofishin Ginkofishin 18-21, F 1 Response May 4

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    I have no idea how people suffer these on a regular basis and live, i suffer anxiety and depression, and i am used to having the miniature normal anxiety attacks, just the heart...
    Zexias96 Zexias96 18-21, M 2 Responses May 6

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    I was diagnosed exactly 2 years ago. I was hanging out in a taco shop waiting for food, about 1.5 hrs after a 2 hour full body lifting session at the gym. Left feeling fine, no...
    samanthajoy samanthajoy 26-30, F May 8

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    I've had HH for so long and I'm sick of it. Not only do I have it on my hands, feet, and armpits but I also sweat on my bum sometimes and legs. Like what? Who sweats there??? I'm a...
    valm23001 valm23001 16-17, F 2 Responses May 18

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    I am 22 years old and I found out in September of 2014 that I have genital herpes (HSV-2). I got herpes from one encounter with an idiot at the bar I worked at who told me he had...
    lillypads22 lillypads22 22-25, F 5 Responses May 11

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    I have emetophobia, and have since about age 9. I came down with something when my dad was in Ireland and my mom was an emetophobe too so I felt so alone and scared. to this day...
    jenidy jenidy 18-21, F 2 Responses May 12

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    I am 22 years old and I found out in September of 2014 that I have genital herpes (HSV-2). I got herpes from one encounter with an idiot at the bar I worked at who told me he had...
    harryyang1990 harryyang1990 22-25, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Please don't judge. I feel as awful making that statement as you do reading it but it is honestly how I feel. I am 41 years old and have been married for 11 years. My wife and I...
    kydadof2 kydadof2 41-45, M 1 Response May 1

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    I am 24, I have always been an incredibly shy person. I suffer from social anxiety alot and because of that I never had a lot of friends. I am an extremely nice person, I always go...
    nlove90 nlove90 22-25, M May 9

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    I'd like to tell you how much the moments in time I felt loved by you will always mean to me. Yet I can't find words to measure up to what I feel. I am genuinely sorry for any...
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    Had to update my sex journal , just had a very intense shower duet. Started with me getting a shower, then my hubby joining me, started intensely kissing and rubbing , then wend...
    Gemma3sahara Gemma3sahara 31-35, F 2 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    I got more work done on my sleeve yesterday. Yippy
    coraimaal coraimaal 18-21, F 2 Responses May 6

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    So a couple days ago, one of husband's groomsmen texted him and said he needed to talk to us about standing up as he was in a tight spot financially. He decided to tell us this 25...
    MichiganGirl420 MichiganGirl420 22-25, F Apr 30

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