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I Have Got to Be More Assertive

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    Like I Was Born Overnight - I used to be quite passive but now I take no ****! I'm not a ***** or anything I just know how to speak up now when something isn't right or is...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 5, 2009

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    Doormat No More! - I tend to not say what I'm feeling like I could be thinking "you bastard how could you!" but it comes out "oh its okay" people are gonna...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2008

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    One of My Biggest Character Flaws - I was always told and taught that no means no. Thus I WILL take no for answer. If someone says 'no' to something, I cease to persue the issue...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 11, 2009

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    So They Say - The people who love me tell me I'm treated the way I am because I'm not assertive enough.... I guess that goes on the Ways to Improve Self list. Sure, now I know...
    Mello Mello 26-30, F 10 Responses May 13, 2008

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    Why? - Why do i need to be assertive? i have a deep low voice and i don't ever use it very strongly. Most the time i am cool going with the flow, but i never have anyone walk over...
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    Watching That You Don't Get Agressive - As I've been reading up on assertiveness they say an assertive person would be in control and calm  and use anger in a controlled way...
    tregg tregg 61-65, M Sep 25, 2010

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    It Feels Weird When I Do Say "no" To People - I'm so unassertive that when I say "no" to requests it feels surprisingly easy and empowering but also a little weird. It...
    aislersan aislersan 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2011

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