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I Have Got to Be More Assertive

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    Not assertive at all I'm just too passive!

    I find it hard to say no and then I end up saying yes to please the other person and do something i don't want to do... I'm never sure of anything and I always say ok but get cold feet quite quickly and I never can say how I really feel! Which isn't great because then I'm not...
    LittleMilwee LittleMilwee 22-25, F Jul 13, 2014

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    Watching That You Don't Get Agressive

    As I've been reading up on assertiveness they say an assertive person would be in control and calm  and use anger in a controlled way.  So I've  been watching how when I get frustrated with my son or wife I try to present my case in a more kind way.  Try to...
    tregg tregg 61-65, M Sep 25, 2010

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    Doormat No More!

    I tend to not say what I'm feeling like I could be thinking "you bastard how could you!" but it comes out "oh its okay" people are gonna get a piece of my mind from now on !
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response May 14, 2008

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    It Feels Weird When I Do Say "no" To People

    I'm so unassertive that when I say "no" to requests it feels surprisingly easy and empowering but also a little weird. It makes me realize that there are so many times when I could've said no, but I chose to say yes immediately because I figure it would make the other person...
    aislersan aislersan 31-35, M 1 Response Jan 14, 2011

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    One of My Biggest Character Flaws

    I was always told and taught that no means no. Thus I WILL take no for answer. If someone says 'no' to something, I cease to persue the issue. Also I lean too much toward the I'll-just-take-what-the-world-gives-me attitude. I'm a bit pessimistic, so I figure, why assert...
    SonicReducer75 SonicReducer75 36-40, M 4 Responses Jan 11, 2009

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    Last week I had to go to my local home

    improvement store. I usually go in the middle of the day to avoid any semblance of a crowd. Thus I had the place mostly to myself - except a few hardy contractors. I went to the sole clerk, who had no line. I avoid those automatic check outs because I invariably mess up and need...
    CatalinaVanilla CatalinaVanilla 26-30, F Nov 9, 2014

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    Why?

    Why do i need to be assertive? i have a deep low voice and i don't ever use it very strongly. Most the time i am cool going with the flow, but i never have anyone walk over me. Usually the most dangerous people are the ones who don't act dangerous. People can still see it in me...
    Arorin Arorin 22-25, M 7 Responses Feb 3, 2010

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    itsmenhiceee itsmenhiceee 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 8, 2014

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    Like I Was Born Overnight

    I used to be quite passive but now I take no ****! I'm not a ***** or anything I just know how to speak up now when something isn't right or is unjust. I am learning how to take control of things, do it on my own, and stand up for myself. Take baby steps if you want to, I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jan 5, 2009

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