I Have Had My Kindness Mistaken As a Weakness

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    Polite Mask

      I hid my cruel nature behind a polite mask.  My friend, who has know me since grade school acts gruff but is a total wimp, gets the attention while I just smile. The worst part is the occasional girl that I am attracted to who is turned off because she thinks I am...
    Dewduster Dewduster
    66-70, M
    9 Responses Mar 15, 2009

    If all your experiences equate to perversions,

    blocked you will be. I personally find sexual perversions grotesque and psychopathic.
    deleted deleted
    Oct 5, 2015

    I've Used This Phrase Before

    as has Morrissey, who wrote it, hehe, but 'it takes guts to be gentle and kind'.
    mizzen123 mizzen123
    46-50, M
    6 Responses Feb 21, 2011

    Never mistake my kindness

    as my weakness because if you do! weak is not what you are going to remember of me.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 12, 2015

    I ABSOLUTELY hate it

    when people do this. It brings out my inner *****!! Of course, my husband is well acquainted with, and loves her, but she's truly not someone to be taken lightly. Hmmmm, I wonder if he does that on purpose? Note to self.....
    femdomwife femdomwife
    46-50, F
    1 Response Oct 25, 2015

    You Don't Know?

    That's the center of the most trouble my whole life. A whole lot less now that i'm retired, though. The only two problems in the world for me now are lack of money and no pot. Infusion of adequate cash and legalize pot and i'm in paradise. See, this is exactly why i'm so in...
    eleanorssong eleanorssong
    56-60, F
    1 Response Mar 15, 2012

    I have this trait where I try my hardest to

    please everyone. Problem is a huge number of people begin to take this for granted and then proceed to take advantage of it. Maybe it is a weakness after all
    HeyLookItsGemma HeyLookItsGemma
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    I am constantly told I am a pushover

    when in fact I'm just being a decent person Instead of being rude and constantly challenging everyone
    PandaXBunny PandaXBunny
    16-17, F
    Jul 13, 2015

    Others think I'm gullible

    and respond to demands. I think I'm kind and they are mean. I continue to be kind even if it means others come to me for my kindness and it exhausts me. Those who ridicule me for having a weak spine are some of the meanest people I've ever met.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 13, 2015

    People think I'm weak

    and different for still having emotions, but rage is an emotion, correct?
    2b5h 2b5h
    18-21, M
    1 Response Feb 26, 2015

    people always use me I've been nice

    and I try to be there as much as I can be and they just throw it back in my face
    Elmaevana Elmaevana
    16-17, F
    Feb 27, 2015

    This is so annoying. it happens to my partner

    all the time. She's the kindest person I've ever met and some people try to walk all over her because of it. Kindness is a kind of strength. It keeps us all alive.
    splashUK2014 splashUK2014
    46-50, M
    3 Responses Oct 5, 2015

    Kind of freaking out.

    It started this afternoon at work. When Bob left, he left me alone. Alone without love, without a partner, without strength, hope in tomorrow and friendship. I lost a lot that day. How long are you in my life? Lost too many temporary loves, which I believed were eternal. My...
    deleted deleted
    Aug 6, 2015

    Kindness Or Weakness?

    After my children's father was killed in a hit and run accident, I guess I was very vunerable to people. My daughter met someone who needed a place to "just sleep" and asked if it would be okay if they just slept on our couch when they weren't working. I asked about...
    RainbowsandAngels RainbowsandAngels
    51-55, F
    1 Response Mar 22, 2009

    My freshman year of high school I let people

    pick on me because I thought they were joking with me. It's senior year and people don't respect me at all. Even my friends pick on me and talk down to me. I'm a piece of ****.
    NoNameKire NoNameKire
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 16

    Just blocked someone

    who has more experiences with being spanked as ...doesn't matter. Gone.
    deleted deleted
    Jul 16, 2015

    Don't Remember What Happened Exactly

    Don't remember what happened exactly but I was had gotten into an arguement with a friend.  I was confiding in to another friend about this and my friend told me my kindness was mistaken for a weakness.  I try my best to be kind because that's who I am...
    tenderheart08 tenderheart08
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Feb 24, 2008

    I believe strongly that each should do his

    or her part to make the world a better place...'Be the change you want to see.' etc. I have encountered many people who take this for weakness. Or who even find it offensive. These people will punish those who follow this philosophy. It is a form of control imposed by people...
    purexperience purexperience
    26-30, M
    Feb 15

    Middle School

    I met this girl in my class and we were always neck to neck on point with our work, so we became friends. And there were days where she missed class and I took the privilege of being a good friend and doing it for her. But I think she just got so used to it and I started doing...
    laaanie laaanie
    18-21, F
    Oct 22, 2013

    Leeches. I'm a very kind person,

    and people try to take advantage of it and me. I'm so sick of people trying to treat me like a doormat. I am not here for another person's convenience or assistance. If I do something for someone, it's because I want to. i don't owe you anything. If I don't for some reason...
    notthis78 notthis78
    36-40, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2014

    I know without a shadow of a doubt this group

    is real! How many times! Boy haven't I been taking to the limit every time I try to trust someone with my kindness. It has never fail. If they do not abuse it up front they take it in time. This is why I have my limits now. I care and don't care. I feel and yet I am so cold. I...
    Babeondwy Babeondwy
    41-45, F
    1 Response Aug 27, 2015

    i have lived my life helping others.

    I am sick of living my life on the sidelines of other people's lives. Its time to live for me!
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Aug 9, 2015

    Quiet Strength

    Kindness is often underestimated but it is definitely a strength, just as love is a strength. It takes a quiet courage to open your heart and be vulnerable and reach out to someone in need of kindness. This group makes me think of this quote for some reason: "Courage is...
    moonlitReveries moonlitReveries
    22-25, F
    5 Responses May 31, 2009

    People think they can walk all over me

    and do/say to me whatever they want. Just because I try to be Nice all the time. They see me as a weak person who Isn't ready for everything. I've had enough.. Because if being Nice doesn't help anything, why should I still try? Maybe I should let my Inner ***** out. I'm...
    GianniV GianniV
    18-21, M
    4 Responses Feb 26, 2015

    So today at work some ******* decided to be

    rude to me and they thought that just cause I'm an employe I wasn't going to do/say anything to them sadly for them they where wrong yea Don't confuse my kindness with my weakness cause it won't be pretty...and my manager didn't told me anything cause he knows I was right he...
    notgranted42 notgranted42
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2015

    this happenes to me alot.

    but im learning to not let it get out of control.
    razgrizizzy razgrizizzy
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 8, 2015

    I belive in peace and love.

    . but some ******* just take an advantage of my kind nature..
    Rachxox Rachxox
    22-25, F
    Feb 26, 2015

    I'm feeling so fed up with this family member

    of mine who keeps invading my privacy. She wants to know everything about me. She tries to reads my personal messages as well and behaves like its a joke. I don't wanna talk to her at all. I have told several times politely not to invade my personal space. She doesn't understand...
    HappyJMJ HappyJMJ
    26-30, F
    Feb 26, 2015

    this seams to be my life long story.

    I was born transgendered. people have judged me as weak because of this most of my life. For years i strived for acceptance. Iv been many things i life, trying to find my place in our world. Iv worked as a deck hand on tow boats, a union carpenter and a recon specilist for...
    tommym4m1958 tommym4m1958
    56-60, T
    Jul 23, 2015

    It's Hard

    people miss judge me all the time i am kind but like a good friend of my just said its harder to love somebody when they are mean or post vulgar and nasty comments about you
    wotaloser wotaloser
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 26, 2011

    ******** are ********.

    I've seen thousands in my field.
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 22, 2015

    Bad Mistake!

    I am honestly and genuinely kind to others, it's just how I was born to be. But many have mistaken it as a weakness, too many times. That's not a good idea, to assume that I am weak. :-/ I may be a little naive, but I am not outright stupid! It doesn't take me...
    deleted deleted
    8 Responses Mar 14, 2009
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