I Have Herpes

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    I want anyone who reads this to know

    that being honest with a potential boyfriend or girlfriend is very difficult. But you must do it! I recently started talking to a man who was more than understanding and is very interested in being with me. I never thought it would happen but don't lose hope!
    Eg9801 Eg9801
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jun 27, 2015

    It's been just over two years

    since my diagnosis. In that time my ex boyfriend has now found someone else, I have been so upset. since finding out and have been suffering from an outbreak since mid feb ...the pain is not to bad, but the sores are still there on the genitals and there is a lot of discomfort...
    121china 121china
    26-30, M
    1 Response Mar 15, 2016

    Sorry but having HERPES is a LIFE CURSE.

    It never "gets better with time". THAT, is a MYTH. No sane woman, WANTS this..Pain, broken heart, OB'S, Med's, Stigma...I have had this for over 30 YEARS. I "look" younger than my age, I work out, yet ZERO LOVE LIFE. Only others with HERPES.."MAY" want be with you, but how...
    DEADwithH DEADwithH
    61-65, M
    6 Responses Jan 28, 2016

    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN
    26-30, M
    4 Responses Jan 16, 2014

    Last week I tested positive

    for HSV1 and HSV2. My ex-boyfriend let me know he had it for 15 years. I guess it was a parting gift. He dropped the knowledge on me the night we broke up. What a jerk right? He gave the whole "I didn''t want to lose you" excuse. I don't hate him. I am just disappointed and...
    annab01 annab01
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 29, 2015

    Update from yesterday.

    ....guy calls me back and we talk for 4 hours. Apparently, it doesn't bother him in the slightest. Makes me want to tell even more people
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet
    22-25, F
    14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

    This place is really great.

    These stories given me hope that after I get over the stages of blame and self hate that I can be happy again. I just found out I have genial herpes five days ago and the only person here for me is the man who gave it to me. My best friend isn't even here for me. The pain was...
    Bree3455 Bree3455
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Feb 15, 2016

    How can you tell who you caught herpes from ?

    If you show symptoms of herpes 4 days after exposure doesn't that prove that you caught it from that girl.
    valleynovascotia valleynovascotia
    31-35, M
    1 Response Feb 22, 2016

    7/29/15 was the day I found out I had herpes.

    It was last week Tuesday when I started to feel ill and had extreme pain. I went to my local urgent care. My doctor asked a few questions and only took a quick look and said I had a yeast infection. She gave me pills and I went to the drugstore to pick up a topical cream. The...
    219Rose 219Rose
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2015

    My ex-fiance gave it to me.

    He didn't know he had it due to being asymptomatic and the tests that we took didn't include the herpes testing. At first I felt like it was a curse and that no one would want me thereafter, but I've always held out hope and belief in the seemingly impossible/unlikely. He...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2016

    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Apr 26, 2014

    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood
    36-40, M
    9 Responses Sep 12, 2013


    Roselyn123 Roselyn123
    31-35, F
    Mar 17, 2016

    I'm just found out I had it.

    i went to the Drs and asked her if there was any pill to help me not give it to my boyfriend and she just said oh no. I did my research and saw that there was. now I'm changing drs so someone can actually help me and not waste my time. till than I am on a waiting list, does...
    andeeglee andeeglee
    18-21, F
    1 Response Apr 5, 2016

    I am in complete dismay.

    I ask myself everyday why me ? Last week I was diagnosed with herpes. In shock I didn't cry. I didn't feel anything. I felt dead inside. A month ago I had my first outbreak. A week of pure pain. Unable to pee, filled with sores, crying every night and not being able to eat. The...
    aka112233 aka112233
    18-21, F
    9 Responses Feb 29, 2016

    I have herpes, I am not herpes!

    I was diagnosed April of this year and when I first found out I was truly distraught. I had to learn about what I had, what I was in store for, what was going to change throughout my body and after reading and studying what was to happen, that sense of fear was relieved! I...
    deleted deleted
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2014

    I woke up today, looked at myself in the mirror

    and for the first time in weeks I felt truly beautiful. Acceptance is happening within me. I can feel it.
    ryhp ryhp
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    'I HAVE HERPES!!! Yes that's right.

    I was 19 and had under 4 intimate relationships. This sucks. But really its not that bad, What bothers me is that our society and friends look down on someone with condition like they are "Dirty" or w/e but nope Just your average person who got the short end of the stick. I...
    DrewALife DrewALife
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Dec 15, 2015

    I've had herpes for almost 6 years now.

    I contracted it while in my first relationship, that's my luck, the first person I had sex with. My first outbreak was terrible. I missed a week of school because it hurt when I was walking and I was an emotional wreck. When I first found out I was so angry. I had never been the...
    radiantorchid radiantorchid
    22-25, F
    5 Responses May 12, 2015

    In November my husband gave me genital hsv-1

    from a cold sore on his lips. Then about a month and a half later he was diagnosed with shingles! I haven't had another outbreak since my first one. (Thank goodness) Im happy I've been able to make light of a horrible situation. I'm not so sensitive about the mention of herpes...
    keepingmyfaith keepingmyfaith
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2016

    Was hanging out with a guy

    and he came over and we watched a movie. He started trying to get touchy feely and I told him I didn't want to do anything. He could tell something was bothering me and I started tearing up. He was asking questions like why I was upset and then he goes 'do you have an std?' And...
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Apr 25, 2015

    You will stop thinking about it

    after a while and it won't rule your life. Don't let something like this control you! I'm only 3.5 months in and I'm dealing with it pretty well. Go on dates, hang with friends and realize that you are still the same person!
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jun 30, 2015

    I'm in college & all my friends have boyfriends

    & it makes me so sad bcuz I don't think I'm ever going to have that. There's no way I'm going to find a college guy willing to deal with this. I'm just venting. It's just hard knowing no one may ever love you.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 22, 2016

    I was diagnosed with HSV-1 in early September

    when I had my initial outbreak. I'm now having my second one. :( Trying to stay positive. 4 months with no outbreak is pretty good I guess. Please tell me it's true about having less outbreaks as time goes on?
    keepingmyfaith keepingmyfaith
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 28, 2016

    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay
    46-50, F
    43 Responses Aug 23, 2007

    so me and my last partner from the last

    experience I wrote are currently broken up. and this seems to be affecting me more than anything. I've been crying a lot and stressing. trying to avoid a breakout is gonna get harder if I continue to let this affect me. I'm so afraid I'll get him "sick." we still talk and...
    TryingToBeABetterMe TryingToBeABetterMe
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 2, 2016

    Hi! Does anyone have any information on the

    National Guards rules on stds. My ex and I are thinking about getting back together and then only thing that is stopping us is the chance that he would be discharged from the National Guard if he does catch it.
    han5683 han5683
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Jan 25, 2016

    I caught the bug back in 1985

    and I thought my life was over. I got my **** together, married a wonderfull lady and am blessed with two beautifull children and have a wonderfull life. So step (1)...don't let the virus define you and this will enable you to move forward with your life.
    anthony1959 anthony1959
    56-60, M
    4 Responses Nov 24, 2015

    any one here tryed elderberry syrup I've read

    and seen on line that it has a ingredient that acts as a antiviral against hsv
    livelife91 livelife91
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Apr 4, 2016

    I know this sounds a little corny,

    but here goes anyway. I just wanted to say thank you, again, to anyone on this app who said anything reassuring to me after I've been posting about just recently finding out I have herpes. I've only told one person in my life, and even she doesn't really know how to react...
    starrysunlight starrysunlight
    26-30, F
    6 Responses Mar 23, 2015

    I was diagnosed with the most painful disease

    yesterday. I don't know how I got it but imagine it was from an ex that wasn't faithful I'm only 17 and I'm terrified I have the best bf and have given this disease to him unaware I had herpes I feel so bad he's being very good about things but I'm still scared he will leave me...
    Princesskaylaxx Princesskaylaxx
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    a dr saved my life from herpes disease,

    i think i can help anybody here who needs to be cured
    Roselyn123 Roselyn123
    31-35, F
    Mar 15, 2016

    Have you ever met someone

    and it seems like they know you more than the people you knew your whole life? I met a guy like that and he was kinda dorky in a sweet adorable sexy way. I told him about my herpes and he was kind but did not stick around. It is sad but really I can't blame him. We don't talk...
    VanessaIves VanessaIves
    22-25, F
    5 Responses Apr 2, 2016

    I was diagnosed today.

    I started experiencing pain down there and went to the walk-in clinic, and the doctor quickly looked at and swabbed me saying I had a yeast infection. I took meds to take care of that but the pain did not subside and I felt like I had developed a "rash". I went to another clinic...
    lullabiesxo lullabiesxo
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Apr 13, 2016

    It's been about 2 years

    since my diagnosis & it hurts just as much as the day I found out. I just know, deep down inside, I'm never going to find someone who will accept this. My ex has it but he doesn't love me so it doesn't. I just wanted to vent bcuz I'm lonely & I would like someone to love me but...
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 19, 2016

    This disease is ruining my life I always have

    outbreaks back to back and I hate it.. It makes me feel so disgusting... I contracted it from my ex. I met him when I was 17 lost my Virginia to him found out I had it when I was 18 my life has been a living hell every since I found out I feel like I'm going to be single for the...
    hotpink243 hotpink243
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Mar 26, 2016

    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 6, 2014

    When I first had symptoms,

    I was freaking out and searching the internet just like a lot of other people probably did. It was a very bad idea, all it did was make me feel scared and like I ruined my life. I was only 18 at the time. I asked my mom to look at it because I was so scared and she agreed that...
    MRA12 MRA12
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Jan 9, 2015

    It's been almost 2 years

    since my diagnosis. Most days I'm ok, some days I even forget I have it. Then there are days like today, when I have condoms on my shopping list, that remind me I'm a danger to my boyfriend and it makes me feel so broken and dirty all over again. My body is capable of taking my...
    Shardsofsorrow Shardsofsorrow
    36-40, F
    5 Responses Feb 16, 2016

    tonight, I read a comment from someone about

    how she truly believes everything happens for a reason, even if it might be hard to understand what reason hsv might have. And tonight, I can say I completely agree with her. I am positive for hsv and hpv. And I am not ashamed of this. it is an inconvenience at most, it really...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

    I was diagnosed with genital herpes in May 2012.

    My boyfriend at the time was generally quite emotionally abusive but particularly when we found out about the herpes. He got drunk and screamed at me in the pub we worked in and then ignored me which made me feel completely alone and although I am no longer with him, I think...
    Bd92 Bd92
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Mar 11, 2016

    I don't know how I feel about herpes anymore.

    I've dated 2 guys from dating sites with it, and it was awesome to be with someone without having 'the talk' bc they had it too. An ex and I started talking again recently and I ended up telling him and he said that it's not a big deal and he still wants to be with me. I barely...
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Oct 26, 2015

    I am happy most days

    even though I have herpes. But I still wish I could be rid of it. It is one thing to meet someone I am really crushing on. I either have to walk away or have the talk and hope he accepts me. So rough
    VanessaIves VanessaIves
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Jan 29, 2016

    Did anyone see the Bill Mehrer episode

    where Charlie Sheen's doctor talks about curing his aids? But they never say cure they say ?undetectable". What does that even mean?! If you can't find the virus anywhere in the body doesn't that mean it's gone,aka cured? Why the foolishness and mystery saying undetectable...
    VanessaIves VanessaIves
    22-25, F
    1 Response Feb 18, 2016

    I was diagnosed with hsv type 2 October 2014.

    I had gotten them from my boyfriend and he swore he had no idea. a month later he dumped me and I haven't heard from him since. living with hsv type 2 is hard but dealing with it all alone is even harder. I was 15 when I was diagnosed and it felt like the world was ending. for...
    lowkeydv lowkeydv
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Jan 22, 2016

    End this damn word. It sounds gross in my mouth

    and makes me feel worse when this really isn't that bad! I say "skin condition" or if I'm pushed, HSV. Screw the other word. There are so much worse things in life. I went to my brothers army graduation shortly after I started having problems. Though I was extremely...
    mbellz424 mbellz424
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Nov 12, 2014

    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Apr 8, 2013

    Maybe somebody could help.

    A little over a month ago I contracted a UTI, which took two weeks of different antibiotics to get rid of. And then of course the antibiotics gave me a yeast infection (well, I think). I started treating the yeast infection with monistat 7, but stupidly continued to have sex...
    PassionEarth9 PassionEarth9
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Feb 22, 2016

    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998
    23 Responses Oct 7, 2008

    I have been in a relationship

    for about 10 months. I was diagnosed on April 1st of last year with herpes. My girlfriend accepts me for it... But Because I have herpes I feel like I deserve to be alone and become celibate and not be with anyone physically or emotionally. It is so humiliating to tell someone...
    anxi0us anxi0us
    22-25, F
    6 Responses Mar 30, 2016

    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman
    31-35, M
    3 Responses Mar 30, 2014

    Of course stress would effect this disease.

    I had to contract this at one of the most trying times of my life. Surprisingly I had been outbreak free for 4 months before my second one. I just got my third and am too broke to be able to afford the medicine and am in the middle of moving. So, that means lots of physical...
    Forsakenbeauty33 Forsakenbeauty33
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Mar 17, 2016

    Hi, I haven't been on here in a while.

    . Trying to accept my fate and move on. but I need some help if anyone can offer anything, please. I was diagnosed with genital herpes almost a year ago. I had my first outbreak, which was horrible, and I never had one since. Until two days ago. I had read that the first...
    starrysunlight starrysunlight
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 7, 2016

    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen
    22-25, F
    15 Responses Aug 23, 2008

    I hate this whole thing just

    as much as the rest of you. What I hate even more, though, is reading things on this page like "It could be so much worse. You could have HIV." What the hell, people?! Fun fact: we are 300% more likely to contract HIV than someone without herpes. Additionally, phrases like that...
    runswimbike13 runswimbike13
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 12, 2014

    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence
    31-35, M
    10 Responses May 14, 2014

    This groups awesome! :) Just to let you all know

    since joining experience project and hearing others talk about there experience with HSV has helped me a-lot. Most of you seem really cool! So don't let this **** get you down okay!
    DrewALife DrewALife
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 23, 2016
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