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I Have Herpes

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    Devastation And Disappointment

    I found out about a month ago I have herpes. I was sick of a really bad UTI that lasted over a month and that's when I had my first outbreak. I don't know if it was UTI or the blisters or both but the pain was unreal I cried every time I had to pee. When I got the blisters I...
    Hymelynn Hymelynn 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    Herpes... Nothing To Worry About

    So I had my first outbreak shortly after the beginning of this year. The outbreak was intense, mostly because I waited so long to see a doctor. I thought it might be a MRSA breakout, which I have a history of. So I took medicine for MRSA. That didn't help obviously. I went to...
    thewetlands thewetlands 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    I hate when people ask me

    if I use protection now after my diagnosis. Ask me if I've learned me lesson. Or "if you had just not slept with him.." What kinda comments are those? How do you know I didn't always use protection? And what lesson? That sometimes no matter how much you do, you are still...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    7/1/11

    I found out I had Herpes Simplex Virus Type 1 genitally on July 1, 2011. It was really emotional for me for the longest time. I had no idea who I got it from, and to this day I still do not know, although I have a good idea. Of course, he was the one who denied he had it and...
    Amay408 Amay408 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    darkdimples darkdimples 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen 22-25, F 14 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    When I was 15, I was gang raped by one of the

    neighborhood boys and his two cousins. If that wasn't bad enough, I found out that I had contracted herpes from one of them. I did not tell my parents because I was embarrassed and I knew my dad would kill the boys and end up in jail. I told my two best friends, and neither one...
    tammie74 tammie74 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    I was diagnosed with HSV-2 on September 18th

    2013. It felt like the last day of my life. I have since stopped fixating on it, I don't cry every day, but I do think of it every day. I take acyclovir twice a day and I think of it then, I talk to friends about their relationships and I think of it again. It's always there...
    summer1kree summer1kree 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 26

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    I was diagnosed on Friday

    before walking into work. Tonight is the first time I have had time to really sit here and process what happened to me. I really wish my ex-boyfriend.. Who I broke up with on Friday as well.. Had a little more compassion for me. All he did was accuse me of cheating and getting...
    lllllxo lllllxo 22-25 2 Responses Jan 8

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    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    I was diagnosed with HSV in December of last

    year. I was scared, and reacted in the absolute worst way possible (endless tears, tantrums, and having visions of killing my fiancé...jk, sort of). Thinking back, I'm kind of embarrassed. I honestly acted like I had some sort of terminal illness. Due to the stress of starting...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 3

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    so im not sure if i actually have herpes

    or not but im freaking out and need to vent i guess.. i was seeing this guy and things got serious pretty fast. we ended up having sex without a condom and after he tells me he has herpes and was afraid to tell me.. he said he hasent had an outbreak in three years and is on...
    rwenth103 rwenth103 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 9

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    Be honest up front. There is a fine line

    as to when to let someone you are dating know that you have Herpes. We obviously don't want to wait until we are about to have intercourse but it's also kind of awkward saying "oh by the way I have Herpes" on the first date! If we are going to meet someone from a Herpes dating...
    stdaustralia stdaustralia 22-25, F Aug 11

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    Hoping for Advice -Hi anyone,

    I have had HSV-1 for over 8 months now. At first I had outbreaks consistently for the first two months. The first month was really bad, second month not so bad but still a couple outbreaks here and there but nothing to serious to deal with. Just emotional stress. I really haven...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    Ummm Is This A Joke..

    Okay so I'm 20 years old only had 3 partners in my entire life like ever .! So I went to the dr for a normal pap and to clear a bladder infection which turned into them asking if I wanted to be tested so me being me I said sure why did I do that turns out I have herpes and hep B...
    Pure2pretty Pure2pretty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    So it hasn't been confirmed

    that I have HSV 1 or 2 yet. I took my last test in February (because I was raped) and it came out negative. My boyfriend at the time now Ex told me he didn't have anything and dumb me thinking we've been together for awhile (1 year) and he never rushed me to sleep with him...
    hrm0622 hrm0622 22-25, F 4 Responses Jul 27

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    I was diagnosed three years ago,

    however it's only recently that I have come to terms with it. When I was diagnosed I didn't cry I didn't get upset I just went on like nothing happened, I was in denial. I haven't been able to speak to anyone or share my experience because I have always felt so embarrassed and...
    nia07 nia07 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    I recently found out I have herpes,

    in which I was given them by a abusive partner I was with for 4 years, I finally had the courage to break free from him and now feel like I should be with him as he's the only one who will understand me as he has them too, and really worried about finding someone else and having...
    butterfly1200 butterfly1200 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 25

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    I got married 3 years ago with a person i

    thought was Prince Charming. A couple of months after we got married I find out through his ex that he had herpes, my world collapsed. I couldn't believe he would do this to me. I confronted him about it and he confirmed it. He said the first time he tested for it was positive...
    khloe909 khloe909 26-30, F 3 Responses Jul 29

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    I have been learning to live with this

    for almost 5 months now. I've came a pretty long way since I found out that I did have the virus. It interfered with my work; I wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year when I found out. It was so hard for me to tell him, especially...
    SB56 SB56 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 21

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    The guy I am positive I got it from is swearing

    on his life that he's clean. Now I have to deal with telling the last few people that they possibly have it. I don't feel like scaring the **** out of my friends with this. Don't have much choice.
    ofwkatie ofwkatie 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 15

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    My boyfriend of 5 years

    and I just found out last night. We are both in a state of disbelief. Of course, we both thought who was unfaithful? But after long discussions, we truly believe that one of us contracted it in the past and never knew. In the 5 years we have been together, there has never...
    jnm4ever jnm4ever 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 19

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    Was with my fiancé for almost a year

    and he found out he had it and unknowingly passed it on to me but I didn't have symptoms until recently this week. He did infect me when he tried to have sex with me while unconscious and without protection which then put me at risk. I'm happy he's out of my life because he was...
    NavySailor2012 NavySailor2012 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 26

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    I am Lisa new here. I don't know how to

    describe myself. I am a sentimental but optimistic girl. I feel so lone and helpless when I was told that I had affected with herpes.I have a BF, but when he knows i have herpes, we broken up. I am so sad and feel so lonely! So i find other Herpes singles for dating and for fun...
    herpesltr herpesltr 31-35 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I found out today that I was tested positive

    for the Herpes virus...As my doctor was explaining to me everything over the phone I felt like I could have died right then. I was dating this guy for the past two years who had cheated on me time and time again with his ex. He preached and preached about how I was the one, that...
    fairytale24 fairytale24 22-25, F 4 Responses Jan 30

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    So it's been about a year

    since I've learned the news that I have HSV2. At that point I had been with my boyfriend for about 5 months. I was so scared to tell him because of course I had a fear that he would reject me and accept the news in a cold negative way, but to my surprise he took it pretty well...
    venusV244 venusV244 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 30

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    I'm 16 old and just got the results

    that I was given herpes by my last sexual partner, age 24. I'm only 16 and will never be able to run from this. I feel like everyone knows. I walk down the street and feel like a big ball of STDs. I have become my disease. And it's heartbreaking.
    ofwkatie ofwkatie 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 13

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    I just had my first outbreak.

    I'm on antivirals and they gave me the cream. What can I expect during the healing process?
    lostandconfused689 lostandconfused689 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 5

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 26

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    I just found out today

    that i've been infected with the HSV-2. I told my best friend who is very supportive but I have yet to tell my boyfriend because he is at work and I'd like to speak to him about it in person. Any advice on what I should say to him? I'm pretty positive that he'll be understanding...
    erskii23 erskii23 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    Should i kiss and tell?

    I met a friend in college. We've always been the flirty type friends. It's been 4yrs since we meet and 2yrs since we've been to th3 same school. He invited me out &while i'm excited, yesterday I woke up with a small open sore on my lip. It is not very obvious but it made me...
    kierraloves kierraloves 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    Hi, I'm 23 just found out I'm HSV + I can't

    stop crying I have no one to talk to I feel like my life will never be the same from this I just wish I could tell someone I trust to clear my thoughts!
    need0 need0 22-25, F 8 Responses Aug 12

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    If I Only Knew

    I was only 17 when I found out. I never thought it would happen to me but it did but how? I trusted him, I was faithful, we was suppose to get married. I was young, dumb and in love. So when he told me the bump I saw was just an pimple on his penis I believed him. Man was I wrong...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet 21-25, F 14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

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    Will Anyone Be Able To Love Me?

    I am 24 years old and recently diagnosed with hsv-2. It was right before Thanksgiving and my boyfriend at the time was returning from Afghanistan for 2 weeks we hooked up a few times and he went back. It was about a week later and i started noticing red bumps eventually they...
    Gettingtoknowtherealme Gettingtoknowtherealme 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    I'm just going to make this

    as simple as possible. I want love and I don't want to be alone with this stupid virus forever. I'm too embarrassed to join a dating site or deal with my chances of rejection in real life, but I'm so ready to settle down with someone special.If there is a man out there between...
    MissFortunate1 MissFortunate1 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 12

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 40 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    I was diagnosed roughly two years ago.

    I had just turned 21 when I found out. For the record, I had only been intimate with 3 people before I met the man who gave it to me. We met in January and I found out I had it in July. I was numb...I couldn't believe this happened to me..I was always the "good girl", the...
    ae01 ae01 22-25, F 6 Responses Aug 3

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 7 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 17 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    It Can Happen To Anyone!

    Ok so I am 23 years old..Herpes can remain in your system for years and even forever and you may never experience an outbreak...for others they experience an outbreak, and the first year is pretty bad, but as time goes by it lessens...to the point that you wont have it anymore...
    asdf45679 asdf45679 22-25 3 Responses May 4, 2012

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    I'm basically always happy

    and yes herpes is always in the back of my mind it's not all I think about 24/7...till I get an outbreak. I feel gross, I don't wanna do anything, I feel helpless, just sick and sucky all around. I think I'm getting another one...this will be my 4th since I first got it about a...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 3 Responses May 2

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    So the night before last I did the hardest

    thing I've ever done. I've been talking to someone for a few weeks and he was being overly flirty and mildly sexual with his joking. I came out and told him that if rather get this over with now before anything got started and let him know I have herpes. His initial reaction was...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I just found out about an hour ago

    that i have herpes. I might be pregnant too and i dont even know what to do right now. I'm 17.
    jennivaldes jennivaldes 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 18

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    How do I tell someone about hsv?

    I live in a small town and I'm afraid if I tell this person he will tell his friends and then it will get around town. I really like him but scared to tell him. We had sex before I had hsv and now that I have it idk how to tell him. Suggestions?!?
    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 31

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 31-35, M 9 Responses May 14

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    So You Found Out You Have Herpes... Advice Just For You.

    So you just got the results. You have HSV. Right now you are probably feeling alone... Ashamed... Dirty. You are a prisoner in your own body.But please listen when I tell you (coming from experience): There is hope. You can be happy again. Your life is not over.First, let me...
    babybunnyblah babybunnyblah 18-21, F 5 Responses Feb 22, 2013

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    Dating Sites for People with Herpes It's not

    the end of the world for getting herpes. We need a new start for life. Recommend some safe and private online communities for people in need. HerpesWoo.com HPVMatch.com PositiveChat.com HSV-Dating.com HerpesSingles.org. Looking for someone in the same boat and be prepared for...
    Mariahlove3 Mariahlove3 26-30, F Aug 11

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    I was gang raped by a group of men in April of

    this year, and all, or one of the men who raped me, gave me herpes. For the rest of my life I have to live with not only a long term virus, but also the memory of what happened to me. The reminder of every pill I take, every outbreak that will occur throughout my life time...
    xdka xdka 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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