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I Have Herpes

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    You almost feel like there is no reason to keep

    going it makes you have so much thought in your head like damn what could I have done to prevent this from happening yea I know some ppl are the happy go lucky ppl saying yea I'm fine with having herpes well **** I'm not I been positive for about three months and I tell you this...
    qbnmind22 qbnmind22 22-25, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I was diagnosed with HSV in December of last

    year. I was scared, and reacted in the absolute worst way possible (endless tears, tantrums, and having visions of killing my fiancé...jk, sort of). Thinking back, I'm kind of embarrassed. I honestly acted like I had some sort of terminal illness. Due to the stress of starting...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 3

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    Got my test result back

    for HSV-2. Also good news that my new boyfriend didn't give it to me based on the test. So now I have to tell him. I have to tell him he needs to get tested, that I am positive and that I want this relationship to work out. I am so much more than this skin condition. After doing...
    mbellz424 mbellz424 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 2

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    Found out three months ago I got herpes from an

    older man I'd been messing with. I'm 22, black female. Feel like a worthless, disgusting, contagious piece of ****. Extremely depressed, suicidal. Trying to gain the courage to kill myself. Started cutting myself. It makes me feel better. No black man will ever love me, which is...
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 4 Responses Dec 7

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    to be honest i don't know how my life got this

    far off track. one minute im happily married the next i going thru a divorce and living with this "gift" that she gave me.... forever. life just seems to throw me one curve ball after another. i feel lost yet trapped in my own nightmares. it feels like a dream. i feel alone and...
    livingpositively livingpositively 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 27

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    I came to this site after sleepless nights of

    wandering the Internet while trying to calm my anxieties. It's been a few days since my Herpes diagnosis and I have experienced every emotion known to man. Anger: At myself for being careless with sex At the boy I got it from for neglecting to tell me, even when I ask At...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Oct 29

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    What do you do when someone stops talking to you

    because of your condition? After talking to my boyfriend about it he seemed fine, but I haven't heard from him in an entire day after trying to reach out multiple times. I guess I should just assume our relationship is over without him having to say it?
    beautifulmind14 beautifulmind14 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 26-30, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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    I would like to give some positive advice with

    the ones dealing with Herpes! YOUR life is not over! This is not the end! This is actually the beginning! The beginning of a new HEALTHY life! This is the start of seeing life in a different perspective! I will say again, I have come a long way with being ARROGANT which is not...
    iCas92 iCas92 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    Question for the guys out there with H.

    ..so when you have a breakout what is it like? What does it look like? Does it hurt, itch, etc.... My bf is saying he is breaking out which of course makes me nervous but he thinks it's from the condoms. I haven't seen what it looks like but was wondering what H looks and feels...
    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I just went in for a check up like I do every

    now and again since I started being sexually active. I didn't think anything was wrong nor did I have an outbreak or anything like that. My test came back positive for herpes and the guy I was about to start dating stopped talking to me. In a 2 month period since I was last...
    CaliArs CaliArs 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 5

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    Hello Everyone, A friend on mine has Herpes

    and is trying to put together a group where people could socialize in person and go to parties and stuff. He will be hosting and paying for all of these things but he doesn't know how to get people interested. His idea is to make social events for people with herpes or with...
    slimjim1 slimjim1 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I notice I don't care about anything anymore.

    I had dreams & goals & those don't really matter now. I used to thank God for waking up to see another day but I don't do that now. I used to have happiness but I don't have that now. Now I just exist.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    After being diagnosed with herpes,

    you may feel that you will be short of dating options. However, there are many herpes dating sites like hdatingsite.com that help positive singles get in touch with others, ensuring that you won't lack for company. In fact, these sites can provide you with much needed...
    pozoq pozoq 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 3

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    I have herpes, I am not herpes!

    I was diagnosed April of this year and when I first found out I was truly distraught. I had to learn about what I had, what I was in store for, what was going to change throughout my body and after reading and studying what was to happen, that sense of fear was relieved! I...
    iCas92 iCas92 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 23

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    So the night before last I did the hardest

    thing I've ever done. I've been talking to someone for a few weeks and he was being overly flirty and mildly sexual with his joking. I came out and told him that if rather get this over with now before anything got started and let him know I have herpes. His initial reaction was...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    tonight, I read a comment from someone about

    how she truly believes everything happens for a reason, even if it might be hard to understand what reason hsv might have. And tonight, I can say I completely agree with her. I am positive for hsv and hpv. And I am not ashamed of this. it is an inconvenience at most, it really...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8

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    and I feel guilty when I flirt with guys

    or just try to be normal again. I feel like if they knew they would stop talking to me right then and there. I have a lot of work to do on myself but I feel like I shouldn't be allowed to be flirty or act that way. I just feel guilty :(
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    I am a 16 year old girl.

    . i went to the doctor two weeks ago... they checked me and sent out a test. the results came back and today I discovered I have type two herpes... I'm not proud of it and I am scared of what can happen.. I've tried to do research on it but I end up breaking down in tears. I do...
    jamsjams6 jamsjams6 16-17, F 1 Response Dec 9

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    i think its kinda messed up how every positive

    dating site out there you have to pay money to join or to respond to other members. as if we don't have enough going on that now some money hungry entrepreneur of sorts is gonna charge us to possibly meet someone else with herpes. am i the only one that finds this unjust? and...
    livingpositively livingpositively 22-25, M 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I just found out that I have HSV.

    I feel very upset with myself. I'm a person that always held myself to a high standard and worked hard or never had many sexual partners but just one night of going out and having to much fun lead me here to this point in my life. I take responsabilty for my actions its just I...
    XxNDN701xX XxNDN701xX 18-21, M 3 Responses Dec 1

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    I haven't gotten tested yet

    but I think I got ...I don't even want to say it I've Googled it and I think I do have it. I'm scared I have a wife and it happens that we are in the process of getting divorced I don't know if to tell her or not I haven't had any contact with her but I sure hope she does not...
    ray128877 ray128877 26-30, M 2 Responses Dec 5

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    The short of it? Boyfriend willingly chose to

    have sex with me without a condom. After numerous attempts of me reminding him his risks. Even when he, a grown man, made this decision... I am the one left worried and guilt ridden. Why would he take that chance? Why would he put me in that position? If he were to get...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 7

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 11

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 18 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    Its been years and he does nothing

    but hurt me repeatedly , Time after time. he knows I have herpes and he doesn't have it but I just feel like I wanna leave him but then again I don't. but who else is gonna accept me have herpes. I can't stress at all and Ive have to outbreaks since I found out and they may have...
    BeingMe95 BeingMe95 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    This disease makes me hate my body,

    my skin, my soul, my entire being. I have never felt so worthless and repulsive.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm basically always happy

    and yes herpes is always in the back of my mind it's not all I think about 24/7...till I get an outbreak. I feel gross, I don't wanna do anything, I feel helpless, just sick and sucky all around. I think I'm getting another one...this will be my 4th since I first got it about a...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 5 Responses May 2

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    I was diagnosed with HSV-2 almost 10 months ago.

    I've come to terms with it and I had even started liking myself again. I've been forthcoming and honest about it whenever someone wants to be physically intimate with me, and I've taken every possible precaution to keep it from spreading. But yesterday, I got a message from a...
    HeartlessSinner HeartlessSinner 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 28

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 31-35, M 9 Responses May 14

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    Hello I'm MICHELLE buff by name,

    I'm giving a testimony about Dr. LAMANO the great Herbalist, he has the cure to all manner of diseases, he cured my herpes disease, though I went through different website I saw different testimonies about different spell casters and herbalist, I was like: 'Many people have the...
    Belaluv22 Belaluv22 22-25, F Dec 3

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 42 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    If millions and millions of people have this

    why do we have to feel unworthy of love? (Appx. 500 million) this is just plain ridiculous. it isn't deadly and u have a pretty high chance of protecting your partner (not 100%) but still with medication and condoms...and avoiding sex when there is a breakout . 80% of the people...
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Having herpes, I now believe

    that I will have to settle. Who am I to have standards when I am permanently diseased ? All the cute boyfriends I could have had, all the fun relationships... It's so painful to think of all the things I'm going to miss out on because of one stupid decision. I always hoped that...
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 3 Responses Dec 9

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 7 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    Hello my name is John I am 26 .

    I found out 3 or 4 years ago that I have herpes . At times the symptoms are really harsh . but I found something that help me and wrote about it and want to share. Acceptance , gratitude, and forgiveness sounds pretty easy right ? Yes, it maybe difficult but you can do it...
    jps2288 jps2288 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 12

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    I recently been diagnosed with herpes

    and found out I got it from my husband. I'm so down and depress. Any advice to get out of it?
    nique85 nique85 26-30, F 1 Response 20 hrs ago

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    I hate when people ask me

    if I use protection now after my diagnosis. Ask me if I've learned me lesson. Or "if you had just not slept with him.." What kinda comments are those? How do you know I didn't always use protection? And what lesson? That sometimes no matter how much you do, you are still...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 18

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    End this damn word. It sounds gross in my mouth

    and makes me feel worse when this really isn't that bad! I say "skin condition" or if I'm pushed, HSV. Screw the other word. There are so much worse things in life. I went to my brothers army graduation shortly after I started having problems. Though I was extremely...
    mbellz424 mbellz424 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12

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    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet 21-25, F 14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

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    So my boyfriend of 2 years cheated on me.

    I didn't know and I got herpes. I am so terrified that my sex life will be ruined forever. I am mortified, hurt, and feel disgusting. We are still together and I know I should probably leave him but I feel like no one else is going to want me now. I just feel completely broken...
    kristtyy kristtyy 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 8

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    Who out here is dating someone

    who doesn't have h? And they know about your H and still pursue you. Also what's the risk of transmission? We use condoms but I still worry about him getting it. I think I just need some feedback on your experience. I would feel horrible if I gave it to him
    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F 4 Responses Dec 8

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    I hate this whole thing just

    as much as the rest of you. What I hate even more, though, is reading things on this page like "It could be so much worse. You could have HIV." What the hell, people?! Fun fact: we are 300% more likely to contract HIV than someone without herpes. Additionally, phrases like that...
    runswimbike13 runswimbike13 22-25, F 3 Responses Nov 12

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    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 30

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    Last night I had the H talk with my boyfriend.

    ...he took it very very well! I am so beyond lucky to have someone like him in my life, I thank God for him everyday because herpes or not he still accepts me for who I am. I only pray that all of you if you haven't already, find someone who accepts you for YOU not your skin...
    LiveLaughLove91 LiveLaughLove91 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    I just found out i have it today.

    ..I feel..numb? Not sad, not angry, just nothing...maybe it hasn't hit me yet. I do feel kind of dirty though..I honestly think I feel nothing because i have nobody to tell but then again i'd rather nobody know..i just need people who understand to talk to...I'm going to try and...
    412girl 412girl 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I am 20 years old and I just found out I have

    herpes. My Ex fiancé left me a few months ago and I went to my obgyn to see what was wrong with me and that's when I found out what's wrong with me. Am scared and I feel like am never going to find someone who understands me...
    Lola7794 Lola7794 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 26

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    I have been learning to live with this

    for almost 5 months now. I've came a pretty long way since I found out that I did have the virus. It interfered with my work; I wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year when I found out. It was so hard for me to tell him, especially...
    SB56 SB56 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 21

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