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I Have Herpes

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    I really like this guy

    but how do I tell him , I have this. :(
    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Hi. I was just diagnosed today with genital

    herpes and I'm having a very hard time with this as I'm sure all of you did/are too. I actually contracted it from my boyfriend of 5 years. He has had "cold sores" since he was a kid. Last week we had sex at night, the next morning he broke out in a cold sore. Monday morning I...
    Ladybug1209 Ladybug1209 26-30, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    End this damn word. It sounds gross in my mouth

    and makes me feel worse when this really isn't that bad! I say "skin condition" or if I'm pushed, HSV. Screw the other word. There are so much worse things in life. I went to my brothers army graduation shortly after I started having problems. Though I was extremely...
    mbellz424 mbellz424 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2014

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    I am still beautiful.

    You will not take this away from me. Being STD+ does not take away my inherent value. I am valuable. Having herpes does not make me less valuable. I am still sexy. Desirable. My vulva is not ruined, it is not less beautiful. I have to believe these things. I will repeat...
    genitalherpesdatingsite genitalherpesdatingsite 22-25, T 1 Response Jan 6

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    Don't think I was ever happy.

    I'm kidding myself if I thought if I just didn't have it my life would be perfect. Far from it.
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 19 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    I am so tired... so very tired.

    .. this is scary, devastating, bothersome and just unnecessary. I'm just so hurt and upset right now. I don't wanna be here anymore. like maybe if I could just sleep it away I'd be okay. ugh
    Sharudy Sharudy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    Sometimes I don't think about it.

    .. and then it hits me and I just think about if I'd used a condom how different life would be. how happy I'd be. One decision can really ruin your life.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    I'm still in the process of my "First Outbreak"

    ?? . I don't think I can experience this kind of pain ever again ??
    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 16, 2014

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    I feel really alone..

    . ugh mah life smh
    Sharudy Sharudy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 7

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet 21-25, F 14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

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    I was just diagnosed with herpes a few hours ago

    and I'm devastated. I've never been in this much pain. Does every outbreak make it hurt to pee?
    rubyjane12 rubyjane12 22-25, F 1 Response 3 days ago

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    The guy who's responsible

    for me having the best sex of my life told me he still wants to bone. Some people may think this is slutty but whatever I'm excited lol.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 6

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    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 2 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F a week ago

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    How did you guys feel your first OB?

    I've read they are the worse? How long does it last?
    Sasssyy Sasssyy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I was diagnosed with HSV in December of last

    year. I was scared, and reacted in the absolute worst way possible (endless tears, tantrums, and having visions of killing my fiancé...jk, sort of). Thinking back, I'm kind of embarrassed. I honestly acted like I had some sort of terminal illness. Due to the stress of starting...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 19

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 31-35, M 9 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I no longer think I will have

    that cute adorable relationship , or be able to do the things I used to do .
    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 20

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    I hate finally finding someone I can see in my

    future, only having to tell them and them reject me in the end:( losing hope!
    CTLD88 CTLD88 26-30, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    I just feel lost , destroyed,

    weak , ready to give up .
    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    I came to this site after sleepless nights of

    wandering the Internet while trying to calm my anxieties. It's been a few days since my Herpes diagnosis and I have experienced every emotion known to man. Anger: At myself for being careless with sex At the boy I got it from for neglecting to tell me, even when I ask At...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 8 Responses Oct 29, 2014

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    Hello my name is John I am 26 .

    I found out 3 or 4 years ago that I have herpes . At times the symptoms are really harsh . but I found something that help me and wrote about it and want to share. Acceptance , gratitude, and forgiveness sounds pretty easy right ? Yes, it maybe difficult but you can do it...
    jps2288 jps2288 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 12, 2014

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    I hate this whole thing just

    as much as the rest of you. What I hate even more, though, is reading things on this page like "It could be so much worse. You could have HIV." What the hell, people?! Fun fact: we are 300% more likely to contract HIV than someone without herpes. Additionally, phrases like that...
    runswimbike13 runswimbike13 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    If anyone would like to talk about this just

    message me. we are not alone!
    XxNDN701xX XxNDN701xX 18-21, M a week ago

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    I know my ex gave it to me ,

    but he blames it all on me .
    Crystalbaby90 Crystalbaby90 16-17, F Jan 19

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    I'm basically always happy

    and yes herpes is always in the back of my mind it's not all I think about 24/7...till I get an outbreak. I feel gross, I don't wanna do anything, I feel helpless, just sick and sucky all around. I think I'm getting another one...this will be my 4th since I first got it about a...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 6 Responses May 2, 2014

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    I can't but find that I am letting herpes run

    my life . All this medicines I take just to stay health and out of pain is so expensive. Last month alone I spent 1000 dollars on pills and still fell like crap . The outbreak right now is the most painful thing I have been through yet . I was put in the hospital because I I...
    jpstoll2288 jpstoll2288 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 20

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    I would like to give some positive advice with

    the ones dealing with Herpes! YOUR life is not over! This is not the end! This is actually the beginning! The beginning of a new HEALTHY life! This is the start of seeing life in a different perspective! I will say again, I have come a long way with being ARROGANT which is not...
    iCas92 iCas92 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    tonight, I read a comment from someone about

    how she truly believes everything happens for a reason, even if it might be hard to understand what reason hsv might have. And tonight, I can say I completely agree with her. I am positive for hsv and hpv. And I am not ashamed of this. it is an inconvenience at most, it really...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    I think for me when I get the itch

    that is the warning of an outbreak... So I don't scratch and I use an ice pack to make it stop. Outbreaks are the worst and so damn painful!!!
    JanelBell JanelBell 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    I hate how millions and millions of people have

    it but u still feel so alone. Yes iv met so many awesome people on here thanks guys u have been the best....but it just seems like the people I know surely I'm the only one. Everyone looks so happy and in relationships. Why is this still such a big deal to me....is it ever going...
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 7 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I have a blister in my cheek

    but was diagnosed with genital herpes? The OB in my vaginal area is now gone but the one in my cheek is still there. Is this the same thing? Anyone else had this. I just found out three days ago that my results were positive
    Sasssyy Sasssyy 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 12

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 42 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    how is everyone dealing wit dis.

    ..cause Sometimes i get depressed i found out a few months ago
    AndreaT28 AndreaT28 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    I hate when people ask me

    if I use protection now after my diagnosis. Ask me if I've learned me lesson. Or "if you had just not slept with him.." What kinda comments are those? How do you know I didn't always use protection? And what lesson? That sometimes no matter how much you do, you are still...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I'm married and today my doctor told me she's

    95 % sure I have herpes. I'm still waiting on tests but I sure she's right. when my husband and I first got together he was diagnosed with HPV. I stayed with him and a was fine for a few years. we got married and then I had to have surgery to remove a growth. Now i had it...
    kaos1877 kaos1877 31-35, F 2 Responses Jan 16

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    Living with Herpes can be really hard.

    So it's important for we people with Herpes to find a place to get support and find love. Fortunately, a friend of mine who are a single with Herpes told me that the largest Herpes dating site www.GenitalHerpesDating.com/ now has more than 560,000 members, which makes it's...
    lesloving lesloving 31-35, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    I found out I had herpes on July 7,

    2014. My recent ex at that time didn't tell me he had it until the middle of our relationship. Few weeks later he broke up with me. I felt anger at myself for being so stupid and trusting of him. But really he is a coward for not being honest with me from the beginning. I'm...
    JanelBell JanelBell 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 19

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 11, 2014

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    So I was just told today

    that I was positive with HSV 2. Pretty scared at the moment. I am having my first outbreak and its already making my anxiety go sky rocket. I am trying to make sense on when I got this horrible disease. I've been having symptoms for a long time.. But these sores didn't appear...
    Kmg1994 Kmg1994 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    since getting it a few months ago I have

    realized that its more of an inconvenience than anything else I dont like using the word "death sentence" because herpes is farrrrrrrr from that its something u live with just like a cold or the flu...Its society that makes it sound sooo bad when it really isnt
    brihappy24 brihappy24 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2014

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    The short of it? Boyfriend willingly chose to

    have sex with me without a condom. After numerous attempts of me reminding him his risks. Even when he, a grown man, made this decision... I am the one left worried and guilt ridden. Why would he take that chance? Why would he put me in that position? If he were to get...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    So the night before last I did the hardest

    thing I've ever done. I've been talking to someone for a few weeks and he was being overly flirty and mildly sexual with his joking. I came out and told him that if rather get this over with now before anything got started and let him know I have herpes. His initial reaction was...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    Last night I had the H talk with my boyfriend.

    ...he took it very very well! I am so beyond lucky to have someone like him in my life, I thank God for him everyday because herpes or not he still accepts me for who I am. I only pray that all of you if you haven't already, find someone who accepts you for YOU not your skin...
    LiveLaughLove91 LiveLaughLove91 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 15, 2014

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    So I feel like the guy

    that gave me herpes knew before he gave it to me. He's the only person if been with besides the father of my child and when I told him that my doctor called me telling me I had herpes he took it was better then I thought. He just kept saying "I don't have herpes...I know I don't...
    Sasssyy Sasssyy 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 15

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    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...