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I Have Herpes

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 31-35, M 9 Responses May 14, 2014

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 11, 2014

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    I am starting to wonder

    if I will ever feel normal again. all I can think about is how I didn't know how lucky I was before this happened to me.
    starrysunlight starrysunlight 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 19

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    It's easy getting past the idea of having hsv

    but it's hard for me to put myself out there in the dating world. No one talks about these things and why would someone want to be with someone that has this disease and how would you even go about finding a relationship with someone that is hsv positive. It's tough not to beat...
    Synergy01 Synergy01 31-35, M 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    I recently found out I have herpes,

    and I am not mad at the person who gave them to me. We were in a long term relationship and we were trying to make things work again, or so I thought. I asked him if he was still clean, and he told me yes. When I found out I had herpes he just pointed fingers at me saying I had...
    kourta kourta 18-21, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 21 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    and I feel guilty when I flirt with guys

    or just try to be normal again. I feel like if they knew they would stop talking to me right then and there. I have a lot of work to do on myself but I feel like I shouldn't be allowed to be flirty or act that way. I just feel guilty :(
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 30, 2014

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    It's been about a month

    since I found out and for about a week and a half I was mad but from then I decided to let it not take over my life and not change who I am just for the better it will and it has. It's something so little but its so stigmatized that sometimes we overreact cause we care what...
    XxNDN701xX XxNDN701xX 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 6

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    HSV 2 in the throat Is there anyone else

    who has this?? I can mainly only find information on oral hsv1 and genital hsv2..I am feeling so lost.
    sunshinedaydreamz sunshinedaydreamz 22-25, F 2 days ago

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet 18-21, F 14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

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    I've had it for 3 1/2 years now.

    At first i only got a few outbreaks now for the last year or so it's more like 1-2 every month! Also just before getting an outbreak i find my skin from hip to foot only on one side (side of the outbreak) feels like it's burning, it's so painful that over-the-counter...
    Gumi91 Gumi91 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 17

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    One year ago today I was diagnosed with HSV2.

    This experience hasn't been easy especially since I've had more outbreaks in one year than someone might consider a normal average. Over this past year I probably thought about my condition literally every day, it controlled my life. Which may have been the reason for my...
    LiveLaughLove91 LiveLaughLove91 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 12

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    The short of it? Boyfriend willingly chose to

    have sex with me without a condom. After numerous attempts of me reminding him his risks. Even when he, a grown man, made this decision... I am the one left worried and guilt ridden. Why would he take that chance? Why would he put me in that position? If he were to get...
    BabyBlondeOne BabyBlondeOne 18-21, F 8 Responses Dec 7, 2014

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    I would like to give some positive advice with

    the ones dealing with Herpes! YOUR life is not over! This is not the end! This is actually the beginning! The beginning of a new HEALTHY life! This is the start of seeing life in a different perspective! I will say again, I have come a long way with being ARROGANT which is not...
    iCas92 iCas92 22-25, F 3 Responses Oct 20, 2014

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    I am really struggling with this today.

    I found out over a week ago I have HSV1 and my husband doesn't. He tested negative. So that means it came from my ex almost 10 years ago. That alone has been hard to deal with, but now my hubby has gotten over most of his anger and is willing to move forward which is great...
    thenewme23 thenewme23 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 11

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    Interested to know who's tried the herpes

    natural cures out there advertised. One even comes with a '1 click' money back guarantee. I was called naive by somebody who I respect a lot for not considering these cures. And I don't completely trust the drug companies intentions so my mind is open to the possibility, just...
    Bodhichitta Bodhichitta 26-30, M 1 Response Mar 18

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    I found out I have herpes yesterday

    and haven't slept much. I feel worthless and damaged. Not to mention that I have an active outbreak, hence the visit to the dr. I feel so filthy and disgusting and so dumb. I know people deal with a lot worse but this feels like part of my life is over.
    redheadchigirl redheadchigirl 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 10

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    I have been learning to live with this

    for almost 5 months now. I've came a pretty long way since I found out that I did have the virus. It interfered with my work; I wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year when I found out. It was so hard for me to tell him, especially...
    SB56 SB56 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    since getting it a few months ago I have

    realized that its more of an inconvenience than anything else I dont like using the word "death sentence" because herpes is farrrrrrrr from that its something u live with just like a cold or the flu...Its society that makes it sound sooo bad when it really isnt
    brihappy24 brihappy24 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 20, 2014

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    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    I just told the guy that i contracted herpes

    from. I wasn't 100% sure that it was him, but it was unlikely it was someone else, and now I know for sure. I have been making peace with this for the last few days, and I finally felt pretty good today, but then I talked to him and now it all feels different again, in a bad way...
    starrysunlight starrysunlight 22-25, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 8 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I have herpes, I am not herpes!

    I was diagnosed April of this year and when I first found out I was truly distraught. I had to learn about what I had, what I was in store for, what was going to change throughout my body and after reading and studying what was to happen, that sense of fear was relieved! I...
    iCas92 iCas92 22-25, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I found I had HSV2 at the beginning of Feb this

    year. It really hasn't bother me as much besides the first week. the first outbreak only lasted about a week. When I found out I decided I should get a full panel of std test so I'm setting in the waiting room waiting on the test. I nervous! It has been awhile since I have been...
    pndcdm0614 pndcdm0614 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I hate this whole thing just

    as much as the rest of you. What I hate even more, though, is reading things on this page like "It could be so much worse. You could have HIV." What the hell, people?! Fun fact: we are 300% more likely to contract HIV than someone without herpes. Additionally, phrases like that...
    runswimbike13 runswimbike13 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 12, 2014

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    I was diagnosed with HSV in December of last

    year. I was scared, and reacted in the absolute worst way possible (endless tears, tantrums, and having visions of killing my fiancé...jk, sort of). Thinking back, I'm kind of embarrassed. I honestly acted like I had some sort of terminal illness. Due to the stress of starting...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 26-30, F 5 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    Hi everybody! My name is Maria

    and I m writing from Italy, so I m sorry if my grammar or vocabulary isn't that perfect. I found your online community and fought: I have to try! In November I got my first outbrake. I m 19 and at this time I wasn't home, a mounth before i had moved in Rome to study as I wished...
    Ciminiera95 Ciminiera95 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 6

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    I hate how millions and millions of people have

    it but u still feel so alone. Yes iv met so many awesome people on here thanks guys u have been the best....but it just seems like the people I know surely I'm the only one. Everyone looks so happy and in relationships. Why is this still such a big deal to me....is it ever going...
    extraordinarygirlll extraordinarygirlll 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 12

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    I found myself bleeding a month straight

    thought it was BC. Called nurse they said no worry. Still concerned so got appointment. Tested yes for gonnaria after swab so asked blood. Test would have been for everything but herpies. Last minute I said is that everything n she said I could add I said y not. Cane back...
    itsokitsjustme itsokitsjustme 36-40 Mar 10

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    I'm literally sitting in a clinic.

    I'm so over life. I'm going to be seen on snapped soon because my boyfriend is about to get stabbed. I'm ashamed but this is my life now
    Johnah5 Johnah5 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen 22-25, F 15 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    End this damn word. It sounds gross in my mouth

    and makes me feel worse when this really isn't that bad! I say "skin condition" or if I'm pushed, HSV. Screw the other word. There are so much worse things in life. I went to my brothers army graduation shortly after I started having problems. Though I was extremely...
    mbellz424 mbellz424 22-25, F 1 Response Nov 12, 2014

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    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 26-30, M 3 Responses Jan 16, 2014

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    I have a question...when you get hsv 2 gentile

    break outs is it always the same spot?
    pndcdm0614 pndcdm0614 26-30, F Mar 8

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 42 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    It's been about six months

    since I found out...this has completely ruined my life. it has stolen every ounce of joy and happiness I had. this ruins your life. people will tell you it doesn't but it does. if I didn't have this, I can't even think of how happy I'd be. I can't even imagine.
    AutumnCarielle AutumnCarielle 22-25, F 3 Responses Mar 16

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    When I first had symptoms,

    I was freaking out and searching the internet just like a lot of other people probably did. It was a very bad idea, all it did was make me feel scared and like I ruined my life. I was only 18 at the time. I asked my mom to look at it because I was so scared and she agreed that...
    MRA12 MRA12 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    I know this sounds a little corny,

    but here goes anyway. I just wanted to say thank you, again, to anyone on this app who said anything reassuring to me after I've been posting about just recently finding out I have herpes. I've only told one person in my life, and even she doesn't really know how to react...
    starrysunlight starrysunlight 22-25, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Could someone please call me to talk?

    I hv some embarrassing questions. My name is Kaylyn 724-708-4280
    KaylynAllen KaylynAllen 26-30 1 Response 3 days ago

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    So I was just told today

    that I was positive with HSV 2. Pretty scared at the moment. I am having my first outbreak and its already making my anxiety go sky rocket. I am trying to make sense on when I got this horrible disease. I've been having symptoms for a long time.. But these sores didn't appear...
    Kmg1994 Kmg1994 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 26-30, M 3 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    I just found out 2 days ago

    that I have herpes. I am terrified to tell anyone and I've stumbled upon this so here's hoping someone reads this. I can't believe this is my life, and I want to talk to someone so bad but I can't bring myself to even talk to one of the two people I have contracted it from. I'm...
    starrysunlight starrysunlight 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 19

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    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2014

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    Be positive and brave.

    I got herpes 6 months ago. I was so sad and anxiety about this. And I felt be cheated. Because my bf, I only had him in my sex life. I cried three days and shouted to him. We broke up at last. I felt so sad and all the things in my life changed. I moved to a new place. No...
    leslovingJenny leslovingJenny 31-35, F Mar 11

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    the doctor told me I have gentile HSV 2 a month

    or so ago... today I started to get a fever blister on my lip, is this from the HSV 2?
    pndcdm0614 pndcdm0614 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    With all of the negatives of herpes can we name

    some positives? I know that sounds silly, but can you name one good thing that's come of this? I can! I'm eating healthier and studying more about this disease making me more knowledgable. Also, I am more understanding and less judge mental towards others with this or any or...