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    I shouldn't have to limit self to only dating a

    man with herpes. I have no bias against dating a man with or without herpes. But every guy I have had to tell that I gave herpes has left. They are not willing to take the risk which is small if you use protection. Some days I'm just so defeated woth ager and shame and hurt and...
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    tonight, I read a comment from someone about

    how she truly believes everything happens for a reason, even if it might be hard to understand what reason hsv might have. And tonight, I can say I completely agree with her. I am positive for hsv and hpv. And I am not ashamed of this. it is an inconvenience at most, it really...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 8, 2014

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    So the night before last I did the hardest

    thing I've ever done. I've been talking to someone for a few weeks and he was being overly flirty and mildly sexual with his joking. I came out and told him that if rather get this over with now before anything got started and let him know I have herpes. His initial reaction was...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 22-25, F 2 Responses Jan 6, 2014

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    I woke up today, looked at myself in the mirror

    and for the first time in weeks I felt truly beautiful. Acceptance is happening within me. I can feel it.
    ryhp ryhp 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 31

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    its been almost 3 years

    since I was diagnosed with HSV-2. I must say the road since that day on has been long and hard, but not impossible because I was able to defeat the impossible in my mind, it was hard to fight long and hard and wake up every morning and remind myself that I am still human and...
    Itslifeman Itslifeman 31-35, M 3 Responses Mar 30, 2014

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    So I have this from being raped by a stranger,

    a man that can hurt and not care, he has ruined me.. I'll never be intimate again.. I don't know how to deal, I have NO one here that understands, I need help, advice, a smile..
    altochick0290 altochick0290 22-25, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    Any ladies on here with hsv looking

    for fun,friendship maybe dating . pm me thanks
    Nobody83 Nobody83 22-25, M Jun 19

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    I want anyone who reads this to know

    that being honest with a potential boyfriend or girlfriend is very difficult. But you must do it! I recently started talking to a man who was more than understanding and is very interested in being with me. I never thought it would happen but don't lose hope!
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 27

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    So I was just told today

    that I was positive with HSV 2. Pretty scared at the moment. I am having my first outbreak and its already making my anxiety go sky rocket. I am trying to make sense on when I got this horrible disease. I've been having symptoms for a long time.. But these sores didn't appear...
    Kmg1994 Kmg1994 18-21, F 4 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    I just found out today I have herpes

    and I am absolutely terrified! It's completely my own fault I went on a girls holiday had too much fun I'm only 18! But now I've tainted my love life forever! I am petrified of ever going near a guy again and I just feel so depressed and scared and really need reassurance plus...
    Siobhano Siobhano 18-21, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    Couldn't go to prom due to the fact this first

    outbreak is agonising and I am too depressed to leave my bed
    Siobhano Siobhano 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    When I first had symptoms,

    I was freaking out and searching the internet just like a lot of other people probably did. It was a very bad idea, all it did was make me feel scared and like I ruined my life. I was only 18 at the time. I asked my mom to look at it because I was so scared and she agreed that...
    MRA12 MRA12 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 9

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    So what i'm a little confused about is,

    are you always contagious?
    camikrma camikrma 18-21, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    I Should Have Known Better

    I was naive and in love with someone I would do anything for. He cheated on me, I forgave him, then I developed an outbreak, something he never had. He chose another person over me and cheated on me with another person. I was torn apart by the relationship that in which all the...
    ScarletStarlet ScarletStarlet 18-21, F 14 Responses Jul 25, 2007

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    Just watched this and I'm tempted to buy

    it http://ultimateherpesprotocol.com/?hop=smeak Opinions?
    Siobhano Siobhano 18-21, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I just found out yesterday

    that have herpes .. I'm still in shock and terrified to tell my past partners .. I also just started talking to a really great guy, we haven't had sex or anything but it was headed that way.. How am I going to tell him or deal with the rejection if he's no longer interested?
    Gertie2015 Gertie2015 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    I've had herpes for almost 6 years now.

    I contracted it while in my first relationship, that's my luck, the first person I had sex with. My first outbreak was terrible. I missed a week of school because it hurt when I was walking and I was an emotional wreck. When I first found out I was so angry. I had never been the...
    radiantorchid radiantorchid 22-25, F 5 Responses May 12

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 21 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    I recent found out I have herpes,

    my boyfriend went down on me with a cold sore, I'm a mother of 4 beautiful children I feel like my life is ruined, I've cried for the last 3 days and keep asking how I didn't realize he had one, keep Asking myself why this happened to me. I can't handle the idea of going threw...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jun 24

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    So my mom wants me to talk to a counselor about

    having herpes and how to cope with rejection. I was in counseling for 10 years for other things amd it didn't help one bit. should I try it again for this reason?
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 3 Responses Jun 19

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    I can't help feeling like I'm ruined.

    ....I'm completely ruined for the rest of my life.
    letgo811 letgo811 31-35, F 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I saw a lot of you posting your depression

    thinking you'll never find anyone. I just wanted to let you guys know that my friend met her husband in a dating website geared towards those who have the same std. I'd check it out before you feel like life is over. There's so many people with this disease and people are out...
    macwellgirl macwellgirl 26-30, F 3 hrs ago

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 8 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    **** it. Let's face it.

    ..if you have herpes there is ABSOLUTELY NO LOVE LIFE. If you are with someone they won't stay. Accept the fact the love marriage and kids are out of the question.
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    Was hanging out with a guy

    and he came over and we watched a movie. He started trying to get touchy feely and I told him I didn't want to do anything. He could tell something was bothering me and I started tearing up. He was asking questions like why I was upset and then he goes 'do you have an std?' And...
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58 31-35, F 3 Responses Apr 25

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    Last week I tested positive

    for HSV1 and HSV2. My ex-boyfriend let me know he had it for 15 years. I guess it was a parting gift. He dropped the knowledge on me the night we broke up. What a jerk right? He gave the whole "I didn''t want to lose you" excuse. I don't hate him. I am just disappointed and...
    annab01 annab01 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've only got herpes I tell myself,

    I'm still attractive and desirable, so why am I so scared to tell a guy I like ? It's the thought of saying, 'Listen, I have herpes' and not knowing the reaction I will get.
    Allsmilesgirl Allsmilesgirl 22-25, F 2 Responses Jun 19

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    I've had this since I was a little kid.

    .I don't really like it..nor dislike it. I mean I would like to live without it but that's not the point here. I've almost lost my eye when I was a kid for the same reason..the bacteria almost ate my eye. It itches when it comes out but what hurts more is the look on others faces...
    smilelover smilelover 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 21

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    So I've gotten into a somewhat serious

    relationship, someone who I would say that is more then everything I've ever wanted in a guy, but I was diagnosed with type 2 herpes over ten months ago and I haven't had an outbreak since then until the past two days and I'm trying to gain the courage to tell him because the...
    heylochlo heylochlo 18-21 2 Responses Jun 21

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    I went to the gym today!

    Been over 2 months since I've gone and it felt amazing!! If you want my advice (which clearly everyone does Bc it's the best lol jk) this has helped me: eat better, lots of veggies and fruits, get exercise, journal about it, TELL SOMEONE!, and get so busy with a ahobby or sport...
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58 31-35, F May 8

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    I was diagnosed with HSV in December of last

    year. I was scared, and reacted in the absolute worst way possible (endless tears, tantrums, and having visions of killing my fiancé...jk, sort of). Thinking back, I'm kind of embarrassed. I honestly acted like I had some sort of terminal illness. Due to the stress of starting...
    QuietChristi QuietChristi 26-30, F 4 Responses Aug 3, 2014

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 4 Responses Apr 26, 2014

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    I have been learning to live with this

    for almost 5 months now. I've came a pretty long way since I found out that I did have the virus. It interfered with my work; I wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year when I found out. It was so hard for me to tell him, especially...
    SB56 SB56 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 21, 2014

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    Honestly, are there any couples

    who are together where one person had genital herpes and the other doesn't? I feel like no man will work through this with me and practice safe sex. My biggest fear is being alone and I feel like this has put the final nail in that coffin.
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 4 Responses Jun 22

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 31-35, M 11 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I'm hoping this is just razor burn

    but it looks kinda rough.....
    CrazyDaisyeee CrazyDaisyeee 18-21, F 4 hrs ago

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    Well another one bites the dust!

    So I've been talking to this guy I met online, He doesn't have HSV or anything (that I know of) and we've never met before in Person. He swore that he was into me and madly In love and blah blah and I told him I had feelings for him too (stupid) so after 6 months we decided...
    ydnacybab ydnacybab 22-25, F 2 Responses 12 hrs ago

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    I have herpes, I am not herpes!

    I was diagnosed April of this year and when I first found out I was truly distraught. I had to learn about what I had, what I was in store for, what was going to change throughout my body and after reading and studying what was to happen, that sense of fear was relieved! I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6, 2014

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    Today was one of the worst days I've had

    since I found out I have herpes. I've been rejected by 3 guys now and it still hurts. I feel better than earlier but I wish I could find a man who accepts this and tries to work with me through it. I hope this site helps me cope and stay positive.
    Eg9801 Eg9801 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 45 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    My doctor told me I have herpes,

    But I have only ever been with one guy who is clear of all stds, including herpes. I've also never shared a towel and I don't know what to do. I noticed these small, painless bumps after itching during a thrush infection. There is no pain only itching and they are barely visible...
    pleasehelp57 pleasehelp57 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 20

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    You will stop thinking about it

    after a while and it won't rule your life. Don't let something like this control you! I'm only 3.5 months in and I'm dealing with it pretty well. Go on dates, hang with friends and realize that you are still the same person!
    Redvelvet58 Redvelvet58 31-35, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    so I had my first date

    since I got herpes and it was horrible the guy ended up freaking out...
    southerngirl7777 southerngirl7777 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 23

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    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 11, 2014

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