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I Have Herpes

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    Devastation And Disappointment

    I found out about a month ago I have herpes. I was sick of a really bad UTI that lasted over a month and that's when I had my first outbreak. I don't know if it was UTI or the blisters or both but the pain was unreal I cried every time I had to pee. When I got the blisters I...
    Hymelynn Hymelynn 22-25, F 5 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    I found out after going to the doctors office

    today that I have herpes. I'm freaking out about telling the guy I'm dating because we just started seeing each other 2 months ago and now I have to give him the terrible news that I've probably given him herpes. I really really like him but I'm afraid that since our...
    Rosie722 Rosie722 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    So here goes. My boyfriend,

    now ex, gave me herpes. We've been apart for about 4 months now and I feel like I shouldn't have sex again, even if I use a condom. I'd feel so bad if I gave it to someone else. But should I just expect to never have sex with anyone again? I also don't want to tell anybody...
    ImJustMeAlex ImJustMeAlex 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 8

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    I just found out today

    that i've been infected with the HSV-2. I told my best friend who is very supportive but I have yet to tell my boyfriend because he is at work and I'd like to speak to him about it in person. Any advice on what I should say to him? I'm pretty positive that he'll be understanding...
    erskii23 erskii23 18-21, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Will Anyone Be Able To Love Me?

    I am 24 years old and recently diagnosed with hsv-2. It was right before Thanksgiving and my boyfriend at the time was returning from Afghanistan for 2 weeks we hooked up a few times and he went back. It was about a week later and i started noticing red bumps eventually they...
    Gettingtoknowtherealme Gettingtoknowtherealme 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 26, 2012

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    Ummm Is This A Joke..

    Okay so I'm 20 years old only had 3 partners in my entire life like ever .! So I went to the dr for a normal pap and to clear a bladder infection which turned into them asking if I wanted to be tested so me being me I said sure why did I do that turns out I have herpes and hep B...
    Pure2pretty Pure2pretty 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 23, 2013

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    So I just found out today

    that I have herpes. I got it from sleeping with my ex... I feel like I'm all alone. I feel like I won't ever find somebody who will love me and want to start a family with me because if this. Does anybody have se advice ??
    elm6597 elm6597 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 9

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    So I'm 23 and on my 22nd birthday my boyfriend

    gave me herpes. he said he didn't know he had it. I was diagnosed by my OB in November. Today my boyfriend who gave me herpes broke up with me. I'm really hurt and feel like I'll never have a life after him. I feel dirty & tainted. I've had suicial thoughts but Im to afraid to...
    dullflame91 dullflame91 22-25, F 5 Responses Jul 3

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    I have been doing alright with my diagnosis.

    .. It's been almost three months since my initial outbreak. . but tonight. I just can't handle it. We were watching Get Him to the Greek at work yesterday and one of the lines in the movie was "herpes is incurable!".. I tried to just ignore it, and then my coworkers started...
    PurpleFlyingKites PurpleFlyingKites 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 27

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    What herbal supplements seem to work best to

    keep outbreaks away? Anyone ever tried olive leaf extract?
    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 9

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    7/1/11

    I found out I had Herpes Simplex Virus Type 1 genitally on July 1, 2011. It was really emotional for me for the longest time. I had no idea who I got it from, and to this day I still do not know, although I have a good idea. Of course, he was the one who denied he had it and...
    Amay408 Amay408 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 3, 2013

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    I was diagnosed on Friday

    before walking into work. Tonight is the first time I have had time to really sit here and process what happened to me. I really wish my ex-boyfriend.. Who I broke up with on Friday as well.. Had a little more compassion for me. All he did was accuse me of cheating and getting...
    lllllxo lllllxo 22-25 2 Responses Jan 8

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    So the night before last I did the hardest

    thing I've ever done. I've been talking to someone for a few weeks and he was being overly flirty and mildly sexual with his joking. I came out and told him that if rather get this over with now before anything got started and let him know I have herpes. His initial reaction was...
    Kayylinda Kayylinda 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 6

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    I was diagnosed with HSV-2 on September 18th

    2013. It felt like the last day of my life. I have since stopped fixating on it, I don't cry every day, but I do think of it every day. I take acyclovir twice a day and I think of it then, I talk to friends about their relationships and I think of it again. It's always there...
    summer1kree summer1kree 26-30, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    It Can Happen To Anyone!

    Ok so I am 23 years old..Herpes can remain in your system for years and even forever and you may never experience an outbreak...for others they experience an outbreak, and the first year is pretty bad, but as time goes by it lessens...to the point that you wont have it anymore...
    asdf45679 asdf45679 22-25 3 Responses May 4, 2012

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    When I was 15, I was gang raped by one of the

    neighborhood boys and his two cousins. If that wasn't bad enough, I found out that I had contracted herpes from one of them. I did not tell my parents because I was embarrassed and I knew my dad would kill the boys and end up in jail. I told my two best friends, and neither one...
    tammie74 tammie74 36-40, F 2 Responses Jun 13

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    This may be a dumb question

    but how do you know when the outbreak is completely over? No pain? Sores gone? Etc? I think I'm over the worst but idk.
    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 3

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    I'm basically always happy

    and yes herpes is always in the back of my mind it's not all I think about 24/7...till I get an outbreak. I feel gross, I don't wanna do anything, I feel helpless, just sick and sucky all around. I think I'm getting another one...this will be my 4th since I first got it about a...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 3 Responses May 2

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    I was diagnosed three years ago,

    however it's only recently that I have come to terms with it. When I was diagnosed I didn't cry I didn't get upset I just went on like nothing happened, I was in denial. I haven't been able to speak to anyone or share my experience because I have always felt so embarrassed and...
    nia07 nia07 18-21, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    As you can see in my previous posts,

    I went through a very rough time after finding out that I have herpes. I am happy to say i am not writing this post with watery eyes and a heavy chest. I am okay. As hard as it is, and was (especially right after finding out) I have just started to look at the diagnosis in a...
    senoritax senoritax 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I am Lisa new here. I don't know how to

    describe myself. I am a sentimental but optimistic girl. I feel so lone and helpless when I was told that I had affected with herpes.I have a BF, but when he knows i have herpes, we broken up. I am so sad and feel so lonely! So i find other Herpes singles for dating and for fun...
    herpesltr herpesltr 31-35 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I just found out about an hour ago

    that i have herpes. I might be pregnant too and i dont even know what to do right now. I'm 17.
    jennivaldes jennivaldes 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 18

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    If I Only Knew

    I was only 17 when I found out. I never thought it would happen to me but it did but how? I trusted him, I was faithful, we was suppose to get married. I was young, dumb and in love. So when he told me the bump I saw was just an pimple on his penis I believed him. Man was I wrong...
    deleted deleted 26-30 15 Responses Jul 3, 2007

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    Alright so... Here's a recap of what happened

    (since I'm sure the post got deleted.) I had a one night stand with a guy that was a really close friend of mine. He gave me Chlamydia and HSV-2. When I first posted, I was told that there was a 90% chance that I had herpes when I got tested. Well those results came in and... I...
    z0mbab3 z0mbab3 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 5

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    I am in my second marriage

    and after 5yrs together I found out I have herpes. I have been battling it for a year now but they couldn't figure out what it was at first and tests kept saying negative. ... until July 1st when 3 tests showed positive. This has been an ordeal not only has it been rough on me...
    LooknForLight LooknForLight 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 4

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    Ask me about my story,

    come to for advice.
    brokenwings88 brokenwings88 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 16

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    I Waited Over 10 Years to Tell My Wife

    I have had herpes for about 20 years. I worked in the nightclubs in my 20s, and was pretty promiscuous. Actually, I would have sex with nearly any girl that was pleasant to look at and would let me. I still remember all the emotions that went through me when I had my first...
    justme998 justme998 41-45 17 Responses Oct 7, 2008

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    I found out today that I was tested positive

    for the Herpes virus...As my doctor was explaining to me everything over the phone I felt like I could have died right then. I was dating this guy for the past two years who had cheated on me time and time again with his ex. He preached and preached about how I was the one, that...
    fairytale24 fairytale24 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 30

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    It's a little strange writing this right now.

    Surreal really. But I feel that its....necessary with the things that I've read from this group. I've noticed that most all of what I've read was written by females. There is a lot of self depreciation, feelings of disgust, and hurt, blame and shame and pain shared in these...
    sharperthanyoursilence sharperthanyoursilence 26-30, M 9 Responses May 14

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    I dated a guy who was sleeping around with

    other girls and lying about using protection with them. Sadly, I can't be too sure if this is where I got it from or if it was the rebound guy I drunkenly had sex with in a pool at a party. Normally, I'm extremely monogamous but I started seeing myself as someone unworthy of...
    rogue1313 rogue1313 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 6

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    My Treatment Experience ---- Staying Positive! No Pun Intended :)

    I was diagnosed in November, 2009. I was very upset and did ridiculous amounts of research, and one thing I found that really stuck with me is that stress management is a major factor in preventing breakouts. I consider myself a pretty positive person, and don't believe I've had...
    Hopesgood Hopesgood 36-40, M 7 Responses Sep 12, 2013

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    I have been learning to live with this

    for almost 5 months now. I've came a pretty long way since I found out that I did have the virus. It interfered with my work; I wouldn't get out of bed for weeks. I had been with my boyfriend for almost a year when I found out. It was so hard for me to tell him, especially...
    SB56 SB56 18-21, F 4 Responses Jan 21

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    I Have Herpes and I Am Not Ashamed to Admit That

    I contracted herpes over seven years ago and, as many others, I struggled with the emotional issues, the sense of betrayal, and the depression that often accompanies being diagnosed with this incurable virus. Initially I was completely unaware of online support forums, but...
    JeannieMay JeannieMay 46-50, F 39 Responses Aug 23, 2007

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    Hoping for Advice -Hi anyone,

    I have had HSV-1 for over 8 months now. At first I had outbreaks consistently for the first two months. The first month was really bad, second month not so bad but still a couple outbreaks here and there but nothing to serious to deal with. Just emotional stress. I really haven...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 19

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    emotionalreck02 emotionalreck02 26-30, F Jul 3

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    Last night I had the H talk with my boyfriend.

    ...he took it very very well! I am so beyond lucky to have someone like him in my life, I thank God for him everyday because herpes or not he still accepts me for who I am. I only pray that all of you if you haven't already, find someone who accepts you for YOU not your skin...
    LiveLaughLove91 LiveLaughLove91 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    Am I the only one that thinks there is a cure

    for herpes and that they just aren't giving it to us? They want us to spend out money of the medicine that really doesn't even work in the first place in my honest opinion. For awhile there I was getting an outbreak every 2-3 months. I've stopped taking the medicine the doctor...
    93rp 93rp 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 7

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    Risingfromtheashes! (so My Life Isn't Over?)

    4/5/2013 My doctor says you clear for everything except you've been exposed to HSV-2 Gential Herpes, & I thought that my heart would fall into my stomach and out my *** But instead this calming sensation came over me, For one I had a answer, so GOOGLE and GOOGLE IMAGES were no...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F 5 Responses Apr 8, 2013

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    I got diagnosed with herpes simplex 1 (genital

    area) about 2 years ago I was dating a older guy in his 40s an I was 21 the relationship was pretty good he wined an dined me then one day I decided to have sex with him it was about 6 months into our relationship so I thought it was okay so we had sex an a couple of days later...
    lovehurts90 lovehurts90 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 25

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    Day 1: I found out 2 hours ago.

    .. Let me start from the beginning. I've had a boyfriend for like 8 months now and I've been away most of the summer, and unfortunately I cheated on him. He does not know that. The other day it was very hard to use the bathroom (#2) and the day after #1. It burns, and going #2...
    deltagirl19 deltagirl19 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 9

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    I Keep Forgetting...lol

    I found out that i had herpes only 4 weeks ago.  The funny thing is, i keep forgetting.  I got the whole itching, burning, blister thing and though it was an allergic reaction to a perfume that i sprayed down there. I went to the doctor to get "checked"...
    prettycarmen prettycarmen 22-25, F 14 Responses Aug 23, 2008

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    So it hasn't been confirmed

    that I have HSV 1 or 2 yet. I took my last test in February (because I was raped) and it came out negative. My boyfriend at the time now Ex told me he didn't have anything and dumb me thinking we've been together for awhile (1 year) and he never rushed me to sleep with him...
    hrm0622 hrm0622 22-25, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    It's Only a Little H

    As someone who's lived with this over 15 years I speak from experience.  I know that being diagnosed with herpes is devastating to many; it certainly was to me.  Shortly after learning I was infected I got involved with a support group in NYC and it was...
    think2much think2much 46-50, M 7 Responses May 16, 2008

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    I guess it's only fair to update my life on

    this thing if I started posting really depressing stuff lol Sooooo I told my bf I had HSV1. He said that no matter where it was, and no matter if I gave it to him he would still love me. I should have known someone who truly loves you and cares for you would find something...
    pinkladyyy pinkladyyy 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 30

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    When you squeeze an orange,

    you'll always get orange juice to come out. What comes out is what's inside. The same logic applies to you. When someone squeezes you, puts pressure on you, or says something unflattering or critical, and out of you comes anger, hatred, bitterness, tension, depression, or...
    ImJustANobody ImJustANobody 26-30, M 3 Responses Apr 26

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    I'm not sure if this is jock itch

    or not becAuse I had a bump on my shaft and the doctor told me in January it was jock itch and applied fungal cream and it went away. Now 7 months later I have 2 bumps on my member that appeared maybe 2 weeks apart. They have not changed one bit since applying ointment on them...
    dank714 dank714 22-25, M 4 Responses Jun 30

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    Herpes... Nothing To Worry About

    So I had my first outbreak shortly after the beginning of this year. The outbreak was intense, mostly because I waited so long to see a doctor. I thought it might be a MRSA breakout, which I have a history of. So I took medicine for MRSA. That didn't help obviously. I went to...
    thewetlands thewetlands 22-25, F 5 Responses Mar 17, 2013

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    I got married 3 years ago with a person i

    thought was Prince Charming. A couple of months after we got married I find out through his ex that he had herpes, my world collapsed. I couldn't believe he would do this to me. I confronted him about it and he confirmed it. He said the first time he tested for it was positive...
    khloe909 khloe909 26-30, F 6 hrs ago

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    I'm a 16 year old virgin

    and currently experiencing my first outbreak. Me and my boyfriend of 1 year at the time (now an ex) participated in oral sex a week ago. I ended things with him before I found out about the herpes and we are not on talking terms. I am not kidding when I tell you I'm in this...
    Sarah12340 Sarah12340 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    So I was just told today

    that I was positive with HSV 2. Pretty scared at the moment. I am having my first outbreak and its already making my anxiety go sky rocket. I am trying to make sense on when I got this horrible disease. I've been having symptoms for a long time.. But these sores didn't appear...
    Kmg1994 Kmg1994 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 18, 2013

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    It Was the Last Thing I Thought It Would Be

    Last year in the spring into the summer, I had gotten very sick. I always felt like I had no energy, I felt like I had the flu, I had a really bad cough, and eventually a very high fever that was accompanied by very cold chills. I started to get so cold I was walking around with...
    sweetnightmare sweetnightmare 26-30, F 8 Responses Oct 26, 2007

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    I just found out I have Herpes.

    I am going through my first outbreak and it is unbearable. I'm just really feeling alone and I can't find comfort because of all the negative stigma. I just told the guy I've been seeing that I have it and it could possibly from him. At first he was denying it and resisting me...
    vanessa8889 vanessa8889 22-25, F 5 Responses Jun 3

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    I just recently found out

    that I contracted HSV-1. I can't believe it. I feel like my whole life is over. Just like every post I read on here, I feel dirty and ashamed of what I am now. My whole life has came crashing down on me with every emotion possible. I worry about how I'm going to be able to...
    JamesMTN JamesMTN 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 16

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