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I Have Issues With Abandonment

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    My sister raised me and then went to college

    then my parents divorced and basically left me alone so I can't trust that anyone will be there for me. My grandmother and godparents died so I got used to losing the people who I loved most. I want to be prepared when you leave me so I hesitate with emotional attachment. I hate...
    Alylovespuppies Alylovespuppies 18-21, F Jul 15, 2014

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    And you can thank inattentive,

    narcissistic parents who cared more about their own needs more than those of their children.
    utahwriter utahwriter 41-45, M 2 Responses Jun 4, 2014

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    man i ******* hate this.

    being used for convenience. use me for your time. when you ******* feel like it. it seems like everyone that i care about does. they ******* use me. im too vulnerable so why should they care. im always there so come back when they feel like it. we all use each other for our own...
    bonmay2 bonmay2 18-21, F 1 Response May 22

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    I can't stand being left alone

    or not being talked to by the people I love. It rips a black hole in me that doesn't go away.
    eidolon6 eidolon6 18-21, F Apr 22, 2014

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    Don't Leave Me Mommy

    I grow up very far from life as a child I would always be trying to find a way  for anyone to say how good and well behaved child I was. cuz I couldn't wrap my brain around why my mom would always be leaving me. was I bad? she just needed to breath to get away from me for a...
    aprls aprls 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    I have bad issues with abandonment ,

    ever since my father abandoned me , and then my " soulmate " did too which goes to show you he may have been mine but was I his ? We never really broke up I just had a massive breakdown in Virginia beach where he lived and was wrongly diagnosed in the hospital but finally got...
    Delusionalkrysti Delusionalkrysti 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    I know that people coming & going out of your

    life is a "normal" thing...that not everyone is meant to stay in your life. But, yes I do have issues with abandonment. My dad left when I was 12. It was difficult for awhile. I have 2 younger sisters & at the time, the judge had to order him to see us...I didn't know this...
    RubyLane RubyLane 41-45, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    My mom worked nights all of my life

    so I saw her briefly in the morning before school and for a couple hours at night before she went to work. On the weekends my dad ignored me (and my brother) to spend time with his second wife. The first best friend of my life moved away when I was in first grade, and my second...
    doompatroller doompatroller 31-35, M Jun 8, 2014

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    My father walked out on me

    when i was a small child, barely a year old. And ever since then i've always been distant to those trying to get close out of fear of being left again or i find myself holding on way too much and love to quickly... enough to where i feel like im driving them away... like with my...
    LorenzoPM LorenzoPM 16-17 1 Response Jun 18, 2014

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    Don't Leave Me

    I do have abandonment issues. I have this deep fear that if I don't do exactly what my partner wants all the time, he/she will not stay with me. I tend to become a doormat for people I love. I'm a people-pleaser because I am so scared they will realize I'm not good enough, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 5 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Leave Before I'm Left..

     I've always known I have an abandonment problem. When my dad left me when I was 9 I promised myself I would never trust a man to love me and care for me again. I promised myself I wouldn't get hurt like that again. I remember the night he left, I clung to his legs screaming...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    My Story

    It started since age 6, when my abusive birth-father came back. I didn't know he was so mean, when he was moving back in with my mother and siblings. And I didn't care to question why he was gone in the first place. I was just happy that he was back and I thought it meant that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    I don't know what's caused it.

    . But I used to desperately want friends, when I didn't have any and had no chance of getting any I wanted friends so so badly and now, that I could have friends I just don't want them. Any. I have my boyfriend, who makes me happy... But I don't want friendships. I don't want to...
    xkayleex xkayleex 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 14, 2014

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    So I think I have abandonment issues.

    Of course it all started with my father and I've never really gotten over that but now it's invading my life today. If, say, I know you're online and you don't talk to me, I feel as though I've done something to drive you away and I'd be so nervous to message you when in truth...
    ChelseaJN ChelseaJN 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 15, 2014

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    Curb Line

    When I was a tiny tott, my mother once was getting us in her sedan, she first put my brother in leaving me at the grill standing on the curb. Rushing ever so frantically she, was flailing about ...trying to get his flintstone toes at rest. Ever so patiently I waited my ingress...
    EMinnovation EMinnovation 41-45, M 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    They are keeping me from functioning in my life.

    When i was a child my parents never cared about me. My strongest memory of my child hood is my mother running out of the house to go get high. My momores of school where being bullied and never having friends. In high school I started to do what ever it took to fit in. But now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Feb 28, 2014

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    It sucks when you make a friend

    and everything goes good. Yknow, the whole friendship feels nice and new. It feels nice to have a new friend and get to know someone new. Only to have them just ditch you and never talk to you again like you meant nothing but just another stranger being bothersome. Pretty...
    MonsieurKJ MonsieurKJ 18-21, M 5 Responses Feb 9

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    kitty465 kitty465 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 4, 2014

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    Had Been Left And Had Left....

    Sometimes current events in your life bring back memories of your past you never even realized were there.   I’m twenty years old and about a month ago I left my house that I had grown up in for thirteen years.  I wish I could say I left because I wanted to...
    Lessonsinlife Lessonsinlife 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11, 2010

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    My issue comes from my epilepsy.

    Because my seizures are so severe I will never be able to drive. I primarily have my mom and hubby in my life to take me to the store or wherever. But I feel as though I have to be compliant, kiss ***, and never disagree with anything otherwise they will leave me and I will not...
    mrcrackers mrcrackers 41-45 1 Response Mar 1, 2014

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    It just hurts when you open up to someone,

    opening up is so hard to do in the first place, and then you never hear from them again. Especially when you were pretty sure they wouldn't be the type to abandon you like that. Silly me. Worse is, it was the second time in a month. First was a coworker that I had worked with...
    truthfullyyours truthfullyyours 41-45, F 1 Response Oct 31, 2014

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    Well... I'm just now admitting this.

    .. All you EP users must be shrinks. Lol.
    mybonerandme mybonerandme 18-21, M Mar 25, 2014

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    Non-committal Men = My Issue?

     For the past two weeks I have been off work on Stress leave. I am on anti-depressants and have been asked to speak to a therapist regarding the depression I am currently suffering from. That depression stems from my serious 'abandonment issues'. I saw our 11 year love...
    QcOnAb QcOnAb 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    I Was Abandon By My Mom

    I WAS ABANDON BY MY MOM WHEN I WAS FOUR YEARS OLD SHE WAS MENTAL SICK IT WAS TOUGH GROW UP WITH OUT A MOTHER. I BLAME MY SELF THAT SHE LEFT AT FOUR I DID NOT UNDERSTAND I TOUGHT SHE DID NOT LOVE ME AND WANTED TO CARE FOR ME.I HAD NO MOTHERS LOVE . NO ONE TO TALK TO WHEN I WAS...
    nothshytown nothshytown 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 15, 2011

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    I let people treat me like crap just

    because I still want them in my life. Sometimes I wish I wasn't so nice.
    khaliahb khaliahb 22-25, F Jul 16, 2014

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    I have huge walls. after my last relationship,

    I took years off of dating. recently I found someone I really enjoy and could fall for. our chemistry was perfect And our personalitys matched up perfectly and then this weekend on valentines day she just completely disappeared. she knew I had abandonment issues and just the...
    Joeyschnepel Joeyschnepel 22-25, M Feb 16

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    One Definition.

    Abandon (disambiguation) Abandonment- a legal term regarding property Lost, mislaid, and abandoned property—the legal status of such property after abandonment and rediscovery Child abandonment- the extralegal abandonment of children...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 4, 2008

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    People come and people go,

    that's just the nature of limbo.
    thisISalessa thisISalessa 16-17, F Dec 3, 2014

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      No one likes me,

    no one loves me, no one even cares at all. That’s my motto. I have really bad abandonment problems. Everyone I meet ends up leaving, and this isn’t a new thing. This problem has been with me my whole life, starting with my father. He left when I was about 9, not sharing any...
    Aubrey877Corcoran Aubrey877Corcoran 13-15, F 1 Response May 19, 2014

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    I Would Rather Be Punched In The Face.

    I have been seeing a wonderful counselor for several months now. With great compassion she has helped guide me to begin understanding the many reasons behind my reckless self destructive behaviour. I always knew I had an uncontrollable fear of being abandoned. I just didn't know...
    sweet2pea sweet2pea 41-45, F 4 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    Curb Line

    When I was a tiny tott, my mother once was getting us in her sedan, she first put my brother in leaving me at the grill standing on the curb. Rushing ever so frantically she, was flailing about ...trying to get his flintstone toes at rest. Ever so patiently I waited my ingress...
    EMinnovation EMinnovation 41-45, M 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    nbdash nbdash 18-21, M Jan 24

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    Abandonment... From 2 Parents

     Take away the biological mom then you have an abondoned kid. They feel like nothing's left. They wonder why their parents left them.....  Are you really blaming yourself when you feel abandoned and unable to trust anyone? I mean my mom left when i was 6 months old...
    PersonalFitnessTrainer4 PersonalFitnessTrainer4 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    My dad abandoned me ,

    and then my " soulmate" I lost cause of my fault well he abandoned me too in a hospital in his state and never visited , And since then I've been dating the sweetest guy for almost 3 years now , but I either think he's 1 ) gay ? Or 2 going to leave me every minute which makes me...
    Delusionalkrysti Delusionalkrysti 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2014

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    I've only recently realised I'm going through

    abandonment post-effects. My mother and grandmother raised me in great love and care, so I thought it shouldn't matter that my father never cared for me and had not tried to see me after leaving us when I was 3. Unfortunately, apparently it does matter. I still ache from that...
    SummerDecember SummerDecember 26-30 1 Response May 18, 2014

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    When I was six years old my biological mom gave

    me up for adoption (I've reconnected with my bio family all she had to do was stop drinking but she didn't) and yea I understand how hard it can be because I've struggled with alcohol at one point in my life before, but if it were me I would have stopped and she didn't ... But...
    xxNicholexx xxNicholexx 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 15, 2014

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    Love me. All of me. Not just the parts

    that make you proud, but the parts you don't care to see. Teach me. Teach me how to love, so that we can love for a lifetime. Don't leave. Wait, please don't go, don't go...what did I do to you? How can I fix this? I don't want to fix me, love me as me. If I change, would you...
    Losinggame2 Losinggame2 26-30, F Mar 1, 2014

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    I Am Always Insecure

    When someone takes an interest in me I am always amazed.  I worry that they are only spending time with me to see how far they can get with me.  Do they just want my secrets?  Will they lose interest?  Why are they paying attention to me?  How long will this last?  Am I...
    ItsWindy ItsWindy 51-55, F 3 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Birth Parents: Blessing Or Curse?

    The Day I was born, I was adopted into a new family. My birth mother gave my birth parents my older sister as well, when we was born, three years and one month before me. Ever sense I was little, I had always known that I was adopted. And I always had abandonment issues because...
    KathrynSky KathrynSky 18-21, F 2 Responses Oct 15, 2012

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    Hey there. So, I have a serious fear of

    abandonment... I get really clingy because of it. I don't really know why. I guess it's probably because of how many people have just left me. People who said that they would always be there, they just left. And I feel bad, I don't want to guilt anyone into sticking around, I...
    Yourguardianangel9613 Yourguardianangel9613 18-21, F Dec 13, 2013

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    Triggers Of Anxious Attachment And Abandonment

                 Abandonment comes in many forms. Sometimes it was the parent ignoring the basic needs of the child, sometimes it was continual rejection of how the child felt and other times they were just plain never acknowledged. When you are not acknowledged you...
    Solongotgon Solongotgon 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 7, 2012

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    How Do We Break The Cycle Of Abandonment?

    I have always felt alone. At 4 yrs of age, I can recall being left alone with a younger brother & cousin, somehow feeling a sense of responsibility as the eldest in the home. You see, my mom had been an honor student before becoming a teenage parent & her ambition sent her to...
    soulafflicted soulafflicted 31-35, F Apr 17, 2013

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    soccergirl6208 soccergirl6208 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 7, 2014

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    I have met many people in my life.

    I liked some of them, but did not like others. I have always been nice to people, and when I have met people I have liked, I have tried to stay in contact with them. There are still a few from my past that I still communicate with, but for some reason, a few of the people I...
    s4019t s4019t 26-30, M Sep 22, 2014

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    Thanks, Dad

    As a child, I was deliberately left behind several times "to teach her to hurry up and get to the car on time".  One of those times we were at a job interview for Dad halfway across the country.  I came out of the hotel room after checking to make sure nobody left anything...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I am dying inside. I know it's dumb

    and kind of a very little thing but my best friend is going to the hospidal. She is in bad condition the hospidal said she has three months to gain weight befor they take her away to help her and so she couldn't gain a pound now I'm scared they will take her from me and I won't...
    sadnesskillsme sadnesskillsme 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 6

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