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I Have Issues With Abandonment

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    I'm still unsure about this site. I've been looking for people to talk with. I have issues with abandonment, have briefly talked with professionals, but I just feel the need to connect to someone. I like the idea of the site being anonymous since I of course have the "what...
    RosesNBloom RosesNBloom 26-30, F 4 Responses Oct 3, 2010

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    Curb Line

    When I was a tiny tott, my mother once was getting us in her sedan, she first put my brother in leaving me at the grill standing on the curb. Rushing ever so frantically she, was flailing about ...trying to get his flintstone toes at rest. Ever so patiently I waited my ingress...
    EMinnovation EMinnovation 41-45, M 2 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Leave Before I'm Left..

     I've always known I have an abandonment problem. When my dad left me when I was 9 I promised myself I would never trust a man to love me and care for me again. I promised myself I wouldn't get hurt like that again. I remember the night he left, I clung to his legs screaming...
    InsanelyMe08 InsanelyMe08 18-21, F 14 Responses Sep 7, 2009

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    What Is Wrong With Me?

    When I was 15 years old I went to my friends house to stay the night. The next day when I called my parents to come get me they told me I was not allowed to come home. I was so confused. They packed all my stuff for me and dumped me off at my grandma's house. I didn't and still...
    stormygirl27 stormygirl27 18-21, F Feb 17, 2013

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    They are keeping me from functioning in my life.

    When i was a child my parents never cared about me. My strongest memory of my child hood is my mother running out of the house to go get high. My momores of school where being bullied and never having friends. In high school I started to do what ever it took to fit in. But now...
    tf1113 tf1113 18-21 5 Responses Feb 28

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    Feeling Abandoned

    For along time I feel like I have been abandoned by people. It starts off with talking to someone back and forth for a while. Then it slows down and becomes hardly ever. Then it stops. I worry that it's me. Nobody likes me or wants to talk to me. Are they still my friend or did I...
    koolkatjossie koolkatjossie 36-40, F 3 Responses Apr 21, 2013

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    So, i have issues with abandonment,

    my parents are divorced and lots of people leave me.. Friends and family. and it puts me in a deep depression. And i want to learn to overcome it. I get very clingy and annoying and latch on to people to quickly. Then i end up getting heartbroken. Anyone the same way?
    karlyluvsyou karlyluvsyou 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 14, 2013

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    It runs in my blood. Turns out it ran in my

    parents' too. None of us had stable cards dealt. Lost kids bore lost kids. I am my parent's son. It's a sense-making mindfvck, depending on if I'm trying to understand why I am how I am or trying to project into the future.
    WeBePeasants WeBePeasants 22-25 Jan 13

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    It'S Just So Easy To Walk Out Of My Life.

    I want to just be happy with how things are, but I can't. I am constantly reminded and in a state of fear. I suppose I should begin with how this all started or ill just begin rambling and nothing will make sense. When I was a toddler my parents were both heavy into drugs and...
    fowltraits fowltraits 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 23, 2013

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    I know this may sound weird

    and probably not real abandonment issues with most of you probably having your parents leave you or whatever. But...In my freshmen year of high school things didn't look so well for me. My grades were bad, people began to pick on me again and I never could finish my work even my...
    SpilledTea SpilledTea 18-21, F Feb 6

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    I Am Always Insecure

    When someone takes an interest in me I am always amazed.  I worry that they are only spending time with me to see how far they can get with me.  Do they just want my secrets?  Will they lose interest?  Why are they paying attention to me?  How long will this last?  Am I...
    ItsWindy ItsWindy 51-55, F 4 Responses Oct 24, 2011

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    Pregnant And Abandoned In Surgery

    My boyfriend lived with me for 10 months, we were really in love, then I got pregnant. I wanted it, He wanted an abortion , it was tense we argued for 3 days then he left. I then chose to abort because I didn't want to bring it up with a single parent. He came with me to the...
    Onup Onup 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 10, 2013

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    Forgotton

    I WAS PUT IN A CHILDRENS HOME AT AGE 2 WITH MY FOUR SISTERS,I AM THE YOUNGEST.THE NAME OF THE HOME WAS INDIANA SOLDIERS AND SALIOR CHILDRENS HOME IN KNIGHTSTOWN ,INDIANA.ME AND MY SISTERS WERE SEPERATED.I HAVE ALWAYS FELT ALONE AND HAVE BEEN MAD AT THE WORLD EVERY SENSE.MY...
    DAVID2YOU DAVID2YOU 51-55, M Mar 25, 2013

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    Alone Forever?

    I guess it has started before I was even three. My biological father left my young teen mom and I. I have a great dad now! I wouldn't trade him for anything. But it still hurts that I wasn't good enough for the biological one to stay around. Then I had a new crowed of friends in...
    Meghan23 Meghan23 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 16, 2013

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    Love me. All of me. Not just the parts

    that make you proud, but the parts you don't care to see. Teach me. Teach me how to love, so that we can love for a lifetime. Don't leave. Wait, please don't go, don't go...what did I do to you? How can I fix this? I don't want to fix me, love me as me. If I change, would you...
    Losinggame2 Losinggame2 22-25, F Mar 1

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    Non-committal Men = My Issue?

     For the past two weeks I have been off work on Stress leave. I am on anti-depressants and have been asked to speak to a therapist regarding the depression I am currently suffering from. That depression stems from my serious 'abandonment issues'. I saw our 11 year love...
    QcOnAb QcOnAb 41-45, F 8 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    There's An Upside To This.

    I'm only recently realizing how much this affects me. After my dad abandoned me in 2002, I always thought I was coping well with it. Recently, there was a situation in my life that triggered those feelings all over again. I've felt it multiple times, over the years, and each...
    urbrandofheroin urbrandofheroin 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    Darkness And Despair

    My heart and soul are filled with darkness and despair. My very special person that I have known online for 7 years has married. The board that we were on together has now closed. I will probably not hear from him anymore and that fills me with pain. His birthday is today. I...
    AntonioRose AntonioRose 56-60, F 1 Response Jan 8, 2013

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    I Can'T Do This

    Hey everyone , I'm giving up on being a pet . The stress that's been building up over the years has finally gotten me. You may be wondering what kind if stress can a 13 year old have that she just wants to break down and give up . I'll tell you when I was 3 months old my father...
    Crimsonspirit Crimsonspirit 13-15, F May 24, 2013

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    My Mother Emotionally Abandoned Me

    I have been going to see a psychotherapist to try and "treat" my crippling anxiety. I am afraid of everything, I have increasingly bad panic attacks and rely heavily on my boyfriend and my father to help me feel less fragile and on edge. My therapist said to me today that I have...
    Sophieberry99 Sophieberry99 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 16, 2013

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    Late Night Shadows

    I look over and see shadows next to me on the bed. I’ve been asleep, and wonder if he has come home. Before. . . I wouldn’t sleep Couldn’t sleep. An hour late and I’m sure he is dead Never coming back-- I try to get used to idea of life...
    EvesHarvest EvesHarvest 51-55, F 3 Responses Jul 8, 2009

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    Is it a self fulfilling prophecy though?

    To complain that people always abandon us.. when in fact that fear of abandonment causes us to push them away. Or to chose people who we know are going to leave. To become attached to the unavailable or unobtainable. What do I get from it? Being right? Being able to label...
    SmashedUpSanity SmashedUpSanity 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Hey there. So, I have a serious fear of

    abandonment... I get really clingy because of it. I don't really know why. I guess it's probably because of how many people have just left me. People who said that they would always be there, they just left. And I feel bad, I don't want to guilt anyone into sticking around, I...
    yourguardianangel9613 yourguardianangel9613 16-17, F Dec 13, 2013

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    Today I Realised I Have Abandonment Issues

    2 weeks ago my boyfriend and I broke up after a year of being together and living together for 8 months. I gave up everything I knew for him and moved to his state for him. In the end he couldn't give me what I wanted - which wasn't much - just the love he had given me earlier...
    dreamsgone86 dreamsgone86 22-25 1 Response Feb 28, 2011

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    Abandoned In So Many Ways.

    My mother was a goddess to me...beautiful, kind, gentle. It was when my father was drinking and threatening her safety that I worried about her the most. I thought that if she died, I would die too. Sometimes, we'd all leave the house together and take a hotel room. But I felt...
    lonedove lonedove 51-55 3 Responses Dec 31, 2011

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    I've Been Wasted

    he see himself in me, and he hates me she saw him in me, that's why she hates me they see him in me, and they hate me eventually What you taught me is about how bad a world is to live in and how to smoke a cigarette, not mentioning how to wasting time. and after I learned that...
    Nelangsa Nelangsa 22-25, T Sep 5, 2013

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    If You Can't Trust Your Parents, Who Can You Trust?

    What do you do when the fibers of your being are made of abandonment and death? My family was large and happy when I was growing up. I was the youngest until I was four and my sister came along. I was a little jealous at first and suspicious of her, but I was going along with...
    Mockingbyrd Mockingbyrd 46-50 Nov 4, 2013

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    Here Is One If My Biggest Issues With Abandonment!

    My wife of 7+ years decides to leave me. Through it all I always had her family as a support system. Her mom was even another mother to the one I don't have. Well guess what once she clicked the separation switch I've heard nothing, nada, zip, zilch! I get it's her family...
    Eric81975 Eric81975 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 22, 2013

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    Don't Leave Me Mommy

    I grow up very far from life as a child I would always be trying to find a way  for anyone to say how good and well behaved child I was. cuz I couldn't wrap my brain around why my mom would always be leaving me. was I bad? she just needed to breath to get away from me for a...
    aprls aprls 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 4, 2011

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    Curb Line

    When I was a tiny tott, my mother once was getting us in her sedan, she first put my brother in leaving me at the grill standing on the curb. Rushing ever so frantically she, was flailing about ...trying to get his flintstone toes at rest. Ever so patiently I waited my ingress...
    EMinnovation EMinnovation 41-45, M 1 Response May 6, 2012

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    Had Been Left And Had Left....

    Sometimes current events in your life bring back memories of your past you never even realized were there.   I’m twenty years old and about a month ago I left my house that I had grown up in for thirteen years.  I wish I could say I left because I wanted to...
    Lessonsinlife Lessonsinlife 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 11, 2010

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    Thanks, Dad

    As a child, I was deliberately left behind several times "to teach her to hurry up and get to the car on time".  One of those times we were at a job interview for Dad halfway across the country.  I came out of the hotel room after checking to make sure nobody left anything...
    Plaid Plaid 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    I Was Abandon By My Mom

    I WAS ABANDON BY MY MOM WHEN I WAS FOUR YEARS OLD SHE WAS MENTAL SICK IT WAS TOUGH GROW UP WITH OUT A MOTHER. I BLAME MY SELF THAT SHE LEFT AT FOUR I DID NOT UNDERSTAND I TOUGHT SHE DID NOT LOVE ME AND WANTED TO CARE FOR ME.I HAD NO MOTHERS LOVE . NO ONE TO TALK TO WHEN I WAS...
    russ288 russ288 46-50, M 7 Responses Jun 15, 2011

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    My Story

    It started since age 6, when my abusive birth-father came back. I didn't know he was so mean, when he was moving back in with my mother and siblings. And I didn't care to question why he was gone in the first place. I was just happy that he was back and I thought it meant that I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 3 Responses Apr 26, 2009

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    Always.

    That's what happens when you have a crazy person for a parent. All that insecurity and uncertainty and instability during your formative years adds up to a desperate need for intimacy and safety. I didn't realize how deeply ingrained my fear of abandonment was till I met my...
    BookNerd BookNerd 22-25, F 3 Responses Jan 8, 2008

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    Amazing

    How an event that happened to me over 40 years ago affects me every moment of my life.
    hischelsea hischelsea 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 6, 2013

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    My issue comes from my epilepsy.

    Because my seizures are so severe I will never be able to drive. I primarily have my mom and hubby in my life to take me to the store or wherever. But I feel as though I have to be compliant, kiss ***, and never disagree with anything otherwise they will leave me and I will not...
    mrcrackers mrcrackers 36-40 1 Response Mar 1

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    ...and Others.

    1. to leave completely and finally; forsake utterly; desert: to abandon one's farm; to abandon a child; to abandon a sinking ship. 2. to give up; discontinue; withdraw from: to...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 4, 2008

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    Was I Not Good Enough For You?

    My mom met me my dad online. They started dating and my mom moved to mississippi. They were dating for a couple months and oops my mom found out she was pregnant. Her and my dad got in a fight and my mom moved away. I first talked to my father via webcam when i was 8. I loved it...
    bubblemunchkins bubblemunchkins 13-15 2 Responses Dec 28, 2012

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    Absent Mom...

    I'm a 13 year old girl. My mom left in December 2012 & ever since then life has been complicated . Way to complicated for me to handle. I used to be slightly misbehaved but now it's EXTREME . I throw chairs, hit my dad & little sister & tell them I hate them & I'd wish they die...
    chellybean127 chellybean127 13-15, F Jul 9, 2013

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    I Would Rather Be Punched In The Face.

    I have been seeing a wonderful counselor for several months now. With great compassion she has helped guide me to begin understanding the many reasons behind my reckless self destructive behaviour. I always knew I had an uncontrollable fear of being abandoned. I just didn't know...
    sweet2pea sweet2pea 36-40, F 5 Responses Jun 19, 2013

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    I Can't Believe This Happened

    I'm so surprised that I didn't realize this earlier yet the fact that i'm doing some soul searching this year I'm glad that I did. My life hasn't been all fine and dandy (I know sob story material from the way it might be going) sadly I grew up being kind and generous to people...
    10Shadow 10Shadow 22-25, M 2 Responses Aug 10, 2013

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    Triggers Of Anxious Attachment And Abandonment

                 Abandonment comes in many forms. Sometimes it was the parent ignoring the basic needs of the child, sometimes it was continual rejection of how the child felt and other times they were just plain never acknowledged. When you are not acknowledged you...
    Solongotgon Solongotgon 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 7, 2012

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    More Like Issues With Being Continually Let Down

    I've come to the depressing yet all too "duh" conclusion that humans as a species are, at our core, self centered and selfish beings. Perhaps it's an innate survival mechanism. Perhaps it's an arrogant pretense that has grown to perpetually stain our subconscious based on the all...
    LullabyD LullabyD 22-25, F Aug 20, 2011

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    One Definition.

    Abandon (disambiguation) Abandonment- a legal term regarding property Lost, mislaid, and abandoned property—the legal status of such property after abandonment and rediscovery Child abandonment- the extralegal abandonment of children...
    Cinderelly Cinderelly 36-40, F 2 Responses Jan 4, 2008

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    Trying To Find My Way

    I am lonley, or uncomfortable being alone. Their was a time when being alone was intolerable to me....it's not quite that bad now....more or less just profoundly lonley. Once my marriage became more intolerable than my fear of abandonment I had to make a change. Venturing out...
    gigi827 gigi827 36-40, F 4 Responses Oct 26, 2012

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    Abandonment... From 2 Parents

     Take away the biological mom then you have an abondoned kid. They feel like nothing's left. They wonder why their parents left them.....  Are you really blaming yourself when you feel abandoned and unable to trust anyone? I mean my mom left when i was 6 months old...
    PersonalFitnessTrainer4 PersonalFitnessTrainer4 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 23, 2009

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    So Close And Yet...

    Where to start... My family is sorta on the rich side (tons of paintings on the walls, glass and other sculptures everywhere, etc) and then there's me and my sister now my parents brought us up teaching us stuff like which fork or spoon you use for whatever you happen to be...
    AllHallowsEve AllHallowsEve 16-17, F 8 Responses Mar 3, 2010

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    Don't Leave Me

    I do have abandonment issues. I have this deep fear that if I don't do exactly what my partner wants all the time, he/she will not stay with me. I tend to become a doormat for people I love. I'm a people-pleaser because I am so scared they will realize I'm not good enough, and...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 6 Responses Jan 12, 2011

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    Well... I'm just now admitting this.

    .. All you EP users must be shrinks. Lol.
    mybonerandme mybonerandme 18-21, M Mar 25

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    How Do We Break The Cycle Of Abandonment?

    I have always felt alone. At 4 yrs of age, I can recall being left alone with a younger brother & cousin, somehow feeling a sense of responsibility as the eldest in the home. You see, my mom had been an honor student before becoming a teenage parent & her ambition sent her to...
    soulafflicted soulafflicted 31-35, F Apr 17, 2013

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    Trust No One...

    I still remember... I was in the second grade... My father was supposed to come see me... I've never really met him... I didn't know what he looked like... What his voice sounded like... I didn't know who he was... I always knew I had a dad but I just didn't know him like all my...
    YoungandConfused345 YoungandConfused345 18-21, F 6 Responses Oct 31, 2013

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    So I think I have abandonment issues.

    Of course it all started with my father and I've never really gotten over that but now it's invading my life today. If, say, I know you're online and you don't talk to me, I feel as though I've done something to drive you away and I'd be so nervous to message you when in truth...
    ChelseaJN ChelseaJN 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Related Experiences

    Ok... If it's me y'all have to tell me. I left my husband in 2009. It was terrible. I went to school, made something of myself. Was working at a hospital. I got involved with a...
    DeeDee32 DeeDee32 31-35 1 day ago

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    From a very young age I've always been told to watch what I say to my mother. Not really allowed to have an opinion. She can talk to people however she likes but whenever anyone...
    PrincessPhie PrincessPhie 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    My mom and I are the complete opposite. I MEAN THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE. We have different point of views and everything. I would honestly say that we have an argument more than two...
    allytoledodiaz allytoledodiaz 13-15, F Mar 29

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