I Have Issues With My Mother In Law

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    Boyfriend and I are pretty serious,

    almost 5 years together now, lived together most of that time. MIL has been sending him links to condos, asking his likes and dislikes, not sure why. Is it wrong to think that a couple choosing to get a mortgage and settling down is private, if not intimate? I get that she's...
    Labiatae Labiatae
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 4, 2015

    She favors her first born.

    Overtly. It's disgusting. Next in monster-in-law's hierarchy of favoritism are the baby-makers. Then comes her only single child (age 35) who has to be told when to buy new t-shirts, shoes and toothbrushes. Then comes my husband, who, by most accounts, is accomplished and...
    andie2007 andie2007
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 26, 2015

    I like my mother in law.

    I can't complain that she is mean or doesn't like me. She is actually lovely. But how can I stop her interfering?? She has recently moved out of her lovely home and into to something smaller and now renting her house to us ( we pay weekly rent - at the same price we were paying...
    anon3101 anon3101
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2015

    The first issue is that she moved in with my

    husband and I. After she lost her husband, her life was not sustainable anymore and she needed rescuing. Unfortunately I played the part of reluctant hero for this 80 year old woman. Part of me feels enormous sadness and compassion for her situation and the other part feels...
    deleted deleted
    Jul 12, 2015

    We Yoyo In Our Relationship: Another Low

    My relationship with my MIL has become like a yoyo. We have our ups and downs. Although after 10 years of seeing her at least every two weeks (and at times twice a week) and hearing from her every two days it has started to take a toll on how I see things. Previously I would get...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Dec 26, 2011

    Pain In the Rear

    My mother in law is such a pain.  She will not only talk about me behind my back, she has sent emails to other family members mad mouthing me. She will then manipulate her son into thinking that I do not do enough around the house or am not contributing enough to the...
    suez68 suez68
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Sep 30, 2008

    What is it with mother in laws ?

    Mine is vile and disrespectful! We have had many words ! I can't cope anymore, I give an inch she takes a mile ! I actually feel like Cinderella ha ! But I'm too soft to stand up to her ! I've been anxious lately as I've decided I need to open my mouth and set some boundaries...
    geml geml
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Sep 7, 2015

    Strongly hate when the in-laws try to pry my

    daughter from me when she is clinging to me!!!!! his family likes to force kids to do stuff and I don't!!!!
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 30, 2015

    I've come to realize

    that I don't have any responsibilities concerning her, and that I really shouldn't worry myself about her. I do admit its hard for me to ignore her as my fiancé's mother because I was raised to honor my parents, and respect my elders, to check on them, do things for them, but...
    Msprissy Msprissy
    36-40, F
    May 25, 2015

    My husband and I have been together 5 years now.

    And no matter how I've tried to get along with my mother in law nothing has worked. Mind you that she lives in Colombia so we've only spoken over the phone. This woman has never met me in person and she hates me. As I said I've done everything in my power to try and get along...
    camibella04 camibella04
    41-45, F
    Sep 14, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Mar 18, 2015

    So Over Her!

    I cannot stand my MIL! A little back ground: MIL had an affair resulting in a divorce from FIL when my husband was 9. She then lived with an awful boyfriend until my husband was 17. This caused a lot of greif for my husband and his brother while growing up. Also, her boyfriend...
    anonymousSP anonymousSP
    1 Response Mar 17, 2012

    My daughter's 2nd birthday is coming up.

    I am making a habit of making something hand-made for my daughter for every birthday. For her first birthday, I made her a Waldorf Doll (I'm crafty, but wow was that a pain in the butt..) Gramma (my mother-in-law), knowing full well what I was making, bought her a dolly that...
    frostyflower frostyflower
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Sep 19, 2014

    I could really use advice about a problem I'm

    having concerning this topic, so if anyone likes to listen/give advice, genuinely, I'd appreciate it. Just message me.
    AjLeePunk AjLeePunk
    22-25, F
    Jan 2, 2016

    She just steps way over the line

    when it comes to stuff that is none of her flipping biz. She thinks she has total say of my kids and unless she delivered Amy kids she hS nothing to sAy. As far as I remember it was me who delivered these once angels not her.
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Apr 1, 2015

    I have a MIL who is a very nice woman

    but annoying! she likes to push for marriage even when I'd told her I don't want to rush. But we are living in sin and have a daughter (she is extremely Catholic) yes I do know this isn't what the lord wants but we are happy. She is trying to ruin my life it feels like!!! I can...
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy
    26-30, F
    May 30, 2015

    I'm experiencing emotional distress

    because of my future mother in law, and it's making me feel guilty every day. My fiance and I have been together for 2 years, we're very happy and are planning a wedding next year. His parents have always been eager to get to know me and accept me into their family. Too eager...
    xinderellah xinderellah
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Jun 22, 2015

    I just don't understand it sometimes,

    I feel she pushes me farther and farther away and makes me feel like I'm competing with her for her son. Why do I feel like that?
    MileyyV MileyyV
    22-25, F
    1 Response Nov 14, 2015

    Don't Understand My Mother-in-law

    I have issues with my mother-in-law.  My husband and I were married earlier this year.  Second for me, third for him.  Ironically, we were high school sweethearts years ago and found ourselves going through divorces at the same time.  We have three children...
    sweetone46530 sweetone46530
    Sep 22, 2008

    Apparently, I'm Not Talkative Enough

    My boyfriend and I have been together for 5 years (he is 22, and I am 20). I moved to his city 3 years ago, and had financial issues which resulted in me having to move in with him and his parents. Of course this is an uncomfortable arrangement, and so it lead to dramas. A month...
    Woosh Woosh
    2 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    Mother In Law Issues - Need To Vent

    My mother in law is a fairly nice person, but she has an issue with control, and is very opinionated. From the moment I was seeing my husband till now (7.5 years and her first grandchild later) she has treated me like a child and enforces her own believes. When we got married...
    deleted deleted
    6 Responses Oct 8, 2009

    She Held My First Born Before Me

    So I don't even know where to begin. I have always had issues with my mother in law. The first time I met her she asked my husband about his exgirlfriend. At our wedding she told the photographer since shes paying she will get the pictures she wants behind my back. There are more...
    mattymommy mattymommy
    31-35, F
    5 Responses Aug 1, 2013

    I was visiting my Swiss boyfriend/fiance

    for a longer period of time with the purpose of staying there longer. I have never been this confused with a person. the first couple of weeks I kept asking: "do you need a hand? is there anything I can help with?" etc. She assured me I shouldn't do anything and feel like a...
    missmayh missmayh
    18-21, F
    Dec 31, 2015

    When was the last time you felt like the

    deepest part of your soul was in a tug-of-war? When was the last time you felt excited, yet sad? Angry, yet compassionate? Relaxed, but worried? Today I blog from a place of overwhelming anger and frustration, but this digging sense of compassion. Ugh. What are my...
    IRealizedVienna IRealizedVienna
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 30, 2015

    I married a foreigner with very different

    background, religion etc.... and his mother in law is staying with us for a month. My husband has a brother whom just married and she is from their country but the boys live here. No matter what I do I'm never good enough; she is the better cook, better job, way more skinner...
    krisfen krisfen
    36-40, F
    Apr 6, 2015

    Well, we arent married.

    .yet...but we are in a committed, monogamous relationship. live together and planning on marriage down the road. His mom was super sweet to me at first when I moved here to be with him. Almost too much, it seems. LOVED me, told me if we broke up she was still keeping me, etc. As...
    bethkins24 bethkins24
    46-50, F
    1 Response May 7, 2015

    I hate spending time with fiance's mother!

    she is annoying in every way and right now we are on our way to spend quality family time uughh so boring and hate it with a passion. it's a whole group of family but just having her in my presence makes me dislike everyone else
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy
    26-30, F
    Jul 18, 2015

    Cry Little Sister

     I have searched an searched for advice and understanding on Mothers-in-Law who are estranged from their sons. I have found quite a few stories about grown daughters and their mothers being estranged, but not sons and mothers. About two years ago, there was an estate...
    dustycorner dustycorner
    41-45, F
    1 Response Mar 9, 2009

    So, my Husband tells me we have a mouse in the

    garage while he was on the phone with his Mom on speaker phone. My response: "Ok, we have some cheese for the trap then." He tells me: "I'm going to use peanut butter." I say: "But why? Last time we had a mouse you caught it with cheese in trap overnight!" Then MIL laughed and...
    galaxygurl galaxygurl
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 4, 2015

    this woman has tried to take off Erica my

    position as a mom I feel like. For my daughters 1st birthday, this woman was planning stuff without telling me, she bought pretty much everything without allowing me to provide things for my baby girl. when I was asked how the 1st party would be, she jumped in and began giving...
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 30, 2015

    I have a mother in law

    that is difficult. She is able to work just not willing she rather sit on her *** and live off tax payers dime and complain about her life rather than do something to make it better. Then my wife makes excuses for her on a constant basis. She is always trying to cheat, someone...
    Crab1789 Crab1789
    56-60, M
    Oct 19, 2015

    Mil Issues For Over 20 Years,,,, Needing A Shoulder To Cry On

    My husband and I got married in our very early 20's and my MIL herself was only 40. I basically  was my husband first and only GF he brought home to meet the parents. He is the oldest of two boys. Being so young and I struggle with self confidence, I fell unknowingly victim to...
    saddaughterinlaw saddaughterinlaw
    1 Response Feb 20, 2012

    Its hard to get around it

    but yeah I am having issues with my fiance's mother. Or should I say she's having issues with me, right along with the baby mama. Alright to began with the mother and I met in the past beginning of my relationship with my fiance and of course she loved the fact that her son was...
    Msprissy Msprissy
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Mar 31, 2015

    I'm consistently polite

    and friendly and ignore all the nasty little comments she throws my way but after this weekend, I'm done. I'm tired of being treated like a free-loader who stole her precious boy. Fact is, he married me of his own volition and as she never has anything nice to say I wish she'd...
    ThunderWaffles ThunderWaffles
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 12, 2015

    I need advice. I think my mother In law already

    wants his son to die. Coz he always say that maybe I will get married again if his son will die. I can't imagine she was saying that when he's son is still alive. Although he has a severe decease.when I heard that I felt the pain.
    Andrea0328 Andrea0328
    36-40, F
    Apr 22, 2015

    At a Loss

    I have been with my husband for 15 years now and married for 12 of it. Anyway his mother never liked me from the beginning. She kept trying to convince my husband back then to leave me cause I wasn't good enough. As the years have gone by, we started having kids, getting married...
    goingnumb goingnumb
    36-40, F
    8 Responses Nov 11, 2008

    She comes over everyday.

    ....calls over and over until he picks up no matter the time of day.....I just want some space!!!
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Apr 1, 2015

    Misuderstood By Choice - Not By Facts

    Back in 82, i was turning 16, i met a man i soon married at the age of 18. Together we had a daughter in 84, a son in 85 and a daughter that passed away in 89. When i first met my husband husband i was aware and naive too hard street drugs. Sure i smoked pot and drank but soon i...
    MissingTeenie MissingTeenie
    41-45, F
    1 Response Jan 20, 2010

    My mother in law is obese

    and can't seem to figure out that her problems stem from her eating. She eats and eats and eats, constantly. I've never seen the woman without something to eat, and I've known her for 5 years. It bothers me because she has type 2 diabetes and feeds her kids the same crap she...
    dariajavs dariajavs
    26-30, F
    Dec 16, 2015

    Need To Vent About A Dependent, Negative Mother-in-law...

    I'm 26, and I've been married for just over two years to a man I absolutely adore.  My MIL has 6 children, 5 males and 1 female, all over the age of 21.  One of the males lives out of the country, but everyone else lives in a 20 mile proximity from each other.  My mother-in...
    smiles3636 smiles3636
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Mar 8, 2011

    So, I have been getting more into crochet

    as a hobby. I wanted to make something more substantial. So, I thought why not a baby blanket? I found a pattern I could make in 3 hours. Anyways Mom-in law comes over and asks what I was making (she saw it laying there). I was very careful since she has been questioning us ALOT...
    galaxygurl galaxygurl
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 19, 2015

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    susancc12 susancc12
    26-30, F
    Jul 13, 2015

    Just Need To Understand That I Will Never Be Good Enough And

    get on with it.  She isn't going to change her attitude toward me ever.  I am so sick of being criticized for the way I keep my home Being called cheap ( we are not cheat we make choices that best suit us) Being told she will watch the grand kids and for the fun of it...
    GrapeBerry GrapeBerry
    1 Response Mar 17, 2012

    My Mil Really Gets On My Nerves

    I want to start by saying that I do love my in-laws.  But, sometimes they REALLY get to me, mainly my MIL.  I have always been a very quiet person (I have Asperger's syndrome).  When my hubby introduced me to his parents he advised them of this, stating I...
    haydenrules haydenrules
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Jan 19, 2009

    http://womanista.com/2015/09/03/article-details-30-things-grandparents-shouldnt-do/ rules for mother in laws =/
    emotionalmommy emotionalmommy
    26-30, F
    Sep 4, 2015

    Bust Up With Future Mil And Not A Clue How To Make It Better

    I've been with my partner for almost three years now, and we moved in together about 18 months ago. We're really happy together in most regards, we've had our ups and downs like any couple of course, and we've discussed marriage and possibly kids one day so we're serious. At...
    sparklystar sparklystar
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jan 10, 2013

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    We are looking for couples/families who are having issues with their In-Laws. If you are interested, please contact me! Thanks, Michelle
    tvshow17 tvshow17
    Mar 7, 2016

    Beyond Frustrated!!! With The Whole Family In Laws

    Okay, I admit I'm not the most easiest person to get along with, but I do get an A+ for trying. I have bent over backwards for this lady *mother in law* and still I'm at a dead end. My mom always instilled in me to have manners and respect my elders even if they don't deserve it...
    Meryweather Meryweather
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 9, 2012


    My mil is the worst by far! She has been so disrespectful to me since the day we met. I now have her first granddaughter which has made her into a lunatic. She is obsessed with my baby. She is no longer allowed in our home or around our children. She sat at the hospital after my...
    Endb143 Endb143
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 28, 2011
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