I Have Issues With My Mother

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    OK, so here goes. This is the first memory I

    can recall. I must have been around four or five years old. My mother was yelling at us more than usual. She must have just got into a fight with my father and she was going through her normal ranting. She then told me and my sister to do something and perhaps we didn't do it...
    LiveDieLive LiveDieLive
    36-40
    1 Response Dec 29, 2015

    she just doesn't give a ****

    and its worse when she acts like she does like the **** mom? i don't even want to call her mom & she hasn't called me in 3 days. my dad told her that I was upset that she didn't answer when I wanted to tell her about a school dance & you know what she did? SHE LAUGHED AND SAID...
    Max415 Max415
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 21, 2015
    OddButResilient OddButResilient
    46-50, M
    Feb 10

    I dragged myself out of bed

    and stumbled into the bathroom, and when I looked into the mirror I saw my mother looking back at me.
    amymayoral01 amymayoral01
    51-55, F
    Jul 18, 2015

    I think some women don't realize how important

    the mother/daughter relationship is in shaping their daughters. My mom was a teacher, so she was more of a disciplinarian to me, very practical and taught me to be independent. Never soft and cuddly, never intimate, always angry at me, doled out punishment easily, praised me...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Jul 17, 2015

    Thought patterns are not genetic,

    and sometimes I forget how differently we think, only to be reminded that when she says x she means y, and thus I cannot assume that x means x, but whenever I have tried to assume I could translate, it turns out that she did not mean z which is what I assumed. So I should never...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe
    41-45, F
    2 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    My mother's visit comes to an end on the 11th.

    I know she is sad about it, but I so look forward to my old routines. One thing I realized: her extreme extroversion makes me more introverted and during her visits I find it hard to recharge. For example: usually I like doing dishes, but what I like about doing dishes is that...
    JoannaBe JoannaBe
    41-45, F
    3 Responses Jan 9

    my mother went to court to remove my kids from

    me for naming my daughter Arafel thistle. Arafel means impenetrable fog, dark cloud. and is also a guardian fairy name. thistle for beauty that is backed up by thorns. a pretty Ness that can stand up for its self. and weeds don't die.
    UnseelieThistle UnseelieThistle
    26-30, F
    Jul 17, 2015

    This sounds so wrong

    but sometimes I wish I had a different mother. Majority of my girlfriends mothers are very close with them. As in "dating" their daughters. Having that mother-daughter time. Mine doesn't do that. She tries to spend as less time with me as possible. I believe she actually enjoys...
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss
    18-21, F
    3 Responses May 18, 2015

    my mother can not stand me half the time like

    just this morning she was saying she wishes she had a car so we can go and get some breakfast and I told her she did not need to drive because she took medicine that makes her have car wrecks and she tells me that is because she was one bad medicine that she is no longer taken...
    jackiehammack2019 jackiehammack2019
    31-35, F
    1 Response May 29, 2015

    for my whole life my mom has mostly been a part

    of my life that i dont really like to talk about. she makes me feel so insecure and like im never good enough. or at least she did when i lived with her. i could never be myself, it just wasnt allowed. after i moved out of my dads house she started talking to me more and acting...
    lovelikewoa1997 lovelikewoa1997
    18-21, F
    Jul 17, 2015

    Sick as a dog and my mom still yells at me,

    when will this madness end. I genuinely have no one and no one cares about me, not even when I'm sick :'(
    TheRouge TheRouge
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 13, 2014

    After having read most of the experiences on

    this, my mother wasn't as bad. But due to her personality and how things turned out, I still question if she actually loved me. I remember memories like when she caught me skipping class with my friends, her saying that she thought I was stupid, but now she's convinced I'm...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Dec 30, 2015

    Where Do I Start...

    How do you sum up the most frustrating relationship in the world. I guess at the beginning. My mother has never been happy in her life. I can understand where some of her issues come from because my grandma was alchoholic the whole time she was growing up and my grandpa wasn't...
    thehoodedartist thehoodedartist
    26-30, F
    10 Responses Jun 20, 2009

    Me and my mom don't like each other.

    She tells me all the time that I give her the most problems out of all her kids... And she's probably right. I'm the middle child of three kids. My older brother is the cocky, athletic type who thinks he's better than everyone. My younger sister is 8. She's mommy and daddy's...
    simplycece simplycece
    18-21, F
    Aug 9, 2015

    I never have until recently.

    We weren't really close for a long time, then certain events happened that led us to just completely lean on each other and made us very close. I relied on her and she relied on me. Now, other events happened. She's been happier and she's left me to wallow alone. I don't feel as...
    wedgieshurtalot wedgieshurtalot
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Dec 21, 2015

    She's not a bad woman at heart.

    She's just not a very good mum. She had me when she was 16 and never stopped reminding me of it. Every time I did something wrong as a kid she'd say something like "Do you realise I gave up my youth for you?" or "If I hadn't had you I could've done X,Y,Z!" She did work hard at...
    EarthWalkerMan EarthWalkerMan
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Sep 30, 2015

    So basically to put it short,

    my mom is choosing her bf/partner over me, her only daughter. She's been with him for about 6 years when I was 10 yrs old and in the beginning he was Ok but over the years I've come to HATE him because of the things he has done to my mom and the way he is emotionally abusive...
    abundantthoughts abundantthoughts
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 31, 2015

    She doesn't care about me.

    She's not even present in my life. She was very young when I was born ( 17 ), so she left me with my father and then came back 15 years later to see how I was and to reclaim weekly visits. She loves her new family more than me, she loves her daughter more than me. So, with the...
    Vanellopey Vanellopey
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 20, 2015

    my mother has never been much of a mother

    as a child i was physically n mentally abused till i was 15 till i was put in foster care. then when i was 18 i tried a relationship w my mother and at first she was great the mother i always wanted, then one day right back to old self. im 32 and its been a never ending cycle...
    cooper3366 cooper3366
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Apr 14, 2015

    Yeah, my mom is both crazy AND mean.

    Crazy can be dealt with. Mean can be dealt with, but crazy AND mean cannot. That's why I don't interact with her at all anymore.
    TheGreanBean TheGreanBean
    36-40, F
    Sep 13, 2015

    I've never understood

    why my mother has never been able to tuck me in, kiss me, hold me in her arms, or just show her love through just pretending to care about what I talk to her about. She thinks I take my dads side over hers which is a tiny bit true just because she is never encouraging me to...
    Kionamarie Kionamarie
    26-30, F
    1 Response Jul 21, 2015

    When my mother was pregnant with me she took

    drugs and drank ALOT. Thankfully I did not get birth defects but she never had tried to quit especially when she was pregnant with me. The after I was born at 10 months old I had my first Seizure (I thankfully do not have to take any medication for or needed any surgery I...
    Sachigal Sachigal
    22-25, F
    Dec 5, 2015

    I think the root of all my personal problems is

    caused by my mother... Granted it's also from my personality - me being very introverted, selfconscious and insecure - but I think that was also mainly caused by her. I mean the time when i was a lot more confident in myself was when i was at uni and living by my self. I always...
    RedAsphodel RedAsphodel
    22-25, F
    Oct 20, 2015

    She Is Lost

    I feel so bad for her, but seriously I can't be her emotional punching bag any longer. My mom is going through a lot, I totally understand that, I just wish she would not be so hateful and mean towards me. She has done this for years, but lately it's been so bad :(
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    6 Responses Mar 6, 2011

    Why Are You So Controlling?

    This is exactly how I feel- I'm tired of being what you want me to be.. Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface Don't know what you're expecting of me.. Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes.. Every step that I take is another mistake to you.. I've become so numb...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    3 Responses Sep 18, 2012

    My biggest fear is to end up like my mother.

    Or even worse, having kids and making their lives miserable without even noticing, just like she did.
    tatyana16 tatyana16
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 17, 2015

    My mother has slapped me,

    called me numerous, belittling names, and abusive curses. When she is angry, she will hit me and she will have that look in her eye that will make you think she needs mental help or sessions in anger management. That look will make you think that you are the single most hated...
    sienabrowns sienabrowns
    18-21
    6 Responses Aug 22, 2014

    I'm so angry. My mom has this new boyfriend

    and he comes over often snd they were in the Livingroom and me and my sister were in the kitchen doing out homework at the table. We had earphones in but I wasn't listening to music and i could hear what they were talking about. She was telling all kinds of lies to him and...
    TheRouge TheRouge
    18-21, F
    1 Response Sep 17, 2014

    my mother went to court to remove my kids from

    me for naming my daughter Arafel thistle. Arafel means impenetrable fog, dark cloud. and is also a guardian fairy name. thistle for beauty that is backed up by thorns. a pretty Ness that can stand up for its self. and weeds don't die.
    UnseelieThistle UnseelieThistle
    26-30, F
    Jul 17, 2015

    Too Early For The Drama....

    I have posted once before that my mother wasn't talking to me until her birthday came around. Now the friday before her birthday came she had called me but I was in clinical (im in nursing school) so I wasn't able to answer the phone. She left me a msg talking about she tried of...
    reene198321 reene198321
    26-30, F
    5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

    She Expects Too Much.

    Somedays, we're fine. We can get along, joke around and love each other like mothers and daughters should. But on most not we,ut she is always in my hair. Telling me this, telling me that, nag nag nag. Sure I love my mom, but she has to give me some space! I'm normally a...
    xspamadvice xspamadvice
    16-17, F
    4 Responses Jan 30, 2012

    To Put It Nicely...

    I have issues with my mom. I long ago gave up any semblance of getting what I wanted from her, which was unconditional love and approval. But yes, I still have issues with her. I cannot change her. I can’t. I don’t want to. But I can work on myself. Work on this...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws
    36-40, F
    3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

    Well, it's never something fast talking about

    mom and the realtionship we have. I was just talking to her on the phone and I say I ran out of battery. Lie. it's annoying when you don't receive any kind of support. Since I was a child it was the same way. I told her about a legal issue that I have, and she answered: "Oh...
    purpleinmonday purpleinmonday
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Oct 27, 2015

    No matter what my mother says,

    I am smart. No matter what my mother says, I am beautiful. No matter what my mother says, I am capable. I am strong. I am lucky. I am determined. I can work to achieve what I need to. I am worthy of friends. No matter what my mother says.
    PaigetheBook PaigetheBook
    16-17, F
    1 Response May 28, 2014

    uhg! my mom is being creepy again!

    she keeps sending me messages about how hot she thinks this one guy is it that she saw a guy she had a one night stand with and if a guy looks at us she goes all "omg! that guy was totes checking out my ***!" she is being immature as ****! and I'm pree sure she's back on drugs...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 13, 2015

    Still Not The Victim

    Shut up SHUT UP Because I'm allowed to feel whichever way I want There is no excuse for anything that happened No way to validate ABUSE Because that's what it was ABUSE It was ugly and cruel and wrong I shouldn't have to defend myself Being told, "that's just the way she...
    iloveedward iloveedward
    22-25, F
    5 Responses May 8, 2013
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Nov 26, 2015

    My biggest fear is ending up exactly like my

    mother - working a boring job, not having enough money to move out of a close relative's house and being a single mother. I want to be happily married and have children AFTER marriage, I want to have a good job that makes me happy, and I don't want to rely on other for my...
    amaxv amaxv
    13-15, F
    1 Response Jul 18, 2015

    I have major issues with my mother,

    and I probably always will. I think I still hold a lot of hate towards her, even though she was not the one who was abusing me as a child, she knew about the abuse and did NOTHING to stop it, and I think I still carry a lot of that with me, till this day. Also my mom has been...
    HisLittleAriel HisLittleAriel
    26-30, F
    3 Responses Jul 17, 2015

    I have been physically

    and emotionally abused by my mother my whole life, but yet I still find myself trying to please her or make her proud. I know for a fact she doesn't love me, she's never loved anyone, I mean she's a diagnosed psychopath, but I still love her and forgive her for all of the the...
    Rebeccaej Rebeccaej
    16-17, F
    7 Responses Jan 10, 2014

    Mother.

    Mother. Mother. As I grew up I knew you as The woman who loved Church Who made no time or had no time to live Life the way that she should have I knew you as The woman Who demanded That I go to church And based my worth for that entire week If I did or did not go I knew you as...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Aug 18, 2013

    my mother had decided to move back home.

    .. which is awful because she will be trapped in all her families sketchy, and possibly dangerous, family issues and problems... and I also think she is using again. She kept asking me to pray for her, even though she, nor I, are religious... she said a bunch of other stuff and...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy
    22-25, F
    Feb 19

    My mother is a textbook helicopter parent.

    She parents out of fear and has anxiety and control issues. I rebelled early and became a mostly well adjusted adult. Yet I still some after effects, as can be expected. I have some mild OCD tendencies which stems from my own need to control things after being controlled as a...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89
    26-30
    1 Response Nov 3, 2014

    Before.

    We always had food on the table, clean clothes on our backs. We went to school looking presentable. We got made a fuss of on our birthdays and Christmas time, even though she didn't really like to celebrate because of her upbringing. She told us she loved us and we loved her back...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink
    22-25, F
    7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

    We'll Probably Never Get Past It

    Every since I was a small child, there has been an invisible wall between me and my mother. It's a strange form of rejection, being cared for from a distance, but still living in the same house. I won't say why the rejection became apparent, because it's very personal to me, but...
    Infinite9 Infinite9
    70+, F
    4 Responses Jun 27, 2011

    She's Pushing Me Away...

    My mother thinks we have such a great relationship, but if she knew half of the feelings I've kept to myself, she'd know differently. She seems to be dependent of me, and she is pushing me away. Sometimes it feels like she is smothering me. It seems like she doesn't think I have...
    animallover110293 animallover110293
    22-25, F
    Apr 7, 2013
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