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I Have Issues With My Mother

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    Still Not The Victim

    Shut up SHUT UP Because I'm allowed to feel whichever way I want There is no excuse for anything that happened No way to validate ABUSE Because that's what it was ABUSE It was ugly and cruel and wrong I shouldn't have to defend myself Being told, "that's just the way she...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 5 Responses May 8, 2013

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    uhg! my mom is being creepy again!

    she keeps sending me messages about how hot she thinks this one guy is it that she saw a guy she had a one night stand with and if a guy looks at us she goes all "omg! that guy was totes checking out my ***!" she is being immature as ****! and I'm pree sure she's back on drugs...
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    I Have A Love/hate Relationship With My Mom

    I love my mother but she gets on me nerves....I had invited her to dinner on a Sunday, but something came up and she came by anyway...talking bout she can do what she wants because she is "grown" well Im grown too. Then we got into on the phone and I blocked her number out for a...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    I view my mother as weak

    for staying in a toxic marriage for 26 years. She's had so many chances to pick up and leave and she wouldn't do it. She put her own kids through a lot by choosing to stay with my piece of **** father. It was an extremely selfish choice.
    BlackBuddafly88 BlackBuddafly88 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    Too Early For The Drama....

    I have posted once before that my mother wasn't talking to me until her birthday came around. Now the friday before her birthday came she had called me but I was in clinical (im in nursing school) so I wasn't able to answer the phone. She left me a msg talking about she tried of...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Ya blame me me mother I didn't do anything wrong

    neither did my friend you are blaming.
    alexjohnson28 alexjohnson28 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2014

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    Mother.

    Mother. Mother. As I grew up I knew you as The woman who loved Church Who made no time or had no time to live Life the way that she should have I knew you as The woman Who demanded That I go to church And based my worth for that entire week If I did or did not go I knew you as...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Ammi and Me

    Even now, as a 60 year old woman, I have problems with my Ammi (mother). Ammi was young when she had me, 15, similar to the age I was when I had my first daughter. although she was young, she was prepared for motherhood, unlike me. What she wasn't prepared for was motherhood with...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    Today she asked me if I thought I needed to see

    a therapist. I said yes and she reacted by saying, "ha you think you have problems if you go to therapy with people who have REAL problems they will laugh at you." I hate her. Then she asked why I felt this way I cited the time she took me to my drug dealing uncles house and I...
    FalseAdulation FalseAdulation 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    She Expects Too Much.

    Somedays, we're fine. We can get along, joke around and love each other like mothers and daughters should. But on most not we,ut she is always in my hair. Telling me this, telling me that, nag nag nag. Sure I love my mom, but she has to give me some space! I'm normally a...
    xspamadvice xspamadvice 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    When i was a teen my mom was my Both a mother

    and a father to me ..i've always found her strong,brave,social and beautiful everyone compliments her about her beauty , she's a wonderful mom ! But as i grew older 17 18 19 20 ..she turned into a weak person ! Whenever she faces a challenge in her life she gets depressed...
    leen94 leen94 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 11

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    To Put It Nicely...

    I have issues with my mom. I long ago gave up any semblance of getting what I wanted from her, which was unconditional love and approval. But yes, I still have issues with her. I cannot change her. I can’t. I don’t want to. But I can work on myself. Work on this...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    my mother has never been much of a mother

    as a child i was physically n mentally abused till i was 15 till i was put in foster care. then when i was 18 i tried a relationship w my mother and at first she was great the mother i always wanted, then one day right back to old self. im 32 and its been a never ending cycle...
    cooper3366 cooper3366 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    My Mom Is Always Angry.

    From the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed she is looking for an excuse to be angry. Every-single-little-thing is a problem to her, and she blames EVERYONE (Mostly me) for ALL of her perceived problems. Here's a prime example. My mom and dad got into a very...
    TheRelentlessOne TheRelentlessOne 18-21, M 13 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    Why Are You So Controlling?

    This is exactly how I feel- I'm tired of being what you want me to be.. Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface Don't know what you're expecting of me.. Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes.. Every step that I take is another mistake to you.. I've become so numb...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    Yep.... She yelled more.

    . And threw a pillow and then my phone at me... Hit me both times... Fun morning ....
    Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10

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    Where Do I Start...

    How do you sum up the most frustrating relationship in the world. I guess at the beginning. My mother has never been happy in her life. I can understand where some of her issues come from because my grandma was alchoholic the whole time she was growing up and my grandpa wasn't...
    thehoodedartist thehoodedartist 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Okay it's kinda like a love-hate relationship.

    I swear I love her with all my heart, but sometimes it's just like......... UUUGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! I mean both my brothers and me know that the favorite child is my older sister. She gets everything!!!! All the jewelry, cute things, and all the money and house goes towards her...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2014

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    We'll Probably Never Get Past It

    Every since I was a small child, there has been an invisible wall between me and my mother. It's a strange form of rejection, being cared for from a distance, but still living in the same house. I won't say why the rejection became apparent, because it's very personal to me, but...
    Infinite9 Infinite9 66-70, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    Since I was little, my parents would fight

    everyday which eventually led to their divorce. Their divorce was nasty and too personal that I would need a book to write it all out. Well eventually my dad passed away a couple years later after their divorce and my mom had to raise three children. The only problem is that...
    jkjk237 jkjk237 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    My mother is a textbook helicopter parent.

    She parents out of fear and has anxiety and control issues. I rebelled early and became a mostly well adjusted adult. Yet I still some after effects, as can be expected. I have some mild OCD tendencies which stems from my own need to control things after being controlled as a...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    I don't understand how she became

    who she is. She has no compassion for her children and basically has fallen under the influence of my dad. Why can't she be herself, be independent and care about her family, instead of verbally abusing her children and not being the loving, caring mother that they want. I say...
    GodsArte GodsArte 18-21, F 1 Response May 6

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    I have way to many problems going on with this

    woman. I want to have a good relationship with her, but she is so selfish, and if that means fighting with her, unfortunately, I do it. Since I hit my teens, I started getting the subtle guilting for what it was. She always wants me to stay home. It's not because I have bad...
    venetzia venetzia 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    I have been physically

    and emotionally abused by my mother my whole life, but yet I still find myself trying to please her or make her proud. I know for a fact she doesn't love me, she's never loved anyone, I mean she's a diagnosed psychopath, but I still love her and forgive her for all of the the...
    Rebeccaej Rebeccaej 16-17, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I love my mum but I have issues with her I

    never feel good enough and I feel like my problems are too much for her.I can't get it out of my head the things Shes said throughout my life have stuck with me when I was self harming as a teen she told me she didn't see any scars n called me a liar when my relationship ended I...
    Confused848 Confused848 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    My mother came for a visit to my house 5 years

    ago and has yet to leave... No seriously. She has been one of the most clingy, needy and emotionally abusive people that I've ever known. I ran to get away from my parents, never returning home after college. My mother remained needy and had to talk daily, sometimes 5-7 times...
    tajadaja tajadaja 31-35, F Jan 31

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    I Wish

    I wish I could communicate with my mother. Every time I try to share something with her she always has reasons why its my fault. I wish she would just listen without judging. I have been having a difficult time recently. As a result I've been depressed and having trouble...
    VioletUtopia VioletUtopia 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2013

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    Well,actually, I disowned her a few years ago

    and she is in jail now. She was very verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and my siblings and also(sometimes)physically abusive. I wish I had a better person as a mom, but I became friends with an older lady that was a very good example the way she cared for her kids. She...
    stardusthope stardusthope 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    From a very young age I've always been told to

    watch what I say to my mother. Not really allowed to have an opinion. She can talk to people however she likes but whenever anyone bites back at her, she is the victim and the other party is at fault. I'm so tired of trying to explain to her that she instigates things, but it...
    PrincessPhie PrincessPhie 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 29, 2014

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    No matter what my mother says,

    I am smart. No matter what my mother says, I am beautiful. No matter what my mother says, I am capable. I am strong. I am lucky. I am determined. I can work to achieve what I need to. I am worthy of friends. No matter what my mother says.
    PaigetheBook PaigetheBook 16-17, F 1 Response May 28, 2014

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    I'm so angry. My mom has this new boyfriend

    and he comes over often snd they were in the Livingroom and me and my sister were in the kitchen doing out homework at the table. We had earphones in but I wasn't listening to music and i could hear what they were talking about. She was telling all kinds of lies to him and...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2014

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    She's Pushing Me Away...

    My mother thinks we have such a great relationship, but if she knew half of the feelings I've kept to myself, she'd know differently. She seems to be dependent of me, and she is pushing me away. Sometimes it feels like she is smothering me. It seems like she doesn't think I have...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F Apr 7, 2013

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    My mother raised me alone

    since i was 10 because my father left us,i have no siblings and i understand raising a child alone is difficult but i dont think she really understands me.She is very close minded,i can never sit down and talk to her,she forced me to date a guy i didnt love for 2 years cause she...
    Tessa3 Tessa3 22-25, F Apr 4

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    How do you explain to your mom

    that she needs to grow up with out being a complete *****? She has 2 kids me and my lil sister and she is pregnant again. But I was taken from my mom at age 2 and lived with my aunt for 13 years of hell.. (That's another story) she doesn't have a job or a safe house for my lil...
    Muppo23 Muppo23 16-17, F Sep 28, 2014

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    Disconnect She is the only women

    that I love , but my heart hates. she was suppose to protect and love me. but all she did was beat and hate me. even as a child I always felt a disconnect with her. she never wanted me. she despised my existence . and she always reminded me i was only brought into this world...
    ladonna1989 ladonna1989 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 27, 2014

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    I am the issue. I hate myself

    for the way I treated my son. I want very badly not to feel anger and hate. Its not his fault. I left, until I can resolve my issues.
    helplesstoo helplesstoo 41-45 Sep 10, 2014

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    My mother has slapped me,

    called me numerous, belittling names, and abusive curses. When she is angry, she will hit me and she will have that look in her eye that will make you think she needs mental help or sessions in anger management. That look will make you think that you are the single most hated...
    sienabrowns sienabrowns 16-17 6 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I started reading every ones story

    and I was shocked at how much in common are stories are. I used to be so ashamed of my mother's illness and kept it a secret. As mom got older things just got worse and worse, her moods swings were up one minute then down a deep hole the next. My whole life all I every heard was...
    pamq pamq 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 10, 2014

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    I once told myself that

    if I'm gonna have a family of my own, I will never be like my mother. I must admit, I envy mothers who are close to their children. In my case, my mother has never become a mom to us. She prioritize other people than her own family. She is more concern about her sisters & nieces...
    SweetEclair SweetEclair 36-40, F 5 Responses Aug 1, 2014

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    Sick as a dog and my mom still yells at me,

    when will this madness end. I genuinely have no one and no one cares about me, not even when I'm sick :'(
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2014

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    She Is Mentally Killing Me

    I don't know what to do. She makes me miserable and makes me hate myself. Being with her for more than a minute means having to deal with her insults on my father or her criticism on everything about me. My dad chose to divorce her when I was starting out in 8th grade. I am now...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 14 Responses Jul 23, 2009

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    It was my birthday a few weeks ago.

    Three days after my birthday,i received a call on am unknown number. I let the call go to voice Mail and it was my birth mother calling to wish me a happy birthday three days late. She must have gotten the number from my brother because we haven't spoken in at least a decade...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    my mother never keeps her promise.

    she said she loved us enough to stop. but now I know she's lieinf she hasn't stopped and is now begging me to clean up her mess.... it is always my job. I am always the one taking care of her.
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    Before.

    We always had food on the table, clean clothes on our backs. We went to school looking presentable. We got made a fuss of on our birthdays and Christmas time, even though she didn't really like to celebrate because of her upbringing. She told us she loved us and we loved her back...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 70+, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    So my mom and I were carrying a long heavy

    piece of wood, and she suddenly decides to drop her end. That makes me drop it because it is so heavy and it scrapes down my leg, cutting me. Now here is the best part, my mom starts yelling at me for hurting myself... Like it wasn't her fault, even though it clearly was
    Em518 Em518 13-15, F Sep 2, 2014

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    if I were my own daughter

    and didn't like the boyfriend I wouldn't push the boyfriend away and treat him like a disgrace to he human race instead I would invite him in my home and get to know the version my daughter loves. Because she's the important one here and I'll try to figure out why her ads hasn't...
    lovelyytroubledsoul lovelyytroubledsoul 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 17

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