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I Have Issues With My Mother

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    How do you explain to your mom

    that she needs to grow up with out being a complete *****? She has 2 kids me and my lil sister and she is pregnant again. But I was taken from my mom at age 2 and lived with my aunt for 13 years of hell.. (That's another story) she doesn't have a job or a safe house for my lil...
    Muppo23 Muppo23 16-17, F Sep 28, 2014

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    My mom had it hard, while having me,

    i know that. Whithout getting too into that, she becomes angry at me, if i'm not like she wants too. Also now when i'm older and I have learned to fight back, she still makes me feel like the bad guy.
    Timgerer Timgerer 16-17, F Apr 5

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    I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

    She can go between happy/sad/angry in seconds. And the angry part of her is resurfacing more and more often, to the point that she is rarely happy. This has been happening for as long as I can remember, but her mood swings were rarely so rapid, or her reactions so severe. For...
    indigostory indigostory 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 22, 2014

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    Well,actually, I disowned her a few years ago

    and she is in jail now. She was very verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and my siblings and also(sometimes)physically abusive. I wish I had a better person as a mom, but I became friends with an older lady that was a very good example the way she cared for her kids. She...
    stardusthope stardusthope 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 25, 2014

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    I view my mother as weak

    for staying in a toxic marriage for 26 years. She's had so many chances to pick up and leave and she wouldn't do it. She put her own kids through a lot by choosing to stay with my piece of **** father. It was an extremely selfish choice.
    BlackBuddafly88 BlackBuddafly88 26-30, F 1 Response Feb 27

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    She Is Lost

    I feel so bad for her, but seriously I can't be her emotional punching bag any longer. My mom is going through a lot, I totally understand that, I just wish she would not be so hateful and mean towards me. She has done this for years, but lately it's been so bad :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    Since I was little, my parents would fight

    everyday which eventually led to their divorce. Their divorce was nasty and too personal that I would need a book to write it all out. Well eventually my dad passed away a couple years later after their divorce and my mom had to raise three children. The only problem is that...
    jkjk237 jkjk237 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 7

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    Before.

    We always had food on the table, clean clothes on our backs. We went to school looking presentable. We got made a fuss of on our birthdays and Christmas time, even though she didn't really like to celebrate because of her upbringing. She told us she loved us and we loved her back...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 22-25, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    if I were my own daughter

    and didn't like the boyfriend I wouldn't push the boyfriend away and treat him like a disgrace to he human race instead I would invite him in my home and get to know the version my daughter loves. Because she's the important one here and I'll try to figure out why her ads hasn't...
    lovelyytroubledsoul lovelyytroubledsoul 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    my mother can not stand me half the time like

    just this morning she was saying she wishes she had a car so we can go and get some breakfast and I told her she did not need to drive because she took medicine that makes her have car wrecks and she tells me that is because she was one bad medicine that she is no longer taken...
    jackiehammack2019 jackiehammack2019 31-35, F 1 Response May 29

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    It was my birthday a few weeks ago.

    Three days after my birthday,i received a call on am unknown number. I let the call go to voice Mail and it was my birth mother calling to wish me a happy birthday three days late. She must have gotten the number from my brother because we haven't spoken in at least a decade...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 29, 2014

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    From a very young age I've always been told to

    watch what I say to my mother. Not really allowed to have an opinion. She can talk to people however she likes but whenever anyone bites back at her, she is the victim and the other party is at fault. I'm so tired of trying to explain to her that she instigates things, but it...
    PrincessPhie PrincessPhie 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 29, 2014

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    I love my mum but I have issues with her I

    never feel good enough and I feel like my problems are too much for her.I can't get it out of my head the things Shes said throughout my life have stuck with me when I was self harming as a teen she told me she didn't see any scars n called me a liar when my relationship ended I...
    Confused848 Confused848 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Ya blame me me mother I didn't do anything wrong

    neither did my friend you are blaming.
    alexjohnson28 alexjohnson28 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16, 2014

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    Not Good Enough

    My mother expects me to b her shadow,to like things she does & we couldn't b more different. I'm like my dad who my mother know I picked over her-he's dead now. He had 6other kids but I'm her only one. If she is not comparing me to herself then it's my perfect cousins who are...
    BrokenNayana BrokenNayana 22-25, F Jul 2, 2012

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    my mother went to court to remove my kids from

    me for naming my daughter Arafel thistle. Arafel means impenetrable fog, dark cloud. and is also a guardian fairy name. thistle for beauty that is backed up by thorns. a pretty Ness that can stand up for its self. and weeds don't die.
    UnseelieThistle UnseelieThistle 26-30, F Jul 17

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    I have way to many problems going on with this

    woman. I want to have a good relationship with her, but she is so selfish, and if that means fighting with her, unfortunately, I do it. Since I hit my teens, I started getting the subtle guilting for what it was. She always wants me to stay home. It's not because I have bad...
    venetzia venetzia 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 22, 2014

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    Still Not The Victim

    Shut up SHUT UP Because I'm allowed to feel whichever way I want There is no excuse for anything that happened No way to validate ABUSE Because that's what it was ABUSE It was ugly and cruel and wrong I shouldn't have to defend myself Being told, "that's just the way she...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 5 Responses May 8, 2013

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    She's Pushing Me Away...

    My mother thinks we have such a great relationship, but if she knew half of the feelings I've kept to myself, she'd know differently. She seems to be dependent of me, and she is pushing me away. Sometimes it feels like she is smothering me. It seems like she doesn't think I have...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F Apr 7, 2013

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    Disconnect She is the only women

    that I love , but my heart hates. she was suppose to protect and love me. but all she did was beat and hate me. even as a child I always felt a disconnect with her. she never wanted me. she despised my existence . and she always reminded me i was only brought into this world...
    ladonna1989 ladonna1989 26-30, F 1 Response Sep 27, 2014

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    my mother went to court to remove my kids from

    me for naming my daughter Arafel thistle. Arafel means impenetrable fog, dark cloud. and is also a guardian fairy name. thistle for beauty that is backed up by thorns. a pretty Ness that can stand up for its self. and weeds don't die.
    UnseelieThistle UnseelieThistle 26-30, F Jul 17

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    Okay it's kinda like a love-hate relationship.

    I swear I love her with all my heart, but sometimes it's just like......... UUUGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! I mean both my brothers and me know that the favorite child is my older sister. She gets everything!!!! All the jewelry, cute things, and all the money and house goes towards her...
    Prettylildyke Prettylildyke 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19, 2014

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    I Wish

    I wish I could communicate with my mother. Every time I try to share something with her she always has reasons why its my fault. I wish she would just listen without judging. I have been having a difficult time recently. As a result I've been depressed and having trouble...
    VioletUtopia VioletUtopia 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2013

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    I have major issues with my mother,

    and I probably always will. I think I still hold a lot of hate towards her, even though she was not the one who was abusing me as a child, she knew about the abuse and did NOTHING to stop it, and I think I still carry a lot of that with me, till this day. Also my mom has been...
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 17

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    She Expects Too Much.

    Somedays, we're fine. We can get along, joke around and love each other like mothers and daughters should. But on most not we,ut she is always in my hair. Telling me this, telling me that, nag nag nag. Sure I love my mom, but she has to give me some space! I'm normally a...
    xspamadvice xspamadvice 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    My mother is a textbook helicopter parent.

    She parents out of fear and has anxiety and control issues. I rebelled early and became a mostly well adjusted adult. Yet I still some after effects, as can be expected. I have some mild OCD tendencies which stems from my own need to control things after being controlled as a...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 26-30 2 Responses Nov 3, 2014

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    My biggest fear is to end up like my mother.

    Or even worse, having kids and making their lives miserable without even noticing, just like she did.
    tatyana16 tatyana16 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    my mother never keeps her promise.

    she said she loved us enough to stop. but now I know she's lieinf she hasn't stopped and is now begging me to clean up her mess.... it is always my job. I am always the one taking care of her.
    InsaneSusy InsaneSusy 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 6

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    This sounds so wrong

    but sometimes I wish I had a different mother. Majority of my girlfriends mothers are very close with them. As in "dating" their daughters. Having that mother-daughter time. Mine doesn't do that. She tries to spend as less time with me as possible. I believe she actually enjoys...
    DarkGoddesss DarkGoddesss 18-21, F 3 Responses May 18

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    Mother.

    Mother. Mother. As I grew up I knew you as The woman who loved Church Who made no time or had no time to live Life the way that she should have I knew you as The woman Who demanded That I go to church And based my worth for that entire week If I did or did not go I knew you as...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Where Do I Start...

    How do you sum up the most frustrating relationship in the world. I guess at the beginning. My mother has never been happy in her life. I can understand where some of her issues come from because my grandma was alchoholic the whole time she was growing up and my grandpa wasn't...
    thehoodedartist thehoodedartist 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    my mother has never been much of a mother

    as a child i was physically n mentally abused till i was 15 till i was put in foster care. then when i was 18 i tried a relationship w my mother and at first she was great the mother i always wanted, then one day right back to old self. im 32 and its been a never ending cycle...
    cooper3366 cooper3366 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 14

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    I started reading every ones story

    and I was shocked at how much in common are stories are. I used to be so ashamed of my mother's illness and kept it a secret. As mom got older things just got worse and worse, her moods swings were up one minute then down a deep hole the next. My whole life all I every heard was...
    pamq pamq 46-50, F Jul 10, 2014

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    My biggest fear is ending up exactly like my

    mother - working a boring job, not having enough money to move out of a close relative's house and being a single mother. I want to be happily married and have children AFTER marriage, I want to have a good job that makes me happy, and I don't want to rely on other for my...
    amaxv amaxv 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 18

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    My mother raised me alone

    since i was 10 because my father left us,i have no siblings and i understand raising a child alone is difficult but i dont think she really understands me.She is very close minded,i can never sit down and talk to her,she forced me to date a guy i didnt love for 2 years cause she...
    Tessa3 Tessa3 22-25, F Apr 4

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    Sick as a dog and my mom still yells at me,

    when will this madness end. I genuinely have no one and no one cares about me, not even when I'm sick :'(
    TheRouge TheRouge 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 13, 2014

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    Me and my mom don't like each other.

    She tells me all the time that I give her the most problems out of all her kids... And she's probably right. I'm the middle child of three kids. My older brother is the cocky, athletic type who thinks he's better than everyone. My younger sister is 8. She's mommy and daddy's...
    simplycece simplycece 18-21, F Aug 9

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    We'll Probably Never Get Past It

    Every since I was a small child, there has been an invisible wall between me and my mother. It's a strange form of rejection, being cared for from a distance, but still living in the same house. I won't say why the rejection became apparent, because it's very personal to me, but...
    Infinite9 Infinite9 66-70, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    I dragged myself out of bed

    and stumbled into the bathroom, and when I looked into the mirror I saw my mother looking back at me.
    amymayoral01 amymayoral01 51-55, F Jul 18

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    My mother came for a visit to my house 5 years

    ago and has yet to leave... No seriously. She has been one of the most clingy, needy and emotionally abusive people that I've ever known. I ran to get away from my parents, never returning home after college. My mother remained needy and had to talk daily, sometimes 5-7 times...
    tajadaja tajadaja 31-35, F Jan 31

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    I'm so angry. My mom has this new boyfriend

    and he comes over often snd they were in the Livingroom and me and my sister were in the kitchen doing out homework at the table. We had earphones in but I wasn't listening to music and i could hear what they were talking about. She was telling all kinds of lies to him and...
    TheRouge TheRouge 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 17, 2014

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    Why Are You So Controlling?

    This is exactly how I feel- I'm tired of being what you want me to be.. Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface Don't know what you're expecting of me.. Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes.. Every step that I take is another mistake to you.. I've become so numb...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    I have been physically

    and emotionally abused by my mother my whole life, but yet I still find myself trying to please her or make her proud. I know for a fact she doesn't love me, she's never loved anyone, I mean she's a diagnosed psychopath, but I still love her and forgive her for all of the the...
    Rebeccaej Rebeccaej 16-17, F 8 Responses Jan 10, 2014

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    I think some women don't realize how important

    the mother/daughter relationship is in shaping their daughters. My mom was a teacher, so she was more of a disciplinarian to me, very practical and taught me to be independent. Never soft and cuddly, never intimate, always angry at me, doled out punishment easily, praised me...
    sunkisd25 sunkisd25 36-40, F 1 Response Jul 17

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    Yep.... She yelled more.

    . And threw a pillow and then my phone at me... Hit me both times... Fun morning ....
    Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 Sadgirlwithoutarazor1 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 10

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