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I Have Issues With My Mother

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    Not Good Enough

    My mother expects me to b her shadow,to like things she does & we couldn't b more different. I'm like my dad who my mother know I picked over her-he's dead now. He had 6other kids but I'm her only one. If she is not comparing me to herself then it's my perfect cousins who are...
    BrokenNayana BrokenNayana 22-25, F Jul 2, 2012

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    I have been physically

    and emotionally abused by my mother my whole life, but yet I still find myself trying to please her or make her proud. I know for a fact she doesn't love me, she's never loved anyone, I mean she's a diagnosed psychopath, but I still love her and forgive her for all of the the...
    Rebeccaej Rebeccaej 16-17, F 9 Responses Jan 10

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    Ugh I can't stand her sometimes.

    .. She does all these little annoying things by me all the time and is constantly moving...she never sits still and is constantly scratching herself everywhere. She can be very loud, she clings on to me whenever I don't want to be touched and it hurts because she is seriously...
    bribri590 bribri590 18-21, F Aug 19

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    Too Early For The Drama....

    I have posted once before that my mother wasn't talking to me until her birthday came around. Now the friday before her birthday came she had called me but I was in clinical (im in nursing school) so I wasn't able to answer the phone. She left me a msg talking about she tried of...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    It was my birthday a few weeks ago.

    Three days after my birthday,i received a call on am unknown number. I let the call go to voice Mail and it was my birth mother calling to wish me a happy birthday three days late. She must have gotten the number from my brother because we haven't spoken in at least a decade...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 4 Responses Aug 29

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    How do you explain to your mom

    that she needs to grow up with out being a complete *****? She has 2 kids me and my lil sister and she is pregnant again. But I was taken from my mom at age 2 and lived with my aunt for 13 years of hell.. (That's another story) she doesn't have a job or a safe house for my lil...
    Muppo23 Muppo23 13-15, F Sep 28

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    Why Are You So Controlling?

    This is exactly how I feel- I'm tired of being what you want me to be.. Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface Don't know what you're expecting of me.. Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes.. Every step that I take is another mistake to you.. I've become so numb...
    starlit11 starlit11 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    Still Not The Victim

    Shut up SHUT UP Because I'm allowed to feel whichever way I want There is no excuse for anything that happened No way to validate ABUSE Because that's what it was ABUSE It was ugly and cruel and wrong I shouldn't have to defend myself Being told, "that's just the way she...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 5 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I'm so angry. My mom has this new boyfriend

    and he comes over often snd they were in the Livingroom and me and my sister were in the kitchen doing out homework at the table. We had earphones in but I wasn't listening to music and i could hear what they were talking about. She was telling all kinds of lies to him and...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 17

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    Ammi and Me

    Even now, as a 60 year old woman, I have problems with my Ammi (mother). Ammi was young when she had me, 15, similar to the age I was when I had my first daughter. although she was young, she was prepared for motherhood, unlike me. What she wasn't prepared for was motherhood with...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    Well,actually, I disowned her a few years ago

    and she is in jail now. She was very verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and my siblings and also(sometimes)physically abusive. I wish I had a better person as a mom, but I became friends with an older lady that was a very good example the way she cared for her kids. She...
    stardusthope stardusthope 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    My Mom Is Always Angry.

    From the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed she is looking for an excuse to be angry. Every-single-little-thing is a problem to her, and she blames EVERYONE (Mostly me) for ALL of her perceived problems. Here's a prime example. My mom and dad got into a very...
    TheRelentlessOne TheRelentlessOne 18-21, M 13 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    Disconnect She is the only women

    that I love , but my heart hates. she was suppose to protect and love me. but all she did was beat and hate me. even as a child I always felt a disconnect with her. she never wanted me. she despised my existence . and she always reminded me i was only brought into this world...
    ladonna1989 ladonna1989 22-25, F 2 Responses Sep 27

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    I started reading every ones story

    and I was shocked at how much in common are stories are. I used to be so ashamed of my mother's illness and kept it a secret. As mom got older things just got worse and worse, her moods swings were up one minute then down a deep hole the next. My whole life all I every heard was...
    pamq pamq 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 10

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    My Mom And I Haven't Gotten Along The Last 10 Years.

    the last  ten years of my life have been hard. i don't think my mom understood what i was going through. because for the first 17 years of my life, i had a hard time speaking clearly. up tell i was 5 i was the happiest child in the world. but i finally new i had to grow up. i...
    capricornlily capricornlily 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2011

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    She Is Mentally Killing Me

    I don't know what to do. She makes me miserable and makes me hate myself. Being with her for more than a minute means having to deal with her insults on my father or her criticism on everything about me. My dad chose to divorce her when I was starting out in 8th grade. I am now...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 13 Responses Jul 23, 2009

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    From a very young age I've always been told to

    watch what I say to my mother. Not really allowed to have an opinion. She can talk to people however she likes but whenever anyone bites back at her, she is the victim and the other party is at fault. I'm so tired of trying to explain to her that she instigates things, but it...
    PrincessPhie PrincessPhie 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 29

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    She beats down my self esteem every day of my

    life and has the nerve to ask me why I'm still single at 24. I look forward to the day the love of my life sweeps me off my feet and we move far far away from her!
    ScarlettJade0814 ScarlettJade0814 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    We'll Probably Never Get Past It

    Every since I was a small child, there has been an invisible wall between me and my mother. It's a strange form of rejection, being cared for from a distance, but still living in the same house. I won't say why the rejection became apparent, because it's very personal to me, but...
    Infinite9 Infinite9 70+, F 5 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    She's Pushing Me Away...

    My mother thinks we have such a great relationship, but if she knew half of the feelings I've kept to myself, she'd know differently. She seems to be dependent of me, and she is pushing me away. Sometimes it feels like she is smothering me. It seems like she doesn't think I have...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F Apr 7, 2013

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    She Is Lost

    I feel so bad for her, but seriously I can't be her emotional punching bag any longer. My mom is going through a lot, I totally understand that, I just wish she would not be so hateful and mean towards me. She has done this for years, but lately it's been so bad :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    Mother.

    As I grew up I knew you as The woman who loved Church Who made no time or had no time to live life the way that she should have I knew you as the woman who demanded that I go to church and based my worth for that entire week If I did or did not go I knew you as a woman who hated...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 4 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    My mother is immature.

    When I talk to her about her actions she changes the subject. I have an older and younger brother. My younger brother is rich and my mom babies him (as she should her last child). My older brother I love him but don't like him. He has many children, many girlfriends and is...
    embellishedSadness embellishedSadness 26-30, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    My mother is phenomenal.

    She amazes me with the heart she has. It's where I get it from. She raised me since I was a baby. ( my birth mother left) she took me in as her own and never tarted me different. She had already had adult children of her own, so it was really commendable. When her son...
    freedom432 freedom432 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 17

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    I am the issue. I hate myself

    for the way I treated my son. I want very badly not to feel anger and hate. Its not his fault. I left, until I can resolve my issues.
    helplesstoo helplesstoo 41-45 Sep 10

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    I Have A Love/hate Relationship With My Mom

    I love my mother but she gets on me nerves....I had invited her to dinner on a Sunday, but something came up and she came by anyway...talking bout she can do what she wants because she is "grown" well Im grown too. Then we got into on the phone and I blocked her number out for a...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    She Expects Too Much.

    Somedays, we're fine. We can get along, joke around and love each other like mothers and daughters should. But on most not we,ut she is always in my hair. Telling me this, telling me that, nag nag nag. Sure I love my mom, but she has to give me some space! I'm normally a...
    xspamadvice xspamadvice 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    I love my mum but I have issues with her I

    never feel good enough and I feel like my problems are too much for her.I can't get it out of my head the things Shes said throughout my life have stuck with me when I was self harming as a teen she told me she didn't see any scars n called me a liar when my relationship ended I...
    Confused848 Confused848 26-30, F 2 Responses Oct 9

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    Sick as a dog and my mom still yells at me,

    when will this madness end. I genuinely have no one and no one cares about me, not even when I'm sick :'(
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    My mother has slapped me,

    called me numerous, belittling names, and abusive curses. When she is angry, she will hit me and she will have that look in her eye that will make you think she needs mental help or sessions in anger management. That look will make you think that you are the single most hated...
    sienabrowns sienabrowns 16-17 6 Responses Aug 22

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    shes not living with us

    now cuz my dad and her are separated. cuz she cheated but i wish shed say sorry and come back
    hollyjollyholly hollyjollyholly 13-15, F 3 Responses Jun 28

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    Today she asked me if I thought I needed to see

    a therapist. I said yes and she reacted by saying, "ha you think you have problems if you go to therapy with people who have REAL problems they will laugh at you." I hate her. Then she asked why I felt this way I cited the time she took me to my drug dealing uncles house and I...
    FalseAdulation FalseAdulation 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I have way to many problems going on with this

    woman. I want to have a good relationship with her, but she is so selfish, and if that means fighting with her, unfortunately, I do it. Since I hit my teens, I started getting the subtle guilting for what it was. She always wants me to stay home. It's not because I have bad...
    venetzia venetzia 13-15, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    No matter what my mother says,

    I am smart. No matter what my mother says, I am beautiful. No matter what my mother says, I am capable. I am strong. I am lucky. I am determined. I can work to achieve what I need to. I am worthy of friends. No matter what my mother says.
    PaigetheBook PaigetheBook 13-15, F 1 Response May 28

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    So my mom and I were carrying a long heavy

    piece of wood, and she suddenly decides to drop her end. That makes me drop it because it is so heavy and it scrapes down my leg, cutting me. Now here is the best part, my mom starts yelling at me for hurting myself... Like it wasn't her fault, even though it clearly was
    Em518 Em518 13-15, F Sep 2

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    I feel like I'm walking on eggshells.

    She can go between happy/sad/angry in seconds. And the angry part of her is resurfacing more and more often, to the point that she is rarely happy. This has been happening for as long as I can remember, but her mood swings were rarely so rapid, or her reactions so severe. For...
    indigostory indigostory 13-15, F 5 Responses Sep 22

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    I don't live with my mom.

    I have a whole lot of family issues but I usually get along with my mother pretty well. She hasn't yelled at me since I was little. I'm 18 now and she called me up in a rage. She was angry because she saw my Instagram and didn't see any pictures of her on there and she only saw...
    nemophilist8 nemophilist8 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 20

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    Before.

    We always had food on the table, clean clothes on our backs. We went to school looking presentable. We got made a fuss of on our birthdays and Christmas time, even though she didn't really like to celebrate because of her upbringing. She told us she loved us and we loved her back...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 70+, F 7 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    Ya blame me me mother I didn't do anything wrong

    neither did my friend you are blaming.
    alexjohnson28 alexjohnson28 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 16

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    Okay it's kinda like a love-hate relationship.

    I swear I love her with all my heart, but sometimes it's just like......... UUUGGGGHHHHHHH!!!!!!!!! I mean both my brothers and me know that the favorite child is my older sister. She gets everything!!!! All the jewelry, cute things, and all the money and house goes towards her...
    MiniMe57 MiniMe57 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 19

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    My mom likes to pretend

    that nothing happens in the world that is mine and her relationship. She's only really happy when I need things so, then she can go and buy me a ****-ton of crap I don't need as a gift and then throw it in my face later. I have brought up that buying me this and that isn't...
    RoseWithManyThorns RoseWithManyThorns 18-21, F Jun 18

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    My mother is a textbook helicopter parent.

    She parents out of fear and has anxiety and control issues. I rebelled early and became a mostly well adjusted adult. Yet I still some after effects, as can be expected. I have some mild OCD tendencies which stems from my own need to control things after being controlled as a...
    Sapphire89 Sapphire89 22-25 1 Response Nov 3

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    Vickychajon Vickychajon 13-15, F Jul 1

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    samdavis3 samdavis3 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 3

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    To Put It Nicely...

    I have issues with my mom. I long ago gave up any semblance of getting what I wanted from her, which was unconditional love and approval. But yes, I still have issues with her. I cannot change her. I can’t. I don’t want to. But I can work on myself. Work on this...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    I have no childhood memories my natural mother.

    I was shipped off to NY when I was infant to love with my aunt and uncle. They are the only parents I know. I met my real mother when I was 25 years old. She introduced herself to me for the first time on the day of the lady who I thought was my mother funereal. She left the...
    holloway64 holloway64 46-50, M 1 Response Sep 1

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    Well, not as big of the issue

    that some people have with their mother but my mother isn't very understanding.
    sashakimi4 sashakimi4 16-17, F 2 Responses Jun 10

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    I Wish

    I wish I could communicate with my mother. Every time I try to share something with her she always has reasons why its my fault. I wish she would just listen without judging. I have been having a difficult time recently. As a result I've been depressed and having trouble...
    VioletUtopia VioletUtopia 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2013

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    My mother likes to make small mean comments to

    me that makes my self esteem go down. But I think it's just a mother thing I don't get.
    Traviesaal Traviesaal 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 1

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    I once told myself that

    if I'm gonna have a family of my own, I will never be like my mother. I must admit, I envy mothers who are close to their children. In my case, my mother has never become a mom to us. She prioritize other people than her own family. She is more concern about her sisters & nieces...
    SweetEclair SweetEclair 31-35, F 5 Responses Aug 1

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    Acts More Childish Than Grown Up - My mother

    is one woman who doesn't know the meaning of the word 'calm', even if she did - she would probably just forget about it and go on one of those insane tirades about whatever it is that is ticking her off acting like a Large Ham and yelling so loudly it could wake the dead. I...
    Monstermaster13 Monstermaster13 22-25, M Jun 10

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