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I Have Issues With My Mother

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    Where Do I Start...

    How do you sum up the most frustrating relationship in the world. I guess at the beginning. My mother has never been happy in her life. I can understand where some of her issues come from because my grandma was alchoholic the whole time she was growing up and my grandpa wasn't...
    thehoodedartist thehoodedartist 26-30, F 10 Responses Jun 20, 2009

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    Mother And Daughter Differences

    Every since I was 17 my Mother and I have completely butted heads and not got along. I'm 38 years old now and she just left 4 days early to fly back to her home state because we had another blow out. My mother is a martyr and always plays the victim. All my childhood my Father...
    MelIsAMess MelIsAMess 36-40, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2013

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    Mother.

    As I grew up I knew you as The woman who loved Church Who made no time or had no time to live life the way that she should have I knew you as the woman who demanded that I go to church and based my worth for that entire week If I did or did not go I knew you as a woman who hated...
    Mirabal19 Mirabal19 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 18, 2013

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    Seriously, Just Stop.

    my mum is like night and and day, she's so nice and caring sometimes and the next, a monster. it's like she was never there the real her. she tells me things to do and when i do them, she is never EVER satisfied with the results. i tell her to stop telling me to everything if she...
    CuriousIronButterfly CuriousIronButterfly 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 30, 2013

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    I'm About To Scream

    Though me and my mom don't have that bad of a relationship with each other we do have some issues with each other she can act like such a child sometimes. Like if she wants to go somewhere like the mall or the city I'll sometimes tell her I don't feel like it so then she...
    Klong91 Klong91 22-25, F May 19, 2010

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    Mentally Retarded Mother?

    As a child, my siblings and I, lived alone with my mum (if you read my other story you'll see that my father left), which probably made my mother suffer. After suffering her divorce and having to bring up children alone, she seemed already weak, but with the years she gets more...
    Lavishedivygates Lavishedivygates 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 21, 2012

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    To Put It Nicely...

    I have issues with my mom. I long ago gave up any semblance of getting what I wanted from her, which was unconditional love and approval. But yes, I still have issues with her. I cannot change her. I can’t. I don’t want to. But I can work on myself. Work on this...
    kittysoftpaws kittysoftpaws 36-40, F 3 Responses Jan 17, 2013

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    I have been physically

    and emotionally abused by my mother my whole life, but yet I still find myself trying to please her or make her proud. I know for a fact she doesn't love me, she's never loved anyone, I mean she's a diagnosed psychopath, but I still love her and forgive her for all of the the...
    Rebeccaej Rebeccaej 13-15, F 12 Responses Jan 10

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    My Mom Acts Like I'm The One With The Problem...

    So many times, my mom has told me how terrible I am to her and that I don't treat her right at all. However, I just recalled a distant memory from when I was only three or four years old. I was in the grocery store with my mom. We were getting a hyacinth for Easter, and I was...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F Sep 13, 2013

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    Sick as a dog and my mom still yells at me,

    when will this madness end. I genuinely have no one and no one cares about me, not even when I'm sick :'(
    TheRouge TheRouge 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    She Expects Too Much.

    Somedays, we're fine. We can get along, joke around and love each other like mothers and daughters should. But on most not we,ut she is always in my hair. Telling me this, telling me that, nag nag nag. Sure I love my mom, but she has to give me some space! I'm normally a...
    xspamadvice xspamadvice 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 30, 2012

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    Not Good Enough

    My mother expects me to b her shadow,to like things she does & we couldn't b more different. I'm like my dad who my mother know I picked over her-he's dead now. He had 6other kids but I'm her only one. If she is not comparing me to herself then it's my perfect cousins who are...
    BrokenNayana BrokenNayana 22-25, F Jul 2, 2012

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    I have this issues that I

    even when don't want it to happen always happens. We fought a lot from one thing to the other and it seems like she always think I'm underestimating her and/or always think she's right and I'm wrong in one way or the other. I just think that after all these almost 19 years we...
    Mininyaa Mininyaa 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 9

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    Hadn't Talked To My Mother In 5 Years

    My mother got pregnant with me when she was 20, studying abroad in England. When I was young I wanted to know who my father was, but she told me that I didn't have a father, like Bambi. She started dating a guy when I was 6, and I kind of viewed him as a father, but I never...
    cosmicspeck cosmicspeck 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 16, 2011

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    My Mom Is Always Angry.

    From the moment she wakes up to the moment she goes to bed she is looking for an excuse to be angry. Every-single-little-thing is a problem to her, and she blames EVERYONE (Mostly me) for ALL of her perceived problems. Here's a prime example. My mom and dad got into a very...
    TheRelentlessOne TheRelentlessOne 18-21, M 8 Responses Oct 18, 2012

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    She abandoned me when i was eight years old.

    Because of her, i'm terrified of abandonment from every person i get close to. But i don't distance myself, because that's not me. I just get close to them and become paranoid.. And that relationship or friendship just doesn't work out. I know i need to find her in order to help...
    BrokenRecord101 BrokenRecord101 18-21, F Feb 28

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    We'll Probably Never Get Past It

    Every since I was a small child, there has been an invisible wall between me and my mother. It's a strange form of rejection, being cared for from a distance, but still living in the same house. I won't say why the rejection became apparent, because it's very personal to me, but...
    Infinite9 Infinite9 70+, F 5 Responses Jun 27, 2011

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    I have had a strained relationship with my mum

    since I was 11. I had a great childhood until then and she was a good mum. However we moved house far from my hometown and my dad got a better job. My mum used the new income to put me into a private school over 15 miles away from home in another city (unusual for the UK), even...
    steveburns04 steveburns04 22-25, M Jan 1

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    A week ago I saw on my mum's phone all of these

    dirty messages between her and someone she had listed as 'B'. I had suspected my mother of having some kind of flirty thing going on with several different men last year, but I never knew she'd take it this far. 'B' was reminiscing sneaking off with her and dirty little visits...
    hypomaniac hypomaniac 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 11

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    Ok... If it's me y'all have to tell me.

    I left my husband in 2009. It was terrible. I went to school, made something of myself. Was working at a hospital. I got involved with a severely abusive man... Maybe I was naive... I really don't know... Anyway, I stayed with him because he threatened to hurt my kids, burn...
    DeeDee32 DeeDee32 31-35 23 hrs ago

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    She's Pushing Me Away...

    My mother thinks we have such a great relationship, but if she knew half of the feelings I've kept to myself, she'd know differently. She seems to be dependent of me, and she is pushing me away. Sometimes it feels like she is smothering me. It seems like she doesn't think I have...
    animallover110293 animallover110293 18-21, F Apr 7, 2013

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    Mom Hates Me And Dad Doesn't Want To See Me

    My mom is very controlling. She would tell me where to go, what to do,what to wear, who to talk to. shes turning me into someone im not. I dont even know who I am anymore. I just want a normal life with a dad, a mom who knows what I feel, and siblings who are there for me. I come...
    ihatemylife2402 ihatemylife2402 16-17, F 1 Response Sep 26, 2013

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    She Is Lost

    I feel so bad for her, but seriously I can't be her emotional punching bag any longer. My mom is going through a lot, I totally understand that, I just wish she would not be so hateful and mean towards me. She has done this for years, but lately it's been so bad :(
    deleted deleted 26-30 6 Responses Mar 6, 2011

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    Ughhh She's At It Again

    I'm so Pi$$ed OFF right now. My mother just spent the better part of the evening AGAIN on the phone to the middle sister blabbling about me and my family. Am I crazy? Aren't mother's supposed to support their children fairly equally rather than forming alliances with one against...
    HeadHeldHigh HeadHeldHigh 46-50, F 1 Response May 20, 2011

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    My Mom Is My Own Enemy

    I love my mom, she has done so mucho for me. But it's just never enough for her. She is always making me feel like ****, like I'm the biggest crap in this world, like I'm never enough. She makes fun of me, she insults me, there's no way of ever making her happy. Even if I do...
    JadeSanctuary JadeSanctuary 22-25 Feb 2, 2013

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    My Mother Has Never Liked Me

    I remember reading the story "The Whipping Boy", and wondering how someone could treat a child so bad. Especially their own child. Years later I realized I was my mother's whipping child. I was always called names by both my parents but the difference between my dad and mom...
    Belle59 Belle59 56-60 2 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    My mother always yells at me

    whenever we have a conversation. She has the idea that I take drugs (which I don't) I have told my grandparents about this and they know she is wrong. She also forces me to cut my hair and facial hair (I want to grow it but whenever she sees any facial hair she shouts and...
    KieranDRobertson KieranDRobertson 16-17, M Apr 1

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    Ammi and Me

    Even now, as a 60 year old woman, I have problems with my Ammi (mother). Ammi was young when she had me, 15, similar to the age I was when I had my first daughter. although she was young, she was prepared for motherhood, unlike me. What she wasn't prepared for was motherhood with...
    rasia1 rasia1 56-60 1 Response Jan 7, 2013

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    She Is Mentally Killing Me

    I don't know what to do. She makes me miserable and makes me hate myself. Being with her for more than a minute means having to deal with her insults on my father or her criticism on everything about me. My dad chose to divorce her when I was starting out in 8th grade. I am now...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 13 Responses Jul 23, 2009

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    My Mom Is Driving My Crazy!

    My mom and I have always had a difficult relationship.  I try very hard to get along with her and she tries most of the time to get along with me.  We are very different from each other.  We have almost nothing in common.  But it's very important to have my mom in my life...
    greenpeople greenpeople 41-45 1 Response Feb 13, 2012

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    Well,actually, I disowned her a few years ago

    and she is in jail now. She was very verbally and emotionally abusive towards me and my siblings and also(sometimes)physically abusive. I wish I had a better person as a mom, but I became friends with an older lady that was a very good example the way she cared for her kids. She...
    caisymay caisymay 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    How can a woman, who gave birth to you

    and should treasure you, hate you so much ? My mother likes to leave me at Train Stations with no way home or stop on the side of the freeway and make me get out of the car just to yell at me. Yes I have brought this up in court but she denies everything and it causes me so...
    JmeSmith JmeSmith 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 28

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    I Have A Love/hate Relationship With My Mom

    I love my mother but she gets on me nerves....I had invited her to dinner on a Sunday, but something came up and she came by anyway...talking bout she can do what she wants because she is "grown" well Im grown too. Then we got into on the phone and I blocked her number out for a...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 2 Responses Nov 14, 2011

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    my mother is loving kind woman

    who whent through allot more than any human being should go through i will not say what over the internet or outside my own life. since i was a child my mother allways said i love you but it sound like a nice way to say get out of my face. when i was young my mother and i...
    curtdav92 curtdav92 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 12

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    Why Are You So Controlling?

    This is exactly how I feel- I'm tired of being what you want me to be.. Feeling so faithless, lost under the surface Don't know what you're expecting of me.. Put under the pressure of walking in your shoes.. Every step that I take is another mistake to you.. I've become so numb...
    starlit11 starlit11 22-25, F 5 Responses Sep 18, 2012

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    Before.

    We always had food on the table, clean clothes on our backs. We went to school looking tidy and presentable. We got made a fuss of on our birthdays and Christmas time, even though she didn't really like to celebrate because of her upbringing. She always told us she loved us and...
    AngelofPink AngelofPink 18-21, F 6 Responses Nov 10, 2013

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    I Think My Mom Doesn't Like Me

    Hey I'm 21, I'm the youngest of 5 kids, I have a sis and 3 brothers who my mom loves deeply and shows all kind of affection and attention to no matter how much they have screw up in the past, of all my brothers I could say I'm the most decent and respectful one, I've live my...
    cherrypie92 cherrypie92 18-21 2 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    From a very young age I've always been told to

    watch what I say to my mother. Not really allowed to have an opinion. She can talk to people however she likes but whenever anyone bites back at her, she is the victim and the other party is at fault. I'm so tired of trying to explain to her that she instigates things, but it...
    PrincessPhie PrincessPhie 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 29

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    My mum is always angry at me.

    No matter what I do or what I don’t do. During my teenage years, we often fought. Then at the age of nineteen, I left home for university. Since I left home, my relationship with my mum improved and I blamed all our previous conflicts on me being nothing more than a hormonal...
    Nikolala Nikolala 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 13

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    My Mom And I Haven't Gotten Along The Last 10 Years.

    the last  ten years of my life have been hard. i don't think my mom understood what i was going through. because for the first 17 years of my life, i had a hard time speaking clearly. up tell i was 5 i was the happiest child in the world. but i finally new i had to grow up. i...
    capricornlily capricornlily 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 17, 2011

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    I Don't Know How To Deal.

    The way my mother acts is confusing and tearing our family apart. Confusing for her children because as I have gotten older and as I been exposed to other families and people I begin to see how toxic our life has been. To me yelling, hitting, terrorising, bullying, manipulating...
    beautifulSTORM beautifulSTORM 18-21, F Aug 24, 2013

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    My mother lied to me my whole youth about

    who my father was. I was told my father was my mother’s first husband. Meanwhile my mother married my step father when I was just 20 months old. He was a good man, and the only man I ever called or concerned to be my father, but it was always silently know I was my mother’s...
    dwc294 dwc294 46-50, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    The relationship between me

    and my mom has been growing more and more difficult since I was about 18. When I was younger, she discouraged me from reaching too far academically and instead focused on making sure that I was asked to prom. She's told me that she was "jealous" of a basketball player's parents...
    roselemonade roselemonade 18-21, F Feb 25

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    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I grew up thinking that I wasn't good enough or worthy of a good family or true friends. I was alone, lonely, and self hatred had gotten to me. I need to be nurtured, cared for and listen too. I just never wanted to be accepting of that when I was young and in to my later teen...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    Sometimes I Just Want To Scream!

    I've been through hell the last year and a half. My husband had an affair and divorced me completely out of the blue. I was in and out of psych hospitals six times. I tries to commit suicide twice. I was diagnosed with severe depression, anxiety, and chronic suicidal thoughts...
    Ericanicole3 Ericanicole3 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 5, 2013

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    Too Early For The Drama....

    I have posted once before that my mother wasn't talking to me until her birthday came around. Now the friday before her birthday came she had called me but I was in clinical (im in nursing school) so I wasn't able to answer the phone. She left me a msg talking about she tried of...
    reene198321 reene198321 26-30, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2011

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    Still Not The Victim

    Shut up SHUT UP Because I'm allowed to feel whichever way I want There is no excuse for anything that happened No way to validate ABUSE Because that's what it was ABUSE It was ugly and cruel and wrong I shouldn't have to defend myself Being told, "that's just the way she...
    iloveedward iloveedward 18-21, F 5 Responses May 8, 2013

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    I Wish

    I wish I could communicate with my mother. Every time I try to share something with her she always has reasons why its my fault. I wish she would just listen without judging. I have been having a difficult time recently. As a result I've been depressed and having trouble...
    VioletUtopia VioletUtopia 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26, 2013

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    Today is my birthday.

    I called my parents on skype. Instead of wishing me happy birthday my mother asked me why did I delete her post on my wall on facebook. I said I didn't delete anything. She kept asking why I did this. I kept saying I have no idea what she was talking about. I didn't even see her...
    diablicaca diablicaca 26-30, F 1 Response Jan 3

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    I Sometimes Feel Like A Mistake.

    My mother makes me feel like a mistake. She never wants to spend time with me, she'd rather spend her time with her fiance. I don't believe that she loves me. She had me when she was in college and my dad was a little abusive. She had to be a single mother until I was about 3...
    CowgirlBebop CowgirlBebop 18-21, F Mar 22, 2012

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    Negative Mother

    My mother is very negative. I can't disagree with her or she will get very angry. Even if it is about things that are not that important. Yet she can say whatever she wants and she is right. Usually, I don't disagree with her because I know this causes issues but she keeps...
    Thursday2013 Thursday2013 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 7, 2013

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    I Have Issues With My Mother

    i find that my Mom has an attitude problem.Shes quite controlling and aggressive.Its like she is always looking for an argument.. she has no ettiquette she can be quite nasty and bad tempered. she says like well its her house her rules , i suffer from quite bad depression living...
    defoekeane defoekeane 36-40, M 3 Responses Sep 17, 2013

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    I'll start this off with some background:

    My mother grew up the youngest of three sisters, in a tiny house in the bay area. Her dad (my grandpa) walked out on them before she was born, leaving her mom (my grandma) alone to raise 3 girls. My mom never knew her dad until she met him when she was in her 20's. My grandma...
    cassidysc cassidysc 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    Her Love Hurts More Than Here Hate...

    I know that the abuse I suffered at her hand and will as a child, is no longer an issue as an adult, but the pain from the past never seems to go away. My mom did all the usual horrible things to me; hit me, neglected me, mind games, told me she hated me, that I was horrible and...
    brokenandlost brokenandlost 41-45, F Sep 13, 2013

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    Jade Corine Fin

    Over a span of 18 years my mother has broken me down and turned me into a frail shell void of any sense of humanity. Its astonishing that a woman could just hand over her two and a half year old daughter to the child grandmother, letting her raise her and be the only figure in...
    aliceXIONU aliceXIONU 18-21, F Aug 2, 2011

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    My mom and I are the complete opposite.

    I MEAN THE COMPLETE OPPOSITE. We have different point of views and everything. I would honestly say that we have an argument more than two times a day. It's stressful and annoying as you can imagine but one day everything will be better. No more drama or bullshit with my mom.
    allytoledodiaz allytoledodiaz 13-15, F Mar 29

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