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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 40 People

    An open letter to my abusive husband: To a

    man I know no longer: It's been three weeks since I walked out the door. Three years. and then...nothing. I still remember so vividly the last moment with you. You were in my face, telling me I should kill myself and the world could do without. Then, I knew. Enough is enough. I...
    emorgan11891 emorgan11891 22-25, F Jan 30

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Day 7 I've been gone a week

    and I'm finally ready to let him go. He can move on my head is straight my feelings are clear I understand my wants my needs. I'm feeling free, I can talk about it and I don't break down or fill up. I hurt but it doesn't make me question what I'm doing anymore. I'm ready for a...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 3 Responses May 3

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    I am in a sexless marriage. Yes, its my fault. Despite mutliple opportunities to act, instead I let fear and anxiety rule the day (I am now addressing long term depression issues...
    AnnesHusband AnnesHusband 46-50 13 mins ago

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    I have seen slender man up close I was in the bathroom looking in the mirror when I got this uneasy feeling I tried to ignore it but the feeling got worse and so I decided...
    bioshock22 bioshock22 31-35, F 24 mins ago

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    here i m again.. as the day ends i have a new scar on my body that holds a story with no words but emotions that no one understand... i m sure that after few days i there will be...
    mannankaur3 mannankaur3 18-21, M 3 hrs ago

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    I just came back from a dinner with my boyfriends family and friends and felt sad coming back. The thoughts I had was I envied my boyfriend for having family stability and wished...
    montgomery1984 montgomery1984 31-35, F 5 hrs ago

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    that stupid senseless girl in my class ..she brings irritation with every single move of hers...there was time when i loved her for her innocence ...my best friend..but that...
    Ahaanaa Ahaanaa 13-15, F 1 Response 6 hrs ago

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    When I was 12 years old, I told my mother and my cousin that when I grew up I wanted to be a stay at home mom and didn't want to go to college. My cousin told me that "no one...
    hunnycakes009 hunnycakes009 18-21, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    OMG I'm just going to say it all at once. 1st mechanical pencil graphite 3rd grade-ish saying just because of the scar. 2nd pitch fork through my left foot 3rd stepped on mason...
    Lhokw Lhokw 18-21, F 7 hrs ago

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    Last night ever to the kfc buffet wen I left my shorts were unbuttoned and my belt 2 notches bigger. What a good night
    chubbyhubby250 chubbyhubby250 31-35, M 1 Response 8 hrs ago

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    I think that there should be a country for left handed people! What do you think?
    SupermanMike SupermanMike 13-15, M 11 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I belong to a country where unfortunately caste still is everything. Your love has no meaning if your castes are not the same, your commitment has no value if you don't belong to...
    dela123 dela123 22-25, F 11 hrs ago

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    its gone from being only in my left (the ear I dameged) to being in my right to... WHY why why :'( I just want this all to end
    BabyNeko BabyNeko 18-21, F 1 Response 13 hrs ago

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    ****VERY LONG DEscriptION****I've never told anyone about this before and it's one of my darkest secrets. But I have 3 alters that make up "me." They don't have names so I gave...
    Ikebanna69 Ikebanna69 16-17, F 14 hrs ago

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    Because of my abusive relationships, I've learned not to trust people, especially men. My first boyfriend was into bondage, which if I had been more experienced with relationships...
    al13ngr33n al13ngr33n 31-35, F 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    Attn: Dark Cloud You move when I move and hover when I stop At times I've tried to walk, roll, fly away from you But no mattter where I go, how far I fly away you always catch...
    lostthoughtz lostthoughtz 22-25 3 days ago

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    I don't always feel alone in my marriage, but at the moment and numerous other times I do feel alone. I suffer from PTSD, and my wife and I both have anxiety and depression issues...
    Frankenzombie Frankenzombie 36-40, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    Hi Folks Well, in 2009 while working to try and get through a work-related (and marriage-related, although unbeknownst to me at the time) burnout, I wrote my fist post on...
    Mrcellophane Mrcellophane 36-40, M 1 Response 4 days ago

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    Back in the 90's I went to Israel with a church group. We went to Bethlehem, the Sea of Galilee, the Dead Sea, Jericho and Jerusalem. My favorite place was the western wall. What...
    amazingdream amazingdream 46-50, F 4 days ago

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    Ugh! Like seriously it's been so long.. He never wants to have sex with me anymore because he says he's too tired and we've had sex a lot in the past. Every time he has ever wanted...
    katie1123 katie1123 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    Need to vent: Other than my younger brother's wedding the beginning of July, I've been NC with my NM and older GC brother and his wife since Sept. 1, 2014. I just went cold turkey...
    zeeva70 zeeva70 41-45, F 5 days ago

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    My skin is beginning to clear up but it still makes me panic-what will I do if I can't find anything to pick at? If I'm brutally honest, I'll stop washing my hands and face (except...
    thelastflower thelastflower 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So we've been going to counseling, mostly for his issues with his job. He keeps telling me it's the horrible situation at work at has killed his libido and caused him ED, so I've...
    secretlysidhe secretlysidhe 31-35, F 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    This year will be our 11th year together as a family. She was abused by her previous owners, came into my back yard when I was 10yrs old and never left. I'm 21 now and I don't...
    XxLionHeartxX XxLionHeartxX 18-21 5 Responses a week ago

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    I have been married for almost 11 years. It is a long read...sorry We got married when he was 19 I was 18. I got pregnant before we were married. We only dated 6 months. I took my...
    redrubiess7 redrubiess7 26-30, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I have an abusive father and I feel like committing suicide. Excuse this wall of text, if anyone has advice on what I should do, please go right ahead. 2012: My...
    SadBeep SadBeep 16-17, M 2 Responses Aug 20

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    I have been struggling with sexless marriage for years. Recently, I have been telling my husband to separate because I really don’t want to stuck on something is not going to...
    AwesomeLucy AwesomeLucy 31-35, F 10 Responses Aug 19

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    My best friend is getting married this December and she has just gone through the wedding course. I am blessed that I've been with her from the beginning, in fact, I'm the one that...
    teeekilicious18 teeekilicious18 18-21, F Aug 19

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    With my mother. Having extricated myself from that relationship and Drawn some healthy boundaries, I am beginning to look at other relationships differently. For one, my...
    notsocomplex notsocomplex 31-35, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    For years I have been writing about my horrible and scary marriage. I have finally left him a few months ago.The big event that finally made me leave is? The last argument we had...
    Mikkimacoroni Mikkimacoroni 31-35, F Aug 18

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    I am a married woman. My husband and I have been seeing a woman and having a relationship with her. I made one rule for this relationship and that was that there was to be no sex...
    Amy8274 Amy8274 31-35 Aug 17

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    I have a father who has an extremely short temper. I have been hit so bad when I was younger that I would get bruises everywhere except for my face coz he knew people would see...
    Basma1 Basma1 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 17

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    Why do people have affairs?All marriages need to be worked on.It is just that some are too messed up to work on it and seek pleasure outside.It is like a drug.They love the instant...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 16 Responses Aug 16