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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F Nov 7, 2013

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I recently got a divorce. My ex was emotionally abusive and nothing I did made him happy. He actually wanted the divorce but for some reason still finds it necessary to be cruel...
    ktc1575 ktc1575 46-50, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I have a worst father in the world. He is such a loser. In spite of so much of knowledge , he couldn't do anything in his career. He himself don't value his parents and deserted...
    TrueLoverN TrueLoverN 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    So my mother has officially stated she doesn't like me. And that I'm to have nothing to do with my siblings. Yet she's still managing to ruin my life. My plans, my emotions, my...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I've done this a couple of times. When I logged into my account today, after having been gone for a very long time, EP-standard-time anyway, I was amazed to still have any friends...
    Aurinne Aurinne 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 15

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    Sometimes it gets so bad with my mom I start crying and I can't stop, no matter what I do. I know she's struggling with her bi-polar right now but it's not an ******* pass either...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F Aug 11

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    Just because I flirt a little bit doesn't mean I am not happy. I'm actually crazy happy, and part of that happiness comes from the fact that he's OK with how I behave - and trusts...
    pinkcorsetgirl pinkcorsetgirl 41-45, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    Well, part of it. I'm still working on the rest. Needless to say, the remaining part is an affaire de coeur.
    FryMorgan FryMorgan 22-25, M Aug 19

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    I've quit a few experience groups because I didn't notice they were misspelled at first and joined the correct spelling. However, it seems that frequently when I take a second look...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M 3 days ago

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    7.2.11 I met my ex boyfriend, "S". I thought he was so cute & funny & sweet. He lived in FL, I lived in NJ. I was only 13, & he was 14. We met online, & eventually gave each other...
    njgirll njgirll 16-17, F Jul 27

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    I'm tired of crying all the time. I'm tired of my kids seeing me cry. I'm in a situation where I'm in a abusive relationship but he doesn't see it as such. He feels since he doesn...
    Mjkittycass1985 Mjkittycass1985 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    Moving on: I am packing up my office and my home this week. I am moving out of state and starting a new job. ( I have posted part of this update a little earlier.) But a posting...
    katzlaw katzlaw 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 7

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    Broken Home - I'm intrigued by a recent post from LaoTzu about the definition of a "broken home". Many of us have stayed in our dysfunctional marriages and opted not to divorce...
    CherishMe2 CherishMe2 51-55, F 12 Responses Aug 18

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheDreamyWoman TheDreamyWoman 36-40, F 24 Responses Jul 27

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M Jul 29

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 24 Responses Jul 29

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    Maybe someone can help.....About 10 years ago I had a spell that knocked me off my feet for 4 days.....migraine headache, severe fatigue, tired body, chills, severe brain fog...
    RDlynnette RDlynnette 51-55, F Jul 29

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 11 Responses Jul 30

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    The Finish Line … I left my marriage of 13 years a year ago this month. Legally, I am separated and in the process of finalizing the divorce. Emotionally, the last 12 months...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 7 Responses Aug 18

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    Well, I went on one date, so I guess that counts. Just the other night, a month after I left my marriage. The friend of a friend that had noticed me in circles previously and heard...
    birdie39 birdie39 41-45, F 11 Responses Aug 4

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    DONE as opposed to done. It kind of went like this. On holiday I was putting my stuff into 'my' room, we have not shared beds in years due to the SM and her crazy crap, that's...
    Endthegame Endthegame 41-45, M 28 Responses Aug 15

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    I plan to tell my H that I want a divorce around the date of our anniversary. (Aug 16) He is still unaware of me knowing about his affair that has left our marriage sexless for the...
    SarahAnn46 SarahAnn46 36-40, F 22 Responses Aug 7

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    I've been married for 5 years now and I need out because I feel BORED and I have lost attraction for my husband... He is always broke and never has money to help out..always asking...
    voguetouch voguetouch 26-30, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I was diagnosed with conversion disorder last November, and ever since then I still have no idea what to do about it. It's slowly been progressing since the sixth grade, and this...
    IvyBabbitt IvyBabbitt 13-15, F 3 Responses 4 hrs ago

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    “When you love people and have the desire to make a profound, positive impact upon the world, then you will have accomplished the meaning to live.” — Sasha Azevedo The...
    tastyfrzz tastyfrzz 46-50 1 Response a week ago

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    I was diagnosed about 5 years ago after attempting suicide. I went through DBT therapy and worked hard to "fix" myself. I manage life so much better now. It doesn't even feel like...
    jennaporter jennaporter 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 2

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    I've been married for almost one year and we've fought before the marriage and after marriage countless times. We've spent 8 years together and the last 5 years was amazing and now...
    qoep qoep 26-30, F 6 Responses Aug 4

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 15 Responses Aug 13

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 27

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 27

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    I know the feeling, well I shared my story on the other page but I would very glad to shared it on this forum. I have been in marriage for 5 years and last time my husband and I...
    MsLucky MsLucky 22-25, F 3 Responses Aug 4

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    "I don't like me. I also, despite my outward persona, think I am the most important to ever breathe air." I read this on a blog. It resonated with me, maybe it will resonate...
    jmx46578 jmx46578 36-40, F 10 Responses Aug 6

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    My wife and I love each other but we have not been physically intimate in five years. It began when my wife gave birth to our only son. She had preeclampsia and was very ill; our...
    AshInOakland AshInOakland 41-45, M 4 Responses Aug 13

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    Hi! I'm an area Seattle photographer who loves to bring out the entertaining and wonder in people. I have been a marriage and portrait photographer for more than five years...
    Michael749y5lj9 Michael749y5lj9 31-35, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    I don't regret my decision to have sex before marriage. I was 17 and he was 19. It wasn't with the ideal person, and it wasn't great either, but I changed from that experience.
    thoughtfulgirl thoughtfulgirl 18-21, F 5 Responses 18 hrs ago

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 27

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M Jul 27