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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F Nov 7, 2013

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Related Experiences

    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I cheated on my husband, then i left him. He was mean, and I'm tired of repeating the details, but by mean I intend to say that he fits into many of the descriptors of an...
    Regrets472 Regrets472 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 21

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    I had a arrange marriage…the very next day mil takes away my gold jewellery worth more than 12 lakhs (without my permission) and keeps it in her locker. I stay mum..n when I ask...
    srinivasleela84 srinivasleela84 26-30, F Jul 7

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    My husband has become extremely self absorbed over time. He's always been a little selfish and it seems to ebb and flow, but the last few months it's become exponential. Everything...
    lovebeingmama lovebeingmama 26-30, F 1 Response Jul 14

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    I'm 20. I'm about to be a senior in college and for as long as I can remember I have been dealing with verbal and emotional abuse from my father. He makes me feel like I am...
    thatgirlangie thatgirlangie 18-21, F Jul 1

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    It's hard to stay in a positive mindset when everything around me is crumbling. All I have going good right now is my job, my school and my 2.5 year old daughter. The relationship...
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 13

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    I am recovering from Left Atrial Myxoma surgery on May 6. It is a long process. I had no clue what the recovery process would be like. I was a fairly active 61 year old female...
    fransusand fransusand 41-45, F Jul 14

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    Huhuhu I have my email to a friend who was leaving however he never messaged me on it :( now he's gone forever:((((((((
    redroseofgrace redroseofgrace 18-21, F Jul 2

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    Last night my mom kept calling me fat, and saying that if I didn't become nicer and more submissive that I'll never get married. Way to go, mom. I feel super great about myself...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F Jul 15

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    He doesn't abuse me but he abuses my dog. He throws cups of water at her for no reason and slaps her and kicks her. I don't see it but I hear it and he denies it. Just now my dad...
    pikachuux pikachuux 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    To long I was in the trap of a abusive marriage. Everyday waking up trying to convince myself it was the "right" thing to do by staying. To keep my family together. Everyday his...
    Happythoughts7771 Happythoughts7771 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 2

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    In 2003 I fled a abusive marriage with nothing but the clothes on my and my children's backs. To make matters worse we were abroad and I basically didn't exist to the system. For...
    IStillGotIt IStillGotIt 41-45, F 3 Responses Jul 7

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    7.2.11 I met my ex boyfriend, "S". I thought he was so cute & funny & sweet. He lived in FL, I lived in NJ. I was only 13, & he was 14. We met online, & eventually gave each other...
    njgirll njgirll 16-17, F 4 days ago

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    We had been discussing the possibility of separating for about 4 months. Things were becoming strained between us. We were growing distant and I kept trying so hard to bridge the...
    Navylove19 Navylove19 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    About three weeks ago, I posted about my resolution to end my marriage. I've been constantly thinking during these weeks of the next steps and I've decided to give things time and...
    TheWeepingWoman TheWeepingWoman 36-40, F 23 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 1 day ago

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    I have been a member of this forum for nearly two years now. During this time, I have gone through the most challenging experience of my life –a divorce from my wife of nearly 3...
    Buroak Buroak 51-55, M 21 Responses 1 day ago

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    Maybe someone can help.....About 10 years ago I had a spell that knocked me off my feet for 4 days.....migraine headache, severe fatigue, tired body, chills, severe brain fog...
    RDlynnette RDlynnette 51-55, F 1 day ago

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    Okay, so I was on here a few days ago and told a little about my situation and history. Most people were harsh and judgmental towards me when I admitted to being the one who...
    Nil0 Nil0 46-50, F 11 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Ok, so that first post wasn't so scary so why not a post two? I cannot begin to express how freeing it is just to have expressed it all. SM isn't something most people would want...
    justnanl justnanl 41-45, F 7 Responses Jul 1

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    I met him almost 18 months ago, it was lightening.. incredible chemistry immediately. I had never experienced anything like it in my life... I remember the day, I remember...
    Scorpionchild Scorpionchild 46-50, F 5 days ago

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    I've been in a sexless marriage/relationship for 14 years: all of my 30's and now into my mid-40's. It's a total mind-****. if it weren't for my drive to get pregnant, have kids...
    thruwithblue thruwithblue 41-45, F 11 Responses Jul 2

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    So sorry this is happening in your marriage. I as, the wife, am suffering the consequences of a sexless marriage. But I am here over 24 years... it's been going on for at least...
    mwmom mwmom 46-50 17 Responses Jul 4

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    Therapy session was awful tonight. I feel like we are going around the same mountain and getting no where. I voiced my feeling about that. I also said "I'm done." There's...
    coffeeflavoredkisses coffeeflavoredkisses 46-50, F 14 Responses Jul 1

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    I'm a woman married 35 years, totally sexless last 10, maybe monthly 10 years prior to that, and 2-3 x week early on. We now have no physical contact at all unless we accidentally...
    kdexter kdexter 56-60, F 19 Responses Jul 19

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    I just found this site this week, obviously because I am hurting. I have read a lot and learned a lot already. I really am in a " not sexually satisfied marriage" or a " I don...
    tddyd tddyd 51-55, M 10 Responses Jul 11

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    Don't get me wrong, I love and appreciate my wife, but the institution of marriage, the very idea that a man or woman can contract the other not only to financial obligations, but...
    frogchop frogchop 46-50, M 4 Responses Jul 14

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    I had sex with my boyfriend after almost two years together I knew it was right because it just happened out of no where and that's the best when things happen and are unexpected I...
    Personaljournal14 Personaljournal14 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 22

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    Hi, I've not been around on this board for a while but have recently started reading some posts again. Thank you for all the support you'd sent my way when I posted - I hope you...
    copperdoodle copperdoodle 41-45, F 10 Responses Jul 15

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    I grew up where men were men, stiff upper lip, never show emotions, it's weakness. This was beaten into me. And it was the same for the women (Siblings) never talk emotions, sweep...
    celtusa celtusa 46-50, M 10 Responses Jul 21

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    This is not infatuation, I've been infatuated before and this is completely different...I've been married 3 and 1/2 years and I love my husband though we have a rocky marriage...
    galaxyrea galaxyrea 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 1

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    Honestly, I feel like my life would be perfect if I had a bf and that bothers me. Why can't I just be happy with what I have? Why can't i go on without this missing piece? If boys...
    tonib123 tonib123 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    I'm actually a guy but I really need help learning to deal with my wonderful wife each month. It's bad. Very. Very. Baaaad. I don't know how to say it strongly enough. We have a...
    gman1616 gman1616 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    It's hard to not take a breakup personnally. It must be your fault right? If you were amazing they never would have left. But that's not true. Don't get me wrong I don't think I'm...
    NanaH2014 NanaH2014 22-25, F Jul 6

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    So many have left since I joined that I have lost count.I have met some nice prople here and some not so nice.I have tried to make a difference here but I have concluded that the...
    restored87 restored87 46-50, F 2 Responses Jul 19