I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 41 People

    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jul 13, 2012

    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb
    22-25
    5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman
    36-40, M
    4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn
    31-35, F
    1 Response Nov 7, 2013

    I miss the you who didn't yell.

    I miss our weekend routines, your blue eyes, your deep voice, your responsible ways, your punctuality... you were a rock, and I loved that about you. Now I'm far away in this new place where I don't know anyone, everything is new. The holidays are here, and that's the time for...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Dec 22, 2015

    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

    An open letter to my abusive husband: To a

    man I know no longer: It's been three weeks since I walked out the door. Three years. and then...nothing. I still remember so vividly the last moment with you. You were in my face, telling me I should kill myself and the world could do without. Then, I knew. Enough is enough. I...
    emorgan11891 emorgan11891
    22-25, F
    Jan 30, 2015

    Day 7 I've been gone a week

    and I'm finally ready to let him go. He can move on my head is straight my feelings are clear I understand my wants my needs. I'm feeling free, I can talk about it and I don't break down or fill up. I hurt but it doesn't make me question what I'm doing anymore. I'm ready for a...
    myownbox myownbox
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 3, 2015

    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme
    26-30, F
    2 Responses May 30, 2007

    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead
    36-40, F
    Nov 27, 2012

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