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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 33 People

    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    Related Experiences

    For 10 years I've suffered. Black eyes, bruises, scratches, hair pulled... you name it and I'll bet you dollars to donuts I have suffered it. My brother wasn't always this way. It...
    khushali11 khushali11 26-30, F Jan 13

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    my parents are not understanding. Ive been depressed for days and my mum doesn't do or say anything to even HELP me out as a person let alone a daughter coz she uses it as ammo to...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    I believe in making traditions with your partner in life. I cook with him. We have cooking experiments. We each take turns coming up with new recipes.
    SKDel SKDel 26-30, F Jan 6

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    My entire family and extended is LDS just like most of the town I live in and I don't think I can be this way anymore. I'm scared of losing members of my family. Things like my...
    missinvisible97 missinvisible97 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 10

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    I've been married for over 8 years. He's never been really nice to me, or anyone really, since that day. He swears he doesn't want a divorce but he's getting more and more cruel...
    BRC6814 BRC6814 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 28, 2014

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    My dad took my phone and tablet away from me and now i can't contact any of my friends to help with my anxiety. I got a bad grade and my teacher emailed him and he yelled at me...
    StillFlawless StillFlawless 13-15, F Jan 15

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    Now Im 27 YEARS OLD AND TOTALLY UNEXPERIENCED on how to live my life.
    thejoyprovider thejoyprovider 26-30, M Jan 12

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    India as you all might know is a country rich in culture and tradition. Arranged marriages happens to be a very integral part of this culture. I am 27 years old and got married in...
    femaleskeleton femaleskeleton 26-30 1 Response Jan 19

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    I can't WAIT until I can say 'I have left my abusive family' and done it on my own. I cannot WAIT. I CAN'T WAIT. That makes me so happy that I even have SOMETHING to look forward...
    Misscoconut Misscoconut 18-21, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    So I have been on a journey trying to quit my addictions. So far I have quit smoking cigarettes(weed is a different story). I have quit coffee(this was sooooo hard and still is...
    orcore orcore 36-40, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    I grew up in a home where I never felt short of love. My dad passed when I was younger so my mom showed my brother and me more love than I can put into words. She taught me that...
    Dolor1312 Dolor1312 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    Well I'm not going I say never but as of right now I don't feel like i need to get married in the future. Look I'm not in a serious relationship, do I want to be yes. I want to be...
    KateTheStraightedge KateTheStraightedge 16-17, F Jan 18

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    Im at my ropes end. Im a 29 year old divorced women with a beautiful son and a wonderful boyfriend. I am a hard worker and have been a successful parts manager at a car dealership...
    ChristieSunshine ChristieSunshine 26-30, F Jan 18

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    Well , yesterday we had our first joint counselling session. Beforehand I was very anxious. I had a knot in my stomach and a pain in my head. I wasn't sure if H would appear, but...
    2BlossomBlue 2BlossomBlue 51-55, F 26 Responses a week ago

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    Mom and dad are and it they are still in love after all those years. I want to have the same marriage with my boyfriend :)
    JillandMatt JillandMatt 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    The one person I was suppose to always save I didn't. I know don't know why I am here. I'm alive on the outside but dead on the inside. I died the day he died. My whole world...
    feelinglost84 feelinglost84 26-30, F 1 Response 6 days ago

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    Social media has been no cure. Granted I am young and some may view me as having "my whole life left to make friends", but let me tell you why this is not the case. 1. It is...
    Vicereine Vicereine 70+, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Only problem is my wife is having more luck finding partners then me. Seems like guys are just creepy when they say they have an open marriage. Any tips?
    odieo1234 odieo1234 41-45, M 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I hoped to hide my affair from my H. Didn't want him to think that my wanting to leave him had anything to do with the affair. But my H found out somehow and he's hurting bad. I...
    nolasanchez30 nolasanchez30 31-35, F 1 Response Dec 27, 2014

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    What does a smile say? As I go about my days I get lost in my solitude, and just enough to get me thinking for a while. Recently a question came about and I gave it my deepest and...
    joseiGuess joseiGuess 18-21, M Dec 31, 2014

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    I’ve been meditating for 3 years and have significantly reduced my anxiety. If you’ve always heard meditation could help but never really took the plunge, this is for you. My...
    TheMeditatingCat TheMeditatingCat 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 9

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    I think they should have lefts too. it would suck being so one sided.
    sevron sevron 22-25, M 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Looking into the mirror, a stranger looking back, she speaks to me with desperation....I am trying to hear her plea......"Just let me say - I have had enough, your hurtful and...
    SassyBabe39 SassyBabe39 41-45, F Jan 18

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    I have left friends when they needed me. At the time, I was grieving for the loss of my father. I was called selfish for not babysitting my friend's child so she could nap. (I was...
    tinywoman tinywoman 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 19

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    Help!!! I had lap band surgery Dec. 2013. I initially lost 21lbs but I have gained 4lbs back. For those that have lost and kept it off, how did you do it? I have never experienced...
    MzStrait MzStrait 36-40 1 day ago

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    Jesus will never be all you need, until Jesus is all you have left
    rox76 rox76 36-40, F 1 day ago

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    I'm warning you now that my experience is a book... I'm sharing because I want those who may be going through this right now to know that only one thing will make the relationship...
    DaylightDancer DaylightDancer 18-21, F 1 Response 9 hrs ago

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    That girl. She was tired of being treated like ****, getting put last. She was tired of the mental, emotional and physical abuse, she tried to get away physically but he would let...
    deadgirlsfairytale deadgirlsfairytale 26-30, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Hello everyone. I never wanted to resort to this, but I feel I am out of other options. Let me start from the beginning. When my mother, Dee, was 9, her father was shot in the head...
    NikkiNINTR NikkiNINTR 18-21, F 5 days ago

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    To help people to be more informed about Pakistan instead of listening to poverty and falling for any stories. Having been to Pakistan many times, I can safely say the below;- 1...
    Eridanus Eridanus 31-35 13 hrs ago

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    Since my anaesthetic several days ago, my brain has been going crazy especially when I sleep. I have so many dreams in a night, but this one was a special one when I had a nap. I...
    uggh uggh 22-25, F 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I have been in my prison sentence of a marriage way to long I have given everything I can think of for my marriage and nothing works I had a glimmer of hope yesterday evening...
    Virgo1981 Virgo1981 31-35, F 5 Responses 2 days ago

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    As I read different stories in the ILIASM forum I begin to wonder about the differences in marriages out there that are sexless or almost sexless. There can't be a cure all as...
    sundancesoul sundancesoul 46-50, F 1 Response 15 hrs ago

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    Last night I dreamed I was looking for someone. I had a bag full of stuff, and I reached in to find something to help me find him. I pulled out a bible and opened it at a random...
    RoyalCrystalPalace RoyalCrystalPalace 26-30, M 1 Response 17 hrs ago

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    I have been married 14 years to a man who is like a ticking time bomb.In those years he had been arrested 3 times for domestic battery and every time I forgave him. First time he...
    cruisebaby53 cruisebaby53 61-65, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    my husband is neglecting me and doesn't care about my pregnancy. I'm in his country and I'm helpless without him he doesn't take me to doctor and whatever I say he just ignore. I...
    dc0d3 dc0d3 26-30, F 2 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    I've always seen coworkers have affair after affair. So many "happily married" people having affairs with other "happily married" coworkers. I had a crush on one happily married...
    bongbabexo bongbabexo 31-35, F 19 hrs ago

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