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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 41 People

    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    An open letter to my abusive husband: To a

    man I know no longer: It's been three weeks since I walked out the door. Three years. and then...nothing. I still remember so vividly the last moment with you. You were in my face, telling me I should kill myself and the world could do without. Then, I knew. Enough is enough. I...
    emorgan11891 emorgan11891 22-25, F Jan 30, 2015

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    I miss the you who didn't yell.

    I miss our weekend routines, your blue eyes, your deep voice, your responsible ways, your punctuality... you were a rock, and I loved that about you. Now I'm far away in this new place where I don't know anyone, everything is new. The holidays are here, and that's the time for...
    Solfeggio Solfeggio 36-40, F 3 Responses Dec 22, 2015

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Day 7 I've been gone a week

    and I'm finally ready to let him go. He can move on my head is straight my feelings are clear I understand my wants my needs. I'm feeling free, I can talk about it and I don't break down or fill up. I hurt but it doesn't make me question what I'm doing anymore. I'm ready for a...
    myownbox myownbox 26-30, F 2 Responses May 3, 2015

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    He tells me he will call and doesn't? I try to text I tried to call I tried to email he doesn't answer then eventually he'll answer me and tell me when he's on call and he does...
    WVgirldiane WVgirldiane 56-60, F 1 Response 1 hr ago

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    I thought my fiancé and I were as safe as could be, I'm on birth control, he used a condom. The condom broke so we went out and bought plan b. I started cramping and bleeding and...
    fresh16 fresh16 18-21, F 5 hrs ago

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    my boyfriend left me yesterday for no reason he wants to be alone. sometimes he needed his moments of loneliness and I was okay with that but it's been days that he was thinking...
    cookie1654 cookie1654 22-25, F 2 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    So at the end of 2014 I found out that my best friend of 9 years and her bf plotted to use me for my money and my helpfulness. We had always talked about our future and things we...
    aquamoongoddess aquamoongoddess 22-25, F 1 Response 7 hrs ago

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    Especially if they're talking on their phones! I wish I had a phone 'signal jammer' thing whenever I get behind them or have to pass them on the right. After following a slow...
    Nipper66 Nipper66 46-50, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    OK, y'all were right. I was wrong. She was over for three days and her husband never got to "first base". That was bad, but the worst of it is that I tried (maybe half a dozen...
    BinaryBill BinaryBill 61-65, M 8 Responses 9 hrs ago

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    A little poetry I wrote: (by me) I remember what the grief was like when I left; it was as if someone had died. Perhaps it was just my kindled spark being blown out and erupting...
    kayla459 kayla459 18-21, F 1 Response 11 hrs ago

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    I'm feeling...numb, to be honest. I broke up with him, failed at going No Contact, spent two HORRIBLE months considering going back together and suffering from worse abuse than...
    womaninchains womaninchains 22-25, F 1 Response 12 hrs ago

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    GONNA KIDNAP HIM AND KEEP HIM IN MY ROOM FOREVER, LET EVERYONE THINKS HE JUST LEFT ,WHILE HE JUST LIVE HERE IN A CAGE AND I FEED HIM STICKS AND WATER, HE'D BE SO HAPPY!
    apperentlyicanthavemynameagain apperentlyicanthavemynameagain 22-25, F 3 Responses 15 hrs ago

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    Mine finally walked out on me, after I called the police over his threats to trash my travel trailer. He started out as a nice guy. He was pleasant, fun, and I really liked him...
    ToolshedCat ToolshedCat 26-30, F 1 day ago

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    Especially ,if you have an abusive spouse.I was watching a program on domestic violence last night.The wife had left but still her husband pursued her and hit her car with his and...
    whitesunshine87 whitesunshine87 51-55, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have been married 18 years. 2 Kids. Can count on both hands how many times we have had sex in the past decade. We've been to therapy twice. We have had hard conversations. I have...
    rustyblueday rustyblueday 46-50, F 7 Responses 5 days ago

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    Understanding why and how we let these people in our lives is the only way to break the chain of abuse. These behaviors are modeled for us by our parents and we follow suit, but...
    lexingtonjane lexingtonjane 31-35, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    So I don't get periods normally. Guess what she tried to do. When I was 17 she tried to massage me inappropriately when I was weak from psychiatric medication. Saying that it was...
    lostqueenofrain lostqueenofrain 22-25, F 5 days ago

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    All the crap i suffered during my childhood forced me to grow upto be mature to look after my self i feel mature more than many other people and definitel more mature than my 30...
    comlpicatedguy comlpicatedguy 18-21, M 2 Responses 6 days ago

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    I noticed the Gestures in the Whiteboard have been removed. Before I get to the point, I would like to explain. Ever since I joined this site in the beginning of 2014, EP has...
    moose73630 moose73630 16-17, M 7 Responses 6 days ago

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    The guy I was with recently dumped me and I realized that all the significant, romantic relationships I have been in have been abusive in some form. They've either flat out abused...
    terrywill15 terrywill15 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    My husband and I have had a terribly rocky last three years together. He's cycled, going from adoring me to blaming me; he's begged me to stay and he's insisted I leave. He's...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F a week ago

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    What life is it to come home to a very abusive father? What is the point of coming home when I don't want to live after he is through with his rage? When you cry yourself to sleep...
    Harper101 Harper101 18-21, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Please bear with me as this may be a long post. I started having severe anxiety issues during my first marriage . My ex thought I was cheating on him every time I left the...
    Elizabeth08021976 Elizabeth08021976 36-40, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    I just want to share. I joined this place after two years of struggles in my marriage. I have gone by various names in here : Thedarkenedshadow Dsop Some people have followed...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jan 27

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    I've never really talked about it except to people I'm closest to, so here goes nothin. When we started dating he treated me like I was precious and gave me attention i had never...
    SnowWhite87 SnowWhite87 26-30, F 4 Responses Jan 27

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    I have been through two abusive relationships, I am out now and safe. I want to tell everyone out there that no abuse is exceptable no matter if it's emotional physical or sexaul...
    chockywhockydoda chockywhockydoda 51-55, F 1 Response Jan 27

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    My husband and I have been married for almost four years, together for 10. We spent the first three years together without disagreeing or arguing even once. It was sheer bliss, I...
    TjbDetroit TjbDetroit 26-30, F Jan 26

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    After surviving a traumatic childhood, and 2 physically and emotionally abusive marriages, it is no wonder I have anxiety. I can fall asleep, but can not stay asleep. Night terrors...
    angelwings626 angelwings626 46-50, F Jan 26

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    She always tells me what to do also physically and emotionally abuses me frequently. She even read my diary and from that day she started to hit me more frequently
    Agugu Agugu 13-15, M 1 Response Jan 25

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    I have never left the United States! The farthest I've been from the Southeast is Colorado, on a road trip. My family has never had the expenses to go on one of those vacations to...
    Boulier Boulier 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 24

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    I need some advice please. A friend has been in a 20 year relationship (no kids, not married). Six of those years have been sexless and loveless. Lots of damage was done and now...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 23

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    So I was part of the sexless marriage group from 2008, I have now been divorced for almost a year. At the time I finally decided on a divorce he was seeing 8 other women, some...
    spiderb spiderb 36-40, F Jan 23

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