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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    dropdeadredhead dropdeadredhead 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F Nov 7, 2013

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    My mother is a narcissist. My dad is her faithful enabler. They have been married for 52 years and to this day he does what she says. My mother was never home growing up. When...
    pistacchia pistacchia 46-50, F 2 days ago

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    I recently got a divorce. My ex was emotionally abusive and nothing I did made him happy. He actually wanted the divorce but for some reason still finds it necessary to be cruel...
    ktc1575 ktc1575 51-55, F 1 Response Aug 21

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    So my mother has officially stated she doesn't like me. And that I'm to have nothing to do with my siblings. Yet she's still managing to ruin my life. My plans, my emotions, my...
    luna1912 luna1912 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    I don't have a mother. I haven't spoken to my mother in years. She's a heroin addict who, no matter what, never seems to get better. I just recently found out that my dad is no...
    amychristineee amychristineee 16-17, F 3 days ago

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    It's a bit random but it's 2am and I can't sleep so what the heck. My mum hit my sister hard enough to bleed and then a couple days later she put an iron to my stomach and pressed...
    GrrFace94 GrrFace94 18-21, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Well, it's hard to explain, but... have you ever posted honest stories about things you like that are "weird" (I refuse to define what I mean), and at first find it liberating to...
    YuriXWolfram86 YuriXWolfram86 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 4

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    I can't shake it, I can't fix it. My mother's taunting, manipulative and overly critical abuse throughout the years has caused a hindrance in healthy female friendships and...
    billabonggirl27 billabonggirl27 22-25, F Sep 1

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    I've quit a few experience groups because I didn't notice they were misspelled at first and joined the correct spelling. However, it seems that frequently when I take a second look...
    Faust76 Faust76 36-40, M Aug 24

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    This Aug. 21 advice column may be of interest to those staying in a miserable marriage "for the sake of the children." "DEAR AMY: I have been married for 15 years and have two...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 5 Responses Sep 8

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    Reflections in a Mountain Stream They sit on a rock. It's a comfortable rock. Kissed by the August sun until it's just warm to the touch. And it's big enough for two, if they...
    RealtaReoite RealtaReoite 51-55, M 6 Responses Aug 23

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    The road that has led each of us to the SM we find ourselves in is unique to each of us and in reading stories I can imagine that many people would wonder which came first, the...
    thescarletibis thescarletibis 41-45, F 7 Responses 3 hrs ago

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    For those with children who are thinking of divorcing or outsourcing, a word of caution. I won't go into my background as of now, how I grew up and how little I knew and understood...
    Harley53 Harley53 56-60, F 11 Responses 4 days ago

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    As is the case with many ILIASM folks in OppositeLand, my regret about my marriage is that I waited so long to divorce. "HuffPost Divorce readers share the biggest regret they...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 6 Responses Sep 3

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    Physically and mentally and emotionally as well and I've just gotten out of it and it ended very badly. On top of it all I could be expecting and I had sent him a picture of the...
    Mjkittycass1985 Mjkittycass1985 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    PaulDaleRoberts PaulDaleRoberts 51-55, M Sep 7

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    I've been married for 5 years now and I need out because I feel BORED and I have lost attraction for my husband... He is always broke and never has money to help out..always asking...
    voguetouch voguetouch 26-30, F 1 Response Aug 22

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    Yesterday we once again had a chat, I had to chip and chip at the hardened exterior of his, to try and talk. He opened up a little more than usual perhaps because I was getting...
    saxappeal saxappeal 46-50, F 9 Responses Sep 8

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    I left my marriage because the electricity and magnetism between us was so strong...it started 4 years ago and I just can't quit! He's totally "unacceptable" to my family and...
    ashleysuzanne127 ashleysuzanne127 46-50, F 1 Response Aug 30

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    I've finally very courageously laid all our problems out and asked him for separation. I let him know there's something wrong when you and I have not been intimate in over 4 years...
    Sobeit06 Sobeit06 36-40, F 15 Responses Sep 3

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    When I was innocent, I always told myself that I would never have sex until marriage but that changed. I changed. And because of that change, I began to do things I should have not...
    NaNaJene NaNaJene 16-17, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    Hi! I'm an area Seattle photographer who loves to bring out the entertaining and wonder in people. I have been a marriage and portrait photographer for more than five years...
    Michael749y5lj9 Michael749y5lj9 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 21

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    Has anyone ever fallen out of love with their spouse, and then was able to fall in love again and have a happy marriage?
    Amiramae Amiramae 22-25, F Aug 26

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    I don't regret my decision to have sex before marriage. I was 17 and he was 19. It wasn't with the ideal person, and it wasn't great either, but I changed from that experience.
    thoughtfulgirl thoughtfulgirl 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 27

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    I read something sad today from a friend who is now in a similar situation as i was this time last year and my heart goes out to her. As it was a time when i myself felt so very...
    lilreddress lilreddress 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 31

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    Sitting on the porch swing listening to the birds sing the only thing that’s missing is you, yea you So lonely on this old swing, wondering what it all means swinging on this...
    michael1971 michael1971 41-45, M Aug 23

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    Sunday will be one year since you left us. It is still so difficult to accept that you are gone. I have so many memories, I tear up when I think about them. My big sister, I...
    aaaagggghhhh aaaagggghhhh 36-40, F 1 Response Aug 28

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    Waiting for you, is it worth it? Loving you with all of my heart, you disappeared from me. Wanting you for a little chat, you refuse to say much. You want to erase me, I also want...
    Togepi07 Togepi07 18-21, F Aug 28

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    I have not been diagnosed as of yet, I am 47 and use to be a fairly healthy drinker, all tests are normal,but I can tell something is very wrong. Dull pain under right rib cage...
    skyriter88 skyriter88 46-50 Sep 10

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    .:: SYSTEM CRASH ::. The other night our system pretty much crashed. We managed to lock Missy away. (our extremely violent Alter who has tried to kill us) It was a horrible event...
    FullHotel FullHotel 13-15, F 2 Responses Sep 10

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    22th Feb.............. They broke into our house.... They pulled mom from her hair and I never dared to ask what they did to her in the other room...They waited for Dad to come...
    iwantutoo iwantutoo 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 11

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    I have problems with anxiety ever since I know about myself, and I'm currently having an identity crisis that's really severe. I've been to one psychotherapy already, it did help...
    Vrime Vrime 22-25, M 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I was diagnosed with conversion disorder last November, and ever since then I still have no idea what to do about it. It's slowly been progressing since the sixth grade, and this...
    IvyBabbitt IvyBabbitt 13-15, F 3 Responses Aug 27

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    I heard a distant boom coming from outside...then the power, all lights off. I'm writing here by candlelight and its oh so quiet. I can hear the sound of my typing and myself...
    bemyvalentine bemyvalentine 56-60, F 2 Responses Sep 5

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    I have always been left handed dominantly. I can do five things with my right hand dominantly or really good... wash dishes, brush my teeth, brush my hair, wash my hair and cut my...
    blossomingbeauti blossomingbeauti 36-40, F 32 mins ago

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    Well this is not something I shout off the mtn tops by any means but I guess I am here now and I have a lot of people in my circle and that I ma talking to more and more now so...
    snowbabe3 snowbabe3 22-25, F 3 Responses Sep 1

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    Hi all. I've been doing a lot of self reflection lately, and I know that my dysfunctional family and longing to be loved (and the bs from my life long refusers) has led me to...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 41-45, F 13 Responses Aug 21

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    I need to express this. I feel so alone and feel that I am going through all of the emotions at once dealing with this. I sometimes don't even know where to begin. But I pray that...
    FromJWtoJEW FromJWtoJEW 36-40, F 2 Responses Aug 29

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    An interesting true tale that illustrates what our children learn and how they may model their marriages on ours if we raise them in a dysfunctional marriage. While this describes...
    Mettamomma Mettamomma 61-65, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I am a newlywed (married 11 months) and have a beautiful one month old daughter with my husband. While I was a little overwhelmed with all the huge changes in my life (getting...
    aubz88 aubz88 26-30, F 1 hr ago