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I Have Left An Abusive Marriage

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    Iam So Sad, Pls Help Me To Move On

    i dont know from where to start my sad story ,well i got married at a very young age at 16 years old  i had my baby at 17 years old,my ex was very bad he use to treat me like animal ,like i have no right in this life i cant go out or have friends or study or anything i just had...
    zaineb zaineb 22-25 5 Responses Apr 12, 2012

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    Domestic Abuse And The Effects

    I was in an abusive marriage for 15 years, and I was finally able to leave about 4 mths ago.  I have 3 beautiful children due to this marriage, which is the only thing good that came from it.  I had wanted to leave many times, but was too afraid.  I kept the abuse...
    sjtruitt12 sjtruitt12 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 23, 2009

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    Its Been Over For a Year and a Half Now

     my husband wasnt physically  abusive .. it was all mental and it led me into a dark hole ...  i was hospitalized twice , developed anorexic traits and felt like i couldnt live without a man in my life .. talk about feeling completely worthless .. but now a yr and...
    starstruck2xtrme starstruck2xtrme 26-30, F 2 Responses May 30, 2007

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    Courage To Stay Strong

    I have been married for only 4 months, to whom I thought was the love of my life. We met in college and have been friends for 7 years. 3 out of the 7 years I had seen a bad side to him, his anger to rage. I kept normalizing his anger and lashing out out me, thinking its stress...
    sarahrpn sarahrpn 31-35, F Nov 7, 2013

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    I'll Try To Keep It Short

    Married for 14 years, 4 kids, military wife. He beat me down with so much emotional abuse I developed anorexia, lost 112 pounds in 7-8 months. Cheated on me for 8 years. I honestly had no idea. I took care of everything while he went to college and got his Masters. Immediately...
    cslaman cslaman 31-35, F 1 Response Jul 13, 2012

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    Some Of My Story And A Vent

    I was with my ex-husband for 16 years, married for 14. Everything was like a fairy tale until we got married. There were three weeks between our wedding and when we moved into our first apartment and it was within those three weeks that he first put his hands on me. I should have...
    hisbratforever hisbratforever 36-40, F Nov 27, 2012

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    Move My Things, I Move Out !

    I always had said that marriage meant 2 people would share the good and bad yet when I came home from work one day ; my things had been moved to another bedroom. I was told that it was to be a trial separation. My realization soon came that I must leave both spouse and home and...
    stupidog stupidog 46-50, M 2 Responses Oct 29, 2007

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    To Be Free

    I was married to an abusive husband for 18 years.  It is amazing how long you are willing to put up with something that is so wrong.  I did not even know it was abusive until the last couple of years, thanks to a friend.  When I realized that it was I asked my...
    frozen frozen 36-40, F 4 Responses Apr 18, 2007

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    My Ex-wife Used to Abuse Me

    I grew up knowing it was wrong to hit women. I have 4 older sisters. When my wife started beating on me I didn't know what to do. I was in the Navy at the time 22 years old. Over 700 miles from home. I lived like that for 2 1/2 years. Thats was long enough for me. People don't...
    HospitalCorpsman HospitalCorpsman 36-40, M 4 Responses Jul 17, 2008

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    Related Experiences

    My brother has been abusive for years. Physically and verbally abusive. If something doesn't go his way, he beats my younger brother, my mom and myself. Today he lost it because...
    tobegladoflife tobegladoflife 26-30, F Mar 31

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    I'm new to this but decided to go ahead and post my experience. I met my husband when I was 12 years old and at age 15 he took my virginity away. I hung out with him in my early 2...
    Nerilynn Nerilynn 31-35 2 Responses Mar 29

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    What do I do. My marriage is broken my husband doesn't want to talk to me. All because we don't know how to communicate with each other. We fight all the time is crazy but I don't...
    BrittTHart BrittTHart 26-30, F 2 Responses Apr 13

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    "Experience is simply the name we give our mistakes." - Oscar Wilde In that case I have some really good experience. But that's in the past and I want to keep it there. But what...
    insanitycuresboredom insanitycuresboredom 22-25, F Mar 28

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    i was on ep before but i got tired of all the drama, so i closed my old profile and opened this new one so i can have a fresh start.
    GaveMyHeart2Luke GaveMyHeart2Luke 16-17, M 1 Response Apr 11

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    Argh I'm sick of having to hide the fact I'm a smoker. I'm of age, can buy them, but whenever I do- my mum who's a smoker too takes them off me. Telling me I'm stupid and...
    bethytie bethytie 16-17, F Apr 4

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    As I type this tonight, I find myself wishing I could turn back the clock and yet i realize that we are all here in this moment for a reason. From me writing this to you reading...
    PeterBGood PeterBGood 36-40, M 1 Response Apr 5

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    I guess "troubled" is the best way to describe it. I used to think nothing could come between us. My husband's been in and out of part-time, dead-end jobs for ten years. Most...
    FakeIsTheNewReal FakeIsTheNewReal 31-35, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    I have found my true Soulmate đź’• He is The most incredible , kind, caring and we have that unconditional special love for each other that I never thought seemed possible would...
    Crystalbright Crystalbright 41-45, F 2 Responses Apr 4

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    Talking Points - To get agreement to separate Now I have to solicit advice from those here on ILIASM that have successfully left their marriages with no fight, no rancor, but...
    EinEngel EinEngel 46-50, F 17 Responses Apr 11

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    Before and After … Nearing 8 months after my separation, I reflect on the emotional desert I have called my marriage. During those years, I was starved for a smile or a hug. A...
    SleeplessKnight SleeplessKnight 41-45, M 11 Responses Apr 6

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    Normal.... There are many stories on here about after leaving marriages and having normal relationships. Well I haven't left my marriage yet. I have talked to a lawyer and...
    jencpa jencpa 31-35, F 12 Responses Apr 11

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    My father has not been around much throughout my entire life. I am currently 24 years old and almost turning 25 in less then a week. He over criticizes me and compares me to my...
    jezebelx jezebelx 22-25, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I can't believe it. Over two years and a half years gone....And, let me tell you I have had more sex in these past two years then the twelve years of that relationship combined...
    rosedl rosedl 41-45, F Mar 26

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    And so sxe had been a once in one or two mths affair or the past year. Yesterday it was hubby's birthday, so i booked a room in a luxurious hotel. But our clingy was clingy to me...
    lonelyhumanbeing lonelyhumanbeing 26-30, F 12 Responses Apr 6

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    I have been married for 8 years. The sex was just alright in the first couple of years and then basically dwindled off into never ever land. I thought I could accept her lack of...
    ll2live ll2live 41-45 8 Responses Apr 7

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    Three and a half years ago, I married my third husband. I moved from the city to the country, which was a huge adjustment. The hardest things for me: 1. I feel isolated. I haven...
    feenixrising feenixrising 46-50, F 1 Response Apr 12

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    the reasons why i dont want to do anything sexual before marriage : reason number 1 : what if i had sex with my girl friend before marriage , and after few days i met with...
    lifetriangle lifetriangle 22-25, M 7 Responses Apr 15

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    For those of you that have left your SM's, I pose a question: Was the pain initiated with divorce greater than what you experienced during your SM? I ask this because my H and I...
    tresses tresses 36-40, F 38 Responses Mar 27

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    I am a married man who is married to a wonderful woman. However she has recently told me that she wants nothing to do with sex ever again. It has been over 15 months since we have...
    Hingeman Hingeman 26-30, M 24 Responses Apr 14

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    As I have posted before, our problem is not one of refusal. If it were I would have left long ago. My hubby has ED,so is just not able,but WILLING.....(sigh). I have no problem...
    StarKat StarKat 41-45 10 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's over. All would be so much easier if I weren't so emotional about my own life. Unfortunately, when you are in a marriage that lacks love, and all that entails, you simply have...
    pointbreakgirl pointbreakgirl 36-40, F 24 Responses 4 days ago

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    I love the fact that we have a open marriage. We have been married for 19 years and open for about 5 years if you count some 3somes we had it is a lot longer then 5 more like 12. I...
    shakeydays shakeydays 41-45, M 1 Response Apr 1

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    Seriously need advice :(....Soo I'm new at this... I'm 23 years old.. Got married really young, have 2 babies, one of which was born this year. I've been married for 5 years. My...
    missme90 missme90 22-25, F 11 Responses a week ago

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    I am an extremely high functioning psychopath and no one knows what that actually means. I hate when people use the term sociopath and psychopath synonymously. A psychopath has...
    Siarnaq Siarnaq 16-17, M 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I have started living a selfless life. My son only has me and my husband (as a father figure) with whome I have a sexless marriage. The rest of his immediate family hv passed away...
    Mamta123 Mamta123 41-45, F 13 Responses 3 days ago

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    I have had an experience where somebody who I loved decided to have an arranged marriage. If there is anyone who has had a similar experience or going through this, and wishes to...
    wishfulsoul wishfulsoul 31-35, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F Apr 13

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    I was depressed all the time a mother of toe and one on the way I felt lost I had a home And husband a car a boat a family.. No reason I know now to be depressed I lost my 7 month...
    laceykight laceykight 26-30, F 1 Response Apr 13

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    I used to have facebook and linkin accounts but I decided to delete them for good today. I have troubled my facebook friends with my misery of being unemployed for the past few...
    eggheadincmu eggheadincmu 41-45, M Apr 7

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    Dear 'Mom' , I'm sorry that I am not the perfect daughter you expected me to be. I know you say that if maybe if I were skinnier and looked better that maybe my dad wouldn't have...
    bulimicbixtch49 bulimicbixtch49 13-15, F 3 Responses Apr 8

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    Reading these stories lets me know I'm not alone. When I met my fiancé he was just getting out of a seven year relationship I thought it was odd that she moved out with 2 kids in...
    Walkedinblind Walkedinblind 31-35, F 1 Response Apr 10

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    Honestly I don't have any. All my friends have left me ..
    sammylynn333 sammylynn333 16-17, F 4 Responses Mar 26

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    I have a addiction to cokes I had 60$ for about a week know I only have left is 20 something all from cokes
    funnygirl32226 funnygirl32226 13-15, F Mar 27

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