I Have Limerence

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    Younger women dating older men mainly

    because younger women are attracted older men. older men mature, confident, stable .Mature guys always know how to treat their women.These younger women are looking for their age gap love romance.For older men, Younger women older men relationships will surely make an older man...
    vanessacc11 vanessacc11
    26-30, F
    Jan 4, 2015

    Chronically. I feel like it's been a drug

    that I can't get off of. I am always crushing on someone. Celebrities, unavailable people (men and women), people who are not my type, deceased people. Et...cetera. Right now, I am attempting to stop doing it. It's like a drug that I am addicted to. I grew up drug-restricted...
    deleted deleted
    Feb 2, 2016

    Cycles Of Limerence

    I think I understand why I have limerence, because it’s a way for me to handle stressful situations, and deal with people I respect. I have limerence in cycles, which is frustrating because I’m happily married, and I don’t like these intrusive thoughts and daydreams. I...
    comixgrrl comixgrrl
    1 Response Jun 26, 2013

    I'm not sure, I've always thought

    that it was just love, and that's how you feel when you're in love. But I came across this word on an article and the symptoms pretty much match my own. I met this guy a lot time ago, on my third year of superior studies. He was in a relationship and I thought that he was very...
    Argentinian Argentinian
    36-40, F
    1 Response Jul 3, 2014

    Hi , i can ttotally agree with all of u

    that how terrible limerence experience is.its really sucks the life.in my story i have l o with a man who is 56 and i m 26.he is my boss nd same age as my father. I m in healthy marriage my hubby is really nice nd caring but i m in obbesion of my boss from a year.he had divorced...
    sukhjitgill sukhjitgill
    26-30, F
    Nov 5, 2014

    Should I seek disclosure

    and tell her how I feel? We dated for awhile but nothing official we can't be together for God know reasons. I have good days and bad days. I try not to interact with her at our social club and I if I do she smiles and feels very happy. Sometime if I look her way she looks...
    ImLimerence ImLimerence
    36-40, M
    Apr 2, 2015

    I have been thinking "I'm in love"

    but really all these years (20+) it turns out that I've only had "LO"s". How could I mistake the anxiety associated with unrequited love and the fear of rejection for all these years and with all these different men? I have wasted so much time and energy ....
    ClazzyGalXO ClazzyGalXO
    36-40, F
    Feb 13, 2016

    she's not my colleague

    or classmate or girl friend. we are same university, both of us from a different countries for a different course. we met at an university event. we used hangout every week. we discuss about culture, world politics or share the interesting events that happened in that week. i...
    stark55 stark55
    22-25, M
    Jan 15, 2015

    Count me in. I remember being limerant

    as young as 5 years old. It's always the same -- someone pays attention to you and makes you feel like you're special to them. Then they disappear -- they retire, they get married, they die. Or they no longer give you the attention that they originally gave. The desire for...
    Jerzee Jerzee
    3 Responses Dec 29, 2015

    I thought he was the one

    and I'd be lying if I denied still feeling that way. It's 2015. I spent 2012-2013 waiting for him to get his **** together and come around, despite knowing I shouldn't and him even saying I shouldn't. That was giving him the benefit of the doubt. I then spent 2013-2014 trying to...
    sad1243 sad1243
    31-35, F
    1 Response Jan 4, 2015

    Is This Limerence?

    I'm new to limerence and the term seems to be quite fuzzy; I was hoping some of you here might be able to help me.Since I was fourteen I've had two (currently in my third) limerence-like attacks of relentless obsession over men who are seemingly unattainable. During these...
    nyahplay nyahplay
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jan 24, 2011

    I Can't Get Over How Beautiful And Charming She Is

    Circumstances make a real relationship impossible. I most likely will never be with her. Regardless, she is the most beautiful woman I have ever met. I admire everything about her. Her charm, her looks, her confidence. She is lovely. I just want to hold her, be with her, make her...
    rendevous22 rendevous22
    3 Responses Apr 19, 2012

    Realizing now that I am 50

    and recently divorced I lacked love and attention as a child and in my 24 year marriage. I married a narcissistic man who was just like my narcissistic mother. I have accepted this and forgive the people in my life, I understand folks and their shortcomings. I met a beautiful...
    feelcrazy feelcrazy
    51-55, F
    Feb 23, 2014

    Exploring The After Effects Of Being Bullied, Part 5 -- Feedback

    This is the fifth part in a series of stories exploring the after effects of having been bullied as a child. There are many potential experiences under which I might put these stories; so far the first four I've filed under "I was Bullied." You can read them here: EP Link...
    accomplice accomplice
    46-50, M
    1 Response Apr 28, 2011

    I see so many who have more

    than one 'limerent object.'(for lack of a better word) For me there has always been just one and no matter what they do or if they show any imperfection I still feel this strong and unwavering unreciprocated connection. I cut everything off for a year because I was...
    Limerence21 Limerence21
    22-25, M
    Jul 11, 2015

    My goodness, I'm in the throws of limerence

    and given the situation, I can't cut off contact with my LO in order to get some emotional peace (not that I really want to...). Part of my problem is that I can barely eat, even when he's not around... Does anyone have any advice for that? Because there are days when I'm so...
    Justsilence Justsilence
    36-40, F
    Apr 21, 2014

    These feelings have stuck around now

    for a long time, even though I haven't seen him in over 8 months or had any kind of contact. Although, I recently discovered that what I was feeling was called Limerence. it has helped to know that this is a condition, it gives me faith and confidence that I can overcome it...
    sweetie8403 sweetie8403
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2014

    I Can't Take Any More

    This is the third time this has happened to me and it seems to be a chronic condition with me. We have several things in common, some of them very deep. But she hijacks my thoughts. Every single thing reminds me of her and how obsessed I am with her. When I broke my phone and...
    starchman starchman
    26-30, M
    3 Responses Sep 2, 2012

    The unattainable is attractive

    because you will never behold and understand it. I say 'anything is possible' which in a way is a strength but also a flaw. This story needs to be understood. It will easily be disregarded given that the beginning takes place in a second grade classroom but this is very adult...
    Limerence21 Limerence21
    22-25, M
    1 Response Jan 12, 2014

    It took me 3 months to cure 11 years of bad

    habits. I was limerant since I was 16, but it only became toxic at 20. I fell in love with guy in college who turned out to hate me. Rather than give up, I tried to change his opinion of me, by doing favors, running errands, loaning money. He texted me one day saying he was in a...
    Jojobazaar Jojobazaar
    26-30, F
    Jan 30, 2016

    Hi, I am not sure about this word "limerence"

    but I think I am suffering from this right now. I am a woman and I have a very close dear friend, a woman too. We are so into each other and all the world only mean for us two. Until a third wheel, a woman too, came and they started to have a deep relationship which I believed...
    MarcyMichelle MarcyMichelle
    36-40, F
    4 Responses Mar 10, 2014


    I collect every word you say to me, And the words you do not hear And I put them for only me to see And I’ll always keep them near. I place them on a single chain that hangs around my neck So that it can be the closest to my heart And keep my love in check The chain itself...
    ohsotron ohsotron
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 27, 2012

    Hello, I am 16, and I have had two limerent

    episodes already (currently in the middle of the second one right now, no idea how long it'll last, but I can't get away from her). The first one came in the spring of my freshman year. Our biology classes went on a field trip, and she sat next to me on the bus. Well, the...
    JGMeador444 JGMeador444
    18-21, M
    1 Response Nov 7, 2014

    I am 50 years old and have known

    since I was in my twenties that I had a problem with developing crushes and then becoming obsessed over men. I did this numerous times in my first marriage, although due to my religious beliefs, it was 7 years before I acted on these feelings. I was 27 when I had an affair, and...
    Bravesirrobyn Bravesirrobyn
    51-55, F
    1 Response Feb 14, 2016

    I was googling my feelings

    and found this world called limerence. I immediately started reading associated symptoms and thought... Is this me? Every time I find someone i first meet and if I show the slightest interest in them my mind takes over. I can't stop thinking about that person. I get depressed...
    justine0121 justine0121
    31-35, F
    May 9, 2014

    I actually posted this in the "I am a stalker"

    thread, but I just realized today that it really belongs here. To all of you who have suffered through, I have to praise your intestinal fortitude. In my short research that I have done on this subject today; I have found that there is a bright side. At the end, when you finally...
    celerystalker celerystalker
    46-50, F
    1 Response Feb 17, 2014

    Can Somebody Help Me?

    Hi!  I only came across the concept of limerence a couple of days ago and it really describes what I am going through.  It is a miserable experience but I am glad to be able to at least tell people on here who will understand how I feel. Let me tell you my story.As a teenager...
    hollyivy hollyivy
    2 Responses Mar 21, 2012

    My LO

    I have never felt like this about another person before. I didn't know there was a name for it. I'm glad I'm not the only one. I met him through work. I liked him but nothing more. We started emailing and he asked where he could get a cheap massage. I said I would do it for...
    kaycee69 kaycee69
    46-50, F
    Nov 19, 2013

    Ready To Stop Hurting

    Hi. I recently found the definition of limerence. I guess it is good to finally put a name to what I have been experiencing for 12 years. Mine began with a good friend that returned to my life a couple of years after my husband died. It was so natural and so comfortable and...
    Kimmlind Kimmlind
    61-65, F
    2 Responses Jun 10, 2013

    I Suffered, I'm Over It.

    Well, my story is no different from any of those typical ones. It started, it bloomed, it's over. It comes back often. It makes me change my agenda, brings me down, and destroys if not half of my shinny world (that I usually manage to rebuild and polish well by the time it's back...
    boltstraight boltstraight
    2 Responses Aug 8, 2011

    Ive Suffered Since My 20s... Now 38

    Many years ago, even when I was in High School I believe I have had some brushes with limerence. In high school I brushed it off as just something that happens to everyone at one point. My feelings for certain people were often unrequited during that time. In my 20s I met a...
    HelpmeObiWan HelpmeObiWan
    41-45, M
    4 Responses Feb 24, 2013

    Cycles Of Limerence

    I think I understand why I have limerence, because it’s a way for me to handle stressful situations, and deal with people I respect. I have limerence in cycles, which is frustrating because I’m happily married, and I don’t like these intrusive thoughts and daydreams. I...
    comixgrrl comixgrrl
    1 Response Jun 26, 2013

    Chronic Limerent

    i'm not really a good storyteller so i think i'll just enumerate the people and my experiences. hmmm... how to start... limerence happens to me everyday... random strangers... exchanging glances that i think too deeply about... due to my problem about thinking more deeply about...
    pluie830 pluie830
    26-30, F
    1 Response Apr 2, 2013

    My Limerence Story

     I have stumbled onto to this experience group after waking up haunted by my Dreams once again.  This doesn't happen as much as it once did (waking up haunted).  It actually happens seldom enough (once or twice a month) that I am even more inspired to find a "...
    Dc123 Dc123
    26-30, M
    9 Responses Oct 20, 2009

    How Do You Make Lemonade Out Of Lemons With Limerence!

    So my "limerent object" had been a minor side note in my life for years. I first saw her 3 and a half years ago working at a restaurant and said to myself the classic "she's the most beautiful girl I've ever seen" bit. I hardly spoke to her and she disappeared after a year. Still...
    Aaronarw Aaronarw
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Nov 30, 2012

    When Does Limerence End?

    I am just wondering how long this is going to go on? This thinking about my limerent object (LO) needs to stop already! I say this because I finally got up the courage a few weeks ago to let her know I wanted us to get together after work sometime. This proved to be a disaster...
    Anthony1706 Anthony1706
    56-60, M
    12 Responses Sep 15, 2012

    I Think I Have Limerence

    I'm only 18, so I don't know how love is supposed to work. I do know that I met a boy in 8th grade, when I first moved to a new city and I fell in love? with him and I haven't been able to stop thinking about him for 5 years now. We dated for no more than two weeks, three...
    steph2122 steph2122
    Aug 11, 2011

    There are numerous older men in the world

    who are single and seeking someone special in their life. For all such men, AgeMeet.com has been created as a reliable online platform to find women for dating and companionship. The spokesperson reports that many older men have started finding perfect companions through their...
    kerenccaa kerenccaa
    26-30, F
    Dec 15, 2015

    Long Time Limerence!

    So, I've known about my limerence for a very long time now, way before I even knew it by name. It was just that thing I did. It started in high school, I would get these heavy crushes on boys, and develop a whole fantasy life around them, until I actually believed that they liked...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Aug 24, 2013

    I liked this guy who never knew I existed.

    ..we were friends...ish. And he's a great person and all and I know I have to move on, but it's hard because he seemed so perfect for me. It just seemed like there could've been something there, but nothing ever came of it. Now I just want to move forward and forget about him...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jan 14, 2015

    My Limerence Story

    I first met my LO in high school when I was 16 and she was 18. We dated and she broke up with her other boyfriend to be with me. Although she reciprocated in my attraction, I was still shy around her and this probably concerned her, as she was more on the social side. I ...
    John1342 John1342
    41-45, M
    3 Responses Dec 23, 2009
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