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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    I mean is there any guy out there.

    that would love someone who has lots of tattoos and piercings? it's seems hard for me to find someone who I can really be me with, and he will be OK with it.
    gizmolover101 gizmolover101 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 23

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 40 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    ever wake up and just hate yourself?

    ? there is no reason to....it's amazing how to day to day life just picks you apart
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    this morning i decided to snap pictures of

    myself and when I look at them i just felt and overwhelming desire to cry. Out of two hundred pictures, all of them look bad. All i want is a nice picture... instead all i see is something people always point out when they're making fun of me...
    xboo15 xboo15 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    MyLifee99 MyLifee99 13-15 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I have the lowest self esteem,

    I seriously go to guys for attention to feel good about myself, and I've done it so much that I am truly ashamed of my past, but now I hope I can find a guy that likes me for me, and doesn't use me and accepts my past and wants to make a bigger and brighter future with me. I...
    jeennalouise jeennalouise 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    There are just so many things

    that I want to change about myself. From little things to really big things.
    gamerdog210 gamerdog210 22-25, M Apr 2

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F 9 Responses Feb 7

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 2

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Mar 31

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I've alwys had... Since I was a kid.

    I grew up so scare of people. And I felt myself so insignificant. Always. Even now. And the saddest part is that I've been in therapy for six years. Nothing changed. I don't want to be like this forever, but I don't know what to do. It makes me feel so guilty the fact that I...
    Starinthedeath Starinthedeath 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I had a really big fight with my boyfriend today

    because I caught him looking at **** and it made me feel so ugly. I know looking at **** is natural and I look at **** too. I have put on a lot of weight lately and it has made me ugly, inside and out. I am so self-conscious now, I tear into other people to make myself feel...
    origamilover origamilover 22-25, F 3 Responses 5 days ago

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    oirishi oirishi 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 18

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I am supposed to go on a date soon in the next

    couple days and we met online. I only posted 2 photos of my face and one picture of my body because I'm very insecure about it. I'm a short curvy girl k have thick thighs. I am working so hard everyday on eating healthy and working out. But I almost want to back out of the date...
    mzgirl mzgirl 22-25, F 10 Responses Apr 4

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    Let me get this off my chest.

    .... Since I was little I was made fun of by the only male figures in my life (my bro and father). I blossomed into a woman who gets pleasure when other men say that I'm attractive because I never got that I'm beautiful from the male figures in my life. Fast forward to now...
    nancylu1234567890 nancylu1234567890 26-30, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I hate the fact that I can't stand up

    for myself. I am so careful to not hurt myself. I'm very insecure. I'm afraid of the things that they might me thinking of me negatively. Maybe they think negative things to me. I just want to come out of my own cave. But I'm afraid. I'm not prepared yet. But I'm trying.
    LifeisRiddle LifeisRiddle 16-17, F 1 Response May 7

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    I have Aspergers which means I can be shy,

    with very low self esteem & lack confidence, I feel ugly and unwanted. I'm here because I'd like to meet genuine people & make friends. Haters need not apply.
    Scarletjaki Scarletjaki 36-40, F 5 Responses May 2

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    At this time, my confidence

    and self esteem levels are hitting rock bottom.. Wow!!
    TheLeftBehind TheLeftBehind 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I mean I only get told by my "friends" how ugly

    and repulsive I am to boys all of the time
    deleted deleted 26-30 9 Responses Apr 2

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    i think my low self esteem stemmed from my

    mother always saying negative things to me all the time. i got accepted to a university a few weeks ago and she was upset that the school was located in a big city where she thought there were too many Hispanic people. i hate how racist she is. she cant even he happy for me...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I've never really told anyone how I feel truly

    because I don't want anyone to feel bad for me or worry about me. But for the longest time, ive been plagued with negative thoughts inside of my head. I can't stop them, the more I try, the worse they become, I feel like. I constantly doubt myself and my abilities, even though j...
    cbeez25tree cbeez25tree 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I guess being bullied

    as a child, being disabled, having a father who talks down to you constantly will effect you for years. I've tried exercise, talking about it any 'new hobbies'. Better, but my driving instructor still says confidence is my main issue. Seems like how little I improve only drops...
    Almostanonymous Almostanonymous 22-25, M 3 Responses May 13

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    It's funny though,self esteem how much it

    matters.On the job brain full of ideas I want to say them,I want to contribute,but no.Mouth open no words,hand in air in gesticulation,ready to do it,brain telling body to do it,nothing happens.I hear whisper in my head:"You can't do it,your ideas are bad,you are not worthy,you...
    somerandomguyfromspace somerandomguyfromspace 31-35, M 1 Response May 16

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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    You Can Destroy Me With One Sentence

    But you mustn't, I beat myself up enough, when I think about the chances I missed in life, my wasted talent. I feel a bit more worthless every day.
    RickiChickie RickiChickie 46-50, F 22 Responses May 1, 2011

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I absorb the positive feelings

    that people feel towards(specifically if I think they like me) so I feel someone likes me I would like them back. The problem is I am shy as **** so it never goes anywhere and usually I can tell through eye contact(because eyes are a good conveyor of feelings)
    Overdrive18 Overdrive18 18-21, M Mar 29

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    I always feel like I can't do anything right

    and put myself down a lot. I don't recognise my achievements because I focus on the people who helped me to get through. I went to a self esteem group in 2008 which didn't help at all. It has been suggested that I go to it again but I wasn't keen on the theory. Sometimes I think...
    LinkinParkMuse LinkinParkMuse 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I still have a lot of issues with myself

    and my appearance but I can honestly say I’m so much more confident than I was a year ago. and that's something I'm proud of.
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    I dont remember the last time

    that I felt good or happy about myself. Im not a girl with overweight problems but neither Im skinny model. I've never saw myself at the mirror and smiled and said Im beautiful.. or if I did.. at the next second I saw my friends more beautiful more skinny.. and more atractive...
    Bella1314 Bella1314 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    When you're surrounded by smart,

    georgeous/good-looking, rich, talented and healthy thin people, you just had to keep yourself as low as possible. You know you'll have trouble fitting it. Might as well just stay invisible and slowly blend in the background.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F 11 Responses Apr 2

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    I need to make changes in my life.

    A friend of mine took me out today. She'd won tickets to meet some local celebrities and have lunch with them. I work all the time and didn't realize just how lacking in social experience I am. It only hits me whenever I go out of my comfort zone and do something new. I wish the...
    Caspianstorm Caspianstorm 36-40, M Apr 30

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    There's just something about me.

    I'm a quiet and meek guy. And sometimes my friends joke about my lack in confidence, confidence and masculinity. My low self esteem makes me insecure when they poke fun of me. I'm glad I did not lose my temper at any of them; at the same time I feel lousy and confused. Maybe I...
    browniepants browniepants 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 2, 2014

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