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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I have Aspergers which means I can be shy,

    with very low self esteem & lack confidence, I feel ugly and unwanted. I'm here because I'd like to meet genuine people & make friends. Haters need not apply.
    Scarletjaki Scarletjaki 36-40, F 5 Responses May 2

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    I guess being bullied

    as a child, being disabled, having a father who talks down to you constantly will effect you for years. I've tried exercise, talking about it any 'new hobbies'. Better, but my driving instructor still says confidence is my main issue. Seems like how little I improve only drops...
    Almostanonymous Almostanonymous 22-25, M 3 Responses May 13

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    My legs are too fat My skin is too pale My

    stomach is too round My arms are too big My face is too ugly My hair is too straight My hands are too long My toes are too short My scars are too scary My mouth never shuts up My heart is too damaged My soul is too black My brain is too stupid My mind is too depressing
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Has anyone else destroyed a great relationship

    because of low self esteem issues?
    rmircea rmircea 31-35 3 Responses Jun 4

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F 7 Responses Feb 7

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    When you're surrounded by smart,

    georgeous/good-looking, rich, talented and healthy thin people, you just had to keep yourself as low as possible. You know you'll have trouble fitting it. Might as well just stay invisible and slowly blend in the background.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F 10 Responses Apr 2

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    You Can Destroy Me With One Sentence

    But you mustn't, I beat myself up enough, when I think about the chances I missed in life, my wasted talent. I feel a bit more worthless every day.
    RickiChickie RickiChickie 51-55, F 22 Responses May 1, 2011

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    I'm ugly, I stutter and have no friends.

    Self esteem? What self esteem?!
    hreinn hreinn 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 30

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    I sometimes ask myself what my fiancé sees in

    me. It's a horrible habit that I know bothers him. I just feel at times that he is out of my league and I have to remind myself that what I'm thinking is not true. He loves me for my quirks and he thinks I am beautiful, and that is what matters. I have always been my own worst...
    AbnormallyMe AbnormallyMe 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    I have the lowest self esteem,

    I seriously go to guys for attention to feel good about myself, and I've done it so much that I am truly ashamed of my past, but now I hope I can find a guy that likes me for me, and doesn't use me and accepts my past and wants to make a bigger and brighter future with me. I...
    jeennalouise jeennalouise 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 2, 2014

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    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 6 Responses Jan 31

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    Hello old friend! It's been a while,

    but we're buxom buddies again. It's amazing how little it takes to get someone from a 'normal' level of existence back into the depths of despair, and hating everything about themselves and life! Just the slightest knock back, that most people would take in their stride, has...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses May 30

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    I purchased this book years ago titled

    "Breaking the Chain of Low Self Esteem," and I am just now getting around to reading it. Within the first couple of chapters is a questionnaire to help you grade how serious your low self esteem is. I knew I HAD LSE but did not realize it fell in the severe LSE category. LSE...
    Mala1718 Mala1718 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 18

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    When I was growing up I had been small all my

    life 120 pounds being a adult. People making fun of me and being rude most of all what really hurt me is I have two deformed ears one has bumps on it one looks like elf ear and I used to get bullied and called names!! I tore me apart and still affects me badly. People don't...
    Allstar1993 Allstar1993 22-25, M Jun 18

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    this morning i decided to snap pictures of

    myself and when I look at them i just felt and overwhelming desire to cry. Out of two hundred pictures, all of them look bad. All i want is a nice picture... instead all i see is something people always point out when they're making fun of me...
    xboo15 xboo15 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 20

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    i hate feeling like there's no one there,

    I just want someone too care.
    MemoryLane1137 MemoryLane1137 16-17, F 1 Response May 11

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    ever wake up and just hate yourself?

    ? there is no reason to....it's amazing how to day to day life just picks you apart
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 40 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    I mean is there any guy out there.

    that would love someone who has lots of tattoos and piercings? it's seems hard for me to find someone who I can really be me with, and he will be OK with it.
    gizmolover101 gizmolover101 18-21, F 6 Responses Apr 23

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    I have always had low self esteem.

    And just when it seems I am getting through this problem, I go back to hating certain aspects of myself. My goal is to have a healthy self-esteem. To not think too highly or poorly of myself. And If possible, get rid of my ego, who argues with me everyday.
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26

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    i dont know what is wrong with me.

    . i just hate my self no matter how hard i try i just cant help. i cant sleep at night because i keep thinking that i am not good enough. i abandon friends, i isolate my self every now and then, i run away without giving an excuse. i joined debating society of my college, every...
    shbamo shbamo 18-21, F 5 Responses 4 days ago

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    I mean I only get told by my "friends" how ugly

    and repulsive I am to boys all of the time
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Apr 2

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    I am supposed to go on a date soon in the next

    couple days and we met online. I only posted 2 photos of my face and one picture of my body because I'm very insecure about it. I'm a short curvy girl k have thick thighs. I am working so hard everyday on eating healthy and working out. But I almost want to back out of the date...
    mzgirl mzgirl 22-25, F 10 Responses Apr 4

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 2

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    There are just so many things

    that I want to change about myself. From little things to really big things.
    gamerdog210 gamerdog210 22-25, M Apr 2

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    As hard as it is to change our thinking

    and the way we feel about ourselves, we must try like hell, because no one should miss out on opportunities made for them because they don't feel worthy. Do it despite fear of judgement and failure. You will succeed someday!
    Mala1718 Mala1718 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I had a really big fight with my boyfriend today

    because I caught him looking at **** and it made me feel so ugly. I know looking at **** is natural and I look at **** too. I have put on a lot of weight lately and it has made me ugly, inside and out. I am so self-conscious now, I tear into other people to make myself feel...
    origamilover origamilover 22-25, F 3 Responses May 20

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    Sometimes I have to realize

    that my idea of what I want to be or look like will never be achievable, those past demons of being called names and comments about my body is what I'm mostly battling
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 2 Responses 1 day ago

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    oirishi oirishi 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 18

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    i think my low self esteem stemmed from my

    mother always saying negative things to me all the time. i got accepted to a university a few weeks ago and she was upset that the school was located in a big city where she thought there were too many Hispanic people. i hate how racist she is. she cant even he happy for me...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 9

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    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 7 Responses Mar 18

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