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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    my family doesn't think I'm gonna Finnish

    school. my parents make fun of me because I used to self harm. my parents tell me I don't have potential. I'm tired of everything.
    oxoxJillianxoxo oxoxJillianxoxo 13-15, F 2 Responses Oct 28

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 11

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    katstho katstho 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 20

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    I do. What is it I don't like about myself?

    Physically. My nose, I hate it! My eyes. Feel like they're too close and crunch up too much when I smile. I wish my legs and butt were bigger. But that one doesn't count because I'm fixing that with workouts ❤️ Emotionally/mentally? Well I don't really know but the...
    ShadowedLover ShadowedLover 16-17, F Nov 18

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    I dont remember the last time

    that I felt good or happy about myself. Im not a girl with overweight problems but neither Im skinny model. I've never saw myself at the mirror and smiled and said Im beautiful.. or if I did.. at the next second I saw my friends more beautiful more skinny.. and more atractive...
    Bella1314 Bella1314 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 28

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 12 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I'm battling issues that I don't know how to

    handle. In the past my boyfriend would talk with girls both online and off, it never went past talking but it still hurt finding out. It killed my self esteem and really hurt my feelings. All I keep hearing is that it's a guy thing and not to take it personally, but how can I...
    cindyboo14 cindyboo14 31-35, F 14 Responses Dec 9

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    There's just something about me.

    I'm a quiet and meek guy. And sometimes my friends joke about my lack in confidence, confidence and masculinity. My low self esteem makes me insecure when they poke fun of me. I'm glad I did not lose my temper at any of them; at the same time I feel lousy and confused. Maybe I...
    browniepants browniepants 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 2

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    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Will I Ever Change?

    It's weird how you can't take good advice, but you can dish it out full heartedly to people in need. All my life I have felt like the ugly duck just waiting for my shot to be the beautiful swan. Maybe it's just not what god had planned for me.. I'm not sure. On a good day I can...
    sadmercy sadmercy 18-21 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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    how do we measure selfworth ?

    ?? what ever it is i need micro units to measure mines ...
    rajmelotra rajmelotra 22-25, M 1 Response Dec 5

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 41 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I guess I should begin at the beginning,

    right? Seems like it should be a no brainer, but I'm not sure which beginning to use. Once upon a time, a Scottish coke smuggler met a tennis playing dwarf woman. They dated, got married and then created my big sister. For two years she was special, golden even, until I came...
    HayleyBuggy HayleyBuggy 18-21, T 2 Responses Nov 11

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    Thanks to everyone who's said nice things to me.

    I have **** for self confidence and some of you have made it better. That's pretty cool. Still feel pretty worthless overall, but now at least I know at least some others think I have some value. So thanks. xo
    worthlesssluttttt worthlesssluttttt 22-25, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)

    Babystep #2 Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.             When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”.  I thought of all negative things, my flaws.  But then...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    I Let Men Use Me

    This kind of spurred from another post I made, that made me think about this.. I let myself be used because i have low self esteem... You'd never know it talking to me in person. Like I've said before, I'm one of the popular girls, I'm a leader, I'm the one others look up to. I...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I used to have a low self esteem.

    I used to be emotionally dependent, albeit secretly, upon boyfriends for a sense of worth and happiness. I still have my moments where I wish I was prettier, thinner, less damaged, etc. But the difference being now is that I no longer depend on the approval of others to...
    topsykrit topsykrit 18-21, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    You Can Destroy Me With One Sentence

    But you mustn't, I beat myself up enough, when I think about the chances I missed in life, my wasted talent. I feel a bit more worthless every day.
    RickiChickie RickiChickie 46-50, F 23 Responses May 1, 2011

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    Olga No matter how many times I punch the

    mirror it still reflects still projects still renders that horrid reality all too clearly I don't look at myself and think “cute” I think barbaric German fat girls named Olga and their chunky braids in place of ears as they salute Hitler and parade around him with flowers...
    JaneBloodyAusten JaneBloodyAusten 31-35, F 10 Responses Sep 3

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    Some of my friends say I'm really pretty nice

    but I just don't see it and I think I'm stupid even though I'm in 2 high school classes and I'm in 8th grade (I don't have to do 8th grade math). I wish I had more confidence 😔.
    unicornsydney unicornsydney 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 16

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    Some days are good Some days are bad Some days

    I love myself Some days I'm sad Some days I succeed Some days I fail Some days have sunshine Some days it hails Some days I talk Some days I scream Some days they love me Some days they're mean The people say tomorrow will be better The doctor says the voices will go away I have...
    larosenoire larosenoire 18-21, F Nov 18

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    Going to bed with tears running down my face.

    I'm sick of this ****. It's the same old crap every day. I'm stupid. I'm ugly. I'm fat. No one cares about me. I'm a **** up.
    Sweetgirl120 Sweetgirl120 18-21, F 4 Responses Oct 21

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    I know I'm intelligent,

    but I want to be my own definition of perfect. I compare myself to so many girls and my self confidence got so bad once that I started crying in front of the mirror...
    blueworldsapart blueworldsapart 13-15, F 1 Response Oct 20

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    I really really feel bad today.

    😔 I kinda need a hug...
    polyglotparrot polyglotparrot 13-15, F Nov 18

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    Im not so sure but i think my esteem will go

    away until i reach the age 19
    myraaxx myraaxx 13-15, F 2 Responses Nov 18

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    I hate the fact that I'm a b-cup.

    . My sister is a DD and my mother is overweight but has to get her bras out of boxes at the store and my aunt has DD's too! But I'm 18 with small breasts.. I'm skinnier than all of them so I decided it's probably because of that that I have a smaller chest.
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 12 Responses Oct 9

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    A year ago I was diagnosed with Complex Trauma

    PTSD, Major Depressive Disorder with Moderate Episodes, and Anxiety Disorder NOS. All of this originated from physical, sexual, and emotional abuse my entire childhood plus multiple other traumas in adulthood. I am in therapy with a Trauma specialist and we are doing EMDR and...
    mjh8808 mjh8808 22-25, F 2 Responses Oct 16

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    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response Dec 7

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    I was looking at quotes on Pinterest

    for something to send a friend and I came across something that's supposed to be positive but just made me cry. Broken crayons still color. It's true. I'm a broken person. So broken I won't ever be able to put myself back together alone. The sad truth though, the one that...
    BrokenDee BrokenDee 36-40, F Nov 21

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    I never really had any problems with myself

    until I started dating.. Guys would say how they wanted a girl like this , or a girl like that .. While we were together .. They desired all the things I would never be and what I could never had. And I just can't understand why , if that's the case, they wanted to be with me...
    BeverlyPills BeverlyPills 16-17, F 4 Responses Nov 29

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    Success In Failures

    I stood in middle of road broke; cornered from all sides and felt there is no light on either sides of dark tunnel. i decided to fight this battle and asked god to strengthen me and give me one opportunity to fight back. it came and i took up and i found the light in the corner...
    giftafamily giftafamily 41-45 6 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Criticism: disapproval based on mistakes/faults.

    That's me. Constantly thinking about all the things that are "wrong" with me. Going over each and every flaw in my mind. Unfortunately I have suffered from this my entire life. Growing up as the "chubby one" in the family isn't easy. Especially when your always criticized for it...
    BelieveInU BelieveInU 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 21

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15

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    Im at the absolute lowest now.

    The only thing keeping a temporary sanity is Making songs, ciggarettes and an urge to win over my self-hate. School is going bad since im not sure what i want to do and the people there are very simple with simple lives. The cornucopia of feelings i have i cant express on a...
    vickepicke vickepicke 16-17, M 1 Response Nov 11

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    yes i have low self esteem

    but no one know about it cz i can always fake it. hard for me to believe that someone will ever love me
    fraufraufrau fraufraufrau 26-30, F Oct 21

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    I hate that I will have times this comes back.

    I'm not as bad as I was but I still have a moment here and there. The last time I was being compared to two other guys. It bothered me for the whole day. I wanted to ask why and what's wrong with me. I had to stop and say to myself you're still awesome solojo.
    solojo solojo 31-35, M 1 Response Nov 28

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    I Am Weird

    I have a big head, horrible face, depression, bipolar disorder, assexual(option because my natural state is gay), crippled by depression over the years, I am talking about 16 years battling this illness. I have no elf-steem cause I am horrible, I dont leave the house, just go out...
    Riqq Riqq 26-30, M 17 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    No matter how worthless you feel You can

    always impact someone else by your words or actions Be careful what you say or do
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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