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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    This is all natural no makeup

    and my hair natural ... I could never walk out like this in public . Do any of you guys know how I can be more confident in my natural self ? And also any cute hairstyles for curly hair . Cuz littersly I always straighten my hair all the time I never ever in my left went out...
    adriannag0416 adriannag0416 13-15, F 6 Responses Jul 20

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    I absolutely hate myself.

    I can't remember a time I actually loved myself. I find everything about me to be detestable. I also became the person I never wanted to be
    crypticcrime crypticcrime 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 14

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    Has anyone else destroyed a great relationship

    because of low self esteem issues?
    rmircea rmircea 31-35 3 Responses Jun 4

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    When you're surrounded by smart,

    georgeous/good-looking, rich, talented and healthy thin people, you just had to keep yourself as low as possible. You know you'll have trouble fitting it. Might as well just stay invisible and slowly blend in the background.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 16-17, F 10 Responses Apr 2

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    My Self Esteem Is In The Toilet

    I've always felt that I was inferior to others and not superior. I just feel that the self esteem has been sucked out of me. I've never felt attractive or pretty. Always felt every female that is my age has it all together and is prettier than me . I had to leave college because...
    scorpiobabe82 scorpiobabe82 26-30 13 Responses Sep 7, 2010

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    I feel like I look better with makeup

    and when I don't wear makeup I feel ugly
    adriannag0416 adriannag0416 13-15, F 4 Responses Jul 17

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    This is all your fault mikey

    if only you wouldn't have hurt me maybe I'd be fine ...F-uck you man you hurt me now I want to hurt myself Bc you just had to get pleasure from hurting me ...then the cops don't do sh-it I f-ucking hate you I hate my life
    Allywall Allywall 13-15, F 3 hrs ago

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I have incredible low self worth.

    I have been through a lot in my life, and I realize that I haven't lived that long of a life, but when your whole life you are made to believe you are nothing, then what are you supposed to do. It is a weird feeling, knowing that what you do with your life is all because of...
    AlliesWorld AlliesWorld 22-25, F 5 Responses 1 day ago

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    ever wake up and just hate yourself?

    ? there is no reason to....it's amazing how to day to day life just picks you apart
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 5 Responses Apr 19

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    I sometimes feel ugly

    as hell . I mean I know I'm 13 , and yeah puberty and all but sometimes I'm just so insecure about myself . I'll list the reasons why . 1) my nose is big 2) acne 3) teeth crooked 4) I have hairy arms 5) when I shave it comes back the next day and I have a lot of razor bumps...
    adriannag0416 adriannag0416 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 13

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 6 Responses Mar 18

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    I had a lot of problems growing up

    and i was bullied really bad through high school. Oddly enough i am on the opposite side now and everyone likes me which is nice but sometimes i feel ugly. I have been told I am so pretty by anyone and everyone but to me I am ugly without makeup then my face is pretty. I talk to...
    chrisscott515 chrisscott515 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 28

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    Louis568 Louis568 13-15, M 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I have always had low self esteem.

    And just when it seems I am getting through this problem, I go back to hating certain aspects of myself. My goal is to have a healthy self-esteem. To not think too highly or poorly of myself. And If possible, get rid of my ego, who argues with me everyday.
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX 18-21, F 3 Responses May 26

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    i dont know what is wrong with me.

    . i just hate my self no matter how hard i try i just cant help. i cant sleep at night because i keep thinking that i am not good enough. i abandon friends, i isolate my self every now and then, i run away without giving an excuse. i joined debating society of my college, every...
    shbamo shbamo 18-21, F 5 Responses Jun 30

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    People compliment me a lot on my appearance.

    . I'm not saying that to be conceited, I actually get a compliment almost every day. For some reason, it seems to be messing with my head. I'll date a guy who treats me badly and be like, am I really beautiful why are people saying that?? I feel like I evaluate myself on my looks...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 40 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    I got bullied in high school by a bunch of

    girls. They treated me really badly like someone who wasn't worthy of being their friends. My best friend, only nice friend, eventually turned on me and never spoke to me again. Since then I've had half-assed, abusive type friendships and I've stopped talking to people or doing...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 days ago

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    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 5 Responses Jan 31

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    When I was growing up I had been small all my

    life 120 pounds being a adult. People making fun of me and being rude most of all what really hurt me is I have two deformed ears one has bumps on it one looks like elf ear and I used to get bullied and called names!! I tore me apart and still affects me badly. People don't...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 18

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    I had a really big fight with my boyfriend today

    because I caught him looking at **** and it made me feel so ugly. I know looking at **** is natural and I look at **** too. I have put on a lot of weight lately and it has made me ugly, inside and out. I am so self-conscious now, I tear into other people to make myself feel...
    origamilover origamilover 22-25, F 4 Responses May 20

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    As hard as it is to change our thinking

    and the way we feel about ourselves, we must try like hell, because no one should miss out on opportunities made for them because they don't feel worthy. Do it despite fear of judgement and failure. You will succeed someday!
    Mala1718 Mala1718 26-30, F 2 Responses Jun 18

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    For all the attractive people out there.

    Thanks for making me look even worse. As if I needed evidence that I'm unattractive. Sincerely all of us.
    internallybroken internallybroken 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 13

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    My legs are too fat My skin is too pale My

    stomach is too round My arms are too big My face is too ugly My hair is too straight My hands are too long My toes are too short My scars are too scary My mouth never shuts up My heart is too damaged My soul is too black My brain is too stupid My mind is too depressing
    BroknGirl89 BroknGirl89 26-30, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F 7 Responses Feb 7

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    I have low self esteem

    because of the way people treated me especially people I was in relationships with mainly guys I feel like I have to settle because I probably won't find anyone better
    spiritualvirgo82 spiritualvirgo82 31-35, F 4 days ago

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I am always being told how pretty I am

    and how amazing my body looks.but since middle school I realized I had low self esteem. when I got into high school things changed. guys became really attracted to me and I became Pretty popular around school. throughout my two years of high school I have only worn weave...
    tytm tytm 13-15, F 3 Responses Jul 6

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 2

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 10 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I sometimes ask myself what my fiancé sees in

    me. It's a horrible habit that I know bothers him. I just feel at times that he is out of my league and I have to remind myself that what I'm thinking is not true. He loves me for my quirks and he thinks I am beautiful, and that is what matters. I have always been my own worst...
    AbnormallyMe AbnormallyMe 26-30, F 3 Responses Jun 5

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    My friend is always mean to me,

    in a nice way. I went to practice one day and I was really mad because I had basically picked out off of my flaws. And she asked me what my problem was, and I began telling her everything that I was happy with, and she literally slapped me across the face so hard. And she was...
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    I hate the fact that I'm a b-cup.

    . My sister is a DD and my mother is overweight but has to get her bras out of boxes at the store and my aunt has DD's too! But I'm 18 with small breasts.. I'm skinnier than all of them so I decided it's probably because of that that I have a smaller chest.
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 15 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    Sometimes I have to realize

    that my idea of what I want to be or look like will never be achievable, those past demons of being called names and comments about my body is what I'm mostly battling
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    Hello old friend! It's been a while,

    but we're buxom buddies again. It's amazing how little it takes to get someone from a 'normal' level of existence back into the depths of despair, and hating everything about themselves and life! Just the slightest knock back, that most people would take in their stride, has...
    Mick672 Mick672 41-45, M 2 Responses May 30

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