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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    I am not like other girls here in town.

    I don't get dressed up and put on make up every day not because I don't want to but because I don't have the time I work go to school and care for my siblings. A few days ago a very attractive guy asked me to dinner. He and I both work go to school and have goals that made him...
    Claura Claura 18-21, F 3 Responses Dec 31, 2015

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    Shoutout to the girls

    that hate their bodies but are trying really really hard to find the beauty and comfort in them because that **** is hard and takes a lot of time and is emotionally exhausting. I'm proud of y'all.
    MissQueenB MissQueenB 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    When you're surrounded by smart,

    georgeous/good-looking, rich, talented and healthy thin people, you just had to keep yourself as low as possible. You know you'll have trouble fitting it. Might as well just stay invisible and slowly blend in the background.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah 18-21, F 7 Responses Apr 2, 2015

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    Not all the time...but sometimes it's hard to

    stay positive and accept yourself in a world that so often rejects what you value.
    BeautifullyBrokenAngel BeautifullyBrokenAngel 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 17

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    I really don't get it.

    When I was a teen. I didn't care so much about what others said or did to me. I was in my happy bubble. But today, gaaah. I can't text anyone or have any conversation without regret. I want to be the strong teen again! I had an adult mentor/friend, who told me I had attitude...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated 26-30, M 1 Response Jan 28

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    This is a case of bad genes,

    and worse self esteem. I'm not pretty I know that. I doubt I ever will be. I don't have the desirable facial type of the 'hot' and 'sexy' woman. I have a big Filipino nose and a round face. My body is OK (I'll admit I have some nice legs) but I'm not the skinniest person...
    ButtonsABXY ButtonsABXY 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2, 2015

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    I'm really stressed and I'm really lonely.

    I don't want to feel this way anymore.
    Catsive Catsive 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 18

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    Been a bad week, actually got told

    that I don't deserve to be alive...who even says that?
    stormy2468 stormy2468 16-17, F 8 Responses Sep 4, 2015

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    isnt funny? the gods walking among you carry

    more power in one whisper than you ever had with an entire speech. self pity has nothing to do with it. life has validated who you are, and it is far from who you want to be. what do you do when you are inherently wrong? when even you turn on yourself, who is left to care...
    beaubeau7 beaubeau7 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I don't think people realize

    that they make other people feel bad about themselves when they post a nice portrait of themselves anywhere or share their leadership or jobs or internships online... At least they make me feel bad about myself. Like incompetent. I hate posting pictures of myself because I feel...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo 18-21 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    MediocreMirage MediocreMirage 16-17, F Jan 9, 2014

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    This site is supposed to help people by

    allowing them to connect with others... Then why do I want to delete this account because of all the rude and hurtful people? I really wish they had something better to do.
    katieliebtkatzen katieliebtkatzen 16-17, F 19 Responses Oct 28, 2015

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    why is it whatever ive done lately has been

    wrong and eveyone now hates me
    megs1717 megs1717 16-17, F 5 Responses Nov 30, 2015

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    Hello, I havenĀ“t posted anything

    for a while.. Sh*te is I discovered the guy I've been with for some months now it's with another girl. We had an open relationship so its not cheating, I'm okay. He really likes her. She is fitter than me and she seems cooler than me too. This destroys my self esteem bc it's the...
    96Charlie 96Charlie 18-21, F Feb 1

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    I feel like any guy that takes interest in me

    is doing it because of a bet and not because they might actually like me
    BSFG BSFG 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 29, 2015

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    It's really frustrating

    when you want to help someone whose self esteem is so low, but you can't because yours is worse... So you just gotta try your best and ignore how you feel to make the other person feel better:/
    LittleUnicorn LittleUnicorn 18-21 1 Response Dec 20, 2015

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    Even in my dreams I fail miserably.

    No matter what I try to do, I mess up so bad I get ridiculed for it. Needless to say, I'm terrified of failure in real life. These dreams isn't helping.
    WhereIsMyBeard WhereIsMyBeard 26-30, T 1 Response Jan 15

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    one of my traits responsible

    for a great deal of trouble.
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 27

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    My low self esteem makes me depressed

    and insecure but I don't have will fixing it.Its not that I don't want to get higher self esteem I just dont want to lie to myself and i find it tiring.I always criticise myself,overthink and rethink everything i've done and said and end up blaming myself .I often feel...
    heltel heltel 16-17, F Jan 22

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    I got bullied in high school by a bunch of

    girls. They treated me really badly like someone who wasn't worthy of being their friends. My best friend, only nice friend, eventually turned on me and never spoke to me again. Since then I've had half-assed, abusive type friendships and I've stopped talking to people or doing...
    Justventingg Justventingg 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 2, 2015

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 18-21, F 7 Responses Feb 7, 2015

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 50 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    I feel incredibly undesirable.

    The only men that seem into me are all old. It feels like no one my age finds me attractive. I know I'm not unattractive, but it just feels that way most of the time.
    dourpenguin dourpenguin 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 7, 2015

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    I am shy seem to struggle with finding a

    girlfriend sometimes. Always worried what other people think
    EdBrit25 EdBrit25 22-25, M 3 Responses Nov 20, 2015

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    I wish that I can like myself

    for who I am even just for one day. I'm tired of disliking who I am. I've had a low self esteem since I was a child. :/ I feel like my low self esteem is the main reason why people get bored of me so easily.
    rcmh171822 rcmh171822 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 13, 2015

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I don't feel pretty..

    .I hate how I look.. :(
    yoru1234 yoru1234 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 5

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    Let someone love just the way you are,

    as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less then perfect, is too believe that...
    liquidgold18k liquidgold18k 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 7, 2015

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    Anyone ever feel much worse

    when they walk outside and face people ? Like you can feel them judging you and stuff ?
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses Sep 6, 2015

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    dyingsnowangel dyingsnowangel 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 28

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    Your smell makes me cry and this shirt smells

    of you So I hold it to my face and I sleep with it Because with out you I'd cease to exist.
    EndlessBummerz EndlessBummerz 26-30, M Jan 26

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    I'm a paradox. I wanna be happy,

    but I think of things that make me sad. I'm lazy, yet I'm ambitious. I don't like myself, but I also love who I am. I say I don't care, but I really do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I'm a conflicted contradiction. if I can't figure myself out, there's...
    JustAnotherGirlOnEP JustAnotherGirlOnEP 18-21, F 2 Responses Sep 11, 2015

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    https://www.youtube.com/watch?

    v=ystcJh3HwkI Ignore the quality of my video :) i just want you to watch and think about it...
    ghostdolly ghostdolly 13-15, F Dec 27, 2015

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 18, 2015

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    Having this disease is excruciating.

    Inside I rot and squirm unable to get rid of this feeling, and I just smile to the world to convince them that I'm okay. I can't move forward in anything, for fear of failing. "I'm worthless," I tell myself. I have nothing to contribute. Irrelevant is what I am. I am nothing. In...
    artemicionmoon artemicionmoon 26-30, M Feb 2

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    When will I be able to stand up

    for myself?When will I be able to say what I want to say without fear of what people may think of me? If someone were to say something that I personally didn't agree with I don't know if I could say what I'm really thinking rather than being fake and agreeing/being passive about...
    aquamoongoddess aquamoongoddess 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    But I've learned to deal with it.

    Sometimes I feel absolutely horrible about myself, but not as much as I used to after leaving my exes who have put me through some miserable things. Now I embrace that I'm not good looking, I embrace every flaw, my crooked, big teeth; my fat, round face; my uneven skin color...
    ghostofthesun ghostofthesun 22-25, F Dec 20, 2015

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    Life is overwhelming,

    I don't know what to do about anything anymore and I just want to cut. The problem is the tattoo I got to symbolize to myself that I wouldn't cut again. I've only told a few select people about the real meaning behind it but I'm at that point that I'm ready to give it up and...
    lovelylies420 lovelylies420 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 28, 2015

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    I am disgusting. I had hypothyroidism

    and my *** and thighs got so fat. I'm pale and you can see my veins. I look like hell without makeup. I started medication for my thyroid but I still can't lose weight. I go to the gym 5 days a week. I eat the best I can but I eventually break down and binge. Ah. Just feels...
    Peaches4you Peaches4you 26-30, F 7 Responses Sep 7, 2015

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