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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    I'm just fat and ugly

    and I hate it. No one can ever love me. That's just it.
    jezebelmm jezebelmm 13-15, F 5 Responses Jan 16

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    I Am Weird

    I have a big head, horrible face, depression, bipolar disorder, assexual(option because my natural state is gay), crippled by depression over the years, I am talking about 16 years battling this illness. I have no elf-steem cause I am horrible, I dont leave the house, just go out...
    Riqq Riqq 26-30, M 17 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I am really sick of feeling like a failure all

    of the time. I'm tired of wanting to die every time I make a mistake. The reason why I feel this way is because all of my peers treat me this way. They treat me like a failure and always have. I am sixteen, and in my whole life so far, I have always been treated like a failure...
    charlieisme charlieisme 16-17, F 2 Responses Feb 7

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    I have to write something about myself,

    for therapy purposes. I have to describe this character that happens to be me. I don't really know what to say. I barely can write this ...
    Dylanismyfriend Dylanismyfriend 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 8

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    I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)

    Babystep #2 Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.             When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”.  I thought of all negative things, my flaws.  But then...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 5 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I always find it hard to have confidence in

    something. I envy some people. They don't seem to have difficulty about confidence. They seem to be always trusting themselves. No matter how much i work for something and trust myself about it or no matter how much i try to look at the mirror and see something beautiful it...
    phoebechan phoebechan 18-21, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    I use to be able to look in the mirror

    and tell myself "damn I'm one sexy mofo" but now I can't even look in the mirror ;-; I got all the ugly looks and my sisters got all the good looks .-. I don't like going anywhere bcuz I feel like when ppl look at me they judge me but that is how society is they judge based on...
    FadingStarrr FadingStarrr 16-17, F 2 Responses Jan 13

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 2

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    I can't talk about anything with my mom with

    out her telling me to get a job or get my license. It ****** me off because: It's really ******* hard to get a job here. Every teenager in this town is hunting for one, and only the rich are getting hired (makes so much sense right??) I'm TERRIFIED of all vehicles except school...
    bigca1697 bigca1697 16-17, F Feb 15

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    I dont remember the last time

    that I felt good or happy about myself. Im not a girl with overweight problems but neither Im skinny model. I've never saw myself at the mirror and smiled and said Im beautiful.. or if I did.. at the next second I saw my friends more beautiful more skinny.. and more atractive...
    Bella1314 Bella1314 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    I used to think I was cool

    and had allot of friends..... But then I realized I was completely ****ing stupid...... And ppl started bullying me and I started getting bad grades and my room was falling apart (not literally) and that's when I got low self esteem so yeah
    Lolllipoop Lolllipoop 13-15, M 4 Responses Jan 14

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    Launch young always have been the black sheep

    in the family , always the typical problem child in school because always ending up failing when others can do it properly . Furthermore got bullied into silence throughout my school years because I did not have the courage to ask for help or ask because fear took control over...
    asianahyang96 asianahyang96 18-21, M Jan 20

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    Truer words not spoken,

    gotta love yourself if you want someone to love you. Think about it - http://hailey2thequeen.weebly.com/blog/what-about-love
    sassyhelen sassyhelen 18-21 Jan 11

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    I must be completely stupid

    and ugly.....I have 1 friend, no girlfriend, people don't really talk to me unless they have too, or want something I have, normally money....maybe life isn't what it's cracked up to be....
    vyntharin vyntharin 26-30, M Jan 28

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    I hate the fact that I'm a b-cup.

    . My sister is a DD and my mother is overweight but has to get her bras out of boxes at the store and my aunt has DD's too! But I'm 18 with small breasts.. I'm skinnier than all of them so I decided it's probably because of that that I have a smaller chest.
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 16 Responses Oct 9, 2014

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    Very very low. I've always been made fun of.

    I have fat legs, stomach, arms.. Everything. I also have stretchmarks in all of those areas. I hate it so much...
    WishMeLuck15 WishMeLuck15 13-15, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 31

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    Sveny Sveny 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 20

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F 10 Responses Feb 7

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    one minute you are on top of the world,

    next minute you feel ugly and unimportant. ..ugh life
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response a week ago

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    Feeling really bad today.

    Got hit with depression. Sucks because I find more people online who hate me and also there is absolutely nothing good about me. Every single thing I've tried I've failed. I've never been good at anything I've tried. Everyone had a strength but I literally don't! I'm just so...
    1lonelydaisy 1lonelydaisy 41-45 1 Response Jan 15

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 11 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    Holy smokes, how those in my early hears

    chipped away at me! My only freedom from worry and care came in my late teens and early 20s... But at a cost. I survived by not caring; by steamrolling my way over anyone between me and my wants. I was beyond selfish. And it was lonely, dangerous, and equally as debilitating...
    OldNRusty OldNRusty 41-45, M Jan 12

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    When you're told two conflicting truths,

    its hard to see what is really there. On the one hand, you are told every day what an amazing and unique individual you are. On the other hand, you know that you are just like everyone else and don't stand out unless you push yourself to the max. I feel like I'm never going to...
    coleslayer coleslayer 26-30 Jan 15

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    Very much so. I've been told my entire life I'm

    fat. I get bullied and I hate how my body looks. I used to cry myself to sleep at night. Now I stay as strong as I can, and I don't cry.
    Gabrielaaaa99 Gabrielaaaa99 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    You Can Destroy Me With One Sentence

    But you mustn't, I beat myself up enough, when I think about the chances I missed in life, my wasted talent. I feel a bit more worthless every day.
    RickiChickie RickiChickie 46-50, F 23 Responses May 1, 2011

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    So here comes the day in

    which i feel like sh*t. I use the tinder app, you know, but i dont really use it for dating, which is ironic, i know. But, i use it because i want to know if someone can like me. Ridiculous, i know. I want someone to call me at least cute, not asking for such compliments like...
    MissPeruvian MissPeruvian 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 15

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 41 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    Success In Failures

    I stood in middle of road broke; cornered from all sides and felt there is no light on either sides of dark tunnel. i decided to fight this battle and asked god to strengthen me and give me one opportunity to fight back. it came and i took up and i found the light in the corner...
    giftafamily giftafamily 41-45 6 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    No matter how hard but its true,

    no one can truly love us if we dont love ourselves. This sums it up so well - http://hailey2thequeen.weebly.com/blog/lovestruck
    sassyhelen sassyhelen 18-21 2 Responses Jan 11

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    My Self Esteem Is In The Toilet

    I've always felt that I was inferior to others and not superior. I just feel that the self esteem has been sucked out of me. I've never felt attractive or pretty. Always felt every female that is my age has it all together and is prettier than me . I had to leave college because...
    scorpiobabe82 scorpiobabe82 26-30 14 Responses Sep 7, 2010

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    I recently deleted all other social media from

    my life due to the fact that it was causing so much harm to my self esteem. I woke up every morning blindly scrolling through each app. Spending hours in a state of a zombie, looking but not really or retaining any real information. I lost myself trying to be social.
    Danlor9991 Danlor9991 22-25, M 3 Responses Feb 8

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    I hate how all my friends are prettier

    than me. I hate how all my friends all have guys in their lives, even multiple guys, who fight over them. I just feel like I don't measure up. All I want in life is a little companionship. But guys who seem interested in me turn out not to be. I've never had a boyfriend, never...
    Xoxolife Xoxolife 16-17, F 4 Responses Jan 21

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I constantly question my own ability thinking

    that I can ever achieve the impossible, psyching myself out
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 4 Responses Jan 28

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    I really don't find myself

    that attractive........I have big hips,brown skin,I have a weird voice that is really high,I have small fingers,a big head,marks oh my face and crazy hair😕 And big feet and I am curvy
    AjaxJaxson AjaxJaxson 13-15, F 3 Responses Feb 11

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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