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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I really have no worth in this world.

    All motivation has been completely destroyed. I am the laziest piece of garbage anyone will ever meet. I think I would be doing the world a favor if I kill myself. This is what I see when I look at myself in the mirror. Its pretty messed up. I dont even know how I ended up here...
    DifferentOutsider DifferentOutsider 22-25, M 5 Responses Aug 9

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15

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    I'm not good enough never have been

    and never will be I wish people understood how bad im struggling right now going out tonight to a bar with friends sucks enough since I don't drink I feel left out already I watch women not because I'm attracted to them because I long to look like them I just want to not feel...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 25

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    I wish I was confident

    and outgoing. Probably never gonna happen.
    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 29

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    All my life, I've felt like I'm second-rate,

    that the people around me (friends, family) are more interesting, more intelligent, more attractive, funnier, stronger, kinder, and I'm just a consolation prize, an honorable mention. I know I shouldn't think this way, that everyone is different, that we each excel in one way...
    JHeit JHeit 18-21, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I've grown up being bullied

    because I was always overweight. I wasn't the perfect size, I didn't wear a boat load of makeup. I didn't wear the popular brand name clothing. every time I look in the mirror I am seriously so disgusted with myself. I could put on a whole pound of makeup and still want to hide...
    abbyhh25 abbyhh25 16-17, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Let Men Use Me

    This kind of spurred from another post I made, that made me think about this.. I let myself be used because i have low self esteem... You'd never know it talking to me in person. Like I've said before, I'm one of the popular girls, I'm a leader, I'm the one others look up to. I...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 26-30, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    All my life I’ve been harboring the thought

    “I’m not good enough.” At school, if I didn’t score the maximum grade, I wasn’t good enough. If I didn’t pick up each and every weed in the garden, not good enough. If not doing what was expected, finishing too early, not good enough. I studied a masters degree and...
    TryingToGetIt TryingToGetIt 26-30 1 Response Aug 9

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    My Self Esteem Is In The Toilet

    I've always felt that I was inferior to others and not superior. I just feel that the self esteem has been sucked out of me. I've never felt attractive or pretty. Always felt every female that is my age has it all together and is prettier than me . I had to leave college because...
    scorpiobabe82 scorpiobabe82 26-30 14 Responses Sep 7, 2010

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    There was once my teacher explains about

    depression, she looked at me and say " I see there are a few here who are suffering in depression " it's like she was talking about me. Every time she asked me to read in front of students, I read very fast and very soft, my teacher will ask me to read again and again. Sometimes...
    GravityFall GravityFall 18-21, F 2 Responses Jan 11

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    I Am Weird

    I have a big head, horrible face, depression, bipolar disorder, assexual(option because my natural state is gay), crippled by depression over the years, I am talking about 16 years battling this illness. I have no elf-steem cause I am horrible, I dont leave the house, just go out...
    Riqq Riqq 26-30, M 17 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    When I look in the mirror I do not see a pretty

    or sexy woman. I was not very pretty growing up and didn't even start dating until I was 19. I was always told I was ugly or that I had to be sick. I am a very tall woman and very thin, naturally. I was always picked on and tormented. It has really caused me to hold back in a...
    tlh2014 tlh2014 31-35, F 5 Responses Feb 27

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    I don't need to live my life waiting

    or trying to be "good enough" because I am already "good enough" right now, right now I am perfect and I will always be perfect for me. -self love is beautiful, soul warming, okay, and a very needed thing for human kind to possess in order to keep the flow of love going :)
    mzwhat mzwhat 26-30, F 2 Responses 3 days ago

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    When people tell me I'm pretty

    and I don't agree with them its not because I like the attention or because I don't believe them, beauty is in the eye of the beholder. For some strange reason they might actually think that I'm pretty. It's because when I was younger no one ever called me pretty, pretty much...
    TheRouge TheRouge 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 11

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    I'm sick in the head

    and I can't fix it I think I will start to get better but then it comes back even worse than before I need help with this and have no one to turn to cause they just say it's not true but no one understands I need someone I can relate to
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F Jul 25

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    fetishacx fetishacx 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)

    Babystep #2 Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.             When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”.  I thought of all negative things, my flaws.  But then...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    It's so hard to feel good about yourself

    when you spend over an hour trying to convince someone that they are beautiful then the second you send a pic they leave. I guess I seriously misread the situation, but I kinda thought that maybe my personality would make up for my apparent ugliness.
    makaiajane makaiajane 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Success In Failures

    I stood in middle of road broke; cornered from all sides and felt there is no light on either sides of dark tunnel. i decided to fight this battle and asked god to strengthen me and give me one opportunity to fight back. it came and i took up and i found the light in the corner...
    giftafamily giftafamily 41-45 6 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    I have the type of low self esteem

    where I pretend I'm really confident but the second someone makes a negative comment it lingers in my mind forever. I also have the terrible habit of only focusing on the negative parts about me
    phoenixpheathers phoenixpheathers 13-15, F 1 Response Jun 20

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    I use to have low self esteem

    and would like to share my feelings so that it might be able to help others. Let me start off by saying I view myself as a perfectionist. In my early high school years I had very low self esteem because I was very small in size and I always wanted to be bigger, but couldn't...
    DavidRHall1996 DavidRHall1996 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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    I constantly criticize my self.

    I hate how I look and hate how I act around people some times. I always say stupid things and even find my own self annoying some times. I feel like there is something wrong with me and that's why I have no friends.
    Cartwheel3694 Cartwheel3694 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 20

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    Yesterday a friend and I were in a park

    relaxing. A group of guys came and approached her, my friend is more curvy then I am naturally petite. My friend is really developed for her age so all the guys were all over her talking about how sexy she is and how big her butt is. I admit I was really jealous and wished I...
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 6 Responses Jul 7

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    I literally hate myself with about everything I

    have inside of me . I can't even look into a mirror without wanting to barf . I'm trying to become a happier me but it's hard when I have such a low self esteem .
    r3alfri3nds r3alfri3nds 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 8

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    There's just something about me.

    I'm a quiet and meek guy. And sometimes my friends joke about my lack in confidence, confidence and masculinity. My low self esteem makes me insecure when they poke fun of me. I'm glad I did not lose my temper at any of them; at the same time I feel lousy and confused. Maybe I...
    browniepants browniepants 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 2

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    It won't go away I saw a super cute dress

    yesterday and picked it up then put it back down then made myself go back today and was gonna get it but a skinny girl was buying the same dress and so I didn't buy it I just want to feel better it's a struggle non stop part of me is saying I might look ok in it then part says...
    willieverbegoodenough willieverbegoodenough 22-25, F Jul 16

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    I have the lowest self esteem,

    I seriously go to guys for attention to feel good about myself, and I've done it so much that I am truly ashamed of my past, but now I hope I can find a guy that likes me for me, and doesn't use me and accepts my past and wants to make a bigger and brighter future with me. I...
    jeennalouise jeennalouise 18-21, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    I think I feel the worst

    when I think about the size difference between me and my boyfriend. I always felt the male should be bigger, that it was simply a sign of masculinity. My Boyfriend of 5 m/o is tall and lanky, 140lbs and 5'10. I'm short and fat, 5'3 and between 125-130. At my heaviest I was 165...
    genericidiot genericidiot 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 2

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    I wonder what it's like to wake up

    and love yourself. To look in the mirror and not want to cry. To weigh yourself, see the number, and not want to starve. To be with friends and not feel ugly. To go into public and not be insecure. To go shopping for clothes and not feel fat. I just wonder; what it's like...
    Ally95xx Ally95xx 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 19

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 41 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 7 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 8 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    ksgirl11 ksgirl11 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I think it was a combination of everything

    being picked on, marginalized, bullied relentlessly, sexual harassment,not saying anything for so long. feeling like no one accepted me for who I really was, I didn't accept myself and still sometimes don't. feeling like my family tried to change me for the longest time. The...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 8

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 10 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 12 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    Beauty has a vast definition.

    It differs from one person to another. I am cynical when it comes to compliments given to me. I can't help it but to disagree even knowing everyone has their own definition of what's beautiful to them. I can't see what they see. I want to be beautiful. The kind of beauty where...
    MarieAiko MarieAiko 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 25

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    How can someone ever love me

    if I don't like myself sometimes. I have my good days and my bad days. Honestly today feels like one of those bad days. Sometimes though I come to the conclusion that having a boyfriend would solve all of my problems. He would maybe help me see what he ultimately sees in me. But...
    Savone52798 Savone52798 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 1

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    I've been invited to apply

    for a very prestigious position at work and it would be a huge opportunity personally and professionally. The fact that my name is on an incredibly short list at all is really impressive. Here's the problem. I have the worst possible self esteem. I'm in therapy now working on...
    thelasttoknow thelasttoknow 31-35, F 2 Responses Aug 7

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I am really shy and I never think

    that I have done something well when apparently I have, my teachers have clearly noticed this as me and a few other under confident students have been put in this group where we play team building games in a hut in the middle of the staff car park for an hour
    Melonfriends Melonfriends 13-15, F Jul 2

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    I feel like nobody likes me.

    Even my boyfriend complains about me. I feel like my personality is just horrible and when I'm trying to be funny that no one evens finds it funny. I feel like an annoyance to everyone. I'm always so outgoing and try to joke around but I guess it's too much? But it's better then...
    sarahhunnix3 sarahhunnix3 18-21, F 4 Responses Apr 23

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    I hate being skinny. I wish I was thicker.

    It's much more attractive. I hate having fast metabolism I want I gain weight. I don't think I will ever love myself.
    Diamond1029 Diamond1029 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 6

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    From years of my mom telling me

    that I was fat and that I needed to lose weight my self esteem has plummeted to an all time low. I avoid mirrors, clothes shopping, hanging out with my skinnier friends, and I cut myself now because I can't stand myself or my body. Sometimes I wish that when I fall asleep, I'll...
    weby667 weby667 22-25, F 1 Response Jul 19

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