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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 8 Responses Jan 31

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 40 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    MyLifee99 MyLifee99 13-15 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 6 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners 18-21, F 8 Responses Mar 18

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    It sucks having low self esteem

    and I think its all because of my last relationship..
    dawwnn dawwnn 16-17, F Mar 15

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    I always find it hard to have confidence in

    something. I envy some people. They don't seem to have difficulty about confidence. They seem to be always trusting themselves. No matter how much i work for something and trust myself about it or no matter how much i try to look at the mirror and see something beautiful it...
    phoebechan phoebechan 18-21, F 3 Responses Feb 22

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    I still have a lot of issues with myself

    and my appearance but I can honestly say I’m so much more confident than I was a year ago. and that's something I'm proud of.
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 9 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 18-21, F 5 Responses Mar 28, 2014

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    I dont remember the last time

    that I felt good or happy about myself. Im not a girl with overweight problems but neither Im skinny model. I've never saw myself at the mirror and smiled and said Im beautiful.. or if I did.. at the next second I saw my friends more beautiful more skinny.. and more atractive...
    Bella1314 Bella1314 18-21, F 5 Responses Nov 28, 2014

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    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 9 Responses Jan 2

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    I don't know what to do about this.

    It just feel as if everyone is so much better than me in terms of intelligence, awareness, creativity, knowledge and so many other aspects. What worth do I actually have in this world? How can I make a difference in this world? I want to help it so badly, but I just lack the...
    DarkLoser DarkLoser 13-15, F 5 Responses Mar 6

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    Progress Forward

    I think that technically I don't have low self esteem anymore. I get doubtful moments when I'm feeling weak but I don't think I actually have it anymore. However, this is a huge progress for me. Since I was little I hated my looks, thought I was ugly as hell and just wanted to...
    darktippedrose darktippedrose 31-35, F 8 Responses Nov 10, 2012

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    I've alwys had... Since I was a kid.

    I grew up so scare of people. And I felt myself so insignificant. Always. Even now. And the saddest part is that I've been in therapy for six years. Nothing changed. I don't want to be like this forever, but I don't know what to do. It makes me feel so guilty the fact that I...
    Starinthedeath Starinthedeath 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    I know I'm not beautiful.

    I know what beautiful people look like and that's just not me. If I was beautiful, I wouldn't be 18 and never had a boyfriend, unless you count the kind that doesn't talk to you or look at you or hold your hand. If I was beautiful, someone other than my parents would think so...
    ArwenUndomiel62 ArwenUndomiel62 18-21, F 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I always do bad on a test

    even thought I studied hard for the exam. A novel by me.
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 4 Responses Feb 18

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    convertihd convertihd 46-50, M Mar 10

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    At the moment I'm in retreat,

    and going through a lot of soul-searching. One of the things that's come up in my procrastination breaking programme is the notion of self-acceptance because often it is want of perfection that stops us from taking action, due to fear of failure. At the moment I'm going through...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 6 Responses Oct 23, 2014

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    Very very low. I've always been made fun of.

    I have fat legs, stomach, arms.. Everything. I also have stretchmarks in all of those areas. I hate it so much...
    WishMeLuck15 WishMeLuck15 13-15, F 2 Responses Feb 25

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    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter 41-45, M 7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

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    JourneyOfLife JourneyOfLife 22-25, M 2 Responses Mar 2

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 51 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    I'm ugly, I stutter and have no friends.

    Self esteem? What self esteem?!
    hreinn hreinn 18-21, M 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    I absorb the positive feelings

    that people feel towards(specifically if I think they like me) so I feel someone likes me I would like them back. The problem is I am shy as **** so it never goes anywhere and usually I can tell through eye contact(because eyes are a good conveyor of feelings)
    Overdrive18 Overdrive18 18-21, M 1 day ago

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    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

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    is more like a rant about my life

    so far. Everytime I got the chance, I like to go out by myself and think about things (everything and anything so far) and here is what I got so far. I graduated high school almost two years ago. During that time of my life I never did anything crazy. I mostly focus only on...
    OrangeCaramel OrangeCaramel 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 16

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    No matter what i do to clear my acne it always

    comes back... Why?!?!. I hate life...
    MyLifee99 MyLifee99 13-15 2 Responses Mar 18

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    Sometimes you think of yourself

    as an afterthought rather than just a thought
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 15

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    I was washing my hair

    when I thought of the following today: I can't allow anybody else to determine my sense of esteem. Nobody knows me well enough to judge me anyway, so why should their view be the source of my esteem? Just as my own view of myself is pretty fractured due to my past and present...
    sometimeslonelytoo sometimeslonelytoo 41-45, M 4 Responses Oct 11, 2014

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    I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)

    Babystep #2 Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.             When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”.  I thought of all negative things, my flaws.  But then...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    Let me get this off my chest.

    .... Since I was little I was made fun of by the only male figures in my life (my bro and father). I blossomed into a woman who gets pleasure when other men say that I'm attractive because I never got that I'm beautiful from the male figures in my life. Fast forward to now...
    nancylu1234567890 nancylu1234567890 26-30, F 3 Responses Mar 22

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    I always hate the "it's not you" "not your

    fault" speech...still makes me feel like I failed in some way
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 3 Responses Mar 9

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    I've never really told anyone how I feel truly

    because I don't want anyone to feel bad for me or worry about me. But for the longest time, ive been plagued with negative thoughts inside of my head. I can't stop them, the more I try, the worse they become, I feel like. I constantly doubt myself and my abilities, even though j...
    cbeez25tree cbeez25tree 22-25, M 1 Response 6 days ago

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    I guess it's an issue

    that stems from childhood, and has sort of followed me ever since. I was bullied in primary school. Looking back on it now, it probably wasn't as viscous as others have experienced, but as a young girl trying to discover who she is, being excluded and having mean words thrown...
    DropsofJupiter1 DropsofJupiter1 18-21, F 9 Responses Mar 22

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    There's just something about me.

    I'm a quiet and meek guy. And sometimes my friends joke about my lack in confidence, confidence and masculinity. My low self esteem makes me insecure when they poke fun of me. I'm glad I did not lose my temper at any of them; at the same time I feel lousy and confused. Maybe I...
    browniepants browniepants 26-30, M 5 Responses Feb 2, 2014

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    I realized today that the main cause of most of

    my problems was shame. I am ashamed of myself to the point that any little thing I do wrong makes me hate a part of myself. This builds and builds until it consumes me and it's all I can think about and focus on. I am ashamed of some of the things I've had to keep secret. I'm...
    ChelseaJN ChelseaJN 18-21, F 3 Responses 6 days ago

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    good quote time: "When you're different,

    sometimes you don't see the millions of people who accept you for what you are. All you notice is the person who doesn't." - Jodi picoult
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Mar 9

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    I don't feel good enough anymore.

    .. I feel like it's only matter of time before it starts to end. I don't want it to of course but I can meet seem to make people want to stay with me.
    bigca1697 bigca1697 16-17, F 3 Responses Mar 8

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 16-17, F 1 Response Jan 9, 2014

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    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305 16-17, F 10 Responses Feb 7

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    I owe it all to my parents,

    always calling me stupid and telling me that I'm a bad person who isn't good enough. Whenever I want to talk, they tell me to go to my room and talk to myself.
    smurfinaround smurfinaround 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 23

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    Why

    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

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    one minute you are on top of the world,

    next minute you feel ugly and unimportant. ..ugh life
    jbm1984 jbm1984 31-35, F 1 Response Feb 23