I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I feel so useless, ugly,

    and unloved...I always get ignored by men or get negative attention for being unattractive and it makes me sad bc I feel like no one will ever love me. I don't just hate my looks but I hate my personality as well. I feel like I'm worthless and not good at anything. I grew up...
    paintdeath paintdeath
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 4, 2016

    You Can Destroy Me With One Sentence

    But you mustn't, I beat myself up enough, when I think about the chances I missed in life, my wasted talent. I feel a bit more worthless every day.
    RickiChickie RickiChickie
    51-55, F
    21 Responses May 1, 2011

    Which doesn't feel like me.

    . I used to be so happy with who I was. That was the real me. I was always myself, I didn't care what other people thought (though I was never one of those pieces of **** who don't care when they constantly hurt other people). Who I am now just feels fake.. like I'm only what...
    Redstar86 Redstar86
    31-35, M
    2 Responses Apr 13, 2016
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    8 Responses Jan 2, 2015

    ok so for the past 6 years I have been dealing

    with self esteem issues. there are some days where I wake up and I hate my self. I have the way I look and I feel like im never good enough.I was recently in a relationship of four years.And he would tell me that I wasnt pretty, never will be as good as other,and that no one...
    nijjana nijjana
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 9, 2016

    Shoutout to the girls

    that hate their bodies but are trying really really hard to find the beauty and comfort in them because that **** is hard and takes a lot of time and is emotionally exhausting. I'm proud of y'all.
    MissQueenB MissQueenB
    22-25, F
    Jan 9, 2016

    Hello, I recently got rejected by a girl I have

    known for a few months. After the rejection, sometimes thoughts would come up in my head like, "what if she meets some guy and they get together, doesn't that it mean that guy is better than me because he knew how to talk to her and managed to impress her while I couldn't." I...
    wjs066 wjs066
    22-25, M
    4 Responses Feb 11, 2016

    When you're surrounded by smart,

    georgeous/good-looking, rich, talented and healthy thin people, you just had to keep yourself as low as possible. You know you'll have trouble fitting it. Might as well just stay invisible and slowly blend in the background.
    CallMeShayYeah CallMeShayYeah
    18-21, F
    6 Responses Apr 2, 2015

    I am disgusting. I had hypothyroidism

    and my *** and thighs got so fat. I'm pale and you can see my veins. I look like hell without makeup. I started medication for my thyroid but I still can't lose weight. I go to the gym 5 days a week. I eat the best I can but I eventually break down and binge. Ah. Just feels...
    Peaches4you Peaches4you
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Sep 7, 2015
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 17, 2016

    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08
    26-30, F
    14 Responses Feb 21, 2007

    I wish everyone would stop judging

    and accept people for who they are. Then maybe that way my self esteem wouldn't be so low.
    crystalrosie crystalrosie
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 7, 2015

    I've always had low self esteem

    and I probably always will. I'm still in that point of life where I'm trying to love myself, it's easier said than done. I have flaws that have been picked on and pointed out while growing up so convincing myself that those are also beautiful ..... is really hard but I'm taking...
    MickxLove MickxLove
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Feb 16, 2016

    one of my traits responsible

    for a great deal of trouble.
    ArnoldJRimmer ArnoldJRimmer
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Jan 27, 2016

    My friend is always mean to me,

    in a nice way. I went to practice one day and I was really mad because I had basically picked out off of my flaws. And she asked me what my problem was, and I began telling her everything that I was happy with, and she literally slapped me across the face so hard. And she was...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Jul 29, 2015

    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo
    36-40, F
    40 Responses Jan 31, 2008


    The reasons why I have low self esteem i guess go all the way back to when my father left i guess it maximized every little detail i saw wrong with myself and as i got older i tried to make up for it by comfort in other words....food needless to say it hasnt done wonders for my...
    Celticgirl1279 Celticgirl1279
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Jul 24, 2013

    I feel like even if I wanted to I couldn't be

    anorexic, I don't have the strength to just not eat! Sometimes I wish I did, other times I've very happy that that I can't because I know it wouldn't be in any way a good idea! I have fasted a few times before but never longer than 24 hours.. I have done it in awhile though...
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 18, 2015

    I wish that I can like myself

    for who I am even just for one day. I'm tired of disliking who I am. I've had a low self esteem since I was a child. :/ I feel like my low self esteem is the main reason why people get bored of me so easily.
    rcmh171822 rcmh171822
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Aug 13, 2015

    I hate the fact that I'm a b-cup.

    . My sister is a DD and my mother is overweight but has to get her bras out of boxes at the store and my aunt has DD's too! But I'm 18 with small breasts.. I'm skinnier than all of them so I decided it's probably because of that that I have a smaller chest.
    Jessicaliners Jessicaliners
    18-21, F
    12 Responses Oct 9, 2014

    "I am not confident to do this!

    " This has been my words for so long. but whenever I say that..what all the other persons always say is "Just do it whatever you think is good!" I felt like I am walking all alone on my own. I don't know why they have confidence in me when I don't have it myself. You know...
    whyacinth whyacinth
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Feb 23, 2016

    Something happened to me

    and now I can't see myself the way I want to. I'm to fat I'm ugly, it may not be what happened to me that caused this but I want to fix myself
    Kateclow Kateclow
    70+, F
    2 Responses Feb 19, 2016

    hello, i'm 16th and i have an oily face

    which means i have acnes. i am so desperate of it. i cry sometimes. and yesterday i went to a doctor. i had an facial, chemical peeling and i forgot what was the last one. i went home and realised that my face (for me) got worsed. i have acnes scars in my face. my cheeks was...
    redfloral redfloral
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Apr 5, 2016

    Feeling pressured to have sex?

    If someone you just met (or have been talking to for a while) told you that you were pretty, maybe took you on a date and then afterwards asked you for $100, would you say yes? I'm pretty sure 99% would answer no to this question. So then if the answer is no to $100, why is...
    OhGK OhGK
    26-30, F
    4 Responses Jun 15, 2014

    I purchased this book years ago titled

    "Breaking the Chain of Low Self Esteem," and I am just now getting around to reading it. Within the first couple of chapters is a questionnaire to help you grade how serious your low self esteem is. I knew I HAD LSE but did not realize it fell in the severe LSE category. LSE...
    deleted deleted
    3 Responses Jun 18, 2015

    Anyone ever feel much worse

    when they walk outside and face people ? Like you can feel them judging you and stuff ?
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Sep 6, 2015

    I got bullied in high school by a bunch of

    girls. They treated me really badly like someone who wasn't worthy of being their friends. My best friend, only nice friend, eventually turned on me and never spoke to me again. Since then I've had half-assed, abusive type friendships and I've stopped talking to people or doing...
    Justventingg Justventingg
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Aug 2, 2015

    i always feel like the worst

    when somebody says, you look different today. do i look bad? most probably. ugliest girl ever
    floralpastel floralpastel
    16-17, F
    Feb 16, 2016

    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    i don't know if this is the right group

    for my case but i fear competition in everything , especially in exams or arguments .. , since i was in elementry school till now (college ) i fear competing with my friends . Its a mixed feeling between fear , low self esteem , anxiety and fear of success , i always...
    chappyy chappyy
    22-25, M
    1 Response Feb 24, 2016

    I know some people here has low self esteem

    and think they're not 'hot' enough for their crush. Let me tell you something. Looks aren't everything. And if YOUR crush thinks that looks are everything, then you need to find someone better. They don't deserve you. Looks don't define ANYTHING. Looks are beautiful, but they...
    Violetblossoms Violetblossoms
    22-25, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2016

    ugh I just hate myself.

    .. I feel like I'm dying on the inside. I hate pushing away the people I care about.I hate feeling like I'm never good enough. I hate feeling alone...I hate feeling like I'm losing myself... I hate putting on the fake smile when on the inside I'm dying
    nijjana nijjana
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Apr 9, 2016

    After years of being called ugly,

    stupid,retarded, special,disabled, poor,weird,creepy,and lots more! This is what I've become. I hate myself I can't do anything right I'm more than 100% talentless.
    wassup305 wassup305
    18-21, F
    7 Responses Feb 7, 2015

    I have always had low self esteem.

    And just when it seems I am getting through this problem, I go back to hating certain aspects of myself. My goal is to have a healthy self-esteem. To not think too highly or poorly of myself. And If possible, get rid of my ego, who argues with me everyday.
    TheemopandaX TheemopandaX
    18-21, F
    2 Responses May 26, 2015

    But when you're as a big a loser

    as I am, you should have low self-esteem.
    CarverReturns CarverReturns
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Mar 18, 2016

    Been a bad week, actually got told

    that I don't deserve to be alive...who even says that?
    stormy2468 stormy2468
    18-21, F
    8 Responses Sep 4, 2015

    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl
    18-21, F
    Jan 9, 2014

    How Others See You

    This is something that everyone should see, but especially women. So many times I compliment someone and tell them they are beautiful. I can tell that they don't believe me. I promise that I wouldn't waste the effort to tell you I think you're beautiful if I didn't think that. I...
    harveyspecter harveyspecter
    46-50, M
    7 Responses Apr 17, 2013

    I'm a paradox. I wanna be happy,

    but I think of things that make me sad. I'm lazy, yet I'm ambitious. I don't like myself, but I also love who I am. I say I don't care, but I really do. I crave attention, but reject it when it comes my way. I'm a conflicted contradiction. if I can't figure myself out, there's...
    JustAnotherGirlOnEP JustAnotherGirlOnEP
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 11, 2015

    I really don't get it.

    When I was a teen. I didn't care so much about what others said or did to me. I was in my happy bubble. But today, gaaah. I can't text anyone or have any conversation without regret. I want to be the strong teen again! I had an adult mentor/friend, who told me I had attitude...
    realcomplicated realcomplicated
    31-35, M
    1 Response Jan 28, 2016

    I am tired of life. I don't want to do this

    anymore. I would be better off not living in this world. I'm not capable of anything and I don't care anymore.
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo
    1 Response Feb 10, 2016

    When people say that they themselves are ugly I

    tell them that they are the most amazing, beautiful person I have ever met because it's true. Everyone has beauty within but when it comes to me, I always tell myself that I am ugly and look gross. Why is that?
    deleted deleted
    Apr 13, 2016

    When will I be able to stand up

    for myself?When will I be able to say what I want to say without fear of what people may think of me? If someone were to say something that I personally didn't agree with I don't know if I could say what I'm really thinking rather than being fake and agreeing/being passive about...
    deleted deleted
    2 Responses Feb 6, 2016

    man it's uncontrollable.

    no matter how many times people try to encourage me, try to support me, try to build me up, my brain teases me and always says 'you're never good enough, why are you allowing those people to waste their time on you'. and then everyone gets annoyed when I always beat myself down...
    BrokenArrow90 BrokenArrow90
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Mar 29, 2016

    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    18-21, F
    50 Responses Jan 21, 2010

    Let someone love just the way you are,

    as flawed as you might be, as unattractive as you sometimes feel, and as unaccomplished as you think you are. To believe that you must hide all the parts of you that are broken, out of fear that someone else is incapable of loving what is less then perfect, is too believe that...
    liquidgold18k liquidgold18k
    22-25, F
    1 Response Dec 7, 2015

    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted
    5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

    Hello, I havenĀ“t posted anything

    for a while.. Sh*te is I discovered the guy I've been with for some months now it's with another girl. We had an open relationship so its not cheating, I'm okay. He really likes her. She is fitter than me and she seems cooler than me too. This destroys my self esteem bc it's the...
    96Charlie 96Charlie
    18-21, F
    Feb 1, 2016

    all my low self esteem comes back to body image.

    its the worst ever. when i find myself not so confident its just because of that and im very shy. i look at the girls around me and im just sitting here like uh okay you guys look great. so then i try to starve myself but sometimes that doesnt work. im working on being a better...
    yungxgawd yungxgawd
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Mar 2, 2016

    Not all the time...but sometimes it's hard to

    stay positive and accept yourself in a world that so often rejects what you value.
    BeautifullyBrokenAngel BeautifullyBrokenAngel
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 17, 2016
    floralpastel floralpastel
    16-17, F
    1 Response Feb 16, 2016

    People used to ask me out

    as a joke, and one guy got low-key bullied for dating me once. I think that says a lot about how I look.
    NorthernRoses NorthernRoses
    18-21, F
    5 Responses Feb 13, 2016

    I would really appreciate

    if my mind just shut up right now...
    JustAnotherGirlOnEP JustAnotherGirlOnEP
    18-21, F
    4 Responses Sep 3, 2015

    I love criticism being piled on top of my

    so many crippling insecurities. I'm sorry I was trying to be nice and help you out but instead of just saying "hey man, that's cool I got it" you have to tell me "stop mothering me, you don't even do your own **** right why the **** would I want you trying to run me". =^=
    absorbingalpacas absorbingalpacas
    18-21, F
    Mar 1, 2016

    Having this disease is excruciating.

    Inside I rot and squirm unable to get rid of this feeling, and I just smile to the world to convince them that I'm okay. I can't move forward in anything, for fear of failing. "I'm worthless," I tell myself. I have nothing to contribute. Irrelevant is what I am. I am nothing. In...
    artemicionmoon artemicionmoon
    26-30, M
    Feb 2, 2016

    I feel like I allow people to push over me ,

    like I'm to nice like giving people second and third chance is what I think a person should have. But that's me being to nice. like if I was A B* all the time nobody would want to be around me but since I allow others to run over me continuously well thinking they can change...
    Navae Navae
    18-21, F
    Feb 17, 2016

    I never feel good enough.

    No not any more....
    GoldenDuck GoldenDuck
    41-45, F
    4 Responses Apr 11, 2016

    I've always felt like everyone else has

    something I don't. I've always been made to feel like other girls had something more special than me that made me less exciting to be around , never did quite feel good enough to keep someone interesting. I've tried being a good girl, tried being bad, hoping it would keep...
    deleted deleted
    1 Response Feb 12, 2016

    I don't think people realize

    that they make other people feel bad about themselves when they post a nice portrait of themselves anywhere or share their leadership or jobs or internships online... At least they make me feel bad about myself. Like incompetent. I hate posting pictures of myself because I feel...
    thisisausernametoo thisisausernametoo
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2016
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