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I Have Low Self Esteem

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    I've been in a relationship with a committed guy

    for close to 4years who is soon to tie a knot, I'm so afraid to leave and move on, I'm so afraid to fall in love again, I'm so afraid of him, afraid to tell him how I feel or even ask him about his marriage... I don't have the biggest of self-esteem I guess he has been my hiding...
    LadyMayah LadyMayah 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    I was abused horribly by my father from as

    for back as I can remember (my first memory was being punched in the chest) and at the same time bullied in school because of my deformed hand and the fact my family is poor. As an adult I have been cheated on in several relationships and betrayed by friends. And I've never had...
    dacraww dacraww 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    I have really low self esteem,

    it is reaching the point where I don't even want to go out and socialize because I don't feel good enough.
    MissMisunderstood1 MissMisunderstood1 16-17, F 6 Responses Mar 28

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    I can't help it. When I hear people laughing,

    I think they're laughing at me. I always think people are talking about me when they're in groups and I usually am too shy to ask a simple question to someone...I mean, I can pass from time to time especially when I'm with my friends but idk, I just don't like being around...
    123peppy 123peppy 16-17, F 3 Responses 4 days ago

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    It's that usual low-self esteem caused by

    worries. The worries of not being able to meet expectations despite disliking expectations and preferring to go wherever I please...afraid of making people's lives any worse....those sorts of things. I'm afraid despite knowing what I should be doing. I guess I'm just not...
    Katami Katami 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    Yeah pretty much :/ everyone here is

    so nice but for some reason people (boys especially) don't see that. Plus family doesn't really help considering they pick at my flaws 24/7...
    suzannah98 suzannah98 16-17, F 5 Responses Mar 28

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    I have the lowest self esteem,

    I seriously go to guys for attention to feel good about myself, and I've done it so much that I am truly ashamed of my past, but now I hope I can find a guy that likes me for me, and doesn't use me and accepts my past and wants to make a bigger and brighter future with me. I...
    jeennalouise jeennalouise 16-17, F 3 Responses Jan 2

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    Mirror, mirror, "Mirror,

    mirror, on my wall, I just want to be thin, pretty and tall. Mirror, mirror, if I change my hair, maybe someone will start to care. Mirror, mirror, if I starve myself at least I'll be beautiful, forget my health. Mirror, mirror , if I cut my wrist will I feel like I exist...
    MelXo MelXo 18-21, F 5 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    Yes this is me alright.

    Low self esteem and low confidence and all. I wish I was curvier seeing as a lot of people say real woman have curves. I have trouble keeping weight on. Tried eating healthy, adding protein stuff and working out for the past two years and I did keep it consistent. I went to my...
    lexik123 lexik123 18-21, F 9 Responses Dec 21, 2013

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    In terms of my body figure,

    yes.. I'm not that confident with my body. I'm a little big for an asian girl. My measurements went down ever since I have work. I can show some but I think I should work more on my tummy.
    BarbieChan BarbieChan 22-25, F 11 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    I wish i had perfect legs

    so i can walk in shorts.i never ever wear shorts bcus my legs are too fat.
    summerbeams summerbeams 18-21, F 16 Responses Feb 16

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    I don't like the way I look.

    People say I'm beautiful. Even without makeup. I honestly deep down don't see the person they're talking about. There's only one person I've ever felt beautiful with. And I might be in love with him. But who knows where that will lead. I'm working on it though. Slowly I'm trying...
    shecanfly88 shecanfly88 18-21, F 14 Responses Dec 12, 2013

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    When I look in the mirror I do not see a pretty

    or sexy woman. I was not very pretty growing up and didn't even start dating until I was 19. I was always told I was ugly or that I had to be sick. I am a very tall woman and very thin, naturally. I was always picked on and tormented. It has really caused me to hold back in a...
    tlh2014 tlh2014 31-35, F 6 Responses Feb 27

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    I've pretty much had low self esteem

    since the age of 6, I got put down a lot about my weight when I was a kid and that I had a few learning difficulties. I'm 15 now and I still struggle with it. I get put down because of how big my legs are, how I'm still struggling with learning difficulties and how I'm so...
    venetiaroses venetiaroses 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    Worried About Everything

    As well as being paranoid about my looks I also worry about things as small as going to a new building - I worry that I'll look like an idiot when I can't find the door or I'll be trying to push it when it says pull! I have no idea why I worry about this I don't judge...
    mum08 mum08 26-30, F 15 Responses Feb 21, 2007

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    "After A While" After a

    while you learn the subtle difference between holding a hand and chaining a soul and you learn love doesn't mean leaning and company doesn't always mean security. And you begin to learn that kisses aren't contracts and presents aren't always promises and you begin to accept your...
    mommaceitta mommaceitta 51-55, F 13 hrs ago

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    I Am Weird

    I have a big head, horrible face, depression, bipolar disorder, assexual(option because my natural state is gay), crippled by depression over the years, I am talking about 16 years battling this illness. I have no elf-steem cause I am horrible, I dont leave the house, just go out...
    Riqq Riqq 26-30, M 17 Responses Nov 16, 2012

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    albertino16 albertino16 18-21 2 Responses Mar 15

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    Throughout my entire life,

    I've struggled with self esteem. From childhood through my sophomore year in college, I was always teased and was the main topic for everyone's cruel and sick jokes. I would always try to be the best person that I could by being positive and caring of others, but it would...
    Paul1538 Paul1538 22-25, M 1 Response Mar 25

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    I feel all of your pain.

    Reading these saddens me, and I can relate...You always want to be somebody that you're not. Because of society, you think there is a certain definition to beautiful. You never want to be who you already are, because you always find the little "imperfections" "imperfect". But...
    SociallyAwkwardGirl SociallyAwkwardGirl 13-15, F 1 Response Jan 9

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    I Refuse to Have Low Self Esteem

    I struggled with self esteem for years.   Then I stopped caring--that's all it really takes to raise your self esteem--give your self permission to stop caring what others think.   That is a big first step--it's really hard to say "I don't care"...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Mar 30, 2008

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    Yep, I do. People around me are often baffled

    that I do because of how they see me. But self esteem has nothing to do with looks & everything to do with how 'you' perceive yourself as a being. I don't know where it stems from but it's here. I can be soooo incredibly shy & awkward, it's crippling. I have a lot of things id...
    MsAlize MsAlize 22-25, F 3 Responses Feb 8

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    I Wish I Didn't!!

     I put on a front most of the time....if you ask my friends they'll probably tell you I'm the most confident person they know. The thing is I hate myself, I hate almost everything about me....especially my appearance. Now I know that a lot of people would look at me and...
    AWUK AWUK 26-30, F 37 Responses Nov 10, 2007

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    I Cant Help It,

    I dont care how many times I hear how Im beautiful, not fat, not horribly ugly, etc., I still cant shake those thoughts that Im everything the opposite of what all my friends and family tell me constantly. I wish it was different. I wish I wasnt constantly downing myself, and...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Jul 24, 2007

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    Due To Many Years Of Bullying

    I pretty much have noo self esteem due to many years of bullying, basically everyone made fun of the way I looked, and I admit I'm not the best looking girl out there but I wouldn't wish the kind of treatment I got on anybody. I'm trying to be more confident in myself but its...
    CGFE CGFE 16-17, F 52 Responses Jan 21, 2010

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    It almost seems more comfortable to have low

    self esteem instead of getting your hopes up and feeling confident only to be crushed again. I guess what I am saying is it is easier to remain crushed than going through the process of being crushed over and over again. I'd like to thank the media for screwing us all
    Offing Offing 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    shyannsmilezx shyannsmilezx 16-17, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    onesmrtrn onesmrtrn 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 22

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    These are the words that every girl said .

    I think i am fat . I think i am ugly . I wish i was pretty as that girls . We might not say it out loud but in our unconscious mind , we felt those things, including me . Plus i felt like i am bad for the family . No matter what i do , it is more bad than good . Whenever me and...
    Gin21 Gin21 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 15

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    Cracked Mirror

    When I look at myself, in any circumstance, I look contorted or smudged. When I go out, I wear clothes that wouldn't be noticeable. When people look at my I feel as if they're disgusted. It's hard for me because I was never one to judge people on looks, I don't understand why I...
    hgosch hgosch 18-21, F 10 Responses Jun 19, 2011

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    It really doesn't help

    when the person I think I'm falling for doesn't have any romantic feelings for me. And I don't mean like he only sees me as a friend. I mean the only relationship we have is sexual.
    ThisIsMordor ThisIsMordor 13-15, F 2 Responses Apr 7

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    I have very low self esteem.

    I get so depressed because of how I feel about myself I wind up taking it out on my boyfriend. When I do it makes him feel like **** and like I think he is so horrible. Which that is farthest thing from what I think of him, I am so deeply in love with him that I can't stand...
    markiealex markiealex 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Just wanting to say I have

    such low self esteem and it makes me feel so awful sometime but I would never ever want any one of you to feel this way and so believe me when I say...your all beautiful and I really mean that.. Even if you ever feel really down sometimes just remember that I think your all...
    lostgirl299 lostgirl299 16-17, F 2 Responses Dec 3, 2013

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    I have such low self esteem,

    my family is constantly telling me that I don't give myself enough credit. It's hard not looking at myself and seeing a **** person. Because I AM a **** person.
    ksnaps ksnaps 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    The Limit Is Me

    My sister sent me this e-mail this morning and I thought I'd share it Personal Growth, Personal Independence: The Limit Is Me By Robin Good One day all the employees reached the office and they saw a big advice on the door on which it was written: "Yesterday the...
    titfortattoo titfortattoo 36-40, F 41 Responses Jan 31, 2008

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    My Self Esteem Is In The Toilet

    I've always felt that I was inferior to others and not superior. I just feel that the self esteem has been sucked out of me. I've never felt attractive or pretty. Always felt every female that is my age has it all together and is prettier than me . I had to leave college because...
    scorpiobabe82 scorpiobabe82 26-30 15 Responses Sep 7, 2010

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    I do have really low self esteem,

    I was bullied through school, put down by people who mattered most to me, in a relationship with a guy at the age of 15 who cheated on me, gave me verbal abuse and on a few occasions left me with bruises. I was never really made to feel good about myself. It always made me see...
    deleted deleted 26-30 5 Responses Dec 16, 2013

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    I Wrote This For An Assignemnt For School, Thought I'd Share :)

    Babystep #2 Look in the mirror and ask yourself if you are the type of person you want to marry.             When I first chose this step, I originally thought the answer would of course be “no”.  I thought of all negative things, my flaws.  But then...
    Smileandbehappy Smileandbehappy 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 27, 2012

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    A Letter To Myself About Self Esteem

    There will always be someone better looking than you. This is the same for everyone, not just you. There is always someone out there who is prettier than you, richer than you or smarter than you. It is a fact of life whether you like it or not. Some people who you have seen and...
    fluffyunicorn fluffyunicorn 16-17, F 2 Responses Aug 2, 2012

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    Dose anyone like 4 1/2 inch dicks .

    ... I feel like no one dose...
    CASTbox CASTbox 18-21, M 2 Responses Mar 22

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    my self esteem is so low

    and I can't find out why I'm like this. I pick out every single little flaw I can find, and I'm so brainwashed that everyone else around me notices everything I see. I'm 5'1 and weigh around 120 which is considered normal but I still honestly think I'm fat and need to work out...
    megtayl0rr megtayl0rr 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 10

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    Success In Failures

    I stood in middle of road broke; cornered from all sides and felt there is no light on either sides of dark tunnel. i decided to fight this battle and asked god to strengthen me and give me one opportunity to fight back. it came and i took up and i found the light in the corner...
    giftafamily giftafamily 41-45 6 Responses Jun 9, 2012

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    Some days I can't get out of bed.

    .. Not because I'm lazy but I feel so down I don't want to see anyone. I have a boyfriend and says lovely things about me but I can't see it and i feel like I'm looking in the mirror and seeing some else. I'm taking pills to make me lose weight, I've changed my hair style and...
    nawpjh nawpjh 18-21, F 2 Responses Apr 1

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    Kids at school make fun of me on how I look

    and act ugh why should I bother being nice in school
    Nny7 Nny7 13-15, M Apr 9

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    I wonder what it's like to wake up

    and love yourself. To look in the mirror and not want to cry. To weigh yourself, see the number, and not want to starve. To be with friends and not feel ugly. To go into public and not be insecure. To go shopping for clothes and not feel fat. I just wonder; what it's like...
    Ally95xx Ally95xx 18-21, F 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    My goal this year is to work on myself.

    I want to be the best version of myself as I can be. I want to be healthier, stronger, goal oriented, and driven. I need to make some serious changes in my life. For the first time ever I'm starting to focus on myself. I'm going to do more of what makes me happy and not care so...
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 6 Responses Dec 28, 2013

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    A lot of the time I feel worthless.

    I have never had many true friends. Mostly just two faced liars. I feel like I'm ugly. I have scars, a curved back, messed up teeth, psorios, a gut, and a deformed hand. I'm in constant physical pain. My father abused me horribly growing up and my mother was so much into her...
    dacraww dacraww 22-25, M 4 Responses Mar 19

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    There's just something about me.

    I'm a quiet and meek guy. And sometimes my friends joke about my lack in confidence, confidence and masculinity. My low self esteem makes me insecure when they poke fun of me. I'm glad I did not lose my temper at any of them; at the same time I feel lousy and confused. Maybe I...
    browniepants browniepants 26-30, M 7 Responses Feb 2

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    when I look in the mirror.

    ..... I've never been told I was pretty, over the years I've never been given a reason to think i was beautiful, pretty, or anywhere near it, but people always make me feel ugly.People stare at me and i see that they are laughing at me and it just makes my confidence drop even...
    musiclover122 musiclover122 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I recently ended a relationship with someone

    and they used my weaknesses about myself against me. The words used have hurt me beyond belief and I dont know how to get them out of my head and move on.
    mdvettech mdvettech 36-40, F 1 Response Mar 30

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    I Let Men Use Me

    This kind of spurred from another post I made, that made me think about this.. I let myself be used because i have low self esteem... You'd never know it talking to me in person. Like I've said before, I'm one of the popular girls, I'm a leader, I'm the one others look up to. I...
    hayliepartychick hayliepartychick 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 6, 2013

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    I have very low self esteem.

    .. I waste hours dreaming of the beautiful body and intelligent mind I've always wanted, I grow more jaded every day from the venom in my envy of my peers with boyfriends. It sounds childish but I desire to be loved as I have grown up in a loveless household. I constantly fear...
    Jillianchn Jillianchn 18-21, F 3 Responses Mar 28

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    extreme low self esteem.

    .. im pretty socially awkward because of this and i stutter a lot she i talk to people who i feel have more social status than me. also, i have extreme issues with my weight. i am not overweight at all, but i keep yoyo dieting and trying to lose weight because im never satisfied...
    nataliekatherine nataliekatherine 13-15 1 Response Mar 18

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    I don't know how it reached this point.

    I've certainly never had anyone make me feel worthless--I have a loving, supportive family and have never been bullied by my peers or anything along those lines. However, when I was about 14 years old I developed this sense of complete inferiority to everyone around me. I...
    rlc91 rlc91 22-25, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    I find it impossible to love myself,

    and I don't know why. I have had an amazing upbringing with supportive parents and a great life, but every moment of my life I'm putting myself down, beating myself up about everything and embarrassed to be around people because of what I look like. I have a serious problem with...
    LeavesOfSunshine LeavesOfSunshine 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    Will I Ever Change?

    It's weird how you can't take good advice, but you can dish it out full heartedly to people in need. All my life I have felt like the ugly duck just waiting for my shot to be the beautiful swan. Maybe it's just not what god had planned for me.. I'm not sure. On a good day I can...
    sadmercy sadmercy 18-21 1 Response Nov 7, 2013

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