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I Have Never Been In a Relationship

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    This use to bother me

    but not so much anymore. I am more self - aware so to speak and know that I'm naturally not keen to be around other people to often much less just one person. Besides I get irritated just having to go out in public.
    BlotOutTheSun BlotOutTheSun 22-25, M 1 Response Aug 3

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    I find it so ******* stupid

    that people have this need to shame other people for not being in a relationship. Why should there be shaming? Instead of shaming, why not try RESPECTING? Probably I should start shaming people for being in a relationship.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 3 Responses Jul 27

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    I am 29 years old and have never been in a

    relationship. Which means yes, I have no experience in the sack. Is that such a bad thing? It seems like these days men and women only want men and women that have been with other people. I don't understand this. (Maybe because I've never been with anyone? Maybe.) It seems...
    bakkenguy bakkenguy 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I have never been in a relationship with anyone.

    Makes me feel lame sometimes but right now I am confused. Yes, there have been people that I like and people who like me, but I never feel those butterflies or that click. I don't mean to be self-righteous or smug, but I have not met someone that I feel is worth being with. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    I have never dated, I have never been kissed,

    and I have never been in love. I am a virgin, so I am obviously sexually inexperienced. But, I do want to be kissed and most of all I want to fall in love and be loved. I have recently decided to change this though. Starting with accepting the fact that I'm attracted to women...
    dearp8n dearp8n 18-21, F 2 Responses Aug 5

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    225pro 225pro 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 20, 2014

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    it's not that people think I'm ugly it's just

    that I can't get the guts to ask anyone out.
    Catmandeath Catmandeath 13-15, M 6 Responses Jul 8

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    It's the most uncomfortable thing to say,

    especially at my age. And worst part of it is, am not even sure if i am ready for one. But deep down inside, I know something in my life is missen. In the midst of the hustling and bustling of the day, I just halt and feel that defect..... that space. It's hard to fill. I come...
    Significant Significant 26-30, F 10 Responses May 31

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    If somebody I like asks me on a date

    or even to casually meet up I always end up panicking and I begin to see flaws in that person and generally become more and more put off. It gets to the point where I literally cringe if they continue to ask me out. I've always had this problem and it has prevented me from...
    HyperactiveLauren HyperactiveLauren 16-17, F 1 Response Jul 24

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    And Probably Never Will. (sorry This Ended Up Being Longer Than I Thought)

    Always been single, looks like I always will be. It's not as if I've never had feelings for anyone, because I have. Lost too many friends because of it though so I don't see any point trying to have a relationship with anyone. I'm always going to be rejected. Trying to get used...
    Adam42life Adam42life 22-25, M 9 Responses Apr 11, 2011

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    To Be Human

    I have never been in a relationship.  That is in a mature, or even an immature, romantic relationship.  I have been kissed, but I was 6 and so was he so I don't think it counts.  I have never been out on a date, never been with anyone ever.  I am a virgin...
    DarkPhoenix DarkPhoenix 31-35, F 45 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    Whining and complaining is NOT going to help

    anyone get into a relationship any faster. Whining and complaining is going to do the completely opposite of that.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses May 31

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    I have never at any point done anything

    that could even be remotely considered an expression of romantic affection. First I was a child, then I was fat, now I'm just weird and don't have a social life. Not that any of it really matters because I'm in love with Joan of Arc.
    Arcadeus Arcadeus 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 30, 2014

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    I'm 17 (turning 18) and I have never been in a

    relationship. Nor have I ever been asked out. I always had problems talking to guys. I'm just too awkward. The majority of guys where I live do drugs and only want you for sex. I find it depressing how 12 year olds in my area have had several boyfriends when I can't even get one...
    DayFawn DayFawn 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    Nope never been in a relationship.

    It doesn't bother me at all because my priorities has always been academics and my friends and family. I need to work hard for myself first and get my life together before jumping into any relationship. I've been asked out on dates often but I politely decline because being in a...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F 10 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    I have a lot of mixed feelings

    when I mention this to people. You know, you always get the response of "How can that be? You are so pretty!" or the most frequent, "You will be soon enough, he's out there!". To be completely honest, I've never thought of it that much. I mean sure, when I see couples holding...
    HopeInConstruction HopeInConstruction 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    I used to be ashamed of saying it,

    of telling this to my friends because they all had had at least one relations hip in their lives... But then I stopped caring... I mean I haven't have a boyfriend. I haven't gone on a date yet. I haven't even kissed a guy. There are many motives, just to mention one. My lack of...
    LittleUnicorn LittleUnicorn 18-21 6 Responses Jul 27

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    owlgirl2025 owlgirl2025 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    We were talking for around 6 months.

    On 4th of July, he got drunk and kept introducing me as his girlfriend to his friends. When I brought it up, he stated that he didn't want anything to change and that he liked the way things were and didn't want to label us". That's when I got really mad because in the beginning...
    Courtneyg1107 Courtneyg1107 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 5

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    People (especially younger teens) rush into

    relationships way to quickly. Being single, free, and able to flirt with whoever you want sounds better than being young and tied down.
    SimplyHumann SimplyHumann 13-15, T 2 Responses Jun 11

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    I'm a 20 year old female

    and I have never been in a relationship. ever. Some people see it as a bad thing, while others acknowledge and appreciate it. Most people question it though- always asking why? The answer is I don't know. I dont know why I have never made a connection with a guy. But what I DO...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10

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    I honestly do not get

    why everyone wants one, or thinks I am lame for not having a boyfriend. I am only 14 years old, I do not need a boyfriend or sex or love, I believe I am not mature enough for this yet. I just wish more people thought this way instead of rushing to grow up, then when something...
    HelloKittyBaby HelloKittyBaby 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I've never been in a relationship.

    I've been alone for a long time, sure I have family and friends. But you get a different feeling from having significant other. I want to find a girl I can love a girl that I can take care off. But I've been alone for so long that I don't think I can provide any love. then I...
    Sal395 Sal395 18-21, M 5 Responses Jun 17

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    I've never been anywhere remotely close to a

    date, and I've never had any girl who's had a crush on me. Never kissed anyone, never even hugged anyone. I wish personalities were looked upon as better than appearance - but clearly my face is ugly enough - my appearance is abysmal enough to be an exception even to the most...
    norb1138 norb1138 16-17, M 2 Responses Jun 18

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    Although I'm turning 21 soon,

    I'm actually okay with not being in a relationship. I want to focus on myself and be at the place I want to be at before meeting a guy and being in a relationship with him. My priority is to finish school and get that career I love and eventually I'm sure the right guy will come...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Jan 4

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    Yea, I'm young I get it.

    But it really sucks not having ever been in a relationship or anything close to one. Now a days anyone and everyone are in a relationship. I don't know if it's my fault for being to shy or insecure. But I absolutely refuse to throw myself at guys just cause I feel lonely or that...
    AMB97 AMB97 18-21, F 3 Responses Jul 7, 2014

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    I always get told, " You're gorgeous

    and charming! Why aren't u with a guy?" I'm thinking ...dude I'm wondering the same thing
    WolfBlood9 WolfBlood9 18-21, F 2 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    and probably will never have one,

    I'm forever alone, even though I'm only 16 I don't think I will ever get a girlfriend, I'm good person I think but I don't think I'm good enough to have one,
    dominick6 dominick6 13-15, M 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    I'm not the type of girl to complain about

    being "forever alone". However, lately that's what I'm genuinely concerned about. I am in a group of very tight-knit friends who have all had boyfriends, been asked on dates, and are frequently the object of many of our peers' attention. I've never experienced this. Every time...
    LostInTheSolarSystem LostInTheSolarSystem 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 4, 2014

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    is it just me or have others been in the same

    shoes as me never being in a proper relationship???
    jaimz jaimz 31-35, F 9 Responses Nov 18, 2014

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    Is it because I'm ugly?

    Or is it because I don't know how to deal with people? Who knows? But really I do wanna experience a relationship. I really wanna be loved.
    Kittymeow7 Kittymeow7 18-21, F 8 Responses 16 hrs ago

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    This is a really long story,

    but I wanted to get out of my head. If no one reads it, at least I was able to put my thoughts and memories down. I have never been in a official relationship. The closest I have gotten was my first quarter of college two years ago. In high school I had a hard time making...
    fluteplayer1519 fluteplayer1519 18-21, F 3 Responses Aug 15

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    Having one of those nights.

    ..feeling sorry for myself. Haha I really wish I knew what I'm doing wrong or why I'm unattractive to guys. My parents always told me my weight is the reason why...my friends think it's because I'm not open minded enough. Seriously, guys don't approach me when I'm out. Maybe I...
    Beyoutiful056 Beyoutiful056 22-25, F 83 Responses 1 day ago

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    It really sucks. I've been having sex with this

    one guy for a while but he doesn't like me the way I want him to like me :( idk if I'll grow on him or not but I really wish he liked me...
    Nicole1334 Nicole1334 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 28

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    I've never been in a relationship,

    but been on dates. Until I was 25 years old I wasn't interested in having one, but started to feel lonely. I've signed up to dating sites, but find it hard. I have had many first dates. Not many guys are interested in me, because I have a shaved head and other reasons I don't...
    kuroijukai kuroijukai 26-30, F 8 Responses 11 hrs ago

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    I’ve recently entered into my first real

    relationship of my adult life, and it’s becoming clear to me that I have no idea what a relationship is. I feel so clueless about it that I feel the need to actually do research so I can better understand what it means to be in a relationship. The fact that this guy even...
    DV8ing DV8ing 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 9, 2014

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    Sometimes when I see someone staring at me in

    public, I think, are they looking at me because they like me, or because they are thinking, wow, this girl is ugly. I don't get how in 20 years no one has ever asked me out, or liked me for how I am. Maybe I'm not meant to have a boyfriend...
    IntrovertedHuman IntrovertedHuman 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 2, 2014

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    I just finished college

    and have never been in a relationship. I've had several "almost" relationships with people... One friends with benefits situation that tore me apart, a couple major crushes that I still feel like could have been. I can't help but think that maybe was too awkward or cautious...
    freegreentree freegreentree 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1

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    because I handle being alone

    and independent.
    Ruinsky Ruinsky 16-17, M 2 Responses Jul 24

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    I assume I'll be rejected

    so I never really even let myself feel for people romantically as a defense mechanism. I get really lonely but I'm afraid I'll never let myself let someone in.
    CurvyQueen41421 CurvyQueen41421 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 1

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    i always used to think to myself "whats wrong

    with me?" but these days i dont ask myself that any more,i just became more accepting of who i am, and tell myself that the world would be such a boring place if we were all the same,and i'm just an individual person living my life my way!! you see, its not that i dont want a...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 13

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    Dear Mr.Right, Always know

    that I will never get tired of waiting for you but can you please come very soon?because I badly need someone now!:( -4everrrr
    4everrrr 4everrrr 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 4

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    I was in one. but it was

    so awkward and we got no where so I don't count it. we liked each other it just didn't go well. don't know how I'd do in a real one.
    SeanDR SeanDR 16-17, M 7 hrs ago

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    What's the deal? Are some people just special?

    Are some of us destined to be alone forever, never to question fate? I just don't understand. I am 25 years old soon and all of my experiences have been few and far between. I don't think I'm ugly, I try to make myself approachable, friendly, kind. Somehow though I'm always the...
    ExoFae ExoFae 22-25, F 4 Responses May 15, 2014

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    I know its not me. Its certainly not been my

    choice to have been alone all this time. There are many variables at play and most are out of my control. I believe that the variables are stacked against me ever finding a quality partner. Don't tell me to keep hoping or any of that b--s--t. I'll bite your head off.
    Mossonarock Mossonarock 41-45, M 1 Response 16 hrs ago

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    It's Not Everything

    To tell the truth, it might actually be a good thing in some ways. To me, having a long list of exes might say more about poor decision-making skills than how successful one has been romantically. But clearly society doesn't share that view with me, as most people use their...
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