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I Have Never Been In a Relationship

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    i.m 35 and never been in a relationship I'm

    terrible and terrified talking to women or ask them out I've been thinking that I'm better off not being in a relationship
    eric8811 eric8811 31-35, M 1 Response May 23

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    I assume I'll be rejected

    so I never really even let myself feel for people romantically as a defense mechanism. I get really lonely but I'm afraid I'll never let myself let someone in.
    CurvyQueen41421 CurvyQueen41421 18-21, F 2 Responses Jun 1

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    I wanna find someone to be my everything.

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    justalittlehuman justalittlehuman 22-25, F 4 Responses May 5, 2014

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    i always used to think to myself "whats wrong

    with me?" but these days i dont ask myself that any more,i just became more accepting of who i am, and tell myself that the world would be such a boring place if we were all the same,and i'm just an individual person living my life my way!! you see, its not that i dont want a...
    cowshed123 cowshed123 31-35, M 3 Responses Jan 13

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    Dear Mr.Right, Always know

    that I will never get tired of waiting for you but can you please come very soon?because I badly need someone now!:( -4everrrr
    4everrrr 4everrrr 18-21, F 4 Responses Jun 4

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    I used to be ashamed of saying it,

    of telling this to my friends because they all had had at least one relations hip in their lives... But then I stopped caring... I mean I haven't have a boyfriend. I haven't gone on a date yet. I haven't even kissed a guy. There are many motives, just to mention one. My lack of...
    LittleUnicorn LittleUnicorn 18-21 6 Responses 1 day ago

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    I've never been in a relationship

    and I've never kissed anyone, but to be honest I would love to find my other half. Someone as my companion equal. Someone with understanding, affection and attention. Someone who would actually give me eye contact. Someone to whom I could tell anything. Someone to whom I could...
    chips24 chips24 22-25, M 3 Responses May 25, 2014

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    I have a lot of mixed feelings

    when I mention this to people. You know, you always get the response of "How can that be? You are so pretty!" or the most frequent, "You will be soon enough, he's out there!". To be completely honest, I've never thought of it that much. I mean sure, when I see couples holding...
    HopeInConstruction HopeInConstruction 18-21, F 1 Response Mar 16

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    If somebody I like asks me on a date

    or even to casually meet up I always end up panicking and I begin to see flaws in that person and generally become more and more put off. It gets to the point where I literally cringe if they continue to ask me out. I've always had this problem and it has prevented me from...
    HyperactiveLauren HyperactiveLauren 16-17, F 1 Response 4 days ago

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    I mean, I'm 14. I'm not trying to rush into

    life too quickly and be mindless like everybody else in my school. I just want to focus on what is important, and keep what isn't to the side.
    Matthew7211 Matthew7211 13-15, M 3 Responses May 26

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    I am 16 and never been in a relationship.

    It's actually become abnormal nowadays LOL. I don't mind at all, but it only starts to bother me when I see happy couples. Or when I see really rude girls that somehow have a boyfriend. It blows my mind.
    bradfordbadboi1 bradfordbadboi1 16-17, F 2 Responses May 23

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    I am 29 years old and have never been in a

    relationship. Which means yes, I have no experience in the sack. Is that such a bad thing? It seems like these days men and women only want men and women that have been with other people. I don't understand this. (Maybe because I've never been with anyone? Maybe.) It seems...
    bakkenguy bakkenguy 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 18, 2014

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    I have never at any point done anything

    that could even be remotely considered an expression of romantic affection. First I was a child, then I was fat, now I'm just weird and don't have a social life. Not that any of it really matters because I'm in love with Joan of Arc.
    Arcadeus Arcadeus 16-17, M 1 Response Jan 30, 2014

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    People (especially younger teens) rush into

    relationships way to quickly. Being single, free, and able to flirt with whoever you want sounds better than being young and tied down.
    SimplyHumann SimplyHumann 13-15, T 2 Responses Jun 11

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    Okay I just want to get across the fact

    that I'm not desperate to be in a relationship nor am I one of those guys that goes from girl to girl but, I'm 16 about to finish my GCSEs and I've never had a girl that likes me. I haven't met that many girls but everyone that I do I automatically like and I can't help myself...
    CallumW CallumW 16-17, M 2 Responses May 26

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    I'm 27 years old, no kids,

    educated, has a dream and goals for my future, and I've never been in a relationship. I have been trying so hard not to turn into a bitter b!tch but I feel like I'm reaching my breaking point. I'm glad to see that I'm not alone and alot of these stories are like I'm reading my...
    MJP88 MJP88 26-30, F 7 Responses Apr 12

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    because I handle being alone

    and independent.
    Ruinsky Ruinsky 16-17 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I find it so ******* stupid

    that people have this need to shame other people for not being in a relationship. Why should there be shaming? Instead of shaming, why not try RESPECTING? Probably I should start shaming people for being in a relationship.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    Because I'm not interested.

    I just don't find relationships that big of a deal or important.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F Apr 25

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    I'm 17 (turning 18) and I have never been in a

    relationship. Nor have I ever been asked out. I always had problems talking to guys. I'm just too awkward. The majority of guys where I live do drugs and only want you for sex. I find it depressing how 12 year olds in my area have had several boyfriends when I can't even get one...
    DayFawn DayFawn 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    And Probably Never Will. (sorry This Ended Up Being Longer Than I Thought)

    Always been single, looks like I always will be. It's not as if I've never had feelings for anyone, because I have. Lost too many friends because of it though so I don't see any point trying to have a relationship with anyone. I'm always going to be rejected. Trying to get used...
    Adam42life Adam42life 22-25, M 9 Responses Apr 11, 2011

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    To Be Human

    I have never been in a relationship.  That is in a mature, or even an immature, romantic relationship.  I have been kissed, but I was 6 and so was he so I don't think it counts.  I have never been out on a date, never been with anyone ever.  I am a virgin...
    DarkPhoenix DarkPhoenix 31-35, F 45 Responses Oct 1, 2007

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    owlgirl2025 owlgirl2025 13-15, F 2 Responses Jul 18

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    I’ve recently entered into my first real

    relationship of my adult life, and it’s becoming clear to me that I have no idea what a relationship is. I feel so clueless about it that I feel the need to actually do research so I can better understand what it means to be in a relationship. The fact that this guy even...
    DV8ing DV8ing 26-30, F 2 Responses Feb 9, 2014

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    I've never been in a relationship.

    I've been alone for a long time, sure I have family and friends. But you get a different feeling from having significant other. I want to find a girl I can love a girl that I can take care off. But I've been alone for so long that I don't think I can provide any love. then I...
    Sal395 Sal395 18-21, M 5 Responses Jun 17

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    Nope never been in a relationship.

    It doesn't bother me at all because my priorities has always been academics and my friends and family. I need to work hard for myself first and get my life together before jumping into any relationship. I've been asked out on dates often but I politely decline because being in a...
    Liv4Life Liv4Life 18-21, F 12 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    Not that i've never been in a relationship,

    let's just say i've never been in a real relationship. I never experience getting kissed goodnight, cuddling during movies. I crave for intimacy but no one suits my personality so far.
    callmegee callmegee 22-25, F 3 Responses Apr 26

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    it's not that people think I'm ugly it's just

    that I can't get the guts to ask anyone out.
    Catmandeath Catmandeath 13-15, M 6 Responses Jul 8

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    girleve girleve 70+, F 3 Responses Apr 12

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    I'm not the type of girl to complain about

    being "forever alone". However, lately that's what I'm genuinely concerned about. I am in a group of very tight-knit friends who have all had boyfriends, been asked on dates, and are frequently the object of many of our peers' attention. I've never experienced this. Every time...
    LostInTheSolarSystem LostInTheSolarSystem 18-21, F 6 Responses Jul 4, 2014

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    I told myself I wont post anything anymore

    about me being alone and lonely and sad about my none existent lovelife... but recent event made me write and I just have no one to share this except to you guys online... So recently I've downloaded an app that lets me chat with other people near me. My friend suggested I try...
    kmisfit123 kmisfit123 18-21, F 37 Responses Jan 6

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    225pro 225pro 18-21, M 1 Response Sep 20, 2014

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    I just finished college

    and have never been in a relationship. I've had several "almost" relationships with people... One friends with benefits situation that tore me apart, a couple major crushes that I still feel like could have been. I can't help but think that maybe was too awkward or cautious...
    freegreentree freegreentree 18-21, F 3 Responses Jun 1

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    Am I That Scary?

    I don't know what it is. I've been described as kind, thoughtful, considerate, intelligent, a good listener. Even been called cute and handsome a few times. Though they might have just been saying that since I never heard from any of those women again after the first date. Maybe...
    swordsaint swordsaint 22-25, M 14 Responses Jul 18, 2011

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    Well..... Not Really I Guess!

    Well I have had about 4 or 5 Gfs but each relationship only lasted like 4 or 5 months!! and they all broke up with me!! Now that's BAD!! they usually say that I'm way too busy and don't spend enough time with them, or that I need to be more affectionate...it sucks, but all I can...
    TheRenegade TheRenegade 26-30, M 3 Responses Jul 13, 2012

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    And I'm about to be 18.

    I moved a lot so I never accepted any offers and when high school came around, I still to this day haven't accepted any offers. I'm done with high school now, but a lot of people assume it's weird that I haven't dated. I don't really see the point in dating in high school when...
    lunalancing lunalancing 18-21, F 3 Responses Sep 1, 2014

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    It's Not Everything

    To tell the truth, it might actually be a good thing in some ways. To me, having a long list of exes might say more about poor decision-making skills than how successful one has been romantically. But clearly society doesn't share that view with me, as most people use their...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Feb 8, 2012

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    I honestly do not get

    why everyone wants one, or thinks I am lame for not having a boyfriend. I am only 14 years old, I do not need a boyfriend or sex or love, I believe I am not mature enough for this yet. I just wish more people thought this way instead of rushing to grow up, then when something...
    HelloKittyBaby HelloKittyBaby 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 26, 2014

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    I have never been in a relationship with anyone.

    Makes me feel lame sometimes but right now I am confused. Yes, there have been people that I like and people who like me, but I never feel those butterflies or that click. I don't mean to be self-righteous or smug, but I have not met someone that I feel is worth being with. I...
    deleted deleted 26-30 8 Responses Aug 22, 2014

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    It really sucks. I've been having sex with this

    one guy for a while but he doesn't like me the way I want him to like me :( idk if I'll grow on him or not but I really wish he liked me...
    Nicole1334 Nicole1334 16-17, F 4 Responses 10 hrs ago

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    @40 something I need a spiritual change.

    ....NO not joining a church or following a cult LoL. I know what you project you attract. And I'm want my spirit to be in a better place
    girleve girleve 70+, F Apr 12

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    Whining and complaining is NOT going to help

    anyone get into a relationship any faster. Whining and complaining is going to do the completely opposite of that.
    Peridot22 Peridot22 22-25, F 2 Responses May 31

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    I'm a 20 year old female

    and I have never been in a relationship. ever. Some people see it as a bad thing, while others acknowledge and appreciate it. Most people question it though- always asking why? The answer is I don't know. I dont know why I have never made a connection with a guy. But what I DO...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 10

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    It's the most uncomfortable thing to say,

    especially at my age. And worst part of it is, am not even sure if i am ready for one. But deep down inside, I know something in my life is missen. In the midst of the hustling and bustling of the day, I just halt and feel that defect..... that space. It's hard to fill. I come...
    Significant Significant 26-30, F 9 Responses May 31

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    I am a 27 years african guy

    and have never been in a relationship before, either online or physical ...I am very shy because of my small stature and girls don't find me attractive...I have lots of female friends but they all take me as a brother than a boyfriend...please help.
    silenthill87 silenthill87 26-30, M 2 Responses May 16

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    I've never been anywhere remotely close to a

    date, and I've never had any girl who's had a crush on me. Never kissed anyone, never even hugged anyone. I wish personalities were looked upon as better than appearance - but clearly my face is ugly enough - my appearance is abysmal enough to be an exception even to the most...
    norb1138 norb1138 16-17, M 3 Responses Jun 18

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