I Have Never Meet My Biological Father

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    I am 56 and found out this week the man I

    called Daddy, that I adored was not my birth father. I am beyond devastated. Both men are dead and my Mother is 85. So much of my life makes more sense now. My sister is the best, very supportive. My brother wants me to shut up and not rock the boat. For my own health I feel the...
    AKAWhoIUsedToBe AKAWhoIUsedToBe
    56-60, F
    Dec 13, 2014

    My Thought Process On Meeting My Dad... Warning: Extremely Absurd Logics!

    I've supposedly met him once. When I was two. My mum says I spent the day with him. I can't remember and there's no pictures of that day or anything. I guess you could say I was one of the lucky ones. My dad has always sorta been in my life. Not ever fully but he always has said...
    Tuklr Tuklr
    18-21, M
    Apr 26, 2013

    What Do I Say??

    hes contacted me for the first time in my entire life, via facebook, yesterday, and told me to call him. what do i say? i'm keen to speak to him, as i have a million and one questions, but god, im nervous, and the chances of me crying during the conversation is high. will it...
    thehazzanator thehazzanator
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 30, 2013

    He Doesn't Know I Exist

    My mother was studying abroad in England when she met a man, and had a one night stand. When she came back to the States she found out she was pregnant. She was raised very religious, so abortion was an issue, and she could either give me up for adoption or keep me. She...
    cosmicspeck cosmicspeck
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Oct 6, 2011

    Hi I am 23 years old female doing my 3rd year

    at varsity....dont know where to start. My dad past away when I was 11 and my mom when I was 12 years old. I lived with my uncle and his wife, it was not an easy life to live. I always felt like an outsider from my fathers family, my granny didn't like me till her death...
    Drunkenlife100 Drunkenlife100
    22-25, F
    May 15, 2014

    I Always Knew But.

    My child hood wasn't so normal, my mom used to be prostitute and my father (Who i was told was my father) was in jail for a coupe of years, we moved every year, any way, we grow off it, my father move in and out about 4 times in this time, beside the difficult time, both always...
    joseVicente joseVicente
    May 2, 2012

    43 And Found Out That The Guy I Called Dad All Of My Life Is Not Really My Biological Father?

    How do I feel? I'm beyond pissed. I'm all the way across pissed and into the calm pool on the other side of pissed. My immediate family thought it would be a GREAT idea to hide that fact from me for all this time. I told them they could all climb up on a step ladder and kiss...
    hunt101447 hunt101447
    1 Response Nov 18, 2012

    I have found this site

    and I have been reading everybody's situations about their biological father. I would love the input and advice that I can get in my situation. I was dating my high school sweet heart in 2004...In 2009, I had a one night stand with another guy. I never knew how something so...
    meglb13 meglb13
    26-30, F
    1 Response Aug 26, 2014

    When I Was 15

    At 15 years of age i was a pretty normal sort of kid till my family moved then things started to unravel. My dad never looked like me and by this age i was already 3 inches taller then him, one night after a massive fight with him my mum was talking to me and i was saying how...
    Aussiedames Aussiedames
    26-30, M
    1 Response Dec 1, 2009

    My life has always been full of drama

    and chaos. From the time I was born, I've always been a problem for my parents. My mom was young, almost too young to raise a kid. My dad was supportive and did his best to give me everything I needed. In 1999, he was murdered. It was a drug deal gone wrong. It destroyed my mom...
    ktbugg ktbugg
    18-21, F
    Mar 27, 2015

    I Never Met My Biological Father, And I Can't Have Contact With Him.

    My mother went through a lot with her first husband. She gave up her studies at a technology institute for him. She gave up signing for him, something she adored to do. My mom never knew he could be abusive. While she was pregnant with my twin and I, he would constantly abuse her...
    PardonMyTrench PardonMyTrench
    13-15, F
    2 Responses Aug 3, 2012

    I'm 31 years old and literally just found out

    this morning that my Dad, the man who raised me, is not my biological father. My aunt accidentally let it slip over breakfast. We were talking about health issues that run in the family and it went down hill from there. She's begged me not to tell my family that I know. My Dad...
    JMello85 JMello85
    31-35, F
    1 Response Feb 19

    Denying My Roots To Gain Favor

    I looked with deep concentration in my Vanity Mirror while I unpinned the thick plaits from their crown atop my head and then unraveled the plaits. My adopted mother had told me if I really wanted to know what my father looked like I should look in a mirror. She said I did not...
    OrionoverSaturn OrionoverSaturn
    22-25, F
    Nov 2, 2013

    39 Just Found Out

    I'm 39 male with a 2 year old son with a second son due in October. Thought I'd try out ancestry.com. Came across my parents marriage license listing my mother as having an annullment and a different last name. Called and confronted her and she did indeed have a marriage...
    Spodee Spodee
    2 Responses May 28, 2013

    I Exist! How Do I Tell Him?

    After 20 years of wishing I could locate my biological father, I have done just that. About a year ago, I finally found him (on Facebook - a place I both love and loathe). When I saw his picture, I found myself staring at myself as a 60+ year old man. I am a 30 year old woman...
    JadedDandelions JadedDandelions
    31-35, F
    1 Response Mar 5, 2013

    I don't know who my biological father is my mom

    hasn't told me about him ever . She doesn't know I know but she has been lieing to me for 13 years I always thought my step father was my father . I don't know if I should tell my mom.
    Adriannad14 Adriannad14
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 9, 2014


    I've met my father once when I was 8 yrs old, he came to visit my mother and spent most of the time with her and my 2 brothers. He wanted nothing to do with me, to this day I can remember that moment so clearly. I do know that not having a male figure in my growing up yrs. had...
    Behopefull Behopefull
    46-50, F
    Aug 24, 2012

    My Mother Refuses To Tell Me Who My Biological Father Is.

    Last year my mother revealed to me that she had had an affair between my older brother and me being born. I know that her relationship with my supposed father was rocky and that he actually left for the first time when I was 18 months old (to live with another woman - so she...
    ScoobyDoo63 ScoobyDoo63
    51-55, F
    1 Response Oct 28, 2013

    Found Out@ 28.that....

    when your dad is not your dad When i was 28y.young..just get.n married..and went to get my birthcerts.i found out..that my "dad" wasn.t my biological father...so i got really upset..with my mother/dad,for not telling me..in one minute i had three sure-names...
    mikka66 mikka66
    46-50, M
    1 Response Sep 24, 2009

    I found out at age 53

    that my father who died in 1970 was not my father (he always thought that he was). Three months later my 89 year old mother came to live with me. When first confronted she gave me the name of someone that was suppose to be my father (he died a year earlier). My mother now...
    jjacobs4834 jjacobs4834
    56-60, F
    2 Responses May 3, 2014

    Keep Your Money&Stay OUT of My Life!

    -Before my mother lost me to the state for good at age 10(1 year after I was removed from her for physical abuse&neglect) my biological father who hadn't signed my Birth Certificate or had anything to do with me was notified. He would not take for two painfully obvious reasons. 1...
    Selah94 Selah94
    22-25, F
    Aug 12, 2014

    A Letter From Your Unknown Dad

    I don't know what you've been told, but I would never purposely hurt you. I don't care how you got here, or who your mother is, you are part of me, and hurting you is hurting myself. I know we have never met, but I want to explain something to you just in case we never do. There...
    deleted deleted
    Sep 8, 2013

    Only Letters and Vague Whispers

    It was planned pretty much from the get go that my biological father would not be apart of my life.My mother could not really afford me since I was her 4th child and she was all of 24 with no husband. She knew who my father was. He was her lover, but unstable and a little...
    OrionoverSaturn OrionoverSaturn
    22-25, F
    Oct 31, 2013

    I can say the same thing,

    hey he still cool with me though I ain't mad! Let me just say this. I'm the man he hoped and prayed for me to be when he had to hustle, so I'm the man who is far more blessed in fact, I know enough to be a leader like he was never like. Don't be mad at him because without him...
    kamachulu kamachulu
    22-25, M
    1 Response Aug 6, 2014

    Never known mine, or my biological mother.

    The mother I know and love since I was born told me I met her but I remember nothing of it and I find it weird as my mind is a steel trap... I vividly remember my toddler years too... And I don't remember meeting her. Yet I could. I have no way in contacting my biological... As...
    TheStillmanator TheStillmanator
    16-17, M
    1 Response Aug 6, 2014

    I Am The Secret , Revealed By My Own Fate.Truth Will Reveal Overtime So Listen And Watch Carefully.

    Hello,I'm Rick My story begins on a warm day doing lawn care for my Grandmother or my mothers mom.I had gone over to mow for her.The mower began to flood and i was very impatient and began to argue with her.I lost my cool and cursed at her and left to go home.I arrived home...
    Fringesubdued Fringesubdued
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Oct 25, 2013

    45 And Just Found Out My Dad Is Not My Dad

    My Mom died in March of this year, I have never been close with my Father.  My Father was to take it to his grave that I was not his biological daughter and to make a long story short, we had an argument I said something about him not being my dad, and he said he didn't know...
    sidismydad sidismydad
    65 Responses Nov 15, 2009

    Found Out@ 28.that....

    when your dad is not your dad When i was 28y.young..just get.n married..and went to get my birthcerts.i found out..that my "dad" wasn.t my biological father...so i got really upset..with my mother/dad,for not telling me..in one minute i had three sure-names...
    mikka66 mikka66
    46-50, M
    2 Responses Sep 24, 2009


    This is to those of U that were really supportive n stuff. I was fed up and decided to take a 3-4hr coach trip down to meet my dad. I was fed up with all the rumours an bull***tting ppl said about him. Most turned out to be true. He is just a pathetic excuse for a person...
    Tuklr Tuklr
    18-21, M
    2 Responses May 28, 2013
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