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I Have No Father

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    I Hate My Father

    I have no Father, my mother fell pregnant with me at 18. She was with my father for two years prior to this; when she told him she had fallen pregnant, he then told her to either have (me) aborted or to keep me and he goes..well you all can guess what she chose... i have...
    rookie rookie 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    None Whatsoever

    Left when I was 3. Never saw him again. Only time will tell...
    GreenManley GreenManley 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    I Had One Once

    I did have a father once, but I've chosen to completely erase him out of my life. He was abusive to myself and my mother, and it's just better and easier to think that he never existed than to think and explain to the world that yes, my birth father was a mentally/physically...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2008

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    No Father For Me Either!

        My father didn't want me. I was born in the 70's when drugs were high in demand and my parents were into them heavily. My dad was an alcoholic and he beat my mom. I witnesses it so many times. My mom took us from him when I was 6 years old and he didn't find...
    SomaticEnergy SomaticEnergy 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2009

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    Stone Cold.

    I never knew my dad either. He and my mum seperated when she was a few months pregnant with me (she had two older kids- my sisters who didnt live with her). He refused to take responsibility and i've heard that my grandfather had him jailed as a result for a few days. My mum...
    letlaka letlaka 22-25 Mar 1, 2013

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    Father, But No Dad

    My father lived with my mom and me but he was always either yelling, drinking, or smoking. He was never truly there for me. He threw me out of the house when I was 7,9,10,12,13, and 15. He had done it before, but because of my mom, he was forced to take me back in. When I was 15...
    jamestheboss jamestheboss 18-21 Dec 1, 2011

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    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam 36-40 Feb 15, 2012

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    Looking To Connect

    I stumbled on this website after several frustrating minutes spent trying to find an "absent parent" support group online. I found all kinds of support groups, including several for parents of estranged children. But nothing for the children themselves... So I'm here, to share...
    lcric lcric 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    Thank You Mamma

    Some people could be really useless in every way, but still their physical existence would make you feel safe, just emotional security and maybe it is false emotional safety, but it is there. 
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F Dec 7, 2012

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    Well Sure I Do

    But he's not a real father. I've seen what an actual dad is like. Around the neighborhood, in stores, at schools. My dad, is very far from it, if at all.
    Strikerfreeze Strikerfreeze 18-21, M 4 Responses May 11, 2011

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    A Letter From Your Unknown Dad

    I don't know what you've been told, but I would never purposely hurt you. I don't care how you got here, or who your mother is, you are part of me, and hurting you is hurting myself. I know we have never met, but I want to explain something to you just in case we never do. There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 8, 2013

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    Not Really

    My father was never really there when I was little. When he was home, he was drunk, asleep, or passed out. I spent more time with my dad's friend Mark than with dad. I don't get along with him, and I definitely DON'T respect him. Thankfully mom devorced him. That didn't stop him...
    PoeticRejection PoeticRejection 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2007

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    My father left one week

    after I was born, he called once when I was in third grade but it was meant for my uncle about money. My grandparents hated him and always said things about him when my mom wasn't listening. I always saw the other kids at my school with their father throwing them in the sky or...
    osnitrapzi osnitrapzi 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    When I was 3 my parents had divorced

    for a while I had lived with my mom and my grandma and my younger sister as I had gotten older and I out go to my fathers house he would always tell me how ugly aI was and that all i was was a mistake and that I was fat and I was the reason that they had divorced and that he was...
    SnowBunny37 SnowBunny37 18-21, F Feb 15

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    One Way Or Another

    I have hurt from it, and There'll always be a part of me empty because of it. I live though, it's one trauma among others to me. However a fact, whether I want it so much, I have no father.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 31, 2008

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    My "Father" Is Dead To Me.

    For as long as i can remember my "dad" is nothing but a childish incompitant b*****d, it started when i was 6-7 when the restraining order on my "dad" was lifted not once in the rest of my life did he come to see me. im now 20, but it doesnt mean im not mature, as a matter of...
    lukethorpe19 lukethorpe19 18-21 May 13, 2013

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    Did Not Having a Dad Ruin My Life?

    Not sure where to begin. I am a middle aged man who has never had or even known the name of my birth father. My mother, for whatever reason, refuses to tell me who he was, even after 40 years. As I get older I begin to wonder how that mystery mans genes will affect me. Did...
    sirant sirant 36-40 6 Responses Feb 27, 2009

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    I Have Never Seen My Father.

    My dad left my mum when she was 7 months pregnant. We lost contact and now I really want to find him - or at least know vaguely where he is. I know nothing about that side of my family and I don't want to be denied that. He denied me a father, I don't want him to deny me a family...
    huckle huckle 16-18 2 Responses Jan 26, 2008

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    Sometimes It Feels That Way

    Because of the many mistakes and wrong choices he has made. He is an old man now. He is doing much for us, his family which is quite remarkable. But the fact remains that he has done seriously wrong things too for which he has no solution. I refrain from venting myself out at...
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall 22-25, M 3 Responses May 11, 2011

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    My ***** Donor

    I never had a father.  He ran out on my mother and me when i was just a little girl.  He was never the type to have any parental bonds with anyone, but it did hurt me.  I mean..i was a child!  I needed him in my life at the time...now i just want him to keep...
    DemonDusk DemonDusk 16-18, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2007

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    May I Call You Daddy?

    This story is complex. When i was born my mom was legally married, but seperated. She had my older brother from the marriage, but then became pregnant with me during her seperation. The whole time i was growing up my brother and i thought the man in the house was out dad. He...
    1scapegoat 1scapegoat 46-50 2 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    No More Dad???

    well my story is kinda different, my dad died of an accdent when i was 5 n my sister was 7, till now the only memories i actually had of my dad is 2 meories other than that i dun remember anythin abt him like his voice, his strictness n his care. i only remember he watchin tv...
    taran07 taran07 13-15 Dec 8, 2012

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    Around But Not

    My story is different, as is everyones. no one's story the same my father was married to my mother until i was in 2nd grade. but he wasn't really there. working or overseas or working late was his excuses we moved from Saudi when i was 6, but he stayed there for about a year...
    Penny22 Penny22 18-21 Sep 15, 2010

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    I Had None.

    In my life, the only thing that comes to my mind when you say "loved ones" are my brother and my Mom. At the age 7-8 yrs. old my Mom and Dad separated for good because my mom can't stand my Dad's cheating hobbies. We had to move away from him, and go where my Mom's side of the...
    wherethehealingbegins wherethehealingbegins 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 29, 2012

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    Why Dont You Love Me Father

    I Was 1 Years Old When My Scumbag Father Left Me.He Never Loved Me My Mother Says.I Was A Mistake.He Never Comes To Vist Me Or Calls Me. He Use To Call Me But Barley He Never Even Gives Me Money ! My Mother Has Five Kids To Care For & She Has Three Jobs.He Never Cared For Me I...
    tatianax3 tatianax3 16-17, F 1 Response May 24, 2013

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    Being Hate, Rejected, and Abadoned By My Father

    I failed university in Canada, then when I came back to Hong Kong, I lost everything, including my father and all family relationship.  I grew up with no mother, for they've never married, and also separated when I was four.  I started seeing my mother once a...
    peterso peterso 36-40 4 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    What She Did, What I Did.

    How did she? How did she live with that? How did she tolerate that? How does she not feel disgust? How does she put up with that? I admire my mother, strong and independent. I lived unwillingly with that. I ignored it and never tolerated with that. I feel disgusted, with every...
    InfiniteParadise InfiniteParadise 13-15 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    Dear Friends

    You have a beautiful soul. You are worth more than the birthday card that never quite made it in the mail, as you open that cold steel box, and peeked inside the dark corners of your heart, hoping that someone may have thought of you.  Your value surpasses any amount of phone...
    Jujalee Jujalee 70+ 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    My Father Used To Be In My Life

    My Story is different from some others. I actually know my father & where he lives cause we & other relatives on both sides of the family live in different parts of the same town. He wasn't in my life that much but it was enough to satisfy me & I loved him (and still do) for it...
    jesrie23 jesrie23 26-30, F Jan 17, 2011

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    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam 36-40 Feb 15, 2012

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    I Respect My Absentee Father

    My mom got pregnant at age 19.  She told my father & he opted out.  My mom gave him only one chance, a now or never ultimatum & he said he couldn't do it. My mom did a great job.  She worked hard to provide the basic necessities.  I never...
    redTexan redTexan 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 8, 2008

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    Fatherless

    I can't remember my biological father that well. He died when I was very young between 2-3 yr old, due to a car crash. I don't really like talking about it to my mother or other people, I don't even know how old he was when he passed, when, how old I was, where it happened. All I...
    JasminPw JasminPw 16-17, F Jun 1, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    My family was more involved with making people believe we lived some perfect or amazing life but reality...it was all a show. Now, in comparison to others experiences i had it...
    bandelt7 bandelt7 26-30, F 2 Responses 7 hrs ago

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    It's easy to point at my mother as the "bad guy" out of my parents. After all, she was the one who was constantly yelling, cussing at us, saying she hated us and wanted to leave us...
    mindofmaster mindofmaster 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 23

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    I try, I really do. But every time I look at him all I see his anger, the same anger that was in his eye when he was beating me. When I see fathers in movie or in the street...
    AwkwardnessCentral AwkwardnessCentral 16-17, F Mar 25

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    For a little over a year I have been trying to explain the reasons and motivations behind the way I have lived my life since I married my husband. I have never been able to explain...
    isis55 isis55 56-60, F 1 Response Mar 31

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    I did something that was so hard for me to do a couple of weeks ago. I said Kaddish for both my father as well as my son together. It has been hard to say it for my dad for the...
    PerryGrosser PerryGrosser 51-55, M Apr 10

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    I'm not in anyway socially, financially, or mentally deprived. I live with an average family. Thinking I have nothing to complain because some were even less fortunate than me...
    DreamerCost DreamerCost 16-17, M 2 days ago

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    I have got married 6 months back . My husband mostly talks abt his father who doesn't help me or my husband either physically or financially he has rented house in his native , he...
    vidh vidh 26-30, F 1 Response Mar 26

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    My mother suddenly died two years ago at age 57 and my father started dating again shortly after. It was understandably an incredibly horrific time for my father and it was...
    SisyphusGirl SisyphusGirl 36-40, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Where to begin. All I can say is although I have moved out of my fathers toxic home, I am still very nervous as I write this. I can literally feel the anxiety building up. Ok...
    rrrrandom rrrrandom 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 24

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    The way I came to have two men vying to be Daddy isn't complicated although it is backwards. Most people have a biological father first then a stepfather after remarriage. My...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 Apr 2

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    I have a step-father four years ago, and I don't like my step-father. First, I thought I don't like him because he's the one that my mom had affaire with and he's the one that...
    Fearlessheart13 Fearlessheart13 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    Confused Little Girl- I did not even know I had a biological father until a judge ordered me to his custody in Europe. Before that I lived with my widowed stepfather. My mother had...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 Apr 1

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    My biological father desired a title that was NEVER his to claim. Rather he failed to impress me as best I can put it. My stepfather took back my mother even after she had an...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 1 Response Apr 4

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    My mother lied to me my whole youth about who my father was. I was told my father was my mother’s first husband. Meanwhile my mother married my step father when I was just 20...
    dwc294 dwc294 46-50, M 1 Response a week ago

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    how can a father say your a peice of **** then hug your cousins like nothing happend how can a father say he loves you when he puts every one else above you how can a father...
    fkfh fkfh 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    Sins Of My Late Father- I am 22 and started losing my sight at age 5. My parents were sort of self-absorbed party animals and neither me or my siblings attended school so my loss...
    BlipsieSwag BlipsieSwag 22-25, M 1 Response 3 days ago

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    I think it's disgusting how the role of the father seems insignificant to many people. Scorned women often bring their kids up to resent their fathers which is wrong. Not all...
    thisisanick thisisanick 18-21, M 1 Response Mar 29

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    I am 27, I lost my father to lung cancer 3 weeks ago he was 67, i feel so sad and alone and i feel that there's nothing to live for anymore. what breaks my heart more is that i...
    DadysGirl DadysGirl 26-30, F 2 Responses Mar 31

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    2nd dream last night. It took place in an alternate reality, where time travel was possible. My family consisted of my father, Victor, who was a prestigious scientist or...
    PinkMellow PinkMellow 18-21, F 1 Response Apr 2

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    http://news.yahoo.com/two-moms-baby-legal-first-u-gay-marriage-124540293--finance.html Are fathers going the way of the dinosaur...
    Bonnie1934 Bonnie1934 56-60, F 2 Responses Apr 10

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    My Long Overdue Escape From An Undeserving ***** Donor- "Querida nina Araceli!" I was almost 12 and had been sent to answer the door by my stepmother. A tallish Italian looking...
    StandoffishBrat StandoffishBrat 18-21 Apr 12

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    My father passed away the middle of last year. A few years ago I "made amends"or so called, with him. We emailed between calls. I was able to communicate easier with him thru email...
    ozarkG ozarkG 36-40 1 Response Mar 22

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