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I Have No Father

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    My Father Used To Be In My Life

    My Story is different from some others. I actually know my father & where he lives cause we & other relatives on both sides of the family live in different parts of the same town. He wasn't in my life that much but it was enough to satisfy me & I loved him (and still do) for it...
    jesrie23 jesrie23 26-30, F Jan 17, 2011

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    Did Not Having a Dad Ruin My Life?

    Not sure where to begin. I am a middle aged man who has never had or even known the name of my birth father. My mother, for whatever reason, refuses to tell me who he was, even after 40 years. As I get older I begin to wonder how that mystery mans genes will affect me. Did...
    sirant sirant 36-40 6 Responses Feb 27, 2009

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    Father, But No Dad

    My father lived with my mom and me but he was always either yelling, drinking, or smoking. He was never truly there for me. He threw me out of the house when I was 7,9,10,12,13, and 15. He had done it before, but because of my mom, he was forced to take me back in. When I was 15...
    jamestheboss jamestheboss 18-21 Dec 1, 2011

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    Not Really

    My father was never really there when I was little. When he was home, he was drunk, asleep, or passed out. I spent more time with my dad's friend Mark than with dad. I don't get along with him, and I definitely DON'T respect him. Thankfully mom devorced him. That didn't stop him...
    PoeticRejection PoeticRejection 22-25, F 2 Responses Dec 10, 2007

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    Fatherless

    I can't remember my biological father that well. He died when I was very young between 2-3 yr old, due to a car crash. I don't really like talking about it to my mother or other people, I don't even know how old he was when he passed, when, how old I was, where it happened. All I...
    JasminPw JasminPw 16-17, F Jun 1, 2013

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    Stone Cold.

    I never knew my dad either. He and my mum seperated when she was a few months pregnant with me (she had two older kids- my sisters who didnt live with her). He refused to take responsibility and i've heard that my grandfather had him jailed as a result for a few days. My mum...
    letlaka letlaka 22-25 Mar 1, 2013

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    May I Call You Daddy?

    This story is complex. When i was born my mom was legally married, but seperated. She had my older brother from the marriage, but then became pregnant with me during her seperation. The whole time i was growing up my brother and i thought the man in the house was out dad. He...
    1scapegoat 1scapegoat 46-50 2 Responses Sep 2, 2012

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    A Letter From Your Unknown Dad

    I don't know what you've been told, but I would never purposely hurt you. I don't care how you got here, or who your mother is, you are part of me, and hurting you is hurting myself. I know we have never met, but I want to explain something to you just in case we never do. There...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Sep 8, 2013

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    I Dont Know What To Do

    i never met my father, and feel like i never will. i was raised by my mom and never even knew my dads name. the only relative that is close to me on that side of the family is my grandfather, he got me a horse and brings us to the family parties. i want to ask him about my dad...
    pvdb123 pvdb123 13-15, F Feb 18, 2010

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    Well Sure I Do

    But he's not a real father. I've seen what an actual dad is like. Around the neighborhood, in stores, at schools. My dad, is very far from it, if at all.
    deleted deleted 26-30 2 Responses May 11, 2011

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    I'm so upset. All my 14 years of living I never

    had a father. It's not because he left, it's because he never knew about me. Last year I started to get interested in finding him, eventually I found the guy my mother said was him, I was so excited and got my hopes up, when I met him he was so sweet and said "If you want to be...
    xobeybriannax xobeybriannax 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 11

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    I Had One Once

    I did have a father once, but I've chosen to completely erase him out of my life. He was abusive to myself and my mother, and it's just better and easier to think that he never existed than to think and explain to the world that yes, my birth father was a mentally/physically...
    earth2bella earth2bella 22-25, F 1 Response Jan 27, 2008

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    My ***** Donor

    I never had a father.  He ran out on my mother and me when i was just a little girl.  He was never the type to have any parental bonds with anyone, but it did hurt me.  I mean..i was a child!  I needed him in my life at the time...now i just want him to keep...
    DemonDusk DemonDusk 16-18, F 3 Responses Dec 10, 2007

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    No Father For Me Either!

        My father didn't want me. I was born in the 70's when drugs were high in demand and my parents were into them heavily. My dad was an alcoholic and he beat my mom. I witnesses it so many times. My mom took us from him when I was 6 years old and he didn't find...
    SomaticEnergy SomaticEnergy 31-35, F 1 Response Oct 7, 2009

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    Abandoned Always

    My first father was my biological father, my mom divorced him when i was 1, and he remarried and stopped visiting me when i was 2. My second father was Dave. My mom met him when i was 4. When my mom was gone at work he would show me **** on the internet. He would beat me so bad...
    Faithlee Faithlee 16-17, F Dec 28, 2009

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    I Hate My Father

    I have no Father, my mother fell pregnant with me at 18. She was with my father for two years prior to this; when she told him she had fallen pregnant, he then told her to either have (me) aborted or to keep me and he goes..well you all can guess what she chose... i have...
    rookie rookie 18-21, F 1 Response Oct 3, 2008

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    One Way Or Another

    I have hurt from it, and There'll always be a part of me empty because of it. I live though, it's one trauma among others to me. However a fact, whether I want it so much, I have no father.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Dec 31, 2008

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    I Have Never Seen My Father.

    My dad left my mum when she was 7 months pregnant. We lost contact and now I really want to find him - or at least know vaguely where he is. I know nothing about that side of my family and I don't want to be denied that. He denied me a father, I don't want him to deny me a family...
    huckle huckle 16-18 2 Responses Jan 26, 2008

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    Being Hate, Rejected, and Abadoned By My Father

    I failed university in Canada, then when I came back to Hong Kong, I lost everything, including my father and all family relationship.  I grew up with no mother, for they've never married, and also separated when I was four.  I started seeing my mother once a...
    peterso peterso 36-40 4 Responses Jul 25, 2009

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    Sometimes It Feels That Way

    Because of the many mistakes and wrong choices he has made. He is an old man now. He is doing much for us, his family which is quite remarkable. But the fact remains that he has done seriously wrong things too for which he has no solution. I refrain from venting myself out at...
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall 22-25, M 3 Responses May 11, 2011

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    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam 36-40 Feb 15, 2012

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    Around But Not

    My story is different, as is everyones. no one's story the same my father was married to my mother until i was in 2nd grade. but he wasn't really there. working or overseas or working late was his excuses we moved from Saudi when i was 6, but he stayed there for about a year...
    Penny22 Penny22 18-21 Sep 15, 2010

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    Why Dont You Love Me Father

    I Was 1 Years Old When My Scumbag Father Left Me.He Never Loved Me My Mother Says.I Was A Mistake.He Never Comes To Vist Me Or Calls Me. He Use To Call Me But Barley He Never Even Gives Me Money ! My Mother Has Five Kids To Care For & She Has Three Jobs.He Never Cared For Me I...
    tatianax3 tatianax3 16-17, F 1 Response May 24, 2013

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    I Respect My Absentee Father

    My mom got pregnant at age 19.  She told my father & he opted out.  My mom gave him only one chance, a now or never ultimatum & he said he couldn't do it. My mom did a great job.  She worked hard to provide the basic necessities.  I never...
    redTexan redTexan 31-35, F 4 Responses Oct 8, 2008

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    None Whatsoever

    Left when I was 3. Never saw him again. Only time will tell...
    GreenManley GreenManley 18-21, M 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    What She Did, What I Did.

    How did she? How did she live with that? How did she tolerate that? How does she not feel disgust? How does she put up with that? I admire my mother, strong and independent. I lived unwillingly with that. I ignored it and never tolerated with that. I feel disgusted, with every...
    InfiniteParadise InfiniteParadise 13-15 1 Response Jun 1, 2013

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    My "Father" Is Dead To Me.

    For as long as i can remember my "dad" is nothing but a childish incompitant b*****d, it started when i was 6-7 when the restraining order on my "dad" was lifted not once in the rest of my life did he come to see me. im now 20, but it doesnt mean im not mature, as a matter of...
    lukethorpe19 lukethorpe19 18-21 May 13, 2013

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    When I was 3 my parents had divorced

    for a while I had lived with my mom and my grandma and my younger sister as I had gotten older and I out go to my fathers house he would always tell me how ugly aI was and that all i was was a mistake and that I was fat and I was the reason that they had divorced and that he was...
    SnowBunny37 SnowBunny37 18-21, F 2 Responses Feb 15

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    Looking To Connect

    I stumbled on this website after several frustrating minutes spent trying to find an "absent parent" support group online. I found all kinds of support groups, including several for parents of estranged children. But nothing for the children themselves... So I'm here, to share...
    lcric lcric 26-30, F 1 Response Oct 2, 2013

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    I Miss My Daddy

     i did have a father all my life.He died April 16 2009 from chronic kidney failure. i wathced him die in a hospital and it was absolutly the worst expierience of my life. my father was amzing and he knew he made mistakes as a drunk and druggie with my other siblings but he...
    xxmissxxhimxx xxmissxxhimxx 13-15, F Sep 28, 2009

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    No More Dad???

    well my story is kinda different, my dad died of an accdent when i was 5 n my sister was 7, till now the only memories i actually had of my dad is 2 meories other than that i dun remember anythin abt him like his voice, his strictness n his care. i only remember he watchin tv...
    taran07 taran07 13-15 Dec 8, 2012

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    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam 36-40 Feb 15, 2012

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    My father left one week

    after I was born, he called once when I was in third grade but it was meant for my uncle about money. My grandparents hated him and always said things about him when my mom wasn't listening. I always saw the other kids at my school with their father throwing them in the sky or...
    osnitrapzi osnitrapzi 16-17, F 2 Responses Mar 28

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    Where Are You My Father?

    I have no father, but every day I look for him like an orphan at ever stranger they meet on the street. My older male friends I imagine what kind of father they would have been to me. I envy their children. Some of my friends have had horrible fathers, fathers that have left...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil 36-40, M 15 Responses Jan 12, 2013

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    Thank You Mamma

    Some people could be really useless in every way, but still their physical existence would make you feel safe, just emotional security and maybe it is false emotional safety, but it is there. 
    MissGaga MissGaga 22-25, F Dec 7, 2012

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    Dear Friends

    You have a beautiful soul. You are worth more than the birthday card that never quite made it in the mail, as you open that cold steel box, and peeked inside the dark corners of your heart, hoping that someone may have thought of you.  Your value surpasses any amount of phone...
    Jujalee Jujalee 70+ 2 Responses Mar 2, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    A few years ago my dad celebrated his 80th birthday. It was a very moving experience and it has made a lasting memory, a cherished memory. Beyond meeting relatives, that I havent...
    Soniador1963 Soniador1963 46-50, M 4 hrs ago

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    I literally am reading all these stories and my heart aches. I have been in two mental hospitals and been batteling depression for six years. I have cutt every place there is skin...
    Gonzales96 Gonzales96 18-21, F 3 Responses 2 hrs ago

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    Hello Ladies and Gentlemen, I have been on Experience Project since April 2013. Today is the 7th of September 2014, here in Australia. It is Father's Day today here in Australia...
    MyLifeJourney3 MyLifeJourney3 22-25, M 4 Responses Sep 7

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    My father married a women and could not conceive a child even after 15 years of marriage.So he married another women(my mother) just to have prove the world that he does not have...
    aanaskhan2003 aanaskhan2003 22-25, M 1 Response Sep 4

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    I am an only child to a strong willed and beautiful mother who has endured many hardships throughout her life. Almost from Day 1, my mom has played both parental roles, and with a...
    olinor olinor 18-21, F 1 Response Sep 7

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    He left us right after my younger sister was born, and my younger sister was born when I wasn't even a year old yet. Which means that I grew up without a father, without knowing a...
    Celal Celal 18-21, F Aug 22

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    I've been estranged from my father 8 of the past 10 years. My parents divorced before my first birthday and my mother raised my older sister and I. When I was 3 my father...
    SomedayHeWillBeMine SomedayHeWillBeMine 22-25, F Aug 23

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    My "real" father. When I was little. My father and me were very close. My family were. We are seen as a perfect family and i thought it is. My dad is Japanese and my mom is a...
    azyleak azyleak 22-25, F Aug 31

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    I've lived with my step-mother, father, and brother for most of my life. Unfortunately my father worked a lot and was hardly ever home. This left my step mother to verbally and...
    americanhoney91 americanhoney91 22-25, F 1 Response 10 hrs ago

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    My relationship with my father stalled because of my mothers constant adultery, with his friends! I hardly saw him at all between ages eight and when I moved in with him at...
    Lecuyer90 Lecuyer90 22-25, F 2 Responses Aug 20

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    My father has never been the type to show even a little emotion. He's a rock. Yesterday was his birthday and I wrote him a letter talking about the strength and bravery he's given...
    annoyedandinlove annoyedandinlove 18-21, F Aug 24

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    I hate myself for all the lies and deception I inflicted on my current boyfriend. I blame my family particularly. I am a cheater and this means I have broken my own value system. I...
    Deadlynightshade5 Deadlynightshade5 22-25, F 1 Response Aug 27

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    I am living at my mothers and I used to see my father every second weekend. I found out my father produces and deals with drugs 3 years ago. I told my mum and told her not to tell...
    itisjustmeok itisjustmeok 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 18

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    Yes, as a father it is your obligation to provide us the brighter future thru sending us to a prestige school. When it comes with financial matters, I never questioned you because...
    imerosiie imerosiie 18-21, F Aug 18

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    A Bridge Across the Pain. I remember one morning when I was three and sitting across the table from my father at breakfast, just he and I, when for no reason I could think of he...
    Steffi97 Steffi97 16-17, F 4 Responses Aug 19

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