I Have No Father

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 131 People

    Dear Friends

    You have a beautiful soul. You are worth more than the birthday card that never quite made it in the mail, as you open that cold steel box, and peeked inside the dark corners of your heart, hoping that someone may have thought of you.  Your value surpasses any amount of phone...
    Jujalee Jujalee
    70+
    1 Response Mar 2, 2013

    Looking To Connect

    I stumbled on this website after several frustrating minutes spent trying to find an "absent parent" support group online. I found all kinds of support groups, including several for parents of estranged children. But nothing for the children themselves... So I'm here, to share...
    lcric lcric
    26-30, F
    1 Response Oct 2, 2013

    My "Father" Is Dead To Me.

    For as long as i can remember my "dad" is nothing but a childish incompitant b*****d, it started when i was 6-7 when the restraining order on my "dad" was lifted not once in the rest of my life did he come to see me. im now 20, but it doesnt mean im not mature, as a matter of...
    lukethorpe19 lukethorpe19
    22-25
    May 13, 2013

    Not Really

    My father was never really there when I was little. When he was home, he was drunk, asleep, or passed out. I spent more time with my dad's friend Mark than with dad. I don't get along with him, and I definitely DON'T respect him. Thankfully mom devorced him. That didn't stop him...
    PoeticRejection PoeticRejection
    22-25, F
    2 Responses Dec 10, 2007

    Thank You Mamma

    Some people could be really useless in every way, but still their physical existence would make you feel safe, just emotional security and maybe it is false emotional safety, but it is there. 
    MissGaga MissGaga
    22-25, F
    Dec 7, 2012

    Around But Not

    My story is different, as is everyones. no one's story the same my father was married to my mother until i was in 2nd grade. but he wasn't really there. working or overseas or working late was his excuses we moved from Saudi when i was 6, but he stayed there for about a year...
    Penny22 Penny22
    18-21
    Sep 15, 2010

    my father disowned me

    when him and my mom got divorced
    simpleman1392 simpleman1392
    22-25, M
    Mar 5

    I Dont Know What To Do

    i never met my father, and feel like i never will. i was raised by my mom and never even knew my dads name. the only relative that is close to me on that side of the family is my grandfather, he got me a horse and brings us to the family parties. i want to ask him about my dad...
    pvdb123 pvdb123
    13-15, F
    Feb 18, 2010

    I Hate My Father

    I have no Father, my mother fell pregnant with me at 18. She was with my father for two years prior to this; when she told him she had fallen pregnant, he then told her to either have (me) aborted or to keep me and he goes..well you all can guess what she chose... i have...
    rookie rookie
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 3, 2008

    Father, But No Dad

    My father lived with my mom and me but he was always either yelling, drinking, or smoking. He was never truly there for me. He threw me out of the house when I was 7,9,10,12,13, and 15. He had done it before, but because of my mom, he was forced to take me back in. When I was 15...
    jamestheboss jamestheboss
    18-21
    Dec 1, 2011

    What She Did, What I Did.

    How did she? How did she live with that? How did she tolerate that? How does she not feel disgust? How does she put up with that? I admire my mother, strong and independent. I lived unwillingly with that. I ignored it and never tolerated with that. I feel disgusted, with every...
    InfiniteParadise InfiniteParadise
    16-17
    1 Response Jun 1, 2013

    No More Dad???

    well my story is kinda different, my dad died of an accdent when i was 5 n my sister was 7, till now the only memories i actually had of my dad is 2 meories other than that i dun remember anythin abt him like his voice, his strictness n his care. i only remember he watchin tv...
    taran07 taran07
    13-15
    Dec 8, 2012

    I'm so upset. All my 14 years of living I never

    had a father. It's not because he left, it's because he never knew about me. Last year I started to get interested in finding him, eventually I found the guy my mother said was him, I was so excited and got my hopes up, when I met him he was so sweet and said "If you want to be...
    xobeybriannax xobeybriannax
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 11, 2014

    None Whatsoever

    Left when I was 3. Never saw him again. Only time will tell...
    GreenManley GreenManley
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jun 1, 2013

    my father died in my 9 yrs .

    he is not good or bad person but he left me.
    tirukolluruharish tirukolluruharish
    18-21, M
    Mar 5

    Sometimes It Feels That Way

    Because of the many mistakes and wrong choices he has made. He is an old man now. He is doing much for us, his family which is quite remarkable. But the fact remains that he has done seriously wrong things too for which he has no solution. I refrain from venting myself out at...
    FreeFallWall FreeFallWall
    22-25, M
    2 Responses May 11, 2011

    When i was born i thought i had a dad then a

    couple years later i heard my mom talking about my real dad never came and i was only 4 so then i was always sad and scared and lonely
    Jkatcrazykat Jkatcrazykat
    70+, F
    Aug 22, 2015

    Abandoned Always

    My first father was my biological father, my mom divorced him when i was 1, and he remarried and stopped visiting me when i was 2. My second father was Dave. My mom met him when i was 4. When my mom was gone at work he would show me **** on the internet. He would beat me so bad...
    Faithlee Faithlee
    16-17, F
    Dec 28, 2009

    A Letter From Your Unknown Dad

    I don't know what you've been told, but I would never purposely hurt you. I don't care how you got here, or who your mother is, you are part of me, and hurting you is hurting myself. I know we have never met, but I want to explain something to you just in case we never do. There...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Sep 8, 2013

    i cant even remember him.

    i was 2 years old when he left my mother alone.
    CuriousMeli CuriousMeli
    13-15, F
    Feb 9, 2015

    May I Call You Daddy?

    This story is complex. When i was born my mom was legally married, but seperated. She had my older brother from the marriage, but then became pregnant with me during her seperation. The whole time i was growing up my brother and i thought the man in the house was out dad. He...
    1scapegoat 1scapegoat
    46-50
    2 Responses Sep 2, 2012

    Where Are You My Father?

    I have no father, but every day I look for him like an orphan at ever stranger they meet on the street. My older male friends I imagine what kind of father they would have been to me. I envy their children. Some of my friends have had horrible fathers, fathers that have left...
    CopperCoil CopperCoil
    36-40, M
    13 Responses Jan 12, 2013

    I Miss My Daddy

     i did have a father all my life.He died April 16 2009 from chronic kidney failure. i wathced him die in a hospital and it was absolutly the worst expierience of my life. my father was amzing and he knew he made mistakes as a drunk and druggie with my other siblings but he...
    xxmissxxhimxx xxmissxxhimxx
    13-15, F
    Sep 28, 2009

    One Way Or Another

    I have hurt from it, and There'll always be a part of me empty because of it. I live though, it's one trauma among others to me. However a fact, whether I want it so much, I have no father.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Dec 31, 2008

    My father left one week

    after I was born, he called once when I was in third grade but it was meant for my uncle about money. My grandparents hated him and always said things about him when my mom wasn't listening. I always saw the other kids at my school with their father throwing them in the sky or...
    osnitrapzi osnitrapzi
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Mar 28, 2014

    Well Sure I Do

    But he's not a real father. I've seen what an actual dad is like. Around the neighborhood, in stores, at schools. My dad, is very far from it, if at all.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response May 11, 2011

    I Respect My Absentee Father

    My mom got pregnant at age 19.  She told my father & he opted out.  My mom gave him only one chance, a now or never ultimatum & he said he couldn't do it. My mom did a great job.  She worked hard to provide the basic necessities.  I never...
    redTexan redTexan
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Oct 8, 2008

    Why Dont You Love Me Father

    I Was 1 Years Old When My Scumbag Father Left Me.He Never Loved Me My Mother Says.I Was A Mistake.He Never Comes To Vist Me Or Calls Me. He Use To Call Me But Barley He Never Even Gives Me Money ! My Mother Has Five Kids To Care For & She Has Three Jobs.He Never Cared For Me I...
    tatianax3 tatianax3
    18-21, F
    1 Response May 24, 2013

    Did Not Having a Dad Ruin My Life?

    Not sure where to begin. I am a middle aged man who has never had or even known the name of my birth father. My mother, for whatever reason, refuses to tell me who he was, even after 40 years. As I get older I begin to wonder how that mystery mans genes will affect me. Did...
    sirant sirant
    36-40
    6 Responses Feb 27, 2009

    My ***** Donor

    I never had a father.  He ran out on my mother and me when i was just a little girl.  He was never the type to have any parental bonds with anyone, but it did hurt me.  I mean..i was a child!  I needed him in my life at the time...now i just want him to keep...
    DemonDusk DemonDusk
    16-17, F
    3 Responses Dec 10, 2007

    Ahhh, father of mine.

    ***** donor. In my birth, you did nothing. My mother broke her tailbone during childbirth. You still did nothing. Your worthless mother had the gall the tell my mother that she was feeling "sorry for herself". My mother developed breast cancer. You did nothing. Your mother...
    lurkingscorpio lurkingscorpio
    18-21, M
    Nov 26, 2015

    Stone Cold.

    I never knew my dad either. He and my mum seperated when she was a few months pregnant with me (she had two older kids- my sisters who didnt live with her). He refused to take responsibility and i've heard that my grandfather had him jailed as a result for a few days. My mum...
    letlaka letlaka
    22-25
    Mar 1, 2013

    I Had One Once

    I did have a father once, but I've chosen to completely erase him out of my life. He was abusive to myself and my mother, and it's just better and easier to think that he never existed than to think and explain to the world that yes, my birth father was a mentally/physically...
    earth2bella earth2bella
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jan 27, 2008

    Being Hate, Rejected, and Abadoned By My Father

    I failed university in Canada, then when I came back to Hong Kong, I lost everything, including my father and all family relationship.  I grew up with no mother, for they've never married, and also separated when I was four.  I started seeing my mother once a...
    peterso peterso
    36-40
    4 Responses Jul 25, 2009

    My mother adopted my sister

    and I. She never got married so it hurts to know that I don't have my biological parents or a nonbiological dad. I feel so empty :/
    akazakh23 akazakh23
    22-25, F
    1 Response Jul 7, 2015

    I Have Never Seen My Father.

    My dad left my mum when she was 7 months pregnant. We lost contact and now I really want to find him - or at least know vaguely where he is. I know nothing about that side of my family and I don't want to be denied that. He denied me a father, I don't want him to deny me a family...
    huckle huckle
    16-17
    2 Responses Jan 26, 2008

    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam
    36-40
    Feb 15, 2012

    Fatherless

    I can't remember my biological father that well. He died when I was very young between 2-3 yr old, due to a car crash. I don't really like talking about it to my mother or other people, I don't even know how old he was when he passed, when, how old I was, where it happened. All I...
    JasminPw JasminPw
    18-21, F
    Jun 1, 2013

    Absent Military Dad

    I have written a poem explaining how i feel now that the father i rarley saw all my life is on his death bed. He was in the Australian Airforce so i have added a bit of armed forces lingo. Don't know how to feel, the manual doesn't say, Left without a half you only get half way...
    patjordansam patjordansam
    36-40
    Feb 15, 2012

    My Father Used To Be In My Life

    My Story is different from some others. I actually know my father & where he lives cause we & other relatives on both sides of the family live in different parts of the same town. He wasn't in my life that much but it was enough to satisfy me & I loved him (and still do) for it...
    RealMarie27 RealMarie27
    26-30, F
    Jan 17, 2011

    When I was 3 my parents had divorced

    for a while I had lived with my mom and my grandma and my younger sister as I had gotten older and I out go to my fathers house he would always tell me how ugly aI was and that all i was was a mistake and that I was fat and I was the reason that they had divorced and that he was...
    snow37 snow37
    22-25, F
    3 Responses Feb 15, 2014

    No Father For Me Either!

        My father didn't want me. I was born in the 70's when drugs were high in demand and my parents were into them heavily. My dad was an alcoholic and he beat my mom. I witnesses it so many times. My mom took us from him when I was 6 years old and he didn't find...
    SomaticEnergy SomaticEnergy
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 7, 2009

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