Not really familiar with this site so I didn't realize you quoted me.
Sure, good-looking people have a wider berth than do ugly people, but likable people have the widest berth of all. Likable people can do just what they feel and we like them all the same. Because...well, whatever they do is what we're supposed
to like, right ? The fact is, we're more attracted to auras than we are actual looks.
My brother, for example, has this irresistible assurance about himself. Whatever he does is what's supposed to be done; you can always feel at ease with my brother. Because he decided he's good and moral and he respects himself - rather, he does things he can respect. That's the key, I think.
And a boy who lives down my street...well, when I first saw him I thought he was hideous. In fact, a friend of mine saw his picture just recently and said "Ugh, how could you have liked him?"
But I did. I liked him so much it ached... he had this delightful aura about him, that he was wonderful and content and nothing else mattered. I was drawn to him just as everyone else was, because he was magical and lovely to be around. The only thing that stopped my affections was my discovering his beautiful girlfriend, haha.
But none of this matters. The only
thing that matters is that you are good. Even if nothing else follows, even if you never have any friends till the day you die, you have to be good. Because good is unconditional and the only reason to be good is because good is good to be (;
I suppose that doesn't help much. Alright, maybe this makes more sense - people are drawn to people who "have" something of worth, and maybe they shouldn't be, but they are. Good looks are something of worth; but more importantly good looks imply confidence and self-respect, which is what people are truly
drawn to. So if you respect yourself, then you've already got the end product. And gahh....if you respect yourself then you don't care
if anybody else does! Because you do things you can respect, and that's enough.