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I Have No Real Friends and Few Family

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    Hi everyone, I'm Seb. I'm 17 and I am a pretty calm, relaxed, loving but ambitious and passionate guy. I don't have the luck to have a lot of friends in school since I can't "click" with a lot of people because my dreams and likes are so different from others. But I am hoping to...
    Seb1701 Seb1701 18-21, M Nov 2, 2013

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    Setting Boundaries Is Good

    I have to set boundaries with family and friends and I do not apologize for it all for that. I have learnt that you have to let people know when they are overstepping your boundaries and when they are wronging you... because real friends don't bash you and a real friend does not...
    czaristacrystals czaristacrystals 36-40, F 3 Responses Jul 21, 2011

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    Friends... What Are Those? Family... Like... 6?

    In my case, making some friends is like winning the lottery. I say that because if I meet someone, I always end up losing them, like I'm not important or something. I often wonder why I have to constantly chase or start up a conversation with the person... I assume I have a sense...
    SomeRandude SomeRandude 18-21, M 6 Responses Jan 15, 2011

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    Connections Are Lost, Reconnections Not Met

    My boyfriend always tells me I spend too much time on Facebook, and maybe I do. I think part of the reason I like it is because I can look at everyone else's lives and what they have to show. I compare their profiles to mine and it depresses me, so I immerse myself in looking at...
    KitFerrero KitFerrero 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 7, 2011

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    We Would Like To Belong To A Family

    Briefly, I grew up in a disfunctional family.  Drug addiction, alcoholism, criminal activity and mental illness all were the norm.  I am an addict too.  I never felt like I belonged.  I was convinced that I must have been adopted.  I am not.  I waited on the outskirts for...
    BlessedGirl1971 BlessedGirl1971 36-40, F 5 Responses Nov 25, 2011

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    bloodykiller bloodykiller 13-15, F 3 days ago

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    Only My Grandmother

    Our of all my family members, I'm only close with my Grandmother. My mother has some subliminal problem with me, it's like she's jealous. My half brother is pompous and judgmental. My half sister is ok, we could be close if we put effort into it. My cousins and me are on two...
    LikeAPrayer LikeAPrayer 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 26, 2013

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    My Friendships Never Last

    My friendships never ever last. I try to connect with people. I try to be there for people. I try so hard. And everytime I wind up alone. I think how can I fail when I tried so hard. Nobody understands me. I'm tired of being alone. I want friends. i want a connection with...
    TheLonelyPoet TheLonelyPoet 18-21, F 3 Responses Oct 1, 2013

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    As this app was loading it showed a picture of

    a young boy and girl hugging eachother. It made me realize how deprived I am in terms of connecting to other humans. I've never had a lover and my first friend was kind of an ******* to me, but he was a kid so I guess I forgove him and blame his ****** mom. I theorize that this...
    Raptorpsychologist Raptorpsychologist 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 18

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    No, I really don't, not

    even one. Plus, most of my "family" hates me because I'm quiet and never get to speak my own words, most of the reason why I'm quiet is because of severe emotional abuse and neglect. Instead they base me off of rumors and "paint a picture" of me, never getting to know me in...
    Dewdlz Dewdlz 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 24

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    I Don't Have Any Real Friends

    For I don't know how many years I've just been "friends" with a bunch of people...in high school I talked to them a lot and had good relationships. I didn't have very many connections but my "friends" were always fun to talk to. I moved when I graduated high school. None of my...
    afireinside11 afireinside11 18-21, M 1 Response Nov 1, 2013

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    Im Lonely And Confused

    I was dating and got cheated on. Dont really understand why I stayed in the relationship. Im 19 and I love my ex boyfriend still. Recently I have been experiencing weird feelings towards the opposite sex. I am sexually attracted but I LOVE a mans touch.help
    sherrae sherrae 18-21, F Aug 10, 2013

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    The..spirit...of...childhood.

    i.....miss..the...spirit...of...my...childhood.......i..was....surrounded.......by......so...many...loving...people........i.....knew..there..was....always..someone.....to..turn.....to......some...one...to.....comfort......some...one...to...laugh.......with....some...to......do...
    psychicprayer psychicprayer 36-40 1 Response Apr 28, 2012

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    My Family

    I initially joined this group because I do not know my family. I use to do drugs alot when I was younger and alienated most of my family away from me. Now that I am completely sober I have lost all of my friends(thankfully) and my family still acts the same way. Those were my...
    allenbird allenbird 36-40, M 3 Responses Oct 14, 2011

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    My Sister Is My Enemy..

    My sister and I have never really been close. We only lived together as siblings for about 4 years, the worst years of my life! We were born 6 years apart she is older than me. When I was 9 years old my brother and I were left to be babysat by her. She would make me sweep, mop...
    Idalie002 Idalie002 22-25 1 Response Jun 3, 2013

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    ..Just Internet Friends And Family I Barely See...

    No "real" friends..as in, no one to consistently hang out with and do things with, at least once a month. I have what I would call "work" friends..people you see everyday and are cordial to..but people that, outside of work, you very rarely get together with. I have an "ex-work...
    Misfitbrokentoy Misfitbrokentoy 46-50, F 1 Response Jul 7, 2013

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    I'Ve Alienated Myself

    I've always been a loner, but it getting worse. I've cut myself off from most of my family, as i dont like some of them as people. i dont believe the "have my back" so to speak. I often think that they will turn up at my funeral and i can do nothing to tell them to get lost. I...
    dmiracle14 dmiracle14 36-40, F 2 Responses Feb 7, 2013

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    Cut Out Of Friend Group

    I graduated high school 10 years ago. Over time I lost contact with a group of girlfriends. It didn't happen over night. Its was slow. I know for a while a few of them stopped talking to each other. I just found out that the 4 of them still get together for important events like...
    Linndsay Linndsay 26-30 4 Responses Sep 14, 2013

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    No One To Really Talk To

    I moved from one state to another a couple years back to be clser to my "family" because i felt so alone as a single mum and thought i would be able to get a little help and socialise more. I have been here for over two years now and it's worse than what it was at my last place.I...
    Bebelee Bebelee 22-25, F 9 Responses Jan 25, 2011

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    We Have No Family,never Mind Any Friends

    my mother was murdered  right in front of brother who is mentally challenged.this crime took place on October 5 2007 in a town called  LAS MARIAS which is in the island of PUERTO RICO, in a case of domestic violence,my mother never told anyone about this i...
    aq81343 aq81343 46-50 1 Response Sep 24, 2010

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    From Rock To Roll Over

    I use to have many acquiescence and people I considered my friends. Once being a drummer/singer in a rock band and touring, I met many people who seemed interested in me. Now that I am no longer in a band, the people I once thought of as my friends, who would call, visit etc...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Jun 6, 2013

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    Feeling Lonely Around The Holidays...

    My Mom's parents passed away when she was 10 and 12.  When she was 18 or maybe even 16, she left the country she was living in for the US.  She met my Father after being here for a few years.  He never knew his Father and his Mother passed away.  So, basically...
    Theresa812 Theresa812 31-35, F 2 Responses Dec 1, 2009

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    Don'T Know Why I Bother

    sick of constantly being that friend who is left out. that friend that no one really cares about. don't actually know why I bother. don't know if they realize how they make me feel. always leaving me out etc. decided from now on I will stop putting the effort in and slowly let...
    herebutinvisible herebutinvisible 16-17, F 2 Responses Oct 14, 2013

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    Always The Blacksheep

    My family story is very sorted. Needless to say, the only family member alive that I know and have anything to do with his my biological grandmother, who adopted me and I consider her mom.  She is going down hill fast and after her, I have no family.   I do have...
    DarcPrincess DarcPrincess 26-30, F 4 Responses Apr 17, 2010

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    After Divorce

    I used to have a lot of friends until I divorced. In order to defend her affair my ex told a lot of lies about me and cost me everyone I knew. That was 10 years ago and those friends have never been replaced. Over the years many came forward to aopoligise but it was too late. I...
    Coffee71 Coffee71 36-40, M 1 Response May 18, 2012

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    What Is Wrong With Me?!

    When I was younger I had friends and family. Maybe the friends and family I had was somewhat dysfunctional but never the less I had them. I don’t know what happened. I used to go out to eat with friends, go to parties, to the movies, bars and I dated a lot. Somewhere along...
    stonewilder stonewilder 36-40, F 4 Responses Jun 3, 2007

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    I Guess I Just Suck.

    It's crazy how you have to please people just to have friends. Where have all the good friends gone? Where are the friends who really have good intentions, instead of the bad? Where are all the good friends that actually have your back, rather than ride it? Do they still exist?
    Misspurple Misspurple 31-35, F 11 Responses Mar 4, 2012

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    Sad and Alone

         The only friends ive had were the foes, the people who use you for something but have no interest in truly being your friend. Now that im out of school I have no one, and the few people who do talk to me do so out of pity, making me turn down...
    4four2twenty0 4four2twenty0 22-25, F 13 Responses Jul 6, 2009

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    About Me

    Hello out there. I am 27, and I feel like an outsider. See, first of all, I am a single mom of two boys. They are young, but I have been raising them on my own for the last two and a half years. Before that, I was married to someone who I thought loved me, but turned out to...
    WeepyDonuts WeepyDonuts 26-30, F 4 Responses Jun 27, 2012

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    Resigned

    My father was mentally ill, my mom full of anger and anxiety. All I remember is sadness and being scared. I'm smart, attractive and educated but would gladly give it up if I could have lived my life without all the noise in my head and all the mistakes. Disfunction attracts...
    hopebeyond hopebeyond 46-50 1 Response Oct 20, 2013

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    What sucks is that I honestly only have a few

    real friends .. I had so many friends before, but some just turned there backs on me. And my own Bestfriend chose to date this girl he barley knows than to save our friendship. That's why it makes me wonder who are my real friends? Who can I trust? And my close family that I...
    sanchez18 sanchez18 18-21, F Jan 14

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    Did This Friend Cross The Line??? So Why Am I The Bad Guy??? Any Advice Please!!!

    I have been trying to understand what the psychological term for this is. The only thing I can come up with is Dependent Personality Disorder, but if you Google “Obsessive Friendship”, it really describes my situation. I met Julie in 2007. I had a ad out for horse boarding...
    randomthoughts randomthoughts 46-50, F 5 Responses Oct 25, 2011

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    Embarrassed

    My parents have never said that they were proud of me... Ever. I think that they are embarrassed to have me as a child, I've drank I've smoked I've tried to smoke weed, I've had sex sexted had oral sex and given oral sex given hand jobs (fingering), I've given girls hickeys I've...
    taterbond1 taterbond1 13-15, M 1 Response Jul 7, 2013

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    Hii. This is probably one of the hardest things

    to admit to yourself.. but realizing you have no real friends... and only a few family members... I am a freshman in college.. Throughout highschool, I had two friends (in highschool) that I really talked to. The one (ill give her a nickname) of michelle and me were super close...
    cmorris2013 cmorris2013 18-21, F 6 Responses Feb 19

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    I Am a Dying Breed

    When I was young, my family did their best to mold me into what they thought was perfect, but I always fought it. I struggled for 17 years to be myself befroe I finally left home to pursue it. Now, I am precisely who I wanted to be all those years, but I find myself alone. I have...
    Adyingbreed Adyingbreed 21-25, F 5 Responses Mar 25, 2008

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    I Dread The Future

    At times I feel so alone, and I dread the future when I really will be all alone in this world. I live on my own in a city where I have no close friends, and my only real family are a parent and a grand-parent who live several hours away and who I've never really been able to...
    CosmoLang CosmoLang 36-40, M 3 Responses Nov 1, 2011

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    I Feel Like I Have No One:(

    I have people that I'm related to but i don't consider them to be "family" simply because they are not really around and i don't feel close to any of them at all. my mother was adopted at the age of 11 by strict christian people who wanted a daughter but couldn't have one. my...
    electrapleiadian electrapleiadian 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 13, 2013

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    Yup.basically NO family.

    just my mom and step dad
    AmberLovesRabbits AmberLovesRabbits 13-15, F Feb 20

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    Its not like any one would understand!

    even if it was in English Hai, sono shin no watashinochichi wa watashi o utsu to watashi no okāsan ga watashi ni chūi o haratte teishi shimashita... Sore wa son'nani warui itai.. ... Nō kazoku dare mo jigoku IM tandoku oyobi subete no akumu to beddo de, sore wa suu nure...
    SilverFlippy SilverFlippy 13-15, F 2 Responses Dec 27, 2013

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    No Family

    When you lose family it truly hurts. I never had full family, My mom had illness and alcohalism and left when I was 12. My dad a workahalic that was emotionally unavailable. when my older brother left home he dis-associated his self from our family from then on. My sister had...
    pararose pararose 46-50, F 4 Responses Sep 7, 2013

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    Sucks but it's true .

    Not comfortable w to any ppl .
    amandalovee24 amandalovee24 22-25, F 3 days ago

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    I Want Kids - How To Adopt?

    Im a lovely man, who loves kids. I think im getting older and older and no kids. How is it to adopt?
    xxxmale xxxmale 36-40, M 1 Response Jul 23, 2013

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    I Literally Have No Friends And Two People That Consider Me Family

    I literally have no friends and the only person that considers me family is my older brother, Ricky, besides him i have nobody. I live with my grandparents, because my mom left me there when i was 14. She done the same with my brother. I finally met my dad 2 years ago and he...
    BooneA BooneA 16-17, M 1 Response Aug 5, 2013

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    I'll Just Be Alone Forever

    It continually gets harder for me to make friends. I've always moved around a lot and as I got older people would always stick with the people they grew up with. I have nobody I grew up with or was friends with since I was little. Other than my aunt,uncle,cousin and grandmother...
    xXStitchedxPoetXx xXStitchedxPoetXx 18-21, F 8 Responses Jun 14, 2012

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    Just Acquaintances And Relatives

    I used to have friends and was close to my family. I moved away for college and feel that my absence made them forget about me. I started to get busy with school and work that I slowly started to lose my friends. I always thought that if they cared that they would understand. I...
    esrios esrios 26-30, F Nov 5, 2013

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    Never Had Any Friends

    I am very sad these days. I have had three family members pass away in the past three years. It seemed that after all three passed on, that things calmed down. I was ready to try to start some kind of life on my own. Just as I felt sort of comfortable with the way things were...
    lonelybyrd lonelybyrd 51-55, F 7 Responses Jan 27, 2013

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    Lonely And Can't Understand Why

    I love being around people and I am a very social person. But for whatever reason, people don't like me. It's like I meet people and things seem to be going great! I think there's a connection and then it just dies! it's been this way for me my entire life! Since childhood...
    Mumu89 Mumu89 22-25 Jul 22, 2013

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    Making Our Own Family Connections

    I never had much of a family or was stable enough when I was younger to maintain healthy relationships however over time I have been part of Hugssociety and learned not only how to maintain and keep friendships alive but make a family that I could support and who I could accept...
    Hugsdirector Hugsdirector 36-40, F 1 Response Nov 4, 2013

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    Kill Me Please

    What is there to say? I have no friends and my family circle is limited. The only bloodline family I have any communication with is my brother who is mentally deficient and we don't get along. I don't know my biological father and my mother died 2 years ago. Both of her parents...
    dustypork dustypork 26-30, F 7 Responses Jan 23, 2012

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    Same Crap, Different "Friend"....

    so at one point, i thought i had a circle of 3 very good friends. i now see that i was wrong. 2 of them got married a few years ago and completely cut me off. and the last one i had left, has now hurt me as well. we have been friends for 13 years. he lives out of state, and its...
    welcome2myworld welcome2myworld 41-45, F 2 Responses Jul 16, 2013

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    I Am The Definition Of Failure

    Hi everyone. I'm gonna be honest here. I believe in God, but I don't know about my life and what God plan to do with it. I think God hates me or maybe he created me just to be an example of a failure to everyone else. First, I cannot do anything, like literally anything (Sports...
    ABoyInForeignCountry ABoyInForeignCountry 18-21, M 3 Responses Jun 14, 2013

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    I'm always out because I can't stand your toxic

    presence. So excuse me for not feeling guilty for not spending enough time with you. I love you but you make it so hard for me to do that. I'd rather go out and be free than stay with you and feel my self-esteem drop by the second.
    amorverdan amorverdan 18-21, F Feb 4

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    Ignored For Life

    I have a big family so we are always having get togethers. So when i go to these gatherings I always feel left out, I'm always the one that is being ignored and no one even seems to want to be near me or even talk to me. I try to talk to others but they keep looking around the...
    babydoll73 babydoll73 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 24, 2012

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    Reply To A Card I Received From My Mother After 17 Years Of No Contact...

    Here I enclose a copy of the letter I sent in reply to a card I received from my mother, who found my business address online after 17 years. Her card comprised of a couple of paragraphs about how she was coping after the recent death of her 'husband':It contained little enquiry...
    est941 est941 41-45, F 8 Responses Sep 27, 2010

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    It's Not Much...

         I dont even know where to start... i guess it all began as a kid when my older half brother would beat up on me, i must of been twelve or thirteen at the time. looking back now im not sure if it was something i did to make him angry at me or just the fact...
    Volk Volk 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 27, 2009

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    Being Let Down Too Many Times To Care Anymore

    I feel so disappointed and damaged. My social life doesn't even exist. I think that people are extremely selfish and self-absorbed, nobody really cares for you. Why is it, that when you talk to someone you feel that nobody really listens, they're just waiting to interrupt and...
    meskininkas meskininkas 18-21 5 Responses Dec 1, 2011

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    Related Experiences

    That I will always be without true friends. I guess I just wasn't meant to have real friends.
    SeaunAtchison SeaunAtchison 18-21, M Mar 29