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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    xXFiyaTheOneAndOnlyXx xXFiyaTheOneAndOnlyXx 16-17, F Sep 5, 2015

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Why would I when I'm not interesting

    or have any redeeming qualities at all. There's no reason for me to be confident.
    hreinn hreinn 18-21, M 2 Responses Jan 19

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    :( I try to talk to girls

    but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    Since I can remember,

    I've been extremely self conscious. I've always been so concerned with my weight and how I look, and I think that's caused some minor eating problems. I'll say this: from the outside, it looks like nothing is wrong. I eat normal-sized meals and have a few drinks per week...
    alliemacd alliemacd 22-25, F Sep 30, 2015

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in

    myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    This morning I was waiting

    for the lift with another gentleman who works in the same building as I do. The goods lift arrived and we both got in and were amazed to see the protective covering that is always in the goods lift had been removed. Instead of the usual stinky blue covering were floor to...
    ctstranger ctstranger 41-45, F 5 Responses Oct 16, 2015

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    And it's funny because people think I do.

    But I'm actually so critical of myself. If someone said to me half of the things I think about myself I could probably sue that person for bullying me or something.
    amandapanda007 amandapanda007 16-17, F 1 Response Oct 14, 2015

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    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Dec 10, 2015

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I've been bullied since I was 11,

    kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have no self confidence.. He's the reason I can't give people my opinion. He's the reason for a lot of things wrong with me. & I hate the...
    neliza neliza 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    i used to think of myself attractive

    and i do remember that like yesterday..i was one of those teenage guys who would do my hair for more an than an hour to make sure it looks perfect.in my early 20's to mid 20's i still had self esteem even though i still remained skinny where i thought my matabalism would slow...
    LegendBattles LegendBattles 26-30, M Jul 21, 2015

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    I with I'm friends like me

    and care about I'm lonely and looking for life to get better Do you not like me or something I feel like you don't want talk to me I want to feel Real happiness Way do bad things away happen to me I need to be happy but I'm not
    mygay mygay 18-21, M Nov 11, 2015

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    I'm not sure if I believe people

    when they say I am pretty. Not that it matters what other people think. I have terrible self esteem. I take the way I am treated or looked over as how pretty I am. It may be superficial but it is how I judge whether or not I am feeling good about myself that day. Since I am a...
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Oct 16, 2015

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    The constant feeling of insecurity,

    of feeling judged, of hating yourself for the way you look... It's all so exhausting. Why can't I have even the slightest bit of self-confidence? Why can't I feel pretty just once in my life? Why can't I go anywhere without feeling like everyone is talking about me and judging...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13, 2015

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    i used to have self confident

    when i was younger but when i hit puberty it changed. all the other girls had better developed bodies and got boyfriends so easily and i never got any male attention. by the time i got to high school i started improving myself but being more "attractive" by using makeup and...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F Feb 14, 2015

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    So, when I moved from primary to secondary

    school I began to be the platform on which bullies attack. I didn't suffer any physical attacks, however I was ridiculed and picked on every day and lessons were a disaster due to the fact that I was literally forced to work in a group in which all members were bullies. This...
    ftariq24 ftariq24 16-17, M May 14, 2015

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    How can one have self esteem

    and or self confidence when different situations and or people in my past say or have proven otherwise and leave one feeling like crap ? ... ._.
    RyRyOfAwesomeness RyRyOfAwesomeness 16-17, M 1 Response Dec 11, 2015

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    I almost died in an ATV accident in Mexico I

    had a girlfriend for 5 months online and in person She said she'll never leave me and she'll b with me through everything. A month later she cheated on me by sucking her ex's ___ she said it was the best He had a 6 pack Big d (she said) Handsome The ex texted me to rub it in
    pilot2022 pilot2022 16-17, M Feb 8, 2015

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    My husband never comes to bed with me

    even if we have a goodnight I go to bed by myself every single night is that normal?????
    zaragh zaragh 31-35, F 3 Responses Jul 5, 2015

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing.

    I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to whoever reads this. But I've never told anybody this, and I can barely acknowlegde it myself.
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3, 2014

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    i have to some extent

    but not like I would like i want 100% confidence especially during relationships that is the one thing i struggle with is confidence and self esteem in a relationship
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 16, 2015

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    I have been told that I am "the most

    uncoordinated girl in the world." I have to admit that this is an amazingly accurate assessment. I am the type of person who trips over her own feet. I go through life pushing doors marked pull. I can't drive more than five miles from home without getting lost. I fumble at...
    atpeacewithme atpeacewithme 31-35 1 Response Oct 17, 2015

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    For some reason my self confidence just won't

    go up. It doesn't matter that i've had relationships, i get hit on - it just doesnt change the fact that i have no self confidence. I know to some extent why, the whole lack of affection and attention as a child, mother reminding how she never wanted me, father sending me to...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 22-25, F Aug 11, 2015

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    I have so little confidence I reject ppl

    who ask me out not because I don't like them back, but because I feel too ugly and unworthy to have someone's affections. < 3
    SeanNation SeanNation 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 2, 2015

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    I have no talent and I'm not actually good at

    anything. My passion for the things I think are cool or like is nearly non-existent. I don't have the motivation to keep up with anything. I have very few friends. I can't be real with anyone until I'm real with myself, which is gonna be at least a year. I'm a trans guy and I...
    slofth slofth 16-17, M Jan 22, 2015

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    It's really bad. When I like something

    and someone else shares an interest in it or seems to threaten it I immediately give up on it and go back into my shell
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 11, 2014

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    I don't and I haven't

    for a long time. My self esteem is the lowest it's ever been and I have no idea how to go about fixing myself. I've lost all my confidence. I'm not confident in anything I do anymore. I don't know what to do.
    mylifeinwords1021 mylifeinwords1021 18-21, F Nov 18, 2015

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    I'm afraid to be in relationships,

    haven't been in one for about 6 years now. I would always think any guy that I am with would think I'm ugly and break up with me anyways. I will say over the years I tried to focus on my career and at 26 years old I have a great job as an engineer. I am still a virgin, I don't...
    na719 na719 26-30, F Dec 12, 2015

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    i really want to fix this

    but have no one to help me with this problem it causes problems with friends and when i try to talk to people
    jamesb2243 jamesb2243 22-25, M 1 Response Oct 17, 2015

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    None of the guys I've liked have ever liked me

    back? Except for like one, in the 7th frickin grade. I've only ever had luck with girls, and that's because girls tend to be more open minded and kind about appearance and all of that. But even though I think and feel that I'm hideous, there's no way I could be when my...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 11, 2015

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