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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in

    myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by.
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    For some reason my self confidence just won't

    go up. It doesn't matter that i've had relationships, i get hit on - it just doesnt change the fact that i have no self confidence. I know to some extent why, the whole lack of affection and attention as a child, mother reminding how she never wanted me, father sending me to...
    confusednormalness confusednormalness 18-21, F Aug 11

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing.

    I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to whoever reads this. But I've never told anybody this, and I can barely acknowlegde it myself.
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3, 2014

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    My husband never comes to bed with me

    even if we have a goodnight I go to bed by myself every single night is that normal?????
    zaragh zaragh 31-35, F 2 Responses Jul 5

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    i used to think of myself attractive

    and i do remember that like yesterday..i was one of those teenage guys who would do my hair for more an than an hour to make sure it looks perfect.in my early 20's to mid 20's i still had self esteem even though i still remained skinny where i thought my matabalism would slow...
    LegendBattles LegendBattles 26-30, M Jul 21

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    None of the guys I've liked have ever liked me

    back? Except for like one, in the 7th frickin grade. I've only ever had luck with girls, and that's because girls tend to be more open minded and kind about appearance and all of that. But even though I think and feel that I'm hideous, there's no way I could be when my...
    sunshinebucky sunshinebucky 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 11

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    i used to have self confident

    when i was younger but when i hit puberty it changed. all the other girls had better developed bodies and got boyfriends so easily and i never got any male attention. by the time i got to high school i started improving myself but being more "attractive" by using makeup and...
    avalily avalily 18-21, F Feb 14

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    I have no talent and I'm not actually good at

    anything. My passion for the things I think are cool or like is nearly non-existent. I don't have the motivation to keep up with anything. I have very few friends. I can't be real with anyone until I'm real with myself, which is gonna be at least a year. I'm a trans guy and I...
    slofth slofth 16-17, M Jan 22

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Ever get the feeling

    when you look in the mirror and just hate yourself I don't know why I do it's just a persistent thing on the outside I seem so confident to people loud Gobby outgoing bubbly etc etc... But to myself I feel nothing I always want to change the way I look the way I dress my...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    It's really bad. When I like something

    and someone else shares an interest in it or seems to threaten it I immediately give up on it and go back into my shell
    deleted deleted 26-30 Oct 11, 2014

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    I've been bullied since I was 11,

    kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have no self confidence.. He's the reason I can't give people my opinion. He's the reason for a lot of things wrong with me. & I hate the...
    neliza neliza 16-17, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    I almost died in an ATV accident in Mexico I

    had a girlfriend for 5 months online and in person She said she'll never leave me and she'll b with me through everything. A month later she cheated on me by sucking her ex's ___ she said it was the best He had a 6 pack Big d (she said) Handsome The ex texted me to rub it in
    pilot2022 pilot2022 13-15, M Feb 8

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    So, when I moved from primary to secondary

    school I began to be the platform on which bullies attack. I didn't suffer any physical attacks, however I was ridiculed and picked on every day and lessons were a disaster due to the fact that I was literally forced to work in a group in which all members were bullies. This...
    ftariq24 ftariq24 16-17, M May 14

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    The constant feeling of insecurity,

    of feeling judged, of hating yourself for the way you look... It's all so exhausting. Why can't I have even the slightest bit of self-confidence? Why can't I feel pretty just once in my life? Why can't I go anywhere without feeling like everyone is talking about me and judging...
    lizygurl lizygurl 18-21, F 2 Responses Mar 13

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8, 2014

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    :( I try to talk to girls

    but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    I have so little confidence I reject ppl

    who ask me out not because I don't like them back, but because I feel too ugly and unworthy to have someone's affections. < 3
    SeanNation SeanNation 18-21, M 2 Responses Feb 2

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    So many things I want to do, just need to get over my fear of failing. It's a silly thing to worry about, honestly. I can always keep trying till I get it right. Who cares what...
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    People say that I'm attractive or good looking. What ever. I really don't see it myself.... I do want more self-confidence but i find it hard as I don't consider myself any where...
    Chucks42 Chucks42 18-21, M 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    Growing my hair to look like Kurt Cobain had his hair so that i wont have to spend so much time styling it hoping to look less awful
    TrappedOrphan TrappedOrphan 13-15, M 1 Response 14 hrs ago

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    it really hurts when someone didnt comes up to our expectations....:-(
    awlaa awlaa 16-17, M 4 Responses 14 hrs ago

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    I end up overthinking things to the point of not doing anything; to spare myself whatever consequences I have made up and become afraid of.
    downhillninja downhillninja 18-21, M 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Everything is fine. I am going good at studies and at other things. Its just the self confidence where I suffer. If I had some self confidence my life would have been much much...
    waiting4someone waiting4someone 18-21, M 5 Responses 3 days ago