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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    It's really bad. When I like something

    and someone else shares an interest in it or seems to threaten it I immediately give up on it and go back into my shell
    MissManaged MissManaged 22-25, F Oct 11, 2014

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    I have no talent and I'm not actually good at

    anything. My passion for the things I think are cool or like is nearly non-existent. I don't have the motivation to keep up with anything. I have very few friends. I can't be real with anyone until I'm real with myself, which is gonna be at least a year. I'm a trans guy and I...
    slofth slofth 16-17, M 3 days ago

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    I've done something terrible.

    the reason I have lost all self worth is because in a terrible person. I just can't tell anybody what it is. I have ruined two families and my own and none of them even know. what I have done giants me everyday. how can I rise above when it is my own fault.
    ftdubdub ftdubdub 22-25, F 1 day ago

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    :( I try to talk to girls

    but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Ever get the feeling

    when you look in the mirror and just hate yourself I don't know why I do it's just a persistent thing on the outside I seem so confident to people loud Gobby outgoing bubbly etc etc... But to myself I feel nothing I always want to change the way I look the way I dress my...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19, 2014

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in

    myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by.
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing.

    I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to whoever reads this. But I've never told anybody this, and I can barely acknowlegde it myself.
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3, 2014

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 14, 2014

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    I've been bullied ever

    since I've started school. I've either been too different, too fat or too ugly. Not only was I teased in school, I was also teased at home. I know now that my family were only playing, but at the time, I was picked at a lot and I took what my family said to me seriously. My...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 12, 2014

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8, 2014

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14, 2014

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    I've been bullied since I was 11,

    kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have no self confidence.. He's the reason I can't give people my opinion. He's the reason for a lot of things wrong with me. & I hate the...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12, 2014

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    Its weird like i have self confidence but also severe social anxiety. I feel self confident but i cant project it its weird
    guitarspro guitarspro 18-21, M 1 Response Jan 3

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    I've battled a lack of self confidence for most of my life. It goes up and down. Ever since I was a kid I've always felt not good enough. I would love to be up to have a whole lot...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 8 hrs ago

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    I want more self confidence but how?
    sharemenotgap sharemenotgap 22-25, F 12 Responses Jan 17

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    Guys.. I've got a problem ! A huge one.. Self confidence is my issue.. Can someone help me ? Please? I beg all of you anyone !
    Rafaab Rafaab 13-15, F 7 Responses 4 days ago

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    I just wanna know how ugly I am as I truly think I am ugly,I just want more self-confidence to start over
    jessicatong jessicatong 22-25, F 26 Responses 4 days ago

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    This is something I have never had- self confidence. I have always measured it by the way people around react to my actions. I have always let people decide my worth and guess what...
    angelcares angelcares 22-25, F 13 Responses Dec 27, 2014

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    Self-confidence is what i want to have more because without it i feel like all the "things" i do arent right or good in other word i feel insecure with myself.i cant do anything...
    imflippin imflippin 13-15, F 6 Responses Dec 31, 2014

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    I've tried so hard to gain self confidence in my ability to talk to women but every time I try I get shot down. The last time I bothered trying I went to talk to this girl and...
    Powersj Powersj 18-21, M 13 Responses Jan 3

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    My friends and family are always telling me that I'm "Beautiful" and they tell me how talented I am and how amazing I am, but I never really believe them. I'm happy with my life...
    loonalily loonalily 13-15, F 4 Responses Jan 4

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    Whenever I'm having conversations with people I often notice they complete ignore what I'm saying, or don't listen to me at all, as though I was not even there. This happens even...
    miloks miloks 26-30, F 2 Responses Jan 10

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    I'm confident in who I am and what I'm about. But self confidence when in the presence of managers and bosses seems to elude me. Until I'm so mad I let them have it with both...
    picklebobble picklebobble 46-50, M 2 Responses Jan 13

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    I don't just lack it. I have no self confidence at all. It sucks. It affects me all the time. I wish I was pretty. It's a struggle.
    justthatgirl15 justthatgirl15 13-15, F a week ago

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    Showing respect towards others is always important to me. But having respect for yourself is more important. If you don't have self respect, or lack of it, how are you going to...
    BananaSmoothiee BananaSmoothiee 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I wish I could learn to keep friends... my lack of self-confidence always gets in the way. I always end up ditching my friends one way or another because I'm afraid they don't want...
    dinorap1 dinorap1 13-15, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    I really feel like **** . I'm already skinny and now I'm extra skinny :( . During finals week in early December I was stressed as hell , staying up late , pulling all nighters ,on...
    bananasxoxo bananasxoxo 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 30, 2014

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    I use to be so confident. I use almost be over confident. But ever since being cheated on four years ago, falling into wage garnishment three years ago, and getting laid off two...
    Foenix Foenix 36-40, M Jan 16

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    Growing up we pick at our selfs noticing all our flaws / imperfections . Some may think what you think is beautiful is in fact ugly , it goes both ways . We're not always satisfied...
    Bittersweetgl Bittersweetgl 22-25, F 6 Responses Jan 10

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    i'm not happy with my self . i can't feel happiness anymore. i dont know . my life is so boring. i just wanna scream loudly . i cant be like this forever right? but i cant change...
    onikaa onikaa 18-21, F 4 Responses 4 days ago

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    Is wearing make-up a bad thing? Why? I find it as a way to build more confidence..Because applying make-up , Makes someone feel prettier and brighter..tell me Im not wrong.
    lildandelion lildandelion 18-21, F 14 Responses Jan 6

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