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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F Dec 14, 2013

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Feb 2, 2013

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    The only people that know my actual feelings

    towards myself are my best friend and sister. I put on a fake mask of confidence around everyone else. I'm not cut out to be around other people. The person I am with currently is a bit older than me but even though he understands how I feel he tries to get me to have confidence...
    PaulFTM PaulFTM 16-17, M Dec 12, 2013

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    Depressed

    I'm not going to tell my life story of why I have no self-esteem and self-confidence but I just don't. I don't get why. My whole life I've been this way. I thought of myself badly and didn't have confidence. Now it's gotten worse than before. I used to not care but now it's...
    oldaccount oldaccount 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2012

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    Related Experiences

    Where do I begin. This whole story being my life is quite a long loopy one, and if anybody has the energy to read this and respond, I thank you - in return I will just cut to the...
    spiderchris spiderchris 13-15, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I really lack self confidence since i moved my school (i was in a girls only school now im in a school For boy and girls) i lost my self confidence bec boys there just make fun of...
    Nari99 Nari99 13-15, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I have never had much self confidence cos I been bullyed my hole life but now it that bad that I want go out the house/my room in less am taking my dog out for a walk or going to...
    scottishbigguy scottishbigguy 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 7

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    Anyone else have low self confidence? I hate being so insecure, like I know you can notice them by the way I act, and that makes people get away from me. Any advice would be great...
    feistyfun15 feistyfun15 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 23

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    When I walk into a restaurant and see an attractive man look at me, I quickly look away because I automatically think he is thinking, "Wow, she's so fat and gross," not, "Wow, she...
    Dreamer32 Dreamer32 22-25, F 2 Responses Apr 5

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    Being on social media today makes it easy for you to quickly feel inadequate or to have low self esteem because you are comparing the highlights of people's lives to your daily...
    indianocean indianocean 31-35, M 1 Response Mar 28

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    I have always struggled with confidence. I do lack confidence, a lot, which is very depressing. To me, I've always been on the outside looking in. I see people who are confident in...
    Meloryne Meloryne 16-17, F 1 Response Apr 7

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    I am wanting to increase confidence in myself, but it is a slow process. My confidence is still quite low, but I have started getting into the habit of not blaming myself as much...
    asert12345678 asert12345678 31-35, M Mar 29

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    I lack confidence about a lot of things most significantly my dating life is non existent as I've tried online dating and I always flake out because I think I'm too shy and I...
    lawrencepa lawrencepa 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 2

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    Confidence has always been a issue for me. I never feel like I'm good enough. It was supposed to be my new years resolution to be more accepting of myself. That didn't work out..
    goldengirl24 goldengirl24 22-25, F 4 Responses Mar 29

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    Highly! I don't agree with girls that act loose, in order to comfort themselves and feel love by a male, when really they are making themselves feel worse, sleeping around leads to...
    deleted deleted 26-30 4 Responses Mar 22

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    I have been called fat and unfit for a while now and I didn't think I was for the longest time I didn't believe them but I strongly believe that I need to lose weight and I want to...
    BrokenAngel98 BrokenAngel98 16-17, F 1 Response Mar 29

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    I have a high failure rate when doing things and must factor in a lot of time to redo and repeat. I have always been poor at remembering things. I learn most new things with...
    raril4114 raril4114 51-55, M 3 days ago

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    Ever since I got raped thing have just got worse, does anybody have any ways to help me be the confident girl I should be?:/
    SecretGirl14 SecretGirl14 16-17, F 2 Responses 2 days ago

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    Ever since this girl first walked into our school for the first time, I couldn't take my eyes off her, and I know I probably wasn't the only one gazing at her beauty. Through my...
    elugo123456789 elugo123456789 18-21, M Apr 7

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    I hate my self harm scars. I can't wear any shorts that I used to. They aren't so big or so many of them. But their all white and I don't know what to do. I don't want to tell my...
    anetteton anetteton 13-15, F 2 Responses Mar 26

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    Tbh I don't care about having feelings for people before I sleep with them. People say I have no self respect because I don't are who I sleep with. To be honest I respect myself...
    AriaSteel AriaSteel 18-21, F 2 Responses 5 days ago

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    No, I'm not perfect by a long shot, I've done some really stupid things in my past, but Jesus, I have more sense and consideration than to do anything to mess up anyone's lives...
    suzieb1971 suzieb1971 41-45, F 1 Response Mar 27

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    While your doing fine, theres some people and i, who have a really tough time getting through this life so excuse us while we sing to the sky.
    Sorendino1 Sorendino1 16-17, F Mar 29

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    I feel so ugly right now, I can't stop crying!! 😢😔
    georgiecrouch georgiecrouch 16-17, F 6 Responses 2 days ago

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    am i good looking and also which haircut would suit me best leave as much comments as possible
    Findingme7 Findingme7 13-15, M 1 Response a week ago

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    YES PLEASE. Someone make it happen for me?
    pappa94 pappa94 18-21, M 2 days ago

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    I think I am a great and amazing person that anybody will ever meet in their lifetime, yet, I do not feel special. I don't feel wanted by anybody. Strange and conflicting, huh?
    bkf2 bkf2 22-25, M 6 hrs ago

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    So hi. I just told my mom about them. I we're gonna go to the dr on Monday! Just to se if she can help cover or get rid of them. So yeah I'm kinda excited!😂😰😁
    anetteton anetteton 13-15, F Mar 28

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    i was exploring experiences and i found something i never thought someone will mention it or at least talk about it ... so it gives me the change to talk about ... be4 4 years from...
    nero1991 nero1991 22-25, F 1 hr ago

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    I consider myself to be a fairly attractive young man. But my self confidence pretty low when it comes to asking the opposite sex out. And when the opportunity arises for me to ask...
    beyondreach89 beyondreach89 22-25, M 1 Response Apr 9

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    Hi. I am having reoccurrence of anxiety issues that I had a few years ago. I thought I'd beaten it, but circumstances at work have changed and I think this has triggered my inner...
    bobblejocks bobblejocks 41-45, M 2 Responses Apr 3

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    Hi, I am 17 years old and I have been dealing with HS for 4-5 years now. I was only diagnosed last month though because I was afraid and ashamed to tell anyone about it, including...
    ab019 ab019 16-17, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    Self confidence is a sign of power and strength. You can be confident and humble at the same time.
    dameron dameron 46-50, F 2 Responses Mar 20

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    Haven't cut in two months and I feel COMPLETELY free from it. It takes a lot of self confidence and support and belief in yourself, but quitting is possible. I hope I can be a...
    left4deadspace left4deadspace 16-17, M 2 Responses Mar 25

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    I've had "white spots" since I was 4. My mom also had them, but hers pretty much went away as she got old. When I was little my dad would take me to doctors and I had the choice...
    queenrilly queenrilly 22-25, F Apr 3

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