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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F Dec 14, 2013

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 16-17, F 3 Responses Jul 14

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    The only people that know my actual feelings

    towards myself are my best friend and sister. I put on a fake mask of confidence around everyone else. I'm not cut out to be around other people. The person I am with currently is a bit older than me but even though he understands how I feel he tries to get me to have confidence...
    EzraUlv EzraUlv 16-17, M Dec 12, 2013

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 3 Responses May 6, 2012

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    Ever get the feeling

    when you look in the mirror and just hate yourself I don't know why I do it's just a persistent thing on the outside I seem so confident to people loud Gobby outgoing bubbly etc etc... But to myself I feel nothing I always want to change the way I look the way I dress my...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    Depressed

    I'm not going to tell my life story of why I have no self-esteem and self-confidence but I just don't. I don't get why. My whole life I've been this way. I thought of myself badly and didn't have confidence. Now it's gotten worse than before. I used to not care but now it's...
    oldaccount oldaccount 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    Related Experiences

    As a kid I wasn't good looking and I wasn't "normal" so people classified me as the weird kid. So growing up in school being bullied pretty much everyday of my life did this too me...
    NPkid97 NPkid97 16-17, M 4 Responses Jul 5

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    I have no self confidence. I have always sucked at social relationships or any social encounter. I'm 5'4 always been shorter then everyone at school. People would make fun of me. I...
    furquijo101 furquijo101 16-17, M 3 Responses a week ago

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    I'm a shy person. I want more self-confidence. well, I had joined a theater club in my school to boost up my self-confidence. It worked tough, but sometimes I think I'm still lack...
    gytriajeng gytriajeng 16-17, F 2 Responses a week ago

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    For the past 4 years I have struggled with a lack of self-confidence. Whether it's image or something about my personality. Ive never thought I was pretty enough, skinny enough...
    tessareedy tessareedy 16-17, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I definitely need to work on having more self confidence, it is something i've struggled with all my life and its really gotten in the way many times
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 6 Responses Jul 20

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    When you are 'raised' by a mostly ABSENT father, who when he isn't at work or in the PUB is making your life hell, telling you how worthless, a waste of space and dumb you are just...
    Anth1290 Anth1290 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 20

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    I really suffer of law self confidence I just don't know wat to do PLS HELP
    shouqfaisal shouqfaisal 13-15, F 7 Responses a week ago

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    I gained self confidence through, myself by experimenting with what I felt was ok, or good. Try what works for you. Forget what people say, they are only acting because you decide...
    kamachulu kamachulu 22-25, M 3 days ago

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    I feel like I have no confidence anymore. I stopped self harming, but I'm beginning to feel the need again. I'm always being happy in front of others, but inside it's like I'm...
    namelessjosie namelessjosie 13-15, F 1 Response 1 day ago

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    Im 22 with pcos a disorder which means I have several cysts on my ovaries. Due to my pcos I'm having fertility problems, weird period cycles, bolding of my hair, hair on my chest...
    Aishag Aishag 22-25, F 3 Responses a week ago

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    I hope I could have more confidence in myself. I am business student and ideas are a mechanism for my mind to function. However I always procrastinate and doubt my ideas all the...
    Jtcwman Jtcwman 18-21, M 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I literally have like no confidence. I don't understand because I have it all, but I'm a deep thinker as I'm sure you all are, but I can't seem to think positive too much or have...
    M1TCH94 M1TCH94 18-21 Jul 5

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    I have self harm scars (new cuts and old scars), and I have no idea how to hide them from my parents and elders who will constantly question them. Currently, I wear bracelets, long...
    Dascenequeen Dascenequeen 18-21, F 1 Response 5 days ago

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    I was walking round school just waiting for the next nasty comment. I got called fat loads of times, and I didn't want to eat I front of anyone incase they called me fat😔all my...
    britneyjanexo britneyjanexo 13-15, F 6 Responses 6 hrs ago

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    Here I am, a single overweight mom and teacher at the age of 38. Been single since ex H left me for office **** at 7 months pregnant. So yeah that is depressing and I used to be...
    smcordova smcordova 36-40, F 5 Responses Jul 23

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    I'm not all too sure how to build up confidence. I sort of always struggled with going up to talk to people out of fear of looking weird and a lack of both self respect and I don't...
    JustTipton JustTipton 13-15, M 4 Responses Jul 13

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    Am slowly but surely beating no/lack of confidence and going back to trying new thins and being my self as well as being happy again for the 1st time in years
    scottishbigguy scottishbigguy 22-25, M 1 Response Jul 23

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    I'm 14 and weigh 87 pounds and I'm a female. My 10 year old sister is 70 pounds. She's always calling me twig and skinny and so are her friends and I know they're younger than me...
    demegirl14 demegirl14 13-15, F 6 Responses 5 days ago

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    My confidence is so very low. I just don't know why. I use to be a very happy and confident person but people kept shutting me down and question my happiness. Like what reason isn...
    HiImDrekd HiImDrekd 16-17, M 1 Response Jul 21

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    I want to love myself so badly. I crave confidence. I hope that some day I can look in the mirror and not be disgusted by what I see. I hate my body- everything about it. I'm so...
    Internallysound Internallysound 16-17, F 2 Responses Jul 23

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    Its really hard to gain confidence. How do you gain it?
    WomanlyQueen WomanlyQueen 26-30, F 8 Responses 3 days ago

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    I so weak and ashamed in front of others I don't know what confidence is anymore I'm so lonely and sad
    thepizzaproject thepizzaproject 13-15, F 3 Responses 1 day ago

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    I feel like I need a boyfriend to show me my self worth. Which is horrible because I get too involved in relationships and I get so upset when they end. I just need someone to talk...
    heyitsem1234 heyitsem1234 16-17, F 4 Responses 2 days ago

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    Although people always tell me about my nice smile, and sweet personality I have never been able to see what everybody else has! Recently I challenged myself To find 3 things I...
    micahdianne micahdianne 18-21, F 5 Responses Jul 6

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    There are a few girls I have seen at work that I would like to get to know, but I haven't talked to any of them. Then, today a pretty girl that I haven't seen before said a few...
    purposebuilt purposebuilt 22-25, M 2 Responses Jul 11

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