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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 211 People

    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 1 Response Jul 25, 2012

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    :( I try to talk to girls

    but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    Ever get the feeling

    when you look in the mirror and just hate yourself I don't know why I do it's just a persistent thing on the outside I seem so confident to people loud Gobby outgoing bubbly etc etc... But to myself I feel nothing I always want to change the way I look the way I dress my...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing.

    I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to whoever reads this. But I've never told anybody this, and I can barely acknowlegde it myself.
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in

    myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by.
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8

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    It's really bad. When I like something

    and someone else shares an interest in it or seems to threaten it I immediately give up on it and go back into my shell
    MissManaged MissManaged 22-25, F 1 Response Oct 11

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    I've been bullied ever

    since I've started school. I've either been too different, too fat or too ugly. Not only was I teased in school, I was also teased at home. I know now that my family were only playing, but at the time, I was picked at a lot and I took what my family said to me seriously. My...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 3 Responses May 14

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    I've been bullied since I was 11,

    kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have no self confidence.. He's the reason I can't give people my opinion. He's the reason for a lot of things wrong with me. & I hate the...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 18-21, F 4 Responses Jul 14

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Basically my entire life I have always lacked self confidence. I grew up as the only kid in a wheelchair that I knew and was pretty much made to feel like an outcast and that...
    mattywheels25 mattywheels25 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 22

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    I have such low self confidence, and I I honestly have no idea on how yo bring that up. sometimes I feel as if I can't go out of the house because my self confidence is so low..
    Rissaaa17 Rissaaa17 18-21, F 3 Responses Nov 24

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    any tips on building self confidence?
    steezyben steezyben 16-17, M 6 Responses Nov 29

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    I really need more self confidence . .
    Strange143 Strange143 16-17, F 2 Responses Nov 30

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    I NEED more self-confidence. Lately, I've been trying harder and sometimes it works, but sometimes it doesn't. It'll be a lot of work...
    CaliginousHeart CaliginousHeart 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 3

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    If only I could read minds. How do you come back from disappointment, betrayal, and just plain stupidity and trust the world. TRUST WORDS. And what happens when actions don't...
    ember23 ember23 26-30, F 8 Responses Dec 1

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    I've been hurt by everyone who I've ever been friends with, or dated. I have no self confidence anymore. It got crushed and now I feel depressed.. All the time.
    feelings101 feelings101 18-21, F 6 Responses 4 days ago

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    I am worth being loved. I am worth being desired for every aspect of me. I am beautiful, I am kind, I am loving. My looks are only the beginning. I deserve to be happy. I am...
    imcitcat imcitcat 22-25, F 1 Response Dec 1

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    I've been thinking about this line throughout my adolescent years. It would be running through my head at every second. "You need to be more confident, then you could achieve...
    NatashaRose NatashaRose 18-21, F 2 Responses 4 days ago

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    I actually hate my skin showing or people looking at me I've got low self esteem and I find it hard to talk to people and sometimes I just don't know what way to turn :(
    nickigirl525 nickigirl525 13-15, F 3 Responses Nov 19

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    Story of my life. I wish I had more self esteem. it's so low and people make things worst.
    danna223 danna223 22-25, F 3 Responses 3 days ago

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    You may mess up, but you are not a mess up. You may make a mistake, but you are not a mistake. You may screw up, but you are not a screw up. You may fail, but you...
    torr62 torr62 13-15, F 1 Response 2 days ago

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    I actually like how I look before going to school or such..but whenever I come in contact with other people, my confidence falls down. Like, completely.
    nyanneon nyanneon 16-17, F 3 Responses Nov 19

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    I am not very confident n need help in getting my confidence back
    Sneaky84 Sneaky84 26-30, M 1 Response Nov 30

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    I feel like I get torn down by people for having 3 kids at 20 and so called trapping their father my boyfriend in a relationship for 5 years... I really need to just learn how to...
    momofthree921 momofthree921 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 2

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    I want to have confidence in wearing makeup. But I'm afraid to wear it because of what my family might say. Growing up I never touched make up. Now I feel like I want and need to...
    Togepi07 Togepi07 18-21, F 1 Response Nov 24

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    In 2015 I will like myself. That's what I'm going to write on my dry erase board for New Years. I'm tired of caring what people think and being so hard on myself. I am not an ugly...
    jesscharnelle jesscharnelle 22-25, F 8 Responses 5 days ago

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    I just stumbled on the experience project because I needed a place to express my feelings. I have had self hatred issues for a long time and I try to ignore them. Today for...
    etk44 etk44 18-21, F 2 Responses Nov 19

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    Whatever we are self Conscious about, that will be the first thing we look at on other people
    Bflyboo14 Bflyboo14 13-15, F 4 Responses Nov 23

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    OK I hate this I look in mirror and all I see is ugly I hate fealing this way I just want to think I'm beautiful but I can't I'm over weight and I know it and when I have to go to...
    obesepeoplerock obesepeoplerock 16-17, F 7 Responses Dec 3