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I Have No Self Confidence Or Self Esteem

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    I've been bullied since I was 11,

    kids at school would bully me & I would go home & just get bullied some more by my dad. It's like I could never escape it. He's the reason I have no self confidence.. He's the reason I can't give people my opinion. He's the reason for a lot of things wrong with me. & I hate the...
    neliza neliza 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 12

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    Ever get the feeling

    when you look in the mirror and just hate yourself I don't know why I do it's just a persistent thing on the outside I seem so confident to people loud Gobby outgoing bubbly etc etc... But to myself I feel nothing I always want to change the way I look the way I dress my...
    MeganLouise1990 MeganLouise1990 22-25, F 1 Response Jun 19

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    It Got The Best Out Of Me.

    So obviously by reading this title, you know that I don't have self confidence or self esteem. I have very low of these two things. I don't even want to do cheerleading because of it. All of my family & friends keep telling to do it & I am good at it (Cause I am that "Type" of...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 29, 2013

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    Ugly

    I am extremely hideous. I have all kinds of facial deformities and stuff. I have an eye that wonders about to the point where no one can even tell what or who I'm looking at. Because of this, I'm always afraid to look at others in the eye and they think I'm being rude or...
    lwdorton21 lwdorton21 18-21 1 Response May 19, 2011

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    I Want To Be The Woman That A Man Will Go Crazy And Adore.

    I've been bully by guys all my life. I been called ugly, tall and ugly, nerd, stupid, retard, have ugly feet, and everything from guys and even worse the females join along. I have no self esteem or confidence in myself at all. I barely talk to guys because I know they just want...
    Kaykay89 Kaykay89 22-25, F 2 Responses Feb 11, 2013

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    For the longest time I've been the fattest

    person in my family and around me and I've never fit in. I never stop thinking about how much it hurts me when I look in the mirror an see the person staring back at me. It's not who I want to be. No matter how hard I try to accept myself and believe that I'm normal I just can't...
    JennieKathleen JennieKathleen 16-17, F 4 Responses Jul 14

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    This Is Me

    I've always been an open book but I closed a long time ago.all my life I had been called ugly and stupid and not worth it.when you have been told the same thing over and over agin for ever you star to believe theme . There is no changing that now
    deleted deleted 26-30 Feb 2, 2013

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    I Detest Myself

    for almost six years now, ive been unhappy with who i am in some way or another.. whether its my appearance, my neurotic way of thinking, my inability to study, or my anger.. and to date i havent fixed any of these things. i just dont know whats stopping me. i feel like there's a...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F Feb 12, 2012

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    What I Learned From (the Process Of Applying To) College.

    Today I came across something on collegeboard called "Dependency Status Overide", it is a term used for Students who can't afford to attend college because their parents refuse to pay. Apparently only 2% of students have this unique problem. I am that 2%. Immediately, I was drawn...
    sweetwilight95 sweetwilight95 16-17, F Sep 17, 2012

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    The only people that know my actual feelings

    towards myself are my best friend and sister. I put on a fake mask of confidence around everyone else. I'm not cut out to be around other people. The person I am with currently is a bit older than me but even though he understands how I feel he tries to get me to have confidence...
    EzraUlv EzraUlv 16-17, M Dec 12, 2013

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    Words Hurt.

    I was bullied from the start of school till the end. I sometimes think they were the worst years of my life, I went to a struggling school, filled with people who did not want to learn, who were more interested in sex, sport and looks then studying. These people would purposely...
    Airion Airion 18-21, M 2 Responses Jul 25, 2012

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    crystalskys crystalskys 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 14, 2013

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    I Basically Hate Who I Am :/

    I really need Help! uhm, I have a problem (or atleast be BEST FIEND thinks I do) and I really don't know how to stop it! I like this guy (his name is Matt and he is perfect in every way shape and form) but I am like really obsessed with him and my friend thinks we should start...
    mstach22 mstach22 16-17, F Oct 13, 2012

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    I've been bullied ever

    since I've started school. I've either been too different, too fat or too ugly. Not only was I teased in school, I was also teased at home. I know now that my family were only playing, but at the time, I was picked at a lot and I took what my family said to me seriously. My...
    MacabreCannibal MacabreCannibal 16-17, F 3 Responses Aug 12

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    I Need To Change

    I am so unhappy with myself. So totally and completely unhappy with my life and the way i live it..those of you reading this, please continue to read and then leave your comments below...i am desperate for advice and some sort of guidance. I just dont know what to do..thats my...
    redtoshiba redtoshiba 18-21, F 4 Responses May 6, 2012

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    I've had a good life,

    I guess. But I'm just so shy! I hate talking face to face with people I don't know and if they ask questions I tend to stutter or just get worried i'll mess up and say something wrong etc. I wish I was more confident and open with people, but how?
    Rebecca2911 Rebecca2911 13-15, F Jan 8

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    :( I try to talk to girls

    but I'm afraid to
    Djcovance Djcovance 13-15, M 1 Response Aug 12

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    Does anyone else never feel good enough?

    As a girl, all I can do is compare myself to other girls, and only notice the flaws in myself.
    jaclynchristine jaclynchristine 18-21, F 2 Responses May 14

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    I Really Don't

    I think I am hideous, fat, and not at all interesting or attractive. My friends try to tell me otherwise, but that's what friends are supposed to do so I really just can't believe them.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 1 Response Nov 18, 2010

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    Everyday of my life I think the same thing.

    I will never be anything, I won't live the life I want, and I can do nothing about it. That wasn't really a story, so I'm sorry to whoever reads this. But I've never told anybody this, and I can barely acknowlegde it myself.
    bugf9630 bugf9630 13-15 1 Response Aug 3

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    My Own Mean Voices

    I wake up in the morning putting myself down. I think of reasons for why I'm not good enough. I think about my ex with his new girlfriend and how he's happier with her because she's normal. I judge myself physically, mentally, emotionally, and I fail at everything. Why do I do...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Nov 2, 2013

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    Felt Like I Failed My Children.

    I have always felt like a failure. Appearance, character... I tried to be everyone's friend. It drained me. Latter after I've got my first son I was terrified that I have failed my baby. A mum with low self esteem who want's one? I have learned how to love myself. Even opened a...
    VeronikaA VeronikaA 22-25, F Jul 28, 2013

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    Shy

    I'm a fun girl, who makes jokes and likes making new friends and being bubbly and having a good heart, but I'm shy with no confidence in myself and since I was 13 I've been developing new emotions like jealousy and the pain of being lonely. I'm 15 and I've had enough. Waking up...
    worrybot worrybot 16-17, F Nov 2, 2013

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    Theres Nothing To Me.

    Title says it all. I never have been anything to anyone. Im adopted by various familiy member and have been sincee i was three and I constantly lived in the shadow or their kids or my sister. I was never the pretty one, I am the fat nerdy annoying unatheletic disappointment to...
    xXLittleLostAliceXx xXLittleLostAliceXx 16-17, F 3 Responses Apr 5, 2010

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    The only reason I don't have confidence in

    myself anymore is because of a quote I believe is true, "Forget self-esteem, learn self-control." It is one of the many quotes I live by.
    JohnBobMac JohnBobMac 16-17, T 1 Response Aug 12

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    Depressed

    I'm not going to tell my life story of why I have no self-esteem and self-confidence but I just don't. I don't get why. My whole life I've been this way. I thought of myself badly and didn't have confidence. Now it's gotten worse than before. I used to not care but now it's...
    oldaccount oldaccount 18-21, M 2 Responses Nov 19, 2012

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    Always Doubting

    I have no or low self esteem or confidence.... whenever I were to make a choice or decision I did doubt myself alot. I cant do things without doubting myself. And I always feel things just don't work out... my girlfriend had always been telling me to have morr confidence in...
    LuCiFeRz LuCiFeRz 18-21, F Nov 2, 2013

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    The Things That Bother Me The Most, Are The Ones I Cant Fix

    So it all started when i was dating my ex boyfriend. he was amazing but after about a year i just started feeling like i had no confidence.i dont know where it started or when but it was like i woke up and things that never used to bother me, started to bother me so bad. Like at...
    squishface6 squishface6 18-21 1 Response Dec 30, 2011

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    Is There Hope

    A year ago today, my girlfriend of over two years was accepted to a Veterinary School. It was the school in my state and she is from a different state. The cost would be a little more than she wanted, but she would not turn down vet school. We were so happy together. We started...
    Teamgeist Teamgeist 22-25, M 1 Response Jan 3, 2012

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    I've hit rock bottom again. I hate absolutely everything. I refuse to have my pictures taken and I won't even take a pic of myself anymore. Its hard to even look in the mirror. I'm...
    OverWorkedWoman OverWorkedWoman 18-21, F 9 Responses 5 days ago

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    Every time i see someone that stands out from the crowd it really puts a smile on my face, not because i find it funny but because they have the self confidence to dress, act, look...
    abby9305 abby9305 13-15, F 2 Responses Aug 22

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    Hi I really love music, I want to learn how to speak Korean and I'm a student nurse but I seem to have problems with my self confidence(low self-confidence)
    HwangNeulRin HwangNeulRin 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 6

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    Effective way to gain self-confidence: Every time I lock the door and go to work, no matter how I feel, (anxious of the world outside, fearful of uncertainty), I say a little...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 1 Response Sep 1

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    I have never had much self confidence in my self and it doesn't help that my siblings make fun of me for my weight. Does this happen to everyone also?
    Normaler Normaler 13-15, F 8 Responses Aug 30

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    So recently, me and this girl I've been dating were talking and she told me that she thinks I'm really handsome (she's told me this multiple times). She also told me that her mom...
    GabeR1991 GabeR1991 22-25, M 3 Responses Sep 6

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    I have great life, awesome kids, supportive husband, career I enjoy and yet I lack self-confidence. I rarely feel that I deserve the things I have. I can never get past the feeling...
    sexysoccermom sexysoccermom 36-40, F 3 Responses Aug 26

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    When I'm playing the piano or singing in front of someone my hands shake or I can't stand or sit with my back straight because I have no self confidence whatsoever
    MissesTomlinson MissesTomlinson 13-15, F 4 Responses Sep 2

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    Hi, I am a 20 year old male and have a sister who is 42 years old. She has bullied me all my life and has nearly pushed me over the edge a few years ago but after getting a...
    michael14031 michael14031 18-21, M 10 Responses Sep 4

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    Real self confidence not faking putting on a small smile and seeming bubbly and vivacious when really I just want to sigh and cringe. I'm yearning to be comfortable just being...
    ajrestless ajrestless 18-21, F 6 Responses Sep 6

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    I feel like I would have more self-confidence if people just didn't walk up to me an call me ugly. I've been at my locker at school and guys have come up and said right to my face...
    Igot7starlightarmy Igot7starlightarmy 16-17, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I don't like sharing my thoughts because I don't think what I have to say is important enough to be shared. The problem is that I find people saying all kinds of nonsense all the...
    elpsy elpsy 26-30, M 3 Responses Aug 29

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    I used to be different when I was younger I cared more about my appearance I would always have my make up done hair perfect short skirts the lot but now I can hardly be botherd to...
    willowknight willowknight 22-25, F 4 days ago

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    Not really anymore I used to have lots but things changed. Iv been in a relationship for nearly 2 years and feel so comfortable with him that I don't really make an effort with...
    willowknight willowknight 22-25, F 2 hrs ago

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    I know I have a lot to offer the world. I'm just figuring out how to express that confidently. To ask for what I really want. To muster up the courage to say no, I think I can do...
    missykaiyay missykaiyay 22-25, F 2 Responses 5 hrs ago

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    She beat herself up From her weight to her toes From the size of her thighs To the shape of her nose- And on her walk home When she was alone She’d talk to herself In the...
    samemay54 samemay54 51-55, F 4 Responses Aug 27

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    The root of my depression is a self love problem. I have no self esteem left. It's just gone. He asked why I always pick myself part, he told me that I'm perfect the way I am but I...
    SheAlwaysBelieved SheAlwaysBelieved 18-21, F 6 Responses 3 days ago

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    I was bullied a lot in middle school, probably because of the way I dressed. It really took a toll on my self esteem. Now I doubt everything I do and I hate that. I'm working on it...
    lauren1andonly lauren1andonly 18-21, F 5 Responses Aug 26

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    I have very low self esteem I am recently out of a marriage that ended after five years I feel like I don't really deserve to be loved like something's wrong with me. I was in a...
    1sweetnurse 1sweetnurse 31-35, F 6 Responses Sep 12

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    I've always had a rather low self-esteem. Rather it's my face or my body, I just never seem to be happy with anything. It's gotten to the point where I don't even want to go out in...
    daughtersofanarchy daughtersofanarchy 16-17, F 4 Responses 6 days ago

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    My self-esteem is like a rock. The higher you bring it up, the harder it comes down .-.
    EmbraceForever EmbraceForever 13-15, F 1 Response Aug 27

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