I Have Problems Being Alone After a Breakup

Personal Stories, Advice, and Support 191 People

    Just left an abusive relationship

    for the second time . I lived with him for a year . 80% of the time he is my best friend and 20% my nightmare. I've gotten spit on, thrown against the counter by my throat , been elbowed in the throat, called every name in the book , have had food thrown at me, and have been...
    leaom22 leaom22
    22-25, F
    Aug 14, 2014

    Ever Going Battle

    im a 42 year old male who has a real hard time after breakups ...its almost like i lure them in then push them away...then it kills me when there gone ....breaks my heart but i dont blame them
    confused383 confused383
    41-45, M
    1 Response Dec 28, 2007

    I Lost My Him.

    You would think when someone says "ill be here forever" they mean it but, Since July 2009, I have been in love with this boy. Last summer we started talking a lot. I developed feelings for him. We went out in July then Broke up at the end of August, He is the love of my life, But...
    Noregreats121 Noregreats121
    3 Responses Mar 31, 2012

    Taking Baby Steps

    Well I am trying my hardest to stay above water.  This was  a very toxic relationship and he broke up with me. He broke up with me on and just keep sticking around I said I have to leave, it is my house, and told him not to call anymore.  He left after me I found I...
    kathe1278 kathe1278
    31-35, F
    2 Responses Dec 13, 2010

    I'm Lonely And I Hate It

     We broke up over five months ago and I'm still not over it. I feel like somethings wrong with me, the thought of being with anyone other then him hurts-the thought of getting back together with him hurts. I feel so stuck. It doesn't help that we're still friends, that...
    calicoqueen calicoqueen
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Oct 29, 2009


    Relationships are like butterflies that I can never catch.  As soon as they are there they leave.  I am left alone feeling worse than ever, sitting in a crowded room with silent tears that nobody hears nor sees nor cares.  I knew the end was coming and feared it so much that...
    toragirl toragirl
    18-21, F
    Mar 27, 2012

    I Cant Deal With My Breakup.

    Im 17 years old and i was with my ex for 3 and 1/2 years, He split up with me in december just as my nanna was dying of cancer. He was my first love and i was dealing with it okay, but now ive found out he's in love with my friend and its killing me. I got rid of all of his...
    Princessxx Princessxx
    4 Responses Aug 27, 2009

    I Want Him To Move On But I Know I'll Get Hurt

    My boyfriend and I have been on and off for a few years. I'm moving in June and I really don't want to have a long distance relationship and I think the best way is for us to just break up. I want him to move on, I really do but my own selfish feelings and barricades for myself...
    Whisper15 Whisper15
    Nov 25, 2011

    We have to be so careful with the people we are

    walking away from when we once had a romantic connection with them. Some people aren't built for difficult rejection. There are plenty of us who hurt but manage overtime, but then there are those who become bitter and to some extremes are willing to take their own lives. There...
    niceguycursed niceguycursed
    31-35, M
    Dec 18, 2015

    Im Dont, Your Done, Were Done.

    You probably have read a few of my stories... well, its been about a month. Me & the boy i have loved for years, havent talked for months. We started talking again, but we got into another fight! & that just told me, Im done, Your done, were done. I dont wanna even have contact...
    Noregreats121 Noregreats121
    1 Response May 26, 2012

    It's Been About A Month...

    Every second of every day is a struggle not to think about her, and when I do, I feel awful. I feel like it's my fault that we broke up. I honestly think it's because she was very pretty in my eyes, and now I can't live with the fact that I can't be with her any more. I feel like...
    karkapariah karkapariah
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Sep 14, 2010

    I'm Alone And Depressed

    i recently broke up with my long distance girlfriend of 9 months and i just feel incredibly alone and depressed. no one is as close to me as she was and as a result there a big void in my life now. the break up was completely necessary but i'm just having such a hard time coping...
    blackfire459 blackfire459
    18-21, M
    1 Response Jan 21, 2012

    Lets Just Cover It All.

    Im young, i haven't made the best decisions. I was with an amazing guy named seth 4 years ago. well i left him 4 years ago. for a guy with all the spice and jazz, his name was brian. Seth and i had a sad breakup. he would cross oceans for me. he was the best guy ever. i felt bad...
    learntofly learntofly
    1 Response Oct 13, 2011

    Here To Listen.

    Going through a breakup is an incredibly painful process...I've been there, and I know how much a listening ear can help. If you ever feel the need to talk to someone but are unsure whom to reach out to at the moment, we can connect you to good listeners who are here to support...
    wholemilklattes wholemilklattes
    Apr 18, 2013

    Im Feeling So Lonely And Im Kind Of Missing Him

    last year i met a guy who has a girlfriend,but they had a distant relationship,when he tells me that he loves me i believed that he is the one.we took 5 months not having sex,then after that we had sex and he told me that he love me,he told me that he is no longer loves his girl...
    khomotso khomotso
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 17, 2012

    Broke up with my ex bf.

    ..only because of distance and that was it. Makes it harder because there was nothing wrong with us as a couple. I miss him like crazy :(
    geo14 geo14
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Jul 2, 2014

    Think It Is Pretty Common To Have Feelings

    after breaking up but if they are still alive there is always a change it may work out i lost the one i loved to death and i never could get death to claim me no matter where i chasted it Roberta 2 As many of you know from past post we were different then other kids our own ages...
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Jun 10, 2011

    I have been very sick from Chrons

    since I was 11 years old, by the time I was in high school I was incredibly sick[massive,constant wave of pain through my stomach, blood dripping out of me when I'm going to the bathroom[#2],when I stand up I would not only see stops my vision would then go dark [blind] for...
    junae1 junae1
    46-50, M
    1 Response Oct 19, 2015

    Depression is only temporary darkness.

    everything is temporary. nothing is truly permanent. people die. memories fade. perspectives shift. so don’t worry, it will pass. -uknown
    lexiroberts8 lexiroberts8
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 9, 2014

    Recent Break Up Is Killing Me

     I recently am in the process of going through a break up with someone who lived with me. Their stuff is all packed and ready to go, but the finality of things is starting to set in and I am having a horrible time. The thought of watching him come in, get his stuff and leave...
    Gorilla1980 Gorilla1980
    8 Responses Nov 18, 2009

    I was feeling okay about this break up,

    but now two days have past and I'm so lonely. I don't get texts, I don't get calls. There's no one to cuddle with and make my terrible days into good ones. I'm alone..
    shammypurry shammypurry
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Aug 25, 2014

    Life Without You

    When you left me and found someone else 4 months ago I felt like my life shattered. I feel life is like walking through heavy snow while everyone else is skiing past me. I put on a front to everyone that I am strong, that I can deal with everything but in reality I want to run...
    Iamstruggling01 Iamstruggling01
    31-35, M
    5 Responses Mar 16, 2013

    I Wish I Could Move On...

    I'm going to give a little back story on myself before I dive into this post. I'm twenty years old (turning twenty-one in August) and I'm planning and dealing with things right now that most of my friends, same age or younger, aren't even thinking about.  Up until about my...
    JDAlphin JDAlphin
    18-21, M
    1 Response May 4, 2013

    I Thought I Have Moved On..... But...

    My bf of almost 6 years broke up with me 2.5months ago, my reaction changes from totally cant take it, to let it go, to kick him out, to wanna get back with him, to a few messy meet ups and try to get back together, to let go and kick him out again...! i thought i am totally...
    snowcrystal303 snowcrystal303
    1 Response Aug 18, 2012


    2 Responses Nov 16, 2011

    Its Been 4 Weeks Now

    My partner started loosing interest in me 3 month ago and decided to leave July 1st. Since then I suffer from nostalgia, light depression and worst insomnia. Because I suffer form anxiety at night Its hard to get up and face the day, eat and smile while going to work. Why is it...
    Mrnostalgia39 Mrnostalgia39
    36-40, M
    1 Response Jul 28, 2009

    Going Through A Hard Breakup

    Okay so.. About the beginning of May my boyfriend of a year and about two months broke up with me.. He told me he didn't love me anymore and then got with another girl two days later, a girl no offense or anything but compared to her I think I'm much prettier and shes like 100...
    Whisper15 Whisper15
    2 Responses Aug 28, 2011

    Why do we have such a difficult time leaving

    bad, unhealthy relationships even tho it's for the very best? I was in a relationship for 5 years, engaged for about 1 of those years. I was weak and started talking to him and hanging out after the break up. I was so lonely and depressed not having him in my life. He was my...
    LockRobster LockRobster
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 4, 2014

    Breakups Suckkk..

    I broke up with my ex cuz he cheated on me 1 week ago....I jus feel so lone...I dnt feel like talkin to anyone...N i don't want him to know that i m sad cuz f all this...I want him to repent cause the gurl for whom he left me ditched him...Nd he wanted me to take him back...I...
    teengurl teengurl
    13-15, F
    Feb 9, 2013

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