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I Have Problems Maintaining Eye Contact

Gotta Look Away, Gotta Look Away, No You Can't Look Away! 811 People

    Its Quite Frustrating.

    People tend to trust others who look them in the eye when they talk, its respectful, but i just have problems doing it. It makes me very uncomfortable. Finding this group i said Yes! Someone feels the same way i do!
    gracedoesntknow gracedoesntknow 16-17, F Jan 11, 2013

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    So Many Flaws

    Whenever I look into peoples eyes I feel like there looking at each and everyone of my flaws which is a lot so I just dont look up anymore because to me its better to look dishonest than to be looked at like you were something disgusting thing they stepped on.
    LittleLilyLove LittleLilyLove 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 8, 2013

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    Omg I Thought It Was Only Me!!!

    I hate to look people in the eye for more than a second it just makes me feel weird. When i walk down the hall at work and i see a coworker i look at them and smile then hurry up and look away. I thought something was wrong with me but i think I just have low self esteem or...
    greeneyednurse greeneyednurse 31-35, F 4 Responses Aug 12, 2010

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    Eye Contact Is Painful!

    At times I have had trouble maintaining eye contact with others. It sometimes happens when I'm not on form and don't want people to see a jaded version of me. Being high on weed can also cause a problem, if Im around other people and I don't want them to know I'm high eye contact...
    mjfletcher01 mjfletcher01 31-35 2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

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    Eye Balling

    This depends who i am talking to,it can be a case of i feel i want to let them know i'm interested but if i don't  look them in the eye they might think i'm not listening ,or i want to look them in the eye but if i do then i'll be seen to be staring them straight in the eye,in...
    Petrica13 Petrica13 31-35, M Feb 11, 2012

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    Gotta Stay Looking!

    but I can't! that's part of what made counseling hard....I try my bestest in interviews...but it makes me very uncomfortable..it's seems inappropriate..like Im inviting them to be intimate
    deleted deleted 26-30 7 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    I'm Trying To Overcome This Inhibition

    First of all, this is one hard behavior to change! Even the slightest return glance and I am immediately breaking eye contact. It doesn't matter who or under what circumstances--I generally look down or sideways away from the person. It's like I don't want them to see my eyes. I...
    Imzogelmo Imzogelmo 31-35, M 1 Response Aug 17, 2010

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    With Strangers

    It's hard for me to keep eye contact with a stranger/someone I've never spoken to. I've heard that if you're a female and you hold someone's gaze for an extended time, it means you're interested, so I always play it on the safe side and look away. I assume that if a guy is...
    endofseptember endofseptember 22-25, F 2 Responses Jul 28, 2010

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    Eye Contact

    It makes me feel awkward looking at peoples eyes. It puts me off and I get paranoid about what they are thinking or seeing. I know it is supposed to be respectful but I just cant do it. So I stopped talking to people as much. 
    JadedJewel JadedJewel 22-25, F 1 Response Sep 25, 2011

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    I Can Do Eye Contact Just Fine If I'm In A Good Mood But Uh.

    I don't like to lie at all, but I don't like to share everything, so to speak. ...Whenever I'm not in the mood or just damn upset about my personal problems and such, I can't afford to make eye contact with my friends a lot because.. 1. I would randomly break down or tear up. 2...
    AmbiguousEntity AmbiguousEntity 16-17 1 Response Oct 2, 2012

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    I'm An Aspie

    My main problem is that I'm an Aspie with A.D.D./HD.
    lastdaysman lastdaysman 26-30, M 2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

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    Why Eye Contact Malfunctions For Me

    Every time I try to have a conversation, especially when I am informing another person of something, I loose my eye contact.  I know why I mostly loose my eye contact it's because I am afriad what the other person would think of me for staring at them so long.  And when I do...
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX 18-21, F 1 Response Feb 20, 2011

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    Silent Eye Contact

    I hate moments when I'm required to make eye contact with someone in silence. For example, the other day I went to a casino, and there were guards standing at the entrance. When I got there, the guard wanted to check my I.D. I'm not sure if people usually make small talk in those...
    SuperAquaboy SuperAquaboy 22-25, M Oct 13, 2011

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    It'S Like My Eyes Are Drawn Away

    I've had problems for years in maintaining eye contact with people when having a coversation. I can only glance at people's eyes nowadays, even with my friends and family. My eyes are always drawn to a wall or door etc and if I'm out at the shops or just walking around, I can't...
    doubletalkinjive doubletalkinjive 18-21, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Staring Contest

    a friend of mine who has past on would say .....WHAT THE HELL DO YOU WANT A STARING CONTEST?
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1 41-45, F Aug 5, 2012

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    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang 22-25, F Jul 4, 2013

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    Have Trouble

    Idk y but just have trouble maintaining eye contact. I dont like looking people in there eyes. I feel like when u look into my eyes i feel so venerable and people can see everyhting by just looking in my eyes. so i rather just not look at other people.
    eyeslikestars eyeslikestars 26-30, F 2 Responses Dec 19, 2010

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    Breaking The Habit

    I can't remember if I always have had this problem, but I've been trying to fix it. I force myself to look people in the eye for as long as possible (without staring of course) but I always end up looking away. I guess I'm building up my resistance by doing this and eventually I...
    UnseenBlossom UnseenBlossom 18-21, F 2 Responses Dec 22, 2010

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    Looking Away

    It's been a while since I realised that I have problems with maintaining an eye contact with people. No matter who am I talking to, a stranger (this particular case is acceptable I guess), a friend or even a family member. Yet, I didn't know how bad it is. The worst case scenario...
    kj666 kj666 18-21, F Apr 24, 2013

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    Er, Do You Mind Facing Your Eyes Somewhere Else?

    I find it quite awkward to maintain eye contact. I do try, because I'm aware that it can appear rude because people might think that I'm not listening, but it's tough when it can feel similar to having laser beams searing into your soul. I'm fine with my immediate family - it's...
    ForestSong ForestSong 18-21, F 1 Response Aug 13, 2010

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    Not As Much As I Used To,

    I used to have such a hard time making eye contact.  I have a hard time talking with people too.  I had social anxiety soo bad.  Then I stopped going out as much and it got worse.  I wouldn't look at people or try and talk with them.  I felt like I would have a panic attack...
    jcue1976 jcue1976 31-35, F 3 Responses Oct 13, 2011

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    With Certain People

    I can look people I am comfortable with in the eye when I'm talking with them. They're looking me in the eye at the same time. Then there are some people that I can't always look in the eye. I'm nearsighted and don't always wear my glasses. I'm actually more comfortable not...
    Morgause Morgause 41-45, F Sep 15, 2011

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    I often don't know I'm doing it.

    I'll finish up an encounter with a person and realize I was looking over their shoulder or across the room or something the entire time. But then sometimes I'll make really intense eye contact and the other person gets uncomfortable. I can't get it right haha.
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers 26-30, F 1 Response May 1

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    I can't maintain eye contact

    whenever I'm being praised, complimented or congratulated. I always either look at the ground or my eyes dart everywhere. I don't know why it's so awkward for me.
    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F 1 Response Jan 16

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    I Dont Want To Send The Wrong Message Or Creep Anyone Out...

    I don't like looking guys in the eye because I feel like since im gay, they might think Im flirting with or trying to hit on them. So often times at work I won't even look at the male customers after I've made them their drink... And especially if I actually DO find them...
    SumthnPersnl10 SumthnPersnl10 22-25, M 3 Responses Jul 31, 2010

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    When The Eyes Look At Me, I Look Another Direction.

    I've had problems with self esteem for as long as I could remember. Thats one reason I lack to look at people. But at the same time I think its pretty strange. I mean how do you know its time to look away at someone? you don't want to be staring insomeone's eyes for a long amount...
    NewPersonUnderConstruction NewPersonUnderConstruction 18-21, F 2 Responses Jul 27, 2010

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    Do People Really Expect Eye Contact?

    I always look at people's mouths. Is that really really weird? Sometimes I think it's partly a hearing issue. Do people see me as weird? Would you?
    lilylilyrose lilylilyrose 56-60, F 2 Responses Feb 8, 2013

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    Please Don't Notice My Imperfections

    The reason why I have problems maintaining eye contact is not only is it awkward but it is because of my obviously uneven eyes. I don't want to scare away people who just want to get along with me and I don't want them to ask me questions about my eye for I already feel bad and...
    GirlWithThePWSBM GirlWithThePWSBM 13-15, F 1 Response Jul 12, 2013

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    Act Of Aggression

    To me, staring into someone's eyes is aggressive. That's how it is in the animal kingdom too; if you stare at them, they'll kill you!I don't mind if people stare into my eyes, 'cuz I just figure that they're so used to doing it and don't feel the aggressive notion of it. However...
    deleted deleted 26-30 Jun 7, 2012

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    Extremely Uncomfortable

    Are you really supposed to maintain eye contact during every conversation you have? I try to be polite and professional while in meetings for work; but outside of work I just don't do it. I've always been very uncomfortable when talking to someone and they try to keep eye contact...
    HayBail HayBail 22-25, F 1 Response Mar 6, 2013

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    Eye To Eye

    I'm not sure I'm in the right place w/this story. You tell me. I have no problem dead eying peoples. I sit in a wheelchair. This is only 8 mos. old for me and I am only 57 yrs. Have found out the hard way to NOT wear eye make-up is to have the peoples treat me like a homeless...
    ladymaggs ladymaggs 56-60, F 2 Responses May 14, 2011

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    Don't Look At Me…

    …I shy! No wait look at me! Look at me!…no wait don't look at me …I shy… You look at me directly and I look every where else, your nose, your perfectly shaped lips, your beautiful ears, your silky hair, the shirt your wearing. I love you but I cannot look you in the eye...
    Josiejorea Josiejorea 26-30, F Jan 11, 2013

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    Maybe I'm Mildly Autistic

    I find it quite intense and sometimes frightening maintaining eye contact for a long time. I try and maintain eye contact for as long as polite, and not longer. I am quite okay with smiling initially while greeting and talking to someone while maintaining eye contact while we're...
    emptyroads emptyroads 26-30, M 1 Response Aug 12, 2010

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    The Need To Rip My Eyes Away

      I can remember reading Rudyard Kipling's "Jungle Book" when Bagheera is telling his story about being born in captivity. He mentions to the young Mowgli that there is one main factor that separates the animals from the humans and that is eye contact. To...
    Dormantdrakon Dormantdrakon 22-25, F 5 Responses Nov 16, 2009

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    Nervous

    If I am nervous, I can't look into someone's eyes for long at all. I don't really like closeness, so I guess that's why. I will meet your eyes as much as I can, but usually I have to look away pretty quickly. I dislike doing this, because it makes people think I am dishonest or...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit 31-35, F 11 Responses Oct 24, 2010

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    Not All The Time, But...

    Whenever I'm guilty of something, and people get suspicious and question me, I can't seem to look at them....at least not the eyes. I'll try focusing on different parts of their face, like their nose or mouth....anything but the eyes.Another time I can't seem to look at someone...
    deleted deleted 26-30 1 Response Oct 3, 2011

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    I don't really look at people

    when I talk to them for too long. It's weird to explain, but when I look at people it like I'm not really seeing them. The times where I really do look at someone is if it's something important.
    almaera almaera 18-21, F 1 Response Jun 18

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    Whenever I'm thinking about something personal

    or private I am afraid to make eye contact because I feel like if someone looked into my eyes they would know exactly what I'm thinking.
    nicoleblu nicoleblu 18-21, F Mar 17

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    I Don'T Want To Be Stared At

    When I'm taking to teachers or anyone that I don't know too well it's really hard because I don't want them to look at my face because I am so insecure about my face.
    flawlesswonder16 flawlesswonder16 13-15, F Mar 13, 2013

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    Dont Look At Me

    I dont know why but i cant look into some ones eyes its not that hard when some guy means mugs me i just keep looking untill he looks way but if a girl does it any girl in any situation its like her gaze is burning into my soul i cant stand it drives me insane and its more notice...
    individualanarchist individualanarchist 18-21, M Dec 4, 2011

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    Eye Contact Prob

    I'm very shy and I am very uncomfortable talking to people in person, so when people talk to me in person i dont look at their eyes.actually, even when someone is not talking to me and I know him or her i ignore him or her and pretend i didn't see him/her because i dont want to...
    satinriver88 satinriver88 22-25, F 4 Responses Sep 12, 2011

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    I Can't Do It!

    I can't look into someone's eyes. I just can't . It's like trying to put two magnets together and they repel away. It's just not possible. My eyes automatically revert somewhere else , even a split second of eye contact make me feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and awkward. I don't...
    hayleybluebear hayleybluebear 18-21, F 1 Response Dec 29, 2012

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    When The Eyes Look At Me, I Look Another Direction.

    I've had problems with self esteem for as long as I could remember. Thats one reason I lack to look at people. But at the same time I think its pretty strange. I mean how do you know its time to look away at someone? you don't want to be staring insomeone's eyes for a long amount...
    NewPersonUnderConstruction NewPersonUnderConstruction 18-21, F 1 Response Jul 27, 2010

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    Always Had That Without Really Noticing

    I lately found out about eye contact and such. Even as a small kid I did only occasional eye contact, my mum reported. I intentionally started looking other girls in the eye at a hospital stay back in 1995. This had lead to lots of misunderstandings. I had found out that eye...
    hosenmatz69 hosenmatz69 41-45, M 1 Response Sep 6, 2011

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    Went out on a "date" with this guy. It actually went well, and it seems we like each other at least. However, I felt my eye contact was a little intense that night. When I've...
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    i think it's just super uncomfortable. I always have to look around. and the fact that I hate my eyes doesn't help at all.
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    And I don't know where to go. What to research. How to change. My biggest problem is that I am a major prude. If someone looks at me with their eyes a certain way, I instantly...
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