I Have Problems Maintaining Eye Contact

Gotta Look Away, Gotta Look Away, No You Can't Look Away! 866 People

    Act Of Aggression

    To me, staring into someone's eyes is aggressive. That's how it is in the animal kingdom too; if you stare at them, they'll kill you!I don't mind if people stare into my eyes, 'cuz I just figure that they're so used to doing it and don't feel the aggressive notion of it. However...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    Jun 7, 2012

    When The Eyes Look At Me, I Look Another Direction.

    I've had problems with self esteem for as long as I could remember. Thats one reason I lack to look at people. But at the same time I think its pretty strange. I mean how do you know its time to look away at someone? you don't want to be staring insomeone's eyes for a long amount...
    NewPersonUnderConstruction NewPersonUnderConstruction
    18-21, F
    2 Responses Jul 27, 2010

    I often don't know I'm doing it.

    I'll finish up an encounter with a person and realize I was looking over their shoulder or across the room or something the entire time. But then sometimes I'll make really intense eye contact and the other person gets uncomfortable. I can't get it right haha.
    RobinDaggers RobinDaggers
    26-30, F
    1 Response May 1, 2014

    I can't maintain eye contact

    whenever I'm being praised, complimented or congratulated. I always either look at the ground or my eyes dart everywhere. I don't know why it's so awkward for me.
    nicoleblu nicoleblu
    18-21, F
    Jan 16, 2014

    Looking Away

    It's been a while since I realised that I have problems with maintaining an eye contact with people. No matter who am I talking to, a stranger (this particular case is acceptable I guess), a friend or even a family member. Yet, I didn't know how bad it is. The worst case scenario...
    kj666 kj666
    18-21, F
    Apr 24, 2013

    Eye To Eye

    I'm not sure I'm in the right place w/this story. You tell me. I have no problem dead eying peoples. I sit in a wheelchair. This is only 8 mos. old for me and I am only 57 yrs. Have found out the hard way to NOT wear eye make-up is to have the peoples treat me like a homeless...
    ladymaggs ladymaggs
    56-60, F
    2 Responses May 14, 2011

    Its Quite Frustrating.

    People tend to trust others who look them in the eye when they talk, its respectful, but i just have problems doing it. It makes me very uncomfortable. Finding this group i said Yes! Someone feels the same way i do!
    gracedoesntknow gracedoesntknow
    16-17, F
    Jan 11, 2013

    Omg I Thought It Was Only Me!!!

    I hate to look people in the eye for more than a second it just makes me feel weird. When i walk down the hall at work and i see a coworker i look at them and smile then hurry up and look away. I thought something was wrong with me but i think I just have low self esteem or...
    greeneyednurse greeneyednurse
    31-35, F
    4 Responses Aug 12, 2010

    Have Trouble

    Idk y but just have trouble maintaining eye contact. I dont like looking people in there eyes. I feel like when u look into my eyes i feel so venerable and people can see everyhting by just looking in my eyes. so i rather just not look at other people.
    eyeslikestars eyeslikestars
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Dec 19, 2010

    I Can't Do It!

    I can't look into someone's eyes. I just can't . It's like trying to put two magnets together and they repel away. It's just not possible. My eyes automatically revert somewhere else , even a split second of eye contact make me feel uncomfortable, embarrassed and awkward. I don't...
    hayleybluebear hayleybluebear
    18-21, F
    1 Response Dec 29, 2012

    I'm Trying To Overcome This Inhibition

    First of all, this is one hard behavior to change! Even the slightest return glance and I am immediately breaking eye contact. It doesn't matter who or under what circumstances--I generally look down or sideways away from the person. It's like I don't want them to see my eyes. I...
    Imzogelmo Imzogelmo
    31-35, M
    Aug 17, 2010

    Not All The Time, But...

    Whenever I'm guilty of something, and people get suspicious and question me, I can't seem to look at them....at least not the eyes. I'll try focusing on different parts of their face, like their nose or mouth....anything but the eyes.Another time I can't seem to look at someone...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Oct 3, 2011

    Gotta Stay Looking!

    but I can't! that's part of what made counseling hard....I try my bestest in interviews...but it makes me very uncomfortable..it's seems inappropriate..like Im inviting them to be intimate
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    5 Responses Nov 16, 2009

    Breaking The Habit

    I can't remember if I always have had this problem, but I've been trying to fix it. I force myself to look people in the eye for as long as possible (without staring of course) but I always end up looking away. I guess I'm building up my resistance by doing this and eventually I...
    UnseenBlossom UnseenBlossom
    18-21, F
    3 Responses Dec 22, 2010

    Eye Balling

    This depends who i am talking to,it can be a case of i feel i want to let them know i'm interested but if i don't  look them in the eye they might think i'm not listening ,or i want to look them in the eye but if i do then i'll be seen to be staring them straight in the eye,in...
    Petrica13 Petrica13
    31-35, M
    Feb 11, 2012

    It'S Like My Eyes Are Drawn Away

    I've had problems for years in maintaining eye contact with people when having a coversation. I can only glance at people's eyes nowadays, even with my friends and family. My eyes are always drawn to a wall or door etc and if I'm out at the shops or just walking around, I can't...
    doubletalkinjive doubletalkinjive
    22-25, F
    1 Response Apr 24, 2013

    Not As Much As I Used To,

    I used to have such a hard time making eye contact.  I have a hard time talking with people too.  I had social anxiety soo bad.  Then I stopped going out as much and it got worse.  I wouldn't look at people or try and talk with them.  I felt like I would have a panic attack...
    jcue1976 jcue1976
    31-35, F
    3 Responses Oct 13, 2011

    Eye Contact Prob

    I'm very shy and I am very uncomfortable talking to people in person, so when people talk to me in person i dont look at their eyes.actually, even when someone is not talking to me and I know him or her i ignore him or her and pretend i didn't see him/her because i dont want to...
    satinriver88 satinriver88
    22-25, F
    4 Responses Sep 12, 2011

    I'm An Aspie

    My main problem is that I'm an Aspie with A.D.D./HD.
    lastdaysman lastdaysman
    26-30, M
    2 Responses Sep 17, 2011

    Please Don't Notice My Imperfections

    The reason why I have problems maintaining eye contact is not only is it awkward but it is because of my obviously uneven eyes. I don't want to scare away people who just want to get along with me and I don't want them to ask me questions about my eye for I already feel bad and...
    GirlWithThePWSBM GirlWithThePWSBM
    16-17, F
    1 Response Jul 12, 2013

    Staring Contest

    a friend of mine who has past on would say .....WHAT THE HELL DO YOU WANT A STARING CONTEST?
    westsideblues1 westsideblues1
    51-55, F
    Aug 5, 2012

    i think i am autistic

    or some thing , i cant never look at some ones eyes. the longest eye contact i ever made was like 4 seconds. i dont know why i just cant
    comlpicatedguy comlpicatedguy
    18-21, M
    1 Response Sep 19, 2015

    Eye Contact

    It makes me feel awkward looking at peoples eyes. It puts me off and I get paranoid about what they are thinking or seeing. I know it is supposed to be respectful but I just cant do it. So I stopped talking to people as much. 
    JadedJewel JadedJewel
    22-25, F
    1 Response Sep 25, 2011

    I Dont Want To Send The Wrong Message Or Creep Anyone Out...

    I don't like looking guys in the eye because I feel like since im gay, they might think Im flirting with or trying to hit on them. So often times at work I won't even look at the male customers after I've made them their drink... And especially if I actually DO find them...
    SumthnPersnl10 SumthnPersnl10
    22-25, M
    3 Responses Jul 31, 2010

    I Fear Feeling What They Are Feeling

    I avoid eye contact with people (even my own parents) when they are talking about emotional stuff because the strong emotions (anger/depression/disappointment) that I FEEL from their eyes always make me feel very uncomfortable and trigger similar STRONG emotions in me. Does...
    anttang anttang
    22-25, F
    Jul 4, 2013

    With Strangers

    It's hard for me to keep eye contact with a stranger/someone I've never spoken to. I've heard that if you're a female and you hold someone's gaze for an extended time, it means you're interested, so I always play it on the safe side and look away. I assume that if a guy is...
    endofseptember endofseptember
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Jul 28, 2010

    Whenever I'm thinking about something personal

    or private I am afraid to make eye contact because I feel like if someone looked into my eyes they would know exactly what I'm thinking.
    nicoleblu nicoleblu
    18-21, F
    1 Response Mar 17, 2014

    Silent Eye Contact

    I hate moments when I'm required to make eye contact with someone in silence. For example, the other day I went to a casino, and there were guards standing at the entrance. When I got there, the guard wanted to check my I.D. I'm not sure if people usually make small talk in those...
    SuperAquaboy SuperAquaboy
    26-30, M
    1 Response Oct 13, 2011

    Always Had That Without Really Noticing

    I lately found out about eye contact and such. Even as a small kid I did only occasional eye contact, my mum reported. I intentionally started looking other girls in the eye at a hospital stay back in 1995. This had lead to lots of misunderstandings. I had found out that eye...
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    1 Response Sep 6, 2011

    Nervous

    If I am nervous, I can't look into someone's eyes for long at all. I don't really like closeness, so I guess that's why. I will meet your eyes as much as I can, but usually I have to look away pretty quickly. I dislike doing this, because it makes people think I am dishonest or...
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    31-35, F
    11 Responses Oct 24, 2010

    With Certain People

    I can look people I am comfortable with in the eye when I'm talking with them. They're looking me in the eye at the same time. Then there are some people that I can't always look in the eye. I'm nearsighted and don't always wear my glasses. I'm actually more comfortable not...
    Morgause Morgause
    41-45, F
    Sep 15, 2011

    I always just look away

    after a while and feel insecure.
    0emma0 0emma0
    13-15, F
    Jun 30, 2015

    Eye Contact Is Painful!

    At times I have had trouble maintaining eye contact with others. It sometimes happens when I'm not on form and don't want people to see a jaded version of me. Being high on weed can also cause a problem, if Im around other people and I don't want them to know I'm high eye contact...
    mjfletcher01 mjfletcher01
    31-35
    2 Responses Oct 11, 2010

    Dont Look At Me

    I dont know why but i cant look into some ones eyes its not that hard when some guy means mugs me i just keep looking untill he looks way but if a girl does it any girl in any situation its like her gaze is burning into my soul i cant stand it drives me insane and its more notice...
    individualanarchist individualanarchist
    18-21, M
    Dec 4, 2011

    I Don'T Want To Be Stared At

    When I'm taking to teachers or anyone that I don't know too well it's really hard because I don't want them to look at my face because I am so insecure about my face.
    flawlesswonder16 flawlesswonder16
    13-15, F
    Mar 13, 2013

    When The Eyes Look At Me, I Look Another Direction.

    I've had problems with self esteem for as long as I could remember. Thats one reason I lack to look at people. But at the same time I think its pretty strange. I mean how do you know its time to look away at someone? you don't want to be staring insomeone's eyes for a long amount...
    NewPersonUnderConstruction NewPersonUnderConstruction
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 27, 2010

    Er, Do You Mind Facing Your Eyes Somewhere Else?

    I find it quite awkward to maintain eye contact. I do try, because I'm aware that it can appear rude because people might think that I'm not listening, but it's tough when it can feel similar to having laser beams searing into your soul. I'm fine with my immediate family - it's...
    ForestSong ForestSong
    18-21, F
    1 Response Aug 13, 2010

    It has been pointed out to me many times.

    It has been bad enough that I have learned that I first almost didn't get a job and then later actually didn't get a job because I didn't maintain contact during the interview. I think that I just need to see so much of what is going on around me.
    burgh712009 burgh712009
    41-45, M
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2015

    So Many Flaws

    Whenever I look into peoples eyes I feel like there looking at each and everyone of my flaws which is a lot so I just dont look up anymore because to me its better to look dishonest than to be looked at like you were something disgusting thing they stepped on.
    LittleLilyLove LittleLilyLove
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jul 8, 2013

    Why Eye Contact Malfunctions For Me

    Every time I try to have a conversation, especially when I am informing another person of something, I loose my eye contact.  I know why I mostly loose my eye contact it's because I am afriad what the other person would think of me for staring at them so long.  And when I do...
    XxJamberxX XxJamberxX
    18-21, F
    1 Response Feb 20, 2011

    Do People Really Expect Eye Contact?

    I always look at people's mouths. Is that really really weird? Sometimes I think it's partly a hearing issue. Do people see me as weird? Would you?
    lilylilyrose lilylilyrose
    56-60, F
    2 Responses Feb 8, 2013

    I don't really look at people

    when I talk to them for too long. It's weird to explain, but when I look at people it like I'm not really seeing them. The times where I really do look at someone is if it's something important.
    almaera almaera
    18-21, F
    1 Response Jun 18, 2014

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