I Have Realised That Arguing Is a Waste of Time

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    Every time I tried to discuss something

    that a person disagreed with an argument started. This experience has changed me quite a bit. If I come across a person that wants me to decide or make a choice that doesn't agree with the person I just give up or surrender. I hate conflict and dislike confrontations. If a...
    gambler920 gambler920
    51-55, M
    Nov 19, 2014

    Especially when you know

    that it has become a pattern.
    Susana1985 Susana1985
    31-35, F
    1 Response Oct 18, 2014

    You are what you let people treat you like I

    can argue till I'm blue in the face.only you can change you to react differently ,don't waste your time trying to control other peoples reactions it Doesn't work and your the only one hurt wasting energy.control is the fear that is just a living illusion I've learnt this many...
    bg52de bg52de
    26-30, F
    2 Responses Nov 7, 2014

    Never A Winner

    people have lost the art of talking with each other it seems they can talk at each other but never with each other and they do not know the differance
    rickibrat2 rickibrat2
    61-65, M
    Apr 3, 2012
    PuppyGirl748 PuppyGirl748
    16-17, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2014
    burnedmemories burnedmemories
    18-21, F
    Oct 19, 2014

    This is true to a certain point

    but sometimes you have to stand up for what you believe! You can't be pushed around, but never go looking for an argument sometimes it's better to keep your mouth shut
    Turtleisland97 Turtleisland97
    18-21, M
    2 Responses Oct 15, 2014

    Why Bother

    Usually the other person isn't listening and only wants one to convert. This is silly in my eyes. Though I do listen to what they say, then I politely smile and excuse myself
    GoddessNakiBean GoddessNakiBean
    36-40, F
    Dec 17, 2008

    I Enjoy a Good Debate, But ...

    I enjoy a good debate, but you have to know when to stop otherwise you just keep repeating yourself. You also have to learn to forgive and forget as well. Arguing is a waste of time and energy. It is so much better to sit and talk about 'whatever' calmly, if at all possible.
    deleted deleted
    26-30
    2 Responses Nov 29, 2008

    Just walk away. It's easier

    and I hate conflict. Go argue with someone else. You're just wasting your breath with me.
    GetYourFreakOn GetYourFreakOn
    18-21, F
    1 Response Oct 15, 2014

    Way to much time is wasted on figuring out

    who's right and who's wrong
    livelovehopefree livelovehopefree
    16-17, F
    2 Responses Oct 21, 2014

    Stupid Husband.

    I believe the way to a solution or compromise is through discussion and debate. I think a discussion becomes an argument when you start avoiding answering questions by throwing the question back in the asker's face in the form of an accusation, when you start bringing up things...
    katnipkitkat katnipkitkat
    41-45, F
    Jul 8, 2011

    I Don't Argue

    Ooh Gosh...I'm remembering the last time that I shared that tidbit of information with a young man who seriously thought he was my boyfriend. He took it to mean that he had free reign to be an *** and treat me like crap. So I had to repeat myself and clarify my statement: I don...
    warmwhisper warmwhisper
    46-50, F
    Jun 30, 2010

    Heres How I Feel

    arguing is only a waste of time if you are trying to make the other person change their views.....that will usually get you nowhere. i argue [if thats what we want to call it] only in an attempt to make sure someone understands what it is i am saying.....but not because i ...
    antiyou antiyou
    26-30, F
    1 Response Feb 5, 2008

    I realized that arguing with pointless issues

    were a waste of time when in fact you can do things more productive. They said that without conflict in a relationship is boring but after experiencing those, I find it hard.
    jarine27 jarine27
    22-25, F
    1 Response Oct 16, 2014

    I tried to argue. Tried to win arguments.

    I tried and tried and tried until I realized that it was only driving a rift between me and my girlfriend. Then I gave up. Now I simply agree to whatever she says. I tell myself it's fine and that whatever dreams I had are gone now. I just have to keep on keeping on.
    DamienBodie DamienBodie
    22-25
    1 Response Nov 7, 2014

    And So...

    ... I simply refuse to do it anymore. If you don't agree with me, thats your right. I won't try to change your mind. I'd appreciate that same courtesy from you.
    SpiritOfTheRabbit SpiritOfTheRabbit
    36-40, F
    2 Responses Apr 11, 2010
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